r/AmiTheA**Hole For Shutting My Sister Down?

g'day there guys it's your main man Marky back at it again with another episode of our /mi the a-hole now if you loved this video I want you to sit back relax Chuck a prawn on the barbie and get ready for some bloody good content posted by user tree on reddit titled am I the a-hole for changing the package pick up each time someone uses my email for orders so pretty much there's this guy who keeps ordering things with my email he isn't using any personal information of mine sir I don't think it's a privacy concern so back to the points I will occasionally get emails from random websites about an order confirmation I've never heard of most of these websites and I know for a fact none of my family members used my email to buy something with most emails there's a number name and in address I'm assuming it's the person's address attached I've tried texting the number and even calling but I've never gotten an answer I'd always get emails from ups to confirm the pick-up and drop-off area ever since I've gotten the emails I always change the location for delivery so instead of it being delivered at his doorstep it gets shipped to a post office 20 miles away he can't change that since like I said it's all attached to my email I recently got an email from the guy and turns out the reason he keeps writing my email is because his and mine are almost identical imagine mine is ABC and his is a CB so he always switches one letter and therefore I get the emails in his email he calls me an a-hole for making the pickup so far when I asked him why he can't just use his own email he says it's always a typo I do and I don't feel like fixing it because it takes too much time I'm not even joking that's exactly what he said so am I the a-hole for sabotaging this guy's packages no I would say good not the a-hole if he's gonna be too lazy I think you're well within your rights I know it's not the most morally sound thing to be doing but it is hilarious and it's kind of just that malicious compliance continuously until he decides to fix his ways so you know I can see you being a little bit of an a-hole but I think it's funny so I'm gonna say you're not the a hole in this issue tell him it takes less time to change the typo than it does to go to a post-office 20 miles away not to a halt yeah like how difficult or time-consuming could that be it would have been easier for him to go online and fix his email so he can stop bothering this man who was getting his confirmation emails so now he has to do this to learn his lesson if only every web browser these days had some sort of automatic form completion assistance built-in hmm big hmm not the a-hole just start canceling the orders instead while you technically aren't breaking the law you are scouting right up to the edge just start canceling the orders he'll get the points I wouldn't even say you'd be close to breaking any law by canceling if I got a suspicious order by someone using my email there's no way I'd do anything but cancel it I think they meant they won't technically breaking the law by changing the delivery location and the canceling the orders is the best route what law breaking the law in this case is just a generic term for doing something illegal they aren't referring to a specific law and someone reckons maybe mail tampering but I'm not even sure you could argue that posted by user random username 3 4 2 3 2 titled am I the a-hole for telling my sister she has no right to judge my career since she's never worked a day in her life I was over at my grandma's house with my mom sister brother and three cousins and their girlfriends for some backstory I'm a male Midwife and I recently completed my degree and I'm currently doing my graduate yeah I do really enjoy my job because it provides a relationship with your patients and allows a lot of flexibility and it pays pretty well too I'm 25 and making 78 thousand dollars a year I ended up doing midwifery after nursing I know Americans say midwifery it's just I've always heard midwifery my sister has always criticized my nursing career as not being manly enough and has told me women don't like feminine guys and I'd have trouble finding a wife etc and usually I just put up with it since I don't want to cause any drama in the house but I reached my boiling point today for some information on my sister she has genuinely never worked a day in her life she either mooches off her parents or any boyfriends she had at the time but now she mooches off her husband's I feel bad for the guy ending up with my sister she made another comment about my career again today and I got angry I told her she's never worked a day in her life and she's an incompetent mooch and that a stay-at-home mom isn't a job which I know isn't true but keep in mind I was ticked at this point this resulted in everyone in the family basically turning against me and he yelling at me and at this point I just decided to leave they said I'm not allowed at any gatherings until I apologize but I have too much pride for that am i the a-hole I'm gonna go with you're not the a-hole for this one actually I mean I can see why they think you are in this situation I feel like maybe these people haven't been reached off as much as the rest of your immediate family has from this woman so maybe they don't understanding it like you are from this context and they're not getting just why her comments to you hurt so much and why you're reacting the way you are so I'm gonna go with you're not the a-hole you shouldn't have to apologize they should all grow up and come back to reality and see that she is just not a productive person and just not a good person to hang around if she's gonna lash out like that not the a-hole if you want a relationship with your family you're still gonna have to suck it up and apologize but you'll be justified in not doing so if they're gonna be sexist and denigrate your choice of Korea is not manly enough they don't think they don't get to complain about sexist elements when you return fire you still kind of suck for the comments about the stay-at-home mom not being a job but since you know it is I'll excuse it with absolutely justified anger they sound exhausting telling you not to come back may be the greatest gift they could give you a good stay-at-home mom is a job not all of them otherwise agree I think there's also a huge difference between sitting down with your partner running the math on childcare costs weighing the pros cons and ultimately deciding that it makes the most sense for your family to have one stay at home and dopey sister who's never worked a day in her life and then continued not working after their marriage slashed the birth of their child obviously we're working with very limited information here but I repeat sister sounds like the type of stay-at-home parents who complains about how hard it is to find a good nanny something tells me that they're also the type who will continue referring to themselves as a stay-at-home parent even after all the kids are in high school this I'm a stay-at-home mom but my husband and I actually sat down and crunched the numbers lazy stay-at-home mums make it so hard on us that genuinely try because they give us a bad reputation like I work from 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. cooking cleaning trying to teach my two-year-old engaging and playing with my three-month-old trying to build strength and hand-eye coordination and doing small home improvements here and there not gonna lie it gets stressful because you feel overwhelming guilts if you have to ask for help because you feel like you can't do anything right or at least in my case but because of lazy stay-at-home moms as the military likes to call them dependents people automatically assume being a stay-at-home mum is a breeze and you just sit and watch TV all day there are crappy people for every profession there are people in the office that just make small talk all day and slack off there are construction workers that mostly stay at the site and give crappy advice and there are staying home mums that watch TV all day that doesn't mean the whole profession is a train of laziness I know first aid her mum it is worse than for other professions but most people know that if you do it right it's a crap load of work with its own challenges and struggles no shame in asking for help back to the points not the a-hole I mean she is insulting you because your job isn't manly enough I mean she can screw right off absolutely agree so she can constantly insult him in his livelihood but he insults her once and it's suddenly not okay dude you'd probably be better off without all of them sounds like the entire family cuddles her anyways so yeah he's better off without them posted by user dad troubles 92 titles am I the a-hole for being too hard on my daughter after she got expelled the whole expulsion happened around six or seven months ago but it's still something that my husband brings up whenever we argue I'm gonna shorten the whole story on how she got expelled a little because it's a bit long but in short her and her friends brought a bunch of stink bombs silly-string and eggs and one day during a school-wide assembly they snuck out and threw the stink bombs all over the school silly stringed the whole place and then went into the principal's office and stink bombed stringed and egged the entire fudging place they clearly didn't think it through though because the place has cameras and they got cords they did all this just to pee off the principal which is so beyond stupid to me the next day my husband got a call and he had to go into the school they told him that she was being expelled and although he called me to tell me something he only told me that she got into trouble not that she was expelled when I got home I asked him about it and he told me what had happened to be honest I did get mad I was beyond ticked at her for doing something like that and I let her know that my husband's literally didn't do anything to her after he found out he let her keep all of her things and didn't even talk to her about it he just let me handle it all which annoys me I was the one who had to take all of her things then after calming down I was the one who sat down with her and let her explain herself a little after she explains it really did trigger me all over again because I just couldn't understand it as soon as I started to raise my voice at her my husband started to tell me that it's okay and that she's sorry and that it's fine now I ended up yelling at him too because he kept trying to be her friend rather than her parents and he argued back saying that if she apologized then we should leave it at that and that I'm doing too much she only recently got back her electronics and some privileges but my husband keeps arguing with me saying that it was long ago and I just need to forget it I still don't get his POV or what he's trying to say they just think he's being ridiculous am I the a-hole here and it's thanks for all the feedback I've read through every single comments and I've realized the mistakes I've been making my communication levels with my husband are definitely flawed and need some serious improving the parenting advice is very helpful I guess I'm not a parent in this situation and taking into account that edits and everyone's actions here I think you've just got to say that everyone sucks yeah like the daughter sucks for doing that for sure the mum sucks for blowing up and continuing to attack instead of taking different avenues that are healthier and better for everyone's psychological health but I don't know if the husband sucks because at that point the damage is already done he's just trying to de-escalate the situation and she continually tries to escalate it I do think that some people can argue that he sucks but not punishing her and you know helping her change her ways and I can understand that too so I guess there is elements there where he does suck but I'm struggling to understand it I think the comments will help me out but I guess the judgment here is everyone sucks everyone sucks here your husband shouldn't force you to be the bad guy that's bullcrap and is just alienating you from your daughter six months is a long time to punish someone for one dumb move trust me my mum did some crap like that to me and it did not turn out well try figuring out a way to connect with your daughter in a rehabilitative way instead of the punitive way to be honest even if what the daughter did was dumb she got expelled for it's her daughter made the choice to prank the school with her friends my mum would have put me six feet under if I ever did anything to get expelled I'm gonna say not the a-hole actions have consequences and she had to learn that I honestly don't know how some kids and teens can do stuff like this just the sheer thought of what my mother would do to me if I even talked back to my teachers makes me want to die Kermit style not the a-hole it's not really about her and what she did though it's about him not supporting you and presenting a united parental team during a situation that warrants discipline by forcing you to be the disciplinarian he gets to continue being her friend instead of her parents and gives her the opportunity to pitch the two you against each other to deflect attention from her own actions he's not pulling his weight as a parent and that would keep me angry for months - which is probably making Opie feel the need to double down even more harshly on the punishments because she feels like she's the only parent who's dealing with it which isn't exactly fair to the kid but it's also not fair that Opie is the only one taking responsibility for their child's lack of discipline and good decision-making skills everyone sucks you know what your daughter did was crappy your husband's inability to discipline at all is awful and your current plan of grounding her for what a year is far too extreme of a punishment for the crime especially when there was also a natural consequence of getting kicked out of the school there is a middle ground here for everybody that is completely being missed I don't consider it to be extreme she got expelled she didn't stink bomb one room in the school she stink bombed the entire school my mom would have put me six feet under for just doing that her punishment was taking away electronics which to be honest isn't that extreme a daughter needed to learn that actions have consequences and the consequences to her actions ended up getting her electronics taken not gonna lie after this I'm kind of leaning on that the opie is not a hole for this one they're kind of being victimized by the husband's and I don't support that now posted by user throw a dildo titled would I be the a-hole if I told my girlfriend that my dog is not her dog I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year I have a two-year-old dog she is super sweet and a great dog I am the sole caretaker for her I pay for everything for her lately my girlfriend has been referring to my dog is our dog or is her dog two other people I know she loves her and probably means it like I love her as my own but it's starting to annoy me especially now that we live together she's our dog yet all the responsibilities and finances followed me would I be the a-hole to tell her I don't like her calling her her dog if she does absolutely nothing to take care of her I mean if she helped out with the bills food walks etc then yeah that would be fine but how are we in equal footing as earners if I do everything that's a very good question my question is why this arguments what's the points why is it affecting you so much I don't understand I can see where you're coming from but it is so minor I think Opie is the a-hole for blowing up like he is at the girlfriend I think the girlfriend is the a-hole for claiming so much ownership and not looking after the dog it's kind of you're in a relationship with this person you should have those split responsibilities if you want to claim the dog so much I understand that but I don't get why he is being so angry at her so I'm gonna say everyone sucks here as a result of that this is a weird Hill to die on if you want your girlfriend to help with your dog then use your words and tell her that instead of getting worked up over her word choices exactly what you said if her taking care of the pet is the only thing holding Opie back from letting her call the dog hers then it needs to be expressed like an adults if it's something other than that there are other problems that need to be dealt with you live together how do you split costs and deal with finances in a family the parents will pay for the care of a dog yet it's still the family pets kids don't say this is my dad's dog obviously this is a different situation but does she help take care of the dog in other ways taking it for walks grooming it playing with the dog have you asked if she'd be comfortable contributing financially to the dog's health and upkeep this seems like a really stupid thing to get ticked about since you live together just have a conversation with her everyone sucks yeah because I think it's tacky she never offered to help pay for upkeep involved with the dog and I think it's silly you never discussed it with her why would she offer to help pay for Opie's dog there even though she calls it hers because it lives with her she didn't choose this dog she just accepted it it would be another thing if opiate asked but she has done absolutely nothing wrong and Opie is just dramatic help pay for food and vet appointments why because it's normal to chip in with household expenses I don't know how they divide things financially helping out with pets has always been a normal aspect in my relationships when cohabitating posted by user agreeable quarter eight for one titled z-- am i the a-hole i went snooping in my best friend's phone backstory m 33 male and 28 female i have been best friends for 10 years in those 10 years i completed medical school got married and then divorced i struggled with infertility and if dealt with depression because i've always wanted kids a year after my divorce I became friends with benefits with M and was always sweet and respectful to me and made me feel safe and adored we see each other for two years since June 2018 to now and I never spoke poorly of him or said anything unkind I always speak highly defend him educate him when necessary and take care of him I had an incidents before where I found out M said something mean about me in his group chat with his boys and he got back to me one of his friends told me and I confronted em directly he said he was upset but he wouldn't explain why he was upset sir I forgive it and move on recently I get a bad feeling and check the chat again I see that he makes fun of my weights his friends mutual friends mind you laugh about my weights and make comments and calls me a [ __ ] and a dumpster slept with two men total in my entire life and I find out he lied about hooking up with two of my girlfriends the weights comment hurt the most because he knew it was my infertility and medicine that made me gain weights he was the first person I told about this and expressed how confident I felt with my body with my new weight 130 pounds I sit there in disbelief but not before taking screenshots and I start to distance myself slowly he notices it and asks our friends who leave him unread he texts me 20 times and calls me drunkenly begging for a chance to speak to me about what he did I explain what I found out and he said he was upset and trying to put on a facade for the boys I told him it wasn't good enough and he tells me I'm wrong for invading his privacy am i the a hole for a snooping yeah I say I think you are the a hole for snooping but I don't blame you for what's come as a result of that this is a bit of a muddy one because it's become a semi relationship because so many emotions have been tied into it so I think it's best that it's breaking in all honesty he showed his true self although you discovered it and I think you have to believe that he's not a good person to hang around it's only gonna happen again I feel like it's happened in the past it's happened this time why wouldn't it happen in third time you know say obviously he sucks you suck for snooping but I think this is for the best but everyone sucks y'all ah I hate these I'm saying everyone sucks here yes snooping is wrong everything he is doing is wrong you were much less an a-hole but as you acknowledged you shouldn't have invaded his privacy at the same time it's so worth it for you to know this info and move on with your life and no longer waste your time also 1:30 is so tiny I can't even fathom marking that to wait I was going to comment about the weights I'm 130 and I'm pretty small now this dude doesn't deserve his privacy if he's gonna be that crappy and dishonest full not the a-hole and they said I was 120 before medication and procedures he was the very first person I told about it it shattered my heart into so many pieces reading his comments about my tummy and entertaining comments about my weights this guy is abusive and disrespectful leave him and please look into therapy and support groups this is not normal behavior and you do not deserve to be treated this way snooping is always wrong and it's something you don't need to do in a healthy relationship you invaded his privacy but he wounded your ability to trust him don't stay with a person that demeans you to others cut him and all the people in that chat off everyone sucks here which I hate saying because the actions are in no way comparable it's always wrong to invade other's privacy I understand why you did it there I hope you get away from him and dopey says I actually created an accounts and had a friend changed the password sent a goodbye email to him removed everyone in that chat from all of my socials and you got on UOP I really support that posted by user YX ng scholar titled am I the a-hole for telling my mum that children with iPhones isn't that uncommon so the story is that I asked my mom if I could borrow her phone iPhone 8 plus to do something that required iOS 13 plus I have her old cracked iPhone 6 plus and iOS 13 doesn't support 6 plus or lower she asked me why I couldn't just do it on my phone I told her that my phone doesn't support it and she snapped and says yes it does it's the same Apple phone it then spiraled into an argument about how I was ungrateful with the stuff I had she then said how many of your friends do you see walking around with an iPhone 6 plus I responded I don't see any of them walking around with a 6 plus I see them walking around with brand spankin new iPhone X's and Elevens I really appreciate what I have but this phone has its limits besides it isn't uncommon to see children walking around with the newest tech Apple puts outs this made her even more mad and she took my phone privileges for the time being lay it on me reddit's am I the a-hole edits sir a lot of you guys are taking me explaining how boast kids have the newest tank as me telling my mom that my phone is outdated and I need the newest one I never said that I'm fine with my phone I like it I don't want a new one it's just the phone is limited for example you can't group FaceTime which is what I needed my mum's phone for I'm gonna be controversial I'm gonna say Opie's not the a-hole I think the mum is way overstepping her bouncing him like that and refusing to understand hey technology upgrades over time and my old Samsung flip phone isn't gonna run the latest Apple's spyware 22000 technology we got going on I feel like we need to be there in person listening to the tone of these people's voice it's hard to convey intention over text on and post but yeah I understand if people think everyone sucks yeah I don't agree with that I think Opie's not the a-hole everyone sucks er your mum's the a-hole immediately blow up about the plain fact that all the systems can not support in your apps and technology you're also the a-hole for making me feel like my iPhone 6 is dated in Stone Age I love him he's my baby of course he needs a portable battery but he's trying I apologize for belittling your iPhone my bed apology accepted ah reading through the post in its comments I was kind of on the fence but my final determination is not the a-hole I mean tech changes very quickly and I think your mom just didn't like being told she was wrong if you were saying you deserve an iPhone X because everyone else has one but you couldn't afford it that's a different story and the initial vibe I gods but just explaining tech to a how dare I say this Bruma and getting yelled at because they refuse to be told they are wrong doesn't make you an a-hole not the a-hole sounds like your mom doesn't get technology but also isn't good at admitting she's wrong true but the comments at the end of the post could also be taken as whining that she doesn't have the latest iPhone because others have the latest iPhone that said I think it's ridiculous the kids have $1,000 ferns my kids have spot friends too but the difference between a $300 phone and a $1000 phone is not that big that I would justify the expense posted by user experience up beats titles am i the a hole for collapsing my neighbor's tents while he and his son were inside Heller the title sounds rough I'll admit but there's more to the story surai 43 male earn a decent bit of property there's a creek running through the back corner but the majority is native grass and flowers and a few trees it's really peaceful and I love it unfortunately so do other people I've had many kids walking through my property especially around the creek I don't particularly mind this since they generally around the creek and it just waiting through it's only one to two feet deep but I've put signs up to try to keep them away and their visits generally only lasts five minutes or so and they're on their way my neighbor late 20s male however decided to set up a tent this evening on my property the way the land is his property is mostly bushes and is on a fairly steep incline so mine lends itself to camping a bit better he had his toddler son with him I came over and informed him that he was on my property by over fifty feet I might add and that he needs to move back to his own property he said that he just wanted to show his kid what camping was like take him fishing we don't get fish in the creek and Nepal was just a toy and he also said plenty of kids played on my property I told him that was a nice idea but I didn't want the liability and again asked him to leave he asked for 30 minutes to take it down and I agreed I left to go shopping came back two or so hours later and the tent was still there I was furious and came up and started talking to him through the tents and I could hear him giggling and whispering to his son I was furious and just started pulling the poles out of the grounds the tent was a dinky thing and ended up collapsing pretty quickly his kids started crying and they both made their way outs he's yelling I'm walking away I tell him again to get it off my property and head inside he starts packing everything up my wife was watching from inside and asked if all that was necessary and thinks I'm in ours the way I see it he was a trespasser and a liability I had the right to get him off my property however I see fit am i under a hole I'm gonna say yes you're an a-hole but they he's an a-hole too for not leaving the property when you had requested him to I get the magic of spending time and camping with her kids but you have to do that in a respectful manner and he gave you plenty of time to set up and just move back onto your property maybe if the neighbor had asked Opie beforehand we could have avoided all of this kerfuffle but that's not what happened to this situation and Opie dealt with it in a bad way I'd say I don't agree with the way that Opie did it's so for that reason I'm gonna say everyone sucks here except the toddler are you within your rights yes should the guy have moved on yes are you an a-hole foo collapsing a tent on a toddler yes I'd apologize to the neighbor explain your concerns and maybe even offer help to clear some of the brush in his space why should he offer to clear brush the neighbors should do it if he wants to camp on his earn lands an hour or two clearing brush and building goodwill with the neighbor is cheaper and easier than installing extensive barbed wire fencing not if you don't want to be friends with your neighbor there's a lot of space between friendship and constantly fighting I mean you do you it's your blood pressure and your stress also I wish more people thought this way your rights a little bit of civility makes life nicer you do you indeed not the a-hole you asked him to leave and gave him a time frame he didn't respect that and instead laughed about the situation as if it were a joke he essentially taught his kid that it's okay to do whatever he wants in addition to being disrespectful I do want to point out however that since your concern was liability it might not have been the best idea to collapse a tent on a child who could suffocate seems pretty unlikely that the kid would suffocate with two adults right there two adults with no common sense mind you I agree with the not the a-hole judgements but there's pretty much zero chance of suffocation in a collapsed tents if that was a risk you'd get a lot less people camping and Cecina da Bayou says I have a big problem with random people cutting through my property to get to a store down the streets problem and that is that part of my land is wetlands and I constantly have trees falling someone gets hurt or worse killed I get sued no trespassing signs did not work asking them did not work confronting them did not work sometimes for it to get through thick heads to not trespass you have to go there it took calling the police several times and eventually a firearm to make these random strangers understand that my yard and property and not their personal roadways yes it sucks to that little kiddo cried but in this case it was the dad's fault for not listening and not vacating like he said he would you were not entitled to set up camp wherever you want just because you have a toddler the dad is the a-hole hope he is not the a-hole I am honestly surprised at the you collapse the tent on a toddler comments the neighbor strikes me is one of those people who tries to put their kid in front of them to excuse their behavior like don't get mad at me I have a toddler and it's those types of people who are quick to jump on the lawsuit wagon because something on your property harmed my child's IP is totally in the right for protecting their property he might not have minded if his neighbor came to him first and asked about pitching the tents instead the neighbor took it upon himself to park himself there and stayed after he promised he would leave like come on buddy a tent isn't hard to miss and you are asked to pack it up and that's where I think I'm gonna leave today's episode guys I hope you enjoyed it and I heard out Rumaki treats you good alright guys that's all for today's video I hope you enjoyed this one today tell me what you thought of it down in the comments below um if you're not subscribed to the channel I would love you to subscribe because I love your face I love seeing you here every single day that you are here in this video I don't know what else to say today guys I hope you enjoyed the content I do have a second channel that's called Maki - link should be up on the screen somewhere here if you don't have ad block installed if you don't know where to find the channel you can go to my main page just click 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Published: Tue Jun 30 2020