r/AmITheA**hole A 16-year-old Stalker Broke Into My House to Give Me Cake!

welcome to r slash am i the butthole where a 16 year old stalker breaks into op's house and brings him a birthday cake am i the butthole for refusing to drop the charges against a 16 year old my little brother lives with me and my husband full time since both of our parents passed away in an accident last february my brother is 17. i'm a 25 year old woman and my husband is 26. he's a great kid but losing our parents made him a quiet sad young boy i've tried to encourage him to attend therapy so he can work on his grief but he's refused every single time telling me that he's not ready yet i get it everyone works at their own pace and as long as he's not deliberately hurting himself i won't pressure him i try to be as involved in his life as i can be without it being overwhelming we both enjoy movie nights our binge watch shows on the weekends and he also helps my husband with his old car before our parents passed away my brother had a 16 year old girlfriend and she seemed like a good kid too but after the funeral my brother decided that being in a relationship wasn't what he needed at that time and he broke up with her it was totally valid but she did not take this well and she was sure that my brother only needed some love to heal last month she began to drop letters and gifts to our door and my brother refused to open them every single time she used to message and call him too and i could see the distress on my brother's face the worst thing happened last friday it was my brother's birthday and my husband and i decided to take him out when we got back my brother went to his room and as soon as he did he came running downstairs his ex-girlfriend had broken into my house decorated his room with photos of him with her their friends and our family put up balloons and was waiting for him with a cake mind you this is super creepy so while my husband entertained her i called the cops and they took her for trespassing on private property my brother is thankful but my husband and the kid's parents think that i'm overreacting and i should drop the charges because she's trying to do something nice oh okay she was trying to do something nice so like if a guy likes you know an actor or a pop star and he searches online where she lives and he sneaks into her house and he sneaks into her room and he snips off little pieces of her hair while she's sleeping and then he takes that hair and puts it into like a little doll shaped like her so he can take it on dates and then take photos of him with that doll and send it to this girl that he loved to show her this is what our love could be like if you just would be with me i mean that's him trying to do something nice right in his head he thinks that it's a nice thing to do right clearly as long as someone intends to do something nice then that makes it okay right no of course not because that's absolutely insane op what your brother's ex-girlfriend is doing is basically stalking he cut her out of his life and then she continues to be obsessed with him continues to try to make contact and then she literally breaks into your home and stands there uninvited after redecorating the room this is this is creepy this is not okay this is not healthy this is not respecting boundaries this is not legal this is not morally ethical this is not part of a healthy relationship there's there's so much wrong here this girl needs a clear wake-up call i mean i get it when you're 16 you're insane 16 year olds famously make really bad choices aren't like romeo and juliet weren't they like 15 16 and that's why they both killed themselves in the play because oh i love you so much and i just can't go on without you blah i'm dead because i'm an overdramatic 16 year old so yeah like 16 year olds will just be that way they're over dramatic and they make decisions with their hormones i mean you know if there's any 16 year olds listening to this not to trash on you at all because i was 16 and i made very questionable choices as a 16 year old so don't be mad at me when i say that 16 year olds don't make the best choices because i think we can all agree that on the whole on average 16 year olds be a little bit questionable a little bit down bad thirsty if you know what i mean it's still just not okay to violate someone's space to break into someone's home and engage in this kind of behavior it just isn't and clearly she hasn't been getting the messages based on what you've said in this story op your brother's been pretty clear about what he wants or more specifically what he doesn't want from her and she just keeps doing it and doing it and doing it and to make matters worse the behavior is escalating so i think literally for your safety op the safety of your home the safety of your family the safety of your brother you do need to keep these charges to press these charges because if she doesn't get this wake-up call if she's not like oh wait hold on he really doesn't want me this isn't okay i can't keep doing this if she doesn't have that moment of realization then she's gonna keep going down this path because why wouldn't she right so no op i'm giving you zero out of five buttholes for this story as a matter of fact i would say that if you drop the charges that would make you a butthole because that would mean you're in my opinion literally endangering the safety of your brother now do i think she's gonna like hurt him do i think she's gonna you know come in guns blazing and murder your brother no probably nothing that extreme but your brother's a miner and he's living under your roof which means you're his caretaker so you have a responsibility to monitor his safety to make sure that he's physically safe mentally safe socially safe and clearly this woman is not making him mentally safe mentally healthy so i think it is your responsibility as his caretaker to ensure that there is distance between him and his ex-girlfriend so yeah i would not listen to your husband i would not listen to the kid's parents of course the kid's parents are going to say oh you're overreacting because they have an obligation to protect their kid but no op double down keep those charges keep her out of your house this woman needs a wake-up call am i the butthole for demanding my widow's sister-in-law and her kids leave after she put a lock on the bathroom door and denied my daughter access to it i'm a father to a 16 year old daughter i own a mid-sized one-bathroom house where me my wife my wife's widowed sister and her two kids who are 13 and 16 live my daughter had issues with her mother and she asked to live with me permanently i had the legal stuff finalized and my daughter moved in with us a month ago she and her stepmom get along so far everything's been going well my daughter had her period a few days ago nothing new nothing strange except that my sister-in-law came to me complaining about my daughter leaving used pads in the bathroom causing her sons to see them i asked where exactly and she said in the trash can i laughed in her face asking if she thought this was abnormal or strange she got upset that i didn't understand her point and she wanted me to listen carefully as she explained that her boys are pretty young and shouldn't be subjected to witnessing stuff like that i said that i'll see what i can do i talked to my daughter and i made sure that she wasn't just leaving her used pads in full display inside the trash can it turns out she wraps him in toilet paper which is enough in my opinion i told my sister-in-law there was no problem and she should quit being sensitive over her boys she got mad saying that i was dismissing her concerns and reminded me her oldest had blood phobia and my daughter even though she was doing it unintentionally keeps leaving her pads exposed i welcomed any ideas to fix this and she suggested that my daughter throw her used pads outside the house i stopped arguing at that point because of how ridiculous she was being she threatened to change the bathroom door lock if i don't do something but i just laughed her off my daughter called me the next day after getting back from school saying that her step-aunt refused to let her use the bathroom and was keeping it locked she had to use her neighbor's bathroom but she called to let me know i was effing livid i went home and blew up at my sister-in-law she apologetically said the lock was only for when my daughter tries to leave her pads inside and she would have allowed my daughter inside if she agreed to put her pads elsewhere but my daughter was stubborn i told her that she was out of her mind to get a lock for my door in my house to keep my daughter from accessing my bathroom i removed the lock and she kept lashing out and then called my wife my wife came to calm us down but i told her and my sister-in-law that i have no problem kicking my sister-in-law out my sister-in-law started crying my wife said that her sister is a widow and she'll be homeless without us and i said that i stopped caring the minute that she tried to keep my daughter out of the bathroom i demanded that she leave but my wife said that i was being unfair to those kids i bluntly said that was not my problem and she had six days to move out okay oh my god can i just say before we get into this story that if you're the sister-in-law why go out and buy a lock for the bathroom door when instead you could just go out and buy one of those trash cans that had the lid that's like the little flippy rolly lids so you don't have to see or smell what's inside the trash can it'd be cheaper and easier and more respectful and it solves the problem having to look inside the trash can and see what's inside the trash can so just you know buy the flippy lid why is this why is this complicated why are we going nuclear and installing a lock on a door that isn't even yours to keep a child from using the bathroom how was that the logical solution okay so now that i've gotten that out of the way i can talk about the absolute audacity required to install a lock on someone else's door in someone else's house that you're a guest in so you can lock their own child out of the bathroom of their own house like what is this sister-in-law even paying rent or is she just living here for free and then acting like she owns the house that is nuts that's just insane and why do i keep reading story after story after story on reddit about weirded out family members trying to criticize and shame young girls for having a period are teenage girls out there just fighting for their lives in the bathroom because they have periods and people were like ooh period blood like if those 13 and 16 year old boys grow up to be you know straight guys who want to get a girlfriend then i've got news for them they're gonna have to deal with periods a lot in their life so like get over it anyways op i'm on your side your sister-in-law is nuts the only thing i would say against you is that giving someone six days notice to move out is way too fast that's really really fast especially someone with kids the standard is 30 days so if you want to kick her out of the house which i do understand i think it would be more reasonable and more fair to treat you know your family members with the basic respect that any tenant would get and give them 30 days notice if she continues to be a butthole about this and keeps putting locks on the door and giving your daughter you know constant grief then yeah i could understand moving up the timeline but putting a woman and two kids out on the street in just six days that's a little harsh op i would say maybe pump the brakes there so i'm gonna give you zero out of five buttholes with the asterix of please be a little more considerate to the two kids because they didn't really do anything wrong in this story so they don't deserve to live on the street just because their mom is nuts i'm giving your sister-in-law 2.5 out of 5 buttholes because she is insanely entitled i'm giving your wife zero out of five buttholes because it sounds like she's just trying to keep the peace obviously she cares about you she cares about her daughter she cares about her sister and she cares about her nephews as well so she's just trying to keep the peace i got nothing bad to say against her i'm giving her 0 out of 5 buttholes and finally your daughter your 16 year old daughter also gets 0 out of 5 buttholes because this is her house she has every right to put her pads in the bathroom as far as i'm concerned she was being extra considerate by wrapping up the pads in toilet paper so i see nothing wrong there zero out of five buttholes am i the butthole for selling my husband's xbox to buy back the antique tea set that he sold without my consent i'm a 33 year old woman and my husband is 31. we've been struggling with money lately i work at a hair salon while he works at a gas station basically earning minimum wages that barely pay rent and other expenses we don't have any savings nor do we have the ability to save money it's been like this for years recently i found out that the antique tea set that my grandmother gifted me was gone my husband admitted to selling it for 300 so he could buy a gaming chair for his nephew who's a recovering cancer patient i didn't take it well and i told him this tea set was important to me and i wasn't willing to let it go that easily now if he was selling off the tea set to pay off debts or rent then maybe but a gaming chair no not okay my husband said that hey i never use the tea set it's just sitting in some cabinet b his nephew has gone through so much and he wanted a gaming chair badly and he promised to reward him for defeating cancer and c he said that he would give me money to buy a better modern tea set however i refused to accept that the tea set was gone and let go of it i contacted the buyer and he told me that i had to pay 450 to get it back which was unfair so to get the money back i sold the one thing that my husband had that was worth that much money which was his xbox i sold it for 400 bucks and borrowed the remaining 50 bucks from my sister i paid off the buyer and he brought back the tea set my husband found out and he went off on me asking how i could do this to him i asked him to hear me out then explained that i sold the xbox since he was the one who gave away my antique tea sets so he was responsible for getting it back he said that he promised to save money for me to get a better set but i insisted that i went in my grandmother's tea set and nothing else because of the sentimental value attached to it it's worth a lot to me my husband blew up at me calling me childish saying that i shouldn't have sold his xbox the one thing keeping him entertained in these awful times he's been sulking ever since and he keeps reminding me that he got the short end of the stick because i got my precious tea set back the buyer earned 150 bucks and he lost his xbox forever he's refusing to talk to me calling me evil with zero consideration for how depressed and upset he's feeling am i the butthole for how i return my antique tea sets oh kop so what you're doing in this post is you're playing by the rules that your husband established he started this by taking your property selling it without your consent and then using that money to buy what he wanted to buy then you responded by taking his property and selling it without his consent and using the money to buy something that you want it if you are a butthole here then you cannot possibly be more of a butthole than your husband already is because the only thing you did in this story is what your husband already did basically at the end of the day how this shakes out is your husband sold his xbox to buy his cousin or his nephew rather a gaming chair which is what he should have done if he promised to buy this thing for his nephew and he didn't have the money for it then instead of stealing from you to pay for it he should have made a sacrifice himself by selling his own xbox to pay for the gaming chair that's what he should have done but instead he was like oh i'll just steal from my wife it's no big deal i'm sure she won't mind because she never notices it so op i'm giving you zero out of five buttholes all you were doing was returning the energy that your husband gave you i'm giving your husband two out of five buttholes because he doesn't respect your property and he's being selfish also i've gotta say you said the seller was being unfair by charging the extra 150 bucks and honestly op i don't agree with that the guy who sold you the tea set it's not his fault that he bought a tea set that was never intended to be sold i mean yeah if he were a nice guy he could not charge you the extra 150 but you know you wasted his time you wasted his energy he's got to probably ship it to you or whatever and it's just inconvenient so i don't really blame the guy for charging extra because you're basically paying him for the time and energy that he wasted acquiring this thing from you so i don't think i would say that's unfair i'm giving him 0 out of 5 buttholes am i the butthole for telling my husband that since he didn't help fund my mother's healthcare that i'll do what i want with the inheritance i'm a 29 year old stay-at-home mom i take care of the home and my four-year-old son while my 31 year old husband sam works i haven't had a job in four years because sam wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom by the time our son was born i accepted since sam has an absurdly good salary and mine wasn't that great my mom fell ill half a year ago her diabetes became quite complicated and she needed medical care we don't live in the u.s so expenses were relatively small i asked sam to please pay for half of her total medical bill since my 25 year old brother was going to pay the other half sam refused to pay a penny for the bill and since i have no income my brother had to pay at all sadly my mom passed away a month ago my brother and i just got the whole estate in order my brother and i are each going to get a somewhat considerable figure since my mom had some properties this morning my husband told me that he wants me to sell my part of the property so that we can make some non-vital house repairs and possibly go on vacation i laughed more out of anger than anything else and i told him that he had no right to suggest how to make use of the inheritance that my mother left when he refused to pay even half of her medical bills he called me a butthole and went to work i got a call from his sister who was extremely angry she called me irrational and told me that since i was living off the money that sam earns i have no right to demand money from him and that this inheritance gives me the opportunity to return some of the money he spent on me her call really got me thinking and now i wonder if i'm really behaving like a butthole op you are clearly not the butthole here your husband is literally using his money to control you in fact him calling it his money is completely incorrect if the money he makes is his money then does that mean that the house is your house and the kid is your kid because you're caring for them right this is a toxic financially abusive relationship and you should see this as a major red flag op i'm giving you 0 out of 5 buttholes i'm giving your husband 3.5 out of 5 buttholes that was our slash in my the butthole and if you like this content check out my podcast where i publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because i put out new reddit videos every single day

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Length: 18min 59sec (1139 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 20 2021