How To Make A Man Fall In Love? | Tony Gaskins

hey Tony Gaskins here how to make a man fall in love now understand this this is not one of those clickbait videos this is not some sorcery or some magic it's not one of them games that a woman who doesn't understand really men will try to tell you and this is not about women love bees the curse word bees is not all of that I need you to understand this and this is really a fall a follow up to my video which you can go back and watch it call when do men fall in love to be honest with you a man falling in love has less to do with what you do for him and what you do to him then it does with who you are yourself now that now that just that just blew your weight that just because you thought this was going somewhere else you thought that I was gonna tell you to make a man fall in love you got a suck and dump and cook and jump and hop and all of this be the best cook be the best cleaner be the best in the bedroom that's what you thought this was gone but you're wrong and to be honest with you that is the honest truth that those things have nothing to do with anything listen to what I'm telling you oh I might be the only one in the world hasn't ever said this I don't know cuz I don't watch other relationship teachers but this right here is the key to the world so share this with every woman you know you the number one way to make a man fall in love is you being your absolute best self so what I mean by that is you loving you and what does this look like a man falls in love with the woman who holds him accountable Point Blank period write that down hold him accountable see women think so many women think that if a man mistreats you and you suck it up and you ride it out and you are right or die chick and you deal with it and you're tough and you can deal with being cursed out and you can deal with being cheated on and you can deal with him having an outside baby that that makes him love you no that actually makes him despise you because if you are a weak woman in response to his ignorant behavior then you don't make him better you make him worse and then in his ignorant mind because he is ignorant when he's acting immature it is from ignorance and immaturity in his mind you actually hate him you actually despise him you actually are so weak and so broken yourself that he can't be attracted to you he actually feels bad for you but he doesn't feel bad enough for you to change his behavior what sense does that make don't make any sense but that is the nature of a man understand we're not living in a perfect world and we're not talking about perfect man we're talking about the men that you're dealing with so what happens here is by you putting up with all of the crap it makes him disrespect you more it makes him look down on you more and people always talk about the ride-or-die chick and all of that no that is not the way to go the way for a man the truly fall in love is for you to hold him accountable for you to call him on his stuff for you to check him with a quiet strength with a quiet confidence what I mean by that is you're not emasculating him you're not calling him stupid and dumb you're not even a man and your Europe boy and you're a child and I hate the ground that you walk on and I curse the day that you were born that's not a that's not holding him accountable holding him accountable is calling him out and checking him and saying listen if you ever want to see me again don't you ever in your life curse at me ever and if you want to see me gone for good curse at me again right now that's holding him accountable when he stays out all night listen I don't know what you were doing I don't know where you were but that is the first and the last time that that's going to happen try me and see he might wait 10 years they tried you again but when he tried you again you pack up everything just like it's been 10 days and you move on see a man falls in love with the woman who makes him better listen to me before you get him high I ain't kind to make a man better I'm not gonna be making a man better yeah Tony come on make a man better you always want to raise a man that's not what I'm talking about what I mean this does not mean to raise a man what this means is that you love yourself you have self-respect yourself so now this man looks at you and he realizes this woman loves herself so what I'm learning as a man is that I got a love me and I can't truly love her if I don't love me this woman has been raped this woman has been molested or this woman has been abused this woman has been abandoned this woman has been disrespected this woman has had a broken heart this woman has gone through hardship she's lost loved ones whatever it is everybody has a story but he'll look at your story even if it's not that deep or not that you know drastic or dramatic he'll look at your story and see everything that you through everything that you've come through and he'll say she's come through all of this in her life and she's still mature she's still classy she's still strong she's not insecure she's not weak she's not a floor mat so if she can live through that and come out better on the other side then what am i doing as a man why am i slacking as a man why am i growing boy why am i less than a man why am i treating her like this so now he starts to realize this woman holds me accountable and she makes me better it's no different than having a teacher who makes you better in the classroom a coach who makes you better in the sport it is the same thing we fall in love with the people who call us to our higher self who push us to the next level who hold us accountable so understand that hold him accountable number two now mind I want y'all to understand I don't have a list this is not written down that's all coming off my spirit off the top of my dome so this is not in order so you could write it down in the comments as you do it and that's the gods having truth that's how I shoot all my videos one take and the spirit flowing through me but I want you to understand that cuz I only know where I'm going with it but number two if number one was holding accountable number two would be to listen to him see men don't have a voice in the world yes we may be the president yes we may be CEOs but men traditionally and societally are not allowed to show emotions to show vulnerability to show weakness you don't see a man in his car crying at the red light I've seen so many women at the red light crying I've never seen a man at the red light crying that is because of the conditioning of societies where men have to be tough you gotta suck it up you can't show weakness you can't show vulnerability you can't show fear and so when a woman has a no-judgment zone and a woman can ask man you know so okay I see you working on that new project you know what could go right what could go wrong you know what's your biggest fear about it you know are you nervous at all like how do you really feel about it no no really like in a real way like be honest with me and you can create that no judgment zone and you open up and he says well actually you know what I'll be honest with you and I've never said this to anybody and I probably never will say this to anybody but I'm scared to tell I'm scared I'm gonna be judged I'm scared I'm a fail I'm scared be talk talked about and then so in going hand in hand when you listen the next thing is speak life when you hold him accountable and then you listen and then you speak life so when you hear his fears when you hear his dreams when you hear his worries his concerns when you hear all of that and then you turn around and you life-coach him you speak life into him in the same time you are supporting him and and understand me now you're not supporting a man who's not supporting himself you're not supporting a man who's not busting his butt and doing everything in his power to be a better man you're not supporting a couch potato you're not supporting all excuse making man do yo the goal here so y'all could get up and get it and that's gonna stop on you look on me listen to me the goal here is not to support and to make a no good man fall in love with you the goal here is to attract the good man who's good already in his life and in his heart and he wants to be better and you become an accountability partner and you hold him accountable you're not raising him you're not training him but you holding him accountable and then you are listening to him and then you are speaking life into him and then you are supporting him I understand I can speak to this perfectly because my wife did it perfectly she's never yelled at me going on 13 years of marriage he's never yelled at me this is honest god truth I've given her reason to yell people say oh that's cuz you a good man no I was a terrible man in my first two years but she held me accountable she checked me on the first behavior and she let me know you do this again and I'm done she held me accountable the next thing is she listened to me I can speak my dreams I can speak my fears I can speak my worries I can speak my insecurities she does it oh you are such a pump you are so soft you are so oh my goodness oh my god will you grow a pair she doesn't emasculate me and attack me if I share something that I'm fearful that I'm worried about she listens to me and then she speaks life she speaks life she said listen don't worry about that you got it like stop judging yourself like that understand this understand that and she speaks life into me and then lastly she supports me so I come over for things yeah you keep going on a whole bunch of stuff she supports me meaning that I'm right now working for you and she's sick right now she's in the bed trying to get some rest and she's trying to rest and she is not crying and complaining and saying look you just laying here in the bed and roll up my back all day she said no I got my medicine we could you you know do what you got to do you know and I rub her back and we was taking a nap together but she supports me I got a fly out tomorrow to go work with a sports team because I'm a team life coach for professional teams and collegiate teams basketball teams and so I'm helping these young men develop she's not feeling the best we got two boys but she said look that's your purpose you know that's your purpose that's your career that's your job go ahead I'll be good she supports me she doesn't give me a sob story she I do everything I could do for her but she doesn't just say look I'm a damsel in distress you know baby you cater to me she said I appreciate all the meds I appreciate you massaging my temples I appreciate you rubbing my back but look you got work to do get to work I'm not dying I'm not gonna die I just I just a chest cold you know and so she supports me so I'm be gone for Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday five days I'll be going five days and she supports me she's not saying oh why you gotta leave again oh you gotta leave again oh you leave me lonely oh I'm lonely she said no live your purpose so understand that support means a whole lot now what I want you to understand which I can't remember everything I said maybe you can when I said hold on hold hold him accountable listen listen the average woman speaks 25,000 words a day the average man speaks 10,000 words a day your power will be in listening because no one else is listening to him ask him questions that prompt him and let him talk and when you do that he's gonna let you talk to listen this speak life speak life into him and then number four would be what I said support him support him and I can't think of a fifth right now but what I want you to understand about this fifth and the no fifth that I can't think of right now because I'm pulling from personal experience is that these things I gave you none of this it literally has nothing to do with what you do in the bedroom nothing you could be terrible it has nothing to do with how many meals you cook how many clothes you wash how many things the laundry you do how many hair scratches and back rubs it has nothing to do with the things that women think most women think make a man fall in love it has nothing to do with being a doormat a floor man a ride-or-die chick it has nothing to do with those things so all of that well you got a rub is hair got a stroke his ego you know you need to serve him you need to cook everyday or at least five days a week you need to do laundry keep the house and span he should be coming home to a vacation it should feel so clean and pristine you are the CEO of home and he's going out and he's making the money it has nothing to do with serving a man like he is a king it has everything to do with self love self love and when you love self now you can give true love and support and that is what will make a man fall in love because he sees that you love you and that you love him and that washes him it cleanses him and then what he's going to do he's gonna take note of that and he won't be able to hurt you because you hold him accountable so he can't hurt you because anything he do you anything he does you on his neck so he knows I can't get away with anything so I might as well bring my best to this woman I understand where I'm coming from here I hope that helps you I hope it makes sense this Tony Gaskins that you made it this far type be blessed in the comments we'll talk so

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Length: 16min 50sec (1010 seconds)

Published: Thu Nov 21 2019