My ex wife is pregnant with her lover's baby and ex mother in law demands I admit paternity

a quick rundown of my relationship with x and her mother to help with context x and i were together for seven years married to about a year into the marriage she started sleeping with her fitness instructor i found out and we had a quick and relatively painless divorce mill hated me the entire time i was with x because i work a retail job and she thinks that someone working in retail is beneath her and her daughter i learned that she bragged for months about finally being rid of me and how much she liked the fitness instructor they ended up getting together officially days after papers were signed way more than me i wish them the best and moved on with my life well the divorce was finalized about seven months ago and a few days ago i get a text from xml of a positive pregnancy test picture she then says congrats papa i ask is she meant to send that to somebody else and she says no that watch point gibraltar is gonna be a daddy now considering that x and i hadn't been having s for months prior to the divorce that baby would have to have already been born for me to be the father so obviously this was [ __ ] i explained this to ex mill and she starts blowing up my phone with calls so i just block her a few minutes later x calls me and i pick up and open with what the duck is your mother going on about here x explains that she is pregnant but obviously the fitness instructor is the father she says that as soon as he found out he spent weeks trying to convince her to terminate because he doesn't want to be a father but she refused so a few days ago he suddenly just skipped town and they have no idea where he went according to xx mill just didn't know how to handle that so she must just be convinced that i'm the father because it's the only lead she's got i ask her if she'd like to get a paternity test done just to convince her and she said she'd do it if xmill didn't drop it but to not worry about it for now i agreed and obviously xml calmed down and saw reason and left me alone right so the next day i come home from work and ex mill has somehow tracked down my new place because she is standing at my front door in her church clothes waving a sheet of paper in the air at me before i can even get out of my car to figure out what the duck is going on she has charged straight at me like a brain damaged cat in heat and holds out a piece of paper in what i think is her writing and demands that i sign it i take the paper and look at it and the gist of it is that the document is titled document of declaration of parental intent she took a piece of printer paper wrote out a three paragraph document saying that i swore to be a father to ex's unborn child and that i'd sign the birth certificate i just laugh and hand it back to her explaining again that i'm not the father and that she needs to leave suddenly she went from all smiles to a very tense look on her face she didn't seem angry more scared and confused her eyes bugged out a bit and darted around her face turned red and i'm pretty sure she went from dry to flop sweating in like 10 seconds flat then she screamed at me about how all i had to do was sign the paper and we could get started on being a happy family again how if i signed it she'd start planning the wedding i repeated to her that she needed to leave or i'd be involving the police she started shrieking and crying about how i was a cruel man who refused to be a man and do what is right here i started dialing and she ran to her car and sped off i called x again and explained what happened and again offered the paternity test for her mother's sake but that if she got anywhere near my place again i'd be calling the cops x apologized and agreed we'd schedule something we'll be going in soon to get the tests done so i can hopefully be done with xml's madness but i suspect it won't be so easy well not even one hour after posting yesterday i got a call from a mutual friend of me and ex she had heard everything through the grapevine gossip around here travels impressively fast and she had wanted to talk to me about it we spoke for a bit about my side of things before she decided to update me apparently baby daddy showed back up early yesterday after going completely radio silent and proposed to ex she kicked him to the curb and called xmil to complain about him but apparently instead of sympathy xml ended up taking baby daddy into her home where he stayed the night ex-mill then guilted x into taking him back and got her to accept the proposal so yeah we cancelled our appointment for the paternity test i am as far as we can tell off the hook i'll keep my guard up in case the crazy waves come back but i do have text messages from x where she admits there is zero chance the child is mine and i'm willing to get the test done if need be down the road and for those of you who guessed it was about her image in the child not being born out of wedlock and not my money you were absolutely right according to our mutual friend xmilla's pushing for a wedding within the next six weeks hoping to get it done before she starts to really show some of xmill's church friends had found out about the pregnancy and had been making comments about how odd that x would have a child before getting remarried that must have freaked ex mill the duck out and caused her desperately on her image has always been everything to her my mill isn't the worst by just normal standards she has done her fair share of ducked up [ __ ] in the beginning but i'm a very my word as final don't duck with me kind of girl so she tends to not really bother me directly anymore she has an array of issues i have stories for days so i may post later on today i bring you the time she called me a res on my birthday for wearing a bikini so it was my birthday and every year since i was 17 i have gone abroad for it it's a little tradition since i don't really like parties previously with friends but once i started dating my dh at 21 we started doing it together later incorporating our kids my dhs family in my own family who haven't ever asked have never been on one of these birthday trips but for some reason this year my mill wanted to join us on the trip saying it would be a great experience and we can catch up and enjoy the good weather erg whatever a little background my mill is a master manipulator and yes my friend suffers from the jocasta complex this bee is always in a one-sided competition with me note she literally modifies herself to look like me it's crazy dh always knew she was ducked up but when we started dating and as we got more serious over the years he truly saw her for what she is and now always stands by me but unfortunately she is his mother so she's still around and she has learned it's my way or the highway so she has railed herself in because she wants to be a part of our lives after i told her one time she needs to know she doesn't benefit my life in any way she needs us not the other way and anyone can get cut off digression back to the story i agreed she could come on the trip blah so there were a lot of beck moments on the actual trip the journey but that's another story she implied to the check-in lady that she and my husband were married and i was the nanny for the kids so we are on an island beaches hot weather almost stress-free i thought i'm about to enjoy myself everyone is already at the beach but i was having a shower so i was out a little later than everyone else now it's important to note that my mill has always had an obsession with my body this is all going to sound narcissistic as hell forgive me that isn't my intent at all no not in her i want to duck you way more so inner i want that way she has made several comments on it over the years and just been weird about my diet in general at one period when we'd go over to eat she would make separate food for me of just carbs like no meat or whatever anyone else was eating a specific menu for me of just like pasta bread potatoes she has even tried to take pictures of myer because she was thinking of getting her barrels and wanted to use maya as a model because she heard the h say it was perfect once and then asked my dh if it felt good to hold on to i have a exaggerated hourglass figure for reference mill as a larger woman so i go out to the beach i see my beautiful babies i kiss my dh and i'd go to unwrap my sarong y'all this woman shrieked now it's not like i was but then i was wearing a damn bikini however due to my body type literally everything will emphasize my b a anyways i had two damn kids and i have worked hard to keep my waistline document i can wear what i want she literally screamed this is a public beach it was private and it was only us and you look like a rest you can't wear that i didn't skip a beat and reply though twirls look i'm wearing the hell out of this my dh starts laughing and compliments me he thoroughly enjoys my trolling she snaps ahead to look at him and then closes her gaping mouth and is thoroughly embarrassed now like a lot of women i have had body issues my whole life and i still have days it has taken a lot to love myself and i'll be damned if i let someone try to project their insecurities onto me you can kiss my hair since you're on it all the time b a lot of other beck happened on this trip relevant bg she's very pale blonde hair blue eyed my husband is half black so like me he's of a caramel complexion therefore so are my kids she complained that i picked a destination where everyone looks like you on purpose so she can be the odd one out yeah milshok horror people in africa are black i know it's crazy so as a labor and delivery are in i get to witness first and some of the messy mess that happens on a labor and delivery unit when these just knows get a whiff of a do-over baby and come to wreak havoc on your hallowed occasion not only am i there to push with you clean your ass up because you can't feel from the epidural teach you how to breastfeed change a diaper and cuddle your baby for a few hours so you can get some much needed and well deserved rest but i'm also the one you can confide in that you have a crazy just know and here's her picture i get your name blocked out in the system i notify security i post signs all around so that someone not privy to all the gory details will at least know not to let anyone in i also relish calling security on a surprise just know that came out of hiding the day you had a baby for the first time i'm your line of defense from your crazy ass mill i'm going to start a running storyline if people show interest of all these [ __ ] i encounter on the daily on this episode of just no mill a teen mother alerted me that her teen boyfriend had a crazy mother she asked that she not be let in gave me her name particulars and i did the rest meaning all of the aforementioned stuff security blocking names a dozen or so signs etc she has the baby and all is calm to calm our unidor bell alerts guest asks to see pt's first name we always ask for a last she wasn't sure red [ __ ] flag i continue to converse through the camera system she gives me her name it's damn close to the forbidden name think miriam smithson and the name was mary smith not wanting to upset the part i asked boyfriend to come look on camera he confirms it's his mother he told me since part had the baby she was softening to the idea of potentially letting her see her for like two minutes wanting to make sure my part actually said that i go in and ask she exhaustedly says yes i double check and let her know she doesn't have to do anything she says no it's fine quick in and out famous last words i'll let this just know in against better judgement she came with auntie so and so they walked in the room asked to hold the baby auntie held the baby and before i could even move grandma pulled something out of her purse but concealed in her hand lickety-split she swiped kidder's cheek i was stunned many adjust no has pulled me aside and in hushed tones asks if i can do a paternity test on her son's behalf but really on her behalf but never have i seen someone actually attempt one i immediately called security their ducking dumbasses tried to bolt off the unit and i watched them literally splat against our door like the cockroaches they were because on my unit you have to be bust in and out and the exit side just have brass plates no handles and it looks like you can just push them they were trapped just waiting the 60 seconds or so until security arrived and escorted them out sorry llamas no big scene was made upon exiting oh and the hilarious part is she only swiped for the quarter of a second she thought she could get away with not nearly the requisite time needed recently i divorced my wife i found out that she has been cheating on me for a long time and i don't want to live together with such a woman i also won a full custody of our 16 year old son which surprised me because usually children stay with their mothers in the case of divorce at least where i love courts tend to side with mothers more but when asked my son chose to live with me so i guess court took his wishes into consideration mill was also present in the courtroom and i was heavily ashamed of her behavior when i was explaining the court the reasons as to why i want the divorce and why i want to take care of my child she was interrupting me all the time like don't listen to him he's a damn liar my daughter is not like that she's a good woman she even tried to take advantage of the fact that the judge was a woman so she probably thought she'd be on her side you're a woman you understand don't you the judge asked her to keep silent many times she was completely ignoring that when my son came to speak and said he wants to stay with his dad mill jumped to her feet and started yelling he doesn't mean that he's a little boy that [ __ ] taught him to say that he wants to be with his mom at this point she was asked to leave the courtroom my ex-wife and me we agreed that she has the rights to see our son as much as she wants even though our son doesn't think very highly of her now that he knows she was cheating on me but mill believes that every child has to live with their mother and she has obviously decided to ignore court's decision yesterday my son was coming home from school and suddenly mill appeared next to him in her car she was following him all the time trying to persuade him to get in and go to his mom he was like no i'm living with my dad leave me alone i don't want to live with my mom she then got out of the car tried to grab him and went like stupid boy you don't know what's good for you your father is a scoundrel he ran away from her and told everything to me i called mill and i said listen didn't you understand what the court told you my son is living with me now so what do you want she was like don't even think that he'll come back to his mom boys should always live with their mothers the father is not as necessary to a boy as the mother is this morning i took him to school in my car and we saw that mill's car was parked not far away from his school so obviously she was waiting for him i accompanied him to the door of the school and then mill suddenly drove away i guess because she saw he wasn't alone i told him to always stick with his friends and not wander around alone i don't think she might actually harm him because even though he's just 16 he's already taller than her and twice as muscular so i know she couldn't physically overpower him to kidnap him or something still it's an unpleasant feeling when i'm at the job and i think all the time that mill might be sneaking around him i called my ex-wife and i told her what her mother is doing and she was so calm about that i honestly started to have a suspicion that she might be in on this too i saw her face in the courtroom when the judge said that the child will be living with me she definitely wasn't expecting that so i think she wants him back in her house also when she wanted to see him a week ago or so my son said no he didn't want to see her she told me to ignore her mother and not worry because she's an elderly woman today mill called me and was like what have you done what have you told him that he doesn't want to see his mother anymore i didn't do anything i just answered his questions truthfully when he asked me how i came to know that his mom was cheating on me i told him that i caught her with another man why should i lie to my child she was like you're mad what have you done his mother must stay perfect in his eyes he didn't have to know anything i said listen leave me alone leave him alone stay out of our lives if he doesn't want to see his mother now i won't force him perhaps later when the emotions cool down he'll change his opinion she said and don't you dare to bring another woman in your house and make her his mother he only has one mother i was like wait a minute mill that's my private life and if i ever decide to marry again i'm not going to ask for your permission then she said that if i don't give him back to his mother she'll spread rumors that i'm a pee that i only wanted him to live with me so that i could use him and so on i said you try it and we'll have another lawsuit i can promise you that so yeah i never thought that she'd become this barking mad she doesn't even see that it was her daughter's fault that our family has fallen apart no man wants to live together with a cheater

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Published: Sun Dec 27 2020