Mother In Law Was KICKED OUT From My DELIVERY ROOM & Demands Paternity Test To Prove Its NOT My Baby

people how is your mother-in-law ruining your life a few days ago i gave birth to my son i chose to give birth in a private health care center just because i can afford it and i wanted to have as much privacy as possible i didn't want other mothers with their newborns to be around and i wanted the doctors to focus on me only my husband wasn't able to be present mother-in-law drove me to the center and she got quite offended when i told her she won't be coming into the delivery room that was completely out of the question because i'd rather be surrounded by doctors only than have mother-in-law there she was clearly dissatisfied because she obviously thought that since my husband isn't here she'll be the one who gets to see the birth of my child well didn't happen she had to wait outside the delivery room i was in there alone with doctors and she was outside the door ever since i got pregnant mother-in-law was always trying to horrify me by telling me how terrible birth is and that i'll be in such an agony i'll want to die i never believed her and nothing like that happened my labor was about four hours long and that's really fast considering this was my first child yes it did hurt but not nearly as bad as mother-in-law described it honestly the ingrown toenail that i had a few years ago hurt more after it was over and my son and me we were nice and clean mother-in-law was allowed to come into the room she looked around suspiciously and then she looked at me and was like did you give birth at all i said was kind of a stupid question is that you yourself drove me here of course i gave birth where do you think this child came from she looked at me again and she was like well well and then left she didn't even look at her grandson but mother-in-law has always been strange towards me so i just shook it off the next day my husband arrived he was very happy and he was laughing he told me that his mother called him and told him that she thinks this child is not his child she told my husband listen there's something weird going on i'm quite positive it's not her child first of all why did she choose a private center instead of an ordinary hospital i know why because she could easily bribe the doctors there those private centers will do anything for money secondly why wasn't i allowed into the room of course because i'd see that she's not giving birth at all thirdly i never heard her scream what woman doesn't scream during childbirth and lastly she couldn't give birth so fast first births always last for 12 hours at least those doctors probably had an infant somewhere in that room and they just gave it to her she probably didn't want to ruin her body with pregnancy so she just bought the baby believe me son she has never been pregnant and she just wore a fake belly all the time it's not your child after i heard all of this i didn't know whether i should laugh or get mad or what of course my husband knows i was pregnant he has seen my belly hundreds of times and we always went to ultrasounds together mother-in-law has obviously decided that if her birth was bad other women have to have it the same way not sure if she realizes that all women are not the same now i'm home with my baby and i'm not contacting mother-in-law at all my husband doesn't want her to see me as long as she keeps making up things about a bot baby the last thing she suggested was a dna test that will clearly show it's not your child i don't need that kind of crap in my life right now edit i forgot to mention she also said that the baby doesn't look like my husband as if she got a good look of him and as if a newborn baby could look like someone here i am almost 30 weeks pregnant and preparing myself for the baby shower here in a few weeks trying to decide if i want to invite the redheaded devil or not this happened when i was about 12 weeks pregnant backstory dear husband and i have a one and a half year old son already and we decided we were ready to have another baby so i got the ovulation strips and pregnancy tests and started tracking well i'm extremely lucky in the baby making department and we achieved our goal the first month trying now keep in mind i work at the same place as my dear husband and mother-in-law well about five weeks into the pregnancy i told my boss that i was pregnant but we weren't telling anyone until we knew the gender and that it was a good pregnancy he understood and promised to keep our secret flash forward to around 10 weeks pregnant and i was surviving and finally coming out of my morning sickness stage i had lost about 15 pounds at this point i in no way shape or form was glowing or even acted or looked pregnant at all one day mother-in-law comes up to me all snarky which i one word answer her and nod my head until she goes away so i don't have to deal with her crap any more than i have to every day and with that smug look on her face she says mother-in-law you need to take a pregnancy test me in shock and completely off guard lol no i'm definitely not pregnant mother-in-law i'm just saying i always know when someone is pregnant and i'm definitely getting vibes from you me nope i'm bleeding and on my period right now so pretty sure i'm not i'm an excellent liar so she dropped it but i just knew i wasn't out of the clear just yet the next two weeks went by and she kept hinting and hinting and straight up saying she was going to buy a test and make me pee on it uh gross at this point i had found out the gender and really didn't feel like dealing with her crap anymore so we bought my son a shirt that said i'm going to be a big brother and tied a pink balloon around his waist and headed up to where we work to announce she was off doing who knows what and was the last to see and hear small win for op here and then it started mother-in-law in the most annoying and true narcissistic fashion turning my good news into all about her see i told you i knew you were pregnant you're welcome that i told you to test and find out now before i got out of the car i told dear husband that i was going to lose it if she made this about her i lost it i saw red and just let loose on her me actually i've known for about 12 weeks now we planned this baby this was our doing not yours in fact pretty much everyone up here knew but you that was a lie so you're the last to find out she then went back to her desk and sulked the rest of the time we were there talking to everyone and being congratulated and no one went to see why she wasn't there we all just ignored her and later i find out that she made the comment i don't know why she was so mad that i knew she was pregnant before she did which i will ring your skinny ugly neck you did not tell me what i already knew she has nothing to do with my current son and never has and since that day hasn't mentioned my pregnancy one time the silence has been blissful edit i should also add that it's a very strong possibility that the boss let it slip to her seeing as how the whole office is convinced they are together which that's a whole post in itself so i got no congratulations no i'm happy for you guys i just got a big fat i told you so i have two children they don't have the same dad my husband has been involved in my eldest child's life for six years and five months he sees my eldest as his child mother-in-law has told me several times before i got pregnant again she isn't grandma to eldest child she's disgusted that my son sees it as his child husband often tries to calm the situation before we argue despite how much i don't want her around she is my husband's mother so we meet while my eldest is at school well we were talking recently about the newborn and she said oh i can't wait for name to call me grandma i can see her point that my eldest and her aren't biologically related and she's old-fashioned but i can also see that this is a child and she should be willing to overlook her views husband is upset with me because i told her she isn't grandma she has no right to see this one as her grandchild but not my eldest who's been in her life since she was nine months old she's genuinely upset about this i really hoped i would not have to write here again until after i gave birth but oh well so recently i sent mother-in-law a message saying that i was okay with sending her a picture after i give birth as long as it was not posted on facebook to which i added that she might not receive it until we are back home since we are cutting our cell phones not using them at all she checked the message and didn't answer she later told me she apparently did not know what to write back to that when a simple okay would have been good anyways today she told me that she was sad that we would not call her when i go into labor and after here is how the conversation went on messenger mother-in-law i find it sad not to be told when you will go into labor and when she will be born i don't know why you guys are doing this to me me it's just stressful knowing that everyone will be waiting on an update and i would like dear husband to be concentrated on helping me give birth rather than being on the phone all the time also we are cancelling the phone line due to us not using it as much it's nothing against you mother-in-law yes but you have to understand that for me it is important to know it and it does not take long to say you are going into labor but i respect your choices me i don't want it to go on facebook also the fact that i have gone into labor which is the type of crap she would pull i also don't want people to keep calling dear husband to have updates to the point where dear husband can't enjoy his daughter's birth mother-in-law we love you and are happy that you guys are having a child and i would like you to respect that what me i understand and we will call you but not when i go into labor or right after she is born we will need time to rest mother-in-law come on it is supposed to be a beautiful event please i am asking you in a kind way don't do this to me you are really going to hurt me this is when i start to lose my mind for real me mother-in-law it is not against you but it is my birth and i am doing this to be comfortable and not to be disturbed by anyone mother-in-law well i want to know when you go into labor and when she is born or else i will be very very sad by the way you are acting dear husband is my son and i will be a grandmother for the first time don't do this to me oof i don't know why she always says oof i find it weird but oh well for the love of god that would be proving me that i am worth nothing in your lives and that is very true me stop acting like everything is about you it is a decision me and dear husband took together and we will not go back on it for anyone do not talk to me about this anymore i am not going to change my mind mother-in-law i am not manipulating you where does that come from i have never said that lol this is just how i feel and i will be very sad you have to think about others in life me you were not there when dear husband and i conceived this child and it is our decision i have the right to think just about me i'm the one who will be giving birth if you keep going on like this you will not know until we announce it on facebook a couple of days later mother-in-law you are being selfish not easy oof i can't wait for you to live what being a mom is you will see it is very difficult to not be able to live things that you would like to live have a good day me no i will finally be able to respect my child's decisions even if i do not like them have a good day i also added about an hour later me by the way i am already a mom and i know what it feels like to not get your way you announced the gender of my child before i even got to and almost ruined the day for us by calling dear husband and yelling at him for not calling you first we were no contact and did not even intend on calling her so now i do not trust you to not announce it on facebook and i do not want any post about my daughter on your page before or after labor or i will block you dear husband will call you tomorrow on regards to this have a good day i was just so sick of this bull that i do not even care about having a good relationship with her anymore i won't keep her from coming here to see my child once in a while two to three times a year maximum for no more than two hours so happy she lives six hours away but there will be some firm boundaries as you can already see first let me say i'm really writing this from a place of laughter it's been so long since i have posted to this sub because we went to no contact for a while and now somehow she has wormed her way back in anyways i am currently nine months pregnant having contractions now actually although i'm still at home because they are small and far apart this is our first baby together we told everyone who has asked about our labor the plan that we aren't inviting people to the hospital during labor and delivery except my two sisters one of which will film the birth and the other will capture photos and that we will invite people to come visit whenever we feel settled and ready my mother-in-law heard this plan but didn't think it applied to her she tells my husband today that she has her hospital bag packed my husband clarified that she will not be invited to the labor or delivery and we will let her know as soon as we are accepting visitors welp her response to this was of course freak out and explain that she witnessed the birth of her other grandchildren and that if we did not allow her to witness the birth she is not going to love our child as much as the other grandchildren yes she will withhold love i don't know how you withhold love from someone from her own grandchild to prove some kind of point to us what kind of human being says they aren't going to love all their grandkids equally i don't know what to even say besides okay i guess love them however much you can under the circumstances lol lol not like my kid will really see her much enough to notice what a lunatic that's all my mother-in-law moved in with us about three months ago it's been okay she and i are clashing personalities and cultures and it's come up more often now that we share a similar space she is a traditional hispanic woman with a strong sense of decorum and family hierarchy i am a white liberal in all ways and agnostic about most traditions including and especially the need to obey elders before out of consideration to my spouse and out of a belief in the my house my rules adage i used to watch what i said around her very carefully because we only visited with her about once a month but when my spouse asked if she could live with us i said i was okay with it as long as i no longer had to walk on eggshells around her my spouse agreed and told their mother that she needs to respect what we do and say things differently in our home than she may like i don't know how her mother responded to that but it never came up again last week my 10 year old and i were chatting while having breakfast while she was in the kitchen we were goofing around and making bodily function sounds to each other we are very mature i know but when i said i fart in your general direction and made a loud raspberry sound at her she was giggling like crazy my mother-in-law slammed down her coffee mug and said in spanish don't you dare teach my granddaughter to be so disrespectful i will not allow this kind of vulgarity in my home any longer and i said in english i can understand spanish but can't speak it well this is my home you don't get a say in how i interact with my kids or how any of us speak or act she stormed away and now isn't speaking to me my spouse says i'm the idiot because i embarrassed her in front of our daughter and because i expected her to accept too much too quickly they also say that i am being a little culturally insensitive and that i need to respect that abuela will be deeply offended by how i spoke to her so i need to apologize but i think it was important for her to see that i will stand up for our interactions myself and also stick to what we originally agreed on that i won't be policed in my own home i've been lurking for a long time and finally decided to share because of what went down with my mother-in-law my esso and i are expecting a baby the first in the family i thought my mother-in-law would be thrilled but when we told her she loudly started saying oh my oh my are you sure you want this you know there are places that can help you if you want to get rid of it thanks mother-in-law every soon-to-be parent loves hearing stuff like that honestly i was shocked my eso and i have been together for 12 years have a house two jobs and have our life on the rails it's not like we are too young calling her for advice we called her to share the happy news and we're totally not expecting her to react like that i just can't help but wonder did she react like that because she hoped esso and i would break up and did the pregnancy finally make her realize that wasn't going to happen anytime soon and how am i supposed to behave around her now i'm 30 so it's not like we need her approval but i have to admit she really hurt our feelings do i confront her that this is not okay behavior should i just ignore it and be the bigger person i don't feel like involving her in any way in the pregnancy now when i became pregnant with first little one i was ashamed and scared my own opinion is early twenties is too young to have a child i was upset with myself for a long time we didn't share our pregnancy news right away when we told mother-in-law she complained we didn't tell her sooner she then told me about a story of her co-worker telling her about her pregnancy before she told her own mother i held my tongue shortly after she wanted to know our birth plan and asked who would be in the room i had already planned on my partner obviously and told her i asked my older sister mother-in-law you mean i can't come in me they only let two people in and i asked my sister mother-in-law ah i was hoping i could come in me if they let three people in you could but they only let two pouts for hours i did not have a shiny spine back then i wasn't comfortable with her coming in i should have said that on the big day dear husband and my sister make our way to the hospital mother-in-law shows up separately i'm thinking okay whatever when it gets down to business they will kick her out she sat in the corner quietly on her best behavior so they didn't ask her to leave even though i was over the limit of people during my hard labor and delivery she stayed in her corner while dear husband and sister are at my side cheering me on whenever she said something about pushing her surely voice made me want to scream at her i focused on my job little one was born and she is the first one over at the baby taking pictures thank god she doesn't have facebook she leaves the room and didn't disturb me much but i really wish i stood my ground and told her no go in the waiting room or just go home you

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Published: Fri Sep 25 2020