Mother In Law Demands BOY Because Girls Won't Continue Family NAME - Toxic MIL Ruined Pregnancy Joy

what crazy thing did your mother-in-law do when you first had your baby my husband 22 years old male and i 20 years old female welcomed our daughter into the world 18 weeks ago she's a darling baby and really pretty easy as far as newborns go except for one she wasn't a son my in-laws were obsessed with the idea of us having a son to the point that they denied she was a girl up until the morning that they denied she was a girl up until the moment she was born why because the bloodline follows the father if you don't have a son our family name will die out because your daughter will marry a man and carry on his bloodline so girls don't really count the day they came to visit in the hospital my in-laws asked when we would be trying for another baby we kind of just laughed it off but my mother-in-law got more insistent straight up telling us you'll need to try for a boy over the next month or two the conversation about us having another baby sort of tapers off into little comments every now and again i had no problem ignoring them and we'd already told them that it wasn't happening so i just let it run off my back around this time mother-in-law started coming over daily for a few hours watching the baby for me so that i could sleep and also occasionally clean up a bit for me she'd be over unsupervised anywhere from one to four hours fast forward to present day two days ago now my husband poured me a mixed drink and when i brought the cup to my lips i got hit with this paranoid and panicked feeling i immediately put the cup down and insisted we take a pregnancy test sure enough it comes back positive we wait until the next morning take a digital test and again positive based on lmp i should have been about six weeks along after getting over the initial shock we were excited but confused for several reasons we hadn't been able to get hormonal birth control so we'd been using protection and lube to make sure they didn't tear so we weren't sure how we'd gotten pregnant but we're happy with the news we decided we wouldn't tell anyone because we didn't want another baby stampede from his family but i'm incredibly close with my sister-in-law so i decided to tell her after swearing her to secrecy when i told her her eyes got wide and started to water and she asked if i was serious and i was sure i told her i know my husband and i are young but between us we make more than enough to support another baby sister-in-law bursts into tears and starts to apologize over and over meanwhile i sit there with my mouth hanging open and lost she calms down a bit and through her tears tells me that my mother-in-law has been poking holes in our protection pretty much since we came home from the hospital she claims mother-in-law told her she did it but she thought that she was just spouting crap because she was upset we didn't have a boy and suddenly everything clicked into place that's why the protection didn't work even though we were careful with them that's why she'd always shoe me off to sleep while she was around and that's what she was doing when she was cleaning my house snooping for our protection and she knew i wasn't on birth control because i remember complaining to her about how my ob gyn went on maternity leave and i wasn't able to find another one that took my insurance at that time i'm so angry i don't know what to do i want to go over to her house and tear her a new one so bad i can smell my tires burning in the blacktop i'm also illogically angry at my sister-in-law for not telling me how could you think this was a joke when she was so specific about everything she was going to do why didn't you warn me i would have put my protection in my room i'm livid with mother-in-law i'm pleased with this pregnancy but it wasn't my choice it wasn't even an accident it was her meddling because she didn't get the golden grandson she wanted i don't even know how to handle this i want to scorch the earth but i also still don't want his family knowing i'm pregnant and i'm not even 12 weeks yet so the risk of complications is still uncomfortably high the only bright side of this whole thing is it snatched my husband out of his mother's fog so violently he's probably got whiplash personally my pregnancy has soured a bit so i'm really trying to hang on to any happiness i have about the pregnancy left so far this is my game plan i contacted my apartment building manager and left a message asking where the trash gets sent to i also let the front office know what my mother-in-law's car looked like and that i didn't want her here for any reason i didn't find a rubber from the pack behind the trash can but it doesn't have any holes from what i could see but i put it in a ziploc baggie anyway maybe there will be fingerprints or something sister-in-law is coming over tonight and i'm going to see if i can get a statement from her on what she knows i looked into what reproductive coercion is and from what i can see it protects a forced termination but not a forced pregnancy i'm going to speak with the police about my specific situation and my options i've already ordered two cameras to install one in the living room and one in our bedroom which should be here on thursday i'm going to go out and buy another box of rubber and tell my mother-in-law the old ones were leaking or something and put them back in the ornamental box we keep them in i'm not sure if i'll try to catch her yet honestly i'm not comfortable around her and she might get angry if i called her out but if i do the camera will catch her red-handed i'm not sure what we'll do but i want these things regardless i've decided this is my hill to die on doesn't necessarily mean we'll press charges or sue but i do want her punished for what she did seven months ago i found out i was pregnant again both my husband and i were happy if a little shocked i was on the pill so a few months later we went along to the first scan checking it wasn't twins again twins runs in our family i'm a twin and my father was one luckily it wasn't however we learned that the baby was going to be a boy we were both very excited as this was the first baby boy in our family eventually we told our extended family just no mother-in-law being the first we told now we'd had some problems in the past tried to force us to change my kids names grumbled about them all being girls so when we told her she was ecstatic she even threw a baby shower for me something we'd never done with our three girls when my oldest asked her why she'd thrown it she rolled her eyes and told her that it's a boy so it's the most important baby i was horrified she said the same to my seven-year-olds and they ran to me crying that they didn't want the brother anymore just now mother-in-law didn't bother to apologize to anyone stating that boys are better and there is a reason we only had one child my husband hasn't spoken to her since although she sends baby products such as fancy cribs and prams i explained to her that we already had things from when the girls were younger and she dismissed it by saying boys deserve the best before i was pregnant just know mother-in-law sent my girls some money every month varying from twenty dollars to a hundred dollars every time the girls were overly grateful and they've saved it in their bank account for when they're older but since we've told her about our son she has stopped sending this money instead setting up a bank account in her name dedicating it to our son now we're not upset that she stopped sending the money we were always confused on why she did it but we're upset that the reason for her stopping the money is that we're having a son my husband and i are very confused on what to do with her as she's blatantly cutting out my daughters to accommodate my son edit i've spoken to my husband and we've agreed to go no contact until after the baby is born my oldest is upset but we've explained why we've done it and she's been mature enough to understand we had planned not to tell mother-in-law in advance to save ourselves the inevitable drama alas best laid plans and all that we were never able to work out the exact chain of people that resulted in her knowing the name but we figure my aunt told a cousin who spread it around online and mother-in-law may have found it via some facebook stalking but who knows beside the point anyway sometime in my seventh month pregnant after we'd picked the name and told some relatives mother-in-law texts dear husband emergency call asap well dear husband knows better so he texts brother-in-law one to see if everything's okay and as far as brother-in-law 1 is concerned no emergency there so dear husband takes his sweet time read better part of a week with multiple follow-up emergency texts to respond when he does make contact mother-in-law is ranting and crying about our name choice which in her mind definitely counts as an emergency the gist of her complaint was first not a real name apparently someone hasn't read much shakespeare me thinks second simultaneously too ethnic a name again it's pretty british third not biblical no argument there fourth not a family name again no argument and fifth specifically not her name no way aside from her name she also offered dear husband some other suggestions i'm not going to list them here because i don't want to offend anyone who may have named their baby one of those names because to each their own and you do you so i'll just say this these suggestions were at least in my opinion very redneck and all about 50 years behind current name trends just not for us thanks does it end with one conversation of course not this is just no mother-in-law after all dear husband eventually had to put her on a timeout for the last month of my pregnancy because he couldn't deal with her literally crying about it when he wouldn't respond to her texts or calls she'd send videos of herself crying over the name saying it's ungodly and she worries for the soul of a person named outside of the bible she also reached out to my mom my aunt and my grandmother about it but they only saw those emails after the fact because a few years previous we set up their inboxes so all of her emails go to a special crazy folder to be ignored and gather dust that's another story for another time folks sister-in-law also texted occasionally and urged us to name dear daughter after mother-in-law but she shut up when i asked her why she didn't use her name after all she has three daughters the real crazy happened after dear daughter was born shortly after we got home from the hospital brother-in-law one texted dear husband a picture of their hometown's regional paper there next to the obituaries and used car ads is a birth announcement for none other than mother-in-law's first name dear daughter's middle name dear daughter's last name complete with picture taken from my facebook the text also said something like dear daughter is excited to meet her namesake grandma i was too sleep-deprived to care but dear husband saw a wonderful opportunity to make mother-in-law's life difficult so he emailed the paper and long story short too late got them to issue a correction mother-in-law never said anything to us about it at the time but we heard from brother-in-law one that she'd been so embarrassed by the correction that she'd had some sort of screaming fit publicly when asked about it by a cashier at the grocery store brother-in-law one didn't witness it but apparently it was epic loud and involved her getting asked to leave the store and news of it spread around their small town like wildfire since then she now claims it was just a silly joke that everyone took too seriously and that she'd been the biggest fan of dear daughter's name from day one suffice to say when we have baby number two we will not be telling anyone the name so last night my husband was talking to his mom and mentioned the baby because he was so excited about an ultrasound pick i showed him in the pic the baby is clearly flipping the bird he tells her about this and her comment is around the lines of she's gonna be a troublemaker like you already now we don't know the gender yet but she's insisting i'm having a girl it's a squish with limbs but she's dead set on girl whatever so he gets into talking about how when the baby's older he wants it to learn cars because that's what he does and how my gramps raised my mom so it's tradition guys my mother-in-law lost her crap i'm not having my granddaughter be a little butch she will wear pink and bows and dresses none of that greasy mechanic crap she's gonna be girly uh no hell no and that's where i stepped in and said okay first it's my kid and my mom didn't raise me girlie so i'm not forcing that on my kid if it's a girl and second my grandfather raised my mom to know how to take care of her car so she didn't need anyone else to do it that's what dear husband is gonna do for our kid girl or boy also if it's a girl i'm not raising some little pink prissy girly girl like sister-in-law name you've got sister-in-law for that not my kid she apparently wasn't hearing any of this because she goes listen here miss prego my grandbaby before dear husband cut her off here's where you are all gonna love him he says to her ma shut up for a minute is it your kid mother-in-law says no but dear husband no that's right it's not it's our kid now shut up we're gonna raise our kid how we want to not how you want it i love him now i want to share a story that happened before dear husband and i were even engaged and before i knew how truly awful she was mother-in-law invited then-boyfriend and me to ikea and then out to lunch one day our closest location is two hours away mother-in-law lives an hour from us so a three-hour drive for her she picked us up on the way and off we went at ikea everything was fine up until we got to the baby kids section she just couldn't get over how cute the little toddler beds are boyfriend and i joked about getting one for our dogs and got a disapproving stare the rest of the visit was rather uneventful the real fun happened at lunch we went to ruby tuesday and before we had even ordered our food she starts talking about babies she just won't shut up about how she can't wait for grandkids keep in mind my oldest brother-in-law who is significantly older than dear husband has three kids who she's never even met because they've been no contact for like 15 years i kind of brushed it off because we were nowhere close to being ready for kids i don't say anything until she says that she can't wait to see her grandbaby born i calmly ask her what she meant she told me that she was going to be in the delivery room so she could see her first grandbaby be born i then told her that no one except medial staff and the person who put the baby there would be in the delivery room if slash when we have kids she didn't take no for an answer and looked at dear husband like he should stand up for her he didn't i said i don't even want my own mother in there unless you had that baby in me or you are a medical professional you are not welcome in the delivery room she looked at me like i just insulted her entire family she then started crying and excused herself and ran to the restroom later in the meal she brings up baby names i told her we hadn't even discussed it because we weren't anywhere close to being ready she proceeds to tell us that we need to give our children good biblical names my husband and i aren't even a little bit religious and i consider myself agnostic at best i looked her dead in the eyes and said well how does judas lucifer sound she screams you need to stop in the middle of the restaurant i told her that it was biblical and shrugged my shoulders she ran to the bathroom crying again she was quiet the rest of lunch and the whole way home so i found out last week i was pregnant missed period waited a week to take a test ended up taking two both were positive symptoms begin to set in and i can't hide this at all i decided to tell everyone and get it out of the way dear husband is in agreement we will tell his family and my family my sister-in-law reacts with oh yeah mom told us we knew three months ago brother-in-law is oblivious is happy about the news and cracks a pretty good joke on to mother-in-law oh i already knew you've looked it she then accuses us of hiding the pregnancy for three months maybe more since we've lied to her this whole time says we needed to tell her first because she's the preferred grandmother no my kid will run to my mom any day anytime she goes on to complain about where are my ultrasounds why haven't i gotten anything you are all lying so you can build your own secret little family without me i'm priority blah blah blah oh and that i wasn't allowed to tell anyone else hahaha too late witch i look at her and point blank tell her i had my period last month i'm less than a month in and that we'd only found out last week she had such a huge look of sour disapproval thought her tea had gone sour dear husband has a shiny resplendent spine and told her she was more than welcome to be excluded as he could care less of what she thinks i didn't think her disproval could be topped but it was i thought her mouth was going to get stuck in that expression she angrily got up and walked away slamming a door and stomping around like a child sister-in-law instantly apologizes and brother-in-law is silently sipping his tea staying out of this i'm happy i'm pregnant that witch of a mother-in-law is stewing in her own hate and misery i wasn't supposed to be the mother of my first child she had another more suitable woman picked out for dear husband to marry and now she has to deal with me mothering my second child try to call me a mistake now you nasty roach of a woman [Music] you

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Published: Wed Aug 12 2020