STOP These 5 Habits And Watch Your English Improve

according to the dictionary merriam-webster dictionary a habit is a settled tendency or usual manner of behavior or in other words behavior pattern acquired by frequent repetition basically something that you do over and over now there are great habits for example drinking water is an amazing habit exercising is a great habit too but there are also bad habits habits that can affect your ability to speak in English and I'm gonna tell you five habits that you must stop in order to take your English to the next level I'm teacher Tiffany let's jump right in [Music] alright habit number one trying to memorize tons of oak AB you Larry at one time but never using them now this is something that I heard a lot from my students when I was working in South Korea I taught thousands of students but I remember having conversations with students about the importance of learning English vocabulary but also I remember students telling me teacher I'm gonna learn 100 vocabulary words every day and that used to bother me because yes it's good to memorize vocabulary but you can't memorize and use 100 vocabulary words in one day so let me explain a little bit more why this is so dangerous and why this is not a good habit to have so here we go first memorizing too many words at one time results in short-term memory not long-term memory so again in one hour let's say you learn 25 vocabulary words that's amazing and maybe you can learn more but if you never use those vocabulary words you will forget them now at that moment maybe for that day you'll have those words stored in your brain but then 2 or 3 or 4 weeks later your long-term memory will kick in and will not be able to remember the words you learned why because you learned too many words at one time now another reason why this is not a good habit to have is right here you create stress for your brain instead of peace here's the thing when you're learning a language your brain needs to be relaxed in order to take a lot of information in that can actually be used I want you to think about a child a parent does not sit and look at a two-year-old child and say you must learn 30 words say them after me say them say them no parents don't do that I hope you guys don't do that but what happens is the child is in a relaxed environment and just adjusts and hears what he or she is surrounded by and then naturally takes in the words and uses them later so again the same for us as adults we can learn vocabulary when we are in a peaceful state of mind and not stressed okay now don't worry I'm gonna give you the solution so here's what you should do instead here we go first create a pattern of consistency by studying in small chunks or groups now I've spoken about this in a previous video lesson but again let's say for example you say I'm gonna learn three vocabulary words a day now you may say teacher come on three vocabulary words that's nothing but it is something because three vocabulary words a day is not too much and also not too little so your brain will be relaxed when you're learning the vocabulary words and then you'll also be able to use them naturally because you're slowly building up your vocabulary and you're not stressed but you see three vocabulary words a day after a hundred days will be 300 vocabulary words now not just vocabulary words you know but 300 vocabulary words that you will be able to use in real-life situations and that's the key developing this habit will help you learn and use what you learn now another thing you can do instead of this habit let me show you really quickly relax and learn based on your ability then build slowly now I'll be honest I have had students in the past who I just said you know what you're a genius I mean they were super smart and those students were able to memorize large chunks of information I remember actually you know when I was studying Korean there was a guy that was in our class and he was from Morocco now I think he was a genius because he wouldn't study but when he took the exams he would always get an A it was like when he was sitting in the classroom his brain just took everything in even when it seemed like he wasn't paying attention so there are gonna be those students and maybe you're one of them who are able to really take information in and process large pieces of information but remember you need to study according to your ability as you study if you feel yourself getting stressed and frustrated when you get to that ten vocabulary word mark stop don't stress yourself out remember relax know your ability and work according to your ability then when you get comfortable move to the next step or the next level okay all right now let's move on to the second habit now this is another habit that you need to stop saying um instead of simply pausing let me show you what this um um kind of uh you see what it sounds like right immediately your thoughts about me changed why because I started saying um and uh a lot and maybe you thought to yourself hey what's wrong with teacher Tiffany why is she saying um and us so much you see that's what you may do when you're speaking in English when you're trying to think of something to say and it makes you feel a bit more comfortable because there's a sound coming out of your mouth but it's actually not a good thing so let me tell you little bit more about why this is not a good habit and you must stop it okay so first here we go saying um while you are speaking at Julie makes you look less confident think about it when I started saying um I started to look less confident now think about that I'm your teacher and I've been teaching you for a while but the moment I started saying um or uh your feeling about me kind of changed a little bit right because saying um and uh really does cause those listening to you to look at you and say maybe you're not as confident in your own ability okay so don't say or stop saying um and up now another reason why this is a bad habit is because it causes the listener to doubt what you are actually saying to them so not only do you look less confident the person listening to you starts to doubt does she really know what she's saying does he really know what he's saying so imagine you're in an exam you're taking an exam and it's in English and you're trying to figure out what to say and you start saying um oh I the person interviewing you will start to give you lower marks because you don't look confident and you also don't look like you're sure about what you're saying alright so how can you actually make a better habit okay so here we go this is what you should do instead of this habit when you need to simply look at the listener and pause that's right just pause and let there be silence let me show you I'm gonna show you two examples first I'm gonna do with um and uh and second I'm gonna pause alright so first I'm gonna tell you where I'm from um hi my name is um Tiffany and um I I am from Maryland and I I I'm an American alright you saw how I didn't look confident and you probably doubted what I was saying now the second example with pauses hi I'm Tiffany and I'm from Maryland I am American do you see how the feeling changed now I paused for a long period of time just to show you how even if you pause for a little bit longer the person listening to you still feels like you are confident and they're not doubting what you're saying they're actually waiting for you to continue speaking so again stop the habit of saying um or uh instead pause and think it'll make you look more confident now another thing that you can do is right here ask the listener a question to give yourself time for example ah what do you think so let's say for example you're having a conversation and the person asks you a question and you don't know what to say you're having a good conversation in English and they say hey what's your favorite type of music and you've never thought about that question in English so you're not sure what to say well turn the question around you can say huh great question you know I want to know first what's your favorite type of music and as they're giving their answer you have a little extra time to think about your own answer again it's all about looking confident and giving yourself space and time to think in English okay all right now the third habit this is another habit that I really want you to stop okay here's the habit apologizing for your English instead of just speaking listen I get this all the time when I speak to you via phone call or email or in our community students will say teacher I'm so sorry for my English I'm sorry for making a mistake and there are a lot of apologies being made but here's the deal you don't have to apologize it's okay I know that for you and may feel it makes you feel better to say oh I'm sorry I I didn't I made a mistake or I'm not that good in English but that's actually really bad let me show you why okay so this is why this habit is not good it makes people think less of you in other words they won't respect you as much now again this is not me I still respect you because I'm an English teacher and I underst and how difficult it is to learn English but I'm speaking about individuals who are not English teachers just regular English speakers and if they start a conversation with you and the first thing you say is who I'm sorry my English is not that good immediately they're listening or their attention goes down like okay this is not gonna really be an interesting conversation so immediately you put your insecurities out there and the person starts to think that your words aren't gonna be that important don't do that please stop this I really want you to stop this habit now here's another reason why it can be dangerous all right here's the other reason it lessens the impact of your words in other words people will doubt what you're worth that your words are true so if you start off by saying I'm sorry my English is really not that good and then you start to tell me about some article you read in the back of my mind again hypothetically I may be thinking did she really read that article because she just sent her English is not that good how did she understand that article I'm there are difficult words in that article you see naturally the brain starts to process information based on what you said if you said my English is not that good then I'm just going off of what you said this is why it's so dangerous to have this habit now I'm gonna give you the solutions so don't worry all right so instead of this habit this is what you need to do practice not worrying or thinking about what other people think it's true don't worry about other people be confident in who you are be confident in your speaking abilities looking looking look it's okay if you make a mistake I just made a mistake now when I first started making YouTube videos I would have cut that mistake out edited it and reshot it but I don't need more why because I realized that you my student watching this video you don't care if I make a mistake when I'm speaking you're here to learn information the same is true for you people don't care if you make a mistake they want to listen to you so don't apologize from the beginning in said practice not worrying and not caring what other people think now along with this this is also what I want you to do simply say what you want to say and don't worry about mistakes I get it I know that you're concerned about sounding an intelligent or sounding like oh my English is not that good I get it when I was studying Korean I have the same thoughts so I understand I empathize with you but I want you to practice just speaking don't worry about your mistakes okay all right now the fourth habit this is another habit that you need to stop here we go criticizing yourself instead of encouraging yourself to move forward listen there are so many things going on in this world today so many good people but also so many bad people and there are gonna be people that have negative things to say about you don't be one of those people don't add to the negative comments by actually saying it about yourself I want you to practice encouraging yourself okay so again let me tell you exactly why this is so bad to criticize yourself you will start to compare yourself to others and think they are better than you so the more you criticize yourself like ah I can't believe I made that mistake I can't believe I didn't know that word don't do that the more you do that the more you'll start looking at other people man Sally is better than me or man Michael is really good how come I can't speak like him don't do that another reason why this habit is so dangerous is because you will never be satisfied with your own personal achievements here's a fact you are amazing do you realize that right now you are learning a second language and for some of you a third a fourth and a fifth language English is not your mother tongue but you speak your mother tongue ah make you speak it like a native and you're trying to learn my language and it's your 2nd 3rd 4th or 5th language so listen you can be satisfied with where you are you're doing right but if you continually criticize yourself you'll never recognize your milestones or your achievements okay so what are the solutions here are the habits that I want you to have okay here we go so first chart your progress and see the things you have learned start the document hey I was trying to learn this new expression and you know what two days ago I actually used it in a conversation write it down it's okay to give yourself a pat on the back it's okay it's alright and those around you can cheer you on you know I think I mentioned to you guys in the Academy I actually have a private group a private community and I want to show it to you guys but in our community students are able to talk with each other I'm trying to find it what I'm talking to you but they're able to talk to each other and I love seeing them talk to each other and see if you can see it you know why because they encourage each other they post videos they post video video clips sorry guys video clips and audio files but again they are encouraging each other and I've noticed that they all kind of gain confidence that's what I'm talking about you need to chart your progress see what you've learned use it and then encourage yourself and those around you who are doing the same okay all right and finally another thing is this right here document your achievements and the goals you reach very similar to what I just said a moment ago all right now the fifth habit very important now this fifth habit I also want you to stop using subtitles only in your language instead of in English that's right now subtitles in English amazing very good but when you use subtitles in your native language that's not good you know I can remember a little extra story time I can remember when I was first learning Korean now I was level one so I was saying things like you know - opened up and up Sumida like simple things like how are you nice to meet you or hello but I was watching Korean dramas and I had no subtitles so no I didn't understand everything but my brain was making connections but if I had turned on the English subtitles suddenly my brain would shut off the part that needed connections and I would just start reading in English so let me show you again why this is so dangerous there's two things that make this have it really bad if you continue doing this you will always struggle to really think in English remember one of your goals is to think in English but you have to challenge yourself and if you're always looking at subtitles in your native language you're never gonna challenge yourself alright the other reason why this habit is not good is because you will struggle to properly express yourself in real-life situations you will always think of expressions in your native language now what are the solutions here are the solutions let me show you first switch to English subtitles and write notes as you watch the program that's right as you watch the program maybe it's difficult write notes hey I noticed that they use this expression I wonder what it means I wonder how I should use it write it down and then continue watching the program the other thing I want you to do is this right here pay attention to the expressions used based on specific emotions now for those of you that follow me on Instagram I teach a slang term everyday and also a vocabulary word now you've learned a lot of slang from me but the slang that I teach you is connected to an emotion or something you can tell that I teach it a little bit differently from the videos here on YouTube so again let's say for example I'm excited right and I'm going somewhere and then I get some really good food you can already tell that my emotions are changing and then my body language is changing now when something is delicious I may say oh that food is bangin but maybe you never heard banging before but you watched my emotions and my expressions and say wait a minute teacher Tiffani is talking about food she really likes and she kind of got excited and said the food was bangin so does that mean the food was bad or good good right and probably really good so you made those connections based on looking at my emotions and listening to the words that I said that's why it's so important for you to actually use English subtitles and not subtitles in your own language alright I hope you enjoyed today's lesson I hope you remember to stop these five habits I want you to be confident and to believe in yourself if you want to watch part two of this episode of this lesson all you have to do is click the link in the description and you can get part two and you can also get the PDF that goes along with this lesson alright I hope you enjoyed and I'll see you next week but as always remember to speak English oh yeah it's storytime I said storytime alright ah today we have a good story time it's gonna be a little shorter but it's um it's gonna tell you a little bit more about how I was when I was younger so when I was in school I was a very studious I was very studious meaning I liked to study I got good grades and I loved school but I was also a very happy playful and talkative child so whenever I'd get my report cards my mom my dad would look at our report cards my sister and I my mom would look at my report card and she'd see all A's and then she'd get to the comment section and the teacher would always write we really enjoy having Tiffany in class she's really smart but she talks all the time in class now my sister and I would get the same comments teachers loved us we studied hard we got our work done we got good grades but we loved to talk so let me tell you about one situation related to me being talkative so this is when I think I was in sixth grade or seventh grade and we were in class and I think our teacher was having a stressful day but you know my friends and I we wanted to talk we had finished our works of Libra just yapping yapping means talking we were just yapping and having a good time laughing and joking and I just said I told you guys to be quiet now we were never disrespectful so we kind of looked at her and said yes ma'am and then two minutes later just talking and laughing I mean we were kids so she said okay you have no recess so recess is that period of time in the day when children go outside and they play like after lunch and recess was meant everyone wanted to go to recess so when she said we had no recess we were kind of a little upset but let me said okay now there were about 20 I think 25 students in our class and I think they're about 2 or 3 students that were always good I mean always good they never got in trouble ever so throughout the course of the day so my my friend and I we got in trouble so we didn't have recess then three other people got in trouble and they didn't have recess than five other people then two other people so buddy by the time lunch came around I think about 15 people didn't have any recess so the girls that were actually really good and always active good in class they were like guys come on we don't want to lose our recess so the teacher said okay if you guys don't stop talking you're all losing recess so long story short for that part 20 22 people lost their recess I don't know what was happening that day we were just in a good mood we were laughing and joking by the time 20 of us had lost our recess we really didn't care because we were all gonna be together now when I was younger so you know when you are outside and you park your car there are lines right for a parking space and we our teacher would say you have to stand on the line the line where you have a parking space so if you got in trouble you to stand on the line during recess and you couldn't play so we got to recess and that there were about twin again 22 of us were in trouble so 22 of us standing on the line you have 22 kids standing on the line all together do you really think we're gonna be quiet no so we're all like well we're on the line now let me ask you a question where do you think those three girls were the ones that were always good do you think they were running around playing no now twenty-two of us got in trouble but the three girls were standing at the line waiting for us because they don't like to play with so we're standing on the line all 22 of us laughing joking we said well we can't play but we could talk so our teacher was just sitting she was sitting there looking at us outside she said I just can't take it everybody go play we all started laughing and we just ran and went to play now the thing is our teacher really loved us and actually to this day I love her so much she was an amazing teacher and she always told us that we were her favorite class and to this day she says that we were her favorite class so the situation even though we were laughing and joking and talking we weren't bad kids and we weren't disrespectful so she even I think she was laughing inside too as she saw the other three little girls when are they gonna get off the line teacher I never forgot that so yeah if you guys have any stories from when you were younger were you talkative were you quiet did you ever get in trouble when you were younger let me know in the comments section alright guys I hope you enjoyed this story time and I'll see you next week

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Length: 26min 0sec (1560 seconds)

Published: Sun Mar 22 2020