Mother wants to have her wedding the same day as mine

[Music] i have been with my fiance for six years and a month august 2017 he finally proposed his family reacted the way i expected his mom and i cried together and jumped around like little girls and drank lots of wine in celebration my mom on the other hand while also happy for me i guess tried to one-up my engagement by getting engaged somehow in the same weekend without anyone even knowing she had a boyfriend at all when i showed her my ring in person she said that's so pretty but look my man gave me two rings because he couldn't decide which one was better and thought i deserved both cool huh and like i have a good relationship with my mom usually we are friends or whatever but like i said no one even knew she had a boyfriend and all of a sudden she has two rings from a guy she calls jackrabbit no joke that is what she calls him and i still don't know who he is i should mention that my parents are split up and broke up two months before i was born so they never were together all my 25 years so far and my dad and i have a not so great all the time relationship anyway he lives on the east coast and i live on the west coast anyway i shouldn't have but i'll let slip to my mom that i was scared to tell my dad since i would have to tell him over the phone a few days after i got engaged i finally called my dad to tell him and i was really careful not to post anything on facebook until after i told certain family like parents grandparents and siblings and things i talked to him for a good hour about work and politics and whatever and then i finally told him i was engaged to which he responded with year i know your mom told me a couple days ago i'm really disappointed in you he said some other really hurtful things but back to my mom then my mom asked me if she could take me wedding dress shopping and i agreed she then took me to a thrift store i just want to say that i'm not against thrift stores or use dresses i just didn't expect my first chance to be excited about my dress to come from a thrift store and it didn't it was september by then so it was still really hot and the thrift store didn't have any a c it was just weird all around i ended up ordering a dress on amazon anyway when i was picking my possible dates i was thinking sometime between october 18th through january 19th so i would have a year to plan it and my mom said that wouldn't work her for since she wants to travel to australia then seriously she has never wanted to go anywhere ever but now she wants to go to australia like i have been looking at venues in my area i was with my mom about two weeks ago and we were looking at a popular hotel downtown where we live it's the kind of place that i really wanted but i didn't think it was even a possibility but my mom talked me into taking a tour with her anyway i want a saturday night wedding but the hotel offers a cheaper sunday brunch wedding mom and i are going back and forth me pushing saturday night because i like the idea of dinner and dancing her pushing sunday morning but only because it's cheaper which is fair and we are standing in a banquet room and my mom freaking says we should have a double wedding it would be cheaper that way and i was like um with who and she says you and me and while i was standing there with my jaw on the ground shocked she adds in the sting yeah all the family would be here already i could just come here in the morning while you're getting ready get married and then you can get married after me after her on my day and while i get ready so i'm not even invited so i've been really upset and my fiance and his family are really supportive and understanding and stuff but i'm pretty upset about the fact that my parents are really bumming me out i should be so happy and over the moon about planning [ __ ] and now all i can worry about is my mom legitimately swooping in and using my vendors so she can get married quick for cheaper my job is simple manage the dum dums in the kitchen and run expo during service occasionally i have to interact with the public but usually it's just following a server to run food or apologizing for a mistake on an order we have a big window that gives all our guests a nice view of our kitchen so i can see exactly what's happening in the dining room malay tw hash one go home grandma ghg she arrived first and demanded to speak to the manager before even sitting down after she was seated my manager arrived and she rambled for about 10 minutes that last time she was here the food was terrible the servers were too chatty and that she absolutely hated it here but her grand baby loved the food so we better make it good this time manager smiled and said we would gladly accommodate then turned heel to the kitchen he warned me about the table and i kept a mental note to keep an eye on them i noticed a very exhausted woman enter the restaurant with a six-year-old son in tow and several toys from that well-known arcade and bar my server was approaching the table as the woman was sitting down and getting her son settled ghg started her tirade she took the kids toys from him and said that's junk sweet tea mama will buy you something way better the woman just looked at ghg inside he saved a lot of tickets to buy those ghg replied it's not my fault you spent all my son's money on those ridiculous games for crap toys the woman just sighed and buried herself in the menu every time the doll brought up a menu item ghg would comment on the cubs the expense and her dole's weight but when the grandson saw a picture of one of our stakes on the menu he was insistent he wanted it dill tried to explain that it may be too big for him it was a 14 ounce ruby and that if he wanted a big boy meal he should look at a burger or one of the smaller steaks ghg jumped in at this point odile just let him get it he's my growing boy after all expenses carbs and weight be damned now that her grand baby wanted the most expensive entree on the menu dill just gave a death glare at ghg and then turned to her son if you want a big boy meal you can have the seven ounce steak or the 10 ounce steak with one side and a salad if you want the 14 ounces ruby that's an adult meal and you'll have to start doing more adult chores so either you can have a big boy meal and stay with your current chores or you can have the adult meal and start doing laundry once a week and weeding the garden twice a month ghg did not like this one bit dull how can you even think of making my baby do that directs attention to grandson it's okay you get the ruby mama says it's okay dill's glare intensified and then she just smiled and looked back at her son i'll get the 10 ounce steak i don't want to do laundry or weed the garden my server took their orders and ghg was angry the whole time when the appetizer was ready the servers were all busy so i ran the food to the table the minute i put the plate down she looked at it disgusted and snapped at me are you seriously serving us such a ridiculously small portion i'm not paying such a ridiculous price for that they ordered a slider combo plate and to be fair it's explained that they are small portion appetizers when people order we've had plenty of complaints in the past i smiled and replied i'm sorry ma'am did the server not explain about these slider small plates i'll happily go in depth if you'd like she rolled her eyes but the doll said we'd be happy to hear more about them so i pulled up a chair and explained for a few minutes about the flavors they were going to experience in such small sliders and really just hit it home that though they were pricey they were worth the experience it's mostly company line [ __ ] but it tends to work with problem guests after i was done explaining i told them to enjoy and went back to the kitchen the server was in ear shot when she heard this conversation ghg said i can't believe you would embarrass ourselves like that you should have just kept quiet the dil just smiled and responded i thought it was a nice gesture and fun learning experience everything was fine up until their main entrees came out and then ghg started her [ __ ] again there's blood in his steak how could you let him eat steak like that she screamed across the dining room for the server and despite till's objections grabbed the plate and shoved it in her hands tell your chef there can't be any blood in that the doll asked the server to wait for a minute and look to her son do you want it more done or were you fine with it the sun responded no i liked it the server put it back down in front of the kid and ghg let loose you [ __ ] you're going to poison my baby and turn to the server what terrible service and place i demand to see a manager immediately dill responded i thought you felt embarrassed earlier can't we just eat ghg told the server the manager better be over by the end of the meal and sulked for the rest of the meal server went to find the four manager but also relayed all of this to me when i saw they were done eating i sent the server over to ask if they'd like dessert and the dill and sun said yes i moved over to the pantry station and made dessert for the dill and a special dessert sundae for the kid usually kids get a scoop of ice cream but this kid went and finished a whole 10 ounce steak and his side and salad plus he had to deal with a hag of a grandma when i brought them over to the table ghg just huffed he's going to get fat if you feed him like that dill just told her to be quiet and they ate their dessert the manager came over not long after and he listened to ghg's complaints about the server myself the food the service and just everything that was wrong with the place the manager apologized and gave her a small discount on the bill which she complained about as well i don't really know what happened in between that and everything else because no one was in earshot but the dill scooped up her kid and his toys and hurried out of the restaurant very pissed off ghg sat there speechless and angry she reluctantly paid the bill she was left with and told the server i hope you're all proud of yourselves ruining a grandmother's special time with her little boy and she left i received a wrist slap from ours because they got a complaint that i was unprofessional and rude they still refused to apologize even after the manager sent in his and the server's report on the situation we even had another guest a regular of ours submit a witness report our team used to be me as the kitchen grunt my wife is the planner contract coordinator and be as my banquet coordinator after my wife had the twins and after i proved that i couldn't handle bookings she told me she wanted to do her own thing and left the company and hired me a wonderful assistant who would take all bookings she doesn't work the events but she is a great girl who prevents me from driving me into a homicidal rage i have done this three times in my career he's a quiet angry kind of guy and he gets this tiny smirk it can be a tad unsettling the tale of woe i bring you is what you all call a jocasta story which i'm a huge fan of mythology and was giddy to see it referenced here i read through a couple stories and had no idea that this was a more common than not thing so this wedding was pretty much doomed from the beginning because the groom and his mother showed up to the appointment in the three tasting sessions i was told the bride was too busy with her work and that any decisions they made would be fine i really wished i hadn't taken this contract but i still needed to make money so the groom and his mom came to the appointments and yell i thought they were the ones getting married the mother kept making flirtatious remarks to her son and at one point was rubbing his knee when she would talk about how wonderful their day was going to be i somehow managed to make it through all these appointments with few problems and holding down my lunch and only once did i have to have my assistant play the sacrificial lamb so i could get a few straight answers out of the groom about three weeks before the wedding a very angry young woman was waiting outside my catering office early in the morning in the back of my mind i already knew who this was and prepared myself for whatever fresh hell was about to be sprung on me i shot a text to be and he shot back there's not enough lube in the world good luck mate as it turned out the bride had no idea i was being contracted to cater her wedding and that she thought her husband-to-be had to made deposits with another company but when they were reviewing the final seating plans his mother slipped up and said oh honey the caterer already has my seating chart that's when the groom admitted he did not book the caterer they had originally agreed upon and that his mother and him booked us upon hearing this my stomach dropped and i again shot another quick text to be his response was more or less then i told you so at this point i was simultaneously embarrassed and angry for this poor bride so much so i offered a discount on my services and she accepted i also gave her a free tasting appointment for the menu that was chosen and told her anything she didn't like i would change she again accepted and changed a few things and it being a buffet didn't mess with any of the guest choices i was apologetic the whole time and she was thankfully merciful and understanding that i had no idea she was lied to i don't know what happened over the next three weeks but the bride told her husband either you get on my side or you can crawl back up your mother's snatch and die there for all i care he chose to adopt the husband title which lead to major family drama and threats of not even attending the wedding by the mother all the threats were responded to with your loss we'll send pictures the groom's mother showed up to the wedding and was a raging bee the entire time nothing was good enough the church was too small the flowers were too colorful i don't even know the wedding dress was too flashy and she just wants all the attention anything that was great about the wedding she hated now originally the reception was to be in a beautiful outdoor garden but we managed to get it with a ton of rain so the venue changed to the bride's backup venue this made the mother very happy because she absolutely hated the other venue and the only reason the bride wanted it there was something to do with her family her grandfather had designed and planted this garden in his early days as a landscape architect and he passed not long after their engagement so we are at the backup reception venue an indoor botanical garden that was also designed by her grandfather i think this fact was hidden from the mill and the minute she gets there the groom's mother walks straight into my kitchen and demands to know why her plans have been changed i do my best to tell her that plans were changed according to the bride's wishes and that there was nothing that could be done at this point she huffs and returns to the party and just pouts at her table only getting up for her much-anticipated mother-son dance she dances with her son and is crying and wailing and begging him to always be there for her apparently the groom got embarrassed and when he told her to knock off the theatrics she stopped dancing with him and walked over to the bride whispered i hope you're happy w in her ear and left for the rest of the night the couple divorced a year later the groom just couldn't cut off his mother and let her back into his life responding to every beckon call the bride was thankful for our help in salvaging a bit of her day and i ended up catering a large family reunion of this a few months ago and she is quite happy with her new marriage and is expecting a little bundle of joy soon by now as a bit of background i have a policy of accepting that my mill is always right when she said i could not keep a secret i started spilling my guts she said i was a lousy driver and from then on when she told me to turn right i turned left and vice versa this has been going on for decades but they only moved to live near us around 10 years ago and up until last year they spent at least half the year in their other home or traveling yep they are loaded so they have only been feeling my incompetence full-time for nine to ten months or so this week is the anniversary of an event that while very meaningful to them and therefore should be meaningful to us is virtually unacknowledged by the rest of the world moreover it is a crazy busy time for all the family involved my husband is a professor i also work in academics and midterms are upon us and his sister's family her husband and son work in accounting her daughter in property management tax season in the first quarter financials are happening right now but none of that is more important than event which must take priority over everything else the nils will not even consider postponing the reunion style activities to a weekend everything has to happen in the original 24-hour window beginning w cocktail party last night then tennis tennyson golf today and a big formal dinner this evening no i did not marry a trump but sometimes it feels that way last night was the opening salvo my husband has office hours that end at 6 p.m and rarely does anyone show up so late but the midterm exam was last week i went to pick him up maybe 10 before 6 and there was a line of students still waiting to speak w he scrambled made appointments etc and we got out by 6 30 and walked in the door of the nils apartment before 7pm and walked into a wall of screeching because we were late we should have been there by five what husband is screeching back that he told them we would not be there before 6 30 and so forth then we walk into the main room where my mill announces to everyone that we were late because i just cannot be ready on time in fact i'm always late i'm just one of those people who has no respect for other people's time not quite the words she used but that was the gist all my husband's protests that he was the one w slash the apps until 6 pm go unheard she did at one point tell him to stop covering for me exact words this morning i was due at bruncher 11. it is 11 57 right now and i thought i would type this out for all of you then i'm getting in the shower my mill has called 7x because she is borrowing my coffee earned for this brunch that right the nettles are the one percent that she can neither purchase nor end her own coffee earn b you said yourself i'm always late maybe you should have made other arrangements hope your friends are enjoying their coffee free brunch [Music] you

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Length: 19min 48sec (1188 seconds)

Published: Thu Oct 22 2020