Give me your wedding ring because my daughter’s boyfriend can’t afford one

give me your wedding ring because my daughter's boyfriend can't afford one right now hey guys so I always thought that the entitled parent thing only really happened with young kids no that's not the case wife and I just went to the Rodale to see a concert and eat some food that we would inevitably regret later cardi B not a fan but the wife is anyway you have to take a bus to the actual rodeo because of the various parking places epping titled parent W wife me the sarcastic a we are standing on the bus waiting for the stop to get off and app keeps staring at my wife's hand my wife is way too nice and started a conversation I won't go into a dialogue chat because to be honest I don't remember it word for word however it went along something like this wife and app started talking wife initiated it because she felt uncomfortable with the starring from the lady and eventually it got to the topic of my wife's wedding ring we just got married in May yep told my wife that she loves her ring and then asks to see it my wife looks at me for help and I being firmer in nature say I'm sorry but that's not appropriate we don't know you basically the stuff anyone would say when a random person asks to see your wedding ring keep in my mind my wife still has it on her finger when at facetimes her daughter she basically zooms in on my wife's hand and asks if she likes the set the daughter says yeah it's cute and them on basically does her okay thanks bye and hangs up the phone this I do remember word-for-word because I'm pretty sure my eyebrows hit the ceiling give me your wedding ring because my daughter's boyfriend wants to propose but can't afford one I looked at her and I swear are laughed for a solid ten seconds before I realized she was serious my wife was looking at me like who is this B and I was just overall surprised by the woman I kid you not this woman reached over and grabbed my wife's hand my wife made a fist so that she couldn't get the ring and I pushed the woman's hand off of my wife and told her that was enough she started to scream and people were staring but my wife told the people what was going on and they turned around no one thought to help anyway the woman persisted to try and get the ring some more and she looked at us and said you can obviously afford it I'm trying to make my babies dream come true or some SH like that I finally told her if she puts her hand on my wife again she's going to catch an attempted robbery charge as well as in a charge she moved through the bus but not before I screamed that she is trying to steal things from people so they should watch out she made the bus driver stopped somewhere andum so she could get off that was the weirdest thing that's ever happened to me in this story I'm going to leave out some details and things that were said mainly because most of it gets off track from the point I want to say and are just too rude and childish for me to explain and mention this happened a few days ago last week it was the first warm sunny day we had in a while so my friends decided to go to the park and hang out it was Saturday and most of us didn't have work that day we bring some food a football having a good time there are also some families people walking on the trails kids at the swings and jungle gym etc just a nice day we are at picnic table eating having dessert when a friend suddenly stands up and says he has something to announce he then turns to his girlfriend that he has been dating since grade 10 and proposes with a ring surrounded by friends in beautiful scenery lovely time and place his girlfriend gets all teary-eyed and says yes hooray we cheer and congratulate us he puts the ring on her finger a little while later is when entitled mother and daughter walk up to us entitled daughter must had been about 10 or so years older than any of us and it amazed me how she acted like a five year old wanting a toy she couldn't have with her mother they approached us and for a moment I think maybe they are congratulating my friends nope em excuse me may I ask a favor we all look at each other confused the bf Upshaw em could my daughter have that ring now I had heard some pretty dumb things in my life and have dealt with entitled mothers before but this one takes the cake is the most ridiculous the bf what no the entitled mother doesn't take that as an answer and continues talking saying that a daughter needs the ring n when my daughter's ex-husband proposed he didn't give her a real ring she needed a real one too real like a real bride it ruined their whole wedding and marriage it shocked me that the woman thought my friend all of us at that table being broke college students would have enough money to buy a real wedding ring it wasn't either the bf well I'm sorry to hear that but she can't have the ring another friend wait you said ex-husband right why does she need the ring if she's not even married anymore and because the wife gets to keep the engagement ring even after the divorce everyone knows that silly the GF but why do you need my ring and I'm reaching my 30s it's too late for me to find love and marry again I need a ring to remind me that I'm still worthy me but what about the ring that you got from the divorce at this point I kind of found it hard that she had ever been engaged at all and because it wasn't real I need a real one the GF well this ring isn't real diamond diver if that's what you're looking for another friend no college student can afford that the entitled daughter then tried to take hold of the GS hands I think maybe to see the ring by the look on her face of shock when she was told it wasn't real or maybe to take it by force but we had enough of her and all told her mother and daughter to leave as they left the mother yelled at all of us and told my two friends that their marriage would be a train wreck another friend not as much as your gold digger daughter's marriage this set off of entitled daughter she didn't charge at us but she looked like bull about to I have never seen a grown woman have such a fit in her life she threw a tantrum for a good five minutes before stomping off it ruined the rest of the day for us but my friends are still strong and are planning to marry later in the year after the graduate I have seen a lot of crazy people in my life but my potential future mother-in-law is the absolute worst person I have I have been with my boyfriend for eight months now for the first few months everything was amazing he is the sweetest and most caring man I have ever been with he likes to surprise me with fun dates and flowers for no apparent reason the biggest surprise of all though was when I met his mother I met his parents for the first time a few months ago the first thing FM il said to me when I walked in the door was au Jewish I'm not and I'm not particularly religious but I was raised Catholic once I told her this it was the beginning of the madness she immediately stopped talking to me and acted as if I didn't exist I was extremely nervous about meeting my boyfriend's parents so this broke my heart I was determined to make a good impression so I kept trying to connect with her this was a huge mistake and I should have just let it go once we were all seated for dinner she finally decided to try and make conversation I have naturally red hair and she asked me if my parents have the same color I told that I have the same hair as my mother she even had the audacity to ask me does the carpet match the drapes I had no idea how to respond and just sat there stunned seeing my reaction she said don't worry I will just ask my son about it later I looked over at my boyfriend who seemed equally as shocked that he didn't say anything she then started to go on about my hair being too curly she told me that I really need to learn how to run a brush through my hair and think about my appearance more when I'm out with her son then when I didn't eat much at dinner she gave me her version of a compliment I was told it was good that I'm watching what I eat because it would be a shame if I got any bigger this was just my first meeting with this woman as soon as I got into my car I burst into tears until I got home my boyfriend was texting me and apologizing for his mother's behavior but the damage was done and I told him I needed time to think he went in to apology overload after this and started sending flowers to my office every day and leaving me messages begging me to talk to him I finally agreed and we went out to dinner he told me he spoke with his mother about inappropriate comments and he swore it would never happen again with this reassurance I decided to give it another chance fast forward two weeks to when he invited me to come to a family birthday party this time I would also be meeting his sisters and grandparents his grandparents and sisters are awesome people they asked me normal questions about my job family and friends his mother seemed to be avoiding me throughout the evening and honestly I was ok with that I went to grab something from my purse and noticed that it was not where I left it I looked everywhere but I could not find it I went and asked my boyfriend and he began to help me look he then got a strange look on his face and he quickly went upstairs I couldn't hear a lot of yelling begin upstairs he came back down holding my purse after a few minutes and told me that we were leaving once we got in the car I asked him what was going on his mother had taken my purse so that she could see my driver's license she intended to try and run a background check on me he told me she had told him this earlier but honestly had thought she was joking I thought that it was best if I avoided any of his family functions for the time being this worked out great for a while and he went to any of his family parties alone he would ask me each time before leaving if I was sure that I didn't want to go but I always declined last week his family had their family reunion and he asked me to please come with him I was very reluctant but considering there would be so many people present I didn't think she would pull anything when we got there everything was going great I met his extended family and got to catch up with his sisters his mother did seem to be shooting me death glares all night but I brushed it off soon she came over and joined a table I was seated at with his sisters and some cousins the conversation was pleasant as we were talking about his sister's children his sister has a daughter who is 12 and is the same age as my niece Ivan showed his sister a picture of my niece on my phone his mother took a look at the screen and began to laugh she told me she hopes that if me and her son ever have children the they don't look like my niece my niece is beautiful by the way and she is only 12 years old what kind of monster attacks a 12 year old child's appearance this was my breaking point and I went off like a volcano I started to scream at her and told her she is the most evil person I have ever had two disadvantage to meet I told her if I ever did have children with her son she can be certain she will never meet them because hell is too far to travel to I'm not 100% certain exactly everything that I said but from what his younger sister later said it was epic she began to play the victim and wailed that I had just misunderstood her joke my boyfriend came rushing over at this point and she threw herself into his arms telling him I'm a horrible woman and he needed to throw me out right now he told her that wasn't going to happen and to stop making a fool of herself she seemed to accept this for a moment and sat back down she just kept solving that I just didn't understand how to take a joke then something in her snapped as she noticed something that my boyfriend was holding in his hand and began to have another meltdown I didn't understand what was happening at this point and just stood there watching a grown woman pitch a fit like a toddler Nana what she was saying made any sense to me as it was mostly just incoherent screaming but I did pick up on many derogatory comments directed my way my boyfriend then told me we were leaving and told me to grab my things as I started to get ready fmi I made a lunge for my boyfriend's hand and grabbed the small box he was holding she done looked me dead in the eyes and said you will never have this renewed little bee she ran outside and threw the box down a storm drain turns out that my boyfriend was intending on proposing to me he had just obtained his grandmother's ring while we were at the reunion his grandmother is completely heartbroken because now her ring is down a storm drain instead of continuing on in the family as she had always wanted I don't know where to go from here I'm devastated confused and exhausted can I ask him to never see his mother again is that my place to say something like that I'm sorry that my story is so long but I really needed get this ranch off my chest I have been getting a lot of messages asking for an update on the Ring situation unfortunately it could not be found the city came out to try and assist but they could not uncover anything my fiance and his family were devastated by this and many of them have ceased communication with FM IL because of this the ring had high significance in the family more than I understood at the time of writing my first post this was literally the straw that broke the camel's back for many of the family members his sisters have chosen to keep contact with FM il and one of them told me that she is playing the victim card that she is saying she had a mental break and we all need to be more compassionate and understanding of her I call this total crap and I know she knew exactly what she was doing when she threw the ring down the storm drain I have a theory that the ring never went down the drain to begin with I think that maybe she hid the ring somewhere on herself and threw the Box down the drain I have no way to prove this that I have expressed this concern to my fiance and his family it's a rather large house though and could be hidden anywhere I don't think the ring will be found anytime soon if this was what happened on a happier note I'm now engaged to my fiance my engagement ring does not have the same sentimental value as the other ring but I love my new ring just the same I'm very happy to be engaged and I cannot wait to spend my life with my fiance my think as on low contact now with his mother but word has reached her that we are engaged after she found out she apparently refused to leave her room for three days she refused to speak to anyone or eat any food the drama of this women is unbelievable to me soon after I was told about her condition I started receiving a lot of strange emails and phone calls I started getting phone calls from strange men asking me to perform a variety of different tests things for them obviously I was modified by this and immediately changed my phone number I told my theme Kay what had happened and he thinks that someone must be giving out my number two men they meet by mistake I didn't believe that so I did a Google my phone number and found a few craigslist ads written about me the descriptions are just too similar to my appearance they even mention my red hair I truly believe this is FM il doing this she knows how to post on Craigslist as she sells a lot of views things online I have also mysteriously been signed up for a variety of different dating sites and P sites if this is FM il then I just don't know when she is going to stop this is low level to drop to and I cannot believe how pitiful this woman is I showed this all to my fee on que and told him about my suspicions he doesn't think his mother has the tech savvy to be able to pull this off then what he said next chilled me to my bones as I thought his older sister liked me he said his older sister had mentioned that to maintain a healthy relationship you should be checking your partner's phone daily she proceeded to tell him there should be no secrets and I shouldn't have a problem showing him my phone when he got home I was going to ask his sisters to be in my bridal party and now I don't even know where I stand with them do they hate me too what in the hell did I do to deserve this I truly don't know who I can trust anymore I have decided to limit what I tell them going forward as I currently think they are FM il spies for now I'm going to try and enjoy my engagement and put this all out of my head I guess I will just wait and see what happens with his family

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Length: 17min 1sec (1021 seconds)

Published: Tue Feb 04 2020