Uncle comes to grandma's funeral after 25 years of no contact and demands inheritance

so this is about my great grandfather who i called pop pop who was on my mother's mother's side he was a farmer growing up with his 12 brothers and sisters he had a large family and was the middle child he quit school when he was in third grade to help out with the family's farm after he turned 16 he worked for a plumber who would sell the business to him later on when he was in his late 20s he met and years later married his wife his wife my great grandmother or mimi as my mother called her was from a very wealthy family and was 10 years older than he was unlike pop-pop she was an only child and she was a widow from a very young age as she also had an adult son my great-uncle bob not his real name of course at that time mimi's parents did not live very long and had died early due to illness along with her first husband i'm not sure what they died of i think it was tb the fact that she didn't have to worry about money helped her raise her son as a single mother as she didn't have to work when her son was 18 he met a girl at college and they got married within a few months mimi didn't really care for her we will call her jenny and she clearly saw that she was just in it for the money as bob was mimi's only child at the time jenny was from a high class family with money when my great-grandparents got married she gave birth to my grandmother it was an unusual birth as mimi was almost 40 at the time and was very unusual for her to turn out okay pop-pop was a very kind man and even though mimi had a lot of money he felt that it was her money and he would still work for a living to provide they lived very averagely if you looked at their house you wouldn't be able to tell that they were millionaires at the time they were living in a two-bedroom house my grandmother was only a baby at the start of the great depression mimi was not affected that much due to it but jenny's family was affected as they made most of their money on wall street and banks had started closing jenny's father k himself when he lost all of his money and jenny's mother soon died after that jenny had two other siblings who were all older and were on the other side of the country with no way to contact them or to get to them bob and jenny were homeless when bob and jenny called pop-pop told them to come live with them no problem whatsoever when bob and jenny came over pop-pop gave them the hole upstairs pretty much kicking his family out onto the first floor and renovated and added on to the house so they could come and go without waking his new baby he added an extra bedroom a kitchen bathroom everything bob and jenny were having a hard time finding work due to the depression but pop-pop told them not to worry stay as long as you like until you can get back on your feet this went on for about a year until one day he noticed that it had been a while since he heard anything while it was pretty typical to not see them every day he hadn't spoken or even heard anything for about two weeks he opened the door that he built between the two living spaces and saw the area empty the furniture bathroom fixtures the stove everything stuff that he bought and stuff that they brought with them he had no clue what happened and called the police as he thought something was wrong the police caught up with him two thousand miles away living in florida it turns out ginny's uncle died and left her with a huge sum of money pretty much being able to rebuild their life overnight before the great depression as soon as they collected the money both bob and jenny moved out of the house and took everything with him including pop-pop and mimi's items pop-pop was angry he didn't care about being paid back he just wanted his items he had let them borrow and just a good buy just let them know that they were leaving or something if they had asked for the items he wouldn't have had much of a problem but he got no word from them and stole the items as the stuff was easy to replace he didn't want to press charges or drag out the mess mimi and him pretty much stopped communication with bob and jenny due to this about 25 years later mimi had been tested positive for stage 4 cancer at this time my grandmother had given birth to my mother and was living in her own house with my grandfather after she was tested positive popop and mimi sold their house the same house to live with my grandmother to be taken care of my grandfather redesigned the basement of his house to have the two living in it my grandmother had known that she had a half brother named bob and his wife jenny but that was about it mimi gave my grandmother his last known number she wanted to at least try and tell them that she had stage four cancer and not much time left my grandmother placed a call in and found out what had happened between the 25 years bob and jenny never had any kids but they still had their uncle's money one thing about bob and jenny was that they were smart with their money and invested in it whereas mimi never invested in her money nor did pophop they just let it sit my grandmother was happy that she was finally going to meet her brother after all this time however they never showed up even though they said they were going to my mother said that the first time she saw them was at the funeral mimi passed away two months later and my grandmother called them to let them know where it was so they got to the funeral and the first thing out of bob's mouth was so what is in the wheel not even a hello my grandmother had all greeted them as she didn't know the history and why they disappeared plus my grandmother was too overly nice to family and was putting them next to the family seating when they saw pop-pop pophop then said to sorry only family is allowed to sit up front bob and jenny started to contest when they saw the funeral guide my grandmother was listed as an only child with nothing saying bob or jenny was related it turned out that both mimi and pop-up were angry by how they were treated all those years ago so mimi's will and funeral arrangements were made to disown her son they were strangers to the two bob and jenny blew their top and while my grandmother tried to cool things down they left mimi's will left 85 percent to pop hop and 15 percent of it to my grandmother it even made references that bob and jenny would get nothing and were disowned both tried to fight it but it didn't work however i'm still not done with the revenge this part is more natural development than anything else my grandmother still kept in contact with her brother outside of pop-pop's wishes pop-pop still didn't tell her what happened since he kept saying that he had no son and that she knew he wouldn't approve my grandmother my grandfather and my mother even visited them at their house during a vacation my mother said that he always seemed too faced along with jenny they would act nice but it was more of an act my mother brought this up but my grandmother always shot it down my grandmother was naive and she heard from bob on what happened between the two bob's story was that after a year jenny's uncle died and left them money it wasn't a lot a big lie but enough to move out when they went to tell pop about it he blew up on them leaving and demanded that he wanted the money to pay for the rent another lie pop-pop never asked for money for a room that he built them along with the labor and construction of the area they had to leave under the cover of night to be protected from him and that he brainwashed mimi into disowning him and only came back because she was dying which also was a lie they didn't show up until the funeral and asked about the will when they first got there my mother remembers clearly since popop owned 85 percent he still had the majority of the money grandma wanted to give him part of her money but she had since spent a majority of it buying a house and doing major renovations to it she would give him the money but it would be after pop-pop passed away since grandma wanted to give money to her brother they wrote up a contract that after pop-pop passing the money that grandma got 50 of it would go to her brother so they waited and waited that never came what happened is too crazy enough not to tell by this point when the contract was made my grandmother was in her early 40s bob and jenny was in their mid to late 50s while pop-pop was in his 70s most of pop-pop siblings had passed away and his health was always questionable he smoked cigars drank and chewed tobacco on top of having bad knees so at the time we thought he had only a while left to live he lived to be a hundred and three years old bob and jenny passed away around 20 years after the contract was signed by them and my grandmother and since bob and jenny had no kids and jenny's other siblings passed away with no kids on their own their money was given to my grandmother after no one else claimed it since jenny and bob had no will i'm not sure the details of how she did it but she did get it my grandmother later on found out that what they were telling her about the house was a lie as she was cleaning out pop-pop's room she found the old police records and pictures about the apartment along with bob and jenny's records about how much money they got all of the money was wasted away years later by pop-pop he got into heavy depression after mimi passed away he drank and gambled most of the money away trying to ease the pain so even if he died later on bob would not have gotten much if any of it my grandma didn't know about pop-pop's money until she took over his finances when he went into a nursing home at the age of 102. yes at 100 he was still pretty active with his finances this is incredibly fresh and i'm not sure how well i'm going to be able to tell the story without getting into too many details my amazing husband will call john his former military and was involved in an incident which left him with severe ptsd he's been in therapy for a while and is doing better but he still struggles however he's never made me feel unsafe my whole family is aware of john's issues and as a result don't really like him they feel like i'm wasting my time helping him through this instead of finding someone flawless and without issue i guess including my younger brother who we'll call rick rick is the baby of the family and an a-hole my family has sheltered and made excuses for him for as long as i can remember rick and john previously got along but after an incident where rick stayed on our couch and left the doors unlocked john needs them locked to feel secure and got a gentle scolding he's made it his mission to treat john's ptsd as something to be messed with for his own amusement i.e jumping out and yelling when he sees him as a result john makes a point to avoid rick which my family seems to think is unreasonable my family had a gathering this past week our body of government has increased the number of people who can gather outdoors we didn't violate a quarantine order to celebrate the life of my aunt as this meant a lot to me i asked my husband to attend even though rick would be present normally when we're out in public i stay close to john so i can tell if he's having a hard time and direct him to a quiet place we arrived and everything was going well it was gloomy it was a celebration so plenty of kids were running around in the yard and there was socializing john let his guard down and went off to talk to some of the guys in my extended family who were playing with the kids while i talked to my parents they along with my uncle made a point to ask if jon could play nicely with rick as he was on the way which i mostly ignored about a half an hour later rick shows up and the problems start rick is talking to a teenage cousin of mine and dropping several extremely crude swear words john who was playing with the kids tells him that there are children nearby and to have some respect for the occasion this turns into an argument with rick mocking my husband and my husband basically telling him to grow up rick stormed off got in his car and left about 20 minutes later rick shows back up and hangs out across the yard so we think it's over out of nowhere rick sneaks up behind john and pushes a cap g i later found out he had just gone to the store to purchase into his back and clicks it firing off a loud pop this led to my husband shoving me hard behind a table out of what he thought was danger and me hitting my head i remember standing up to see several of my family members pulling my husband who was in hysterics off of rick i remember seeing my husband wrestle the cap g from rick and hit him several times i remember physically cradling my husband and walking him out to the car as he was inconsolable cops weren't called as rick has a criminal history i ended up needing stitches in my head my husband has been an absolute wreck blaming himself for my injury and causing an issue with my family my entire family is threatening to cut me off unless i divorce my husband telling me that he's dangerous and that by staying with someone who would attack my brother over a little ribbing i don't value my family most of them can get to be tucked but i love my parents and they're agreeing with everyone they specifically told me that john created a spectacle and they can't condone me living with him anymore rick has left me voicemails apologizing to me but saying he was just trying to show me what john is really like they used my head injury as proof that he's abusive i feel like they're all trying to gaslight me into seeing rick as the victim but at the same time i'm terrified of losing my family they've also tried showing up at the house to rescue me and i've had to tell them to leave they're also spreading gossip about him to anyone who will listen and i don't know what i should be saying publicly in his defense to help him without completely torpedoing my family relationships i also don't know how to make my husband feel like i don't blame him and that he's not a bad person or a bad partner i have no intention of leaving my husband and i refuse to make him apologize to rick but i don't want to lose my mom and dad how do i make them see that rick started this issue and that my husband might have challenges but isn't a bad person i need to find a way to make them want me in their life while also respecting my marriage and placing blame where it should be i'd love to hear from people who have been torn between family and their partner or who have had families who hated their partner and found a way to make it work out for everybody i'd love any advice on how to fix this [Music] my [Music] you

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Length: 14min 55sec (895 seconds)

Published: Tue Apr 13 2021