How To Guard Your Heart?

hey hey Tony Gaskins here what the popin you know I've been getting a lot of questions about guarding your heart and it always just trips me out when somebody says hey Tony can you talk to us about you know protecting yourself guarding your heart other than not sleeping with somebody before marriage not kissing before marriage not doing this and I'm like what else is there you know I saw y'all really be throwing me for a loop on that but maybe I can try to help you understand it a little more but understand this your if you just commit if you just commit to not sleeping with somebody before marriage you've done a hundred percent of the work really 90 percent of the work because just what you got to understand you may think about a person all day you may fall in love with a person you may absolutely love this person but if you have not given your body to that person then you don't have a physical or spiritual soul tie with that person meaning your name still good in the books meaning you haven't been added to their list that person cannot say I slept with such-and-such they can't claim you on their list of bodies and your name is still good the other thing is by not lying down with a person you also had no chance of contracting any STDs so now the hill and everything else that's being given out you don't have it because you didn't lie down with that person the other benefit of not lying down with this person is you get to see their true colors so if you a man and you saving yourself it's gonna be some women who's going to say well you must like me if you won't sleep with me you must like me now you get to see her stupidity ignorance you get to leave if you're a woman and you saving yourself and the man say well I'm not gonna be waiting around for you to figure out if you want to do something you know when you acting childish and all of that and he keep you know talking down to you because of the decision you made you get to leave you get to see a person's true colors the other thing is you don't have to be what they call deoxy kaiba tossed okay I'm gonna say the word but guys that's the word we used to use you know like hypnotized you don't have to be that and then on the flip side the man could be hypnotized by that though what that woman put on and that hinders your thinking ability because now you got to remember when you lie down with somebody and you have that release you are releasing those feel-good chemicals from your brain so you could have just got done arguing and it could have been a terrible argument it could have just made you feel so much anxiety and just you just was over it and then later that night you own your bite so now later that night you own your bag you have your release and it wipe away that argument it wipe away the lessons that you just learn and everything you just told yourself from that argument it's wiped out because it's like this see when you lie down with somebody it's kind of like having a migraine and then popping you to excedrin see that that relationship giving you headaches but when you get on your bike now you get that release it heals that headache so that's why a lot of times people will be stuck in a toxic relationship just because of what they got going on in the bedroom and I remember you know I so many times that I've heard people say well you know he cheated on me but what should I do and then my thing is look if you're gonna work on this you're gonna have to cut out that intercourse you're gonna have to cut that out and you have to build like friends and then the woman is like well that's where our chemistry is that's how we connect in the bedroom and I say that's your problem that's your problem that that is your only real connection is in the bedroom but you don't have a real connection in your heart in your mind in your spirit because you jumped in the bed and y'all wanted to do so much in the bed and flipping and twisting and turning and tossing that you really don't have a real relationship so I understand this and then I and I hate that that's how y'all want that you know y'all want to hear so much more but the number one way to guard your heart is to stay off your bank keep your pants zipped up keep your legs closed men and women men and women that right they're gonna save you so much heartache and pain gonna save you so much drama cuz listen now when y'all go to get on your bike just in just one perfect 24 hour scenario and boom now you reproduce him now you getting ready to bring some in the world so think about this and so now this person and that's the same side it's the flip side of it now here you got someone that you're not even meant to be with y'all fussing fighting arguing like cats and dogs but then when you get on your bank you end up pregnant now that you pregnant now you got to deal with this headache now you're gonna have this migraine for the rest of your life and then now on top of that y'all gonna break up and so you're not even sleeping together no more so guess what now you ain't got to exaggerate no more so now you got a permanent migraine with no eccentric and then think about when you got a migraine when you got a headache who do you feel like talking to where do you feel like going what do you feel like doing that's the same thing what's happening in these relationships when you get on your bank you get on your bike with somebody you're not supposed to be with okay they become your excedrin too that migraine but the relationships so terrible eventually y'all end up reproducing so now you're gonna bring a child in the world some of y'all two or three or four and then now them children take your attention so the relationship really is exposed for just how weak it is so now your child father becomes a baby daddy or your child's mother becomes a baby mama and so now y'all trying to co-parent but both of you dislike each other the relationship was toxic and so but because you've reproduced now you've got this migraine but guess what you don't even have the wherewithal to build another relationship with somebody else like somebody else doesn't even really have the opportunity to be your excedrin because your head hurting so bad from this here situation that you can't even to give all of you to another relationship so what you end up doing is being one foot in one foot out with everything else you try to build and you end up sabotaging the next relationship all because you didn't guard your heart now understand this the other the the other big part of this with guarding your heart is you can only you have to give a person only what they earn and that's where the mistake happens out a lot of times is you cannot give somebody something they haven't earned and allow them to take up rent-free space in your mind so what I mean by this is what we do often times is when we with somebody and y'all talk for an hour let's say you talk from 9:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. well when you get off the phone you land there from 10:00 p.m. to noon to midnight still thinking about you're still thinking about that person you picturing y'all in the Bahamas you picturing y'all wedding you you own a page you're watching all these stories you're scrolling back through all the pictures you screenshot in the pictures of them smiling sending it to your friend ain't this such a beautiful picture ain't just said doughnuts don't his smile just look amazing right here talking to your mama biting you calling your mama talking to him he is just so amazing just oh my god let me tell you what he said to me and then you repeating what he said you writing bottom in your journal you praying to the Lord you putting words and God mouth Lord I know that you have sent my husband thank you for delivering my husband in a season in a time such as this and the Lord sitting there looking at you like that [Music] ain't having to do with that the Lord looking at you like you're on your own with that system and that's what you're doing you fantasize and see that right there is also a difference between men and women because and that's why I wouldn't say well man why we get the brunt of it why we get the worst of the situation and it's because most of the time when a man get off the phone with a woman he write back to his business he playing his video game he he talking to his homeboy he playing pool he he working on his car he woke he with his other woman talking to her now now he to the next woman but then what you sitting here doing is you ain't got nothing to do when you get off the phone so when you get off the phone and still the right getting right in your book instead of developing your company the further developing your business plan instead of logging into Tony Gaskins academy.com and taking your life coach certification finishing the videos reading the whole text book going through the workbook you sitting there looking at the ceiling daydreaming so guess what you understand this the person gave you one hour of conversation then you gave them two more hours Afeni cessation so now you didn't gave them three hours for the price of one and that right there is how you are not guarding your heart and that's why you end up falling so deeply in love and falling so fast because you're not busy enough because you like a deer in headlights waiting on somebody to come rescue you for love so when you finally meet somebody on your regularly online dating or you meet somebody in real life notice I say real life online dating is not real life or you meet somebody in real life guess what you so excited and so happy to meet somebody instead of just taking it slow just taking a deep breath and you remember the saying take it with a grain of salt that's how you gotta do you gotta take every conversation with a grain of salt you can let stuff register and this is named and all the time when I'm coaching you know women they take everything a man says as gospel well he said this well he said he doesn't talk to other women what he said he's never cheated what he said I'm the first woman he's loved what he said I said listen it ain't nothing coming out of man mouth a man that you date that's the truth and you can't take nothing as the truth until you bump into the evidence until you bump into the evidence everything he said is a lot now you don't let him know that you don't treat him like he lying you treat him like he the most wonderful man in the world you treating like he the most innocent and interesting man in the world but guess what ain't nothing he said is the truth until you bump it to the evidence okay Trust is earned respect this earn in the court of law everything has to be proven beyond a reasonable doubt because guess what women life man life numbers no but guess what if women lying then men definitely gonna be lying just because of the difference between the genders so understand this another way to guard your heart is to take everything with a grain of salt you got to see it hear it feel it smell it and then it's real and then it's real and even sometimes then it still could be a decoy you know a decepticon and so you got to take your time now listen in order to really be able protect yourself in a relationship outside of not getting on your back or unzipping your pants fellows then outside of that you have to be busy you got to be busy and this is the thing are you waiting on a relationship or are you building an empire sea is something that you could do like that the job you own that somebody else Empire that's somebody else doing somebody else Empire okay I don't care if you adopted do you know you could be a doctor making a hundred two hundred thousand dollars a year but the person that's running the hospital making two million a year and touching a soul and it now surgery and diagnosed nobody so guess what that's somebody else that's somebody else Empire no matter what you're doing if you want somebody else job getting a check from somebody else what are you creating for yourself what are you creating that you can't be fired from what about your other passions your other gifts your other dreams see that's how you're able to pace yourself in a relationship when you got something going on see when I met my wife she's a biomedical science major that took up a large part of her brain she studied like 16 hours a day and at the minimum at the least eight hours a day like I'll be just sitting now I'm in the room just sitting down looking at TV because I'm a criminology major so my work ain't hard and I'm sitting there looking at TV why she over here need science books that's this thing and that kept on occupied so she have but so much energy to give me she have but so much time to give me because she had to work and when she used to study she'll study all night she will study all night long literally she would stay up all night and study and then go take the test morning 8 o'clock then come home and sleep so what might I meant she was busy so guess what it allowed her to pace herself but see a lot of y'all you'll be holding your child and me to meet a man you thank for you Oh ain t not proper child you drop your whole child literally you'll drop your child I haven't seen so many men and women neglect their children for a relationship you live in your children at the dope house it's all kind of riffraff running through that to your auntie house you'll run my house because you want to go on a date your children going through all kind of ungodliness while you wanna date because you won't love so bad leaving your children at home by yourself to fend for itself they eat mayonnaise sandwiches you know with sugar water to drink because you are on a date and see that's the thing you have to be able to focus on you see that's the thing when you heard my wife saying I'll make sure you get this hip looking you got a woman's influence you're not living right okay that's one thing I know cuz you ain't feeding your mind so make sure you get this a book one thing my wife used to say she said a man is an accessory not a necessity not that they hurt me that they hurt me to my core but it helped me realize that she got her own world and that I'm not her world I just have to fit in her world and nice that's a special place to be because for me I feel honored to be in her world but not her world not every single little thing you see and that's the problem when you're not guarding your heart is this this how you know if you guarding your heart or not are you neglecting the things you need to do for this relation so a prime example if you gotta be the work eight a young not a young you need to be the bed you need to be the bed by 11:00 midnight at the latest if you own the phone till 1:00 a.m. 2:00 a.m. with your little boo thing you are neglecting your priorities you're neglecting your responsibilities if you have children and you leaving your children with somebody that you know ain't all that bet the best at watching kids or it could be situations going on over there and but you're willing to lead them there or you leaving them at home then you're not guarding your heart if you meet somebody and within three months you letting them move in or you moving in with them you're not going on your heart you desperate for love you desperate for a relationship see ya listen to what I'm telling you if you are not making this person the person that you meet if you don't make them fit into your schedule let them get in where they fit in without you neglecting your responsibilities or your priorities then you're not guarding your heart because that's what you got to understand when you meet somebody as bad as you want to be married as bad as you want a relationship that person you meet is not a priority your priority is your education if you're still in school getting your master's or finishing your bachelor's or getting your certification or even your life coach certification your priority is your education if you have children your number one priority is your children you have other priorities outside this person so you you you have your faith so you need to be skipping your reading time or your Bible going to church or whatever you do for this person stand up late the well oh I'm just miss church today I was on the phone too lately no don't put God on the back burner you've been God to send you a husband and then not you know stake it booty man and come and now you wanna put God on the backburner now you skipping the sermon because you was up on the phone too late mm-hmm you doing all wrong that's a priority your faith your family is a priority if you talk to your family by all day 30 minutes a day keep that same energy keep talking to your mama every day don't cut your mom off for this new person jet didn't stumble into your life and ain't improving themselves now when y'all get married you may have to miss some days talking to your mom all cut it from an hour to 30 or from 30 to 15 minutes but when you meet somebody they got to earn your Lord they got to prove themselves they got to show themselves approve and you got priority so your faith your family your finances so don't go broke a lot of y'all watch out a lot of women and a lot of men go broke when they meet somebody because you're trying to eat out you trying to eat out all the time you're trying to go on all these expensive dates all this you know that Dave and Buster's their bowling alley that skating ring all that add up you going broke trying to eat for let me none and lobster all the time no you got to have your finances in order don't be missing work unexcused absent unexcused tardy to work cuz you was on the phone too late your finance need to be on order your Fitness need to be in order so what that mean is you still working out the same don't skip your workout because you won't fall too late and now you tired your friends you need to keep the same energy with your friends your friends need to stay in the same place if you talk to your friend everyday at 3 p.m. keep talking to your friend everyday at 3 p.m. and that the person that come into your life realized there's my friend okay there's my friend okay this more Fitness okay there's more finance I paid myself get go to work this month there's more faith see I just went through five else right there all that need to stay in place all that has to be in order and this person what happens is when somebody comes in your life they're gonna respect you more because now they see you have a schedule now they see you got a day planner you see this hill you see this guy can't open it because it's top not secret but you see this he'll just look just a day planner see just here got um what I'm gonna do you know it got no past got footnotes but then it got a counter gotta count it in the back way I could write stuff down got my pen right there on the side of it my wife bought this funny this is a planner you need to get you a day planner because why when you meet somebody and they see you got a schedule they like oh okay that tells them without you having to say it that says to them I gotta get in where I fit in and this right here the first sign and just what a man gonna do just what a man is gonna do and women do this too but that's what the new person that come in your life what they're gonna do is they're gonna be on the phone with you they're gonna be on the phone with you and in according to your day planner you got some coming up you post-workout at 5 p.m. you get off at 4:00 you go work out at 5 so you on the phone as soon as you walk out the job they blowing your phone up not you on the phone yeah what you got going on and you like well you know I'm just going to work out like you know I go to the gym I go to the gym every day at 5:00 it's like and I want to pop up and see you I want to just grab a little quick appetizer that Dale Frisco's and you know they just had these amazing scalps and because I got to get the bed early tonight so I ain't gonna be able to talk to you our normal 9:00 p.m. to 10:00 so I won't just pop up on you and then here you go well well okay all right well I can't I canceled my workout I guess I could miss a day and maybe I could work out a little later or I do 100 squats at the house and then the man over there yes see when you start a moving stuff around when when you start to put your friend on the back burner you put your mom on the back burner you put your sleep on the back burner you put your workout on the back burner that's when he knows that you weak that's what he knows that you secretly desperate for love because you moving everything around for him now he knows he got power or hurt not she no she got power and see that's what people try to do they get control to get some power in your life and that's why when you meet somebody you gotta make them fit in get in where they fit in and don't move stuff around so 89 think about this now and really take some time right here and start to think about how you lose yourself when you meet somebody and how much time you give like I tell you all the time give an hour hour a day y'all should be talking if if y'all serious y'all need to be talking an hour a day a job requires you at the job eight hours a day if you serious if you serious that job full time is considered 36 hours a week out of 40 36 hours a week to be considered full-time 32 hours you part-time get four hours different you part-time 36 hours is full-time so guess what everyone trying to tell you your life ain't on the line with that job and they want 36 they want 36 you don't get a tangible return from a relationship like you don't get paid for being a relationship but your life on the line see this is this what you understand so people I hope how I'm gonna talk an hour a day that's too much time I bet I got a free hour to myself then you don't need to be dating you don't need to be date listen what I'm telling you you should not if you can't give an hour a day to somebody that could slice across your neck to somebody that can get you to age there's somebody that can cut your life short there's somebody that could soul tie you up and how you sprung out you hear me walking around like a basal on the streetcar if you can't dedicate an hour a day to building a relationship you'll need to be days it's too early for you to be dating you too busy you're too busy you got too much going on for you to be date so just stay to your lonesome and just keep you know dating your weights and and your jaw and let the relationship wait until you tell you see where you got an hour a day even if it's in 15-minute increments that you could talk to this person to get to know they spirit to see where they had and if the person you dealing with can't get you an hour a day they ain't ready to be dating they got too much going on you got it going about your business can see when you're building love an hour like this Hill now how we're gonna feel like 10 minutes when you build in love when you invest in in the right person they're gonna go just like that you before you know what you're going for two three four hours when you did them with the right person nah but see this this word consistency and this word a time really matters because the fake person the wrong person could give you an hour a day to and so what you have to do with that is you got to look at the stuff around it you got to look at the stuff around it okay and just what people said oh oh well I that is not true because I have talked to a man for hours a day and he turned out to be the absolute worst man I've ever met in my life so that out of date that is not true listen to me that's cuz you ain't pay attention to the other stuff around it you didn't pay attention his character you pay attention how much he smoked how much he drank how much again about how much he club how much he lied you ain't how he treat other people how he treat the waiter at a restaurant does he have a car does he have a job does he have a place to stay does he have a baby mama you'ii pay attention to the other stuff how fast he was trying to get you in your bank how hard did he try did you get on your back so that Nene was blinded see when you get on your back is like putting blinders over your eyes you can see straight no more the knock your spine out of place in it messed up your vision now you can't even see straight so you didn't pay attention to the other stuff around it that's how you got bamboozled that's how Plymouth Rock landed on you you see what I mean but when you clear-headed and you got your guard up you guarding your heart you listening you paying attention you not just you don't have just one stipulation see that's the thing what you got to understand caveated nuances the t-shirt under the video make sure you get you one so you got to understand the caveats and nuances and ain't you just can't take one thing and just say oh I'm just gonna stay off my bait now that's coming that's gonna take care a lot of it but if you stand off your bag for somebody that's controlling for somebody that's jealous for somebody that's a liar then you did all that for naught you hit me you did all that for what it's null and void so you just can't take one piece you got to look at it holistically you got to look at every area okay let me stay off my back let me get this our conversation in a day if I claimed to be ready to date if they don't have an hour a day then deuces let me get going okay and we got this our not let me judge this character see you got to be a judge of character so and listen you know it don't take all that discernment it don't take a whole lot of discernment because it's gonna be cut and dry how much do they drink did it drink socially or do they get drunk they get drunk red flag got to go do they get high on anything do they get high on anything with this prescription or non-prescription over-the-counter or under the counter do they get high they get high got to go how much do they curse is it just a little bit just a little sprinkle here now are they curse like an absolute slap fool like curse like a sailor okay cuz like a sailor you make a talk to him about it say you curse a whole lot do you have to curse that much like why do you curse so much they make it give that up they may get it up they may give up the drink and make it give up the smoking note again high whatever that may be they maybe could give it up for you so you can address it instead of just taking off you can address it to see if they just going through a little phase or to see if they doing it trying to look cool because they think that that's what looked cool and they think that you don't think that's cool so you can address it and let them know that's not cool that's not cool going somewhere with that and so then continue to look what do they do at their time see what you're looking for when you're evaluating you're looking for vices you're looking for things that will fix the spirit you're looking for vices so so what is vice the nasty movies watching nasty movies okay burner and so that's what you're looking for you looking for other vices gambling that's a vice now if they go get them a ticket for the Mega Ball you know R Omega Millions okay they got them a ticket that that's not a vice now they're going up there spending ten twenty dollars every day and ain't got that kind of money that's a vice you see what I mean even the small thing is like how much reality television do they watch how many books do they read now if they watch a lot of reality television but they work in that industry or they produce shows or something okay that's different but if they watched a lot of reality TV let's say they watch two hours reality TV well are they reading two hours or listening to some education or uplifting or enlightening for two hours like is it equal it's like this they jump time did stay healthy time you got to evaluate those things see this is how you guarding your heart cuz see a lot of times we go in and we do one thing or the other and remember what I told you just because it's normal doesn't mean it's right what I mean just because it's normal doesn't mean it's right so just because everybody seemed to be smoking weed that don't mean it's right just because everybody seemed to get drunk on the weekend that don't mean it's right just because everybody seemed to be watching three hours a reality television every night that don't mean it's right just because everybody seems to curse that don't mean it's right so understand that we live in a wicked world we live in a lost society so the mistake that people make is you drop your guard and you open your heart to someone who lacks character and integrity and you say what's on I stayed off my bag Tony you know I kept my pants zipped up yeah but you still was with a heathen you still was with somebody that when you get on your bike going content don't dog you out when you get married gonna dog you out because you ignore all of their addictions all of their vices everything that was working against them you ignore it all of that so that's why that's gonna come back to hurt you so listen pay attention to the signs stay off your bike okay keep your priorities in tact do you do you have your day planner stick to your day planner let new person get in where they fit in okay don't disrupt your life don't up end your life don't neglect your responsibilities if that's children if that's a job if that's education if that's your goals if that's your friends your family everything needs to be a natural progression when you get engaged you're gonna spend a little more time when you get married now your husband or wife is first so you might not be able to talk to your best friend as much or all the time if y'all got something to do y'all going on an excursion you know you're gonna be gone you might not have time to be on the phone we me and my my family we was in Europe for six weeks before the nineteen broke our last summer and we went on the phone with nobody like we have a lot of time to talk to friends and family cuz we were living we were too busy livin you're gonna have those times when you get married but up until then you need to keep stuff in order and and don't be dropping everything and neglecting everybody and that's a huge mistake that people make is you go live on an island here you are was living in this populated life friends family coworkers or so she is kids whatever it was then you meet somebody go to sniffing a booty and the next thing you know you and that person y'all on an island by yourself guess what you're on an island surrounded by water you try to run away you're gonna drown or you're gonna get ate by you screaming for help can't nobody hear you cuz you know went to an island by yourself that's the mistake that y'all making in these relationships you put everything into it you giving it way too much you know they say the person who cares the least has the most power the reason why they say that because when you're not afraid to let somebody go when you're not afraid to lose somebody you have more control eNOS in that space control over yourself but when you desperate and you've all lead cuz your frustration in your desperation you weakened and the person that don't really care as much which is typically the man that's why he has so much power and that's why women always asking why does it seem like women suffer from soul ties worse than men did he care less than you he didn't he didn't neglect his video game for you he didn't elect his homeboy for you he stopped talking to his friends and family that he wanted to talk to for you he ain't neglect his kid for you so he care less than you you know he moves slowly he kept his guards up he guarded his heart you just went in there and here you go and don't even know him from a can of paint don't know him from the man on the moon and you just give them everything so guess what that's why that's old times training you that's why it's so hard to get over that's why you're struggling because of that very reason that you didn't keep things in order hey listen to me now if you got this far you really doing the work you getting the knowledge but now what you got to do is write it out write it down in your journal so that you can apply it make it make sense to you create your day schedule and when and if you complete them 100% single you ain't talking to nobody guess what when you create your day planner when you create your day schedule and you get on your grind and you giving your life some momentum you got some direction in your life that's when you're gonna track the person for you mm-hmm listen to me that's when you're gonna track the person for you but as long as you're just sitting there twiddling your thumb you're gonna be single as a dollar bill you're gonna be single as a dollar bill but when you get on your grind and you get to going you get invigorated because you excited about the things that you don't Oh got my like Oh certification oh joy my mentor dot like oh I'm going to the self-love retreat in August 14 to 16 after the 1900 you feeling good so now guess what you're walking with that pop in your step you know how people pop up on they toe the ball of that foot see right now you walk you're flat-footed you slide like your skin you look like your skin and only buddy want to approach that but when you get that when you when you get that day planner and you're investing in yourself and you got stuff going you got that bopping your stuff okay nice on with some pop in and nine you're hitting the top of that toe now you're looking good on my luck and they chasing that confidence that's what you got to do when you're 100% singing you got to create your routine you got to get your life in order you got to get yourself something to do and when you've got this all working together like a well-oiled machine then boom here come love and now you know how to deal with love okay pump the brakes and salivate not the mouth ain't going crazy I ain't dropping everything I had going on listen okay boom let me look at my calendar okay I see I have 9:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. open okay you can fit right there unfortunately 9 p.m. 10 p.m. on Sunday is booked with the Blessed tribe live on YouTube so I will have to talk to you at 8 p.m. that night okay all right let me see and so now you able to see what a fit in and guess what anybody who come into a situation especially a man if we come into a woman life and she got that thing and she cuz when she did that's not a tractor there's not a tractor but when she got that like yeah okay okay let me see we could talk right here I remember I had a client and she need to set up a call for something like the do song I'm working on hook online course anytime she book she books on with me it was two weeks I I'm like why in the world did woman so busy what the world if want got going on who in the world got the book two weeks I but I respected it I respected it I admired it I'm like you know what so guess what the same happens in the dating world same thing in the business world when you're in the business world and somebody try to set something up and you got to get booked two weeks out you like being going good Oh buddy buddy flight it with business it makes you want to do more big you you want to do business with them not because you see how well business going when you go to somebody like oh well yeah I can get it done tonight um I could be over there at 9 p.m. tonight you like a hold on hold on well actually I'm still comparing rates because you like oh you then available so you ain't getting no business oh yeah I could be there tomorrow whoa hold on hold on and that's how y'all are in relationships so oh yeah I'm thinking about checking on a date like what do you think about us going on a date you know when it's time you available um well actually I'm free tonight oh he trying to hang you up follows therefore heels yeah a question purse awesome Gatorade you know yeah so that's what you gotta realize and you got to think about this thing pick your tongue up pick your tongue up okay put your tongue in your mouth pump your brakes pop your brains get yourself together get your day planner create your days down to the hour down to the quarter hour if you need to down to the half hour if you need to have--you a plant and now lead your life and then you let a relationship fit in where it could get in now don't just be extra with it and just create nonsense stuff oh well I was planning to braid the hair of my Indian rug from 8:30 to 9:00 so don't create stuff that just trying to look busy tell you the essentials in there and then give some time to that relationship it is Tony gasps and God bless you I appreciate it I need a whole hour today thank the Lord and we'll talk soon

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Published: Mon Apr 13 2020