- I'm 27, I've been
seeing an older gentleman, he's 43 and I've been seeing
him for about eight months now. He has a four year old,
little beautiful daughter. I love her, I've met her multiple times. I just noticed that he has become lazy with the prioritizing us, as he used to. For instance, on Valentine's Day, he knows that I'm a singer/songwriter and I perform every
Thursday at the same place, at the same time and usually he'll pop in and surprise me, but I
haven't heard from him the entire evening, you know. Then, my mom comes to town
and flew in from New York to visit me and I made it a point how important it was for
him to meet my mother. And the whole week goes by, he's like yeah, I'll meet
your mom, I'll meet your mom. He never meets my mom
and it's all excuses, oh I had my daughter. I don't want to hear these excuses, 20 minutes, five minutes here, you don't live far away. I want to know, should I
even pursue this man anymore or should I just fall back? (audience murmers) - Well hey, hey, it's Hey Steve. (audience laughs) Uh uh, hell no. (audience applauds) I heard a woman say this one time. She was talking to a young girl. She said don't get in the
habit of collecting red flags. (audience applauds) Don't collect red flags, you'll
have a wagon full of them. You only need one. Now, Valentine's Day. - I didn't get a card,
I didn't get flowers, meanwhile my house smells like a garden from all these other dudes, but you know. (audience groans) Yeah, but none from the guy
I truly invested myself in. That's not my problem, that
they're sending me flowers, you know what I'm saying? I was invested in him. (man shouts) - See here's the deal. - I've cared about him. - Here's the deal, listen to me. Valentine's Day is a huge day. You say this guy is 42? - 43, he should know better. - No, no, he does know better. - [Woman] Yeah, he does. - Well all know better. - [Woman] Yep. - 14 year old boys know
better on Valentine's Day. You know how many little pieces of candy I'd of gave girls in elementary school? You know how many little
hearts I'd of wrote, will you be my valentine? You know how many of them
checked the No block? (audience laughs) Valentine's Day was big
to me in junior high, in elementary school. If he's not there on the big
day like Valentine's Day, that red flag and he picked a perfect day not to come cause normally
he pops in on Thursdays but there's Valentine's Day. So if he wasn't with you, where was he? - That's what I said. I'm like, if I don't hear from you, what the hell you doin'? I don't want to hear this excuse, I was with my daughter,
cause you would have been.... - No, no, no, he wasn't with his daughter. - [Woman] No, I know that. - No, Valentine's Day
is not for your kids. Y'all already know that,
it's grown woman time. And you got some stuff
from some other men. - Yeah, multiple, but that's not .... - Multiple, yes. So listen to me, let
his old ass go ahead on. - I'm like yo, I'm like dude, I'm like a blossoming flower and he's like fermenting fruit. - [Steve] You're 27, do
you have any children? - No, thank God. (audience laughs) Not yet, not yet. - Do you want children? - Yeah, eventually. - See, well get with
somebody who wants kids. - And I want to build with somebody, I don't want to be... - Right, see he's already, he's built. He is who he's going to be
and he showed it to you. Here's another thing I heard a lady say. Don't let a man have to tell you twice he don't want you. I'm just helping you. (audience applauds) These are very good things to know. You're a beautiful young lady, you obviously have other suitors, just see where they are. You're 27, don't burn no more, how long you been dating him? - About eight months. - About eight months, that's enough. - Yeah, time to go, ship has sailed. - Yeah, you know look, took you eight months, you figured it out. - No, no, no, I figured it out. - [Steve] You don't gotta do eight more. - I just wanted to confirm. - Here's what women do. I put in the, I been with him six years. Okay, it's been six years. You didn't like it. You want to do six more? No, quit talking about
how much time you've been with somebody, cut the loss and move on. Enjoy your life, yeah. Hey, we'll be right back everybody.
