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hey hey tony guys here popping in you know what i was i was brushing my teeth not long ago slept in the day cause we in the um you know the hurricane came through here and it was i was thinking i said you know what i'm gonna talk about today and i'm gonna just take you through this through the you know situation right here is i've seen a celebrity i was in the bed i was looking at my instagram i'll go to my discover page i look see the news see what's going on learning about the world just seeing what's going on watch a little piece on all the the gangs killing in jacksonville florida and one of my homeboys lived out and just learning about it and then i seen um uh russell wilson and sierra in uh italy looked like on the anniversary trip and i love to see that that's what i'm saying they name because they ain't nothing bad you know i love to see that i just love to see what they representing now you know i just love to see you know just marriage and other people married and you know when i seen that i sent it to my wife and i said hey italy open because we went to italy and we had some great time in positano sorrento capri we was all different rome different parts of italy a couple summers ago and it was a beautiful time and we didn't have the money to do it but i believe in living and i trust god for the rest i'm not going to sit in those shackles and worrying and biting my nails and stressing when god told me he clothed the lilies of the field and feed the fowls of the air i believe in living because we get one we get one chance to do it i'm not caught up on those savings and having no billions of dollars millions of dollars even hundreds of thousands of dollars sitting in a saving account somewhere when it's a part of the world i ain't seen not to each their own you do you but me i'm gonna get up and i'm gonna learn how to make money i'm gonna trust god to help me earn and i'm gonna live and i'm gonna be living righteous though i ain't gonna be in sin i ain't in no brothels i ain't in fornication and adultery and expecting god to move on my behalf but listen to him seeing him over there i sent a picture to my wife i said hey a little and then i said i said you think they flew private or whatever you think they uh flew on um [Music] like first class on delta one like on delta one because you know you get treated you lay down and all of that and um and she said i'm pretty sure they flew private and i said yeah you're right i say if i had 20 million plus sitting in a bank account because you know russell probably made like 24 million a year you coming home with 12. here you know high maintenance guy he probably keeping at least six of that at least six of that he been playing for years you know he might be sitting on 20 m's plus cash in the bank i say if i if i'm sitting on 20 million what's 200 000 for a flight to italy on private jet what's 200 out of 20 million and i say yeah and she said on their anniversary trip i'm pretty sure they flew private and the reason why i asked that because this one thing that i'm about there's one thing i'm about and i and i try to identify things that have helped me change my life and when i say change my life i mean going from a man who was a womanizer a complete dog who would be with three women in a 24-hour period to being a one-woman man that's a huge change that's a huge change going from a man who was nasty who was who was just like uh a savage you know a man who if you park too close to me i'm keying your whole car going from that man to being a man who i will give you a car that's a big change going from a man who was a drug dealer in the streets hustling with a gun in my lap and i'm serving 21 hours a day to being a faithful and committed husband and father going from a man who earned twenty thousand dollars a year working a job to earning millions of dollars a year that's a big change and so i try to identify things in my life that i've done that i'll be sharing this with the world that has that i feel have played a part and it's one thing as a man this one thing as a man that i have always been folk not always but one since i changed my mindset and it probably was around 2010 and probably really got strong around 2012 uh and it's a daily it's a daily struggle it's a daily battle like because in ephesians 5 it tells a man to love to love our wives as christ loved the church and i try to sit and really draw the parallel i try to really paint that picture of christ loves for the church christ's love for the church and just the sacrifice you and the unmerited favor and just the relentless love and the salvation of and i try to really paint that picture and just and i asked myself you know what why in the world would would god bring a son into the world and have him live a reported perfect life and then sacrifice him for the world you know he give his life for the salvation of the world and then this is the only perfect example of a human that anybody in the world has you know no other religious text talks of a perfect human being you know who sacrificed his life who was who allowed himself to be crucified for the salvation of others and so here you have this example and then we are instructed divinely instructed by the writer who wrote ephesians 5 which probably was apostle paul for husbands to love our wives as christ loved the church and so i take that i take that very seriously because the way that you know christ redeemed me and the way that christ moves in my life and blesses me and just and pours out into my life and gives me the strength and the wisdom that i need to serve the world and i take that very seriously i don't take that lightning and so i said okay let me love my wife on this level let me pursue this in every area in in whatever means that i have because i'm blessed monetarily i'm blessed mentally emotionally spiritually physically so i want to bless my wife in every single area that i'm able to bless her and i don't want another woman in the world to experience something that my wife won't get to experience and i pray for the opportunity to enjoy life to its fullest on earth while we're here serving the world for the greater good of the kingdom but i still believe in having like the bible say that god will give you to grant you the desires of your heart i still believe in that while sacrificing and serving and dying out to my flesh and to myself to serve the world and so what i try to do every single day is perfect the way that i talk to my wife and the way that i treat my wife the way that i view my wife and i make excuses for her i make excuses for her which is essentially granting grace because what is christ doing for you because and and if you're not christian then it you it may or may not land you may not understand what i'm saying and i may not be able to reach every man because of belief systems but even if you just look at it as a metaphor or an analogy but when you really think about this thing i'm like i've been forgiven i've been graced i've been favored excuses have been made for me you know the bar has not been set extremely high because there is grace and there is mercy and there is forgiveness so although i'm instructed to pursue perfection there is grace there is mercy there is forgiveness so therefore when i fall short i am forgiven and i can get up brush myself off and go at it again and so i said let me give that same grace to my wife and let me seek to understand and then be understood as dr stephen r covey says and let me come to a place to where i'm not competing with her and i'm not giving her based on what she gives me i'm not saying oh i'm only doing this if she does this for me or if she doesn't cook every day if she doesn't clean every week if she doesn't do this and she doesn't do that then i'm not doing this i'm not doing that but no i try to go above and beyond you know her birthday coming up in in um september and my my goal is you know because i come to a play a different place in my life now one of my goals and one of her love language is gifts because you know she grew up and didn't get a lot a lot of tough times with her mom being from jamaica and working under the table at times and you know having to live with family sometimes having to sleep in the car sometimes you know having to split a bean burrito from taco bell sometimes one of her love languages is gifts you know she loves celebration she loves birthdays celebrating birthdays and one of my goals this and i'm just sharing this to be you know transparent and what i mean by giving her the world is at my level i'm i'm not i don't have the the money that the rappers have and that the athletes have but at my level i want to be able to give my wife 35 000 to do whatever she want to do with it on her 35th birthday and that's a huge huge huge goal that's a huge goal and i don't know how it's gonna happen but i set a crazy goal like that for myself and may not reach it but i'll set that goal because i want her and even if i come up with 5k she gonna be extremely happy if all i have 1500 she's gonna be extremely happy but i'll set that goal high and i work toward it and i'm selling one of my old school cars um that i posted on instagram my chevelle and from that sale i'm gonna put that that 25k i'm gonna put that up in my pot i'm putting it in my pot i'm liquidating i'm liquidating my white birthday coming up and i say that to say you know when i went into this space of let me try to be a blessing to my wife in every area when i say every area i mean every area i want to bless her body i want to bless her mind i want to bless her spirit i want to bless her heart i wanna bless her closet i wanna bless her bank account i wanna bless her pocketbook i wanna bless her hair her skin her hands her feet i wanna bless her eyes her nose her teeth her lips her everything i want to bless her in every area see in ephesians 5 it said and present her blemish and spot free now i don't know what that mean because her salvation ain't up to me you should so it can't be talking about her salvation you know it can't be talking about her righteousness and her holiness because that's on her that's not up to me but what it mean to me is to [Music] wash her with love to protect and provide to take care of her to adorn her so i want her like a queen in the finest of linen in the finest of jewelry in the finest of makeup in the finest of hair oil skin oil everything oil the fineness of foods the fineness of of of betting the sleep on the finest shoes walk in you hear me everything i want and see here's the thing as a man see it's it's you you unlock something and this was a lot this is what a lot of men gonna struggle with and i struggle with saying this and i struggle with doing this i'm here to tell you this is not easy this is not easy this is going to be the hardest thing you do in your life because it takes you into a level of selflessness that you've never had and this woman is not blood of your blood flesh or your flesh so see it's not the same when you do it for your daughter or your son because they come from you they're from your loins that that's your blood and flesh but see this woman come from another man she got a daddy she got a mama so you loving somebody who are outside of you who is outside of you and you only become one spiritually you become one spiritually not physically and so you're loving another human being who is no kin to you unless you live in certain parts of the world where y'all marrying people who can tell you who is no kin to you and she is not of your bloodline she is not of your flesh and you are loving her on a level that is blameless that is pure that you're not trying to control her you're not trying to mislead her you're not trying to deceive her to cheat on her manipulate her none of that you want to give her the world and you want to bless her you want to bless her and you want to pour out into her bosom and you want her every wish becomes your command and as a man you accept that charge and this the lamest simplest thing that we can ever say or hear but when i did this something and i don't i'm not going to call it magical because i don't believe in magic uh being a christian something divine happened something spiritual happened it was like i unlocked something in my brain it was like by me going to that level of love see when you're operating from love by me going to that level of love and let me watch the time because i got to coach a client here by me i gotta turn the computer on so i watch time by me going to that okay i got what's that 15 18 minutes by me going to that level of love that level of selflessness it unlocks something because you got to understand to make a million dollars in a pure way in a clean way in a honest way in a way that you're not losing or ruining the quality of your life in a way that you still have time for your kids and for your wife to make a million dollars in a year you have to unlock something and to keep balance in your life like we just went on a week five day six five night six day vacation in jamaica with our sons that's balanced i didn't have to do any work i had i had to get on computer for 30 minutes to set up an email blast and to change the prices on tony gases academy um for a flash sale on july 4. so i had to work for 30 minutes in those six days [Music] that right there in order to get to that place you have to unlock something else in your brain you have to tap into something else in your life you can't be operating from aggression to do that because that's a state of flow as they call it you know that's a state of peace that's a state of balance so that is is it comes from peace it comes from clarity so in order to be able to earn millions of dollars a year and still have time for your wife and your kids and and a week before or two weeks before that sixth day we were in jamaica for seven nights and eight days with my friend for his birthday [Music] and i didn't have to work at all on that trip i didn't have to do any work on that trip so and i work for myself so it's not like i'm leaving somebody else's company on my two-week vacation and then my wife's getting ready to go to the maldive for six days and that's all we can do right now because our kids but i'm not gonna work at all on that trip i'm gonna do my work before it but in order to get to that place as a man is something else got to be unlocked so yes you can unlock ambition [Music] yes you can unlock you know vision and visualizing and goal setting but it is something is something special is something spiritual is something righteous is something divine about treating the human that god made from man so you are a man and a woman was created from a man children come from the loins of a man we hold in our bodies what it takes to create a human being so it starts with the man it comes from the man and then it is developed in the woman so when you take this woman who is a vessel of god to fulfill god's plan for the earth because she nurtures and carries and protects and provides for the children that will carry the world forward that will carry the kingdom the ministry and everything forward so this woman in the sight of god is fearfully and wonderfully made [Music] she is a pristine divine creation of god and her role in the world as it relates to god's plan not man's plan as it relates to god's plan her role in the world is vital if you remove her everything stops everything cease to exist because two men cannot come together and birth a child and create a child two men cannot do that so this has to happen through the woman so let me so you got to understand this so when you take this woman and you say i'm going to treat her in a god-like manner i'm going to treat her the way god intended for her to be treated how would god talk to her a lot of men want to call themselves kings and want to call themselves gods if if if you even believe that if this woman is god's creation how would god talk to her not how man would talk to her how would god talk to her how would god love her see if god looked at her and he looks at the plan that he has for her life and the role that she plays if god says every single human being has to be carried in you for nine months and has to be fed from your body from your bosom every human being has to be fertilized fermented inside of the woman's body [Music] how precious does he see her how precious will he treat her because of the role that she plays in god's plan and see this is the thing that we don't think about as a man we think she is our disposal but she's greater than our needs for her because she has a plan and a purpose from her creator because he man did not create woman god did so man did not create the universe and the world god did so man's needs from a woman have to be less than god's needs from a woman so god says this is woman whoa man you are man this is your place and your role this is her place and her role god said look at her role and you tell me how important to the grand scheme of things is her role so listen so so when i talk about you know the material things and the monetary things that's that's a byproduct that comes later what first matters is her peace see how i talk to her her state of well-being see how i'm watching the time see how does she feel in my presence if she feels little if she feels belittled if she feels demeaned if she feels degraded if she feels less than if i'm comparing her to other women if i'm holding her up against other women if i'm making her feel like she's not as good as this woman she's not as beautiful as this woman she's not as smart as this woman then how does she feel okay and if she feels like that then how can she then what is her brain doing her brain is releasing toxins into her bloodstream and her stomach is hurting and her head is hurting so what is that doing to the fetus in her body and then when the child comes out if she feels down trotted and berated and degraded then what is she where is she operating from and what does she have to give to my child that she has brought into the world if she feels less than if she feels unappreciated if she feels unattractive if i'm not making sure that her hands and feet can be done that her facials can be done that her hair can be done if not in a professional establishment but at least at home if not the finest of chemicals and and ointments then even the least of them that come from cvs or rite aid or walgreens it don't have to be from the giorgio armani that my wife wears now and the chanel face wash that she uses now and uh skinceuticals it might be noxzema okay from cvs first but if i can't make sure she at least can get that ten dollar foot tub that can be filled up with hot water and plugged in and it go to bubbling and she could put her feet in there and then when her feet come out i can get that little brush and brush her heels and brush her feet and we can take it she could clip a toenail so i could clip her toenails and then we could paint a toenail and we could put that uh lotion on it and moisturizer on it and then we could put that that wool sock on it and let our feet be soft and supple and just relax her body so that the toxins release through her feet see if i can't even provide a oasis for my woman and if i don't have all the money in the world if i can't make it happen then what does she have to give to my children that are her children too see if i fail her then i'm failing my kids and if i'm failing her and i'm failing my kids i'm failing my lineage i'm failing my legacy and i'm failing my god so see this what i'm trying to get me to understand that there is power that is transmuted to you when you treat god's creation for you the way that she is intended to be treated when you treat her blameless spotless blemish free the way christ loves the church i'm telling you you tap into a level of love of peace it gotta be your goal to talk to her perfectly to treat her perfectly to adorn her perfectly to praise her perfectly every single day i'm talking to my wife every day and i say i say baby you too beautiful i said oh my goodness you two people oh my goodness girl i can't even look at you oh my goodness and guess what when i look at her that's how i feel and you know why i feel like that because i'm 100 percent faithful i don't masturbate so i'm not even giving my my power my my loins i'm not even giving it to the toilet stool you remember that man who spilt his urn on the ground and he will kill in the bible i'm not even giving it to the toilet stool to some tissue to a napkin it only goes to my wife all of that power that god put in me it go to her and her only i don't even masturbate i don't watch pornography i don't do none of that i don't sleep with other women i don't cheat with other women emotionally or physically do you hear me all of me go to one woman so what it does is it washes her face it washes her body it cleanses her spirit and when i look at her i see a angel in human form i'm telling you the truth but see you can't experience this if you can't be 100 percent pure see when i talk to her too wrong if i if i snap at her i got to come back because because i'm stressed by something i don't let some stress get to me i don't let somebody get on my nerves i don't let something bother me i don't let a thought in my head placed by the adversary go to messing me up if my energy wrong to it i got to come back boom and i got to correct it baby hey i apologize i got to be man enough to apologize listen i can talk on it for four five hours but i think you get a point listen treat her perfectly make it your goal to treat her perfectly and to do everything in your power so as soon as i seen russell and sierra over there i say my wife i got to take her back to italy but instead of just taking her to italy i want to fly over there private you ain't got to stand in nobody lying girl we walking right up to the clear part we driving up to the the the tarmac and we walking on this heavy jet and i wa and i'm calling my concierge i say i'm gonna tell him i want a rose on every seat in the plane i want champagne i want white wine i want fiji water you hear me and listen to me hey what's your account number i'm finna why are you go down to the fashion district in miami and buy a air maze blanket so she have an air maze blanket to cover up with on the plane i'm going to call my shopper down there set fifth avenue i'm gonna have her get that air made blanket meet me at the airport in boca raton and go to the plane before we get there and put the air maze bag on the seat and when we get there she gonna let me not talk too loud because these real plans i'm sharing with you and then some people gonna say listen well it ain't about materialistic you ain't gotta do it what did i say i say i wanna give her everything that i can if i ain't have two nickels to rub together then i'm creating an oasis in our one bedroom studio apartment do you hear me if i got to blow up a picture of italy for 39 from cvs and put it on the wall if i got to get a folding table for five dollars from the five dollar and below store and and put a table cloth on it and put wine glasses on it and get five dollar white wine and pour in them glasses and go to our stove that barely work and and cook a steak and some asparagus on that on that stove that we got and make her a dinner with that white wine or water if she don't drink white wine right there in our studio one bedroom seven hundred dollar a month apartment and guess what i'm been there and i did that at every level you can treat this woman like she is royalty not man's royalty not your royalty but it's god's royalty when you get her body you loving her body like this god's body you not trying to just wham bam thank you man no you love it and i'm telling you and see i'm gonna tell you another thing financial that i've seen because a lot of times we so broke minded we don't want to hear nothing by spending money we that's a curse word what ha ha we'll do anything else but spend money don't listen i'm gonna tell you something every time i went broke on my wife i spent the last dime i remember i got a 8 000 loan from paypal and i spent 5 000 of it on a chanel purse for my wife and i spent the other 3 000 book in a room and buying a cake in miami at the fontainebleau and uh and rented a bentley for a day for a thousand dollars the room was four hundred dollars a night i did it two nights the cabana was 300 or 600 a day i went broke that loan was from paypal was for business i spent it on my why 25th birth what's the 25th 25th birthday do you hear me i go broke ain't it but i that alone came from god do you hear me because i because my plan was to adorn my wife for her birthday god had met my needs if he had to get from peter to get the paw he'd admit my need to take care of my wife on the level that i want to provide for her anything i want for her god want for her and he'd have met my knees over and over i got to go time for my call in one minute late god bless you

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 34min 36sec (2076 seconds)

Published: Wed Jul 07 2021