Narcissist DAD Reads My DIARY & Demands I Explain My SECRETS - Toxic Family Drama Stories

redditors what's the craziest family drama you've ever experienced I male 35 have a daughter I've been a single father since she was about three years old as I got sole legal custody due to some addiction issues her mother has we have a really good relationship but I always worry about her not having a woman to talk to over the past few months she hasn't really seemed to be herself I know she went through a bad breakup but I've been worried it's more than that I've tried talking to her and my sister only lives down the street so she's tried talking to her also but my daughter is really keeping to herself and it concerns me she went out to see her friends for the first time since started yesterday and asked me if I could give her room equipped ID whilst she was gone I agreed because she does a lot of chores but she's not good at cleaning her room whilst I was putting clothes back in her closet I stumbled upon what I now know to be her diary I shouldn't have read past the first page but I just wanted to know if there was anything going on she wasn't telling me about there were some pretty heartbreaking stuff for a father to read about how down she felt about herself so when she got home I brought it up to her she asked me why this was suddenly coming up and when I told her I'd read her diary she absolutely flipped and told me it was an absolute violation of privacy and she's completely humiliated I told her I was just trying to protect her and she said it was none of my business and locked herself in her bedroom and hasn't spoken to me since my son male 20 has been dating a girl he goes to university with for about six months now she's an international student from New Zealand but his family here so is staying with them during current situations due to lockdown restrictions and such we hadn't met her until a couple nights ago when I invited her over for dinner with my family we had facetimed a few times but not spoken a lot my husband and I are very Catholic and traditional but spent a lot of our twenties traveling the world including New Zealand we visited her hometown so asked her a few questions about it which she happily answered but when I asked about her Maori heritage and family became quite uncomfortable and said she didn't know a whole lot about it which I find hard to believe we asked her if she was religious she laughed and said no we asked her about her degree which she seemed very passionate about but it's a fashion degree which isn't exactly going to get her very far in comparison to my son who is a law student it's clear she loved my son and it's mutual and my other children adored her but I don't think she's the right fit for my son her parents were both very young when they had her and she's very open with the fact that they have a strong dislike for each other and haven't spoken since she was six months old she also seems to have a bizarre relationship with each of her parents after dinner she went and played Monopoly with my daughters and sons and made a couple crude jokes as well as laughing at my son her boyfriend when he lost my son asked me if she could stay and I said she could as long as she slept in a separate room which he said was ridiculous as they're both 20 and are living together next year she decided to leave as he didn't feel welcome after she left I told my son I didn't approve and that I could set him up with a nice girl from my church if he preferred but he said he loves her and was furious I would even suggest it my other son heard me and said he really liked her my husband said that even if I felt like that I shouldn't vocalize it because it's clear my son loves her I understand that but he should be with someone more suitable for our family in my opinion I'm not a good storyteller so I'll try to keep this short and sweet last week my family and I 24 male put my twin brother to rest he crashed his motorcycle and the EMTs weren't able to arrive in time to save him it's been a lot to deal with since we were making plans to hang out now that restaurants and bars have begun opening back up the funeral was a pretty small family gathering two of my brother's friends came and offered their sympathy which was nice our mom was inconsolable dad did his best to comfort her I stepped out for a minute to have a cigarette before the service trying to decide what I wanted to say about my brother my art 55 female came out to say hi then brought up how awful she feels her my parents having to bury their own son I nodded and started to say something but then she was like do you think it's really appropriate for you to be here I was so confused like euhh that's my brother I didn't say that yet just stared at her like she must be telling some weird joke I settled for are you kidding me then she said with you two being identical twins it must be like seeing a ghost I really think you should leave it might make this easier on your mom I completely lost it I tried to stay firm but calm saying she had no right to say something like that to me but my emotions got the best of me and I started screaming I called her some choice words and my dad came out as I was calling her an evil witch admit that may have been too much and my dad yelled at me not to talk to his sister that way he pulled her back inside and looked at me with this disappointed expression I went back in before the service my aunt sat far from me and didn't acknowledge me for the rest of the day my parents didn't bring it up either a few days later my dad calls and says he wasn't sure what had happened but there had been no need to cause a scene on a day like that I explained myself but he's not replied my cousin's think I'm the Rudy Diaz edit I want to say that I finally heard back from my dad yesterday he is technologically illiterate so mom had to show him my message that he never opened he called me and we talked for a while then he confessed something really bizarre to me in deference of my aunt when she was my age she had been pregnant with twins and she was really excited about them she had little matching hats and booties ready and everything even before her second trimester well one absorbed the other she was so distraught and she ended up terminating the other it may have been pressure from her now late husband this is somehow bringing up that old wound I feel like my dad's kind of grasping for straws that I held my tongue this time and apologized for making a scene I'm going to talk to my aunt soon too long story short my family 35 male 2 boys and I 32 female just recently moved into a new apartment complex our unit is at the very back of the building at the back of the property so behind us is just a wooded area nobody lives there at the very back of our unit in the one across from ours is a small balcony that faces out towards this wooded area because it the way the building is constructed you can't see onto another person's balcony unless you go to the stairs and lean over the railing otherwise the wall blocks you across from my unit is a family of four a young looking mother her husband and their two children who are both under the age of two I haven't had the chance to go introduce myself because I think one of their babies is a newborn and honestly momma seems exhausted anyway a couple of nights ago I made a horrific discovery went outside to call the boys in for dinner and found them both with their upper bodies flung over the railing staring into our neighbor's balcony I grabbed both by their pants and asked them just what they think they are doing and that's when I see it from their vantage point they could see straight into the neighbor leaders balcony where she was sat completely topless with underwear on listening to headphones I was livid not with her but with the boys the way I see it she's on her own personal property where no one is supposed to be able to see and not drawing any attention to herself plus if she's breastfeeding I get not having a top or bra on it's tedious to remove every few hours and for every feeding in between and who wears pants in their own house anyway I digress I pulled the boys in the house and took away their video games and phones until further notice and told my husband immediately when he got home but surprisingly he was mad at me saying boys would be boys and the lady should have some decency to wear clothes outside and asked me to speak to her about it I ripped him a new one and spent the night on the couch after which he apologized but the boy still seemed upset with me am I wrong for punishing them but not saying anything to the neighbor hey everyone nineteen years old and my parents are in their 50s for as long as I can remember I have been allergic to several things Dairy weed / flour / gluten legumes since I was a young child my parents have completely kept all of them out of our house while other kids ate breakfast cereals I ate fish and assorted pickled vegetables for breakfast while other kids had Lunchables I had grilled chicken or fish with again assorted vegetables usually sweet potatoes while other kids ate birthday cake at the birthday party I had an apple I never questioned this until a couple of months ago I was at my aunt's house for my birthday party and she made brownies for everyone for me she took great steps to make them with almond flour and avoid it all of my allergies I started eating them and thought little of it until my aunt suddenly looked at me and in a panicked way asked which plate I took the brown is from I pointed from the one where I got my brownies and she immediately stood up and told me we had to get my EP pen she raced to ask my mother for it and i sat there scared out of my mind because I had never mistakenly eat and flowered before I noticed my mother had calmed her down and then she said that we don't have to worry because she had switched the plates of brownies and after all I had eaten the ones made with almond flour I found this incredibly odd because really why would she swap the plates that doesn't even make sense but for the time being I let the issue rest it didn't sit well with me for about a week and I finally went to get an allergy test the doctor started with a skin prick test and lo and behold I didn't react to any of the above substances then he ordered a blood test and when the results came in they said that I had absolutely no intolerance to any of the foods I'm supposed to be allergic to I was furious and called my mother she eventually admitted that she lied to me because she wanted me to be on a pelea lithic diet and wanted me to be able to avoid all temptations she raised me with the lie about her own health but she keeps insisting that I try to see it from her perspective she spams my phone with mess is about how healthy I am that I never had acne that I have been in great shape my whole life that I have strong teeth and bones and even that I got onto a d1 college tennis team she has started calling me ungrateful for her intervention and insisting that I really should be glad I never got carb addicted I know what to think I carried around an EP pen for all those years one that I suspect may be fake seeing as my mother never got me to replace it and I don't even know anymore am I the idiot and an ungrateful son for losing it over this earlier this year my brother and his boyfriend split up and his boyfriend kept the apartment so my brother was left homeless my mum let him move back here under the condition that me and him alternate between the sofa and the bed after one night on the sofa he said he was too stressed out by my step that getting up early that he didn't want to sleep on it and when it was my night for the bed he'd say I'm upset can I have a bed tonight please I want a decent night's sleep so I said yeah the first few times that was four months ago and I've been on the sofa every night because he flat out refuses to lately my joints have been aching more and it's hurts to move I have Al's Danlos syndrome so my joints tend to ache more when I can't move much and on the sofa it's hard to get into a position where something doesn't slip out I tried to talk to my parents about it but I got shouted at and my mom screamed what do I expect her to do yesterday he called my room his room and screamed at me to get out when I was trying to get my hairbrush so I shouted back saying it's not his room it's mine and that we had a deal that we would share he called me a selfish witch and to get lost out his room and stop hassling him my mom has taken his side and that he's going through a rough time I have tried to be supportive I've bought him presents and comfort food listen to him vent I don't know am I wrong update - I called my Nana to vent and she went mental and demanded to speak to my mum I heard a lot of shouting down the phone and she said either me and my brother can come live with her for a bit it's been decided he'll live with Nana until he thoughts himself out pay his way by helping her around her flat thank you so much for all the advice I'm installing a lock tomorrow just in case Nana gets sick of him I 21 male have a son who just turned one his mum who was my girlfriend died in labor along with the other baby she was carrying I was diagnosed with terminal cancer three months ago and I don't have very long left two months at most I have accepted that I'm going to die but now I have to think about what's best for my son I had to decide who my boy would go to and I thought my mother 55 naturally but then I started to think of her situation as my older twenty nine lives with her along with his five kids all aged under five and I decided not to his mum works and my brother to be honest isn't really raising his kids more dragging the map and can be neglectful I wasn't going to put my son in that environment as I want someone to actually care for him so I then thought of my arms 33 on my dad's side she is a good mother and her husband a good father to their three girls and I know they could provide for my son I asked them and they agreed my mother however found out that I wasn't leaving my son with her and she got angry with me that she's loosing me and now losing her grandson I gave her my reasons and that she realistically can't raise him while she's basically raising a man-child and his kids it all ended in an even bigger argument and now I'm cooling off at home I understand that things are terrible for her right now as I won't be here soon but my aunt is a much better choice it's not like my son won't know who she is as the walk between hers and my aunt's is only five minutes am I the idiot my daughter turned 21 this past weekend as a Crossy milestone birthday celebration she decided to have a few friends over to play some drinking games my wife 23 female and I were bored and decided to join him everything is going well and then on my turn one of her friends reads the question which paraphrased is if you're in a scenario where you have to choose between only having your child or your spouse in your life who would you choose I answered my spouse my daughter immediately hit the wall she said and on my birthday too thanks dad she then went on to call her stepmother a child bride / gold-digger and basically brought up old divorce grievances between her mother 47 female and I that we specifically wanted to keep quiet she also went after the fact that I told my buddy not to hire her for his nonprofit initiative because her stepmother was already on the board and I wasn't going to make my wife work with someone who doesn't show her any respect and on the fact that her peers weren't using their connections for employment she then leaves my house and ends up going back to my ex-wife's my ex-wife calls me and calls me a terrible father even though I decided to host my daughter's get-together last minute because the apartment her mom moved into after the divorce was too small throughout the course of the evening a lot of inappropriate things were said and I was merely playing by the game's rules am I the idiot I feel like my daughter was intending to explode over old grievances and was looking for any trigger I 20 female was born in New Zealand my dad was a student mom was on a work visa and they moved there with my big sister I was an oops baby they gave birth to me while they were living in New Zealand and moved back home when I was 1 after dad graduated with his master's so my parents and sister probably lived in New Zealand for 3 years total I lived there for a year according to New Zealand citizenship law at the time I was eligible to become a citizen since I was born there even though neither of my parents are citizens however the slaw was changed in 2006 I was born in 2000 so the new law didn't apply to me since you know it didn't exist my sister gets married brother in law had been working in New Zealand for two years at the time they have a kid only to realize that since neither brother in law or sister is a New Zealand citizen their kid isn't eligible somehow this becomes my fault I should have told them that citizenship laws changed I should have done this I should have done that I mean it's just a google search a simple Google search would have told them everything they wanted no even I didn't know those laws were changed until I looked it up now she's back home and my mom still thinks I should have known and sister would have come home sooner if I had just said something she makes smoky passive-aggressive comments about it to me your sister lived in New Zealand longer than you but your future kid will be a New Zealand citizen regardless of where they are born it isn't fair I guess it's easier to blame me than to accept their own shortcomings I find this hilarious but also really annoying at the same time back story my 19 female mom has fibromyalgia and has not worked since before I was born and gets disability as well as housing benefits whenever any sort of money comes into my possession it's automatically hers by default my first job every check went to her and I kept some of my tips recently I've discovered that she's been periodically taking money from my bank account and putting it into hers without my permission I'm not sure exactly how much she's taken last year she filed my taxes and told me I got five hundred dollars in returns it came out that I actually received one thousand dollars and she kept half of it I had no knowledge of this this year I'm supposed to be getting around three thousand dollars which I want to put towards a car as soon as she knew I was getting a return her first response was oh but I'll have some money now now I've always helped with bills when I worked whenever she's asked for money or asked me to help her with buying something or help with finances I've done it with no hesitation however now that I know she's been stealing from me I'm hesitant to give her any of my tax returns despite her expecting at least half [Music]

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Published: Wed Jun 24 2020