What Was Your First Traumatic Experience? | People Stories #441

serious what was your first traumatic experience when i was five six ish my drunken dad and payoff mother were fighting again they fought quite often this particular fight my dad was extra drunk when i was going to bed they bursted into my room my dad was holding her on the ground with a knife to her neck threatening to kill her 10-ish minutes later my dad is in the garage with one of our mena guns to his head loaded and safety off my brother both my sisters and i were watching as he almost shot himself they aren't together anymore i saw a family of six get into a bad car wreck on the interstate easter sunday of second grade got a good five seconds view of a contorted body of a woman who got thrown out a windshield short burnt into my brain and desensitized the frick out of seven years old me fast forward 10 years and i watched a classmate of mine get smacked by a pickup truck in front of my house while he was on a bike ran to him and he was obviously already dead and his abdomen was basically jello i stayed with him until the ambulance took him somehow out of the whole experience the worst thing about it was me trying to explain to my mom why i had blood up to my elbows i was four my family went to visit my grandparents they had an in-ground pool everyone was outside having a bbq i was walking around the edge of the pool and looked down and saw my little brother had fallen in the pool right behind the ladder he was only one so he obviously couldn't swim i laid down on my stomach and looped my arms under his armpits pulling his head above the water but just barely he was heavy he was fully dressed and i was only four i screamed and screamed for our mother it felt like forever but someone finally noticed me and all the adults came rushing over no one ever talked to me about it afterwards i was terrified of water for a long time and i'm still very overprotective of my little brother not talking to kids about trauma they experience is a common theme here this isn't my trauma but it's something that's always stuck with me i worked as a waitress in an assisted living for many years and one day while i was resetting my tables i overheard a resident talking about his first memory when he was a child he had an earache so his mom was warming up some oil to pour into his ear to help unblock it while she's heating up the oil his mom was talking to his aunt and she wasn't paying attention to how long she'd been heating up the oil and didn't test the temperature before she poured it directly into his ear he said that it was instant horrible searing pain and he couldn't get the oil out of his ear fast enough she basically fried his inner ear and he eventually lost hearing in that ear that actually happened to my grandfather he's deaf in one ear from too hot oil being poured into his ears as well as insufficient ear protection when setting off ammunitions in the army coming up on two years in a few months a homeless man committed suicide by kneeling in the middle of the road it was 12 30 a.m i was on my way back to work from lunch he was wearing all black and i didn't even have time to press the brakes because there is little to no lighting near the port i work at my guess is he was hoping for one of the many semi-trucks that go down that road but instead he got me still don't like driving at night but i'm the night guy and i still have to drive that road my sister tried to commit suicide when i was seven by cutting her arms legs and neck with a razor blade my older cousins found her and hauled her into the driveway me and my sister grabbed towels for my parents we waited 20 minutes for an ambulance she survived and was sent to a group home when i was 11 years old my best friend passed out a swim meet me and my friends at first thought she was fine but two days later we were brought to the hospital to visit her she was in a coma and completely unrecognizable her parents told us to try to talk to her because she might be able to hear us but all we could do was cry she died later that day i don't think anyone knew how to properly help a bunch of 11 year olds grieve my dad beat the crap out of me when i was 7 years old because i told him i didn't like him singing to me when he woke me up for school i'm about the same age he was when he did that to me and i can't imagine having the arrogance to do that to a child my kid is probably a little older than i was the first time i got spanked slapped or whatever else and it is pretty freaking wild to think about my mom doing stuff like that but granted i think my daughter's smarter than i was at her age four but if i ever hit her even once i know for a fact she would never forgive me and probably wouldn't be able to trust me outside of obligation my last foster mother gave me a reason to splash in the tub guess my three or four year old self needed taught not to splash water she held my face underwater for what seemed a lot longer than it probably was i never understand how these animals pass through the checks to become foster parents in the first place probably coming home from school to find my house empty then live with my teenage sister in that empty house for a few weeks then a parent came and picked me up and brought me to the new house found out they got a divorce i was about nine when i was younger like maybe five or six i was playing around with my brother in my bedroom who just learned how to walk so we're just playing in there and my brother lost his balance and his fell on the sharp edge of my bed frame the edge is so sharp it punctured a hole on my brother's head he cried while blood was dripping down his head my parents busted through the door and rushed into the air he has a little scar on his head to this day losing my mum at nine she was raising me mostly by herself and my birth father was not part of my life ever she was in hospital for something that should have been simple but she had to stay overnight the next morning my mum's partner and my uncle mum's brother turned up at the partner's parents place where i was i was all excited because i only got to see my uncle for birthdays and christmas then they sat me down and told me what happened first time i know i just burst into tears no build up or anything just heard the words from my uncle and i started crying been over 25 years now and i still get choked up and i struggle watching any show about foster kids or losing mums to this day also i visit her grave every year on her birthday that must have been so terrible i hope you are doing okay these days a dog ripped the part of my cheek off i looked in the mirror before i went to the ear and saw my exposed jawbone when i was 10 a rottweiler bite my nose and its teeth pierced my nose and i passed out and pouring blood everywhere it was my friend's dog and they didn't take me to the hospital because they didn't want their dog taken away so they just cleaned me up and i went home no idea why my parents didn't do anything my mother was abusive emotionally and physically during my younger years one time i didn't sing her happy birthday when i was seven and so she locked me in a room and bent me over to cane me repeatedly now obviously to a seven-year-old this was super high-end pain and i was screaming and crying hysterically and it became a blur all i remember was my grandparents banging on the door and threatening to call the police thank god your grandparent seems sane had a babysitter hold my left hand against a lit burner because i was colouring with the wrong hand joys of being left-handed my mom screamed and threw the pencil out of my hand when i wrote she would hit my hands i started writing with my right hand at home and left at school she thought she fixed me and was horrified when she saw me and my daughter both colouring with our left hands years later she started scolding me for not stopping her i kicked my mom out before she could traumatize my child physical got run over by a car when i was four mental somewhere around four step father was in a drunken rampage and was going to hit me my dog bit him so he strangled my dog to death in front of me this one hit me in my gut i can say with almost complete confidence i would be a different person today if something like that had happened to me i'm really sorry it was a mental one i was very young and i woke up to my dad yelling at my mom while she was sobbing for what felt like an eternity over the fact that she bought herself a lighter and didn't buy him one they both smoke it was from then on that i noticed my dad was an alcoholic and he hated us well crap the first traumatic experience i remember was when i was 11 i remember waking up in the middle of the night hearing my parents scream at each other i laid in bed for what seemed like ages until i heard the front door slam i waited a little and the house was dead silent when i got the courage to get out of bed i remember my dad sitting on the floor in the kitchen crying i didn't understand what was going on so i just sat next to him and cried too i found out the next day that my parents were getting divorced i've had another loss four months prior but honestly the worst was dealing with the 13 days of my dad being diagnosed with the rare form of lymphoma to his death that quick we didn't know he had cancer and it spread so rapidly the whole side of his family had cancer btw i was 15 two years ago and it was honestly a horrible and early age to deal with it i talk about my experience with loss whenever i have the chance to and sometimes i feel like i'm seeking attention for it but honestly it's how i cope a grief support group can be helpful because you can share your experience and know that others understand it can help you feel less alone and you are also able to provide empathetic support to others i'm sorry for the loss you have experienced my parents were fighting i was about five and my brother seven dad threw mum down the stairs and threw her university textbooks at her grabbed her face and hit her multiple times my brother and i were crying didn't know what to do so we just watched they separated five years later which was a bit late divorce was just finalized last month woohoo fun fact about my dad he forced my mom to marry him three days after meeting her in real life he met her in the states but lives in canada then when it came time to cross the border she is an immigrant from indonesia he made her marry him i didn't know this until this year he's a real scumbag and i don't plan on ever rebuilding our relationship sorry you witnessed that i posted a similar story elsewhere in the thread we were just kids not much more we could have done except watch in fourth grade i had a sleepover with another boy who was more let's say developmentally advanced than me i was a small kid always the smallest in my class at night he grabbed me pinned me down face first pulled down my pajamas and raped me i didn't scream i just froze it hurt but to be honest it didn't hurt too bad i was just learning about sex and he told me that this is what adults do and i'm being the woman i was curious at the time and part of me just wanted to go along but also i couldn't resist since he was bigger than me and pinning me down i've never told anyone i just told my parents that he played too rough and i didn't want to play with him anymore so we never had him over and i never went back to his house they believe that since i was a kind of soft child honestly i've never written this out before i don't think about it often maybe once a year but when i do oh man does it hurt my mom took my dad and i to the park where she was planning on telling him that she was leaving him i was told to wait in the car as i heard them yelling at each other my mom then opened the car door told me she loved me and left me and my dad there we tried looking for her but couldn't find her watching my mom walk away and out of my life at seven years old gave me horrible separation anxiety when i was nine years old i was almost kidnapped a block from my house a van pulled over and the passenger said hey see mirror and then chase my friend and me my friend was on his bike and got away easily i ran for the corner and made it around luckily a neighbor was in their yard on the other side of a large hedge blocking the view of what was happening the neighbor was deaf and didn't understand what i was upset about i waited near the neighbor until the kidnappers got back in the van then i sprinted home staying shielded from the street by going through people's yards jumping fences etc flat out sprint during the last few hundred feet without cover to get to my parents house the whole time i was running i was just waiting to see the van turn the corner and figure out where i live my deaf neighbor very likely saved my life just by being outside when i was a kid i was walking with my dog through this big field with very tall grass as we're walking all her hair stands up on end and she jumped in front of me right as a big coyote came charging out of the grass at us it was bigger than her but she put up a heck of a fight the sound of animals fighting is horrible i was just frozen with fair after a few seconds that felt like minutes she got the upper hand and turned the coyote on its heels and chased it off before doubling back to me i had never seen a wild animal aggressive like that and it scared the heck out of me the next day we found the coyote dead up close i could see that it was missing hair and seemed to have a very bad case of mange i felt kinda bad for it actually i had seen coyotes before and they always sprinted in the opposite direction this one must have been really sick and desperate to go after my dog as i type this out 14 years later i'm happy to report that my dog is currently happily sleeping on my bed she's a great dog and even though she's slowed down with age she still stands up tall and raises her hackles whenever she hears the coyotes yelping in the woods behind my house i think she's still ready for round two i have too many to count but the first memorable one was around when i was in kindergarten as any other elementary school goes my school had a bathroom buddy policy to ensure that kids didn't just randomly go missing my bathroom buddy was another little girl who i love to play with and show my toy animals too one day she told me she wanted to show me something too but she could only do it in the bathroom so i brought my little toy dolphin to surprise her and she surprised me with my first experience with getting oral i remember her asking me how it felt and telling me to do it to her too but i didn't feel comfortable licking someone else's cooch she made me do it anyway because that's what big girls do fast forward a couple decades and i eventually told my parents they knew about it and it eventually became known that the little girl's mother brought home some real monsters oh my i have no words just horrible driving home late one night from work and saw an accident happen ahead of me in the freeway i pulled over to assist one car spun out and was in a ditch with steam shooting out of the radiator i saw the driver emerge from the cloud and asked if he was okay and if anyone else was in the car he said yes to both so i climbed down the ditch to the car i used my cell phone light to see but i didn't find anyone in the vehicle and the windows weren't busted while i was looking i heard not once but twice what sounded like cars hitting debris from the accident i looked around and didn't see anyone else around so i climbed back up to the freeway a person who turned out to be a passenger in the other car involved said there was a body in the road i asked if it flew out on one of the cars he said not his i asked where the driver of the car was that was in the ditch he didn't know i wakes over the body and it was the driver i had just spoken to he walked out onto the dark freeway and was hit and then run over he was pretty flat when i saw him with bits and pieces strewn around i got the impressionis was drunk during my brief encounter with him it took me a while to not blame myself for not making him sit down or something this is the first time i've been speechless on reddit that's so freaked i want to say something every time i see stories like this but i don't know what to say this time i had severe night terrors growing up the crazy thing about it is that i for the most part remember them talking to doctors they find this unusual as most people don't remember their night terrors just imagine every single awful emotion that you can feel terror dread fear confusion anxiety etc and ramp it up x 1000 there's no real way to describe it they were feeling so intense that it felt like physical pain your mind is in an absolute frenzy since you're technically sleepwalking it's strange now that i'm in my 20s and i haven't had a night terror in over 10 years and yet there are still strange thoughts and sounds that i will hear while i'm awake that will sort of trigger some of those same feelings i had during a night terror episode almost like ptsd or something they always happened when i was sick so i was always scared to go to bed whenever i had a fever growing up pretty sure it traumatized my sisters and parents as well i would wake all of them up with my screaming some nights while i would run around the house screaming and saying random gibberish usually my mom or dad would have to hold me restrain me until i came out of it not fun at all i was five years old and my grandma hit a car on the freeway both cars rolled but the driver of the other car wasn't wearing his seat belt he fell out the open window while it was rolling and was effectively smeared on the pavement by either our car or his car i remember sitting on the curb while a first responder was evaluating to see if i was okay but more than anything i remember the wife of the deceased man was screaming in agony at her meat crayon husband i told my family i didn't remember a thing from the accident because i didn't want them to worry felt like i was dying when i caught h1n1 swine flu in 2009 pandemic maybe i was could not breathe properly and had an autoimmune reaction that ruined my life left me with constant chronic severe leg pain when i was barely into my teens those three weeks of having that flu were traumatic indeed found out five years later i have a los danlos syndrome eds sucks i'm sorry you have that too on the night before my last day of third grade my mom sent me to bed early because we were going to joga lake local amusement park as an end of year school trip being way too excited to sleep i laid awake in bed to hear my dad arrive home drunk i crept to the top of the stairs and listened to the progressively more angry voices him and my mom got in a fight where he pushed her thankfully didn't cause any injuries the cops got called and my dad was arrested that night i don't think my younger brother or sister heard any of it but it was my first realization that my dad was an alcoholic it would take a couple more years to fully realize what that meant alcoholic parents gang unite goddammit sucks i went to her party in the woods one night like a bonfire and me and my friend were really drunk then someone gave us some xanax without us realizing it we both took it and the next thing i remember i wake up in a hospital bed most comfortable bed i've ever lain in but i overdosed that night and had my stomach pumped i couldn't eat a full meal without puking for like a week and i had intense heartburn for a month i still don't completely remember that night i've been kind of ashamed of it but figured this would help me get over it about three weeks before my seventh birthday my best friend was murdered by her dad he went nuts one day killed the dog cut up all the furniture stabbed her 47 times tried to kill her mom when she got home from work it was completely out of the blue he was a really great guy never hit her or anything he was non-vocal deaf so no yelling either but after he was sent to a mental hospital it came out that he had been hearing voices which had to be freaking horrible since he'd been born deaf frick physically molested encouraged to be raped at four by my older cousin older brother was made to believe it was my fault and blackmailed about it caused me a lot of shame growing up and even now i also remember my mom overdosing on valium in the same time period she survived i'm so sorry that happened nobody should ever have to go through that i can't believe they tried to get you to think it was your fault too sexual and physical abuse by my babysitter or coming home to my cat dead in the street i forget what happened first seven was a rough age i'm mexican so i am sorry if my english is bad when i was around six years old i was constantly with my mom because she worked as a domestic employee and she didn't had enough money for a babysitter and she didn't have any people of trust at the time in the city one day we were walking from the house where she worked to a bus stop in a highway where we waited around three minutes then everything here starts to get serious it was 2012 when drug war was really violent in mayari with a drug cartel called los zetas fighting for the area with other drug cartels we had so bad luck that a gun fight between los zetas and the army started there with us being trapped in the middle of the gunfire i remember i could see bodies and blood coming from the cartel cars i was so scared and my mom and sister were crying the gunfight lasted like two minutes but it felt like ours thankfully none of us got harmed in the army killed all of these guys i was traumatized for months but sadly the constant violence was normal for me and didn't even got scared anymore i'm so thankful you are okay your family was all right and that you're all still 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Length: 22min 52sec (1372 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 15 2021