Are men intimidated? | IWU | Tony Gaskins

hey hey tony guys here popping in you know what to talk about the intimidating woman i get this question a lot and i need you to understand something okay because when it comes down to intimidation it's all a mindset and you have to realize that a man is not and never has been intimidated by a woman in in the literal sense now not feeling worthy is not the same as being intimidated it's essentially him saying we're not a match we're not a fit and it wouldn't even be not feeling worthy it's more so just not feeling compatible if you got 10 degrees and he didn't finish high school he just it's not that he's intimidated by you is that we don't talk the same language we don't see eye to eye and i think what happens is so many independent women in who go to independent woman university so many women talk themselves out of love because they are telling themselves that men are intimidated by them and if you tell yourself that whether it's true or not it will become true so everywhere i go if i tell myself i'm not gonna get a fair deal from this white businessman because i'm a black man my energy is already gonna be off and i'm gonna be accusing him of scamming me or trying to get over on me because i'm already telling myself that i'm not gonna get a fair shake and so i'm like you know man i'm just looking for somebody honest to do business with everybody tries to get over like i understand i'm a black man please give me your white man price don't give me the black man price and the guy could be like uh my wife is black and i got black children i'm not judging you because you black you see what i'm saying and and that's how a lot of women are going on these dates so meeting these men and going and just like so i have two degrees two bachelor's degrees and a master's degree and i'm working on my doctorate does that offend you because i'm just so used to men being so intimidated does that intimidate you that i'm accomplished and well off and that i already have my own home in my own car and a 401k and an ira and a college fund even though i haven't had a child does that intimidate you and the man like uh okay uh congratulations uh you did do i need to clap it up do you want hicco a cookie you said i'm saying the man like all right you have to tell me that like what does that have to do with your personality what does that have to do with your integrity what does that have to do with your ability to be a mother or a wife nothing all the degrees have to do with is what kind of job you can get and what pay scale you're gonna be on and a lot of them time a lot of times degrees don't even secure a job you still got to fight tooth and nail for a job and i got family members with all kind of degrees and now job you hear me now read job not a one and job don't want them all them to agree john okay congratulations hey glad you finished where you where did you go to oh kellogg's university oh congratulations i've been watching a lot of commercials kellogg's university at idc college oh congratulations well yeah um unfortunately we don't have an opening for you at this moment but you know keep your head up things are coming back you know trump 2020 you know he's doing a lot for black americans and just all the jobs that he's providing for you guys and so just keep going you see what i'm saying and it's like okay what the degrees got to do with how you gonna raise your child my wife got a master's degree she got a master's in medical sciences it ain't seen no use you know what the scene used her abilities as a woman to build a family there's no degree for that it's no degree for that she ought to have she will have a doctorate in that right now in building a family you know taking care of household being the ceo of home being the ceo being the the rock solid anchor in her family life she'll have a doctorate in that but they don't that's not a major you see what i mean so here i was a criminology major when i met my wife she told me about a biomedical science major that intimidate me i'm like oh okay i might get a bill stay at home dad who i like that that's how men think but see if you telling yourself i said men are not intimidated by women here well ow actually they are do more research do you have a dangling ma'am do you have a dangling okay have you ever had dangling okay do you know have you ever been in a locker room with 95 other men oh you haven't oh so you never played on a football team let me tell you have you been around men from the age of zero in locker rooms in barber shops hearing all of the conversations unadulterated unfiltered around men oh you haven't also you arguing with me about what i'm telling you about what men is and ain't okay uh okay you can have that so you can have that sister that's what you go that's what you're telling yourself all right go right ahead go right ahead listen to what i'm telling you ain't no man intimidated by no woman okay when we use the word we misuse it i didn't use the word wrong and said oh he probably wasn't intimidated by by you what i really mean is he wasn't attracted to you y'all was not no fit and i misused the word listen so this what here's the key this is the key is you have to you got to break free you got to break free this one thing that i see so many women trapped by so many women trapped by titles [Music] and men hate that so many women trapped by titles and there's me and i like this too titles and associations sk ski it's like what is what uh do you not know the great ski 1906 1911 you don't know what this is skeet and i'm like this that only color you going well and i don't know who who sign language i'm doing on this uh sorority it's like you a delta okay congratulations okay did the delta give you a job if the delta got you a 401k okay why are you wearing delta on your forehead why you keep making that noise it's like can we sit down and have us a meal you get you aka okay congratulations listen you came well pink and green everywhere we going to my cousin funeral you got on this loud pink and green that's disrespectful to the dead can you put on some light just one day can you wear some black still that pinky green and see this the thing is it's so many and i'm talking to a woman but this human this human this human issue because the men the alphas and the two dogs be the same hey hey hey hush going so well with all that noise bruh so this is the thing we get so caught up this right here so y'all keep asking me what tb mean this mean tampa bay this is a baseball cap y'all y'all don't know what a baseball cap is okay baseball baseball cap tampa bay tampa bay rays all right that's what this is all right now uh a young lady made me a hat ain't got it in here i think gale p designs made me hat with my mentor.life phone i had it over there in my office but i wore it the other day and i think i left it in another room but now if i get somebody to know how to stitch gail p stitch me a t tg on here so i so people can start asking me i've been wanting to ask what a tb mean uh back what i was saying y'all go get you a degree and that's all you the bachelors bachelor of science that's what you had say as soon as you sit down hi how are you i'm a bachelor of science nice to meet you my other name is laura and so yeah what bachelor of arts are you and it's like it hi i'm a master i have a master's in social work and so yeah what about yourself what's your master's in and so that is what you feel defines you you've let that define you your sorority and your degrees and your certificates your trades you've let that define you so you assume that men are intimidated by you child ain't nobody worried about that ain't nobody thinking about that the first thing he think about it okay why she do this here how's he gonna get on the bike because he nasty that's the first thing degree he don't care about your degree job he'll get my number oh you see what i'm saying you have to understand so what you have to do first is just understand number one you got to say to yourself i'm a child of god number two you gotta say i am a good woman you have to define yourself outside of man's and society's labels and standards and associations and man-made accomplishments who made the university you graduated from who created the job you you working on all that is man-made stuff that stuff don't define you who are you as a person where your heart at see a man want to see your energy how do you conversate do you speak and listen or do you just want to speak do you speak and then cut people off when they speaking or do you speak and listen can you listen forever for a long time without speaking until the ball hit in your court on your side of the court and say what do you think about that and then you respond or do you have to be cutting people off while they talking see that's what a man trying to figure out you could be a billionaire and how your personality is your conversation skills your energy that's going to determine whether he like you or he doesn't that's going to determine whether he see you as a meal ticket and a come-up or whether he sees you as a solid good strong woman so what really have to work on is what you really have to work on is personality you got to work on people skills and the way you do this is you sit down and you look at everybody you know you write down everybody you know and then you write what you like about them and what you don't and that's how you learn how to be you and then you analyze people outside of you that you don't know personally and you see their personality if they're a public figure and you ask yourself what do i like and what don't i like and then what you do like you ask yourself why do i like that and then what you don't like you ask yourself why don't i like that and then you get to the root of why you do like it and then get to the root of why you don't like it and what you may realize is that your root may be rooted in pain it may be rooted in misinformation it may be rooted in something that you're not proud of so that's where you want to get to and then you're able to assess if you are operating from the right place or not because you may say well i don't like that and then when you say why don't i like that well it reminds me of my ex so what didn't you like about your ex well he was a cheater and he was a liar but he was real confident in his words and would speak about his gifts and and how gifted he was and so now because this person is confident and they know their gifts and they're confident in their gifts you don't like them but you don't like them because you don't like them you don't like them because it reminds you of your ex and your ex dog you out so now you taking that out on them you see what i mean so you got to analyze you got to get to the root of it and so now when you come and you see what you do and don't like this helps you shape your personality i've realized i'd rather be quiet than talk too much but i also realize i rather talk enough when i'm in a setting with right around people don't over talk don't just steal the conversation but ad-lib and be engaged in the conversation and ask some questions i feel like that's a solid ground that's the safe space where i want to be at because i don't see any people who just when they having a conversation right here i could talk forever because i'm talking to them just to my camera okay but if i'm talking to somebody i gotta talk then i need to hear what they got to say need to ask them some questions listen to them it's like a tennis match you see what i'm saying so this what i in studying and observing people it helped me understand what i do and don't like and that helps me develop my personality and the way i interact the way i show up in the world and for so many women who are single and ready for their husband that is the issue is you haven't evaluated how you show up in the world you haven't tweaked your personality and so you operating from a place of pain or from a place of bitterness from a place of introvertness from a place of shyness from a from a place of misinformation from a place of savagery you haven't got to the root of why you see the world the way you see it and why you act the way you act and it could be that your specific look has not been praised you you may feel like your look hasn't been praised and you haven't gotten the respect and the recognition that your height or your body type or your skin complexion or your race you haven't gotten the recognition and the respect that you feel you deserve and you look at other people of who look different than you and you feel they're getting recognized and respected and you don't like that so that makes you that changes your countenance and then you go into the world differently and you talk to a man differently so now because you feel insecure about your skin color about your body type or about your race your height whatever it may be your income level that you grew up in you could have you could have grew up dirt poor to where your ground in your house was dirt it was it was the soil that god created and your ceiling was the stars you could have grew up dirt poor you you had to wear your sister clothes they were too big or too small and you went to school and got picked on because you had on somebody else's clothes y'all had to share meals okay you get a bean you get a bean and then y'all now what we're gonna do is cut the bean in half that's real for a lot of people that's real for some people so you so upset about a little bean that you had to eat my wife was telling about tough times when she grew up and they had a split of bean burrito for 89 and sometimes with her mom and that will affect you when you get grown when you get grown oh you hmm oh you ordering sushi how much um i'll excuse me baby uh do did we need to order all this food for the birthday party well yes i'd rather have more than enough then not enough i would get on some white by that right but that could be from childhood from when you had tough times now that you able you want to live and same thing with myself it's like nah i want nice stuff because my parents raised me and they would go into debt and my auntie used to write bad checks to get jordans for hook for my cousin and i seen that and we was living we was broke like my friends and stuff were broke but everybody had tommy hill figure until we found out he said he'd make his clothes for black people then we stopped wearing that time he'll figure but back then what hey tommy hilfiger if you had your tommy hill finger hey you were bawling i remember my homeboy his mama had him so many times hillary figures and back then we had knock-off time hill figure so it knockoff so but that's what i saw so now that i'm as adult oh i got to get me a little drip okay i got to be driving tonight my watch got to be nice my shoes got to be nice you hear me and every night and i got the flex every now and then i got the flex but that come from uh insecurity that come from me feeling insecure as a black man me not feeling worthy me not feeling like america is my home so because america is not my home that make me feel like i got the show my worth so this white man could have more money than me and he okay driving a forty thousand dollar vehicle no bruh me being a black man i'm not gonna get no respect if i'm in a forty thousand dollar video you're gonna look down on me but when i pull up in the hip foreign now oh how are you mr gaskins how can i help you what do you need all right let me know and that's the difference that's the difference i remember my homeboy had a car he was like black guy he had a car so regularly when we was in high school that car was so regular we had to go to a dinner for school and i had my other homeboy in the car he said man when you pull up in this the valet gonna ask you do you want me to park this or do you want me to drive it off a cliff and man that thing that causes already but i noticed when i got to a certain age and i could afford something different and i could get me a nice car i pull up in valet at the hotel they say hey sir we're gonna park your car right here i pull up a valet at the mall hey sir we're going to park your car right here now whitey now when i had my impala you were in the park back why didn't you leave me and paul up here in the front but now that i pull up in this hill and it's rented this is rental i ain't telling them all that but i'm thinking oh you want to leave this in the front get treated different so what happened is a lot of us men included but i'm talking to a woman you're operating from your insecurity and that's making you intimidating you trying to be intimidating because you write all your degrees on your forehead you go to the hair style oh yes can you uh figure out how you could do this finger wave that say bachelor's right here within the finger wave or i or i want to get braids but i want the braids to spell master's degree and so you figuring out a way that you can you still you go out on your first date and you got your close shave what y'all call that the little rope that y'all put when y'all graduate i ain't graduating from college what y'all call it you put your cloche on going to on your first date the man oh that's nice so that who made that chanel oh no this from this from when i got my masters it just it just looks so good it complements my outfit so i just figured i'll try i use this in fashion sometimes you know excuse me though pay me no mind baby no mine and he like oh okay oh yeah yeah all right yeah hey i like that i like that now hey hey that's sharp now that's sure i need to wear mine i need to wear my aim think about that that's sharp and so you trying to find a way to show because you might be a first generation college student you might be first generation american you might be a naturalized citizen you might be you might have come from being poor you might have come from a bad neighborhood so now when you get some accomplishments it's the first thing come out your mouth and that's how that's how i was i'm the reason why i understand this behavior is because i'm talking about myself that's how i was every speech i gave i had to talk about the money i'm making you hit me because i ain't come from no money so i i hadn't i was struggling so i was speaking things into existence while i'm at the lying about how much money i made my bank account probably was doing bite flips in the negative but i'm speaking into existence i'm talking about it because i ain't have it now that i'm gonna build some businesses oh i'm gonna let you know that too i'm gonna let you know that too you know why because i wasn't born into it my dad ain't got that my granddad ain't had that i never met one of my granddads they would pass you know for i was old enough to know him or meet him and so i'm talking about it that come from a place of feeling not worthy enough so listen to me if a man does not know that you got degrees and you got your own house and you got your own car then how is he going to be intimidated by you unless you told him all them things and why are you telling him all those things there ain't none of it when he see it he see it oh well he seen it i didn't say anything actually i didn't say anything he saw it we he walked me to my car because he said you know can i walk you to your car and he walked me to my car and he was like oh i'm actually oh this is where you parked that over here oh that's your car right there and i drive a mercedes and it's a new like 2018 c-class and i was like yeah yep that's me right there i don't you don't have to walk me to my car like how you know it's okay where did you park it he's like oh i'm over there and oh my goodness he was in a 1989 honda civic and so after that it's like the next day i had to hear from listen to him anyhow and then do what you're saying and how doesn't do what you're gonna say to me yo audi your bmw your beamer as you like to call it well i have a beamer and so it's just such a headache having a beamer it's like people who have beemers understand if you don't have a beaver you don't understand but it's like when you have a beamer every time you go into service it's 1500 or more that's the least you're gonna pay like i love my beamer like i would not trade it for the world but i could easily say i'll put ten thousand dollars in the service bay like oh my goodness and so anybody asked about your beamer but when he don't call you or he start acting a certain way you think it's because he's intimidated it's not that he's intimidated is that he doesn't feel y'all are a fit and it's not just because it's not because of money he just don't like your personality together he don't like the way y'all mesh the way y'all vibe see if a man like you and y'all miss y'all vibe he he can see you as a wife you could be a billionaire or you could be a broken heir you could be broke or you could be wealthy it does not matter if he likes you and he can see you as being his wife he's not going to be intimidated you know why he's not going to be intimidating because a man is not wired to be intimidated by a woman because god made man and he gave adam dominion over the earth he gave him dominion over the earth what that mean is this man kill alliance adam wake up you know what i'm still getting this beef and this cow out my teeth last night but that ostrich was good but today i won't meet a lion i'm feeling like lying today and i'm killing lions that was like the animals like boston with bears out there with the grizzly bear uh all the booboo on a jungle book you seen them jungle boo cause that's how we used to live so high man i hunting because he back then went they had done so back then he had a spear he had to run jump in the air ah come down with that spear on that animal so they could eat dinner they want vegans they weren't vegan they were tearing that meat up and so how you think he's gonna be out there in the woods doing that and then come home scared of his wife a little intimidating oh you where you went to bed rock university up the road oh look at you how many degrees did you get it's so good i'm so scared of you oh my goodness i'm intimidated by you with those degrees that man ain't worried about number three that man ain't worried about that you got your own house that you got your own that don't scare him he intimidated by that it's you that he do not want because he know y'all is not a fit see if it might have nothing to do with your house your car and your degrees it may be your spirit is repelling his spirit he might have a demonic spirit you might have an angelic spirit and that demon can't be around your angel so he got to run it's not because of what you got and what you didn't accomplish so and that's what we associate with intimidation now as sometimes people will look at spirituality and say that oh he was intimidated by spirituality if that's the word that you want to use then you could use that it will cook if you could you if you want to use that but it's really just compatibility not intimidation you're not compatible no demon don't want to sit next to no angel he trying to get back round the demons so they could act a fool he's not sitting there ain't gonna be feeling convicted in his spirit all day like oh man he's so perfect he's so good like my good i'm trying to smoke a little e i'm trying to look gambling i'm trying to watch nasty movies you said what i'm saying and you good at two shoes you wake up you and your bible oh yes lord thank you lord oh yes got to allah [Music] and so he looking at you and [Music] wow [Music] shield up the farm itself man it's my last day so now he ready to go because yo spirit repellent it ain't got nothing to do with your nine degrees it ain't got nothing to do with your beamer ain't got nothing to do with your three bed two bath house ain't got to do that ain't gonna do that so what you have to do is you have to change the narrative in your mind you got to stop telling yourself that men are intimidated by you and you have to be humble you got to stop wearing your sorority jacket everywhere you go that don't define you okay you rush you had to eat onions you had to kiss a woman in a mouth you had to climb mount rushmore you had to do all this the cross the line okay and you made it congratulations you go cookie all right you got to wear that jacket everywhere take that jacket off we don't need to see that jacket you in the gym with that plastic jacket on with no stitched on levelers if the ladder beside you can't even get a good workout in on the step master because she hit your jacket oh yeah oh yeah aka delta oh yeah sigma theta beta all that noise being made on the steel master strip everything that is man-made when i say man-made i mean human-made on me male maid if a woman could have made it too but we're just saying mankind all right oh everything is man-made you just get on my nerves such a chauvinist you know what you you're low-key shoving it people don't he'll take it advice for you and you assure that listen uh man made me mankind okay hey i'll be alright with all kinds of yesterday i had a block checkmate yo if i don't understand the con the comment oh y'all forgive me y'all forgive my not my microphone off y'all forget about how they that's how hard i'll be blocking people i'll be knocking stuff oh and then crack my phone blocking people so fast so understand this when you change your mindset and you and you the meek shall inherit the earth if the meat going inherit the earth the meat gonna inherit gonna inherit a husband you got to inherit a hood before you inherit the earth so you got to be meek the bible say be lowly in spirit be humble pride will come for a fall ah yes can i order a bachelor's degree holder filet mignon with a master's degree side of asparagus with a doctorate creme brulee for dessert yes and do you have a lc mfw certified red wine okay yes thank you i have that you see i'm saying stop wearing everything on your forehead stop wearing it on your sleeve and so anything that he intimidated is that he's annoyed he annoyed okay because you're telling him about everything you got and that you don't need no man so he's like okay well why why we on this date you keep telling me about it all the money you making and how good your job is and being intimidated by the lizard so how are you intimidated by i'm annoyed by you because that's what you keep talking about i want to get to know you like where your heart is like what kind of movie you like to watch like what kind of books you like to read like i'm tired of hearing about summa [ __ ] laude like i don't want to talk about shade how many of her songs you like instead of summer [ __ ] lotte like come on now can we have a real conversation outside of yourself and your accomplishment just because your mom and dad have made you feel bad in life like you ain't worth nothing unless you get all these degree this i ain't judging you like your mom and daddy i know where you come from and what your culture say about education look i ain't of that i'm not judging you because of that like look just be you degree don't matter to me that's what the man saying that's what the man think so when you shift this what's going to happen is you're going to go into this space to where you walk into the room you go on the date and it's like you glide shoot you walking but it looked like you blind cause you got a humble aura you got a self-confident aura and y'all sit down and y'all talk about y'all politics y'all talk about religion y'all talk about sports y'all talk about investment ideas business ideas and he just fallen for you he just loved your conversation he loved how you play tennis you hit it to him boom you let him talk long as he needed to talk he hit it back to you boom you express all your full thought without talking too long you hit it right then boom so he loved the way you vibe and then after he then did that it might be at the end of the day it might be the second third fourth fifth day that your degree come up that your job come up that the neighborhood you live in come up and nah it's just a cherry on top it's just the icing on the cake oh okay cool that's you know what it's interesting that you say that you have a masters because most women wear that on their forehead like it's tattooed on their forehead masters and we've been talking all this time like for several hours and i'm just finding out you have a master's degree so like how did you get to that point and he want to know like how do you not let your sorority or your job or your accolades define you like how are you self-confident enough that those things don't define you that you got to just talk about that all the time you know see me being in the sorority it's like one thing about us is that we are envied like every woman wants to be us every man wants to be with us and so we are just envy and it makes it hard for me to date because once you cross that line it's like you're somebody and people look up to you and they want to be clicked up with you and men are intimidated by you and so to be honest with you i mean that's why you ask why i'm single that's why i'm single because skeet and so and so or is all you doing the same thing about your degree you know it's like i have a degree in communications and a degree in social work and for just some reason the fact that i have a double major double degree it's like men run they hear that and they run and he's like oh oh okay okay that's interesting he read it chat please he read it wrong because personality look you got to think about this okay think about this and check yourself if it's you and okay if i'm tap dancing on your toe stay out the comments just just sit with it just always think he know everything trying to tell me something about my personality i i work hard for that degree if a man is is intimidated because i mentioned my degree then he need to be intimidated and the man that yahweh got for me because i served yahweh yes this is the lesson listen okay calm down all right calm down and just evaluate your personality evaluate your conversation evaluate what defines you see your integrity your character your personality that ought to be defining you not your sorority not your degree not your job title not your neighborhood you live in not the car you drive me say to me don't mean nothing say me don't mean unless no mean nothing poor so don't mean nothing be raggedy every luxury car be ready i remember bought bill maserati pulled up to my son's school the durham parking stop put my whole grill off my car i said when i had my impala ain't had this issue getting a maserati naga got to go get a whole new uh front bumper from a parking stop you see what i'm saying so all that stuff right there don't mean nothing don't mean not not because now you go holla about your sorority now people ain't got to get hazed no more now people ain't got to rush no more now they just could cut a check okay you in it but just but then they go online say i remember those days and we had that rush was serious john your mama wrote a check john your grandfather then granddaughter then that's what grand mama then sorry you grand mama they ain't child you mean you don't know nobody know russian you man child we know but she lying to me like she was on the line had to rush you see i'm saying so now that's sorority stuff that don't mean nothing tell me no wait wait you regular jacket they don't mean no that don't mean nothing to them to the man that you trying to marry that don't mean nothing your job title that don't mean because uh the person who clean up the school they could load a job but if they say i'm a sanitation engineer wow you an engineer wow that is amazing so what all do you do like you create like you code software for cleaning companies oh no so what i do is like you know sweet the bathrooms up you know like a little ring that be in the toilet like i get the limestone and get that out of there and just like like just really beautify everything because then that's my passion you know what i mean because that's what i do because see i'm from the streets so for me it's like getting that ring at the toilet like that right now you got a ring in your toilet call me because as a sanitation engineer i'm top-notch that's what i do you see what i'm saying so when you go with your job title all right you made seven to eight thousand dollars a year you know jonathan might make twenty thousand you know then la might make thirty or forty thousand because it costs a living higher but general might make me might make fourteen twenty thousand humble job humble living they ain't less than nobody but that sanitation engineer title that man can't tell the difference between that title and your title uh i am a community relations specialist and you could be in a six figure job oh it sounds like you met make less than the sanitation engineer you see i'm saying community relations especially oh you got a degree in communications that's what the athletes major in when they're trying to go to the nfl they all um communication majors so i was under impression that communication is the easiest degree in school cause that's what the guy who can't read major in so oh that would you could be oh okay all right you see what i'm saying that's how the stuff that we label ourselves with to some to somebody it don't mean nothing to the person that you getting ready to marry that you're getting ready to date it might not mean nothing so that's why you can't define yourself some people money don't mean nothing to them like you say you make x amount of dollars okay all right all right congratulations um what is your character like uh i'm more interested in character for me character is currency so yeah you can be rich and still be broke if you don't have character you say what i mean so some people look at it like that so you have to define you who are you who are you what defines you what defines you and look you might look at yourself and say well i don't have a definition because you can't put words to god's creation unfearfully and wonderfully made so i can't even define myself tony that might be what you say that's how i say because i'm like man what define me come by i need to check myself you walk around here yeah uh got mo my mentor.life yeah got them tony guys academy yup jeff wrote 17 books yup how you doing you see what i'm saying i got to check myself i don't literally do that but i'm just saying it'd be running through my head sometimes so you have to look at this situation and you got to say what defines me who am i and how can i present myself go out on this date sit down on this date and not throw out any accolades just talk just conversate just have a normal conversation heart to heart person to person personality to personality get to know each other without the labels without the titles without the accolades let me take the crochet off a croissance or whatever the thing called man i wish i know that but i ain't got me one so i don't know the name of it you see what i'm saying so it could be a man like myself you come in there with that with that rope around your neck and and with that silk with that silk banner that they put on your shoulder oh that's not you from uh what country what country are your parents from oh um you from america oh i thought that silk thing in the rope was from somewhere else oh excuse me i ain't no oh okay all right let's run you okay you see what i'm saying might not mean nothing to them but how you conversate what's your personality like what's your integrity like what your character like if you sit there you talking bad about everybody you know that said a lot about you you sitting there you griping and complaining the whole night i said a lot about you the way to come up and your order wrong skip skill excuse me yes can i have a word with your manager yes no you're you don't have any power can you get this meal free okay no i need to speak with your manager okay yes now listen okay you're the manager okay what's your name okay great to meet you okay listen now what you make in a year i'll probably make in a month but i'm gonna take it a little easier on you tonight listen i ordered asparagus and this is broccolini i do you know what broccoli starts with what okay congratulations here's a cookie okay asparagus starts with what okay thank you all right that's what i ordered so i'm gonna give you because me and him we just met this is our first date and here i am with broccolini and i order asparagus so if if this is not back out here in the next five minutes just we're done we're going somewhere else is that okay with you he over there like uh i mean i i mean i get you my asparagus and i'll take that broccolini you know if that's but yeah i mean hey but yeah what i mean whatever y'all gonna do go ahead yeah yeah you don't wanna hear uh so now he like delilah in here jezebel lord he over there talking under his bro he ready to go he ready to go oh man oh my stomach hurt man i think it's the new supplements i'm on you know you know what so hey you know what i don't think this is going to be oh this ain't going to be good because these supplements they just make me nauseous and i don't want to throw so do you mind if we you know cut this short tonight and then when i get home and just make sure i don't have to vomit anything i give you a call is that all right with you okay yeah hey check it out yeah i i'll take care of broccoli i'll pay for it he ready to go he ready to go why he ain't working on your personality now listen now listen what i'm telling you lord whoa lord forgive me forgive me cuz i stepped on some toes now cuz this real personality i'm imitating real people i'm imitating people i've seen act like this at the dinner table oh yeah these real personalities you need to make sure that ain't yours you said i'm saying you need to be humble and meet now let me show you how this look he ain't worried about none of them degrees he didn't worry about it no nothing accolade let me show you how this look yeah excuse excuse me um yes um i know it's so loud in here i probably didn't say it you know i probably mumbled or didn't say it loud enough but i ordered asparagus and um this is broccolini oh hey it's no problem it's no problem at all like you could just bring it out like as a side or what have you and like on his own plate and i'll keep this here you don't have to take it back or anything like that i'll keep this here but and no rush no rush i just wanted to you know because sometimes you know broccolini doesn't sit well with me and no i totally get it i totally it's totally fine listen i was a waitress in college i totally get it it's not your fault it's the kitchen they do what they want to do sometimes people misread the tickets i totally get it okay thank you thank you thank you so much you said i'm saying nah that nah nah which one which one you think a man want to marry which one you think a man want to marry number one or number two but the number one she exists a plethora it's a plethora of y'all locked down giving people a headache so and what you don't understand you think you'll agree and got you some respect they back there with your food oh [Music] get a little bit off this dirt piece of lint all right order 70s up that white stomach hurt that why his stomach hurt because you got too many degrees they just throwed in the manager fade and now the cook he didn't got threatened that he gonna get dark for reading the ticket wrong so now he put a little extra sauce in there and you know how i know that you know how i know that that's why i'm saying no food back because i had a homeboy the same homeboy that i told you that told my homeboy who was driving that raggedy car he said man when you pull up the valet gonna say uh yes do you want us to park this or drive it off a cliff he told him home by that and so that same home but i said that he said man hey when i worked at burger king he ain't talk like i talked because he was from new york so they talked different from up there so he was like yeah that worked at burger king if we got mad if we got mad with someone who comes through the drive-through we took their whopper patty and rubbed it on the floor we rubbed it across the floor and then put it back on the bun and we're all one team we are we we are in our and i say what so now when i go through burger king uh yeah i said no onion no cook but hey don't worry about it don't even worry about it i'm gonna i'll take the onions i'll take these pickles all it's cool it's gonna have a little onion flavor but it's cool don't even worry about it but just let oh you'll give me a ticket to get a free meal next time hey thank you very much so i just gonna get my little ticket to get my free wifi the next time i come through no you ain't got to make it over i'll take care i'll take care and then guess while watching the new and they say this one got arrested she working at wendy's she was taken [Music] out of out from down now the woman was taking vajay discharge taking her discharge putting it on the wendy sandwiches like my name if a dog don't know what my name is mayonnaise she will put in her bodily on the sandwich like my name's oh you wanna argue all right with all your degrees you wanna argue okay go ahead you can have yet another kind of money on that sandwich and so that's what she was doing she got arrested i watched it on the news i ain't making this up i watch this on the news but see that's what a nasty attitude to get you when and when you walk around like that so now i'm changing my attitude because i used to be like that why should read you left to right head to toe and now if i got to read you i ain't doing no business with you you're not going to have access to nothing of mine if i got the reason when i read you i'm done with tonight if i had to reach i'm done with you know you ain't taking my call back that'll do no more sir nope i'm taking it somewhere else put my car back together i'm taking some well i i had to read i had to read the service manager uh not too long ago i put my call back again i ain't giving you a dime put my car back together i'm going i took a trade to call in i'm waiting for them to drive it because i don't know what they did to it i ain't even taking nowhere because they probably tore it from the floor up now i wouldn't trade i say all that to say i ain't saying none of that to say anything that was just a little tangent but what i want you to understand is that based on your attitude based on your personality based on your level of humility based on how you define yourself and what you allow to define you that will determine who and what you attract in your life so understand this no man you meet is intimidated by you he's just not the man for you so stop telling yourself that men are intimidated by you because when you tell yourself that men are intimidated by you you repel the man because your energy changes if you say i'm a man magnet and even fighting over me these men can't wait to be with me guess what your energy gonna be different than if you saying these men so sorry every last one i'm intimidated just intimidate a strong woman so now you go into the conversation like that change your mindset and it will change how people view you how they receive you i recently i got my family uh a suite at the tambay buccaneer stadium and i sat down with the with the concierge and the guy who sold it and they said tony you know it's it's one thing about you is you so humble like we just didn't really un are you so humble i say now listen i got another side now i got another side not just a trust me yeah i'm humble but what they were saying is you don't act like a lot of people who can get one of these sweets you don't you don't carry yourself like that you don't act like that you don't flaunt that you don't you ain't condescending you're not short with people you know talking down to people you don't act like that and really it's because i serve christ it's because i serve christ and i know who i am in the lord i ain't got the flex on you i ain't got to talk down to you like you beneath me i ain't got to do that i i the lord gave me some special gifts that i could do what i do in business and i can earn a living but i don't have to make you feel less than instead i'm speaking your life show you how you could use your gifts to do business i'ma show you how you can get certified to be a life coach and get on my mentor.life so you can add a few streams of income to your life instead of just me doing it and not creating a way for you to do it so when you have humility it you got a three bed two bath you got a car that's good you got a job you got a degree you got a masterless masters you got a doctorate or whatever all they got phd md you got all this all that should be icing on the cake it shouldn't be the cake because you more than that that stuff don't define you so understand that and stop letting society put labels and definitions on you based on what you accomplish in this world what have you accomplished in the kingdom of god what have you accomplished in the sight of god where is your spirituality meaning your humility and your walk with god not just spirituality where you got to be speaking in tongues over the dinner food lord bless the cook lord let it be nurtured not spirituality like that but your peace your humility your kindness your love where is that at let that define you let that lead you let that guide you and then guess what everything that's for you everything that's for you you're going to attract it and if that's love you're going to attract that it's coming to you because you attract what you are you attract what you become hey this is tony guys i got to go got to coach again i'm coaching this month two sessions a day on tuesday wednesday and thursday uh so if you need a session with me i think this month booked up though i think is booking into november right now but uh you can visit mymentor.life and there's several coaches on there so you could select the category that you want coaching in so when you click browse or find find a coach at the top you're going to see a little line that say click for filters when you click that you're going to see subject it's a subject or category when you click that all the different categories that you could get coaching on is right there and when you select one of those and then you hit apply at the bottom it's going to bring up all the coaches that coach on that topic and then you pick one of those coaching hey this is tony gaskin god bless you and if you're ready to become a life coach the link in the description um with a little coupon code for you for watching to this point of the video god bless you

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