Parents who disowned their child, why?

like and subscribe right now or else this will be in your bed tonight our /oscar edit by planet reddit parents who have disowned or genuinely stopped loving your child what happened I have disowned my eldest son he molested my daughter has been diagnosed as a sociopath and we have restraining orders against him it isn't fun and I never thought I would be that parent dated a girl for a long time who had been molested by her brother for years growing up her parents tried the whole we need to move on forgive him he's our son adduct her [ __ ] up having to see him at holidays she was cutting drinking herself to sleep almost destroyed a very beautiful and amazing person it got better when he went to federal prison for making and distributing child pornography and sex with saroo many underage girls too long didn't really absolutely made the right choice sorry you had to make it it makes me so sad to hear that this is a norm instead of what we chose to do I am so so sorry for her my parents disowned my eldest sister she always struggled growing up more than us she became a teen mom with a bad elder dude partied a lot et Cie but my parents helped her a lot they do okay for themselves but had a no co-signing rule for all six of my siblings died still they co-signed for her house so she could get a head start she didn't pay the mortgage for almost three years before my mom got served in front of all the other nurses at her work my parents worked tirelessly to try to work out deals where my sister and her family kept the house and got some leniency but to no avail because my sister never showed up for court dates during this time she paid $12,000 for IVF and got pregnant with her fifth kid when my mom demanded some of the money back she accused my dad and my brother of beating her sons when my parents took them to Disney World he didn't and said she'd file a police report if he asked for money again they kept asking cause it wasn't true she awkwardly joined us for Christmas and punched my brother in the face during the meal for humiliating her oldest son Byers him if he wanted to work at my brother's company for good pay our oldest son is in and out of jail and my brother was trying to help him after his release but her son said he didn't want a job and got mad she then called the cops and told them the same brother had illegal guns in his truck and they came on Christmas night and searched his truck no guns found my heart actually x4 your mum gets really shitty behavior and all but from a parent perspective that was hurt so much hope the rest of your family is doing well up a little different I was deserved but I deserve it I was an addict and a miss for a long time my mom couldn't keep bailing me out of trouble and watch me self-destruct anymore I wasn't living at home she came to see me one last time to tell me she was done not to contact her she would no longer have anything to do with me she was in pieces I can't imagine how hard it must have been for her but it was the best thing she ever did for me once she cut me off my rock bottom came hard and fast after a little while of living on the streets and my addiction consuming me I made my way to a detox center got a few days clean under my belt and never looked back that was almost 15 years ago after I was clean a little while I contacted my mom and little by little we built a relationship again and now we're really close I am forever grateful to my mom for letting me fall and letting me back into her life that's beautiful I second this it's also great to read a story where a kid acknowledges that they had a part in the story and takes responsibility all too often it's accepted that kids are unfair ever we'll be the victims of their parents and the reverse isn't as welcomed unless the child is clearly a psychopath that can really fail to account for the parents humanity my ex-wife disowned my son we both married young when I was in the military high school sweethearts she became pregnant six months into our marriage I don't think she connected with him at all after he was born the most cheated with him was Instagram photo shoots where she painted herself as number one mommy turn three I left the military a year after that she ran for the hills I remember it like it was yesterday I sat down with her at a local restaurant to talk divorce plans we split all of our financials and material items down the middle we finally got to custody for my kid Oh something I dreaded to discuss because father's never gain custody in my area and she tells me I want absolutely no responsibility I was taken back and I asked if she was sure she was that one sentence hurt me more than anything else that happened during that time my biological father wanted nothing to do with me and now I was seeing it happen with my own child but with his mother I received full custody and she married within a year afterwards she had another child two of her parents try their best to be apart on his life but she still does her best to avoid him he's seven now and used to it but I know it waits heavily on him [ __ ] sucks ass but it's life I guess I just woke up and saw all the upvotes messages comments and awards I want to say thank you so much I didn't expect this level of response I don't usually share something as personal as that my kiddo is a very awesome kid that has shown great resiliency beyond his years he has rolled through the tough times better than even I I can just hope he doesn't question his worth because of what is mom did I know I questioned my due to my own father leaving and that has left scars that will not heal well thank you all again and you all have a wonderful day that's violent your son is lucky to have you I'm sorry that you both have to live with this I appreciate that although I'm not the biggest fan of hers I still want my son to feel home another guy who generally creeps everyone out by jumping the fence and just standing in the backyard at all hours of the night your sister dated Michael Myers I just imagined Austin Powers standing in a backyard and thought yeah I guess that's a thing he would do now I realize that I'm a bit confused sometimes ro just wow that was a roller coaster of emotions not so much a rollercoaster as much as a never-ending freefall my biological father divorced my mom and also his three kids basically bouncing out of our lives and making it clear he wanted next to nothing to do with any of us when he left man years later at my older sister's funeral that he had the ducking goal to attend I asked him why he did that he said I thought it would be easier for everyone he actually meant it was easier for him to run home to his wealthy family and enjoy a second adolescence while my single mother worked two jobs to feed three kids under ten with zero child support from him our fathers are two in the same shitty make it three father came from money so he took off lives the easy life one my mom worked two jobs while going to Community College after 30 years dude sent message through my art if we ever wanted to meet he'd like to even after all that time dude still can't face things on his own head it's spelling a word I have been legally disowned by my father when I was 11 my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer this was her second diagnosis in around four years obviously she recovered the first time after intense surgery and a lot of chemo and he did not want to look after her like he did before he also had a new gf and her family to look after apparently and he had no issues leaving us when my mum passed away when I was 14 my brother grandmother him and I met up to discuss who I was going to live with the plan was my brother and his family his father was never considered and he showed up and declared that he was in the process of going to court to legally emancipating from me he went out of his way to legally declare that I was no longer his child just so that my brother 22 year with a wife and two young children already struggling on one paycheck couldn't seek child support needless to say it stung coming only days after my mother's funeral what an arse hugs to you peace to your mom peace to your mom knowing her child doesn't have to be around that monstrous a-hole any more pretty much guarantees this my mother and her sister were both adopted into a great family recently my grandfather fell ill and we were told to prepare to say goodbye so the family gathered my grandmother has had a hard time with her memory since she had a brain haemorrhage but she welcomed my aunt into her home during this tough time whilst my grandfather was in his final week Wendy arms took my grandmother's ATM card and proceeded to spend well over a thousand dollars on herself and get herself a motel room she also attempted to steal their car when my uncle's found out she basically disappeared into the wind after my grandfather passed and his funeral was all sorted my grandmother went to an attorney to write Wendy out of any inheritance she would get from their estate when she passes she did press any formal charges because the whole process would have been lengthy and more painful for her she didn't need the extra stress I'm pretty sure one of my uncle's also threatened Wendy to make sure she stayed away from my grandmother from now on - damn that's some ass / I am a total PC off [ __ ] material from Wendy right there stealing from the deceased near deceased is one of the lowest things a human being can do my family disowned me because I disowned my mother I was sexually groomed and abused tortured by her husband for years and when I finally told her she not only didn't believe me but stayed married to him for seven years I had to move out of 16 to get away from how I was being treated then when I finally began speaking to others she started to cover her ass with her social circle by telling them that I seduced her husband I cut her off for years and didn't ever want to see her again but my family bullied me to just get over it and have a relationship with my mother and that I was hurting her even my sister who knew what happened knew I stayed for so long to protect her fell into a trap of my mother whining to everyone around her and painting me as a liar about four years ago she was very suddenly diagnosed with advanced cancer and didn't have much time I was moving out of my home state and everyone told me I needed to see her before left and that I needed to be there but I didn't want it in the end everyone turned their back on me they were so mad I wouldn't just forget my trauma just to say goodbye to someone I hadn't loved for a long time and rightly so edit I'm getting a lot of replies so I just want to say thank you and send you all virtual hugs I'm okay now I'm grown-up and though I was set back in a lot of ways life wise I came out on top for the best anyone who is also experiencing this you aren't alone and if you need to talk I'm here hey dare I'm in the same boat I have some siblings who know the truth who were also abused but not sexually like I was and are also NC but my little sister stepfather is her real father basically said it was just one time so I need to let it go it wasn't one ducking time and the fact that my mother admits it all happened now but is downplaying it infuriates me more you know what we've loved our mothers long after they deserve our love extended them so many chances and they've just [ __ ] on us I miss my sister but I don't think I would even return for my mom's funeral I'm done pretending she's a good person by not pretending I've taken my life back you did the right thing as Jehovah's Witnesses my parents disowned my siblings and I several times since I was in my late teens one of the JW rules is that you do not associate with others who know the truth but refused to follow it including family and parents are encouraged to disown any children who have left the religion the first time was when I was 19 it upset me I was heartbroken and eventually they changed their minds only to do it again a couple years later and so on until I stopped caring and no longer attempt to be a part of their lives at all was seeing a girl in high school her family was JW but she really didn't care I really liked her and it was fun then she disappeared her dad found out and she was sent to live with her grandmother never saw her again her sister managed to let me know what happened and that the girl was sorry really bummed me out for a couple years I dated this JW girl briefly we went to her place to watch a boxing match in the 90s I was really sweet on her she was really cool some of the other JW people were there and they seemed okay the light and everything then directly after the fight her dad insisted he drive me home at 95 miles per hour like evil freaking evil on a kawasaki dirtbikes weaving like a madman on the freeway he pulled up in front of my folks driveway I got off the bike and handed him the helmet a little shook it was only my second time on a motorcycle ever he stared me down like he was going to murder me he kept eye contact as he shook his head slowly he pointed at me you get it he said I got it she was really cool but she was off-limits the same thing happened when I dated a Creole girl except her grandmother loudly asked what the heck I was doing there edit thanks for the silver stranger join our community discord link in description I wouldn't say I've discerned or stopped loving my son but it's real tough to find love for him he's almost 14 next month and he's currently out of our home at a treatment facility he's averaged two arrests a year for the last two years and he's attacked my wife several times our daughter's several times and the neighborhood kids several times he's run away from school run away from home and tried to push me off the roof of our house after threatening to jump off and hurt himself we have become that family in our town where the police are called to our home on a semi-regular basis he's been getting more violent as he gets older not to mention bigger and stronger and I honestly don't see an end in sight the key fact I'm leaving out is that he's been diagnosed as high-functioning autistic and is also bipolar that's like putting walls around the tornado and expecting it to stay inside the walls a lot of what has occurred he had little control over because of the way his mind is where he's constantly at war with himself structure versus chaos and my wife and I have tried desperately to give him the best life we can while keeping ourselves and our daughters safe I'm tired it's been eight and a half years we've been going through this with him and I've been ready to throw in the towel on him for a while but my wife refuses to let him go so we wake up every morning trying to give him the best life for him and our girls my brother has the same combo and was in a similar situation at that age he's 10 years older now and studying for a PhD and engaged in a wonderful woman I'm not promising that it will get better but it can I've seen it happen feel free to message me if you want to talk more Thanks I might take you up on that offer we've got hope that he'll normalize so to speak after he gets through puberty and we've heard of numerous success stories when individuals got older weight as they say sometimes it's hard to see the forest through the trees I'm really really hoping he can have a happy adulthood not a parent but my parents stopped loving me the moment I was dis fellowshipped as a Jehovah Witness and I was promptly kicked out I knew nothing of how to live on my own at the time but I had a decent job and survived my brother stopped associating with em two years later and lives with me and they since moved away 1,500 miles away to be exact it's easier to tell people I am often to that I do not have parents cause it's hard to explain how they would stop loving or want to associate with our own son over some stupid cult rules I have seen so much of this with Jehovah's Witness families it seems like a horrible cult it really doesn't seem like a true religion after reading some of these stories my father said my mother's issue was she had too many children and that gave her some kind of brain-fever much like a dog that loses its mind after having too many puppies my mother said my father felt trapped by me he was planning to leave when it was just my two older brother and then my mother got pregnant with me and he felt obligated to stay now that I am adult with two kids myself think I realize that both of my parents are ajust extremely mentally ill and incapable of loving anyone including themselves yes just three kids I thought maybe we were Tolkien a couple dozen here much like a dog that loses its mind after having too many puppies is that even a thing since it seems to have widened a bit a family torn apart based on an aunt in her niece aren't starts signs of dementia at a relatively young age is moved into an assisted living home niece who bounces around jobs gets her ex to go visit her about once a week take her out to the mall or a walk in the park whatever paid handsomely we get an alert that aunt has a check bounced from her account that should have $5,000 in it niece has drained the account proven beyond a doubt with receipts niece would take on Tuan spank machine every Friday and withdraw $200 then fill her car with gas aunt can't drive and charge us hours when she clearly didn't spend hours with aunt charged us claiming she took out two appointments there was no appointment but we can actually call the doctor for your information the family rift for some bizarre reason nieces family took her side of course they took her side I'll bet in their minds the niece earned it niece was doing the unpleasant and sometimes emotionally mentally draining work of visiting and entertaining a family member suffering from dementia it saved them from having to set aside time to do it themselves everybody wins right Huck comma it's worse than that we had them stone-cold with evidence I would never fill up my car with gas we called the gas station and got the receipt for multiple visits I know how many gallons you bought I know you charged us money for time spent with here but I was with her that day what they claimed to take her side on is that we shouldn't have emailed her with the accusation we should phone her WTF I guess they mean that we should not have had a record of what she said they were all so mad that the rest of the family found out Denise was a thief but we didn't know that when the first check bounced and we naturally talked about it with family oh no a check bounced what's going on do you know anything I love my son but he abused me when he turned that violence on to his sister by choking her I had to say goodbye I wish my mom had done that to my brother sometimes she saw it all but what hurt the most was having my parents the people who are supposed to protect me ask me to forgive my attacker just because he happened to be my brother if anyone else had done that to me they would have gone nuts on em but he's blood so it cancels out I guess same for me they saw him doing horrible things to me and laughed stopped me from getting help by line to the person I talk about the abuse to super bad handling of the case and told me to not make such a big deal out of it I disowned them because clearly my safety and health did not matter to them I hope my mom answers this one if I'm allowed to ask what happened between you and your mother not my story but in a similar threat to this one asking parents about when they realized they raised a monster someone linked to this post TLDR of that post the son was a [ __ ] as a team but took it way further by eventually raping his own mother who committed suicide a year after there it is surprised I had to go so far down to see it duck I forgot about this story I remember once in a blue moon of the story bit of the part about what he did to his mother I always got that in the Colby story mixed up somehow I've discerned one of my siblings still have five other siblings my sister is just a horrible person she's the youngest of the seven and she's been brought in since she was a teenager she is much younger than the rest of us so while the other six grew up together she was almost like an only child she treats everybody in her light like they're here to serve her needs some of the things she's put our mother through are truly horrible I wouldn't give a [ __ ] if she disappeared forever treats every bit alike they're here to serve her needs if she that Muffy Beach from Arthur sometimes you have to be the change you want to see in the world get some initiative make her disappear it's the only way on a serious note I know exactly what you're talking about it is exhausting to say the least I am not sure if this counts I didn't disown him but I went through a dissociative episode after some really intense trauma and I honestly couldn't feel any attachment and parental love that I had for my son I tried not to show it and behave as normally as possible because he was a child at the time and couldn't possibly understand what I was going through it was pretty disturbing to not be able to feel any sense of bond with him I eventually got better but I definitely did not feel what I almost people would call love for him thanks for watching subscribe for 3 videos a day [Music]

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Published: Thu Apr 09 2020