Toxic Mother In Law CREEPS IN My Delivery Room To See Me Giving BIRTH - Narcissist Mother In Law

when did your in-laws overstep their boundaries i'm back again with another wonderful memory of my just know mother-in-law this one centers around the birth of dear son one so i went into labor at 35 weeks with dear son juan still to this day have no idea why he was pre-term but anyway i shall continue we tell everyone big mistake but it was our first so lesson learned my parents and sister show up along with the in-laws and my best friends my boy's godparents when i was admitted i was adamant that only dear husband mom and sister were allowed in the delivery room we signed waiver after waiver and told every nurse working with me change of shift was right before i had him mother-in-law didn't take too kindly to that and whined that she wanted to be there for her grandbaby i snapped back with i'm the one giving birth so deal with it and had my husband remove her forbid as i'm getting wheeled over to my delivery room with husband mom and sister there she is in the waiting room asking what room i'll be in my mother just looks at her and says she has no idea she's a little preoccupied at the moment now we're getting down to business and while i'm exposed in all my not so shining glory i look over and guess who is standing inside the curtain staring at my exposed self just no mother-in-law i start yelling get out right now and my god-send of a nurse tells mother-in-law that she will leave now or security will remove her from the building and she won't be allowed in i was mortified i made it clear that i only wanted certain people in my room and she has no care in the world about my wants or needs while bringing a child into this world after dear son one was born he was flown down to hospital with a nicu that only allowed parents to be there so all in all i got the last laugh with her she snuck into the delivery room and wasn't even allowed to see dear son one for two weeks ha all of the holiday posts reminded me of the straw that broke the camel's back with mother-in-law my oldest was still very much in that fourth trimester period i was crazy with hormones and getting less than three hours of sleep a night my own just no mom comes to visit every year between christmas and new years we have our issues but she is very much a just yes grandma it is also worth noting that mother-in-law had an awful habit of just dropping by unannounced and it made my blood boil if you've read my previous posts on mother-in-law you know that my in-laws divorce was a crap show of epic proportions mostly due to my mother-in-law being a heinous witch next tuesday and my father-in-law being a spineless mule mother-in-law spent all of her time blaming father-in-law for this that and the other when she was actually projecting her misdeeds onto him by the time this particular christmas rolled around their divorce had been final for over a year at this point she strolls up unannounced a couple of days after christmas with some dollar store crap for my oldest and stepkid dear husband was rocking oldest to sleep and i was enjoying speaking with human beings that weren't my husband or under the age of five i exchanged pleasantries while silently fuming then excuse myself to go trade places with dear husband i take oldest mutter something about your mother is here and you need to go deal with her and go about snuggling my sweet little dictator what happens next about makes my head explode she starts laying into him about how everything is his dad's fault in front of my mom and younger brother at christmas time over a year after their divorce all my what's if i hadn't been snuggling a content baby i would have read her the riot act dear husband being who he is has begun cleaning the kitchen hoping she would get the hint and leave nevertheless she persisted finally long after dear husband had enough he snapped back at her mom i love you because you're my mother and you raised me but i don't like you as a person the sheer embarrassment of being told that in front of her son's mother-in-law was enough to get her to shut up and leave dear husband realized that day that his mother didn't care about actually spending time with us she just wanted to make sure we thought she was in the right and she deserved what she took that was the first time i saw dear husband shine his spine and i was proud of him my sister had a future mother-in-law whom i have posted about before sister was an embarrassment because she was on antidepressants even though mother-in-law was on much stronger versions of the same thing mother-in-law was also trying to dictate how much esso could spend on an engagement ring for sister many red flags sister had to sacrifice christmas eve and christmas day for esso's family it didn't matter that this was her first christmas as an auntie she loves my little squishy human this was also the first time in 10 years my mother wanted to do something for christmas we lost my other sister right before christmas which ruined the holiday for mom sister had to spend almost every single day at mother-in-law's house mother-in-law regularly kissed s.o on the mouth mother-in-law always had creepy couple pictures with s.o as her profile pic on facebook esso always had to make time for mother-in-law instead of sister like leaving shortly had to have dinner with mother-in-law two hours later mother-in-law wanted to talk be there soon stuff like that on the rag the last text mother-in-law and sister exchanged was mother-in-law make sure to remind my baby to text me when he gets to your house sister remind esso to start treating me like a human being mother-in-law wow esso made sister buy him a flashlight though it made her uncomfortable not mother-in-law related but i never really liked the guy sister gave him an ultimatum mother-in-law or sister he chose mother-in-law send good vibes her way after eight years the mother-in-law finally let her mask slip eight years of playing the innocent confused card resulting in her avoiding taking any responsibility for her actions to set the stage we have been no contact with father-in-law for almost 6 months our second child was born three months ago and we have allowed mother-in-law to visit periodically father-in-law has never met baby because he refuses to speak to me or make amends for his horrible behavior on christmas eve we visited dear husband's grandmother and aunt at grandma's house very just yes and his parents showed up we were cordial i held the baby because he was sleeping and i wanted to avoid any conflict as we were leaving just yes and asked to hold the baby i handed him over and turned to collect my things mother-in-law swooped in and snatched baby shuffled over to father-in-law and shoved the baby in his face saying kiss him hurry kiss him dear husband approached her and held out his arms to take the baby she turned her shoulder to him and said no i'm holding him right now she walked him out to the car and she said to me i mean i just wanted to walk him out i took him and said nothing to her once we were both in the car dear husband said that we were done with them mother-in-law proved that she would put her and father-in-law's wants over our wishes as parents and completely disrespected us we avoided making a scene for the sake of the rest of the family but i had never felt like i didn't have control over my own child and decided that it would never happen again just had to share because up until this point mother-in-law has been an innocent bystander just living with her husband's actions and playing the battered housewife not literally she just allows him to dictate everything that goes on in their lives and now dear husband sees her for who she really is an accomplice to her husband's atrocious behavior my mother-in-law has always been a bit rude and a bit mean this escalated when dear husband and i became engaged and then really escalated when i became pregnant she is the variety of mother-in-law who will be absolutely cutting but it's just a joke and will offer to help but it's really just holding the baby she has flashes of absolute cruelty when there are no corroborating witnesses in short she's crafty like a fox i hit my breaking point with her last december and posted about it here essentially mother-in-law was happily flouting our very simple and common sense boundaries while dear husband was a limp noodle we went into therapy asap i was so furious and so devastated i couldn't imagine bringing our baby into a marriage in such a state of turmoil from mother-in-law interference and i was petrified that everything would escalate with little one and i would have to constantly be on guard to defend myself and little one from encroachment while the backstory well this christmas mother-in-law did the exact same thing we asked her not to do last year she bought our sweet dog a squeaky toy he goes bonkers we can't handle it they are not allowed in our house she knows this obviously well she gives our dog a toy and tells us not to worry there's no squeaker about five minutes later he finds the squeaker dear husband and i exchange looks and he questions mother-in-law she tells us it's nothing to worry about as it's such a little one dear husband replies that everyone knows this is our one rule about dog toys she merely smiles dear husband takes the toy from the dog pulls out his pocket knife carves the squeaker out of the toy and sets it on the table in front of mother-in-law dog gets the toy back and proceeds to shred it all over her house a look of sour disapproval ensues and i am deeply pleased had my baby shower over the weekend mother-in-law comes to help set up as we are placing decorations on tables she feels so needy to state that it looks like a party for a little kid i stopped in my tracks turn in her direction then point at my stomach and remind her it is for a kid she rolls her eyes and i get this huffy oh well you know what i mean and of course at the end we get to hear a lovely comment about how she's just glad all of that's over with all i can do is think to myself yes you put such a large effort into this you had to make 40 salami rolls and bring two cases of water insert eye roll honestly after all her fussy comments leading up to the shower i'm surprised that's all that was said she felt the need to tell me i invited too many people keep in mind she was not hosting this and did not pay for hardly anything that's why she was given such a small task i later found out she made a comment to your husband asking what cult we had joined that we would know over 80 people to invite icing on the cake is that she didn't get us anything for the baby shower told the dear husband that she just wait and see what everyone else got to find out what we needed after she's not computer savvy and according to her a gift registry is rude the day after the shower we go to visit my sister-in-law who's in from out of state of course she's staying with the in-laws so while we're there mother-in-law fills the need to lecture dear husband about his unnecessary spending because him going with friends out for drinks and dinner was just unnecessary according to her i loved seeing my husband's shiny spine when he told her it wasn't her money and none of her business she tried to backpedal and say she was just referring to us needing to back off on those things once the baby gets here he then told her the same thing it's still none of your business because it's still not your money and here we have another story about my essos mother this happened several hours ago by the way okay as the title says esso proposed he took me out for dinner with both our families and later while we were just walking he told me he needed to tie his shoelace and psych he actually proposed there and then in the middle of a rather busy street in front of both our families hell yeah i'm not usually one to cry but i couldn't help myself this time i just burst into tears while choking out the happiest yes i could at the time and we all lived happily ever after nope of course mother-in-law has a meltdown she was yelling at esso about how he was going to marry into a family of redheads long story then she yelled at me for ruining her perfect son and yes she actually said those words however esso once again flexed his shiny spine his exact words were it's better to be imperfect that way there's still room for improvement holy moly i ended up crying harder out of happiness i was just standing there laughing and crying some would have said i was hysterical i'm okay now though as for just no mother-in-law nope she spent the rest of the night screaming and wailing about me so too bad but i've won mother-in-law here's my situation chess pidgeon my just know mother-in-law is back in touch with so she's his mom so she knows how to win her way back into his life and i have nothing against it as long as he respects my decision to stay away from her which he normally does the problem is that she's super sweet and kind now treating esso like a prince so he's forgetting all of her bad habits and how much she pushes my boundaries so he seems to be thinking that we're okay or soon to be okay he was chatting with her and he mentioned that we won't be going to visit her on our next vacations since my friend invited us to stay in her cabin and go skiing and we're planning to go we'll spend 20 days with my friend her husband and another couple it will be our first romantic trip in a long time of course chess pigeon was upset with the idea of not seeing so during our vacations so what's the logical idea invite herself and just yes father-in-law to go with us when esso told me about it i swear i had to hold myself not to laugh but he told me that father-in-law didn't want to spend so long away from us so father-in-law was really excited of meeting us there they started to look for resorts and hotels close to my friend's cabin and i was okay with it i'd have to share so with his parents but i'd have some free time to rest and be with my friends so i tried to be okay with it and move on but chess pigeon wasn't happy oh no she is missing esso so much that she doesn't want to be in a hotel so she convinced esso that the best solution for all would be if they stayed in my friend's cabin with us they won't bother us they only want to stay 15 days with us so we'll still get our privacy and romantic vacations once they're gone esso told me that he doesn't know what to tell her he wants to see his parents but he knows that i would be really uncomfortable spending so much time with her he's hopeful that i'll change my mind about his mom and will have a great vacation next to them and just to add the cherry on top of this crappy sundae me and esso would give chess pigeon and father-in-law our room and we would sleep in the living room without any privacy because chess pigeon can't sleep on an uncomfortable couch so yeah my life i'm still trying to calm down before talking to esso about this i don't want us to fight i don't want to ruin my vacations with him but i also don't want to be the one that says sorry your parents are not welcome i really don't know what to do i've got to say my mother-in-law may not be as bad as many i've seen here but she is a special brand of cuckoo for coco puffs some backstory my dear husband and i have been best friends for years even while i dated my ex for six years my now dear husband was my best friend confidant and roommate he never forced his feelings on me or talked down to my relationship he has always been respectful and supportive of my choices choosing to be with him became such a natural and easy decision enter his mother she loved me when we were roommates and was absolutely giddy when we began dating it was all oh my goodness you are so good for him and take care of my baby boy red flag match so as our relationship progressed i began to be excited to grow closer with her and tried keeping contact with her then it happened my darling dear husband popped the question we were both flying high after our evening out and called my brother and parents first to share the good news they were ecstatic for us and eager to welcome dear husband into the family then it was mother-in-law's turn dear husband and i sat on the outside steps to our apartment and rang her dear husband hey mama i have some great news she and i want to share mother-in-law oh yeah dear husband we are getting married starts to talk about the proposal and how elated he was because he's an actual cinnamon roll mother-in-law stuttering and shocked silence then all of a sudden the waterworks erupted she begins sobbing and wailing about how this is a mistake this isn't how she wanted his life to go he should take back the engagement he didn't mean it it's a failure and on and on dear husband looked like an atomic bomb went off he struggled to speak but managed to say how he was sorry she felt that way but we would be getting married and that he was happy she did not take kindly to that she issued him an ultimatum call off the marriage or never talk to his mother who loved him and just wanted what's best for him ever again needless to say they hung up and proceeded not to talk for almost eight months we just couldn't believe what had happened she loved me as a girlfriend but apparently that's all she thought he should ever want let me also say she's been married five times cheated on nearly all of them slept her way across europe and kept love notes from her suitors had a prescription pill problem drink problem and had honestly never been a great mother to him anyways so i guess because her marriages were a sham meant ours would be too who knows also yes i encouraged him to reach out before the wedding after their very low contact i didn't want him to regret not having his only available parent father-in-law abandoned him as a child due to his mother and in part dear husband's stepmother she warmed up a little and did come to the wedding but there were shenanigans at the wedding i will get around to posting as well this was only my first introduction to psycho mother-in-law who threatened lifetime abandonment over a multitude of offenses since i have known her she's exhausting to say the least [Music] you

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Published: Mon Aug 24 2020