Sister Demands I Get Rid Of My DOG From My Home Because She's Pregnant - Narcissist Sister Stories

how do you deal with a toxic sister what was the worst she did so my male dad died not that long ago it'll be six months next week my mom moved us out of our house because she said it hurt her too much to be there and now we are living in this new house for two months now and I hate it last month my 20 years old sister told us she's pregnant so now her and my mom are getting ready for a baby in the house to be honest I'm not really excited like them but I thought whatever until yesterday my sister told me I have to get rid of my dog before the baby comes I asked her why and she said because dogs are bad for pregnant woman and newborns babies because they carry germs and parasites I told her that's not true I always bathe my dog he has all his shots and we take him to the vet regularly he's also been around lots of babies before and he's super friendly to them so he can't be a danger to her baby my sister got mad so she got my mom involved she told my mom I was being a brat and that I don't care that I'm poisoning her baby I told my mom I didn't want to get rid of my dog my dad bought him for me as a puppy on my ninth birthday there have been lots of changes these months losing my dad us moving and now getting ready for a new baby my dog is the last connection to my dad my mom's not home much neither is my sister so I feel like all I have is my dog I explained to my mom why I don't want to get rid of him she said she understands he's important to me but I need to stop thinking about myself and consider my baby niece or nephew I said I don't even believe my dog is bad for my sister's pregnancy she never liked him since dad bought him and I feel like she's using this to get him out of our house my mom said she isn't gonna forced me to get rid of him and she will leave it up to me my sister's been mad at cincin keeps making comments about how she hopes me taking my sweet time deciding what to do won't damage her baby they are both expecting me to do the right thing but I don't know if I want to does that make me bad am I wrong because I want to keep my dog PS my dog avoids my sister because she treats him bad if he's close so it's not like he'll be all over her ages me 25 female sister 24 mom and dad 58 so I'm Abby and when I was younger I had a girlfriend my sister found out by accident and after begging her not to tell my parents she didn't and then on my birthday she told my parents long story short I was kicked out / disowned and my lovely aunt took me in and cursed out everyone in my family for doing that that year was honestly hard for me since my sister then gossiped about it at school thank God my friends didn't care or I would have gone crazy so when I was 19 I broke up with my girlfriend after a year found my now husband and I'd got a house so everything is good now when my family found out I had a venn by friend they were happy I finally turned straight which then made me yell at them and told everyone to never call me so a few days ago my sister called me like everything was okay and asked me to babysit her two kids I declined immediately she started begging me saying that she needed to shop and needed a day off and asked me why I was being so difficult I told her that she was the one who made my years difficult and that she should get lost and hire a babysitter she then started yelling at me saying that was like eight years ago and that I shouldn't be holding a grudge and then yapped about how family is family I told her to hire a babysitter and hung up my husband supports me for doing that but now my family have been calling me and saying I'm being unreasonable am I wrong it's been like eight years so that's why I'm asking edit she has apologized to me sorry for not adding that in but it wasn't genuine it was sorry for doing that you know I suck at secrets which was a big lie by the way she waited till my birthday to tell my parents because we didn't have the best relationship really so I've avoided her and it's obvious she feels no remorse I asked her if she felt any remorse and she told me that she did the right thing because I would not have become Strait had she not made me cut off sir her calling me out of the blue was strange since I hadn't talked to her for months really before the reason I have not touched the block button is because I would rather be in contact just in case or an emergency happens I don't know really know why guess it's because I just want them to genuinely apologize I'm still young my sister is 23 we have a great relationship and I'm even cool with her boyfriend last week I was supposed to spend at her place as we hadn't seen each other during the lockdown her boyfriend would be there three times they don't live together it was all good till their night activities woke me up in the middle of the night her flat is large and our bedrooms are at the opposite ends of the hall so that meant they were loud I hoped it it ends soon but they were in for a ride I tried headphones with music I didn't hear them but couldn't sleep with loud music blasting I didn't say anything as it was their first night and thought they'd tire each other out well same thing next night I was knackered the morning after plus I learned the boyfriend would probably come around more than three times at the point I started to ponder getting back to my parents as I have insomnia and that could mess my entire sleep schedule I told my sister I forgot helping my friend with chemistry and my mum picked me up she couldn't wrap her head around and constantly asked me she probably knew I was lying as we know each other well she asked me if she had done something wrong I told her no and we do the same thing next month her boyfriend would be abroad but she wasn't having it eventually I told her I couldn't sleep as I heard them shagging and she was shocked she even brought it up at our family dinner which was super embarrassing because I hadn't told my parents and it looked like she was mad at me my parents didn't want dive in but told her it had be good if it could be arranged that I wouldn't sleep there when her boyfriend did she got upset calling me nosy and eventually left earlier she's not replied to my messages or calls this past week me 22 female and my sister 27 fight she's getting married this November and instead of the typical gift asked me to make a custom dress for her wedding reception I work for a sem stress the woman I work for has her own boutique and a lot of tailoring work / custom gowns for wedding / prom / special occasions I freelanced with doing costumes for local theatre and sometimes two commissions for cosplayers overall I have been sewing for seven years my sister knows this which is why she asked for the reception dress I've been working with her to get the logistics of the dress down style / color / - tails / et Cie all I've gotten the solid YES on is her measurements otherwise she's flip-flopped significantly and/or brushed my questions off saying it's not until November we have plenty of time a custom dress takes a lot of time and effort to make and some materials depending on what she wants may have to be ordered or fabric dyed on top of it all the dress is free and in-between my own projects / actual job most recently I when I asked her about the dress she told me she wanted a quick change dress a.k.a a dress that rolls down into a different one she wanted the dress she walked into the reception with to be white and the dress it changed into to be red to match her theme at this point I told her I wasn't doing that kind of dress quick change outfits cost a ton more in fabric and are not comfortable to wear and you usually have to sacrifice details for the ability to change dresses when I told her this she got huffy and said doing too short / simple dresses was just as easy and cost-effective as doing one big intricate one not true I got really frustrated and told her I wasn't gonna spend $500 minimum on a dress she'd wear once when she hadn't even given me the details of exactly what she wanted I said if she was gonna be this unreasonable she could buy her own reception dress cause I wasn't gonna put up with her indecisiveness / craziness she said I was being nasty for going back on my promise and she'd already been counting on this dress being free when budgeting not my problem in my opinion my mom called me up later and said my sister called her crying about me going back what I'd said and no longer having a reception dress at this point I've stopped caring and honestly don't even want to go to the dang wedding anymore my boyfriend and I have been together for about three years now his sister lives with their parents who live about three hours away so we only see them once every few months I've never gotten on particularly well with his sister but I've also never gotten the chance to know her she's three years older than him at the end of March the lease was up on our apartment we share and with the global situation putting a stop to everything my boyfriend's parents offered to let us move in until we would be able to rent somewhere else at every single meal she insists she needs to be next to my boyfriend like would probably shut me out the chair if I sat down next to him first she always has to be touching him in some way they cuddle on the sofa which is just absolutely bizarre to me she always rants about how lonely she is to him as well as telling me how lucky I am to find someone like him she barges into our room without even knocking usually first thing in the morning when he's half-naked and just starts talking to him it makes me so uncomfortable and he just thinks nothing of it I brought it up to him and told him it was kinda inappropriate for her to be acting like that considering they're both grown adults and he said he saw nothing wrong with it later that day I walked downstairs and they are literally spooning on the couch I called him from upstairs and told him to come up and when he did I told him that his relationship with his sister was borderline crazy and that if he didn't stop it I would go back to my parents he's now saying I'm being completely overdramatic and for some reason told his parents who are now being weird around me my husband and I found out we were expecting in April do in December I have previously had a miscarriage so this time I did not want to tell anybody until I got to 12 weeks pregnant it was very painful last time to explain to others that I had lost my baby the only people I told were the ones I spent the most time with as they could tell I was not feeling well for quite a while and began to worry something serious was going on my older sister had a baby last year she did not tell me she was pregnant until she was 12 weeks along no big deal it's expected I was not angry at all I went out of my way to drive five hours to help her with her baby shower when I had to be back at home and at work for 7:00 a.m. the next day I spent half of my Christmas vacation helping her clean getting her groceries cooking meals and taking care of the baby so she could get lots of breaks when she found out I was pregnant at 12 weeks she absolutely lost her mind that I did not tell her sooner and now refuses to talk to me she has also been going to other family members complaining about how hurt she is that I could do that to her I am tired of explaining why I kept it quiet I did not make my miscarriage known to many nor do I have to I have made the decision that I refuse to apologize to her for this because I really don't feel that I need to we made the decision we felt was best for our family it's been hot recently here in the UK so my sister 21 has been spending her days sunbathing in the garden nothing wrong with that doesn't affect me 19 doing my workouts right well yesterday I came outside to find my sister laying on her front with her bare back on display again nothing wrong with that I'm used to it by now so I went and started my workout in the middle of said workout I came back up the garden to find her now laying on her back completely topless she had her sunglasses on so I figured she might have fallen asleep or something turned out she wasn't she let out a mildly annoyed what I told her it's no big deal but that she might want to wear a bikini top next time as she probably doesn't want her brother or anyone else for that matter seeing her breasts she let out an exasperated whatever man then turned over and went back to ignoring me I figured that this was problem solved that I couldn't be more on because the next morning I came outside to find her wearing absolutely nothing like literally nothing aside from the sunglasses I walked over to confront her about it before I could say anything she turned and asked what now I told her I was confused as I thought she agreed not to sunbathe and rest around me anymore her response was that she heard me but that she doesn't have to listen to me as it's her body and she can do what she wants with it she told me I could go ahead and exercise what's your deal you've seen me anyway I'd rather not do it with her sprawled out naked so I figured we could come to a compromise I asked her when she would be done she told me she didn't know and that she wasn't going to plan her day around my workout schedule I told her this was unfair to which she said take it up with mum and dad so that's what I did dad wanted nothing to do with it but mum agreed to talk to her by the time she came back in my mum had switched sides completely and started giving out to me about making my sister feel self-conscious about her body in her own home I told her it's nothing personal and that I just want an hour where I can exercise Anna breasts free zone she told me that I would have to make other arrangements as it's unreasonable of me to make demands of other people in the garden I'm 22 female still living at my parents in the USA now that I finally graduated uni I'm looking to buy my own house / move within the next one to three months the sister in question is 20 female henceforth Gabby living at home as well while she's in uni I also have two other siblings along with my mother and father I've never been able to get along with Gabby I've tried it's just never happened personally I find her rude and abrasive to anyone she thinks she can get away with it for instance family I'm no angel myself I definitely have my moments but I like to think that I at least try to treat people with respect and solve problems like a 20-something year old any communication I have with Gabby ends with her screaming and me crying since I tend to cry when I get angry anytime I get screamed at it ruins the rest of my day and I hate that I can't be productive because of someone else about three weeks ago Gabby came home from her job in a foul mood from what my mom tells me the in group of girls at work won't invite her to lunch or really talk to her so she comes home and takes it out on everyone else after getting screamed at and another incident where she screamed at me and slammed my door hard enough to blow papers on the floor I decided I've had enough and emailed her if you have something to say to me you can email me or text me since then I haven't talked to Gabby at all I've ignored her she's free to ask me to do things for instance move when I'm standing in front of a kitchen drawer or I'm in her way that I never respond verbally I just move to me it's been great I haven't been screamed at in weeks haven't cried because of her in weeks my general mood has improved I found that I'm able to get back into a lot of my hobbies that I used to like like woodworking little Arduino projects drawing etc because I feel a lot more comfortable in shared spaces in the house rather than isolating myself in my room and playing video games until bedtime my father approached me Monday and said Gabby is making everyone else in the house miserable apparently since I've stopped talking to her she's taken to yelling at everyone else the things she used to yell at me for and she yells about me not talking to her he wants me to start talking to her again he says she can't help the way she is and that she sees the world differently and we need to accept that I refuse in my opinion I have to look out for myself at this point I can't make myself miserable because she's making everyone else even more miserable I think instead of blaming me for Gabby's actions my parents should step up I don't think Gabby has an excuse she refuses to seek help counseling medication anything I'm also hoping that this will help my parents see how nasty Gabby's particularly to my other two siblings since this is only temporary until I move out soon my husband and I want children we have their names picked out we know how we decorate the nursery etc a year and a half ago I had lost it I was seven weeks along I knew I was pregnant pretty much from the moment it happened did multiple tests at two weeks had an ultrasound at three weeks and lost it at seven weeks throughout those seven weeks we didn't discuss names nursery we didn't look at baby clothes we were excited but super chill I wanted to wait until we knew the gender before doing anything baby related it was a little surreal for me and I spent weeks three to seven crying all the time my emotions were all over the place when I lost the baby I didn't cry I didn't react at all it just happened and I we moved on with life I didn't tell anyone at first as I didn't think it was a big deal I also didn't really know how to tell people a few months later I told my older sister she became angry with me she said something along the lines of so many people struggle with fertility issues and here you are not caring that you lost a child you shouldn't be so passive don't talk about your loss unless you do it with a sad tone you'll upset other people so I didn't talk about it for another few months and she does not struggle she's a fertile Myrtle I flew to visit a close friend who I hadn't seen in a year and opened up about my loss and my sister's reaction my friend was supportive and appreciated hearing about my experience she said that I should talk about it more often as I can't be the only person that felt / feels the way I do I shouldn't feel ashamed and people should not shame me for not sharing identical feelings I took her advice no I didn't start blasting my nonchalant attitude over the internet but when discussions about babies are happening and when I'm asked / told to hurry up and have children I mentioned my loss and that we decided to wait a bit longer I received sympathies and then I receive rage how dare I not be sadder about my angel in heaven Fredette I'm not sad and probably never will be but I do want to know and I the idiot should I not speak about my losses my attitude may upset people I'm also a slavic woman every single cousin aren't and friends mothers berate me about having children [Music]

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Length: 20min 7sec (1207 seconds)

Published: Thu Jul 02 2020