Prepare and Position | Single and Ready

hey tony gaskins here another installment of the single and ready series now prepare and position now i did a long video on this but i'm gonna sum it up for the people you know who can't do our video when i say prepare that encompasses the three b's the other video if you missed it the three b's brain brand and body i put body last because a lot of time we have body image issues so i put body last don't focus you know too heavy on that don't beat yourself up on that just keep working on yourself keep loving yourself that's to prepare so when you are prepared and you've done that work then you have to position and so when i say position this could mean an array of things see how i thought that array and now this could mean an array of things but what you have to understand is positioning could be sitting by yourself in the cafeteria at work positioning could be joining the singles group at church if you go to your uncle church or your dad at church and y'all got 25 members and the singles group is you and your friend from childhood i understand you want to help your church grow and that's your church home but you might need to go on over the grace bible grace family unison hill song somebody song that got a few thousand members to join a singles ministry just a larger pool of people just depend on how ready you are to meet the one and so you might just need to make some changes okay cool you go to your church on sunday go over there on a tuesday service or go to their saturday service day 5 pm saturday service it's ok to go to multiple places it's not there's not a game you're not there's not a game it's not a sorority or a fraternity you could go to multiple churches longer they serving god and they doing the right thing going in there you can meet more people see more people that might be your type of positioning going to the starbucks sitting there two hours every saturday 10 to 12 and you working on your business at starbucks instead of at your house now get you a vpn so that when you and get your hot spot on your cell phone actually and with the you know in the cell phone have a vpn but use your hot spot on your cell phone instead of using starbucks wi-fi because the scammers in there hacking starbucks wi-fi getting all your passwords and all your information as you type it on your computer so use your hotspot but you every saturday from 10 a.m to noon you at the starbucks you might do that for four weeks then go to the barnes and noble sit in their little sitting area they caught they starbucks inside of the barnes noble you might do that for four weeks then go to the independent internet cafe hey i want to start one of those hey should i start one of those hey let's do us a uh crowd fund and start us internet cafe and we're gonna call it singles and then go there for four weeks see which one is popping the one you like the best the one getting the most traffic the one where somebody bump your shoulder and struck up a conversation with you male or female you know platonic friendly just whatever the one you got the best energy from the way you like the vibe in there then go to that one make that every saturday and people gonna be the gay you stalk in the business like we see you every saturday ten to twelve guess what you consistent your husband or your wife it just take one time for them to walk in there and see you sitting over there by yourself and they come up and strike that conversation you see what i'm saying this is positioning and so this this could mean joining the gym and you're going to the gym three times a week this could mean going to the park and you doing a walk at this you know at the state park that's near your house you make it mean what you wanted to mean get on meetup.com join the car club you got a toyota camry they got a toyota camry car club and they putting the little lights up under the car they putting the little flashing head lights they put they putting the look graphics on the side of it hook your camera up join the camera car club so now you're in the camera car club you meet somebody else in the camera car club and y'all is a fit now y'all got two cameras when y'all get together you see what i mean you make the positioning mean what it need to mean for you because everybody's city everybody's scheduled everybody's life is different so now when you get this so now here you are you position and in this positioning remember this preparation plan into it so you're not in these places looking broke busted and disgusted and you ready you have healed you're not positioning before you have healed now this ain't a single healing series you'll see the single healing series but you are positioned and you ready so when this person if you're a woman you're waiting on the man to approach you if you're a man then you're positioning you in a place where you can approach a woman and women letting the man approach you that's a whole video in itself i haven't talked on that i might have a video just search should a woman approach a man maybe i got a video on that i don't know i can't remember but neither here nor there but nonetheless you in place and see this is important because that's how you're going to meet people you want to stay away from the online dating now positioning could mean online dating in special circumstances if you're over the age of 50 you are old enough and mature enough meaning you might not be wise enough in the dating world but you've been here long enough you've seen a lot of games you've heard a lot of games so you may be mature enough to online date and be able to decipher between the real and the fate if you know you gullible in relationships if you know you naive in that area if you know you don't know much about that stay away from online dating because see online dating is going to be that's not really positioning because you're not getting out the house you don't have to get dressed you don't have to work on your energy meaning your smile not slumping your shoulders when you out you know you don't have to really work on you to get online you could be online and just broke busted and disgusted looking emotionally and physically broke busted and disgusted and you online and you meeting people but you're not truly ready because you haven't done the work to be presentable so when you do the work to feel presentable and you got to get out of the house now you operating on another level now you can elevate it to another level because what it take to get online on a dating app it takes more than that to get out of the house and feel comf confident approaching someone or b or someone approaching you so understand that when i tell you that now so now here you have this so with this right here this is where things start to come together and this is where you can meet your potential mate because you have prepared and now you have positioned and so you ready and you are in expectation your head is on a swivel everywhere you go when you go to the gas station when you go to the grocery store when you go to church when don't be lusting in the house of the lord but anywhere you go you could possibly meet your spouse so when you go check the mailbox you can meet your spouse especially if you live in an apartment complex or a little tight you know little neighborhood you could meet your spouse and i lit i have a client who met her husband at the mailbox she went to check the mail and her husband was across the street and he happened to be outside he was at his aunt's house and he walked over introduced himself and they got married now i don't know if they worked all the way out when i talked to her they were going through some things but every relationship gonna go through something at least she got a husband you see what i'm saying so at the mailbox think about this now and you've seen all the crazy stories of how people meet a lot of people meeting the dm meeting in the dm is not the same as online dating because it's because the dm on instagram or facebook is not a dating site now for those y'all who asked me what about facebook data no that's not positioning either and i do not recommend that and remember online dating is you're gonna have a whole lot more savages you're gonna have a whole lot more scammers than just the everyday real world the everyday real world you could look at a person you could see their shoes you could see their handshake you know you could see their teeth you could see their clothes you could you could look them in the eyes and see you can feel from them online you don't know who you talking to you don't know what this is you don't know where this person at you don't know what a living situation is and guess what i guarantee you i guarantee you there are countless men and women who together they yahoo boys or yahoo girls that y'all taught me about these dating sites that they are scamming people on dating sites together i guarantee you countless old because they know people are hopeless romantics they know people are suckers for love so they know that if they get somebody on the hook and they talking to this person and they building with this person and they get this person to fall in love and they hit them with this just this dire need story and they need 500 or they need a thousand that that person to give them that money because they don't talk to them for hours and they got 10 people that they doing like that they don't even work a job they got eight people and not them eight people they own the phone eight hours a day and that is their job and if they could get 300 dollars a month on average from the eight people that's a living that's a living especially if there's someone with that that money stretch so listen to me you don't want to be focusing on online you want to get positioned in real life head up not on your phone not speed walking and not looking broke busted and discovered disheveled not looking disheveled you out you looking put together you also do not look like you finna go to the prom understand that now you ain't all over the top you got a happy medium you comfortable but you still look good you look put together and that is your positioning so hey get out the house get somewhere get your routine get you some clubs some groups you could join when i say club ain't talking about the dancing club and talking about some clubs some organizations give you some organizations you can join and get out there pay the dues and get active got to this tony gaskins god bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 12min 12sec (732 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 12 2021