BREAK OUT OF THE PRISON OF YOUR PAST- How Soul Ties Keep Women Stuck In Yesterday by RC BLAKES

good-evening good-evening good-evening hope everybody's doing well just wanted to come in tonight to talk about something that I think is a universal issue and that is how we get stuck in what I call prisons of our past you know we get we get locked down to our past and we don't know how to break free and and as I say all the time most people are not conscious and by that I mean most people are either living in their broken past or they are already in their uncertain future very few people are really present in the moment most people are tied down to their past and I think that's one of I think that's I really think that that's one of them I'm gonna try to be brief tonight I think that's one of my purposes in life is to help people to break free from the stuff that is anchoring anchoring you to [Music] today's that you really need to escape and forget and move on from I think that's a lot of my purpose but when you think about it the greatest prison known to mankind is the mind when your mind is when your mind is locked down when your mind is incarcerated your life is held captive to to yesterday and a lot of a lot of the subconscious motivation especially for women that drives women even into so heavily into the beauty industry is that women often trying to paint over an unattractive past trying to trying to deal with trying to deal with past issues superficially and there's absolutely nothing wrong with woman investing in herself and taking care of herself and looking good and all of that kind of thing I think a woman should you know be her very best on all levels but don't be deceived to believe that a certain dress code or makeup line or beautician is going to be sufficient to to rid you of the reality of your yesterday there's some things that you have to go inside to dig up and to uproot and to rid yourself of and I think that's one of the big differences between generally between women and men especially relative to past mistakes and things that we've done is that a man can typically make mistakes and sometimes not even mistakes he can just be you know just riotous intentionally and a man has a way some kind of way as men we have a way of insulating our consciousness from the reality of our behavior whereas and and our behavior quite often has just been intentional we were just intentionally no good not all men but you know what I mean generally whereas you can flip the coin and a woman on the other side can make legitimate mistakes and find ourselves in situations that may not have represented the best version of who she really is internally and what happens is women internalize everything so you take everything in into your being and what it does is it poisons your consciousness Hebrews 12 and 15 talks about looking diligently less than a man a person missed the grace of God and in the root of bitterness springing up trouble you and many be defiled when it talks about root or bitterness is always talking about negatives from your past things that are your past that had hurt you that offended you wounded you and you holding on to it and this thing only serves to trouble you and to defy you now when we do not process and I'm gonna get to the solarized part in just a second and I'm not gonna be long tonight but when we do not process past issues there are few things that happen I'm just laying some foundation when you don't get delivered from your past watch this you subject the innocent people of your present life to a watch this life sentence for crimes they didn't commit and that's that's I think that's probably one of the greatest fall outs of a person that is married to a soul tie relationship is that you find yourself so married to that past negative that you've transported that thing into you your present and now you're hurting people who actually qualified you're hurting people who did not who don't deserve it number 2 you remain emotionally unavailable for people to love you sincerely in this present moment for fear of deception you still caught up in in the past and you still have in isn't it amazing how you still have this that you can still have as a woman you can still have this attraction to this proven so tie and you still have this weakness for this individual and yet there's a righteous man that's in your life trying to gain entrance into your life and you you don't even know how to open up and to receive him you don't even know how to respect him because your consciousness is so polluted thirdly your countenance displays your condition when you're when you when you've not processed your past issues and you're still married to pass your countenance displays your condition which distracts people who could be a present blessing when when yours when your soul is broken and your your emotional and spiritual and physically tired to people from your past who did nothing but break you that pain is displayed on your countenance it doesn't matter how much makeup you put on mascara therapy won't help this that pain that pain shines through and it's displayed on your countenance now let's see something you the only way to get out and stay out of this psychological prison is to understand why you went in it to start I guess that's the right way to say that you got a you got a face you know that's why I like to have these conversations because if I don't have these conversations and a lot of people said well I cried through the whole thing I cried through the whole whatever you know but when I got through crying I thought about it and that's that's that's really the aim because if if you don't really do some thinking and figure out why you're here you're probably going to revisit this place over and over and over again but let's let's look at this breaking free from these soul ty relationships because I believe that relationships bad relationships are probably the number one psychological lock or prison broken relationships especially leave the woman feeling bitter and asking how could I be so gullible so dumb you know the kind of words you use stupid and you none of those things you were just simple deceived in a lot of instances in a lot of instances usually when a woman is brokenhearted she's in that condition not because she's a foul woman it's because she's been deceived she thought she was getting one thing she got something else and it depleted her life and so she finds herself asking these questions why why am I here let's see something now what drives a woman's poor relational choices because you start thinking about so tire relationships that's I mean that's basically a bad relation to charge from the beginning even if you didn't have the Holy Ghost if you just have some intellect and used it you know these so tire relationships where you caught up with somebody in most cases if you just looked at that thing from a natural perspective from the beginning you would have known I don't need to deal with this Joker here but what drives a woman's poor relational choices what what what makes a woman and watch this what what causes a woman to get in come out of one sole tie relationship and then go into another and then go into another and then go into another few things number one she's compensating for lack of fatherly affirmation it's that father one thing it's that father one thing that I just I've started talking about more just released the program actually she struggles with self-esteem and she builds her relationships according to her need for the personal affirmation of a male she's really searching for the affirmation her father never gave her and so she searches for it in the affirmation of a male now because she's not had generally she's not had access to a father who demonstrated what a man looks like many times she settles for a male and she thinks she has a man and there's a vast difference between a mere male and a man but because she's not seeing a man modeled before her she concludes that a man is any human with male parts secondly there's a need for maternal expression because women are what nurturers natural nurturers so she develops relationships out of her maternal nature you know her her motherly instinct and takes on men that she can take care of this is this is how you find women that just continue to take on men to the projects you know just one project that's another you never find a man that have all the parts you you you you find you find men that you got to go ahead and search the junkyard to find a part to put this together and put that very very seldom do you find a man that really has everything it takes and you just come into his life to help him you usually take on projects because that's the that's the maternal side of you there's a need to be needed and as a consequence of developing relationships from a position of I need you to complete me the woman is more susceptible to developing so types because you know the more I study this stuff and and I'm I'm a pastor I'm not a psychologist I'm not a therapist I'm a past and I'm a man I always say that because I don't ever want folk to think I'm some expert on this because I'm not but I am I am a student I'm studying and I'm looking and I'm observing some stuff and one of the things I'm discovering is when we start talking about so tired relationships it's kind of hard to talk about so tired relationships without looking at the realities of the narcissist and the realities of the the empath and you know Amy did I haven't done in the study so I don't have any sign when I just kind of take a you know visual of society I would venture to say that more most well not more more men are narcissistic and more women are empaths in other words more men lack the capacity to think or feel think about others or to feel for others or to imagine how others might feel and are more concerned with themselves and more women are concerned with you know I feel for him I feel for her and more women put themselves in a position where they're constantly giving giving giving and more men are just constantly taking taking taking that's that's the I think I could be wrong but I think that that's the that's the typical breakdown is that you have more men that a narcissist and more women that are empaths and so when a woman has a maternal need for a relationship she wants to you know she wants to take on these projects she attracts she magnetizes narcissists which the narcissist does what literally intentionally digs his or her because there are female narcissists but in this case I'm talking about women versus men I'm in versus women digs his calls into the consciousness of the woman and sets up residence in her thinking in her emotions to the point that she doesn't know how to let go and this was done what intentionally I talk about in my book the father-daughter talk the game and how it's played and how its intentional how the man intentionally becomes the woman's addiction so there's the what drives a woman's poor relation of Charles's conversation for lack of paternal affirmation need for maternal expression and these things need to sow times and a sotai for those of you who may not have heard this expression before a soul tie is a strong mental and spiritual attachment to a person that prevents you from moving away from them even when you ostensibly move on to another relationship the next person is a carbon copy inflicting the same abuses of greater your so time your mind is set your mind has been set watch this your mind has been set he so tie creates a certain mindset so that even if you move away from the original soul time or they leave you or whatever goes on because your mind has been set there you always fall back on that level this is how you move out of one relationship into love into another and when you look look at all of those profiles together is the same guy it's because the pain of the soul time the trauma has created a bond to a certain way of thinking now so ties primarily happen through sexually erotic experiences primarily not exclusively but primarily I mean when you just when I used when I say you know sexually Iran sexually erotic experiences there's some of you that can have conversations that can be so erotic that it stimulates certain things in you but the Bible says in first Corinthians 6 15 and 16 know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ shall I then take the members of Christ and make them the members of an harlot god forbid what know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is of is one body for to saith he shall be one flesh so now let's see something here I'm just trying to thumb through this cuz I'm not gonna be long I'm almost done now actually I just wanted to jar your thinking tonight how does the so type function because the Soltan is the thing that marries us to the past marries the woman to the past you have a brilliant righteous loving man that is before you and yet you can't seem to seize the moment because your soul is tied because your soul is tied to somebody demonic out of your past let's see something where did I leave off how does the soul time function when a person is imprisoned by soul time they will reject what they know is obviously better because the understanding is darkened when your soul is tied you will find yourself rejecting what is obviously better and more unrighteous not more righteous but better and righteous because your understanding is darkened when you find yourself just carried away with with with people that don't agree with God don't agree with your future break you emotionally and you keep you keep revisiting that you keep going you stuck there your understanding has been darkened second Timothy three six and seven says for this sort of are they which creep in the houses and lead captives silly women laden with sins led away with divers lusts ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth the understanding is darkened the engine of a soul tie is to create a desire that is insatiable for the person or something that the person does the engine of a soul tie is to create a desire that is insatiable for the person and or something that the person and does this is why okay now this is why this is why you know I say to you you can't buy into this this this this this modern stuff where people just say that you know sex is just exercise and and women just taking sexual activity casually you know like you can just go sleep around and there no consequences something is happening to your soul every time you crawl in and out of bed with somebody that is not our Dame for your life like a husband well not like the husband a husband something is happening to your soul because the soul tight is emotional and spiritual and it overrides the intelligence on the spiritual side is demonic when you participate in a soul time you give demonic powers the legal right to influence you because you open the door for them you open the door for them and and you you shut the door in the Holy Spirit and they come in and it could turn your intelligence off look what the Bible says in Ephesians 4 17 and 18 this I say therefore and testify and the Lord that she hints for walk not as other Gentiles walk in the vanity of their mind having the understanding darkened being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them because of the blindness of their heart the soul ty comes to blind your heart and this is why the Word of God says that the marital bed is under foul meaning an unmarried sexual experience is defiled when a person engages another sexually their spiritual doors opened I just talked about that now when you're struggling with a soul time you may know better in your spirit but the head and the body can't break free and this is why you find yourself in these soul tire relationships and you're grieved you actually grieve you you cry as a consequence but you keep going back see now let me just say this because I know that that is an issue the no-contact thing is is it gets complicated when you have children involved it gets complicated when you know the Soul tire relationship is on your job or in your business or your partners in business or whatever and it's just not as easy say okay angle am I'm not gonna see you no more well I recognize that but you have to understand this the greater part of the isolation that you need from a soul tie relationship or a person that is serving to empty you emotionally and drain your life of everything good it's not always necessarily the physical because you can go non no-contact in a physical sense but if your mind is still there your life is still stuck so there's there's this thing called isolation no contact isolation but then there's this thing called insulation and that's where I think it's I think it's the greater exercise where you learn how to put your consciousness in your thinking in in in a in a in a container that can go into this person's presence and yet this person has no capacity no ability to be able to touch you because you're insulated you have to learn how to insulate your mind number one by record what kind of spirit disease you're dealing with number two somebody put it on here earlier by building yourself up spiritually fasting and prayer lotta y'all don't go to church lobby y'all some of y'all watch me don't even believe in Jesus Christ over leaving God well I don't know how you gonna live in this demonic world and don't have some kind of relationship with God because as for me the only way I survive the only way I survive is because I have the power to tap into the things of God and God empowers me against those things that are coming against my life so you know insulating your mind is more important than isolating your body because if your body is isolated and your mind is still attached you're still bound so you have to learn how to go in and out of this person's presence they come in and out of yours and yet your mind goes to another place and this happens by what you gotta you gotta ask God to give you the power to do this you have to have the will to do it then you have to submit to God and allow God to give you the power to overcome you know the tendencies and the proclivities that have been created in you because of the soul tie relationship I don't I hope that that makes sense I didn't mean to go on a rant now what does a healthy relationship look like and I'm done a healthy relationship is when two people have common values two people have common values read some of these testimonies on here people talk about how they broke soul ties and all of this kind of so read some of that as it's gonna help you a healthy relationship is when two people have common values and are growing on the same schedule spiritually especially spiritually emotionally so forth and so on anything over the net you're wasting your time now let's let's just let's just look at how to break a soul time number one number one and I'm kind of improvising here you got to recognize that it is a soul time that's number one you gotta recognize that this room this situation ship is a soul time it's not a relationship it's not an engagement you don't even have a ring he's never even asked you you just been deceived it's not you gotta you gotta call it what it is you cannot break it until you call this thing what it is this is a soul tie relationship sent from the very pits of Hell to destroy my future and the time me to a negative person that was never our Dane for my life and to keep my life stuck in the past you gotta call it what it is you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free you got to know this truth this is a soul tight relationship period you say no love affair there's no future here this is a soul tie a massive waste of my time in life and all you need to do to figure that out is look back over the time you've given this thing and look at how much money you've wasted time you've wasted look how it's aged you its porch away from God it's destroyed all of your vital relationships once you really look at the truth of your life and stop living in the fantasy the the delusion you can then call it what it is if you can't call it what it is we get we only we're not even at starting line you've got to be able to call it ain't enough for you to come sit in my office and I call it you've got to be able to look at this as a this is a soul tie relationship that the devil sent into my life and then you develop what a righteous indignation and nothing changes until you get angry you got to get angry about the time that the devil is robbed you of you got to get angry about the fact that the devil has deceived you you got to get angry about these things and in watch this and number two is the kicker once you once you call it what it is call him what he is a soul time number two you got to forgive the per for the fences you got to forgive them I didn't say forget but I said you got to forgive because see unforgiveness is people don't realize this but unforgiveness is probably the greatest it's probably the greatest at sotai adhesive when you get a person in your heart that has wasted your life and done you great harm the devil makes you believe that you have a right to hold them in your heart to hold bitterness and yard and to stay angry with them the reality is that anger and bitterness and unforgiveness are simply glues that cement you to a negative point in your past that you need to move beyond you got it you gotta call it what it is and you got to forgive the person you got it you got to say Lord I release that's all it means forgiving the person means you release them into the hands of God to allow God to do what he must do vengeance is the Lord's not ours release them so you can move on with your life number three you got to arrest the images that prompt the thoughts that keep your time see because whatever so ty there's there's there's a movie reel there's a movie reel you know sometimes that movie reel most lot of the times is the sexual experiences it's the sense that the person war it's the beauty or the handsomeness of the person that you can't get out of you hear you can't entertain nobody else because nobody's as handsome as he was or he is or nobody's as beautiful as she was you you got to arrest the images that prompt the thoughts that keep you tired this is why when you when you when you're breaking soul ties you got to get rid all those pictures what you need pictures of dis man fought you know in his briefs or whatever he's giving you the benefit of the doubt that he got the breeze on but what you need these pictures what you hold onto stuff are why do you have any pictures of this man and yet you constantly saying you kind of break this whole time every time you open a draw and you look at that picture that you have opened the door for demonic forces to reattach you and to pollute sure you'll pollute that moment she keeps doing what setting you back setting you back set you back you got you got it you gotta arrest the images that keep you tied that was three number four you got to empty your life of things that generate memories kind of the same thing I looted to it Bravo that that speaks of the pictures you know the clothing some of y'all got so tired relationships you trying to break and you still got this man's tooth brushing your bathroom for what for what you still got clothes and in a draw for what why haven't you thrown this stuff in the trash can you got it into your life of things that generate memories that was what number four and this would be number five you got to feel your heart with the Word of God you got to feel your heart with the Word of God the Word of God is the only power that can cleanse the soul the palette of the soul the Word of God you're clean through the word which I have spoken unto you jesus said there's something about that people that watched me and they say aw I love watching I'm not even I'm not even a Christian I'm not I don't go to church I'm not spiritual like that but I love watching honesty plates I don't know they're somebody well you know what it is it's not really anything about me it's the fact that what I talk about I'm usually coming from the perspective of the Word of God so the power of God is flowing in what I'm saying it's not just some intellectual exercise this is this spiritual surgery because the Word of God is infiltrating the situation and now you're feeling what the strength of God and the power of God to rescue you out of stuff that you normally are too weak to come out of and I'm done you got to reject this will be number six I suppose you got to reject new relationships that are continuations of the original you got to be able to discern the devil when you see him you got to reject that so now I've seen this before I know how this story ends you have no place in my life in the name of Jesus and get yourself free it's 2019 it's time for you to get yourself free from all this stuff that's holding you captive to the past let me pray for you before I let you go on this Friday night father God I thank you for just the ability to be able to communicate with so many people all around the world and now that my prayers that you will allow the words that I have spoken to resonate in their hearts and let no wonder God leave this encounter tonight in the same mindset but God reset our minds renew our minds dear God and make us to know that we do have power and we have assistance your divine assistance to overcome these things and no sotai relationship will be a prison that will hold us to the past and any longer and I speak life into them I speak life into them in the name of Jesus Christ amen amen amen amen well I love you guys I appreciate you I just I just wanted to talk to you I felt led to talk to you tonight and I hope that you got something out of it this is your first 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another couple of days that queen ology Las Vegas is sold out - just like Atlantis sold out and don't forget to stop by and also those of you that struggle with the father wound you know I really believe that the program and I spent a lot of time putting it together so I really believe in it I believe that the program transcending the father womb that I've developed will be a blessing to you go to my website all of it's there and I love y'all and I'm out of here I'm out of here I promise you I'm out I'm gone I'm done I'll talk to y'all later man hey god bless you know I love you know that I'm praying for you god bless you

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

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Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist

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Length: 36min 50sec (2210 seconds)

Published: Fri Jan 18 2019