Grown boy Vs. Grown Man

hates all the guys here I want to talk about the differences between a grown boy and a grown man and I am a grown man and I was a growing boy so I've made that shift I've made that transition and what I want you to understand you might be a grown boy if you are still sleeping with multiple women and the reason why I say this is because you are not taking into consideration the spiritual ties those emotional connections and what you are taking your body through as well as the heart and mind the body of a woman through and so as you are operating as a grown boy you don't address your insecurities you're not thinking about those things that you were ashamed of growing up if you were picked on if you were bullied if you were too tall too short you know too light too dark you know too pretty too ugly too big too little we go through things growing up that makes us feel unsure of ourselves and insecure and when we become an adult man or even a teenager we start to act out when we have different availability when we have more women available tools we start to act out from that place and we're trying to make ourselves feel better like hey I've arrived hey I'm somebody whether that's with money or whether now you've grown into yourself and you're trying to make up for those years that you felt less than or you felt like nothing so really understand that as a grown boy you also are jealous meaning you tie in jealousy and control deceit and manipulation you can't be trusted because you can't trust yourself and so because you can't trust yourself you can't be trusted with someone else's trust nor can you trust that person and when you don't trust yourself then that won't allow you to fall in love with a woman because you feel that she is just as flawed as you are and in fact if you're with her it could be the case she may be in some cases she may be operating from a different place in her life and being a better human being than you but you won't give her the benefit of the doubt the other thing is when you're grown boy you focus too much on outward opinions of you so you're too worried about people saying that you'll square or that you're lame or you know you're corny or cornball or whatever it may be and so that determines how you dress how many tattoos you get how many women you have how much jewelry you wear you know and all of these things you focus too much on the opinions of others instead of really connecting with who you are as a person and who you want to be regardless of what others think that may mean a lot of tattoos it may mean a lot of jewelry it may mean fancy cars but if that is truly who you are and what you want and you're doing it for you then it's cool but if you're doing things because you want to appear a certain way or be something so that you receive a certain label by others then you're operating from the wrong place you're doing it for the wrong reasons and that is a part of being a grown boy another thing that I realized as a grown boy is you're afraid of commitment you're afraid to settle down with one woman and to really sacrifice in that area because you want the food of the world the lust of your spirit you want to have everything your money can buy or your name can buy or your access can buy or you know you're tall game whatever it may be your status in the streets in the world in the community and you want to benefit from that and by using the bodies of multiple women in not giving one woman all of you it makes you feel like you have accomplished something like you are successful like you are somebody and it really comes from deep down on the inside having never been affirmed to know that you are already somebody and so I want you to think about this now when you make that shift to being a grown man one thing about this means you accept full responsibility for your life so you're no longer blaming other men blaming society blaming other races blaming your mother your father your ex-wife your ex-girlfriend you place no blame anywhere instead you tell yourself I am responsible for my life I am responsible for the decisions that I make and those decisions will determine the results that I give so you accept full responsibility for your life and you stop operating from a place of hurt hate anger bitterness frustration if you notice when you see a lot of men you see a lot of men who are operating from anger and bitterness and frustration and they are lashing out at other races they're lashing out at the opposite gender they're lashing out at authority figures police or the government you know they're lashing out at someone because they have not addressed and dealt with their internal pain and the things that they have suffered through and so they're looking to place that anger and their miss placing it instead of really working on themselves healing doing the work to heal and then to grow when you become a grown man you are to consider the thoughts and the heart and the feelings of other human beings so you don't operate from a place of deceit or manipulation you may actually play the fool meaning pretend that you don't know what's going on but really completely understand everything but that is because you are in a position of true power which comes from true confidence which is rooted in humility see arrogance is not rooted in confidence arrogance is rooted in weakness it's rooted in insecurity so when you become a grown man you don't feel the need to take advantage of anyone in business you may actually give them the upper hand because you know what you bring to the table and you know ultimately what you're worth you don't feel the need to lie to a woman control a woman deceive a woman manipulate a woman or use a woman because you have respect for the human creation and you understand that she has a heart and then she has a life and that she has a purpose and that she is valuable in the sight of God and that you are responsible and her blood is on your hands if you take advantage of her you misuse her you mistreat her so in this grown manhood you are a leader by choice because you govern your own actions your thoughts and your decisions so that now everything is on you and you're not holding anyone else accountable for your life and you are treating people not just how you want to be treated you may treat people better than you want to be treated you're able to admit your wrongs you're able to apologize you're able to be the bigger person you're able to agree to disagree know when to say yes know when to say no and you are okay carrying out your purpose you're okay walking alone if you have to you're okay losing some some fake friends because you have to take a different path that is not often traveled and so I made this shift I made this transition and I saw what it felt like I saw the difference and when I realized on the other side is there's a lot of peace there's a lot of clarity there's a lot of focus you're okay being alone you know in when you have to be alone you're okay doing your own thing your old case standing in your strength and your confidence you're okay saying no you're okay saying yes you know you are okay and you don't need an advantage you don't need to be slick to be slide to cheat the cold you don't need to do any of that because you know who you are you know what you're worth and you're unwilling to compromise your morals and your values and you know that what is for you is for you and no one else can stop it block it or take it it is Tony Gaskins and I could talk on this for hours so I'll touch on a little later

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 9min 58sec (598 seconds)

Published: Sat Oct 12 2019