Toxic Mother In Law Destroyed My BABY SHOWER Because She Pretends She's My Baby's MOM - Family Drama

what was the worst thing your mother-in-law did at your baby shower this was at my friend's baby shower today i know friend had issues with her mother-in-law and a lot of the issues are resolved with there isn't anything she can do it's just the way mother-in-law is prior to the baby shower i told friend i would back her if she needed i have no care whether or not this witch of a mother-in-law thinks i'm an idiot first instance jocasta mother-in-law was talking to some of baby mama's friends mother-in-law said something along the lines of my baby will be just as cute as me cue me saying with massive annoyances in my voice oh weird i didn't think you were the one having your son's baby instant cbf second instance photo session a few friends wanted to get a picture with friend husband and toddler mother-in-law decided to jump in the middle of husband and friend with shirt that was some grandma saying shirt husband instantly told his mom to get out of the picture he doesn't really like his mom and sister very much instantaneous cbf and snide comments on the side third instance title quote mother-in-law was leaving as they had to start driving back home as she was leaving i heard her from the other room say very intentionally loudly i'm sad to go because what is a baby shower without grandma i of course being an idiot shouted from the other room still a baby shower friend was laughing so hard that instead of finishing her goodbyes comes over to the room i was in to hug and thank me i wish i saw the cbf when i said that apparently it was priceless i really don't tolerate much when it comes to moms and mothers-in-law anymore don't mess with my friends even if you're a stranger i'll say something snarky to your just no mom slash mother-in-law y'all i wish i was making this up i wish this hasn't been going on but it is so my husband and i announced our pregnancy to his parents on february 1st we presented it using baby items mixed into regular birthday items for his dad's birthday his dad was genuinely happy but his mom gave me a genuine stink eye i mean this woman glared at me keep in mind husband and i have been together six years and i haven't had too much of an issue with mother-in-law so this was unexpected after announcing to mother-in-law and father-in-law she took it upon herself to make an announcement on facebook i told husband to call her immediately and tell her to take it down she did but not without having some form of opinion on how she did nothing wrong i am now 17 weeks and have just started showing around 14 weeks before showing she would make a point to always touch my stomach and talk and baby talk she is literally the only person to touch my stomach nobody in my family has done so i am not fond of people touching me and she knew i wasn't comfortable with it she continued to do this until having to be told by husband that i don't care for it after he told her i went to her house where she said i know he said you don't like people touching your stomach but i have to give my grandbaby some love and proceeded to touch my stomach and talk and baby talk it absolutely annoyed me off that even though she knew how i felt she disregarded my feelings to do what she wanted to do due to this situation husband was not allowed to go into room with me during ultrasound that revealed the baby's gender because of this we decided to have a reveal to ourselves and share it on facebook live the idea would be that we would be surprised along with everyone else husband's cousin set up the reveal for us mother-in-law was not happy with this at all she kept insisting that we tell her first before revealing to everyone else she knew we didn't want to know beforehand husband had to finally tell her that this is what we were doing and she had no say in it we knew that we couldn't trust her to set up the reveal and she is petty enough to have ruined the surprise for us so we invited her to our reveal instead of having her watch it on facebook we had our ultrasound today and afterwards stopped by her house on the way to cousin's house so husband could go to the bathroom he's bathroom shy while there she came up to the car to talk to me and started in on our reveal she told me it was nonsense and started raising her voice about how that's not how it was done back then i informed her that there is a situation going on and we are not allowed to have large gatherings that if this wasn't happening things would be different so of course she's still mad but shuts her mouth and agrees to come to our house at six for the reveal fast forward to reveal and it's me husband stepson mother-in-law father-in-law my sister and her mother we gather outside and stay apart from each other our reveal was smoke bombs only thing available as our original reveal was not able to be completed in time husband and i are on facebook live and recording and we light the smoke bombs as soon as the blue comes out she starts yelling no and crying i'm trying my best to ignore her but can see my sister's mom giving me a look of what luckily the facebook live messed up and the video didn't record so my family and friends didn't have to witness her uncalled for meltdown we re-recorded to share with them and of course all of them are happy and supportive mother-in-law and father-in-law leave a few minutes later husband's cousin is calling me and telling me that mother-in-law had called her and was crying and saying that she wanted a girl and our smoke bombs were wrong it truly makes me feel like crap this is my first and only pregnancy husband and i are raising his son from an earlier pregnancy and don't want to go over two children and she's really putting a huge damper on it i have had so much love and support from everyone else in my life and then to have to sour it is insulting she's shown me how selfish she really is i've heard stories but now i've seen the real person she is husband is tired of me saying anything about it because mother-in-law watch his stepson husband and i are both essential employees and he doesn't want me to annoy her off where she won't watch him while we work so now i feel like i have to accept her feelings about my pregnancy and deal with it which is unfair i'm sorry if this is so long and has some grammatical errors so much has happened and i'm honestly over it now here's to being pregnant for four and a half months and dealing with her wish me luck disclaimer she should know it's her son who determined the gender of the baby and be upset with him i'm tired of her sour looks and attitude directed towards me my husband's brother and wife are hosting a gender reveal party tomorrow and my husband and i thought it would be a nice time to announce our own pregnancy i mentioned this to a co-worker today and she seemed absolutely shocked and said that if her sister-in-law did that to her she'd be furious i literally had never considered it to be a big deal i'm not a fan of the whole gender reveal thing in the first place but it's basically like a second baby shower right and i don't see what's wrong with announcing a pregnancy at that sort of event some background my husband's family is not close the whole gang gets together for holidays weddings funerals and kids birthdays early on in our marriage i tried to host regular dinners once a month or so but nobody would show up my sister-in-law have always gotten along but weren't particularly close either this is the second pregnancy for both of us and i don't plan on having a gender reveal or baby shower or anything for my pregnancy my family is the type to have a big breakfast or dinner together at least every other weekend and announcing our pregnancy to them is simple with my husband's family this is the only time it seems possible without orchestrating some big fake event as a cover i saw it as convenient but is this rude i guess we should call everybody individually a week from now to share the news but that sounds like a pain hello all i've been reading your stories here for a while since i found out about this sub when i got pregnant i saw many stories about how the bsc ramps up when people get pregnant but i didn't think i'd really get to participate in the fun my mother of course has her own just no tendencies but i thought my mother-in-law was going to be more sane but this is just no so of course something happened so now for the story i am currently 30 weeks pregnant and my very sweet friend offered to host a shower for me yay cake i debated inviting family at all because of some of the issues with my mom but caved and decided to invite the moms and sisters sisters-in-law addresses need to be acquired so i ask my dear husband to get the addresses for his side dear husband forwards me the email and at the bottom i will paraphrase since we're on the topic my bff wants to throw a shower at her house too it'd just be my sisters and friends small but we'll wait until the baby comes so everyone can meet him i was at work and i messaged my husband right away hell no she is not throwing a baby shower for herself and i'm not driving three hours one way with a less than three month old so a bunch of old ladies can play past the baby during cold and flu season i told him a lot of the lines i have learned here our son is not a toy doll or a prop he is a human being that we are responsible for protecting he seemed to agree but thought he'd just ignore the request for now i told him she wasn't going to let it go and that i wouldn't be nice about it if she brings it up to me which she will likely do during my shower why are grandma showers a thing seriously about a month prior i receive a text from my close friend inviting me to her baby shower i pay all of my own bills work full-time while being full-time in college so money and time is tight but i knew this was important so i went ahead and told her i would request off work and definitely be there a week later i went out and splurged and bought bottles pacifiers baby shampoo etc as a gift to give her at the baby shower anyways about a week before the baby shower i get a text from her saying this party would actually be a gender reveal party and they were having a separate baby shower three weeks later that she wanted me to come to as well okay i was slightly annoyed because i knew i was going to have to request off work again and buy another gift i told her i would try my best to be there but i couldn't make any promises two days before the now gender reveal party she texts me in a group message of people and says there's an entry fee of 20 to the party i was seriously blown away i understand it takes planning and money to put together a party but it was her choice to have one i texted her privately outside the group message and told her i didn't have twenty dollars extra to bring to the party since i already got her a gift and had other bills to pay she replied saying sorry girl i can't make just an exception for you you promised you would be there i didn't reply and didn't show up she texted me a few days later informing me i was disinvited to the future baby shower and how she was appalled i couldn't even send her a message to let her know i wasn't coming after i said i would be there reddit i understand maybe i should have clarified i wasn't coming at that point although she knows my situation and that i live paycheck to paycheck i have now lost a close friend and i seriously can't decide in october 2018 after a year of actively trying my dear husband and i found out i was pregnant a week later we find out it's twins at christmas time my mother-in-law approaches me about having a baby shower for me at her house with a small group of her friends and family i thought that was extremely sweet and nice of her to offer and made a point of letting her know well fast forward a couple of weeks and my husband and i are in the middle of setting up the cribs when my mother-in-law calls to speak with dear husband once the call is over he comes in to tell me that his mother has decided that instead of having the baby shower before the twins are born she wants to have the baby shower shortly after they are born naturally my dear husband wanted me to be on board and excited about this but i told him i had some concerns first off we are first-time parents and to twins no less i have no idea what life is going to be like after they are born plus there is a chance i'll be recovering from a c-section which i did and the girls might have a nick use day which they did for 11 days add to the fact that we would have to be packing them up and driving the hour and a half one way down to my mother-in-law's house so all her friends and family can see the girls and i imagine hold them and snuggle them and before you ask there is no way she would ever entertain the idea of having a baby shower up in our neck of the woods she and some of her friends are not a fan of long drives i told dear husband i appreciate the offer of a baby shower however i am not sure if i'm okay with this new change especially when it isn't something we even discussed with his mother she just arbitrarily decided on this change it is a lot easier to attend a baby shower while pregnant versus recovering from a c-section with two newborns i left it that it would be okay but i couldn't commit to a time frame until after the girls were born i made it clear that the first month after birth was not possible well my mother-in-law got extremely offended when we mentioned the concerns we had all my dear husband and i wanted to be aware of are the variables that come with having the event post-birth unfortunately my mother-in-law didn't really listen to what we had to say and just took our concerns as an excuse to not have the baby shower between that moment and when the girls were born my mother-in-law wouldn't speak to me first and foremost i would like to thank my husband for being a part of this troll on his mother my mother-in-law is baby crazy she's a good grandmother but constantly pushing me to have more and more kids and i'm already pregnant with number three with all of my children and her other grandchildren she has orchestrated the gender reveals i'm not too big on those i don't think gender matters anyway i asked her since this is my last baby if i could be the one to do the reveal i had a special idea i told my husband my idea and he was completely on board all of my close friends were on board too and agreed to help husband and i with this fast forward to the party i had ultrasound photos in an envelope with a special note to my mother-in-law and my friends helped me make a cake with a green inside rather than pink or blue we had the party at my house just in case there were any meltdowns when it was time to cut the cake i pulled mother-in-law to the side and handed her the envelope and told her she could not open it until after the cake is cut everyone at the party except her knew that i didn't want to know what baby's gender was until after the birth of the baby husband and i cut the cake revealed the green inside and everyone lost it with excitement everyone was screaming husband and i were crying and kissing mother-in-law was just standing there no expression on her face how dare you she said stone cold and i responded that the answer was in the envelope she opened it put it on the counter and left what was in the envelope congratulations it's a baby this is my first kit if it matters i'm 25 years old i'm around 6 months i have said no every single time it's brought up when i found out i was pregnant i was of course happy i always wanted to be a mother i started researching right away i found what i want ranging from wipes to the exact crib i want i personally do have the money to buy the things i want and i'm not dumb i can ask for these things but people will get inferior products because they're cheaper i don't want anyone to waste money on something i'll likely throw away re-gift or donate to a mother in need i even show mom the wish list i made keeping track of items i will buy her comments were along the lines of that's dumb that's too expensive you had blah blah and turned out fine as soon as she found out i was pregnant she's been on about a shower i stated firmly that no i do not want to shower she whines that i'm robbing her of this experience she somehow makes this whole thing about her i don't want gifts i won't use i don't want lame baby games i don't want people constantly trying to touch me i don't want to be hounded for a name or if i know the gender i don't want to have to entertain people when i'm still suffering morning sickness the name is misleading you can go all day and night i must have said no a hundred plus times and in five languages and she just didn't care so the day of i sneak out the back early and meet up with my two best friends who were invited to the party and understood and we went for an awesome lunch together i left my phone off in my bag all afternoon when i finally get home my mom starts screaming about how disrespectful i am how embarrassed she was and this and that i tell her i didn't want a party and i told her over and over again i didn't want a shower she demands an apology and that i reach out to all of the guests she invited like every female we know to apologize i won't she's still being grumpy and won't talk to me a few days later suits me just fine the worst part remember how i shared my wish list with her so she can see what i wanted i of course checked the gifts left behind by those generous enough to do so i would get rid of probably 90 percent of this stuff already called and thanked people and asked them to return no one seems upset so am i the idiot for ditching my own shower because i certainly don't feel like it people have told me i should have gone for my mom because it's her first grandchild and she spent a lot of money on it okay well it's my child and i told her i don't want a shower and she ignored me and did it anyway so first things first i'm not a professional baker my sister is having her second child my niece and she is throwing a baby shower for our family her husband's family and some friends in total it will be a party for a hundred guests well last time when she was pregnant of her first child i was responsible for baking brownies for the party i was working very hard by that time i had gotten a huge project to run for a big client it was so effing tiring i baked anyway and it was a pain i made up to eight trays of brownies cut them and wrapped them in the paper she chose all by myself she didn't help at all my mother and her mother-in-law also worked hard on the baby shower however i can't remember if she had helped anyone at that particular time to be honest i don't want to be unfair here you

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Length: 18min 29sec (1109 seconds)

Published: Sat Aug 29 2020