r/Relations + r/Revenge - Is My Girlfriend CHEATING On Me With My Dad?!

g'day there guys wife took the kids and now I'm sad back at it again with another episode of Oz / relationship advice now if you guys love today's content please Chucky's like on the video sit back relax and Chuck a prawn on the barbie for today's bloody amazing contents posted by user throw are a foot massage titled I 24 male caught my girlfriend's 22 female giving my dad 54 male a foot massage my girlfriend and I have been dating for one year since we've both been struggling financially and she has a tense relationship with her family she's been living with me at home with my parents for the past two months everything's been going well and she's made a point to help around the house wherever she can usually she gets up at 6 a.m. to do the cleaning in relative silence this morning she woke me up as she left the room but I didn't think much of it my mouth felt dry so I decided to head to the kitchen to get a glass of water in the hole I noticed the door to the guest room was open which was weird because my girlfriend usually doesn't clean that room I opened it and saw my father laying on a chair by the bed with his feet up and my girlfriend was sitting in front of him with their hands wrapped around one of the feet they were both fully clothed and they both looked at me I looked back and I just quietly head back to my room locking the door behind me I heard my girlfriend knocking on the door and telling me it was just a foot massage and it's not what I think but I just ignored her I heard my dad knocking - calling me immature and then my mother begging me to come out for food at least I tried to check her phone for any suspicious text messages but it's locked I haven't left my room all day I don't know what I'm supposed to feel am I seriously just overreacting how can I handle this please don't mention the fudging pulp fiction scene I don't care damn it that's what I was gonna mention that's an iconic scene but I don't blame you I pee honestly I wouldn't lock yourself in your room ever it spurred I definitely be like yo what the hell is up is he a commanding person is their relationship relaxed friendly or just respectful is she easily told what to do and compliant out of fear to disrupt things you need to talk to them about it's the silent treatment will accomplish nothing this is such an accurate comments the fact that they clearly did not try to hide it means it most likely was innocence most definitely weird but innocent at least in regards to the girlfriends actions feels like Opie could have definitely handled the situation substantially better it was 6:00 a.m. in the guest bedroom they're definitely hiding it yeah exactly it wasn't out in the living room during the day yeah dad was getting the massages while Opie didn't know I'd say that's hiding nor did his girlfriend decide to tell him she's rubbing his dad's feets like come on yeah there's a reasonable explanation to this it was just a foot massage I've rubbed several of my friends backs just because I'm told I'm half decent edits if they have a good relationship while you may want to consider it abnormal it's not anything to lock yourself in a room over to find someone rubbing another person's feets but there are questions that need to be answered how is their relationship what are their personalities Dez Opie's girlfriend have a foot fetish has the mother known edits thanks for all the advice guys I didn't expect as much supports and I couldn't really bring myself to post more about it I mustered the courage to go and talk to them and had my girlfriend open her phone long story short this has been going on for a while and I guess my mum either didn't know or doesn't care lots of heart emojis my girlfriend apologized and said she thought it would be too awkward to tell me but she felt bad for my dad while my dad said she was embarrassed about getting old and having foot pains I told him she isn't a masseuse as well as some more colorful words he tried to discuss comfort levels and boundaries but I told him the fact that they did this in secret means they already know boundaries were broken we got into a mild physical altercation and now I've decided to move out I've already contacted a friends I don't know if it progressed farther than that for sure but the trust is gone I don't think I'll ever be able to speak to any of them again oh that's not good to hear but I guess it had to happen because they definitely knew they were breaking boundaries in this one and they don't I can't fault you for doing that ope I don't know how I'd react in the same circumstance and I really wish you all the best for that one that's that's really that really sucks I really don't know what else to say posted by user throw are a gun bvl titled the couple I babysit for are asking me to record their daughter every time I give her a bath or diaper change I sixteen male do babysitting work to make some extra money this couple I'm babysitting for tonight have a three year old daughter and they have a rule that whenever I change her or give her a bath I have to record it on my phone and send it to them for safety reasons they left before I could say anything and I don't feel comfortable making a video of her like that she hasn't had an accident or bathed yet and I'm not sure if it's a good idea to make the video what should I do this is a very slippery slope to getting charges for many grotesque things dear Lord I would absolutely say no there is no way you guys are insane in the membrane for thinking that I'm gonna record that you guys are sick how could anyone logically convince themselves that that's a good thing to do that's disgusting they can put up a baby monitor if it makes them that uncomfortable and they need to see screw that for real a smartphone is a bad idea things get synchronized to the cloud than hacked that is fail I think that's a better solution to be honest I experienced abuse as a child and was so paranoid for my kids that I would definitely have set up a monitor hopefully it's an innocent reason it doesn't actually offer any protection to the child because they'll never know if all the changes were recorded but regardless do not make any images of their children these guys are insane to ask you to do that my take on it is they are either not very smart or they're a-holes that want to make OB uncomfortable and put them in a situation no sixteen-year-old would know how to handle or more sinister stuff like trying to get Opie into trouble for one reason or another what's to stop them from calling the police themselves and tell them what they found on his device regardless of the reasons it's weird and opens you up to possibly life ruining possibilities definitely not worth the few tens of dollars he's getting hell I wouldn't do it for any amount of money I feel like they don't trust him because he's a male but are still willing to leave the kid with him with a shoddy security method that's crazy I absolutely would not do that call your parents and tell them what was said then call those parents and tell them your parents said that you absolutely cannot take videos of a child like that tell them if this is really a requirement they need to come home before it becomes necessary this all of this please call your parents edits I called them explaining that I wouldn't record their daughter and if they had an issue with that then they need to come back immediately about one and a half hours later they come back ticked off at me saying that I wasn't getting paid for the several hours that I babysat I told them not to bother asking me to work again and left posted by user through our a front titled i28 mail found out about my girlfriend's 28th female affair with her boss forties male awake eager should I confront her before I leave sir we've been together for five years now and I was saving up money for a house and a wedding but all that's gone now I go for a run every morning and I couldn't find my phone I asked her to give my cell a call but she wanted to go back to sleep and handed her phone to me I always had some suspicions about her behavior for the past few months and so I snooped let's just say all her business trips and late nights were all excuses for hooking up with her boss who was also a married man by the way I don't know when it all started but from the texts it seems like every day and all over the office the lockdown stopped it's and the wife found out about the affair as well so the boss had to put an end to it this also explained why the girlfriend was incredibly sensitive during March I often found her bawling her eyes out but the reason she gave me was one of her friends mum passed away Judah covered last few months has actually been good for us I was happy spending so much time with her and it all seemed well we also had talks about marriage in children and when our future may look like she also seemed more invested in the relationship compared to earlier this year I'd already started saving up for the House already boots Judah kovat I had to take a pay cuts so I began looking for new jobs since last month I have narrowed it down to two job offers one in the same city with a substantial increase in pay and the other on the west coast with a gigantic increase in salary with probably the best company out there in my fields I haven't told her about the offers yet as the negotiations are still ongoing however this was all last week since girlfriendy started working remotely she has had limited contact with her boss but their conversations started again at the beginning of this month at first it was all about how much they both regret about what they had done to their respective partners about how he has put a lot of effort into her gaining his wife's trust and yada yada yada then the tone shifted in the second week and it was all about how they still had feelings for each other but it has to stop she also mentioned that she was looking forward to getting married to me and how it would break my heart if I got to know about the cheating anyways all that texting led to them to decide to meet up for one last time and then end it between them once and for all I found out about all of this last Friday and they're planning to meet up this weekend by the way she told me she's going to go and help out her friend who was moving back to her hometown this weekend when I first read through everything I just couldn't move from the sofa for an hour It was as if my body weighed a ton I started imagining them having sex and making fun of me behind my back and all kind of crap was going through my head last week was hell for me looking at her all excited about the weekend made it all worse anyways I'm packing up everything tomorrow while she's out I'm heading back to my parents I've not told them anything yet rather I've not said anything to anybody I've kept it all inside me and it's getting bad that's why I'm writing this because I'll go mad if I don't I plan to take up the job on the west coast it's going to be remote for a while anyways so it doesn't matter much I'm not planning on leaving anything behind no letter no text no anything I'll blocker as soon as I hit the road I've spent this week fixing up all my finances and talking with my landlord and now I'm just done what I want to know is am i doing the right thing should I talk it out with her honestly April and May was really good for us but I don't think I'll be able to trust her anymore it was really hard even looking at her face while talking to her the past few days I just wanted over with it's just that she really looked forward to a life together and I feel bad that this relationship has gone south I don't think it's worth confronting I think you're doing the right thing here if you don't want to if you feel like you don't need that fight if it's not within you I cannot blame you at all for doing that o P I think it'll be easier to do that for sure but you may want closure in the future about it all you may not I'm not you I don't know how you think but I do think it's great it'll it'll feel so good to just hit the road and get rid of that and start your new life so I definitely support it you owe her nothing if she cheated once it's an easy bet that she'll cheat again you may want to reach out to this guy's wife to give her a heads up chances are he could have been lying to your girlfriend about his wife finding outs and she should know something is up I'm sorry this happened to you please consider talking to a counselor for your own mental health there are online options available take care of yourself yeah I miss this in my post honestly do this be a decent person for the other person getting screwed in this I think the decisions you've made thus far are incredibly valid I don't think anything you're doing is wrong at all I applaud you for handling the situation so well not only in your reactions and responses to her but also by covering your buts and ensuring you have a job lined up and finding yourself a place to stay if she was truly excited to marry you she wouldn't have cheated with marriage comes the promise and expectation of endless and absolute loyalty and Trust both of which she's already broken before even reaching marriage you sound like a well-rounded and level-headed person you deserve better and there's better out there I promise you just have to let go of her and everything attached at the absolute most I think you should leave a one-sentence note saying I know and it's over if not you may yearn for closure and be filled with questions on whether or not she knows this will ensure that the door has been closed in the past and you both clearly know why I wish you the best exactly this but definitely leave a notes otherwise it's easy for her to explain it away as your faults and paint you as the man who just disappeared do not let her off the hook this is her fault and she needs to be left with no doubt about it leave without a trace man there's no point in confronting her because of the amount of respect she has for you which is none who the Frick says let's do it one last time than it's over you know how screwed up that sounds bro that's like her living in her own worlds also confronting that mess is only going to affect you because you said it yourself you don't know where your emotion is going to take you if it gets into a shouting match what you should do is consider therapy after this and block her on everything just know you got to heal from this before getting into another relationship she's in for a big fudging surprise when she gets back home that same line let's do it one more time than it's over her whole life is gonna turn upside down this is karma anyways dude look out for yourself she doesn't deserve any respect from you take that West Coast job and I think this is a time for you to be free and explore things about yourself try new hobbies start to spend time with you before you get into a relationship and also remember it's not your fault that she cheated so don't think you need to fix anything cheetahs are always cheetahs the fact she's turned on chalant about it and like she thinks nobody will find outs and how she wants to have sex with her boss and then get married with you shake my head it's sad hope you take care of yourself after this prayer once you get to your parents tell your friends what happened and all that but from there I wouldn't even contact her the text messages men are so disrespectful to you just go into therapy if you can and explore some things you might not have before it's hard when we hold all this and internally it hurts a lot too which is why we tend to avoid it and suffer but it's the route you should go going within addressing your feelings you may cry or any feeling may arise just let it all out you don't deserve this and it sucks it happened to you but just know you aren't the problem hope you get through this situation and hope he says thanks posted by a user through our a sleeping cons titled my thirty female husband 30 male has started sleeping in the guest room and I can't sleep without him I've been crying all nights and falling asleep at 5 in the morning I know it sounds ridiculous I'm seven months pregnant and he says that I snore and take up too much room so he's been sleeping in the guest room for the past three days I haven't slept more than six hours total and I spend all night crying I know it's not his fault nor his responsibility to ruin his sleep so I can but I don't know what to do I don't want to see him demanding and make him sleep with me but I miss him at nights and I can't sleep without him anymore in the ten years we've been married there's probably only been ten nights we haven't slept together and those were all at the beginning of our marriage I'm just so tired during the day and I don't know what to do I don't know what to do in this situation so I'm not going to comment I feel fear my husband had to make the same decision recently because I'm too pregnant and interrupting his sleep with my noises sighs fidgeting and getting up to pee every hour it was really hard for me to sleep without him at first because we just never do that unless something's wrong or one of us is out of town both of which a rare something I have found helpful though is that one we agreed he'd still sleep with me on weekend nights and - I've been speaking up a lot about missing him and wanting hugs and to hang out during non sleep times oh and three I realized that sadness aside holy crap the bed is actually way more comfortable when I have it to myself embracing number three has probably been the biggest help shifting my focus off of him being gone and done to me getting all the pillows and I don't have to worry about bothering him when I fidgets watch TV really lates get up to pee for the millionth time snore or farts I've also made him promise probably a hundred times that'll come back to bed permanently after I deliver it's not a completely all better fix but these shifts do help that I've found I wanted to and you should be happy he's not building resentments because of chronic sleep deprivation you guys will have enough of that when the baby is born he needs to get those full nights of sleep in now and I second extra day time hugs be sure to cuddle together at night before splitting someone else says to the European the post ah honey honestly I think your shift in hormones from the pregnancy may be playing a role it seems to me that he genuinely just wants to get better sleep and is having trouble while you're pregnant I'm sure if you talk to him he'll be understanding and maybe you can work something out one night together one night away together for weekdays and away on weekends or vice versa just remember that it's nothing personal and he just wants some better sleep it might help to sleep with an item of his clothing or something else soft that smells like him this I'm only 18 weeks pregnant and my husband sleeps in the other room by my request because I know he needs sleep to be productive for work the next day I have horrendous hormonal insomnia and move a lot now in my sleep it's better for our family unit that one of us is rested plus he's the breadwinner so he needs to sleep sleep is so important nothing personal and we have to do what we have to do to get through this time I kicked my husband out of our bed when I was 18 weeks I was already too hot and wanted to spread out on the bed to cool off without running into his body heat he took it like a champ he opted for the pull-out couch since bigger and he could watch a TV at nights my husband snores terribly I used to kind of perk him whenever he woke me up and one day he got fed up and went to the guest room and never came back lull that was many years ago and we're still happily married and both get better sleep it hasn't hurt our sex life or intimacy or anything like that sir if he doesn't want to sleep in the room with you don't worry it's not a big deal and it doesn't mean anything about your marriage yeah it's pretty common nowadays for couples to sleep in separate rooms me and my wife always have still gets hard to sleep sometimes even downstairs I can sometimes feel the vibrations of walls shaking from her snore blasts when we finally buy a house the bedroom is most definitely getting sound proofed Lowell posted by user throw Ratan acts titles my 26 female boyfriend 29 male won't use his real voice and it's becoming a problem so my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over five months now in all other areas things are going pretty well thus far we've met each other's friends and I'm planning on introducing him to my family soon my boyfriend's voice seems to fluctuate a lot way beyond what's normal 99% of the time he'll speak in this heavy guttural voice that sounds like he's an action hero or something I know that some men have a deeper voice naturally but my boyfriend's voice is far deeper than anyone else I know IRL it's practically a growl but as we've been spending more time together I've noticed that there are certain times his voice sounds weight difference for example a few days ago I asked him a question in the middle of the nights when he was almost to sleep and his voice sounded much more normal whenever he's excited to attack and by surprise he lets this other voice slip this other voice is much higher in pitch and more nasally if that makes sense it's nothing like the voice I associate with my boy friends when we first started dating I remember not noticing that my boyfriend had a voice that was lower in pitch than average but never thought much of it but I was watching a saved video of the two of us from a few months ago and comparing now to there has been a significant drop in pitch his voice is so gravelly now that he basically sounds like the Christian Bale Batman voice if the guy had also been a chain-smoker where is she this really didn't seem like an issue until I was thinking about it the other day and I brought it up to my boyfriend just out of interest what I wasn't expecting was for him to absolutely shut down telling me to mind my business and that his voice had nothing to do with me obviously this relationship is near but he's never flipped out at me like that before he's actually usually a pretty good communicator how should I handle this I don't really understand the issue here or what is getting him upset but I get the feeling it's something we need to talk about and if it's making him react like this I don't know why he'd put on a voice that is so much deeper than his natural one especially considering nobody really talks like he does in real life maybe he's insecure about his normal voice and thinks it's too high-pitched or feminine sounding that's all I can think his defensive 'no sebat it points to insecurity and maybe he's not ready to talk about it yet or perhaps he was bullied or had an unpleasant experience with others especially during puberty my dad used to always say Marquis Yui is talking with a flat and monotone voice you need to talk louder you needed to speak different just don't have the one tone all the time so I can see where this guy is coming from or perhaps he's feeling super insecure because he gets misgendered at drive-throughs and over the phone and he thinks he sounds like a woman and is having some serious problems dealing Sohus 230-pound manual-labor bro who's been called ma'am far more than i would like i don't pitch down my voice in person but i do tend to drop an octave on the phone being misgendered hurts hey I have the opposite want a swap I'm always called sir over the phone sounds like Elizabeth Holmes from theranos she also faked her deep voice it's probably Thera nurse I've not seen the movie sorry that woman is wild the voice thing is high default though there's some research out there which shows that women with lower voices are considered more trustworthy it kind of makes sense to do when you're trying to lead a company one way to make some headway into internalized misogyny of investors and such but yeah keeping that up sounds exhausting and overall nuts story he might be a superhero and trying to protect his secret identity or as another poster pointed outs he could just be insecure the fact that he couldn't talk about it supports that as well maybe you could talk about this specific issue in writing that might help him if he's insecure about it I really hope it's the superhero one two months from now updates I found a cape in my boyfriend's apartments how do I tell him that he needs to watch The Incredibles but yeah not gonna lie even I didn't like my voice for the longest time and I got a septoplasty to like fix my septum and I thought it would change my voice because I was like Tim this voice is too nasally man I want a deeper voice I wanted to be a smoother but yeah I just grew out of that eventually and I'd learned to like it but that's not to say I wasn't insecure for the longest time about my voice I've got teased for it before and it just makes sense that some people don't like it but it also means that I can do a really nasally hey Margaret hey Marcus when he Dylan and I love that for me now but I used to hate it my girlfriend told me she was with a friend but that friend was with me picking out an engagement ring how do I confront my girlfriend about her lie god this is a doozy I swear my life feels like a movie right now sorry for the weird formatting I'm on mobile and this is my first time posting on a sub like this I 28th male and planning on proposing to my girlfriend of three years 26 female now I suck at picking out jewelry I'm the type of guy that doesn't see a problem with heart-shaped jewelry seriously why is it considered so ugly sir every time I want to buy something for my girl I usually consult one of our mutual friends my girl's best friends are all friends with me as well and we all get along well so asking them for help picking out jewelry is something I'm used to when it came time to picking out a ring I consulted my girlfriend's best friend Justine fake name of course Justine and I are quite close and she knows my girlfriend's better than anyone including me so when my girlfriend went out to visit her sister and baby nephew I invited Justine over to the house to help pick out a ring Justine and I looked through a few catalogs but decided it was a dead end and it would be better just to go to professionals at a jewelry store however I didn't know when my girlfriend would be coming home so Justine and I thought of a clever text to gauge how much time we had I asked her when she'd be coming home as I was ordering takeout and wanted to know when to tell them to have the food ready by she responded by saying it would be a few hours she met up with Justine to go shopping now obviously this took me by surprise since Justine was standing inside my house I showed just in the text and she looked as confused as I was it isn't out of the ordinary for my girlfriend to meet up with people out of the blue like that for shopping lunch etc she's a very spontaneous person and loves making plans on the fly so ordinarily I would have believed this text in the heart beats however obviously this had to be a lie when she came home she acted completely normal and I played along but it's been really hard to like everything's fine we got takeouts eight together and cuddled on the couch after so far she's caught on a little that something's upsetting me but I just can't tell her what's looking at her kills me I don't know what to do my girlfriend and I have zero trust issues and we tell each other everything so this lie is killing me I want to ask her about it so bad but if I tell her I knew she was lying I'd have to explain why and I really don't want to do that what do I do I know she lied to me but I don't know how to confront her about it should I just forget it this won't stop gnawing at me please help edits I'm sorry for the lack of responses it's been a hectic day and there's a lot of comments thank you to everyone who has commented so far I appreciate them all edit number two sorry again for the lack of responses guys it's really been a crazy day my parents are moving and I've been helping them also I've never experienced this many comments on a post in my life I'm going to talk to her tonight once my birth finally settled in after such a busy day and I will update tomorrow I know you say you can't tell her why you know but I honestly think you should you don't want this to bug you forever and propose to a girl that could potentially be hiding something just say you were hanging out with Justine because you needed help with the gifts so you know she wasn't with her and see what she says trust and communication is important and it would suck to know you proposed to a girl who could be doing you wrong but also just as bad to sit there and let that eat you alive you could just not bring up the proposal and say we were picking out some jewelry you don't have to blow the whole wide maybe she was getting something for you just tell her and ask her what's up yeah just say you were picking something out for her birthday or that you were organising a romantic presence and then a friend was helping you however if she presses I would admit that you were looking for a ring it would be sad to ruin the surprise but honesty is key best of luck I don't think he should be pressed into telling her that he was picking out a ring chances are she told a white lie for an innocuous reason like she was picking out a gift for him or something but if she's lying to him for more shady reasons he probably won't want to propose to her anymore also he doesn't want to ruin the surprise it's fine just to say that he needed Justine's help with something which is true Oscar straight up hey why did you say you were with Justine what I knew you weren't no use beating around the bush about it either she'll have a reasonable explanation or she'll freak out and you'll get to save a fortune by dodging a bullets but how do I explain the fact that I knew she was lying I'd have to tell her about the ring and the whole thing will be ruined you've potentially gotten much bigger issues than the surprise of an engagement being ruined you don't have to tell her why you were out with her friends because that isn't important right now what is important is why she is lying updates my girlfriend told me she was with a friend but that friend was with me picking out an engagement ring how do I confront my girlfriend about her lie hey guys oh my god where to begin my last post got way more attention that I ever could have imagined suffice to say it was a tad bit overwhelming seriously the amount of people begging for an update was a bit dehumanizing in a way like I wasn't a person going through something but more so a story but I understand I just want to say thank you so much for all the support and wonderful comments I got a lot of great advice that helped me tackle the issue head-on I also got a lot more really really kind comments and messages it was awesome I also got a lot of comments that made me realize how toxic this sub can be there were many comments that just said things like she's cheating it's over and don't even confront her just leave its advice like that that can ruin relationships that just need a little work and thank you to the people that told me to hit my girlfriends told me I was an embarrassment to my gender and best of all told me I should encourage an affair because it would lead to great experiences for me later in life you gave me a good chuckle on to the update I decided to confront my girlfriends I thought about using some of the lies people suggested but they just wouldn't make sense to say I ran into Justine somewhere well I told my girl I had to stay home and do stuff around the house and that's why I couldn't go with her to see my sister-in-law to say Justine was helping me pick out jewelry it doesn't make sense for her to come all the way to our house to help me pick out a piece of jewelry unless it was a serious piece of jewelry like an engagement ring if I just wanted to get her a piece of jewelry as a gift I'd ask her friends for suggestions or ask them to send me pictures of jewelry she might like it all happens over text none of the excuses made sense so I decided to be honest I basically just said that I knew we had been thinking about marriage and she probably knew a proposal was coming soon so I invited Justine over to help me find her the perfect ring and that's her happened to be the day that she said she was going to see her so what's the deal she immediately started grinning like an idiot and prodding me about proposing and the ring but then we go back into the topic of where she was and she confessed what she was really doing no she wasn't cheating and no she wasn't picking out a ring for me the amount of times that was commented was crazy so some people are dog people and some people are cat people well me I'm a snake person I grew up with snakes my whole life but I never felt I was able to get one because my girlfriend has always been uneasy about living with the snake which I completely respected also the process of buying and raising a snake is very different than that of buying and raising a dog or cats it's quite complicated so you could imagine my surprise when my girlfriend showed me a picture of her holding the cutest Kenyan sand boa that I have ever seen needless to say my girlfriend was going to surprise me with a snake while picking her up next week let me know if you want a pet tax she's so cute I definitely didn't expect this and I feel bad for ruining the surprise but oh well life is good sorry if this isn't the ending you guys wanted or expected just a snake thanks for reading edits Pentax sorry I'd love to give some better pictures but the only picture is a picture of the snake right next to my girl friend's face which i don't want to show if people are still interested I'll probably upload more to my profile once we take her home guess you could say he was rattled over nothing dramatic people are gonna have a hissy fits people really need to shed themselves of all these ridiculous preconceived notions you can't let negative thoughts slowly there in all of the verbal venom these people are spewing we'll just poison your mind I'm glad to see honesty and communication triumphed Congrats on your future engagements your new pets and a happy resolution seriously I love that this relationship is filled with honesty and communication the only secrets they kept from each other are surprises to make the other person happy and even then they get found out super quickly because they're both in touch with each other's lives and friends well done you two I love how you both were trying to surprise each other and both surprises were ruined in the sweetest way I sold all my snake habitats to buy you this ring but owner you sold your ring fingers to buy me a snake a hog God posted by user through our a oh one two three titles wife had been floating with her co-worker she said she would stop but it just happened again is there any future in this relationship my wife and I have been married happily for slightly more than three years now last Christmas I found she'd been having a long conversation with the co-worker of hers in which they talked about having had sex multiple times and that they couldn't wait for the next one the guy said he was going to book a hotel near the office right after Christmas in this conversation when he said he was looking forward to seeing my wife she would reply with things like I'm looking forward to much more than just seeing you etc you get the idea hopefully flirty and sexual when I confronted my wife she denied the conversation existed after deleting it she showed me her phone to prove it didn't exist but I had taken a few pictures she then said it was all virtual and that they never did anything physical to prove she was right she messaged her co-worker in front of me asking if he had booked the hotel he replied - yes she then asked if he was really expecting them to meet to which he replied negatively she promised they would never talk again and I agreed simply because I love her alights and wanted to trust her but in my mind I wasn't completely sure she had been honest for a few weeks I must admit that I checked her phone a few too many times so she changed her password which I was fine with because I was probably being too paranoid this week I picked her phone up because I needed a curd that had been sent to her phone number I didn't even need the unlock screen to get it so my surprise under the message with the code there were under messages from the same guy one of them was an audio the second one was a shirtless photo of himself in front of a mirror and the third one said sweaty and a few emojis with the tongue I confronted her since she had promised they wouldn't talk ever again and she said he just wanted to show her that he's going to the gym to show progress but that the rest of the times they talk it's just about work and that it's just a coincidence I asked her to show me the rest of their messages but she said she had mistakenly deleted their conversation history my wife said she's going to change this time and that I never really forgave her and that's why she kept talking to the guy she says this time she's really going to stop but I have a hard time believing it or even if she does stop I fear when things don't go so well between us she'll do it again I really love her but can't keep living like this is there any situation in which this can work what would you do dude you are being blind he's not being blind he doesn't want to believe he had clear evidence they were fudging back then already and he latched on to the her excuses like a drowning man onto a life ring she is a serial cheater who is unlikely to change and has no reason to who doesn't need to make up excuses because hope he is making them up for her flirty they've clearly been nailing each other tell her to and feel free to paraphrase Frick right off don't even paraphrase no filter just say it's clearly the wife is no real tensions on being faithful even if this had just been flirty non-physical messaging it still crosses a line in my opinion Irby don't let this keep happening because it will she will say over and over again that it won't it's will she will just get better at hiding it's by changing his name in her phone or using a different app to talk to him oh and the fact that she somehow tried to turn the fact that she still talks to him back onto you that shows that she was grasping for an excuse and that is a crappy one not your fault it's her fault and she apparently takes a zero responsibility for its which is concerning you deserve love not this you've been married three years and you don't mention kids so I'm assuming you don't have any consider yourself lucky dude one she is cheating on you a lot of people cheats most don't get cos consider yourself lucky again that you don't have to take her word for it because the evidence you found his clear cuts she may eventually admit she may not no matter you have your answer to get a lawyer you know your marriage is over and you can never trust her again writes three book an appointment with a therapist a video chat appointments is better than none at all and even if you have never had therapy before you would be surprised by how settled you can feel after opening up to someone about how badly you have been hurts and they will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel and in your case it's a life without someone who is pretending to love you while deceiving you to serve their own purposes and what are they they are the comfort love and stability that you provided home while getting a dirty hot and cheap on the side again sorry dude one hurts a lot thanks for your reply mistakenly deleting text history is like a three or four step process just did it on my Android mates open messages hold thumb on convo click delete confirmed that you want to delete text history with Joe Blow with the option to even block the number no mistake about it it's a deliberate process all right I was thinking the same thing she's a terrible liar dude you've caught a multi time's now what more do you need updates viewer rights and I ignored every single one of your comments and eventually caught my wife with the other man this is a tough pill to swallow and I can't say I hadn't been warned this is my previous post many folks asked me to follow up with an update so here it is fresh from the oven after reading every single comment of the reddit post my brain just couldn't overcome the catastrophe and the collapse of the world I had built for me in which my wife is my love my best friend in partner as well as the person I admired the most she was entirely perfect and made me happy for many years I thought no couple in the world could have what we had we were both very happy for a long time we were both attractive we were both inherently good had big hearts and were individually wildly successful in our careers after the reddit post I moved to an air B&B and eventually with family to think things through it was a terrible time but a psychologist helped me to recover from a terrible mental states it coincided with the pandemic hitting very hard in my city I caught the virus which didn't help during this time we kept talking and my wife was very sorry and continued saying they hadn't met I knew it wasn't true but was willing to forgive the woman of my dreams who continued being the highest alter of my universe fast forward last Saturday morning I went back to our place ready to forgive her and talk things through in the most mature way possible and well there she was but I was the one who received the biggest surprise to say the least the guy was in my house naked and so was my wife the guy from the messages the guy from the pigs the one she said she didn't even like I caught him hiding in my bathroom as my wife is putting her pajamas on when I saw him hiding in my bathroom he uttered sorry dude for a second I asked myself is this where I kill him but I instantly replied I got nothing against you because the guy was just nailing this hot woman even if he was doing so in a house full of pictures of me pictures of our wedding and our family's pictures of my dead father who would be so sad to see the marriage he never witnessed was going to end he has always been the reason I tried to make the world a better place he passed away two months before our wedding I'm sorry I still love her to death but I understand enough is enough even if my world collapses I hope I can build a new one without lies and in which I'm not just a blind believer under an altar of a fake God Godspeed it's only at this point now that I realized I've read that one on our /am either a whole like a month ago I think it was but this is just different this is a whole different perspective on it it's even sadder reading the relationship advice first man I feel bad sorry you had to experience this in the most extreme way possible by literally walking in on them naked together great composure when almost any reaction would have been justified just take your time and take care of yourself for however long it takes I can't imagine the pain you have are be very sorry it happened but it was literally going to take you walking in on them for her to admit it what she's done is disgusting and unforgivable she's been lying to you for how long time to end it my friends a long journey ahead but we believe in you you don't deserve to be disrespected like this I mean hopefully a lot of people can still find a way to rationalize even seeing their partner cheats it was only that one time now that she sees how hurt I am she'll change she only did it because I heard her first by leaving RP I hope when these thoughts start creeping in you'll come back to this post and remind yourself how you were feeling today good luck source been there just make sure you don't take her back cuz she'll do it again this is a life lesson I failed to learn again and again I guess I was more afraid of being alone then I was afraid of staying with someone who evidently didn't love me she cheated on my sorry ass numerous times and I forgave everyone it even got to the point where I told her if she cheats on me I don't want to find out about it I just accepted it was part of our dynamic then thankfully she left me up for some other dude she repeatedly promised to me was just her friends I begged her to stay and she didn't that finally allowed me to look after myself and my own issues and take the time to heal I'm doing really well nowadays I have a daughter and a significant other I know deep inside that I can trust no matter what's and man what a whiplash it is to be in a healthy relationship after living in red-flags ville posted by user Thoreau RA 1900 222 titled my girlfriend's 21 female of 18 months asked me about my preference about her pubic hair and now finds me revolting so yesterday my girlfriend casually asked me how I prefer pubic hair to be groomed she usually keeps hers short and NEETs I assumed she was just looking to change things up and wanted my opinion so I answered honestly and said that I find completely shaven attractive but in the grand scheme of things I couldn't care less it's not a turn-off if there is hair and that I like the way she has it now well it turns out that she had a lectured it today at college she studies psychology and the topic was on pedophiles apparently one of the talking points was that pedophiles are attracted to the lack of body hair when she told me this I asked her are you seriously calling me a pedophile because I find completely shaven attractive can I just point out that you're 21 and not 12 she basically skirted around my questions and then stormed out of my apartments when I kept pressing her honest as she left she called me revolting and is now ignoring my calls and text messages what the hell honestly not even sure where to go from here we've never had any issues and I was planning on proposing in the next year where has this even come from TLDR girlfriend's pretty much called me a pet oh because I told her I liked shaved softy when she asked me my preference just because pedophiles like no pubic hair doesn't mean all people who ferm no pubic hair are pedophiles just like old dogs have four legs doesn't mean all things with four legs and dogs and I was going to tell my significant other that we don't need a dog because we have a table at least the table won't crap on my carpet men you have a carpet man I 33 female actually had a somewhat similar conversation with my husband 34 male I used to shave in two acts my private bits because I thought that's what you're supposed to do every time I did I got a terrible rash itching and ingrown hairs regardless of the method used it looked disgusting and felt much worse eventually I decided to stop shaving and waxing and I just keep my brush trimmed short and clean it made a huge difference for me and sex became much more enjoyable for me without the constant itching at one point I asked my husband about his preference about pubic hair and he basically said the same thing you did he finds shaven attractive but what I do was entirely up to me and he's fine with whatever style I choose as long as I'm clean he really doesn't care I explained the reason for choosing his short trimmed Bush and he was and still is perfectly fine with that in return he asked me about my preference and I told him the truth I don't care at all clean is all that matters to me so he's free to choose as well at no point in that conversation did I think of there being something wrong with his preference I've seen enough porn over the years to know what the mainstream standard looks like I think a girlfriend is projecting a bit too much from her courses on you and your relationship as someone else already pointed out she's also completely disregarding the general pressure placed on adult women to shave absolutely every bit of hair below the elbows oh it seizes I mean the eyebrows eyebrows what's gonna happen when they learn about Psychopaths sociopaths and so on is she gonna go out of her way to diagnose you with all of that as well she needs to chill and stop taking random things out of context to fit some theory they currently preach in school and it's someone pointed out that it looks like I was grouping Psychopaths and schizophrenic as something in hair we bowed and it came across as offensive which was not my intention so I changed it for sociopaths I was just trying to pick two random examples of things they might cover in their courses that's all honestly we do need to address that body hair is natural and it's unrealistic for men to expect women to have it shaved constantly your rides as long as it's clean that it should be fine but for some people especially guys not shaving your body here is unhygenic period I started shaving so young because it seemed like the right thing to do but as you've said I've got so many ingrown hairs and my skin was irritated constantly because I have extremely sensitive skin and no matter what precautions or expensive products I gots it didn't stop about a year ago I just stopped and only shave when I feel like it's and unfortunate that my previous and current partner didn't really care but I do feel sorry for all the young impressionable girls who still feel like they have to there's a lot of really good long comments but this video would be like 40 to 50 minutes long if I read each and every one of them and I apologize but I'm not gonna read every single long comment by psychologists as good as they are updates my girlfriend of eighteen months asked my preference about her pubic hair and now finds me revolting so an update to my previous post she ignored my calls and messages for three days at which point she texted me asking me if I was free for her to come over for a movie nights I told her sure but we need to talk about what happens before anything else she replied with about once I figured it was best to wait until I actually saw her in person before trying to discuss the issue which I did when she arrived we sat down and I started by saying that I was upset by our last conversation and I'd like to discuss what happens at which point she said it doesn't need to be discussed can we leave it I said not really no I'd like to get to the bottom of what actually happened and also discussed your reaction of storming outs and not talking to me for three days and then acting like nothing has happened she basically refused to discuss it so I told her that if we can't at least discuss what happened then I want to break up and that she needs to get her stuff that she has in my apartment and leave she lost her crap bawling and screaming so much that my neighbor came down and knocked on the door to check if everything was okay he's a chill dude so I asked if he could stay whilst she got her stuff together as she seemed to calm down once he was presence she basically sulked around slamming cupboards whilst she got her stuff and then left so yeah no real answers and I'm still confused as hell as to what happens I text him um to keep an eye on her as I'm kind of thinking she's losing it I've never seen her like this and it worries me she's been blowing up my phone about how she loves me and can't imagine a life without me but honestly this whole thing is soured me and I'm struggling to see any way that we will continue this relationship Thanks to everyone who replied before TLDR my girlfriend baited me into a question about pubic hair implied I was a pedo ignored me for three days and then tried to act like nothing had happened and so I broke up with her fine she tried to Constanza a deal-breaker I never thought of having a neutral party sitting during a move outs but that's both an incredible gesture from your neighbor and also a very smart thing to do I had a girl literally punch me in the face twice and threatened to call the cops on me so I called her ex and asked what the hell to do and he was like oh I know how to handle this I'll be right over weird I know but we both thought the other was just her friend and she was fudging us both so we high-fived over being done with her they got back together later and she called the cops on him after he caught her in bed with his best friend and put his fist through his new TV and took his medical marijuana to his buddies to stay she told the cops he broke the TV and stole the weed when it was all his still he had to lawyer up with those charges should have never screwed with her again never stick your dick in crazy boys more than once more than once it's a very good lesson don't do it more than once boys it really sounds like she knows she screwed up but doesn't have the maturity to apologize you'll do better without her see this is what confuses me the most we've had disagreements in the past where she's been out of line and she's always apologized and handled things well the same for me I've screwed up before and apologized I always thought we had a healthy relationship with good communication but clearly I was wrong then I agree with what everyone else is saying you've accidentally stepped on a trigger and she just can't cope with this right now but you did good in setting this boundary she has to sort out her stuff on her own I'm sorry that you're hurting and I hope you feel better soon he didn't so as much step in it as she guided him into the punji trap and was amazed it blew his foot off to be fair seeing someone step on a sharpened bamboo stakes made with animal feces and get their foot exploded would be pretty surprising that's that's true they would be it definitely would be read the original and hoped for an updates I bet she asked around and all her friends told her she was bad cramped crazy she was embarrassed so refused to talk about it either way good on you for drawing a line in the sand it needed to be discussed before he moved on crazy that even after your altar made him she wouldn't talk about it I thirty female found out my husband 32 male hired my friend 26 female to strip at his bachelor party four years ago I got married to my husband after dating for six years so 10 years total now my friends Rebecca has stripped since she was 21 she stopped last year after getting married and is going to be a stay-at-home mom when her baby is born since our children were very close and we're basically neighbors she lives at the bottom of the road we live on last week one of my husband's friends visited at the same time as Rebecca as I had made plans to shop with her I forgot to cancel and she showed up after she left my husband's friend commented that he can't believe we're still friends after the bachelor party I texted Rebecca in the moment that I don't want her around anymore but she hasn't responded in a week I feel betrayed by the both of them but I know it was just her job I miss Rebecca a lot but I'm so hurt I don't know what to do my biggest concern is the friends comments I would want to know what happens if it was me I would ask him/her and his friends the fact that she hasn't responded also makes me suspect there was more yeah that was 100% to this friend going girl I noticed you didn't know sir I need to tell you this without actually telling you this friend did you a huge solid I'd invite them for coffee and ask them for details I actually don't think the comment implies anything more than he was just surprised he was still friends with what he only saw as the stripper they hired that one time it doesn't inherently mean that something more took place chasidy thinks it's wild that he's kept in contact with his bachelor party stripper she he doesn't realize is his actual friend this might get buried but I'm a professional burlesque performer at one point a fellow dancer asked if I wanted to perform with her at a private holiday party and when she told me the payouts I almost crapped myself I was pretty new at this point and didn't even know I could make this amount of money from performing but I found out it was for a business earned by a friend of my dads and I bailed immediately there are some lines you just don't cross losing a friend is hard no matter once but this person was not your friend when she crossed that boundary and she wasn't your friend when she continued to hide it from you you can miss her and mourn the relationship he thought you had but this is not a loss good luck on the same notes the husband either requested her or it was a surprise and he has never mentioned it and refuses to comment on it now frankly I think that's disgusting treatment of his wife if it was a surprise he could have sent something along the lines of the bachelor party was great but it got a bit weird because they hired x2y and also should have refused to let her dance for him the fact he didn't mention it ever suggests to me he requested her or suggests he cheated with her that night I would personally need to know if anything else happens oby talk to your ex friends talk to your husband's friends anything but yeah the friend isn't a friend as she hasn't even bothered to reply she says in the comments that not only did he lie and say that there wouldn't be strippers but that he planned the bachelor party and tied the friend himself which to me is super dodgy and it means they both lied to her and went behind her back to keep it from her all this time that is really crappy how do you start off a marriage with a major lie like that I could see this be fine if everyone involved is consenting but you weren't consenting and your husband obviously knew you wouldn't be ok with this because he hid it from you other than the stripper being a friend lots of marriages start with cheating at the bachelor or the Bachelorette party including full-blown sex in some cases and of course the info comes out sometime later and then a post is written like this then those marriages are screwed like most marriages also have started with multiple years of monogamy it's not like you were living up the single life the year before you got married I never understand this last night of freedom phenomenon just don't do stupid crap especially right before you get married updates I found out my husband tied my friend is strip at his bachelor party I confronted them both separately they both gave two very different stories Rebecca says that my husband got drunk groped her and when she refused he pushed her and started to yell at her apparently my husband and his friends believe I shouldn't be friends with her because she quote/unquote led the mine my husband says they didn't sleep together bikes Rebecca trying to initiate and performed oral while he was blackout drunk I'm staying with my parents because I don't know who to believe here or if I should I should even believe either of them all I've done is argue with my husband since the confession I'm left more confused than ever and honestly I just want to say eff the both of them but if my husband's story is true then he's totally innocent but what if Rebecca is telling the truth what if neither of them are I'm sick of them both I haven't stopped crying since arriving at my mother's to be honest and I don't think I can why would he hide this for four years why would she if they both believe they're fully innocent and victims here my husband is a mean drunk but he's always so soft-spoken and I don't know if he can do those things Rebecca claims but I don't know how he reacts around his friends but I've known him for longer than Rebecca - but I'm all for believing women I feel like by agreeing with my husband I'm denying Rebecca's story and side hiring her in the first place is not innocence I don't know who I would believe either but either way he is in the wrong for hiring her behind your back editing for clarity since I'm being accused of victim blaming being assaulted doesn't make it okay that he hired her in the first place hope he should drop both of these people yep this for another thing her story's way more believable than his he claims she tried to perform oral sex on him while he was drunk come on her story is not believable either not by a long shot what she's saying is that Opie's husband forced himself on her at the bachelor party and she has never said a word about it's more than that she lives five minutes from the guy and is around him all the time and she has no issue with it please do you know what tells me both in the original post that friend recognized Rebecca had an odd reaction he's still friends with her after that nights paraphrasing here so the friend was not terrified because he knew Opie's husband forced himself on some poor woman or embarrassed or uncomfortable or ashamed he was amazed / curious most likely Rebecca did something and everyone was drunk and Dopey's husband responded and so on like she initiated something herpes husband went along with it and the rest is history you know like typical stripper and drunk guy bachelor party interactions could be Rebecca put on a real show fueled by the fact that he knew the guys and because she wanted to show off the fact of the matter is we don't know but her story is definitely not more believable than his story because the friends didn't have that type of reaction that says crap it's the girl Opie's husband forced himself onto at his bachelor's party if RP wants the truth she should ask the guys that were at the bachelor party and compare their answers but by now her husband might as well have set the story straight with all of them so it's too late the best decision would be to divorce in my honest opinion because regardless of what happened at the party who started once and who did once the fact of the matter is her husband hired her best friend to be a stripper at his bachelor party and both he and she kept it a secret they both betrayed Opie and people who side with Rebecca because it was just a job a simply wrong because there are some boundaries you never cross the fact that she lives so close and still comes to their house leads me to believe it's possible more things have transpired between the Opie's husband and Rebecca yep if something happens that made Rebecca and the husband uncomfortable according to both of their stories why would they still hang out with one another if husband forced himself on her why would she keep hanging around if she forced herself on him while he was blacked out why would he be okay with her coming around also interested to know how husband knows about what happened when he was blacked out is this information from his friends or just made up last updates I found out my husband died my friend to strip at his bachelor party this will be the last update I'd like to say thanks to everyone commenting I realize I don't care anymore I've done nothing but think about my husband throughout our marriage my entire life has revolved around him all my thoughts revolved around him and I finally realized I've been the only one keeping this marriage going I've been relying on him and forgiving him for such a lot of bullcrap because I don't have anyone else I gave him everything and that's not happening anymore maybe finding out about Rebecca just sped things up maybe I relied too heavily on my husband's I told him this morning that it's over he has yet to stop texting me begging for a chance I texted Rebecca and told her I no longer want her in my life either both have confessed to sleeping together and continuing to do so my husband out of anger to insult me and maybe Rebecca wanted her last screw you Rebecca's baby is my husband's so to say screw Hugh back I messaged her partner to let him know I'm devastated obviously but now we have to make plans about what's happening with the house and custody and I can't afford to continue crying about it Rebecca's partner let me know at 6:00 p.m. that she is moved he helped her move all of her stuff into my husband's house it's all happened so fast and I can't believe I was so oblivious to it maybe I wanted to be once again thanks for all the comments and messages it's really made me open my eyes it's all happened so fast that I don't have time to process it all looks like they wanted me to find out before she gave birth a nice happy family now your husband has his own house where do you live our house but it's clearly his house now that he's moved to Rebecca and his baby in there I'm living with my parents you didn't move out you're only separated the house still belongs to both of you you must lawyer up right now keep telling yourself it's your house sis you'll get everything that's yours I'm sorry this is happening to you but you need to stay strong he thinks he's won but you need to remind yourself that it's not over too papers as signs you still have every right to live there meaning you could technically go back with a crap-ton of family I don't recommend this because crap can get dangerous with him any seconds but please stay strong you deserve so much better and I'm sure you'll find happiness and love again you're amazing good for you for standing up for yourself a few things to keep in mind one that is also your house he has no right to evict you he can not by law kick you outs to get a lawyer ASAP your husband will try to manipulate and guilt you into doing what he wants and believe his lies find a shark three screenshots and record everything they say get proof of both of their emotional abuse to help you get custody for make sure you have all of yours and your children's important documents eg passports birth certificates social security numbers etc 5 freeze your credits 6 talk to the lawyer about whether it's best to stay in the house as long as you're safe or not in some places by leaving it helps your ex gain the house 7 get a counselor to help cope with the above you can do this you were strong enough however your husband is going to be terrible through this a therapist will help you cope and see through his abuse and lies 8 see if the children can stay with you and keep them safe and 9 filed for child support before Rebecca can that way you should get more lawyer can help with this good luck fight hard you got this this one doesn't have an update but I'm gonna read it anyway because I think it might have an update later posted by user thrower RA what do I do 201 titled my wife 32 female has been having an affair and unbroken now my wife 32 and died 30 male got married in September 2018 after being together for three years ran before our honeymoon we bought a house together in VA and after we got back pulled our remaining money and time to completely redo her old starter home in d and sold that in Le 2019 we both work full-time jobs in Virginia and I make pretty good money she makes even better money my wife let's call her Katie decided to pursue an MBA and started last fall she had an educational trust that their parents started for her and therefore didn't ask me for any financial assistance however because I saw how time-consuming the MBA was on top of her already large professional workload I took it upon myself to take care of everything related to our still relatively new home including dealing with contractors managing all our bills managing the house taking care of our dog purchasing and assembling furniture yard work cooking cleaning laundry and hosting / entertaining her family that insisted on coming over at least two weekends every month that's a lot of work lately katie has been unhappy with our relationship complaining that I wasn't spending enough quality time with her and not making her feel wanted I tried to argue several times that between her work and studies into my work intern responsibilities that there simply wasn't very much time to spend together in general we would frequently not even get to eat dinner until 9:00 or 10:00 at night and I would either need to bring her a meal to her home office or we would quickly eat together and she would return to school work to study or percolate in group projects or a session she would argue back that the things I was doing around the house was simply my responsibility as a husband and that while she appreciated it it didn't count towards me trying to maintain or build that relationship we'd also been arguing a lot about other things and combined with the lack of free time would be intimate maybe once a month I'm actually like dying on the inside reading this I'm not gonna lie but after one particularly emotional and drunken conversation about three or four weeks ago now I vowed that despite what I already thought was prioritizing her needs that I would go even further I began to take off work I unlike her still had to go in during covered or go in late and leave early stopped seeing friends skipped workouts and would even wait until she occupied with something else to even take a shower also I could spend as much available time as possible with her between her obligations as a results things seem to be slightly improving between us and now we arrive at last Wednesday as per usual I was making dinner for us we have a tablet in the kitchen that I primarily use for recipes as I was finishing up the tablet began pinging non-stop and I checked out what was happening as it turns out the tablet is linked to our Google credentials and I first saw an ongoing hangouts conversation between Katie and a friend discussing what to do about someone's wife who had come to our house that day while I was at work scrolling through the conversation history I found more about Katie's lack of feelings for me and the longing and dreaming to instead be with some guy who will call Luke physically shaking at this point I decided to venture away from hangouts and open her Gmail where I found several emails going as far back as much between her and Luke calling each other babe sweet hearts and my love unsure about what to do next I first took screenshots of everything I could find then stepped outside to call the only person with lower experience that I knew an executive at my company who I'd become friends with he advised that I immediately confront her but first call someone to come over to the house to act as a witness in case things became physical or if she might later try to claim they did so I had a friend over in about 20 minutes I confronted Katie and she confessed to the relationship and admitted that they had been intimate several times over the past four months both at hotels and in our room now completely distraught I tried to maintain my composure and asked to leave she stayed at a hotel for two nights then despite my protests came home on Friday stating this was her house too she insisted on talking when she returns and not having a witness this time I decided to record the entire conversation on my phone she tried to reiterate that she had been unhappy but despite that had been reaching out to her friends and mother about suggestions and resources she could use to help our relationship yep even though I had suggested counseling in the past but she refused she tried to tell me that she made a mistake that she had already broken it off with Luke a week ago and that I was the only person she wanted to spend her life with and the only reason she hadn't told me about it was because her friends had advised her not to she also said that if we truly love each other the divorce was a mistake and that we should be able to get through anything I replied that love is worthless without trust and then said that if she insists on staying here to please stay in the guest room obviously free usage of her home office and the guest bathroom but to please stay out of our bedroom and bathroom unless telling me first so now I'm here sitting in my house alone with just my dog her in Toronto uncle and cousins are currently at our neighbors house for a barbecue they don't know about what she did I can't bear to go over there because I don't want to talk to or even look at Katie much less pretend in front of a bunch of people that nothing happens 90% of me wants to get a divorce but despite her feelings I was very happy with the life we were building we had even been talking about being a pregnant by this time next year but no matter what I decide to do I know I don't want to make that decision without getting more information about what I can do what might end up happening if we proceed and I definitely want to talk to a few Virginia lawyers to protect myself we only have one joint account with less than $20,000 in it and the only asset we share is our house so that's it I'm sorry for writing so much if you've made it this far thank you for reading and I would really appreciate any and all insight suggestions or advice I just feel completely destroyed empty and alone please help me divorce no kids 10k average with lawyers if either of you fights 500 bucks disillusion both with half assets during my divorce to an actual Katie who was banging a dude at her work my therapist said someday she'll just be someone you used to know six years later I can't even picture anything about her no kids makes it so much easier honestly that does make me feel a bit better thank you I was married for nine months in the military when I decided to not reenlist she grew instantly distant within a month she was banging one of the next-door neighbors friends and I pulled phone records to prove it after being suspicious didn't have kids with her but she briefly was able to turn my little brother and his wife against me they knew each other and that's how we met by saying I was being violent to her and her kids once I showed him proof that she was cheating four months is when he realized he had been duped I caught her cheating the next day because I told her I was gonna be in the fields and walked in on them cuddling on my couch she called the cops on me and got a protection order against me and two of my buddies I stayed with recorded a phone call when she called me saying I better not file for divorce because she needs to save money to move out otherwise she'd tell the cops that I was touching her daughter we had the recording and showed my chain of commands and have never seen a first sergeant in captain have my back harder than I've ever seen my captain was a female and holy crap were she awesome her and my first sergeant would check on me regularly went with me to get my stuff from my house and to make sure if she tried doing anything shady they would protect me so luckily my life could have been ruined by a woman who just wanted benefits and the last time I checked my ex-wife had six kids with five different guys seek a therapist and divorce lawyer so that you can prepare yourself for the future maybe you'll survive most relationships turns but you need to be prepared either way she needs her one counseling and then mc2 even have a chance your journey from here is long and hard you will have a good and bad days she is going to have to seriously understand how traumatic this was for you and this serious number she did on your mental health Thanks my concern is that since she was blaming me to begin with that she would make all the counseling about that and not about what she did as a results but I'll look into it I appreciate the advice if she blames you for this in the therapy sessions that I think you have your answer right there marriage and love isn't about being rights about navigating through life as one posted by user through our a 70 I titled my girlfriend 25 female repeatedly insists that I read to my proposal over and over I'm running out of patience i-24 male proposed to my girlfriend 25 female in late 2019 after two years together admittedly now that I think back on its it wasn't the most well thought out or planned proposal it was mostly spontaneous and came as we were lying in bed together so I didn't even have a ring at the time at the time my girlfriend said that she would love to marry me but she had been looking forward to a more elaborate proposal I assured her that I'd sought something else a month later after shopping for the perfect ring I set up some candles when she was coming home one day think the Chandler and Monica proposal and friends and asked her again well my girlfriend loved the ring thankfully and teared up with happiness she said that she really appreciated my efforts but what she meant by elaborate was something original that she could tell our kids about one day she mentioned the name of one of her friends whose boyfriends we both know proposed by making a huge video montage of their time together and putting it on a projector I decided to start over and in February I planned a three night trip away in our favorite city this time I spared no expense and ordered all the extras a five-star hotel a photographer even in opera courts hence when I asked her to marry me my girlfriend said yes and I thought all was well except when we were alone again and she gently told me that she didn't think that now was the right time as she was so worried about her future in covert 19 that a proposal wouldn't be a good memory for her oh yeah that's that's reasonable that's so reasonable since then I've carried the ring around with me almost everywhere at this point I've even tried to involve my girlfriend in some of the proposal planning asking where when how she'd like us to get engaged and what would make her happy however all she's told me is that she doesn't know exactly what she's looking for and I'll know when the right proposal comes from my perspective this is hugely frustrating since in all other respects she's assured me that she wants us to begin our lives together last week I thought I'd bite the bullet again and after cooking her a homemade meal I asked her if she'd like to be my wife she asked me if I was trying to propose and I asked her what's wrong with that once more she told me that she can't wait to marry me but it still wasn't quite the proposal she needed honestly at this point I'm frustrated I realized that my girlfriend might come off as pushy or high-maintenance in this post but I love her very much and in day to day life she's honestly the most understanding chill person to be around honestly I don't understand why she's acting this way and what I'm supposed to do to satisfy her with the perfect proposal at this point I'm confused and running out of patience how do I deal with this honestly I would sit her down for a heart-to-heart and tell her that you love her but if the proper proposal is more important than the commitment and engagement you don't know if marriage is the right decision tell her you will not pressure her but when she is ready to accept the ring you will give it to her not with a fancy show we already tried that just yes or no if she says she wants a more interesting story reminds her that most people only get one and she had three or alternatively suggests that she proposes to you when she's ready so that she has that perfect moments your other option is couples counseling to perhaps find a reason for the issue is she afraid of commitments is the right proposal from someone else will she be okay with her wedding day not living up to her dreams honestly something almost always goes wrong on that day I understand to appoints my friends and family's proposals were like Poconos weekend's in front of Cinderella's castle in Disney yada yada yada mine was we went to dinner and the grinch movie went back to his place to set up the Christmas tree and he told me to close my eyes as he had a surprise I knew it was the ring nope he had hung up a bell with fake mistletoe to kiss Thunder then he told me to close my eyes for another surprise which was him holding out the ring was it a little completely underwhelming yeah have I hung that little bell up every Christmas and kissed him under it for the last 19 years also Gare we have 21 years worth of stories if I based my decision on his proposal none of those stories would have existed updates my girlfriend repeatedly insists that I redo my proposal over and over I'm running out of patience thank you to everyone for your advice I actually write this post yesterday but it was too soon to post an updates there are a lot of people calling my girlfriend a future bridezilla and while my post may have made her seem demanding I'd just like to clarify that she really is my best friend and a great person there is no chance of us breaking up saying that after thinking a lot about the responses I received I decided to sit my girlfriend down and draw a line in the sand I told her that after four proposals I'm lost and confused as to what she wants and if she has a dream proposal in mind she had to tell me exactly what she wants so I could make this work my girlfriend looked somewhat nervous at that so I pushed her to communicate properly she apologized again for not accepting my proposal zeliha but said that in 2019 she was still testing out our relationship and so when I asked her to marry me she said try again rather than yes in the hopes that I'd wait longer from her perspective while she had responded positively to the idea of marriage prior to this it had still been too soon for real engagement I will admit that I'm not the best at reading social subtext if it's not stated directly so I could have missed the implication when she asked for a different proposal when I later asked her in February she knew I was the one but was telling the truth about being too anxious to consider marriage she actually confessed that she's been planning on proposing to me later this year some time around when we were planning to fly it to my home country she had been trying to keep it a surprise but we've now agreed that it's better that we're both on the same page when it comes to proposing we've decided that we're both going to sit down and work together to make the proposal special for both of us a kid told me I was too fat and too old to understand handball so I stopped holding back last week I 50 female was told by a twelve-year-old boy I was too fat and too old to understand handball I watched him play with the other kids Ribbit's and he was a complete ass about it all he would deliberately taunt the younger kids promised them he wouldn't get them outs then sends devastatingly fast balls at their heads and point in laugh when they got outs he changed the rules so he never got out and blatantly cheated I inserted myself into the game he was very condescending and promised to go easy on me I smashed that ball all over the cords low shots high shots balls with spin he didn't stand a chance the best bit was after I got him out for the fourth time all the other kids cheered I spent the rest of the afternoon teaching the younger kids how to play while he sulked in the corner petit AF and immature as hell but super satisfying to see him get his comeuppance yes I'm a terrible person but he was much nicer to the other kids the next day edits for those wondering why a 50 year old is playing with kids I'm currently working as an out of school hours care educator in Australia after-school care got 11 I'm talking about handball as in the lunchtime game played by school kids also known as Foursquare in this particular version of the game you each stand in a small square that is part of a larger square you hit a tennis ball to each other with your hands or the little rubber hand balls the squares are designated ace king queen and dunce if you're an ace and you get out you go back to dunce if you're in any of the other squares you leave the field and someone else comes in we don't play dodgeball that is barbaric I've never watched any of the shows that have been referenced except in passing as I flipped through channels talking about comments I was annoyed by both his attitudes to the younger kids when he won and by his assumptions about me based on my age gender and body shape hope that answers all the questions posted by user mr. three one four titled forced me to work past my two weeks notice fine I just take my extra week off using sick time my boss is a jerk and the company culture is trash ever since day one of my job my bosses cared little about my work and about my well-being in general they never transitioned me properly through training and never had time for me because they don't know anything about my work I had to self train myself when I finally found another opportunity I was like screw this company and the bosses I handed in my two weeks notice HR contacted me and sat me in a meeting room with my bosses to pressure me to stay longer because they needed some more time to find my replacements my job is very important for industrial work and if I am not around the industrial work would have to hold I asked if I would be paid more for staying longer and I was told no I said okay I'll be happy to stay an extra week but after that I won't be able to stay any longer little did they know that I had accumulated sick leave I don't get compensated for my remaining sick leave days and I called in sick for the entire week best of luck y'all edited to add I stayed an additional three weeks on top of my two weeks notice sorry about the formatting because I'm on mobile edit - wow I didn't expect this post to gain much attention there was some confusion as to why I had agreed to stay an extra week I was forced to stay an extra week so that I could train the new hire I'm the only one who knows how to do this work for the week posted by user alfalfa floozy titled lady demands to speak to an American never says what language she wants some backgrounds I am an American that was born and raised in the south it's an obvious dialects also English is second language for most people here language barriers are not uncommon all of this comes into the revenge sir years ago I worked in a coal center it was a large company with English and Spanish departments I worked in the English departments but sat next to our Spanish departments I handled billing no one calls billing in a good mood but in general they're angry with the company not the rep you calm them down fix the issue and you're off to the next call few customers are memorable but this one I will never forget and I still laugh this call happened on a busy day with long wait times this just made the revenge sweeter the call went like this ring ring hello thank you for calling blah blah blah I want an American on the phone what I said I want an American on the phone ma'am I am an American I want an American on the phone at this point I can only assume I'm not speaking the right language ruin momento potiphar bored I put her in Holts transfer her over to the Spanish line and just giggled to myself but it didn't end there the lines were starting to calm down and I was chatting with one of the Spanish reps when his desk mate pops up and says she's got a psycho on the phone it was the woman I had transferred she was going ballistic the spanish rep had her on Utes while talking to us I apologized and told her what happens she started laughing then looks right at me and said I'm gonna put her back in the Spanish gear the Spanish department had a blast laughing at this crazy woman as they kept putting her back in the cure I don't know if she ever got her issue fixed then again we never found out what the issue was either she was too busy yelling at everyone moral of the story be nice to phone reps I worked in a call center and I had a guy scream at me for stealing American jobs and once I had a lady asked me where are you from I can't understand your accents I said I'm from the US no but where were you born I say in the US no where were your parents born in the US and she says well I'm from the US and we don't sound like you too many people if you don't have their accents which many of them claim they don't have then they tell you that you have accents true but I'm from Oregon and this lady had no discernable accent to me so I'm not sure what she was hearing also once in a while people love to tell us that we all sound like robots and I had one guy who was convinced I must be the automated system despite me saying no sir I'm not the automated system and no sir I'm not a robot's I'm a person but he was convinced that I was some kind of system that was programmed to say it was human because you sound like a robot pursued by user restless [ __ ] titled x' i fed the [ __ ] dog treats buckle up kiddos this is a long and exciting ride the year was 2006 I was a dumb girl that had gone and gotten myself married to someone completely wrong for me he refused to work and as a result of financial difficulties of us both being in school and only me working we found us living with his mum let me tell you that is every nearly weds dream over the course of us living with her anytime I would buy myself for food treats mother-in-law would eat it didn't matter what it was or where I hid it she was a bloodhound for sniffing out things that I bought just for me the final straw was one night we had gone out for dinner at the Cheesecake Factory I had taken my slice to go and put it in the fridge I was gonna have it after the walk the next day next day act work is absolute crap and the only thing getting me through my shift is the slice of cheesecake I know is in my fridge I go home and pop the lid off the container and it doesn't look right there a mother freaking fork marks all around the outside perimeter of my cheesecake like she could just sneak some off all around and I wouldn't notice I was ticked I went and handed it to her and told her she may as well eat the rest of it fast forward a few days and damn at the pet store picking up some dog food I'm standing in line waiting to check out and they have all these little boxes of dog treats that look like the little red boxes of animal crackers you can buy for a little kid now it very clearly says in the front circus animals for dogs about this time I've got the little devil sitting on my shoulder whispering in my ear to it and then the angel pops under my other shoulder and screams fudging dohat so they magically end up with this stuff I'm buying I Drive home and leave everything in a bag all together on the kitchen counter several hours later she comes into our room and says I think there was something wrong with those animal crackers they were the most awful ones I've ever eaten I had to eat a whole thing of frosting with them just to finish them all I said was her and shrugged my shoulders oh that makes my skin crawl that's disgusting oh I would never eat animal stuff like that that's just gross I would never posted by user travelin gal 23 titled car alarm for the win this was a few years ago but one day my neighbors across the road came home with a new system in their car they decided to invite several people over open their car doors and crank the music not only was this terrible music but it made the walls of my house vibrates and I had a migraine how that sounds the worst now you'd think this would only go on for a minute or two just to show the friends what it could do but no I saw one of my neighbors go to talk to them after they walked away they turned it up even louder so having no other alternative than to annoy them I hit the alarm button for my vehicle luckily enough my vehicle at the time had a very loud and annoying alarm what I did this they looked around and turned down their music so I turned the alarm off a few seconds later they crank it back up I turned my alarm back on this happened about three times before they got the message and had their music at a normal level posted by user CJ's opinion titled steal my friend's Orange enjoy a night of puking my BFF and I were sitting in English literature she had an orange on her desk this boy took its and refused to give it back he wasn't being a bully or anything but kind of teasing and then he ate it in front of us while he was laughing so we told him he shouldn't have eaten it he says why not because it was in my locker for two weeks I was going to throw it away after class yeah plus she dropped it on the floor and we were kicking it around and then I stabbed it with my pencil I think part of the leg broke off in its I hope you don't get lead poisoning he accused us of lying and we just shrugged and ignored him for the rest of the class the next day he came to class he didn't look too good said he was up that night puking we told him we were just kidding that none of what we said happens poor guy didn't know what to believe at that points edits the orange was fresh and we did not mess with it we only messed with his mind posted by user sky fly Thai food titled lockdown with annoying neighbors I can be just as annoying so this is my first ever post so please don't be too harsh wall to make a long story short I have the most annoying neighbors in all of England one in particular has a son who runs rampant and spends hours in his back garden that has joined two hours screaming at the top of his lungs or peeking over the fence and shouting at us while his mother tells him off not for screaming or his other antisocial behaviors no just because she's a horrible mother I feel a little bad for the kid and she happens to have the most grating voice in the world this goes on from 11:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. so I can't put in a noise complaints but the most annoying thing is the hours of horrendous music now we're not talking just regular objectively bad music don't be silly it is honest to god EDM traffic noise whatever has the highest usage of the n-word she's a white woman by the way that she'll shout at the top of her lungs so that you know she's an open racist today I had had enough so I found the loudest speaker in my house dragged it outside placed it against her fence and played some music for two hours straight as loud as possible and any time one of them screamed or shouted I would scream back just as loud needless to say she went inside after the second hour and hopefully will be more considerate in the future posted by user blue Titus 82 titled dealing with neighborhood fireworks a few years ago I was working in a place that required me to wake up very early in the morning to get to work my neighbours enthusiastic Patriots that they were began their July 4 celebrations weeks before the holiday blasting ordinance far later than decency and city regulations allowed it woke me freaked out my dog and woke my son the next morning I parked and then driveway and honked my horn until they came out to confront me I told them that I would repeat this every morning if they continued their celebrations past 9:00 p.m. as the city mandated I only had to do this once good on you IP I'm very proud of you posted by user revenge of the funk titled talk crap about my friends I will ruin your nights I went to a bar about 15 minutes away with a co-worker who was chunky we were playing pool and having fun when I hear the group at the next table over talking crap about my friends so a little while goes by and I realized that the guy who was talking crap left his phone on the ledge near the pool table and he and his group moved to another area I gave my friend my keys and said to get in and start it up and unlock my door she did and I grabbed the phone and we dipped and I dropped her off I then hit a drive-through and called the guy's mom in his phone I went to his recent texts and got a few friends names and told his mom I was with friends with her son and some of his friends at the bar and he was trashed and doing God knows what's in the bathroom and I also said he left with this really skanky girl and might be having unprotected sex with her and she looks like a junkie then I started calling random numbers in his phone and yelling and whoever answered sir now it's like 2:00 a.m. and it's a Friday nights the guy whose phone I have realized what's going on and calls his phone he doesn't know who I am just that I'm the a-hole with his phone I tell him I didn't appreciate what he was saying about my friends and he wanted his phone back now keep in mind the only people on this road at this house are drunks and cops so I told him I would leave his phone by the giant sign at a local mall right at the base of its he probably lived nearby but it was still 15 minutes from the bar which was past closed at this point so it's like 3:00 a.m. and he calls me asking where his fern is because he obviously went in the mall to look for it I asked him what mall and he told me I was like no not X mall I said Y mall which was another 20 to 25 minutes away he hung up and then a few days later I threw his phone under the tire of a semi on the freeway that was the thing I would later do when working as a waiter when people would lose their phone and also not tip if they didn't tip me they must have thought I was not a good server and a good server would have given their phone back so since I was not a good server I would keep their phone and play dumb it was a restaurant in a mall so lots of people in and outs my friends thought I was nuts I always had random cell phones on me and would randomly discard them at random times and places thank you for coming to my TED talk posted by user anonymous eight five four three titled don't mess with the holidays disclaimer this story isn't mine it's from a friend back story we live in Portugal here there is a law that states that if someone abandons a plot of land and that is used by someone else for a minimum of 20 years that person has the right to claim the land for themselves this friend of mine has inherited a house in a town this town is basically a beach holiday town the rich people of the city nearby often have a house there and spent the whole summer there this was during the early 20th century some people still do that including my friends so his family has been using a spot right next to their house as a playground for the kids for way more than 20 years in fact for over 50 they hadn't yet needed to claim it since the owner didn't do anything to it and as the whole neighborhood used its doing that would be a soulish until two years ago when he decided to sell it to a couple that built his two-story house there the house completely ruins the view that he had over the sea and also everyone's the look of the neighborhood due to these differences two other houses semi frame decided to claim the lens this was before the house was built but since Portuguese justice is slow AF the house was already fully built when it ended this time with the approval of the other neighbors the couple that had bought it's had some friends in the justice system the wife's mother was a retired judge her sister was a very well known and respected lawyer so they managed to overcome my friends claims on a technicality but from the start it was obvious that my friend should have gotten it the way they got it was very shady they only won because they knew people and this is why he decided to get his revenge the street between the two houses had free parking everywhere this is because most people in the neighborhood of friends and don't have garages so they park in front of their house but the annoying neighbors had a garage my friend had a truck that once was used for a restaurant of his and he parked it right in front of their garage door permanently it was actually illegal since they hadn't paid the Town Council a yearly fee to have non parking spot there after a few months they decided to get that that costs eight thousand euro a year to maintain until this point it was more out of a petty revenge but the annoying neighbors had threatened him to remove his vehicle before that they have said that they would throw rocks at his windows which they once did that they would flood his garden which they did repeatedly and even that they would kill his dog and German Shepherd they tried that using a knife but the dog bit the guy on his leg and as you know these dogs bite hard the threats were all recorded by my friends since he would record every conversation he'd had with them in person or over the phone he had taken pictures of the window and the garden he sued them and this time the influences weren't enough they had to pay a ten thousand euro repair for the window and garden he has a friend that elevated the costs conveniently quite highly and they had to pay him a further thirty thousand euro in compensation for the mental health issues it caused but wait there's more remember when they tried to kill the dog they had done it when he wasn't home so he never even knew about it out of rage they sued my friend for his dog biting the man's leg he had to spend a week in the hospital as it got very badly infected and tried to make him pay for the hospital fees and compensation but he defended himself by saying they invaded his property and even sued them for that which led to a one-year suspended jail time which means if they are ever convicted of something they will spend that year in jail on top of that conviction sentence if they don't do anything else they won't be going to jail hope you enjoyed this story I certainly did when he told it to me girls in middle school thought that I did not know Spanish just because of my appearance backgrounds I am Hispanic born in the US but my appearance made it look like a Asian because I have squinted eyes from my dad's side and I speak two languages Spanish and English sorry it was the end of my fourth period and after that period I got to lunch geez you're running out of blood at that point thank you so as I'm going towards the lunch line I meet up with some of my friends and go to the lunch line together and while in line we began talking about video games and such and as we talked a group of girls that were behind us waiting in line thought that no one can understand their secret language which was just Spanish but I think nothing much of it until they start talking bad about other people in the lunchroom like for example look at that kid he looks like a dog and such which gets my attention for a bit and I ignore them as soon as I started to mind my own business with my friends they started to talking about me and saying that I looked so ugly and other swear words in Spanish which really ticked me off as soon as they were about to say more about my appearance I say in Spanish loud enough so that they can hear imagine calling people ugly even there they look worse my friends knew what was going on at that point because they understood Spanish also so they started laughing and saying things like that's so true at the girls those girls have turned pale after they realized that we understood their language as well and left the lunchroom it was the best feeling ever because they got what they deserved and they learned their lesson after that posted by user yam slamming titles gave Gaia Hickey made make outs after realizing he was cheating with me this happened years ago as a high school freshman but I've always been kind of proud about how I handled this situation backgrounds I was friends with a guy in a large middle school friend group of neighborhood kids that would play manhunts and hang out often this disbanded as everyone got older and moved could drive etc I always had a crush on him but he was a bit older and never seem to see me that way but we were good friends fast-forward to high school and they hadn't seen the guy in a year or two and was surprised that he was in one of my classes as a freshman we had failed that class twice and was having a tough time we sat together and talked and ended up hanging outs outside of school I still liked him but he had a girlfriend so I kept my feelings in he confessed to me that they were having issues and he needed to break up with her but it it'd be super hard on the both of them I was surprised because I thought they were really solid he always wore a bracelet with her name on it and we continued to hang out often and he kissed me all while reassuring me that he was going to leave her it was just complicated which led to making out hangouts this happens two to three times before I noticed he was still wearing the bracelets with her name on it I stopped mid make outs and asked if they were on such bad terms why was he still wearing the bracelets he got annoyed and gave me his shorts and not convincing answer it all hit me in the sixteen-year-old brain at once this guy was using me to cheat and had no intentions of breaking up with this girl he tried to go back to kissing but I moved to his neck and just suctioned rights to its he pushed me away and exclaimed about hickeys he immediately left muttering about covering it up with makeup they broke up shortly thereafter I know his girlfriend thought I was a terrible person for cheating with this guy but he honestly had me convinced I honestly feel like I did her a favor physical evidence of cheating right before her eyes posted by user a Langer Brielle SH titled cool take the elevator so I live on a student residence shared flats on every floor I live on the ninth floor and usually take the only bus to university so I have to be at the bus stop at exactly 9:00 10:00 a.m. next bus isn't 9:40 which is too late for me one girl living on floor number ten usually calls the elevator and keeps the door from closing while she waits for her friend to be ready which keeps everyone from using the elevator from nine to nine oh eight or nine oh nine after three straight days of this happening and having to go down the stairs I decided to get my revenge every time I would go down the stairs I would call the elevator on every single floor making it stop on the eighth seventh sixth fifth fourth they would usually lose the bus and I would be able to see them from the bus as they exit the building engaged at the bus they started ranting about it on the residents whatsapp group about people being selfish and major a-holes who don't care about anyone else and how they relate to an important exam some random guy then sent a picture of the girl holding the elevator open with her backpack along with the caption selfish hell broke loose after that her floor mate started complaining about how one of them would just toss her cigarettes on the organic trash and smoke in the hallways another girl was ticked about how she would just drop her done cigarettes on random dishes and glasses when smoking in the kitchen two months after that she got kicked out the other girl left on her own and good riddance to bad trash posted by user cn8 - two titles I'm not paying for your stuff anymore my ex-boyfriend is a narcissistic jerk and - we're not on speaking terms when I found out that he's still using my Netflix account before that I found out that my bank account was registered to his Spotify he waited years for the new season of whatever he's watching so what I did was change the password midseason just to pee him off I know the series is not available for download and he's kind of broke so he couldn't afford his own Netflix accounts I felt bad but it serves him right for gaslighting me four months before we broke up edits and he still hasn't returned my phone that he borrowed what a good guy posted by user Vandy and the Santos titles secret Center revenge this is my mum story not mine but it is the most petty revenge that I heard from when I know it was my mom's first job and she joined Secret Santa she got a porcelain doll that was broken and reglued by a colleague of hers she said she got really mad about it what did she do she waited for the whole year to get Secret Santa again she asked everyone who was her colleague secret Center so she could switch when they exchanged gifts her colleague opened up her presents and there it was the broken porcelain doll my mum waited for a year to give the crappy doll back hell yeah go mom posted by user lime cherry titled manipulative power hungry aren't torments my family for years costs her three hundred thousand dollars dealt with my crappy manipulative abusive aunts all my life finally got revenge players are myself male late 30s sister three years younger aunt older sister to my mother mother single mom adopted no blood relation to my aunts cousins three total one male to female I have good relationships with them now mostly sir my estranged father who had been living several counties over is pretty much out of the picture by the time my parents got their divorce when I was nine due to financial hardship we were forced to live with my aunt and the nightmare of a household we would soon find ourselves in my aunt married into Georgia wealth and you can figure out what that means on your own she had three kids and eventually caught her husband having an affair it's a huge scandal she gets the house the kids and a fat payout from the family attorney this is important because my aunt didn't do a damn thing in her life to earn her money her house her lifestyle or basically anything she was born poor along with my mom under her household she was drunk with power years of therapy have allowed me to recognize that certain people when in a position of power get a perverse pleasure in ordering others to do their bidding she was the strictest of authoritarian sinned very possible where you could imagine chores had to be completed by an exact specific time vacuuming by 3:45 p.m. dishes by 350 5 p.m. laundry days for my mother us kids were Tuesday Thursday 5:35 p.m. to 755 p.m. if it was still running she would shut the power off for the two units as we grew older her own kids opted to stay with their father for full time custody and she had them on weekends even they couldn't stand her when she was in charge and in the house as time passed she got them less and less opting for alternating weekends as high school activities took precedence over time with mother for my sister and I the large six bedroom house was not ours for the taking my mum had to pay rent as well as rent for one-bedroom as that was all she could afford on her salary we had to share a bedroom until my second year of high school all the while there was one spare unused bedroom available at all times my aunt needed this for guests when they stayed over not one guest stayed there in the ten years I was under that roof finally the church we attended told my aunt to give up the spare bedroom so my sister can have her own room as it was unhealthy for two teenagers sharing a room together like that that infuriated my aunt because someone told her what to do in her own household my sister and I got the brunt of her wrath as my mum salary was tapped out my sister and I had to do extra chores like mowing the lawn trimming the shrubs cleaning the pool which we could no longer use without her being outside watching us my aunt's behaviour was becoming more and more outrageous and disconnected from society for example she'd always snapped her fingers when she wanted to get someone's attention but it was getting far more frequent and she would blow up into a tirade if either my sister and I didn't obey her own kids tried repeatedly to tell her the crap she was doing was wrong but she wouldn't listen eventually they wanted nothing to do with her outside of the home she was a tyrant and repeated intervention to get her to see the folly of her ways would fall on deaf ears I snapped all through high school I had no confidence as a person I was weak willed and growing ever distant from friends and society I say this in all truthfulness and fear that had circumstances continued the way they had been going I could very well had taken a gun to myself or worse to others around me I was that bad off I had just graduated high school and started my first semester of Community College I'm two weeks into my classes attending from home when my aunt's dropped a bomb on me you owe me money for this month's rent the same amount for next month's rent as well it is the 27th after all you're an adult now you're out of high school and working now so you need to pay rent the hell I blew a fudging gasket as I yelled back you can't just suddenly decide to charge rent because you feel like it I need 30 days notice I have rights my aunt yelled at me some bullcrap excuse that she had discussed this with my mother and it was decided that I needed to pay my own rent now in some miraculous backburn move of which I still have no idea how I stood up to her I yelled right back at her if I'm in adults then treat me like one and talk to me about rental agreements I'll start paying you rent in 30 days starting the first I turned my back to her and walked away with my fist balled times I was furious with anger but I walked away my aunt saw my fists from behind and screamed bloody murder that I was going to attack her no I wasn't she snapped her fingers at me repeatedly on my tail to get my attention but I didn't turn around I needed to cool off and clear my head as I turned the corner she grabbed my wrist hard yelling I'm not finished talking to you I threw my still balled up fist forward keeping with my stride to break her grip as I hadn't stopped my momentum this caused her grabbing arm to slam hard into the corner of the wall that I had just turned into she screamed in pain but I left the house and took off the aftermath of that incident was that my aunt called the cops on me in an attempt to press charges she was taken to the Hospital and suffered a fractured wrist and she was put in a cast / sling don't know as I never saw it and never inquired further her story changed every time she told the cops what happened while my story was spot-on every time I can still recall that moments down to the smell in the house where I was facing the working end a nonworking light bulbs etc forever ingrained in me I was kicked out of the house and I couldn't visit my sister or my mom there at the house again fine by me as I didn't want to see my tram behind ever again I was happy to meet my mother and sister at the local diner or outlets we could be ourselves there and not hostages in our own home years later my mum wised up and got out of that abusive relationship with her sister and moved out on her own she got a temporary nice place invested wisely and with the help from the church got help getting a place of her own in 2009 after the housing crisis she bought her own place that she could never have afforded on a trone prior to the market crash but some good came out of it she wept knowing my sister and her family and myself can come visit anytime and stay over the years I've been able to forgive my aunt not forgets forgive I've let go of a lot of my anger and hatred towards her that she put me through when she has no leverage or control over us she's a somewhat decent person for being a total [ __ ] of a person my cousin's have calmed down heard my side of what happened those years ago and know what kind of person I am compared to what kind of person their mother is they chose to believe me and no I didn't hit her or strike her or beat her across the face like she continues to claim the revenge while I've been able to forgive my aunt for what she has done to me I cannot forgive her for what she did to my mother kept her in financial hardship for a decade while she sat on a bank account full of cash and assets or what she did to my sister forced her to pay for damages because the water heater burst while my aunt and mother was away one weekend leaving my sister at home she didn't discover the flooded rooms for hours my aunt's reasoning it was her responsibility to watch the house not the responsibility of the homeowner to maintain and replace the water heater before it goes let's leave that up front $5,000 financial burden before the flood insurance kicks in on a 16 year old girl I've had little to no contact with my aunt since I was kicked out of the house nearly two decades ago but I do keep in constant contact with my cousin's while I'm not going to divulge what I do for a living I can say that I work with and for the government I've worked my ass off getting to where I'm at today I'm known for being truthful wise and giving good advice when asked because of this I often talk financially with my cousins all of whom are money smarts and des doing well for themselves they often then relay this information to their scheming mother who has no mind for business and investments all that money she got from her house sale her divorce settlement her previous investments is pretty much gone I spent years planning on the perfect trap and it took a long time to prepare everything to make sure everything appeared rights I am NOT a lawyer and I don't pretend to know the law but I do know the regulations and the laws pertaining to insider information this is not that 100% certain of it and if I ever go to courts I know my lawyer has a solid case in my defense but this is a gray area most definitely I let slip to my cousins about some future real estate plans near my aunts new area of living it may be worth a lot more because of future developments taking place in the area all of that was true and backed up by what was in the newspaper and new construction signs that newly appeared on Google Maps at the time that's new to me Wow near the rest was fabricated by myself backed up by actual information I looked up on real estate websites and on projects I was working on through my work the telephone game takes place and a few weeks later I presume my aunt starts making friend calls to real estate agents trying to buy lots of land in the undeveloped crappy area of her new house over the course of a few months to half a year spends $300,000 of our last remaining savings on land hoping it will pay out when the area around it gets developed in the upcoming years only HUD / government / city doesn't have any plans to develop in those immediate areas in fact analysis showed that building in those areas was poor planning and would cost the taxpayers twice - three times as much as the land was not environmentally sound it was best to build six miles away this post was long overdue because it's been over two years since my aunt purchased land that is basically worthless see she won't sell the land unless she gets at least the same price she paid for it because she's the owner of that land can't tell her what to do in her own land sweet karma strikes in a way I couldn't possibly have foreseen my cousin informed me that the value of the land has decreased significantly because it's not environmentally sounds to build anything commercial there but it's zoned for commercial use currently three of the four blocks of land she purchased are just weed farms next to eyesore abandoned buildings or industrial complexes nobody can build on it and nor does anyone wants to buy it's sucks to be her best part is my cousins have absolutely no idea that I set them up for their mother to take the fall these environmental results are relatively new and the perfect cover to say why the project changed locations six miles away TLDR abusive aunt torments my family and myself for a decade and more decades later I'm in a position to trick her buying worthless land and the icing on the cake that land can't be used for its intended purpose and has devalued significantly posted by user concerned gay dude titled ex best friend slept with my ex-girlfriend and blackmailed me so I got him mocked by his friends and fired from his job sorry about the title not really all that great with them so I'm a gay man though it took me a long time to actually come to terms with it during the time when I was questioning my sexuality I was who I thought was a lovely girl I'll call her Jane I genuinely loved her and pictured us having a future together as we'd been dating for three years and it started to get pretty serious even though we were only 18 when he split us up you lot know what young love is like anyway the only other important people in the story are my exbest friend James and my absolutely incredible boyfriend Alex not their real names by the way also this is a long read so sorry about that I tend to ramble and I'm not that much of a writer so sorry if this kinda sucks James and I had been friends since we were about 10 or 11 and we got close to the point that we felt more like brothers than best friends he was really supportive of my relationship with Jane and would constantly talk about how glad he was that she made me happy though when I look back on it now he had a habit of constantly talking about how gorgeous she was how sexy she was and how I was such a lucky guy I understand the last one but he was a bit excessive when he talked about how attractive Jane was but I was young and naive at the time and didn't think anything of it that was until I caught them again I'm not much of a writer but essentially I noticed that they were both becoming pretty possessive over their phones they randomly disappear claiming to be feeling ill or having to get some project done and I know it sounds stupid but I kept noticing that the condoms I was buying were going missing I always like to make sure we had enough for precautions so I wound up going to Jane's house one day when she bailed on me claiming to have a migraine I was partly worried for her health and brought some painkillers food and some bottled water in case she genuinely did feel ill but I also had a feeling in the pit of my stomach that she was lying to me I don't know how to explain it I just knew sure enough when I'd let myself aim with the spec he she'd given me I found her in bed with James I was heartbroken the two people who I cared about most in the world and who i thought cared about me went behind my back like this I was furious we had a major argument begged me to listen to her whilst James yelled at me and I eventually just stormed outs I wanted to go and tell everyone what they'd done and shame them for it but that's where the problem arose remember at the start where I mentioned that I was questioning my sexuality James knew about it of course he knew I'd never leave Jane to sleep with a bunch of guys but he was fully aware that I'd figured out that I was attracted to guys and girls more like just Jane in particular as I don't really feel any attraction towards girls anymore and he used this against me he knew full well how terrified I was that my parents would disown me and he made sure to remind me that if I didn't keep my mouth shut then my parents would find out at the time this was absolutely terrifying though I now know that they accept me 100% and still love me so I kept my mouth shut I was stuck having to work with James at his father's garage as I couldn't come up with a way to explain how I was mad at him without letting everyone know that what he did and risking getting outed to my parents besides I needed the money and they're willing to whole lot of other jobs I could apply for also I really should mention that James was going out of his way to harass me at work calling me a bunch of slurs whenever he got the chance pushing me around and just generally reminding me that he could tell my parents at any points I got really low at this point and the only time I actually felt sort of content to just let myself relax and be myself was when I'd go to the local gay bars there was one club in particular that I'd love to go to a drag Club where I met my boyfriend Alex he was a drag queen there and helped out behind the bar and stuff when he was needed to save any confusion I'm just gonna use he slash him pronouns for him though they do switch when he's in drag we floated for a few weeks before gradually becoming friends with benefits he is amazing and I know it sounds cheesy but I was the happiest I'd ever been when he agreed to be my boyfriend but that's skipping a little bit ahead this revenge happened before we started dating and we were still just friends who took up every now and then after a few months I finally worked up the courage to open up to ALX about what happened with Jane and James and that's when an evil look fell over his face see alex is the sweetest guy you could ever meet but if you pee him off he can and will turn into an evil genius around this time James had been bragging to me that the ladies loved him and he could get any girl he wanted I really doubt that he'd always been kinda like this but he upped the bragging in an attempt to annoy me he also told me how any girl that I dated would leave me in an instance to sleep with him so Alex suggested that we put that to the test cue the revenge we started off small see James had given me his email address a few years prior and just as I thought he couldn't be bothered to change it so I decided to be very generous and sign him up to a premium subscription to several game naughty funtime sites and decided to be courteous and agreed to receive emails about notifications new offers and other things he may be interested in just to be nice and make sure he had some variety oh did I mention that this was the email address he allowed his father to use whoops it cost me a fair bit of money but I made sure that he got the best offers alex was more than happy to chip in to help me it was worth it when we were working in the garage and his dad stormed in to ask to speak to him now his dad didn't really give a crap about his kid being gay but he was mortified that his son would order this much adult naughty fun and put it in their shared email address he genuinely thought for months that James was a sex addict we may have signed him up for a bit more than we thought I logged into the email after the first two weeks of him being signed up for the subscriptions and he had well over 100 emails about his accounts this is when like we'd hoped James started getting more aggressive he'd barge into me screw up my work to get me in trouble and send me disgusting messages as well as threatening and insulting me in person I took note of everything I kept a notepad to log the dates and times of the incidents and to detailed description of everything he did every insult and every threats I'd screenshot all the messages from him and record every insult and threat that he'd hurl at me on my phone Alex helped me organize all of this onto files and then we saved it all onto a hard drive this would be important for later this is when we decided to move on to that next phase of our plan the girlfriends and no not Jane also I should mention that he and Jane split up only a couple of weeks after I found out about the affair they were never gonna last see Alex passes extremely well when he's in drag being feminine already makes it a bit easier his voice isn't all that deep and he can sometimes be mistaken for a girl with a slightly deeper voice he usually exaggerates his makeup and clothing but for this phase of the plane we decided to get him to turn down the makeup slightly to make it appear more natural and a mutual friend of ours took him aside and gave Alex some of her clothes to wear we then created a fake facebook account for my new girlfriend and Alex and I posted some cute couple photos on this accounts and my own personal Facebook accounts posting all your usual lovey-dovey stuff that you see uncoupled social media then we put our plan into action Alex would come to pick me up from work a couple of days a week dressed as an extremely beautiful girl if I do say so myself we chats hold hands hug and kiss and just generally act like a couple James obviously noticed he took the bait and began chatting to Alex when he was waiting for me to finish up and eventually wound up sending him or our fake account a friend request which Alex was all too happy to accept it took a few weeks but after a while of just talking about school work TV shows and music James finally started to edge his and Alex's conversations into more sexual territory which was exactly what we were looking for Alex answered accordingly he had tried to send Alex nudes hoping to get some in return but we deleted those straightaway we thought that would be a little too far even for this douchebag this continued for a few weeks until we had everything in place Alex made sure to screenshot the messages and then we went ahead and changed the name of the Facebook accounts to Alex's name and deleted the couple picture on its I sent the screenshots of the conversation with Alex to James's friends they were pretty accepting and usually were the ones to call James outs when he was being an a-hole and they took great pleasure in marking James for it's the look on James's face when his friends mentioned his little boy toy was absolutely priceless I'm not even sure he'll ever live it down the people he picked on at school even snapped back at him that he was the one who was sexting another guy so where the hell did he get off calling them a naughty naughty word this ticked him off to no end as he knew that they were rights even if he hadn't known Alex was a boy at the time James also had this sort of expected reaction and started sending Alex a bunch of hateful messages and threats only helping our case as we'd screenshot the messages and add it to the folders on the hard drive once I had what we thought was enough evidence I decided to take it all to James's dad mine and James's boss and explained everything that was going on from the cheating with Jane to the blackmail and threats he just sat there and listened allowing me to show him the proof that I gathered he did find the petty revenge with Alex and dragged pretty funny but the rest of the time his face was just kind of blank with a hint of anger in his eyes he thanked me for the information and went off to speak with his son James got fired on the spot I agreed not to go to the police as this could end up with some pretty bad press for his dad's company and his dad was a pretty cool guy I knew he was all talk so there was no real threat of danger I received an amazing reference from James's dad for a job I desperately wanted and eventually God's no doubt helped by said reference James's parent flipped out with him they refused to give him his job back and made him go out and actually put in the efforts to get and keep a job he'd gotten used to being able to slack off as his dad owned the place and technically couldn't fire him they also sold the car they'd been letting him use and told him to pay for a new one with his own money it took him about two years to save up enough money to buy his new car it all eventually came out about James and Janes affair as for the threats of outing me Alex kindly reminded James that he had absolutely no proof of me doing anything whilst his friends knew all about these sexual messages James had sent him you know another guy it would look like he was just pointing fingers because of a little petty revenge James's father had also assured me that my secret was safe with him so the threats of blackmail were now non-existence James got into college on a scholarship and started hanging out with a bunch of other douchebags I found out through a mutual friend that James was still a homophobic prick at college and was terrorizing a couple of LGBT students as well as making disgusting threats against a lesbian girl in his class none of them wanted to do anything about this however why because James had been lying to them and saying that his dad was one of the higher ups in college or something I didn't pay a whole lot of attention and I can't remember exactly who he said his father was but it was enough to make these poor kids worry that they could be kicked out of college for speaking up about this I decided to lend a helping hand with the help of our mutual friends I emailed a bunch of the disgusting screenshots recordings of some of the threats and some of the harm of a big racist and sexist things he'd posted on his Facebook page which he had deleted before the college could see them to the higher-ups in the college they were not happy with what they saw they eventually revoked his scholarship after a few of the students with some encouragement spoke up about the harassment and threats I honestly have no clue why he turned out like this his parents are absolutely lovely open-minded people it's crazy James's parents kicked him out after that he stayed with his friends for a few months before he managed to get an apartment last I heard he was in fast-food restaurants working to get into another college I genuinely hope he bedded himself and that he can do well in his life everyone's capable of change rights I'd also like to clarify that I didn't care all that much about getting back at Jane because yes she did have the affair but I was getting some revenge on James for the blackmail and threats that came after it Jane had showed me proof that she tried to prevent James from blackmailing me and just told him to let it go if they both just stopped speaking to me after the affair then this whole thing wouldn't have happened I'd have been hurt and maybe a little awkward at work but I wouldn't have went out of my way to get back at him though I did fill Jane's mother in on to what actually happened and sent her some screenshots where Jane admitted to the affair this was after I found out that she had told her mother that I was the one who cheated with a bunch of guys and girls instead of thee we just grew apart version that we'd agreed to tell our parents from what I heard her mother was not at all that pleased with her I also sent a few of the texts where she admitted to having an affair to her new boyfriend needless to say he wasn't happy to find out that the abusive ex was actually just an ex who's she'd cheated on they're still together from what I heard so all I can say to that guy is good luck my dude I eventually did end up coming out to my parents and they were surprisingly supportive which was amazing and Alex and I got together a year or two after these events and we're still very much in love sorry if this doesn't count as Pro revenge but a couple of friends suggested I posted here I know there's probably a bunch of spelling mistakes and the story might be all over the place but I'm not much of a writer so my apologies apology accepted Opie that was a lovely story and I'm glad you have the balls to stand up for yourself not a lot of people do and I probably wouldn't be able to do it in the same degree guard that you did dear Lord anyway guys I think that's where I'm gonna leave today's episode at today if you liked it please tell me what you thought of it down in the description below I hope you guys have a good day night sleep whatever you're up to I'm gonna pass you off to out monkey now alright guys that's all for today's video I hope you enjoyed this one today tell me what you thought of it down in the comments below if you're not subscribed to the channel I would love you to subscribe because I love your face and I love seeing you here every single day that you are here in this video I don't know what else to say today guys I hope you enjoyed the 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Channel: Markee

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Length: 142min 53sec (8573 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 11 2020