My ex wife wants to go on vacation with me and my new girlfriend

[Music] am i va for not including my recently divorced expire on a family trip ten months ago my wife of 15 years explained to me she had interest in a cow walker so I left it up to her to decide whether to open up our marriage I figured it was just an exploratory phase something she would have a change of heart about after five months of being miserable with her going off with him nearly every weekend I expressed to her I wanted to look for someone else she replied that it would only push her to the other man nonetheless I started seeing someone and after the first day of me seeing someone else my wife wanted a divorce we have officially been divorced for a week we have three kids together we are also living together for the time being while she and her boyfriend are closing on a house together recently our family friend's wife contacted me and invited me and the kids to join her family on a trip I planned on taking my girlfriend along with us I explained to the family friend that if my family were to go on the trip my kids mother would not be going point they acknowledged and figured that was going to happen realistically there is no room for two extra people personally I have no interest in going on a trip with her and the man she left me for she said she was hurt that my girlfriend is going in her place and that she was ousted so soon she suggested that it could just be me her and the kids as per usual before our divorce while our papers were signed a week ago I'm ready to settle into my new normal and I VA for not including her edit my oldest is 14 and has known about basically everything from the beginning my younger two are nine and ten both had suspicions about their mother's relationship with the boyfriend before finding out the glory details mine was a tidy secret until that point once the younger two learned the truth they made the decision as to when they met my girlfriend this has been two months today the conflict for me falls to the other family having been our friends for 14 years also the desire for things to remain healthy as possible between my ex and myself for the sake of the kids my ex hopes to still do things like this together as family and in the future maybe we can but right now I don't think I could stomach it I explained this to my ex and she seems to be heartbroken at the notion she is crying and I just feel irritated kinda makes me feel like an egg this situation is centered around myself and my ex the kids are actually doing pretty well edit - I spent five months doing everything I could think of to save us she spent five months leaving me at home with the kids lie after lie and zero she's given about my feelings the exact moment I said f it was when she didn't want me to attend her office Christmas party as I have every year for over a decade her reasoning was she didn't want her co-workers to think she was a w sounds to me like she was pushing a narrative that I was no longer in the picture that was the moment I realized where I stood and that being faithful to her was a waste my girlfriend walked into my life three days later the hypocrisy and insanity that followed were truly unbelievable after her initial immediate demands for divorce she decided that we should start working on our marriage step one was touch my girlfriend mind you I had known her for a week and had no real ties to her nothing to say about how she would enter a five-month relationship with a man she works 40 hours a week within that eccentric to her friend group I may or may not be in a for excluding her from this trip but I'm not asking about the demise of the marriage brother steals my life savings I'm a 31 male and currently serve in the British Army I come from a very poor and broken family my brother is 30 who also serves in the army but a different Corp to myself he lives directly opposite my father house and live around 250 miles away I wasn't raised by my parents and brought up by my grandparents who we're both retired and living off their state pension so money was hard but they did what they could and I'm thankful I would on a local farm since I was 12 to get what other kids had and often in money for food my brother Martin was raised by my father and stepmom who provided for him well I have have several other siblings who my mom raised there's eight of us in total I know get a hobby watch the TV or go outside I only talked to one of my siblings which is my half-sister Sarah Martin is everything I hate in a person cocky big-headed gloats and the world evolves around him all my mail goes to my father's house this is normal for people who serve over the 10 years I have managed to save just under 35 thousand pounds which is a huge amount to me I have lived a simple life saving where I can and volunteered to deploy in operations which we get a bonus for doing I have officially spent over four and a half years not sleeping in my own bed to achieve this and my dream of owning my own home which is something unheard of in my family upon returning from my last operational tour the time came to start looking for a home I set my budget got an ape agreement in principle and found an area I liked when the time came to start moving my money to a separate account to my shock and horror I discovered my account had less that 50 pounds in it I felt sick horrified and crushed I called my bank hoping it was just a mistake it wasn't there had been a number of withdrawals and transfers made over the last six months that had cleared the balance the only information they could give me was a statement showing the account it left and the account number that it was transferred when - I spoke to my stepmom who has the inferred my account to find out if she had moved it as she went through the account she had noticed the account number was my brother's my blood is boiling now I called him and let loose down the phone and after a swift exchange of insults he admitted to taking it for those wondering what his excuse was and I shoe not you don't need the money you don't have a family probably wouldn't ever have one either and it's selfish having all that money and not sharing it there was other things said to which I do not wish to share and to put this into context for people in gay and he's was saying I will not have kids therefore did not need money or my own hair he earns above national average lives comfortably shoves in people's faces for example when it comes around to Christmas him and his wife like to post on social media how much they've bought they literally lay it out all over their living and dining room floors stacked high and there is no room to walk as a means to gloat to people who do not have the means by as much as him here comes the revenge I'm back into no contact with him however I'm fully aware of a few things Martin's wife claims he lives with Miss mother so she can claim state benefits for her and his three kids I took lead from work for three weeks and go visit my father and stepmom I record my brother stopping at his house every single day and wrote a log of when he left and returned my stepmother also informed me he isn't working much because he has told his Sergent major his wife and one of his kids are seriously ill and he needs to be home to care for them to clarify they are not they are in good health in the Britch army you get paid for weather year off work ill family issues etcetera a perk of the job I sent this information to the Department of Work and Pensions and they launched their own investigation asides from being a benefit thief I then call his surgeon major after a discussion and a few emails of a link social media which is covered in videos of Martin and his wife always drinking parting and a lot of Jia tagging he is called back to work immediately from what he has told my dad he was given a two-year promotion ban and 1,800 pounds fine I do not know how long he had been doing this for he was also moved camp very quickly after this his wife has also been ordered to repay a year's worth of benefits back to the taxpayer big win for the little people lastly he also wrote off his shiny new car which is probably where it all my money went as for what he stolen from me I've spoken to a legal expert in fraud who seems willing to take my case and I want to fully press charges and reclaim what I can my father on the other hand has told me not to take this route and proclaims if I do it it will undoubtedly affect his kids and his ability to get work if he ever left the military due to gaining a criminal record he has suggested we talk every payment plan as he's been punished enough which I know it will never be repaid imitates with the guilty feeling in order to take it to court it have to lodge a formal complaint however I'm bitter it's crappy I've grafted over all years these to improve my situation in life just to have it pulled from me I'm thankful I've still got my health but life's not been easy and I feel like just giving up I will update on my decision later peace out divorce me while I'm sick that's fine enjoy being single not my story but a family friend story I knew this lovely German lady who I will call he D not real name she was married to an Israeli man who I'll call douche douche was a douche for a number of reasons he worked with my dad Annette who said he had a hero complex where he would cause disasters at work and then try to be the hero and save a day we even suspect he caused a huge it disaster at our national airport while he was working there he was also really creepy he creeped on my younger sister calling her randomly and asking to pick her up he was the exact opposite of his wife who was lovely and sweet and charismatic and I have no idea how they ended up together unfortunately awhile after we made friends with them he D got very sick her colon stopped working she almost died thankfully she was in a country with Stella Healthcare who saved her life but she found it she has Crohn's disease and she had to get a colostomy bag while she was recovering from her surgery doosh announced he wanted to divorce his words were and I quote I didn't marry a sick woman ducking prick he left her high and dry and very soon was seeing someone else he lost all the friends he had made in our country with his awful behavior my family told him he was no longer welcome near us as we were therefore he D he finally FEX off back to Israel apparently he had got into quite a bit of debt while in my country and skipped off to avoid paying good riddance we all said he D found her feet eventually she took up photography and went to university to study it she did very well for herself and lived a happy life free from douche after about a year douche contacted Headey and she told us all about it apparently he was trying to sweet-talk her into going over to Israel to go through with the divorce proceedings according to he D your marital status is on your identity card in Israel and it's one of the first things a girl asks to see when you go on a date when the girls saw he was married on his card they'd never go for a second date so every time he'd call her asking when she was coming over she'd put a huge sheathing grin on and reply oh I don't know I'm not really in a position to fly with my condition and all maybe when I get better she knew full well he won't set foot back here because his creditors were still looking for their money back she would just relish in the knowledge that he was getting rejected by all those women he was pursuing in Israel while she chilled with us having a great time he is doing much better now she went back to Germany there's still visits my family and her friends from time to time she's still her awesome self I don't know what do she's up to now but I suspect after all these years he is still a douche sister always steals my food I make a fool of myself on her graduation to stop her I come from a family of six my parents my older sister my older brother my little brother and me often in order to bribe us into good behavior our parents would buy us our favorite candy to munch on in the car now I've never exactly been a giving person not huge on sharing just for the sake of sharing my parents however were trying to raise respectful and generous kids and often forced me to share things even when I didn't want to that's all fine and good except that my sister abused this system see she would say she didn't want a bag of candy then once we were on the road she'd start taking candy from all three of the brothers that really pee me off I didn't get candy often as my mom didn't like feeding us sugary food so when I got my own bag of Sour Patch watermelon I wanted to eat every last one myself besides my parents would waise offer to buy her a bag of candy for herself she would just refuse because she knew she could leech off the rest of us so after a point I started refusing her requests for candy but that didn't fly with my mom because that was being selfish so she would force me to hand over the candy one time I even said when I purchased my bag at CVS sister I'm not going to give you any of my candy if you want sour patch by your own right now I'm fine she responded I don't want a whole bag of candy fast-forward 20 minutes into the car ride my father was requisitioning a candy to give to my sister as I sat fuming this went on for years my whole life really and I hated it I would hide my candy when I got it I would try and keep it out of a rage but always a parent would intervene fast forward to my sister's college graduation she is now 22 I'm a senior in high school at this point and we're up at her school at a fancy restaurant celebrating after she had graduated that morning in attendance are all immediate and some extended family some close friends of my sister and her long-term boyfriend who I was meeting for the first time so enough people for the following to be embarrassing to my family are meal ends and my mother offers to buy a nice desserts for anyone who wants it my brothers my dad and I all take her up on it I ordered a vanilla bean chaser cake with a burnt sugar bird's nest on top my mother repeatedly offers to buy my sister anything she wants but my sister says she couldn't possibly eat a full dessert right now and turns it down every time the food arrives and everyone is staring at mine I'm sitting right at the head of the table in full view of everyone so it's hard not to look and aside from the cake slice being large and delicious looking the burned sugar bird's nest is huge and ornate hollow on the inside like a ducking old to me brass globe or some [ __ ] honestly it was pretty impressive and right as the food gets placed in front of us my sister says I'll just have a bite of everyone's at this point I'm seeing red having flashbacks to time's my food has been stolen logically the right thing to do world been to just hand over one bite I mean it was her graduation it was a huge cake it world been no loss but it had become a matter of principle so the moment she says this in one fell swoop in full view of everyone at the table I sweep up my slice of cheese our cake and stuff the entire thing into my mouth at once shattering the sugar nest crumbs falling everywhere in front of my whole family and some college students close to my sister who again never met in my life my sister stares appalled and says did you do that just so I wouldn't get any and I look at her cheeks ballooning out like a chipmunk face covered in cheese a cake and Graham dead in the eyes and nod there was a fair bit of shocked silence at that moment and in the very tense car ride home but to this day she never asks for anything from me anymore don't insult my engagement ring my fiance and I had been dating for four and a half years in that time we have bought a house together adopted doggies together I put him through pharmacy school med school and lots of people don't realize that pharmacists get their doctorates or how competitive pharmacy can be and we fell even more in love he's an amazing man and I'm crazy about him imagine my excitement that after braving all of the ups and downs and watching life unfold as a team that he proposed I was overjoyed and through tears of happiness I said yes and of course our doggies were involved it's a larger slightly blush pink amethyst stone with a halo of topaz around it set in rose gold I loved it it was perfect the next day I was attending a baby shower for my best friend in my hometown I trekked my way there and even though I tried to downplay the engagement because I wanted it to be about her she made a mini announcement because I knew people who were there most people did a little congrats type thing which was nice except for her cousin this girl let's call her Amy is super religious actually everyone from my hometown is super religious and I appreciate their faith but I didn't like her judgment she has voiced her opinions before about how people shouldn't live together unless they're married and all that jazz so when she saw antonova she took my hand in hers and scrutinized the ring she more or less said that at least he was making an honest woman out of me and that he had taken too long to propose then she kind of scrunched her nose admiring and asked what kind of stone it was with a little snobby half smile on her face she also said that it was generic that he would ask me now that he's graduating because that's what everyone does I don't know what came over me I love my ring and I've never been this mean girl that I've known Amy for a while and she's always been like this she likes to say what terrible decisions other people have made and how she always puts Jesus first so that's why her life has turned out so well she says it's because she has followed his plan which ultimately led to her getting married ridiculously young to a guy who really isn't good for her at all and just leeches off of her she had to put herself through school and work while he would go on long stints out of the country to find himself and follow God's path which I really think meant bang other women she married him in the middle of a college year before one of the times he left I suspect to entice him to come back and have commitments here well I went for it I said oh he waited until he knew he could provide for me it's a pink diamonds her whole face changed from smug to envious she practically threw my hand down and mumbled how happy she was for me I looked up how big my petty lie had been later only to find out that yes pink diamonds are actually a thing and the teeny ones alike ten thousand dollars but hey she doesn't have to know how poor we are we are rich with unconditional love and loyalty and that's why I'm happy to call him my future husband [Music] [Music]

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Length: 20min 31sec (1231 seconds)

Published: Mon Jun 22 2020