Bridezilla is angry because I didn't ask her permission to marry her brother in law

[Music] bridesmaid Zilla ruins 12-year friendship over a speech this happened at a wedding I attended and it's honestly so ridiculous you'd think it happened in a movie but it was real and cringe-worthy but also hilarious so I'm sharing a to all my friend was getting married to the love of her life and had one of her best friends be a bridesmaid in the wedding they had been best friends for 12 years and both of them were in my friend group so I've witnessed their relationship up close the bridesmaid is a girl who we always say lives in her own head with no idea how the real world works very spoiled at 32 she still lived at home and her parents paid all her bills she then suggested they move out of the house so her and her boyfriend could live together in the nice house somehow they agreed so they bought themselves a condo and continued to pay for their daughter to live in their house she is still in school working on a degree that should have taken her two years but she's on year seven of it constantly complaining about having group projects that don't go well but it's always her partner's fault common denominator baby if every single person you've worked with has issues it's most likely you're the one that's hard to work with and knowing her I can tell you that she is very hard to be around back story aside she is in the wedding leading up to the wedding you could tell things weren't going well I walked in on the bridesmaid cry screaming at the bride about how she was trying to do something nice for the bride I immediately walked out because it was ugly bride insisted she didn't want to talk about the bridesmaid leading up to the wedding but after the disastrous speech she let it all out one of the big issues was the plans to get ready the day of the wedding the bridesmaids suggested am a cube artist for the bride who then hired that makeup artist and her assistant to do the bride mother of the bride maid of honor and three bridesmaids the morning of the wedding bride said the makeup artist would do her mother and maid of honor and the assistant would do the free bridesmaids the bridesmaid then three a fit because it was her makeup artist so there was no way the assistant would be doing her she needed to be done by the main artist and she should go first bride tries to explain that it was most important to do herself her mother and maid of honor drama ensues the bride sits her down and tries to explain that her wedding day is about her every one other day of their friendship is always about the bridesmaid so she really needed to let her wedding day be about her the message didn't really get through leading up to the wedding the bridesmaid was insistent on doing a speech the groom told the bride multiple times to just say no because he knew it wouldn't go well but the bride caved because there was no saying no the bridesmaid smart money's speech time comes along and it was a train wreck the bridesmaid leads off with how they've been friends for 12 years but it would have been longer she had wanted to be friends with the bride long before that but the bride was mean to her and would make fun of her with her other friends she then said she knew they had to be friends when one day she asked the bride if her pants made her look fat and the bride said yes she knew that honesty was something she needed in life cue everyone wide-eyed and staring in disbelief that she just painted the bride to be a huge [ __ ] bridesmaid goes on to talk about the tip times her own boyfriend tried to break up with her those stories has nothing to do with the bride she never even mentioned the bride to top it off her boyfriend was at the wedding now totally red in the face spoiler alert they are still together and now married unbelievable the speech wrapped up with a well wish to the couple she never turned any of her stories around to say anything nice about the bride just shat on her in the first story and then talked about herself for the rest our entire table was sitting there in shock trying to discreetly yell at her to stop talking and to sit down it was hilarious but painful to watch the next day their friendship ended not because of the awful speech not because the bride was hurt by the speech and her behavior leading up to the wedding but because the bridesmaid was upset that the bride didn't like the speech she genuinely thought she made a good thoughtful speech and the bride should have loved it the bride told her honestly that it was rude and in poor taste and was all about the bridesmaid I guess she didn't appreciate her honesty after all because the bridesmaid couldn't forgive her for not liking that speech and that was the end of their friendship so ooo the bride let's call her lots because she's got lots of everything personality emotional issues problems with friends and family and I met in high school she befriended me on my first day in a new school I'm very non-confrontational as in I've historically sacrificed setting and holding appropriate boundaries in order to avoid a fight but I noticed quickly that she is nosy and starts fights with people about so that's not really her business pretty often boyfriends and friends stealing other top two causes we get through high school with a much smaller friend group than we started with because she fights with a whole bunch of people but I think it'll never happen to me because we're such great friends right I date the wrong guy in college and she dumps me like badly weeks of harrassing texts and emails about how disgusted she is by my choice of guy how I'm a terrible friend because I didn't tell her everything about my relationship and how I'm going to end up miserable with him I said some means back because while I never want to start a fight I'm great at ending one keep in mind this is not someone she knows well personally I went to college three hours away and she stayed home and she's only interacted with him when I brought him home for visits a year goes by and we we Kindle a friendship agree that we'll never fight over such dumb Sh again lots has been with the same guy for many years and hoping to get engaged within a few months instead my boyfriend the one she hated but has now accepted proposes she flips because she says I stole her wedding date she's not engaged and ghosts me for another year and a half one day I am in the bathroom at work not a relevant detail but I'm setting the scene and I get a text from a vaguely familiar but that's not programmed into my phone it slots when I have to I delete people fully from my life because having reminders gives me anxiety her longtime boyfriend cheated and she dumped him and moved away that she is considering getting back together with him and needs my advice I'm the only person she can talk to about this even though we haven't spoken since before the Obama administration we talked I encouraged her to do what she feels is right and I even visit her in her new state she eventually reconciles with her boyfriend and moves home I get pregnant and have my first baby she is hugely excited and supportive she spends more time with my kid in the first six months than my siblings do finally her boyfriend proposes three full years after she dropped me over the stolen wedding date I'm ecstatic we are on the phone screaming five minutes after he pops the question interjection you should know that in all the years I've known lots and her boyfriend she's always spoken badly of his family I met one of his brothers whom I'll call shark because all I remembered about him for years was that he had pretty sharp looking teeth once during college that I just kind of took her word for it that they were trashy obnoxious and less than ideal future in-laws in hindsight I shall consider the source but I was also dumb enough to believe that we weren't going to fight again so I guess you should consider the source too so lots starts planning her wedding and it's a certified big deal because they've been together so long and most of our peers are already married to people they've waited for far shorter she wants everyone to be super excited and involved and for the most part we are she originally is only going to have family as bridesmaids but a few months later asks me as well because she knows I'm great at planning under stress and problem-solving and that I'll be able to help her handle her future mil who has supposedly been characteristically difficult besides this she starts complaining more and more about her future bill whom I vaguely remember a shark apparently he had a baby with and got engaged to his GF before Lots and her fiance which to her is a mortal sin because shark is younger than the future mr. lots and younger siblings are never supposed to do anything first also she says he's competitive and constantly trying to outdo her fee on K however he is FMR lot's closest sibling so he is the best man so now I'm a bridesmaid in addition to fielding complaints about future millon shark I'm consulted every point single point day about everything from chair covers to bolero jackets to cigar stations I love this [ __ ] so I'm all over it since this is a big deal there are also several dozen pre-wedding events starting a year from the actual date she's the happiest I've ever seen her and so hyper-focused on wedding planning that we really don't talk much about what's going on in my life another interjection this is not really her fault I'm a very private person and play my cards very close to the chest especially when discussing my problems could affect their outcome shortly after I was asked to be a bridesmaid I separated from my then-husband plot west she was right it didn't work out I told her a few weeks later but didn't really discuss it with her or anyone else because I was still figuring out what I was going to do with myself and my baby the spring before the wedding I'm a single mom trying to make it in the world in the bridal party starts convening for the final countdown and preparatory events strangely chuck has taken over a significant chunk of the wedding planning and lots tells me that it is because he dumped his girlfriend and has tons of extra time on his hands because he has a very high-paying job and nobody to spoil but his kid he is also dropping huge wads of cash on their wedding as well which is why she has also ceased complaining about in recently it makes sense to mention now that he is a very good-looking guy with a really aloof personality however lots is now doing everything in her power to make him seem objectively like a doubt shoe bag whenever he comes up in conversation he's a player he's a frivolous spender law is kid is a brat etc in no uncertain terms she tells me that he will make a play for me because he makes a play for everyone and that she will be P if we hook up because at this point we've ended up chatting at events since our kids are the same age we've recently gone through breakups et Cie you see where this is going well dear EDA as you can probably predict I did not heed the warnings after my divorce I was over relationships and just wanted to chill with someone who understood that I had to prioritize my kid also a girl has needs and he was hot and mysterious shark and I start meeting up after pre-wedding events and over the course of a few weeks several of the groomsmen and FMR Lots figure it out we are having a good time and I feel like myself after years of being married to someone who sucked and months of futile touchy-feely marriage therapy in fact shark and I are really gelling and it turns out he's a pretty great guy most of what Lots told me about him and his family is not true but I know her and I can see what it is that bothers her about them they don't line up with her fantasy of the perfect wedding and marriage where she is the center of attention at all times they have a lot of their own stuff going on and like I said the first grandchild and first engagement had already happened for shark I get it but I don't agree with it anyway lots must have had suspicions about what was going on but she is tipsy and having such a great time at her rehearsal dinner that she finally says listen if you want to hook up with shark it's okay with me third interjection yes I believed her and yes I'm allergic to learning from the past if you remember lots to fight triggers of boyfriends and friends stealing we make it through the wedding weekend because nothing was going to dull the shine of the big deal but lots makes a few comments to me that make it clear she isn't as okay with it as she had said for one thing she is pissed that I didn't spend the night before the wedding and the suite with her because I slept in shark's room and for another she health heartedly claims that shark is cheating with me on a friend of her who lives in another country which was not at all true but that's a story for another day but we are all high on the wedding romance and lots and mr. Lotz go home married and shocked and I go home openly dating now that the wedding is over Lots dials back communications about a month after the wedding shark and I go away for a weekend and during that time lots breaks into her husband's phone and reads his text conversations with shark which show that we'd been seeing each other for a while before the wedding and she flips the duck out cue horrible harrassing emails and texts to both of us which we are seeing in discussing because we are in a hotel room together posts on social media her calling her friend his ex to try to get her to break us up and her forbidding her husband from speaking to either of us we lied to her we shouldn't be together we'll never be happy together we are both horrible people with trying to upstage her the works as in the past I start out very reticent to get into it with her and I'm pretty apologetic but then I just kind of give up because you know I'm confrontation doubt after my divorce and also I'm a [ __ ] adult and I can date whoever I want shark never liked lops and is happy to blow her off but tries to salvage things for his brother like me Lots cuts people off completely but unlike me she is super public about it I'm blocked on all social media so when she starts posting the professional wedding pictures I don't see anything but then texts start rolling in because lot says had me fought a shocked out of all the pictures literally there is a me shaped hole in every picture and the video is cropped and cut so I'm not in it shark has escaped this fate partially because his mum would have killed lots if she deleted him too but also probably because he paid for the dr.king photo package for them in advance there is nothing to do but laugh we've been friends on and off for like 15 years at this point in fact I'm one of the only friends she's had for that long because she's cut everyone else off and she's so mad that I slept with her bill after she said no without telling her that she paid almost a grand extra money she did not have which is part of why shark was contributing so much to have me taken out of the pictures 19 years later we are all standing on a train platform JK but actually shark and I got married bought a house started a business and had a bunch of kids like more than the average American family but less than the average Mormon family and lots refuses to even be in the same room with us for holidays we decided not to invite her to our wedding because it was a super tiny event shortly after she blew up at us and we didn't want her to ruin the day so when she found out that we invited her husband sharks brother she sent me a profanity-laced nao I didn't know you could block people on mail at that point and that's the last I ever heard from her because I ripped her inure from neck to ankles I was the manager at a big-box fabric retailer so we got all sorts of crafty Brides that came in so much so that if I ever see burlap and lace at a wedding now it makes me want to throw up I have so many stories of different Brita Zyliss but I know where I want to start first one let's call her a came in and was looking for chill her mom maid of honor and grandmother were with her she comes up to me asking where the chill was I bring her to her options and immediately things go south at this point they won't speak directly to me she talks through her entourage I felt very silly seeing as though I could hear the bride because she was speaking out loud but would say things like tell her I want something with lace tell her this is too shimmery tell her this is too pink and they would comply and tell me as such apparently grandma had told a that she would make her cathedral veil for her instead of buying one at the dress designer and we didn't have the correct shade of ivory I was told her dress was custom-made but the designer wanted to charge $200 for a custom veil to match and they thought that was silly I explained that we were a big-box retailer and when you order your veil custom-made it will be dyed to match the dry they could die the chill they buy today but no that was absolutely unacceptable the wedding was in a week and they needed the veil done by tonight then ma tells me they have driven for an hour to get here specifically because it said we had ivory to online I explained how daya lots can differ from bolt to bolt and online states this as well and if they were coming all this way they should have called first and I would have happily had a staff member available to help them out this was a Saturday and we were very busy becomes irate of this and starts throwing a tantrum inside my store I tell grandma who at this point is the only one staying level-headed that the options we had out we are her only options I couldn't make fabric fall out of my butt grandma managed to talk mom and more down into a lace that was closer to the right shade I don't know what a thought because she was only speaking to mom at this point in whispers then we hit the next big issue grandma agreed to make a cathedral veil and has never made one before we go and find a pattern in turns out the only way to make it work with this fabric was to put a seam down the middle which as long as the fabric was matched up nicely wouldn't have been very noticeable a finally starts speaking directly to me but it's screaming that you can hear through the whole store the veil they saw when she tried her dress on didn't have a seam so this one shouldn't Biver I rationally started explaining that the only way not to have a seam would be if she purchased a wider fabric since she didn't like the colors we had in stock and didn't want to diet this was as good as she was going to get mom and more at this point escort hay out of the building leaving me and grandma to chat grandma bought all the fabric embellishments and supplies I found her coupons for a few things but the fabric alone was $30 a yard so this poor grandma ended up shelling out about $300 for this veil you can buy them online for about dollar sign 50 - 300 that woman was one of the nicest people I have met and I felt horrible and told her this multiple times she could buy a veil online for cheaper she kept insisting on buying the fabric and making the veil I'm sorry your granddaughter sucked [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Id: Xgiwee7_too

Length: 20min 14sec (1214 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 10 2020