My best friend stole my wedding idea

[Music] kyle and i have been best friends since junior high i'm not going to go into massive detail about our friendship but he's really important to me and we've been through a lot together anyway fast forward a decade or so and kyle and i both get engaged around the same time to two wonderful women it's been really fun planning a wedding with another couple and my fiance casey and i love having them around now casey is a bit of a control freak she has mostly had final say on everything in the wedding not that i'm complaining she has better taste than me and the wedding is going to be really beautiful thanks to her the one thing she has let me have complete control over is the first dance i was ecstatic i really wanted to show her how much she means to me with this dance i picked out peter gabriel's a book of love and edited a video of pictures of her and i growing up meeting and falling in love and then i commissioned an artsy friend of mine to make a literal book of love with all our pictures in them i've cried every time watching it the whole thing is going to be a huge surprise for her the only other person who knew about this was kyle he kept saying how cool it was i was doing this and how he wished he'd thought of something like it kyle's wedding was this weekend and holy sh their first dance was the book of love and he edited a video of their baby pictures and their relationship my heart ducking sank like a brick he wouldn't talk to me during the reception and hasn't responded back to any of my texts what the hell do i do i can't go through with my plan our social circles intertwine and i'll look like i stole his idea should i just tell casey and have her help me with a new idea do i tell kyle he's not welcome at my wedding or am i just being silly and just go ahead with my plan despite how i feel my girlfriend rachel and i have been together for eight months we recently made a trip out west for a little over a week's vacation our last stop was paying a visit to my parents this was the first time my girlfriend met them we stayed over their place for a couple of days before returning home when we arrived at my parents house my mom said that she got our room ready and to go ahead make ourselves at home and relax and go in the hot tub if we wanted rachel acted surprised and said something like you mean we get to stay in our own bedroom together wow my parents would never allow that unless we are married my mom laughed and said that they were thinking of taking us out for dinner later tonight if we would like and just let her know when we'd like to go we did our own thing for a few hours fooled around like sneaky teenagers too i felt good about being back home with rachel we all drove together to the restaurant and chatted about what we did on vacation and reminisced about the neighborhood at dinner rachel started talking about marriage in kids and said something like i have to have kids before i hit 30 it doesn't matter four guys though but we women can't procrastinate it was a little awkward i wasn't sure if rachel was just nervous or didn't realize my parents had me when they were older or just didn't care my parents didn't say much but i know that they weren't particularly impressed by rachel when we got back to our own room for the night i asked rachel why she brought that up and didn't she know that my mom had me older she said she knew and that she doesn't agree with my mom's priorities and that my parents are too liberal the next day we returned back to the other coast i love my parents and my mom is amazing i like rachel's frankness i always found it refreshing but she just came across tactless to me i'm kind of bugged by rachel's behavior it's weird but i feel like her not respecting my mom means she does not respect me i think this is grounds for breaking up but i'm not sure if i'm being irrational any advice or thoughts thank you all for the comments i was pretty surprised by the volume i was trying to downplay my concerns about the incidents at my parents i met up with rachel at her place before maybe heading for dinner together i'll let her know that i wanted to talk about what she said about my mom during vacation i'm just going to provide a dialogue about what was exchanged to make it easier for me and hopefully less confusing me i'm still trying to understand why you said what you said at dinner and why you are in such disagreement with my mom rachel it's so weird how good looking your dad is still he could have been a model when he was younger your mom is not anywhere in the same league as your dad me i don't understand what you're talking about rachel i think it's odd that they are together it's creepy me my parents love each other i don't get the problem you have i think that you purposefully brought up having kids earlier than my mom to criticize her rachel well i don't like your mom i don't have to like her the rest of conversation was more pulling teeth i had already given thought about what happened last weekend and i guess i share a chapter or two from my parents book i want to feel confident about my partner rachel gives me doubt not comfort a lot of comments mentioned that i may have been oblivious and what i initially perceived as frankness was likely always tactlessness that i may have not noticed it was tactlessness because i was in agreement i think these were factors but i also didn't agree with rachel always on her opinions i just didn't disagree either i broke up with rachel last night her parting words were a mama's boy is just plain ugly and you're cursed with your mom's looks edit so i rang my parents to let them know that i broke up with rachel i spoke with my dad first and he said you made a good decision she was dumber than a box of hair then i spoke with my mom and she asked why i ended it i told her that she was too irrational and contradictory she wasn't convinced that was the entire reason so i told her everything since she has a pretty thick skin she had a real good laugh and said that rachel's just a mean girl and she's glad that it didn't take me longer than eight months to work that one out and she also told my dad that he still got it my ex ross and i broke up over a year ago now we started growing apart and wanted different things out of life we have kept things civil kept each other on social media but we don't talk unless we see each other in public i have decided to stay single until i finish my masters but he now has a new girlfriend crystal i was very close with ross's family i still have them all on facebook but we don't talk unless it's to wish each other a merry christmas happy birthday etc only a handful of times a year out of respect for ross they do like my posts especially his mother i asked ross if he would rather i unfriend them but he says he's cool with it and not to worry the other day i received a notification from ross's mom she shared a memory with me in it it was of myself ross and his younger brother when we were on vacation three years ago his mom wrote mr beach can't wait for summer i thought it was a little weird and awkward to say the least but i didn't say anything a few hours later i received a facebook message from crystal saying you slash throats is 22 i don't know why you feel the need to still keep tabs on ross's family but you need to back off accept the fact that he is my boyfriend and please remove yourself as his friend as well as the rest of the families i have replaced you and you serve no purpose to be in their lives anymore grow up and get over yourself i haven't even responded but i'm so confused i have met crystal once when i bumped into them grocery shopping ross introduced us and we exchanged pleasantries she seemed really kind what do i say do i say anything to ross or his mother talk to crystal herself i didn't even share the post i'm so confused i posted on reddit a couple of days after i received the message from crystal after reading your comments i agreed that i did not owe crystal any response or action but i did think that sending a screenshot to ross would be the best idea if he had a problem with me being friends with him slash keeping in touch with his family on social media i would have no problem deleting them to me that should come from him not her so later that night i sent ross a screenshot of the message crystal sent me and i added hey ross i received this message from crystal a few days ago not sure what this is about but if you have any issues with me being friends with you and or your family on facebook just let me know and i will respect that thanks i saw that he read the message a couple of hours later he didn't respond that night but i got a message from him late the next morning he said frogs is 22. thanks for sending me that screenshot i had no idea that crystal messaged you and i want to apologize for her behavior she was completely out of line in sending you that i spoke with her yesterday after i saw your message and she got pretty defensive she told me that she saw that my mom still has pictures of you in one of our photo albums and when she saw that my mom shared that memory of us on vacation she got really insecure and took it out on you she has never come to me and talked about it but i told her that there is nothing to worry about and both you and i have moved on this upset her even more and she accused me of cheating and said she found rest tape of us on my laptop and threatened to show it to my mom at this point i just told her we are over i think that shias should just block her on fafsa book because she will probably try to take it out on you you didn't do anything wrong sorry for bringing you into this mess lol but thank you for giving me the heads up i dodged a bullet there so that escalated quickly for the record ross and i never made a rest tape any nsfw ones that we did make were deleted immediately after watching i called him to firm that up and he assured me she didn't find anything she was just using it as ammunition to try to get him to admit that he either one had a nsfw video with me or two was cheating on her with me not really much to say other than that i've blocked her on all social media and haven't heard anything since i hope she doesn't have my phone number haha situations like these make me happy that i have chosen to stay single for a little while thanks for all of your advice radit it really helped i met my husband six years ago when we both had just graduated college he was a lovely guy handsome and very well put together he loved muscle cars and weightlifting and i loved everything about him i fell in love with him instantly and was over the moon when he asked me to marry him a year into our marriage i became pregnant with our son and gained about 30 lbs i was 5 feet 3 inches 125 pounds before the baby and 155 pounds after the baby i still fit into the same clothing sizes so i didn't think i had gained too much weight and that it would come off with breastfeeding and some more exercise after the baby my husband started pressuring me to lose the weight he said that his friends were making comments about how fat i had gotten and that he was not as attracted to me as he was before i had the baby he gave me an ultimatum that i either would have to lose the 30 pounds in six months or he would leave me i was very upset about the demand but i didn't want to lose him so i tried my hardest to lose the weight every day for months i would wake up and go to hot yoga for 90 minutes after i got home from work i would run or do some body weight exercises i tried to keep my calorie count below 1200 so that i would lose two or more lbs per week the weight slowly but surely started to come off and i was back down to 130 pounds by the end of the six months my husband was happy and things looked like they would be okay after i lost the weight i noticed a shift in the attitude of my husband's friends most of them are perfectly nice guys but a few of them are absolute pieces of the same ones who called me fat once i returned to my old weight these friends started to make comments about me and how sexy i was i told my husband to make them stop and he said that he would speak with them but the rude comments never stopped i channeled all of my frustrations into working out and i lost an additional 15 pounds of body fat and got more toned this past weekend my husband's friends were over at the house and one of them grabbed me and tried to grope me i told my husband and even though he was angry at his friend he was still angry at me my husband said that i was leading his friends on by losing so much weight and that i was trying to make myself skinny so that i could cheat on him i was disgusted by this accusation and packed my bags and left for my mom's house last night my husband called me and begged for me to come back home he says that he knows that he was unfair and that he won't let his friend come over anymore but i'm so tired of dealing with this that i'm not sure i want him back he's the one that told me to lose weight but now he's blaming me for being too skinny and i'm afraid he's going to make me develop an eating disorder but i also still love my husband and it hurts me to be apart from him i'm so confused and i'm not sure what to [Music] do [Music] so [Music] you

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Published: Tue Sep 08 2020