....When Men Call Women CRAZY!

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reacting now this is such a huge topic I didn't even screenshot it because I just posted it today and I really am going to just read the question straight off of my iPad because a lot of the things you ladies have to say I'm sure that you guys can help one another and probably can relate to a lot of the things that a lot of you guys have shared with me I find that more often times than none men are always running with the narrative of she's crazy and she's crazy but like I always stress to you guys behind every crazy girl is a man that made her that way and it's really just becoming old that whole narrative of she's crazy that's a red flag for more of nananananana know what did you do because a normal functioning woman healthy functioning woman doesn't unhinge or anything if she doesn't need to you know I was dating this guy one time and he would always stress to me like women are so cunning and conniving and all thinking is yeah what did you do to make them be that way women are not going to activate any part of that for no reason unless if she's clinically mentally unstable who would start problems a normal functioning human being of any gender who would start problems for no reason without any probable cause here's the thing a lot of the times guys want to call you crazy when you're on to them when they feel like they want to control the narrative they're just gonna write you off and call you crazy all right well that would probably mean that if you're doing something wrong and you're calling someone crazy 99% of the players that are involved with women and they and the women react are going to be crazy you mean I'm a little bit or crazy stop you're dragging it let's jump right into this let's see what you guys had to say about the different instances where guys have called you crazy oh my god one of my friends wrote on here she wrote everything that so-and-so does it's this guy that I used to talk to you but if I say his name it's just gonna be too obvious who it is so I can't even say his name but Mary Kate I got your comment I love you so much okay so a common thing that I saw was lying and cheating a lot of the times when guys are lying and cheating they want to make you think that you're crazy for having those thoughts or for having evidence and maybe you're not saying to them that you know for a fact that you know what they're doing but they want to make you feel crazy and when you are in love with someone or you like someone so much for some reason we as women have the crazy ability I mean this is crazy too literally deny fact-based things we have got to stop that if you know that someone is cheating on you you cannot undo it with your mind and tell yourself otherwise he's cheating on you it is what it is you get out okay or you continue to stay there and be walked on run over and everything men are forever testing women for ever seeing how much you could tolerate how much you're willing to tolerate and how much he can get away with it's just what they do okay and that is your job to teach them the lesson and say honestly no doesn't work with me maybe it works with her right that's why it lasted so long but not over here brah okay not over here honey never over here sweetie so nice try Lily please not now this is my cat she's always like coming in so again men always want to make you seem like you're crazy when they are doing something wrong and they don't want you catching on to them half the time we already are caught on and they want to make us think that oh my gosh where do you get this from you're crazy so you know what we do we convince ourselves otherwise well I mean he said it didn't happen I mean he said I mean am I crazy for thinking well you know many friends I've had that have called me and and said oh my god am I crazy for thinking this way because I saw him here and this there and that on Instagram and that and that and I'm like girl you are not crazy when you're explaining this to me I'm on the outside looking in I have no feelings with this person at all the what you're thinking is actually what it is and sometimes we need that outside opinion to bring us down to earth and say hey knock knock is it in there your brain okay just checking yeah you got a leaf your time's up now because he's disrespecting you okay men will go as far as you let them okay guys will literally treat you like trash if you let them next we have comments under women's pictures I I personally experienced this one time with an ex-boyfriend he would comment under girl pictures and then when I would mention it to him he would literally say to me Oh calm down it's just Instagram it's just Instagram you're commenting on girls pictures and it's just Instagram that's how we met was on Instagram you clown like and I'm sure and I'm sure this has happened to more of us than we'd like to admit but it's embarrassing when the guy that we're dealing with especially if it's our boyfriend it's commenting on girls photos it's just so degrading it's like do you have any sense of morality but makes it all the more disrespectful is the fact that you can see what they're doing you can see their activity and they just don't care and they'll just comment anyway it's ridiculous but they want to call you crazy and make you feel like you're unhinged for mentioning it calm down it's just a comment all I said was I want to get in between those legs why are you making a big deal out of it I'm honestly with you you're here now aren't you so you're gonna blow up a comment that I wrote on Instagram like are you that insecure oh now I'm insecure right I'm insecure because I can see evidence is something that you're doing ladies do not let that happen to you if a guy is going to have the audacity to date you and let alone sleep with you and then comment on other girls pictures I'm sorry that's disrespectful I will not tolerate that personally and it's not just Instagram because if it was if anything you can drop a like okay you don't have to go commenting on every little thing grow up see someone wrote cheating with their baby mother I mean honestly I always tell you ladies that I don't suggest dating guys that have children because they lie on their kids all the time and they can say that they're with their children trust me it's been done to me they say they're with their kids and they almost never are with their children I mean it's beyond pathetic and then on top of that sometimes guys that have you know relationships with their baby mothers it never ends and men don't like closing the doors half the time especially you know certain you know signs you know astrology signs they don't like closing doors and they will always keep it open for as long as that you know baby mother you know allows if she didn't move on and has her own relationship and her own thing going on then there's always gonna be a chance that she's going to be sleeping with the baby father because they feel like they have that connection and they have that bond because they have a child together you know and you're not crazy for reacting to him going and being with his baby mother if he's supposed to be with you and he's with his baby mother that's still cheating he's not with his baby mother he's with you that's you're not crazy uh I see you don't have to worry about her I think of her as a sister okay we've all dealt with guys that literally want to pull the narrative of oh my god that's just my sis like stop stop stop no really stop because the joke's on you any guy that's going to pull the narrative that's just the SIS and babe you know the truth I would just leave him you know a lot of these behaviors that guys exhibit to us there's only one or two ways you you one or two ways it can go either you tolerate which is what one clown told me one time he said to me you know what you need to do you need to be more tolerant and I was like wrong girl okay the girl on Wednesdays that's for her that's not for me I don't I don't tolerate anything I can barely tolerate you and I think that's kind of obvious now isn't it one thing that quality queens don't do is tolerate tolerate what for why for what no I don't think so and if you intuitively are getting it you know an intuitive feeling that how is this your sister and you guys are sending hearts to each other my brother and I are very close and that's my biological brother we are very close I am NOT constantly sending my brother hearts on Instagram and sending him borderline incestual things on Instagram I mean come on you know the difference between someone who's actually being treated like a family member versus someone that has the blanket term of that's just the sis you're not crazy okay another major one that I see they're not always clear and willing to address every matter this for me eats my soul alive a lot of the times when guys don't want to address things which is you know like ninety percent of the time when they're biessing you right they don't want to talk about things because they know that it's going to uncover everything that they're doing and they don't want to uncover everything that they're doing because that's gonna expose everything you have many times I wish that I got answers from certain people and I was more than willing to talk about it and discuss why I reacted the way that I did but I couldn't even get the chance to because they don't even want to have the discussion you know and I guarantee you that same person wants to go to his friends and talk about bro you're not gonna believe what this chick did bro like oh my god and then he's gonna have his friends jumping on it bro she's crazy bro I would never talk to her again alright but let's talk about what your friend did let's talk about why that girl did what she did let's talk about why I did what I did and here's another thing to realize okay let's just be honest and transparent here a lot of the times that guys are pulling these actions or or doing these things are they your boyfriend because that's issue number one half the time these guys are not our boyfriends and we are so pissed off because we've been girlfriends to people that are not our boyfriends and giving them girlfriend benefits and technically by right they can do whatever they want but it still hurts us and it still pisses us off and it's like how could you I was good to you I was all this stuff and so the guy it's like yeah I like you and it was good and we have fun when we're together but honey you are my Friday's I got another girl on Wednesday she's designated I got another chick on one day you're just Friday and I don't want that to change I want that to stay that way but you can't get mad at Wednesday Wednesday and Monday you can't cuz I'm not your man and then BOOM there we go it's like a you know an explosion where it's like oh my god I dedicated all this time to this guy and he literally is he wants to keep me right in this same place I can't do it we've all been there done that I cannot do it I'm not gonna stick around while you choose what option you want on which day you're done you're cancelled you and I will never be game over that's that and I have no care for anyone that's gonna do that to me because you deserve more than waiting around wondering if someone really values you or not and for the and honestly people that are making you feel crazy when you have every right to feel the way that you feel this is why it's so important honestly to not give girlfriend benefits to guys but don't deserve it that are not your boy friend because then all this stuff that you guys are writing to me is unmerited because I can honestly guarantee majority of this list is written from girls who literally are girlfriends to guys that are not their boyfriend and that's where the issue lies because if you're saying ghosting right ghosting your boyfriend ghosting you is just really strange I mean it happens but it's not really that common of a circumstance guys only ghosts when they're not really with you they have no sort of commitment to you know sort of attachment to you okay guys cheat yeah they could cheat when they're in a relationship is it cheating if he's not actually with you no let's actually be realistic and think about that that does not mean you still do not deserve to be pissed off but moving forward for your next relationship you know how to move so that you won't feel cheated on because you're not someone's girlfriend who's not your boyfriend you're sad I'm saying so the next we have never texting or calling sweetie if know if you're the guy that you're with is not texting or calling you you're not crazy for that you're just being a pick me what are you waiting around for this guy to text and call you for he clearly is showing his interest it's not an all time negative going out with their friends almost every night he doesn't prioritize you he doesn't really care about you he'd rather hang out with his friends I mean that's a huge sign you're not crazy you're crazy if you say though you are crazy if you say because that's ridiculous the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome that's the definition of insanity so you are in fact going to be deemed crazy by definition textbook definition if you were going to repeat the same behaviors or have unrealistic expectations from guys who simply cannot will not or are incapable of delivering what it is that you want waiting around for someone to give you exactly what you want when they are not even near willing to give you what you deserve is ridiculous so I want to say that number one above all this I should have put this in the beginning of the video you can be deemed as crazy by a man's definition and really truthfully by right by any definition if you are having unrealistic expectations of somebody that's not even actually dedicated to you it's just that kind of dry guys are going to of course call you crazy if they're not your boyfriend and you're sitting there why don't you call me last night I don't understand why would you add a little Connor on that girl's picture under his in his eyes it's like you're not my girlfriend I can do what I want crazy you're sad I'm saying a lot of these times that's the case is that you are you in fact crazy you're only not crazy when you have the ability to call the person out on what they're doing because they are yours you're in a monogamous relationship with this person then you are not crazy you are in fact deemed as crazy if you are going to put these responsibilities on someone who cannot deliver and you're enabling their behavior by continuing to give them benefits girlfriend benefits wifey benefits okay when they're not your boyfriend so I want us use the term crazy very lightly because I know it's not really you know politically correct to just throw around but when I use the term crazy what I'm saying is exhibiting behavior that technically is deemed as unmerited now then very thin line of this because of course you're going to feel like you should react if you were doing something for someone or you were with this person and only this person and they weren't reciprocating that behavior back to you but I'm sure some way along the line you kind of knew that didn't you you kind of knew that this person was doing whatever he was doing he kind of realized that eight months in you're still not this guy's girlfriend and you're still getting pissed that he's literally rotating a harem of women on a weekly basis hello come on alright so that's why guys like to call some girls crazy because it's all they're thinking in their head logically is you're not my girlfriend it doesn't matter if we're sleeping together why are you bugging out like you're my girlfriend you're trying to clock me and correct me all the things I'm doing you're not my girlfriend gaslighting I always talk about this all the time gasps fighting is so huge oh you're perfect oh you're this oh I honestly really like you so much all these blanket terms to keep you right where they want you you like me so much but you're not my boyfriend oh you think I'm so beautiful but you're not my boyfriend all I think I'm so perfect but you're not my boyfriend why are you saying all these things what do they mean I'm so this I'm so that you're so cute they cat is thank you I'm so this I'm so that but you're not with me so stop gaslighting me or maybe that guy is with you and he's playing games with you okay because I don't address this that much you have the guy that made actually be your boyfriend and you know he's cheating on you and he's trying to when he's with you he plays the picture-perfect boyfriend and it's so perfect that it's just downright suspicious okay that's the thing too what the heck is good saying they'd have a threesome with you and your sister what all right I know this sounds absolutely insane but some guy actually broke this down to me the reason why guys like to do that is cuz he was saying they can't see themselves like being with you if you guys catch my drift the G rated version so literally I guess another girl being there in the picture is like them watching outside of their bodies if that makes sense like they can see themselves like with the other girl and like I can't I don't know if you guys catch my drift like I don't know guys are always trying to push the envelope I mean as far as it being your sister I think that's absolutely disrespectful but guys obviously just don't see it that way they're just at the very base basis of men sometimes they're just honestly primal and that's why they're capable of like calling someone their sister and then like banging them or something like that but girls do it too girls will call a guy bro you know but I think what's weird about certain guys is that they actually will look at a girl as a sister and still do that like that's what's actually weird women are not really capable of doing something like that right like if a girl actually puts you in the friend zone you are more than likely her actual friend majority of the time am I making sense I want you guys to understand this again I'm stressing this point again it's not cheating if he's not your boyfriend it's only cheating if he's actually your boyfriend and if you have evidence of this person cheating you need to decide whether you are going to stay or go cuz it's gonna go two ways he's either going to keep on doing it because you stayed or he's simply going or you're simply going to leave what are the two things okay I was in this you know situation ship with this guy at one point and I realized I was fighting myself over and over again what I already knew I didn't love this person I cared for this person you know we had good times together but I realized the situation is only gonna go one or two ways either I'm literally gonna join this guy's rotation or and degrade myself and devalue myself and become just like you know everyone else that you I don't think so or I'm gonna leave with my dignity and it's not always easy you know we go we come back we go we come back over and over again but it's like when you've had enough you've had enough and the final straw has been pulled you know because at a certain point it's like all right it's getting just condescending now to just be here because it's like how much more are you going to tolerate from one person they're going to keep on doing whatever they're doing you accept it or you leave two options that's it okay somebody else wrote talking to more than one person at a time that's natural to men men are always going to talk to more than one girl at a time until they feel like they actually want to be with you if they actually want to be with you reacting to something they probably flip out about if we did to them again deflecting okay I I know that all too well okay whenever someone is really really guilty they instead of I read a quote somewhere it was amazing it says some people feel so guilty and they are so in their own heads that instead of apologizing to you for being wrong they would rather just not even speak to you at all cuz they just can't get themselves to actually sit down with you and have a conversation as a grown adults and discuss what happened and actually apologize they would rather just cut you off instead funny how that works if you actually felt like you were the victim in the situation then you would be more open to having a conversation because you know you didn't do anything wrong but for you to go the route of just cutting the cord or letting me walk away and not even doing anything to try and you know and to try and salvage the the relationship obviously means you're the one that holds a lot of guilt and you don't even want to discuss anything you just let it go deflecting because they know that they're going to be exposed and they don't want to talk about what they're doing a lot of these times guys that play games they don't want to talk about what they're doing because one they're moving the way they're moving because they don't want to explain anything to anyone and they certainly don't feel like they owe you an explanation for anything and the more you give them girlfriend benefits and the more you sleep with them and you make it a ok the more you're enabling them to think all right well she already knows what this is when she signed up and she keeps on coming back anyway because all they're looking at is your action action action and yet it may have set you and yeah you may feel like oh my gosh I just want to stop I just want to leave so bad we've all been there okay and you just can't get yourself to stop with this person so you tell yourself one more thing he does one more thing he doesn't I'm out the next thing comes you stay do you understand what it is that I'm saying at certain at a certain point you just got to be done over and out it's above me right it's above you you're done you can find someone else the world is too big I'm sorry and I realize that okay I realize that myself it's like why would I tolerate this from this person when I could just go be with this person and they're treating me way better I mean seriously I don't need you by talk to you later and lastly I'm gonna address this one ghost thing and coming back as if nothing happens that's simply because he's bored if a guy could just out of nowhere in the random stop talking to you and go see you I've addressed this in another video he's not coming back because he's like oh dang I really miss you know he's trying to see if he can get some benefits from you again or even period okay guys don't ghost girls that they actually see value in it first right and this doesn't mean you're not valuable this just means that this person isn't capable of seeing that necessarily okay and it's a very hurtful thing especially to our egos where it's just like I can't believe this person did this to me like because he know who I am you know and I get that too but that's why when you understand that you are a quality Queen and you understand what you are not going to be putting up with because we all endured situations and probably have stated situations way longer than we should have way longer than we may have anticipated and that ends today okay do not give a guy a reason to call you crazy when one he's not even your men don't be the crazy girl don't feed into the craziness by enabling when he's what he's doing to you okay because you'd feel like you can't get with anyone else I understand it's hard sometimes and you've been sleeping with the same person a you don't want to have to start all over again all this stuff and especially if you didn't sleep with this person it's honestly even all the more easier but if you are someone that's sleeping with someone and you're just like oh my gosh like I'm just so hurt because you have that emotional attachment to that person the only way out is through the only way out is through okay and I really want you ladies to evaluate this am I actually crazy are you actually crazy because your boyfriend decides that he's gonna go comment on girls pictures and call you crazy for calling him out or are you crazy because you're deciding to be a girlfriend to someone who's not your boyfriend and you're getting upset because he's commenting on girls pictures because for some reason on every Monday he's acting strange and you know he's with another girl okay and you know what he's doing and it's hurting your feelings how much more are you gonna take he doesn't have to call you crazy you're driving yourself crazy are you crazy so that is the end of this video guys I really hope that you ladies enjoyed it and with that being said do not forget to turn on your post notifications to make sure that you're notified every single time that I post also if you have a question and you need 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Channel: Asha Christina

Views: 31,355

Rating: 4.9469318 out of 5

Keywords: level up, relationships, relationship advice, advice, beauty

Id: TwHoDKUJexw

Length: 31min 5sec (1865 seconds)

Published: Tue Jun 11 2019