Mother in law shows up after 6 years of no contact because she found out I'm pregnant

[Music] miller's heavy homophobic and i work with kids milt also every chance they could that we were going to hell we'd never raise healthy or god-fearing children whatever and that we were an obstacle for so's family sent by god to test us after several incidents of anonymous gay conversion pamphlets being left in our mailbox we had a security camera and mill was guilty and shopping trips to help us bond that turned out to be a ride to a conversion therapist or church held interventions etc so grew a spine and started vlc in gray rocking i went for no contact and blocked everyone isles escalated so quick it hurt suddenly i had kidnapped so from her family brainwashed her uh her and made her gay and was forbidding her from seeing her family my job was public sector so this caused issues at work i sought out a cd with so's blessing and had it delivered to mill that was the straw that broke mill overnight mill would come banging on our door after that screaming and crying that she wanted to see so and even called the cops claiming abuse awesome still started up with this gay people rp thing the next day and mill ran away with it seeing as i worked with kids suddenly i was suspended every parent i worked with was always with their kids anyway parents all hated what mill was doing my boss had his hands tied by administration until an investigation was done in the meantime my sister came to visit and brought her newborn plus the nephews so was thrilled and took the kids out to events shopping etc sister was ecstatic to have time with me and her low she and i were relaxing when the door got kicked in i'm thinking a house invasion and get her and me to the kitchen when i see milan sil screaming at the door still has a bat mill is on the phone screaming to 911 that they just caught us assaulting a child and they needed police sister runs for the laundry room and locks the door with me inside and i'll starts trying to kick that door in neither of us have our phones cops show up as to so with the nephews and hell breaks loose so begin screaming at mill about the breaking the cops are apparently holding her back more cops show up in the neighbors then suddenly we are all separated sister goes to her kids sobbing and freaking out so and i are in one corner and i'll in the other ems shows up awesome cops sort out that we have cameras and take the footage at the same time boils down to both il getting charged fast forward to us moving trial going well we get restraining order and mill avoids jail time mill loses job she gets community service and parole instead we go for no contact my investigation with work is cleared i get stellar references new job and new house near my family that was in six months so gets a new job at a private clinic or some new life september five years later so's grandmother is really sick and so they reconnect i didn't like it but my pregnancy hormones are making me maternal and a bleeding heart reconnection goes very well at first she asks if she can come up for christmas and see both of us which i'm getting bad vibes about since we've only done so seeing her in public so agrees but doesn't give the address we agree to let her follow our car provided everything is okay guess who shows up with her mill who dramatically sobs to sew about missing her missing me etc mill tries to go in for a hug and so throws her arm out to stop her i get back in the car and lock the doors mill sobs to sew for five minutes with so telling them off about the whole thing mill says we all need to get along and mill needs to see the baby we need to be a family etc so calls the cops because we have a restraining order gets in the car and locks the door i'm scared and realize that mill knows we're having a home birth she had to have told mill they both know kinda where we live and now the cops are involved i'll get rid of riot act by our local pd mill gets arrested for violating a restraining order and we are given the go ahead to leave midwife checked me later that day and i'm placed on rest ho lets us know that they've all got eyes out we live at the end of the cul-de-sac and our nearest neighbor is an active duty cop and already volunteered to watch our door when i'm giving birth his wife is gonna make us food also lovely neighborhood but damn the circumstances no clue as why mill shows up now all of a sudden or why miller's helping her six years of no contact so is breaking no contact to get a hold of phil about this nonsense mill tried saying something about how she needs us now more than ever bunch of dramatic crap a continuation of my christmas surprise mill decided that us knuckling down behind our lawyer was probably not fun and yes we got the house locked up and alarmed the ring to doorbell is amazing thank you radice for the suggestion she sent several communications to our lawyer through hers she is going to court for violating the restraining order gross misdemeanor i believe and the district attorney is handling it meanwhile she's out on bail and we refuse to answer mill's number when she calls now that we are aware she's a refm4 mill we don't want anything to do with her this didn't suit mill i suppose we heard from a cousin of so through so's work email and she forwarded an ml from her mom mill's sister in at the antics claims that so is pregnant mill told her and that she got our address she wants all of them to send so gifts because this must be an exciting time for her and her husband she says that mille isn't able to send us gifts because we don't think she's family and that everyone should prove us wrong yeah you read that right miller's doing the i'm a victim crap and she told the family that so is pregnant and married last i checked i was pregnant and neither of us identified as a man so so sent an email back to her cousin with the lawyers approval that so was not pregnant she is not married to a man and that she would not accept any gifts or phone calls from the family the cousin said she'd tell her mom wished us luck and that was the end of it well we started getting phone calls the next day so many relatives going straight to our landline's voice a mail we have the ringer off anyways because ds is keeping me up with contractions and the noise wasn't helping we're on baby watch right now midwife said this week or weekend which is why i need help so and i have every way to prevent or ignore communication but how the hell do you deal with unwanted packages we already agreed to try to send them back but a neighbor said that could be expensive is there a possible way to stop packages or mail service to our house our post office is 30 minutes away and with being on baby watch we can't really go anywhere if it takes so going while mom stays that's okay i just don't want to be trying to sleep with a newborn and waking up to discover a postal worker delivering to my doorstep i'd feel awful yes hello how are you can you take this back and return to sender please i don't want to be that house help update we are on informed delivery and so stopped by the post office on the way home we have a package stop applied to our house everything goes there and we have to come in once a week to sort it we also met our usual mail carrier who we chatted with a little he was very sympathetic and gave us some useful advice as for the legal staff our lawyer can file a cd for the calls and packages but we can't prove mil did anything which sucks we know she's behind this but legally we can't prove it the ml was just too vague and a lawyer consulted someone over it hopefully she just [ __ ] off after all this pardon my language this one's gonna be short first off i'm exhausted diaz arrived saturday morning at home and everything's good he's napping right now he's also on our own now too today we received a call from our lawyer first off congratulating us on ds then he tells us that a 10-page letter arrived to his office addressed to me's mill's maiden name and his eldest sibling he apparently sent a letter to mills defender that we are to be addressed as mrs and mrs eldest sibling as it's our legal name back to the letter lawyer said he needed to read the letter three times to have it make sense he also needed a stiff whiskey after he read it he said that we can read a copy at our leisure since it didn't contain any threats or legal talk just an attempt at communication but done legally so had no comment and i'm not sure i want to read it if it was so bad the lawyer couldn't make sense of it any thoughts guys so's legal maiden name as her phil's same as her birth certificate so's last name not associated with mill's last name it never has been i called this out as a territory attempt and so readily agreed first thing our lawyer said he couldn't read it because it was just ramblings with no punctuation he said that the last half was the only actual readable half and was amazed mill had enough brain cells to write he was also amazed our newborn has hair he had to have a drink because it gave him a migraine he had to restart reading it when he lost his place he said it wasn't that bad so we gave it to my sister to read anyways my sister came over yesterday with the letter highlighted and covered in stickers for us to read she's literally like you're gonna laugh at a good portion of it so we sat down to read it the letter is 10 pages and has three parts sister broke it down for us into the main point and highlights she's so cool the first part is her literally rambling about how great of mom she was reminding sue of the good times and wishing we had all come to an understanding about our gayness instead of involving the courts mill says it traumatized her having to watch her daughter go to jail and blames me specifically for blowing things out of proportion when it came to the break-in she then goes on to say that the whole thing alienated her from her community friends and family specifically sil but it's okay because she grew from it as a christian and she learned that people can believe in different things but still get along because she shared a cell with a lovely asler yeah take your r away from my baby you creep the middle of the letter well there's like two pages of her rambling about bible quotes the rambling had no punctuation and was horribly misspelled we are not sure if she had some sort of stroke writing this page she goes on and on about the righteous word of god for like four paragraphs my sister now calls her righteous rambles the next part of the letter goes on to explain that sill will not speak to her she got out of jail only to go to rehab for the addiction explains a lot actually gets sober and then married a traveling man she completed her legal requirements and then moved without asking her mother the atrocity phil confirmed it with us over the phone but of course in true just no fashion she lied about the complete stork phil told us that her going to rehab revealed she had ovarian cancer still survived but had to have a hysterectomy of course mill had a full-blown panic because her gc couldn't give her babies she made it all about her and ignored cell's feelings this caused her to snap out of her fog and leave mill her moving out only happened a few months ago the final page of the letter is her begging us to let her see her grand baby because she needs it she apparently will die of heartbreak if she doesn't get to be a grandma because being a mother and grandmother is all a woman is set out to do in her life she goes on to detail that she has to be in the delivery room to see the baby's birth too late she also wanted to be the first to hold the baby because she wants to bond with it right away also too late also not your baby to bond with and that we need to get rid of this idiotic idea of having the baby at home because that's apparently childer way too late the rambling bid made so a tad upset because it shows her mother is losing it she's going to therapy today to unpack it i'm doing all right the last part made me laugh so hard i accidentally interrupted yes while he was nursing so was in tears who says that [ __ ] to people and thinks that's going to persuade them just normal apparently but yeah help me with the name guys i'm sure she isn't done yet so apparently mill failed to appear for a court date yesterday the judge issued a bench warrant and we were immediately notified of it we were advised to stay in the house and lock the doors also told that her bail is revoked and she's going to be in jail until everything is over why did she miss such an important court date well she discovered that diaz had already arrived one of my former co-workers was talking about it at a brunch and didn't know she was there she wasn't invited but showed up she apparently started freaking out got kicked out of the restaurant and immediately started calling us we got just a bunch of weird screaming voice emails with only a few sentences here or there why didn't you tell me my baby was here i need to see him you slur s can't keep me from him and the kicker you call the judge and tell him i'm allowed over apparently she then disappeared in her car not before nearly running someone over and never showed up to court there was a lot more biblical rambles in the screaming and a lawyer told us to very politely have my bill stay over so we currently have my bill my mom his best friends and their big dog over in our living room mill hates dogs and this one is a gentle giant a hoe has a gate now at the front of the community but it isn't finished being built yet we'll see if this deters any issues i'll keep you all posted we are not able to go to a different house because of sick children mom lives with bill and my sister post no news on our mill she's still somewhere as far as we know she was at the courthouse parking lot because her car was impounded no word from her lawyer the defense attorney or the judge so's family has seen her ass finally for what it is a homophobic and r idiot oh yeah mill did call in a narcastic mill fashion and threatened us over the phone she sounded awfully out of her mind freaked us out made the police nervous so with a potentially dangerous mill on the loose still threatening to show up at our house we've been bouncing between relatives houses aho will have a gate up in a few days then we can go home right now we are at my dad's house with him and his horribly awful wife my stepmother i don't like her yesterday morning she came in while diaz and i were napping and asked so if she could take ds for a bid to let top sleep so absolutely not she ushered stepmom right out the door and locked it behind her no way was letting our baby out of her sight of course the woman sulked through a tiny tantrum to my dad about not getting any quality time with the baby my dad as patient as he is explained that right now we were all on high alert because so's mom is threatening them and as far as i'm aware would try to take the baby we are leaving them alone and that is final minimal interference he then apparently went back to his paper she knocked it off then my dad left for a work trip it's now just us and her and she's doing it again my stepmother has now tried more than twice like 20 times to come in the room while i'm breastfeeding or sleeping or bonding with ds to ask if she could take him for a bit each time she was told no the door was locked and each time she threw a temper tantrum she says we are not giving her a reason even though we've explained it twice she's also waking us up causing squish to cry for long periods of time and keeping us all awake my dad was already mad at her for causing a commotion and she stopped but i'm worried she's just going to go back to entering the room 20 plus times while that is gone my newborn and i need to sleep what the hell can i say or do to get her to knock it off so goes to the courthouse tomorrow to speak to the judge so it's just me and this woman alone i honestly want to just lock the door and never leave but i need help getting to and from the bathroom still advice edit no we can't go to a hotel or another person's house everyone here has some sort of illness and my dad stepmother don't at the moment our neighbors even do we don't feel safe going home until that gate is finished being built update i didn't even think of having a friend over thank you i'm running on fumes and i'm so tired i don't think i could fend off sm if i tried i have my friend from work coming over to give me a hand she's going to run interference and i've also texted my dad we don't have the best relationship but he is trying to reign in his wife to tell her to kindly duck off he texted me back that he will be leaving his trip early he never does that to come home right now she's moping downstairs because so used her shiny shiny spine and wore the baby for a few hours while i slept another great idea i hadn't thought of that thank you guys so much [Music] you

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Published: Mon Jan 11 2021