MOM Shows Up After 11 Years & Tries To Steal My Wedding MONEY Because I Have To PAY Her BACK

reddit what is the biggest family drama over wedding you've ever witnessed me and my fiance are getting married in december we both set up a joint savings account and with a great deal of working we were able to save about ten thousand dollars for the wedding of our dreams and our honeymoon and anything else we'd need down the line now before this i agreed to have a cup of coffee with my horrible evil mom the one who walked out on us 11 years ago the only reason i agreed to meet her was because i promised my little sister i'd try and be nice and hear her out anyway we spoke well she spoke and i just glared at her and then we left she then begged me for a lift back to the station and i begrudgingly agreed i dropped her off and hoped i'd never see her again until today we were sitting at home watching a movie when my phone rings it's the bank bank employee hello this is bank employee calling from santander me yes hi can i help you bank employee i need to discuss account sensitive information can you just confirm some security details for me i answer his questions and then ask what is going on bank employee your fiance is sitting in our waiting area she's requesting that we transfer 7 000 from your joint account into an account in a different name obviously this raises some flags and as per your security settings any transfer over a thousand dollars require joint authorization we did hang on sorry i've just been told she's left the branch although we still have the card me let me stop you right there we're coming in now whoever just tried to transfer money from my account wasn't my fiance as she's sitting right next to me i'll be there in 20 minutes bank employee okay we do have to notify our fraud office of this incident i'll see you soon me and fiance get to the branch and ask to speak with bank employee and he walks over bank employee hello we just spoke on the phone didn't we me yes hopefully you can tell me how someone got access to our account bank employee certainly first things first if i may see some id i can give you your card back me sure thing we both hand over our driver's licenses he looks at them and then hands it back along with the card fiance can you describe the woman who tried to gain access me actually you could do one better i showed my warrant card and badge to bank employee me police would you mind getting your manager i'd love to have a look at the cctv from the time of the access bank employee this is quite a regular but i'll go get my manager ultimately it's her choice should she show you the footage bank employee picks up a phone on the desk and places a call a few minutes later a smartly dressed woman in a burgundy suit walks out she's holding a laptop as she walks up she extends her hand and i shake it bank manager officer if i may just check your id i can show you a cctv still image but i'm afraid actual video footage would need to be requested via head office fiance that's all right isn't it we just want to know who it is me yeah we do i once again show my id the woman opens her laptop and turns the screen around and there in glorious 1080 is a photo of my mother leaning against the counter fiance wait isn't that me yeah it is i turn to the bank manager and employee me thank you very much i know who the woman in this picture is it's my mother she's unwell please proceed with contacting the fraud office and i'll deal with her thank you so much for your time we leave the branch and i take my phone out and dial my mom's number she answers almost immediately evil mom hello son what a lovely surprise me cut the crap i know you tried to get into mine and fiance's bank account so before i block your number and see to it that you get arrested for theft and bank fraud i just wanted to say that i knew you'd never change you're still the same vile horrible woman i grew up hating i hope you burn in hell evil mom listen here you ungrateful man i deserve that money it's a son's duty to help their mother out you owe me plus it's not like you need it now me on the other hand i happen to need click i end the call and push the block number button as it turns out my mom took the card from the glove compartment of my car when i was dropping her off at the station and yes don't worry both me and fiance will be filing charges against her also another thing that bothered us what did she need seven thousand pounds for i 31 male am getting married next year rather than a traditional wedding my fiancee 30 female and i have planned a group trip to one of the most beautiful places in the world we've booked an excursion package that will take us and our guests to various spas tourist locations etc and we plan to do the actual wedding ceremony on the last day of the trip following that our guests will go home and my then wife and i will travel elsewhere for another week as our honeymoon the problem is the excursion package we booked is limited to 14 people including my fiance and i if we wanted a bigger group we'd have to upgrade to the next package which would be considerably more pricey and not within our allocated wedding budget my fiancee and i have planned out the guest list as follows my mother her parents her twin sister her two younger brothers my four older siblings and two very close mutual friends of ours here's the thing though my older siblings and i are all very close in age my mother got pregnant again by a different father when i was younger my mother was doing very poorly at the time financial struggles problems with addiction ongoing depressive episodes and didn't feel capable of taking care of another child so my youngest brother ended up getting raised primarily by my mother's cousin though he's been living at home with my mom since he was 14. he's now 19 and unfortunately neither i nor my other siblings are very close with him we see him on major holidays and occasionally when we all visit home but due to both the age difference and the fact that he wasn't raised by our mother we just haven't been able to maintain a significant relationship when my fiance and i were putting together the guest list i considered including him but with the strict limitations on guest numbers it came down to him versus one of my best friends honestly i'm far closer with my friend after we invited everyone my mom called me to tell me that my brother was incredibly upset that he hadn't been invited she said that she couldn't believe that i would leave him out of a family event like this especially as he's been left out of so much family stuff throughout his life but my other siblings agree with me none of them are very close with him either and they know they wouldn't choose him over their best friends if the choice had to be made i feel bad about hurting his feelings but i still think it's my and my fiance's decision who we invite to our wedding so me and my boyfriend have been talking about getting married we're not engaged around after a year after he comes home from boot camp to be a marine he's leaving in january 2020 somehow pretty sure it was my entitled half-sister who may have possibly eavesdropped on a conversation me and my boyfriend had words spread around my family and got to my father now i do not have a stable relationship with my father some moments were cool but others it's just pure hell i am much like my father stubborn like talking back etc most of my flaws come from him we deal with things differently such as being mad at each other so my father called me yesterday and the combo goes as follows me hello father what's this i hear about you getting married me i'm not getting married father then why did your sister say you're going to get married in a year me dad i'm not getting married me and boyfriend were just talking about it father you shouldn't even get married you barely know this guy me look i don't know what my sister told you but we were talking about getting married in a year or two from now we'll have plenty of time to know each other father you're still living with your mom parents are separate i don't know who you think you are getting married so young me i'm sorry last i checked i was 18 years old and planning on getting married at 19 or 20. father i hope you know i'm not giving my blessing to this guy me we weren't gonna ask for it anyway i'll just ask my stepdad's blessing and moms i don't need yours father i'm your dad you will respect and obey me me you are my father stepdad is my dad last i checked you weren't interested in what i had planned for the future unless it involved college which is nowhere in my plan father you are going to mess up your life for getting married so young and just under two years of knowing this kid you need to work on yourself go to college and get a proper job before doing anything irrationally me i'm sorry is this coming from the same man that dated my mom for nine months got her pregnant and got married in under two years i don't want to hear it dad even if we decided to get married tomorrow you have nowhere to put your two cents in at this point he is screaming at me and swearing i simply hang up and he blows up my phone for half an hour i'm an adult if he can know a girl at 25 get her pregnant and get married at 26 then i should have every right to get married at 19 or 20. i want nothing to do with my brother and his fiancee they have done plenty of things over the years which have resulted in family and friends going no contact but that's a whole load of other stories they were due to get married next weekend however due to obvious reasons they've had to postpone it the thing that annoyed a lot of people off was that if we wanted to go to their wedding we had to pay our share of the wedding they didn't organize a cheap wedding neither it was a 75 000 wedding with the amount of friends and family going we would all have to have paid 500 each this wasn't discussed beforehand it was just expected of everyone essentially they paid for the wedding themselves via loans but expected everyone to pay their share so the wedding was free for them my parents and her parents even offered to pay for the majority between them but my brother refused a lot of people kicked off and either declined to go or refused to pay the amount we had to pay rose from 500 to 1500 pretty much overnight this is just for one person not even a plus one people refusing and dropping out caused a huge temper tantrum for my brother and his girlfriend he's always been the golden child he's very entitled and expects everyone to bend at his will eventually my dad caved enabler and why my brother is so entitled and paid for all of our share even though we all declined the rest of us have morals and don't live out of our parents pockets one of the other stories and we have all paid our dad back the fifteen hundred dollars so to now the wedding was cancelled naturally there was a huge drama for my brother and his equally as entitled narcissistic girlfriend if they reschedule the wedding it will cost them another eight thousand dollars to rebook everything guess who has to pay for it the guests my brother's girlfriend called an emergency meeting to discuss the wedding they stated they refused payment for my dad again apparently we are the entitled ones because he paid for us the first time if we refuse to pay this time it will be our fault the wedding is ruined blah blah blah my fifteen hundred dollar share is now sixteen hundred and sixty dollars there are so many other things that have happened over the years this isn't some petty crap that sparked this off in short my siblings and i are done with them my cousin shirley 22 female got married last august half a year later and my family still won't stop giving me grief for this so here it goes i 28 male was pretty surprised when word got out that shirley and brian mid-20s mail were having a big wedding about 200 people shirley's family isn't well off my mom has helped my aunt and uncle out with car expenses and stuff like that over the years i don't know what brian and his parents do when the invitations arrived i saw a line on the bottom asking that we bring a dish to pass i was a little irritated because money was tight and i have a very small kitchen that's not suited for cooking for more than four or six people i had also already sent them a gift off the registry that they linked to on the wedding website that had already been up for a while i have a famous in my family musaka that i make for special occasions it's delicious but it takes me a while to prepare and the cost of the ingredients really add up when i called to rsvp shirley said she was hoping i would make about three or four nine times thirteen pans of it i don't even have one nine times thirteen pan at home i was pretty honest with shirley and told her my situation but offered to pick up a party tray at bj's she sounded really hurt and said she wanted that reception to be a chance to share family recipes combining the two families and all of that and this would count as my wedding gift the wedding was a couple hours away where brian's family lives so transporting it would be difficult but shirley said nobody will care if it gets a little cold shirley said if i can't bring the musaka then i should try to make another savory dish something cheesy and be sure to bring three pans of it i talked to my sister and i guess shirley gave her the same speech my sister said she was going to bring a veggie tray anyways my mom and my brother meanwhile spent the night before sleeving over multiple lasagnas i ended up injuring my foot a couple of weeks before the wedding feeling overwhelmed i decided to keep things simple everyone in the family loves kraft mac and cheese so i got three foil pans and i made several boxes i doctored it up with some parmesan and herbs i had at home and some bread crumbs on top when i got to the wedding and finished bringing all the mac and cheese from my car to the tables i saw my uncle who was setting up too and he gave me a dirty look he didn't say anything but later it got out that shirley and brian were livid about the mac and cheese my family is kind of divided on it my sister thinks that's what shirley and brian get for asking people to bring food but my mom thinks that i was being petty and i should have just sucked it up this girl we'll call her mary 23 has been a good friend of mine 23 female since high school we lost touch for a few years but have reconnected over the last year it was one of those friendships where it picked up where it left off and even got stronger we've been through so many similar situations since graduating and it made our bond so much stronger she called when i announced my engagement and she congratulated me and offered to do my makeup i never really do my makeup but i did want it for my wedding day and she's pretty great at it so i accepted her offer and told her the wedding was in three weeks she texted me the day of the wedding saying she was going to be at my house in an hour awesome two hours later she's not there she's not texting or calling back i texted her saying that i hope she was okay but i was gonna have to leave or i was gonna be late and i never heard anything i got married in february just last week she sends me a snap talking about her day and whatnot and i just closed it without responding she's still reaching out on different platforms but she hasn't mentioned ghosting me or apologized it's always just a funny meme or commenting on my posts i have heard from a friend her grandfather passed away but i'm not sure if it correlated with my wedding day or not i don't want to be the one to initiate this conversation i feel like she should know what she did and should bring it up first update 2 i reached out she responded her grandfather died before my wedding she said she was so excited to do it and then anxiety and mental health issues got the best of her she explained how she's been wanting to reach out and she's just been embarrassed she stated a few times how she's a witch for ghosting me on my wedding day i told her i just wish she would have let me know so i could have told her it was okay i wouldn't have been upset at this point i'm just sad that we've both been holding on to bad feelings for so long yes that's true i don't know how an amazing guy has the most entitled mother ever four years ago i met nick at a cafe and two years later we started dating the year of dating he proposed on valentine's day now his mother doesn't like me mostly because i'm not religious and i do my own thing even though nick left religion before he met me she blames me for bringing lucifer into his life we're having a gothic graveyard wedding on halloween mostly our wedding of our dreams we love halloween and old graveyards we asked and as long as we don't disrespect graves or anything we are allowed to have a wedding there wedding planner did an amazing job with everything including finding a new reception venue when the other one canceled might be going to court for that one we sent out invites to everyone including his mother this is the text i've gotten evil mother-in-law why aren't you getting married in church that's my dream for him me because we're not religious and the graveyard wedding was his idea evil mother-in-law so i'm going to look horrible because my son is marrying a demon girl me evil mother-in-law i'm sorry you feel that way it's our day so please put differences aside for your son and come to the wedding everything went downhill wedding planner called me and asked if i changed my flowers to real ones and have my theme change she literally got a hold of wedding planner and told her that i wanted a traditional wedding now and find a church thankfully i cleared it up and made a password to make sure evil mother-in-law can't do damage she told everyone that she's the groom's mother and it's her day my fiance and i have been together since we were young i was a great above her we knew we wanted to get married but we both had goals that made a young marriage not an option i wanted to become a doctor before getting married my fiance wanted to graduate college and have a career of her own we secretly got engaged right after high school graduation and moved forward with our individual plans after her freshman year in college it became financially necessary to live together our families don't like couples living together outside of marriage but an engaged couple gets a sort of exception so we staged a new engagement for our families and we were able to live together in peace i finished med school this past year and we finally had a wedding planned in april which is now not possible we've gotten full refunds and our vendors are very accommodating the issue is a new date we want to hold off until april 2022 because this is realistically going to last 18 months and we want more time to plan around societal slash economic changes our families are furious they say that we just used being engaged as an excuse to live in sin for a decade and that we have no intentions of ever getting married my fiance will be 29 by our new wedding date which is an unusual age for first marriage in our families we're getting a lot of criticism for not going to the courthouse which isn't even possible right now and not what my fiance wants technically got engaged in 2011 official engagement in 2012 met goal in 2019 and now 2020 wedding is getting pushed back to 2022. family is furious [Music] you

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Published: Sat Nov 07 2020