Body Image & Relationships: How God Redeems Our Imperfections | Sadie Robertson Huff & Natalie Grant

[Music] let's get started natalie grant welcome to the whoa that's good podcast yay thank you for having me i am so excited that you're on the podcast um for many reasons i mean i've looked up to you from afar for a while you're an incredible mom and wife and artist and worship leader i even went to the belonging for a while so i got to you know be in the worship room when you were leading special place oh so special it's so special so i'm thankful that you're on the podcast today um so to get started i'll get started the same way i do with everyone what is the best piece of advice that you've ever been given oh my goodness a really big question right that's such a huge question because you can think it's so easy to just lay out because i think that certain pieces of advice you're given just strike you in the season you're in yeah so one overarching piece of advice oh probably in the season of life even oh my gosh sadie it's too late so i'm going to give you two because i think one of them is going to be good for you in the season that you're in i love it and then the other is just an overarching piece of advice and that is um never have a plan b um i think that oftentimes even as parents and you're about to experience this is that you want to have a plan b to have a backup in case plan a doesn't work out yeah and i think that um as you think about what you want to do with your life and you're moving forward all of us have like this goal of whatever our dream is that we want to accomplish right and but i think that you have to not look at a dream or a destination as plan a you just have to look at living for christ as a planet and however that works itself out is planet if you have plan b of well i think maybe i'm going to do this as the safe route right plan b will always keep you from plan a and it that'll challenge you as a parent because you want to protect your kids and go well do this as a backup plan like if this is what you want to do for plan a and you want to be a speaker an author but just in case that doesn't work out get your teaching certificate so you can have a plan b but then the problem is you're only ever going to do plan b that's true and never do plan a so that was my number one piece that's good then my number two piece of advice came from my dad and he said as a parent um never grieve the season that you're leaving so like for me when i was looking at my little baby and we were moving to oh my gosh now they're talking i would cry and be like but i still want to like have them in that little squishy stage and then when they were the toddler stage and they started school i was like but i still want to keep them in that little toddler stage and he said don't ever grieve the stage you're leaving because every stage is taking you closer to the greatest stage which is now my kids are my best friends and and i think that that applies to life don't grieve the stage you're leaving because god's always taking you even if it's something that you don't want to leave and you can't see where you're going god's always taking you when you're walking with him to the next beautiful stage so don't grieve the one you've left that's so good two and they were bombs that was awesome i love that advice and especially going into parenting i think that would be good for christian and i both because it's funny when chris and i go on trips together and we travel a lot you know we were just talking about that before the podcast and it's funny like every time we get back from a trip christian will be really quiet and i'm like are you okay and he's like i'm just sad that we're not there anymore like he he like loves to travel he loves the experience um but yeah that goes with life it's like yeah but where we're going is is even is gonna just keep getting sweeter it's gonna keep getting better god has something in each space so i love that that's so good well i love how close your family is and recently y'all been doing the song a day keeps the crazy away which i love following along i want to ask you because i know a lot of people follow that how has that kept your family close during a really crazy past year well it's funny because you know for people that don't know my husband bernie herms is a songwriter and a producer and when we first started we've been married for 21 years and i got my record deal and my husband in the same year that's awesome so when we first started in 1999 and the thing is is that we did it just he and i and then as life got busy and he got busy and so many incredible opportunities to work with so many other people and he didn't tour with me anymore so we have this wonderful grand piano but he's usually down in the studio working on equipment and he walks by that piano every day so to be honest with you when when covid like that whole season first started last march we were like well everything has stopped what can we do well let's just do a song you know like let's just do a song and we didn't have any kind of fancy light or camera or microphone it was just our iphone and our piano and there was something about the simplicity of it yeah that stripped everything else away that's complicated for seasons sometimes and just kind of took us back to where we started and there was something so beautiful about the simplicity of it but then it was involving our kids and they started singing with us and they started sitting on the you know upstairs or people couldn't see it in the frame but they were just watching every song there was just something about it that made it this whole family thing that became our daily thing so the fact that it was ministering to other people was a beautiful gift to us yeah but honestly it was ministering to us wow so the gift really was just to us and and the only thing that the only rule we had was that we couldn't talk on it so i don't know if you noticed on the sounds we never like hey guys every time i turned on my instagram someone was saying hey guys i just didn't want to hear hey guys anymore it's true i have to like challenge myself like do not start with hey guys but it's so hard every time i do the same thing it's so hard it's like a trigger as soon as you press record it's like hey guys you're like why that's not even me totally well y'all crush it i love that and i'm sure that's so amazing for your daughters to just see their parents do something together i love when my parents do anything together whether it's playing tennis or fishing in our pond or making dinner like it's just sweet to see your parents be friends and so togetherness yes that's amazing and it's fun for everybody on social media to see and it's cool that it's a blessing both ways that's when you know it's a god thing totally well i recently got to be with you in california and it was so funny because i brought up the fact that we're doing the powerful workshop together on the ello sister app and also yours goes live this week so i'm so excited that we're gonna be talking about that on the podcast and it's gonna go live but you said something to me that that was so funny you were like you said it made you so nervous to do the video and i was like you like you're natalie grant like you're you do this all the time and you're like well singing is my comfort zone speaking is not which i get because if somebody asked me to sing i would be so nervous but this doesn't make me nervous so i wanted to ask you because i don't think people probably think you would get nervous how do you press past fear and certain things to say yes to what god's calling you to do because it's really easy to say yes to the things that you're confident in it's really hard to say yes to the things that you know you're like this is not necessarily my thing but i know it's something that god will use you know it's funny because even just yesterday somebody was asking me if i still get nervous when i sing and i said i totally do like i totally still get nervous even though that's my comfort zone and they said how do you get past the nerves and all of that and to be honest with you i used to like struggle with the nerve part of and and that used to become such a crutch like yeah my nerves my nerves my normal nerves because i was focusing on the nerves instead of leaning into the nerves and that's good i'll explain what i mean by that i lean into it when i'm nervous i like lean into the nerves instead of trying to like make them go away or coming up with the five steps of what you can do to like get to the nerves because i feel like leaning into your nerves actually is a constant reminder that we're not built to do anything in our own strength it's good and so if i try to come up with a process of how i get over my nerves i think sometimes i'm relying on my gift i'm relying on my confidence instead of my god confidence that's good so yeah there's some practical things to do which for me always comes back to the word so i always go to my emergency chapter which is solid and like i say if you've got an emergency you dial 9-1-1 yeah and for me i look up 9-1-1 which starts at psalm 91-1 that's my emergency chapter 9-1-1 and you read the whole chapter because it reminds you that he doesn't let anything come near you that's going to harm you that he is hiding you in the shelter and i think that gives you a confidence when you know you're surrounded literally by the wings of god like you think of like a little bird and them coming into the wings of their like mama or their daddy and it just that gives me a comfort but the nerves are not something i think that we should try to necessarily get rid of yes in the sense that you're like okay that's right actually i can't do this in and of myself but when i'm weak he's strong and i can do all things through christ who gives me strength and then you just have to go for it and i think the more that you go i'm nervous but i'm going to do it anyway yes and that just doing it um 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second but then you get caught by the parachute and it's like the wind just catches you and i feel like that's the same thing with god like sometimes you just have to lean i think people think that because they're afraid it's a reason to not do it it's like no everybody's afraid like god there's a reason he says do not fear but then he always says because i but i will be with you like do it and he'll catch you and then that's when you'll see like i don't know and i think too like just even realizing we're always looking because even when we're afraid right the the root of that is that we want to be comfortable you want to be comfort like comfortable yes and i think just realizing that god calls us to a life of faith not because he's cruel or wants to like but because he actually values us saying i'm not comfortable but he values our yes in the midst of our uncomfort that's actually when i think we experience him the most if we're constantly comfortable then we don't have the same experience of him because we don't need him the same yes and we don't recognize that we need him but the reason he calls us to this blind faith is because we experience him more yes we actually experience that comfort of him the need of him the understanding of how he shows up every time that we're weak that's what the blind faith does yeah and that requires us just to kind of step off the edge you know that's so good yes i love that man that's going to help so many people well i want to talk about the workshop because your workshop is going live this week in the powerful workshop for those of you who don't know what that is that is a workshop we're doing in the ello sister app on body image we're talking about eating disorders body image basically anything you've gone through that maybe you believed a lie about the way that you were made that made you less powerful than the way that god made you so it's been so good um you're i got to watch your stuff before everybody else did obviously and i mean i literally this morning i came into the office and i was talking about your video and i had chills just sharing it because i related to it so much and i just felt like when you were sharing your story i'm like man i can remember the moment that happened to me in the moment that i felt like that and i feel like so many girls are gonna relate so do you mind just sharing for you like when your eating disorder started and kind of maybe some of the trigger things that started it because when you shared that in the study i was like that is exactly what happened to me and i feel like if i heard somebody else share their story when i was going through that i would have felt so seen and like a lot of hope that man okay i'm here right now but i see this picture of where i where i can be and where i want to go and freedom so i would love for you to share that totally you know it's um for me it started in my second year of university and i can't say that i can blame it all in a bad relationship but i was in a bad relationship with a boy that like i don't know if you'll identify with this part of it but you know you can be like dating somebody you know you shouldn't be dating but then there's like the boy that you see from afar that you're like if that guy actually like notices me that is kind of the dream of what i had written down like he looks the way i thought he would look and he's talking the way i thought he would talk and just all of the things that the outward packaging was like oh my gosh like this is the dream yeah and i think that that's kind of how it started for me but i can't say that it was all his fault i think there was an underlying control insecurity issue that just manifested itself because i allowed him to become the voice i listened to the loudest yeah and it's funny because um he knew a lot about the word of god and it was one of the first times i i understood that just because somebody has head knowledge it does not mean that it's transferred to their heart and so when i'm saying this i kind of feel bad because i don't want to be throwing this person under the bus even though i'm not even saying his name yeah and it was like 20 something years ago and i'm still like yeah i kind of want to throw him under the bus and at the same time i'm like no lord that's not the godly thing to do but it was manipulative you know what i'm saying like that manipulative when you use the word of god in a really manipulative way it's so dangerous and i should have known better but i cared more about what he thought of me and we were walking through a grocery store literally we went in to get a pack of gum and i just remember him literally we're standing there in line because there was no self-checkout at that time and he looked at this magazine and i i actually don't even remember the person that was on the cover i just remember what he said to me which was you know if you would just like do this to yourself you would almost be as beautiful as her yeah and we left there and we went to go get something for lunch and that was the first time during lunch i excused myself and said i needed to go to the bathroom and i made myself throw up and it was not something that i was premeditated it wasn't something like i was like if i do this it's gonna make me it was just i think i felt so out of control in my life there was something about the release of what was in me coming out that i it's hard it's a weird thing to explain to somebody that's never been bulimic it felt like a high a little bit um and so oh my gosh it's gonna make me cry because it kind of takes you back to that raw moment um of that high you felt from it that was so twisted because it made you feel good in the beginning right and so you felt like you had this thing that you were controlling and i feel like even somebody who's going to be watching this you feel so out of control in your own life right now that you actually have deceived yourself into believing that what you're doing is your ability to control something you have no idea right now that it's actually controlling you and it takes a minute before you get to that spot right where you're like wait a second that's the way the enemy works he makes you think that you're in control when actually it's this thing that's controlling you and it started in that restaurant and continued for probably about a year and a half um of yeah i got skinny yeah people started to notice and then it became like this praise which then keeps you in this cycle of this bad behavior because you're getting a good response and then the bad behavior and the good response goes to like a concerned response and it's so funny how that works sadie because then the concern you don't even realize it that you're getting some sort of satisfaction from that like this concerned this like really weird concern is all of a sudden becoming like this you know thing that um you you crave [Music] all right fam you've 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and if you're a people pleaser like me and you don't want to disappoint someone that you've said yes to it is not too late to say no and it might feel in the moment like everything around you is going to literally crumble because i felt like that if i come clean about what i'm doing it's going to crumble if i say no and break off my engagement i'm going to disappoint so many people and it's going to crumble and the dream i had for my life is going to crumble and everything is going to crumble yet i started with just that one decision okay i'm gonna break off my engagement and then okay i'm gonna take a path towards healing and i remember this one time that i was in the basement of my parents house i was literally bent over the toilet i've never heard god speak audibly i wish that i would hear like the big voice from one eye but i recognized that still small voice and i just heard that simple my grace is sufficient well my grace is sufficient and i just i remember in that moment going okay i don't know how i'm gonna walk that out but i'm gonna start i'm going to start just and i'm going to get up i'm going to get up and i'm going to stop right in that moment i'm just going to get up and i don't know if i'm going to have the strength to not do it the next time but this time i'm just going to say no and it was that small baby steps of saying no and then going to my parents and confessing that i had a problem and then allowing them to take me somewhere to get me help and it was not just this one thing it was little baby steps and yeah two years later i fell back into it but then i was in a different spot and i was more equipped to go immediately ask for help immediately go back and get some treatment immediately and i think that's the thing so that now here i am 20 some years later and do i still struggle with insecurity yes do i still struggle with control issues i do but i'm equipped with the word of god and an understanding of the power of the holy spirit in my life that now i can take captive every thought in the moment in the moment it happens you go instantly lord what is it i need to do to take captive that thought so i think it's important for people to know and i realized i've been talking for a long time i'm sorry but i don't apologize do not vote for people to know that if you're looking to get to the place where you never struggle that will keep you bound yeah because it's not a perfect life it's a redeemed life so that you realize okay in this moment right now i'm not gonna try to go i want to have victory tomorrow i want to have victory now in this moment and so in this hour i'm going to take captive that thought and god is not a genie so he doesn't like if you get on the nice list then he's going to do everything for you you don't have to do anything for your own salvation that's not works but walking out your salvation it does require us to believe god to take him at his word so when he says to take every thought captive he doesn't do that for you he actually says that you can do that that comes through knowing his word being a student of his word getting in his word letting that word light your path in that moment and then go okay so for this moment i i have the victory and then the next moment it comes up you do the same thing yeah that's so good oh my gosh you just put so much language to things that i don't even think i've put language for for myself and my story and it made me emotional too when you were sharing because i have such a similar start and it'll make me cry whenever i talk about two but i remember like i was in a bad relationship and we were on the beach and he looked at some girl and he looked at me and he said you know i'm glad that you don't look like that because i don't have to worry about guys thinking you're attractive and lusting after you and it was so manipulative and yes because it he framed it and i'm glad but then it's like that you're unattractive and so i don't have that that's what that says to you yeah and so when i look at her and then i look at me and i notice all the differences that we have and it pushed me into this really unhealthy place and unhealthy state and it was the same for me my life was a little out of control at the time and i felt like this was something i could control and it more led in a way of way over working out and not eating nearly enough and obsessing over how many calories and what it look just the whole thing and my mind was just completely spun by that and it lasted for i don't know probably a year as well and we were still dating and i remember saying you know i think i have a problem like i think i'm like have a problem with eating and i don't know why he's the person i went to but besides he just became my person and like you said his voice was louder than any others and he said oh yeah i've noticed that and it was like as if that's not a bad thing like at least you look good kind of thing and um you're right it was like at the time people were praising it and it was like you look amazing oh my gosh you're so fit and all this stuff but meanwhile not knowing like where the root of it was coming from was so unhealthy and so you you know kind of lean into that and you're like okay well i mean i look good or in this and and you don't realize that this is controlling you in such a heavy way and really stealing from your life and who you are and so um when you were sharing that that's why i was like oh my gosh like this is like so my story and it was the same for me where it was like one day i had a moment with the lord where i just like repented and kind of confessed to god and was like i know i'm like not healthy and i began to just read scripture over myself but then it was a daily decision it was like yes there was freedom in that moment but it was like every time i went to eat with my family i'd tell myself like eat the meal like eat the meal don't think about it just eat it like it's healthy for my body i started thanking god i started being like i'm so glad that this is gonna make me a stronger person and that i'm gonna be able to mentally be free like sometimes gratitude you just have to like work your way through it with the gratitude that you have for your body and so i just thank you for sharing because i know that if we've both been through it then so many girls have and i love how you talk about um you talked about how you were kind of ignoring so many nudges from the holy spirit at the time about this relationship um for girls who are you know in a relationship where they're like feeling so many nudges of like this is not it but again like it looks good on paper or in their mind they've already said this is who i'm gonna marry what are some of those things that you feel like people can be on the lookout for to know maybe this is not the relationship i'm actually supposed to be in you know i think the thing about jesus is that when he's in it you're going to have peace like you're going to have that's good and it doesn't mean it's going to be perfect and i actually think that what's really beautiful is that you and i though years apart we have a similar story but we also have a similar victory yes we got we got the prize in a husband yes we got we we did and and it wasn't because we are perfect or we did all of these things right all we did however was we listened to the nudge of the holy spirit and i think that that's really important because i think that girls especially not the boys don't but girls especially fall for the lie that one this is as good as it gets yep that two oh my goodness what if nobody ever loves me again so if i say no to this or walk away from it what if i there nothing else comes around for me again so i better take it while i can get it and then um i think that that is really important is when you feel that nudge you have to trust that god has something for you have to take him at his word i say this to my own girls all the time we actually don't really want to take god at his word that's the thing is we want to when it's easy but when we can't control the outcome and girls we're fix it girls by nature women are nurturers and you think that you can just like help a person you can't you can't do that when it comes to your future in marriage you can't decide on the oh so sorry so far hey that was my alert that was actually my alarm sounding for every girl that's always gonna that's what's happening that literally is the perfect timing on the inside that is literally what i was gonna say that is what it sounds like on the inside of your soul and you know it if you're in this position that was amazing because it was accidental but i feel like that is what is happening on the inside is uh yeah like trying to choke but there's alarms going off and the thing is is that right now i also know because i know this feeling that there's somebody watching and your heart is actually pounding because you know that we're talking to you right now you know that it's like oh my gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh and guess what it's gonna hurt when you break it off i'm not trying to tell you that when you break it off all of a sudden you're going to be like oh hallelujah i followed what the lord told me to do and it feels so good no it's going to feel like crap actually you're going to be broken hearted but it's going to lead you to the right it's going to lead you to a wide open field it's true i think i quoted this scripture it's from the message version it's psalm oh my goodness i can't even remember the address right now but it's psalm um oh sadie you make me remember it but it's the message version and i love it because i think it helps us take a deep breath it says but he caught me he reached all the way from sky to sea he pulled me out of that chaos the void in which i was drowning they hit me when i was down but god stood by me he stood me up on a wide open field i stood there saved surprised to be loved god made my life complete when i placed all of my pieces before him and i think that even though you walk through that like moment of heartbreak he will put you in a wide open field where you will be able to breathe deep and you won't feel it overnight but you'll get there that's amazing that's so good wow come on i love it i think that's so true because you know whenever you have to trust god in a moment whether that's ending a relationship or stopping something you know you don't get to see the other side of that trust and we read that in the bible like whenever god asks nobody about an ark like he didn't see like the rain yet he just had to start building whenever god asked joshua to walk around seven times like he didn't know the wall was gonna fall but he walked around it seven times and claimed the victory like and then even david with glide like he's actually saw a giant but he still stood before him with his slingshot in his hand and so like you're gonna have to face this moment where you're gonna have to trust god enough to end a relationship or whatever that looks like in your life we're just talking about this right particular subject right now but i didn't know christian was coming you know but i trusted god in the moment to end it and you mentioned something about how maybe you believe the lie that no one can love you that way and honestly maybe you know that hasn't just been a lie on your head maybe that person told you that because i remember um that happened to me and i was recently talking to a friend about that and it happened to her too where i was you know my life had exploded already at the time when we were dating and i was known by a lot of people and that's a lot to deal with in its own way and there was other things and i i had anxiety at the time because of all this stuff and i remember him telling me you know you're so lucky you know because i can deal with all this and that nobody would ever be able to deal with it so like basically this manipulation of like no one would ever be able to love you the way that i have no one would be able to put up with this the way that i have i am taking on all of the this hardship because for you you know you're welcome kind of thing and i believe that and i literally thought like you're right this is a lot i would never like nobody could handle this you're so awesome that you have carried this with me you know yeah wrong um and so like wrong and now that was the alarm sounding like hello wake up not right but i believed him and i i think so many people i've heard other girls say that they're the guy they were dating said no one could ever put up with you the way that i do that that kind of thing and so then you really are afraid but that's not true like now that i am married to the man that i'm married to and he loves me so genuinely and i'm so confident in who i am and i have peace and i'm closer to the lord than ever and closer to even who i am than ever because he affirms that in me i didn't see that at the time when i was dating the other guy and had to break up with him and that that was crap but now i do and i'm so thankful for that decision so i love that uh you quoted something for the workshop that i just wanted to bring up you said you don't need to speak your truth you need to know and speak his truth and i just think that's absolutely beautiful and as you've been talking the truth of god flows out of you so effortlessly and it's so obvious that you have just i mean immersed yourself in the word and been like a tree planted by a stream of living water and meditates on the word day and night like and so i just want to call that out in you and just say thank you for sharing your wisdom thank you for just spilling out truth and god's word over our life because that was the thing with this workshop it's not powerful because we're powerful it's powerful because he is a powerful god who created us and so natalie you are amazing i know you're an incredible mom to your girls and you've been a mom to all of us today and so thank you so so much for sharing your story that was so good to all of us sadie thank you thank you so much man there's alarms going off there's a lot going on [Laughter] [Music] welcome to the podcast how's y'alls day going good how about you so good it's been a beautiful day today it has been a beautiful day so what was the question that you guys sent in so i had sent in a question it was just tips on how to run a high school girls bible study but one that's student-led cool lindsay and i run our own bible study um so that's what the question was about that's awesome well that's so great that y'all run a bible study i have done bible studies since i was like gosh in middle school i think i put on a bible study high school i did i do now still so i love bible studies i think they're awesome i think it's a great way to form community um and just study the word together so my piece of advice for that would just be honestly make it fun like and i know that might not be the most spiritual advice and christian will get to the spiritual side but make it enjoyable and something that people actually want to come to you know treat girls over the top rivets guys and girls treat them over the top like whether that's getting food and i know maybe you you're in high school you might not have the money to just like go buy a bunch of food but even just like pancake mix i know this is practical but like it's pretty cheap it's pretty easy to make pancakes and everybody loves a pancake bar do pancakes and chocolate chips and blueberries and sprinkles and like those are the kind of things that i think make people feel really loved and really invited and like something that they want to continue to go into whenever you go above and beyond to love them in that way and the other thing is really just focus on the community aspect of the bible study like asking people how can i pray for you and then not just listening but actually praying for them right there and then the next week following up hey julia what i know you talked about this last week is that getting any better like those things actually go a long way because i think that the heart of the bible study beyond just studying the bible is to have fellowship with one another and so when you focus on those fellowship elements like actually diving into what people are going through and feeding them and loving on them in that way i think those are two things that make a bible study really great yeah that was really good well i don't have much experience with leading a girls high school bible study um but leading one leading one throughout college i know for me um i don't want to use the word successful but the way that made it the most um impactful through my group of friends throughout college was always being prepared going into it and there were some weeks that you know a message would kind of come the day of that we were going to talk about something but it always seemed kind of limited so i know for me if we were going through a book like james it would always be um like days of preparation with you know looking at other resources and looking up other things that kind of that kind of go with the verses and really planning out questions that i was going to ask the people there and not really just kind of one-off questions but more conversational questions and i know for me always being prepared for the night of bible study really helped because there were some nights where you know kind of like what i said it would be the day of preparation and it just wouldn't be as you know as impactful as it was if i had that preparation preparation is definitely exactly key to you because you are the leader of the bible study so make sure that you lead it you know as the leader that comes with preparation and being intentional about what you're going to talk about i've talked to people who say sydney i wish my bible study was more vulnerable or i wish it would open up more or wish they would engage more and i normally just ask well how are you leading it because if you lead from vulnerability and you engage and you open up that's what's going to allow other people to and so as the leader your preparation how you love people how you dive into people's lives that's what's going to set the tone for everybody in your group and so um you're the leader lead it and i'm really i'm really excited for y'all's bible study i think it's probably already awesome but i hope it only gets better thank you so much thank you that was really good advice yes thanks guys thanks for calling in we appreciate it thank you thank you bye have a good one [Music] bye you

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Published: Fri Apr 09 2021