Husband cheated with my sister while I was pregnant

[Music] my 22 female husband 22 male and i had what i thought to be the most amazing healthy and happy marriage we have been together a little over two years but have known each other seven we met in high school but never dated i have a young son his beo dad is what you would call a deadbeat my husband stepped up and has been his father since he was four months old my son and family absolutely adore my husband he reminds everyone of my father who passed four years ago suddenly of a heart attack on our living room floor my family and husband became extremely close super fast my husband and i started trying for a baby a couple months after we started dating but sadly didn't end up conceiving our sun until 15 months after we started trying dealing with infertility was extremely bad mentally for me i spent a lot of time crying into my husband's chest after about the seventh negative pregnancy test in a row we were related when we found out i was pregnant with our second son last november global situation happened and put a bit of a damper on my pregnancy so i had my younger sister 18f over to our apartment a lot to keep me company while my husband worked long hours due to global situation my siblings and i there are four of us are all extremely close but my little sister and i are by far the closest out of all our siblings i basically raised her after my mom abandoned us to go and live with her boyfriend two months after our father died would do anything for her at the drop of a hat and would defend her and be on her side no matter what one weekend in april my husband decided to unwind and have a drink for the first time in almost a year he is pretty straight edge my little sister was over so i went out and bought some wine for her to drink so they could have fun a drink together since i was pregnant and obviously couldn't drink with him while we all played games and watched movies it started getting late and i was tired so i went to bed i woke up around 1am and didn't see my husband in bed next to me so i got up to go see if he was maybe playing video games still i didn't bother putting my glasses on when i got out to the living room i saw with my extremely blurred vision him standing bent over her while she was laying on the couch they were both clothed but i made me feel extremely uneasy and sick to my stomach i asked what they were doing and my husband said he was talking to her i back to the bathroom and started crying but just thought was being ridiculous and hormonal and tried pushing it to the back of my head only i couldn't the memory consumed my every thought and was driving me insane but i didn't have proof that anything had happened and i didn't actually see them doing anything so again i just told myself that i was being crazy and that they would never do something like that to me especially not while heavily pregnant my husband started to become increasingly distant and just plain nasty to me seemingly always finding something to fight with me about not showing me any attention or affection or s which was extremely out of character and unlike him i brushed it off as him being stressed about the new baby my husband and i bought our first home in may and i wanted all of our rooms painted before we moved in my husband agreed and my sister offered to help him fast forward to july after three months of feeling like something just wasn't and that my marriage was failing i woke up one monday morning nine months pregnant to an empty bed my husband nowhere in sight my little sister had spent the night i put in my contacts and then went into the living room to see if he was up playing with the new kitten we had gotten the night before no sign of him my stomach dropped the door to my unborn child's nursery was open where my sister my little sister was sleeping my heart sank my feet felt like cement blocks but i slowly started walking towards the room only to see my husband on his knees giving oral to my baby sister in our unborn son's nursery the first words out of my mouth was i ducking knew it get out of my house i'll never forget the look on their faces i was so heartbroken and traumatized i ran to our master bathroom and just stood there in shock my husband eventually came in and tried to talk to me i threw everything within reach at him and told him to get out and leave me alone he didn't so i pushed past him the rest is a blur and i don't remember much of it except hiding his keys so he could drive her back to my mom's house he ended up doing so anyways i'm still so hurt and devastated but can't bring myself to leave him even though i'm disgusted beyond hurt and devastated by this i have only spoke to my sister a few times trying to get answers as to why how the dark she could actually do something like that to me of all people neither of them have an answer and they had s almost every time she was over and i went to sleep i have no want or need for a relationship with my sister i truly feel she owes me more loyalty than anyone is this planet how do i heal from this ultimate betrayal from the two people i'm closest to edit just to clear up some confusion my husband did not groom or take advantage of her she has said it was 100 consensual my husband and her both have said there was absolutely no romantic feelings involved in it either just purely yes also i might add that my little sister has an extensive history with sleeping with grown men but i never thought she'd cross the line and sleep with my husband i'm by no means taking the heat off of him by saying this either currently a man 27 is serving prison time forgetting caught having s with her in the back of his car when she was 15 also the dude had the same name as our older brother she's just got serious issues a couple years back i found out she'd been using my ass toys while i was at work obviously grossed me out and i threw them away she's deranged and has boundary issues but again i genuinely never thought she'd do anything to try and ruin my marriage or relationship with me she's also holds an extremely special place in my son's heart i don't get why she chants ruining it i'm so confused honestly so everyone is probably going to be really happy or saying i told you so to give everyone a quick background i found my wife sexting a coworker she ended up telling me that she wanted to meet with him and have s i agreed and even tried to accept it they met up a few weekends ago and then met up again this last weekend i tried to like it i tried to be happy for her and i tried to make her happy she just kept showing that she really didn't care for me first of all she would not let me set boundaries for them i told them that i wasn't comfortable with things and that they needed to stop or at least put a few boundaries in she refused saying that it wasn't for me to say what they can or can't do this past weekend is what really did it in for me she left saturday morning without showing a care for me in the world she made me take pictures of her to send to the guy before she left she left without even giving me a kiss at first she explained that she would be back that night nighttime kane and she was nowhere to be seen the next morning she tells me that she decided to stay the night with him without even asking or telling me first that's not even the worst part that night he invited over one of his friends and she messed around with both of them she didn't even care to ask me about that first when she arrived back at the house she told me all of this stuff i started to get visibly upset she laughed and said get over it and that it's not manly i couldn't put up with it anymore she obviously no longer cared for me no spouse would say anything like this to their partner if they actually cared for them i was just shocked at no point in our marriage until the other week did i notice any signs that she would be this way she had always been the most loving caring girl that i had ever met it's like a flip switched when she met that guy and she changed into a different person i didn't know one person could change someone that much and that quickly i'm 99 sure that she is going to end up dating this guy she has spent the past few weekends together with him and even talks about him around me last night i told her that if she doesn't at least put in boundaries that i will leave she said okay and laughed a lot without saying another word i packed up some bags and booked a room at the nearest hotel i've told my brother about this situation and he has offered for me to come stay with him for a little while no one else in my family knows yet i've received many texts and calls from my wife but i have not answered them yet my brother is going to help me seek a divorce attorney as soon as possible this marriage is about to come to an end i had left her last week and went to stay with my brother after taking to him and reading several comments i figured that it would be a good idea to try to go back to stay at my house to try to make sure that i wouldn't lose it when we got divorced the next day i decided to go back there my brother was going with me too when we got there my wife was trying to talk to me and grab me i ignored her the whole time and pretty much acted like she didn't exist she got pretty rough and was beating on my chest i finally pushed away my brother told her that if she doesn't leave me alone that he would call the cops she finally left after that i didn't hear from her the rest of that night the next day i did receive a picture of her and the coworker it was a normal selfie of them together there was no text with it i showed it to my brother and he said that she must be sick in the head to do that i finally met up with a divorce attorney for an initial meeting and consultation it went well and he told me things that i needed to know in preparation for the divorce he said that the pictures and videos i have of them will be helpful evidence the only problem with the situation is that she may can prove that i agreed to everything even though there was manipulation involved my brother and i went over to my parents to sit down and talk with them about what is going on they were shocked to hear this about her and almost didn't believe it at first my brother had my back and confirmed with them that everything i said was true they wanted to talk to her but i told them not to the next step was telling her parents i debated about this for a while as i did not know if it was my place to do so after a while i finally decided that it would be best to i know that if i didn't tell them first she would probably tell them awful lies about me i set up a time to meet them at their place i went over alone after a while of just sitting there and having small talk i finally built up the courage to tell them what was going on the looks on their faces were unbelievable they looked disgusted they had never seen this side of their daughter i was surprised that they didn't put any of the blame on me they understood that i loved her and wanted to do whatever i could to make her happy they even hugged me before i left we were all in tears they knew divorcing her was the last thing that i wanted to do but understood that i had to at this point this weekend i spent most of my time talking to my attorney and chilling with my brother at the house saturday night came and i received a text from my wife stating that she was coming over i texted her back and told her that she wasn't welcome here right now she didn't listen and about 20 minutes later she showed up i felt like i didn't really have a choice at this point but to talk to her she started i off by saying that she had been taking to her parents and they were very angry with her and that they mentioned us getting a divorce i was hoping that they wouldn't tell her that as i had not even broke the news of that to her yet i wasn't even planning on telling her in person i had planned for it to all be through the lawyer she told me that what i did was childish and that i must not be a real man because i talked to her parents before her i told her that i didn't feel comfortable talking to her anymore as she had manipulated me so much already and that i talked to her parents first because i knew if i didn't that she would lie to them and accuse everything on me she then kept asking me if it was true that i was really filing for a divorce i confirmed that i was she started sobbing uncontrollably and didn't really say anything for a good 15 minutes she finally stopped and was asking me why i was doing this and why i didn't give her a heads up i explained that throughout all of this she has been super manipulative and has treated me like i don't exist i have been so humiliated by her and the coworker she promised that she would stop if i took her back i told her that i couldn't she finally left after that the next morning i wake up to a lot of texts and missed calls from her they are mostly long messages and voice emails of her apologizing and explaining how much she loves me it really hurt to listen to them because i was reminded of our past and how much i loved her i was crying like crazy at this point and it took everything in me not to respond back to her i just kept reminding myself what she has done to me the last few weeks since she left that night i've gotten many texts from her friends telling me that i need to take her back they were cussing me out and telling me how wrong it was of me to go to her parents they said that now they are the only people she has this has all been so crazy i can't believe how emotional the past few days have been i can't believe that even her parents are on my side i do feel bad for telling them first and making them turn on her but i'm glad they are on my side her friends continue to attack me and send threats i have not heard from my wife ever since she sent the long texts and messages i'm guessing that she is either staying with the coworker or her friends as her parents are against her at the moment i'm surprised i was able to stand up this strongly against her i hope to continue to be able to do so i think that this weekend was big for me it showed me that i do have the strength to stand up to her and leave her my bill found out my sister has been cheating on him for eight years two years ago three kids together her boyfriend was married with two kids my bill found old phones with old text messages that confirmed his suspicions my sister worked with this man she was cheating with for eight years went to company parties together same work social circles my sister and her husband even met up socially with her cheating partner and his wife all the time she was working late working on sundays and asking me my other siblings and my parents to watch the kids were not to help her with her job but to help her cheat her youngest was born during the affair even had my other sister take a picture of her in the nicu with the baby which we found out was to send to her boyfriend dna test confirmed it's my bill baby looking back everything we thought was true all these years wasn't it's heartbreaking they destroyed not only their own families but broke the hearts of my parents and her in-laws my parents were devastated to learn their daughter was capable of this they were depressed and still are to a degree this day my father will never be the same he says he will go to his grave with a broken heart for her part in this he can't believe his own daughter would do this anyway two years later still dealing with this [ __ ] chow nasty divorce custody issues financial issues lots of money involved she is now living with him and getting married next month asked my parents for their blessing lol my father said you did what you wanted all these years without my blessing now you want it you're not getting anything i want nothing to do with this wedding but i feel bad for her children i also have two daughters who do know what happened 15 and 13. feel like i'm setting a bad example to go celebrate this with them her kids have not put the pieces together and don't realize what really went down i don't acknowledge him or their relationship she thinks this man walks on water and wants us to accept him i can't we love our brother-in-law and still keep in contact with him which angers her am i the [ __ ] for refusing to go to my sister's wedding [Music] you

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Length: 17min 54sec (1074 seconds)

Published: Fri Oct 30 2020