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people who have cut family members out of their lives what was the final straw I cut my mom out of my life she never accepted the fact that I'm a lesbian she refused to come to my wedding there was a clear difference and she treated my brother's kids and my kids even when she would spend time with my family she treated my biological son significantly better than my four non-biological kids one step Kaden three adopted the last straw was when she yelled at me when I refused to change my then five-year-old son's name she acted like he was a dog he's a human being she was toxic to my family I can deal with her disrespecting me but I refuse to put my kids through that decided to stop the cycle every few years my brother and I would stop talking usually for some perceived slight on his part and I would be the mature one and try to reconcile after about 40 years of this pattern I decided I didn't want to waste my life with that negativity we now live separate lives much like a couple that admittedly were not right for each other I have no regrets life is much better without the drama when my aunt was biddeford that my dad was not cheating on my mom like her husband was on her so she started spreading vicious rumors about him at my great grandfather's funeral this is a woman who when she found a cancerous mole on her skin decided not to have it removed because she could then play the how could my husband cheat on poor old me when I have cancer card she could have very easily not have cancer and be fine but she's a [ __ ] when I showed up Christmas Eve to tell the Merry Christmas and my dad kept telling me every time I visit my mother gets upset then when I went upstairs to tell her Merry Christmas she got my mentally handicapped sister to give me my gifts and to tell me no one was home obviously they were I know their vehicles adopted or not they're my family but I can't afford to feel like [ __ ] that they don't forgive me for the mistakes I've made moving out without warning lying about stuff as young people sometimes do like most with narcissists for parents it was a pile up of shitty thing after shitty thing until it was just too much [ __ ] to avoid dealing with I felt like I was constantly walking on eggshells to avoid a big blowout the last straw seems somewhat inconsequential but you have to hold it up against years of crappy behavior if that makes sense years of emotional and physical abuse from my mother bottled up that for some reason I thought I had worked past she broke me she broke my father she's nasty entitled and selfish she loved her job more than her only daughter all of the artwork I gave her as a child she would write hard numbers all over work like it was scrap paper she once told me to go commit myself while I was having a panic attack and then hung up on me I worked my entire life to be the perfect kid perfect grades perfect manners and I never got in trouble she spent my 25th birthday party this year screaming at me outside of the bar that I was a horrible daughter and a drama queen and that I bring it all on myself she hadn't even had a drop to drink a few days later I told her how hurt I was by everything she had said to me and she Baldy exclaimed that she would not apologize for the way she felt we haven't spoken since I have now realized you can't save a relationship that was never there when my mother tried to take my newborn son from the hospital causing an entire lockdown of that part of the hospital and she was trespassed from the property when I came home with my baby five days later she started [ __ ] again and I told her to get out of my house she refused so I called the police who came with guns drawn so that was fun it was also the very last time I ever spoke to her even my grandparents didn't speak to her for years because of this little stunt and they were two of the most forgiving people in the world after 34 years of being the not favorite child and enduring all sorts of abuse from my mother dad just ignored what was going on I called to wish her a happy Mother's Day she was drunk which was not unusual I mentioned something my brother-in-law had said to me the previous week and she flew off the handle for god knows what reason she started calling me all sorts of foul names accusing me of heinous crimes and just generally screaming at me for existing not unusual for her I stopped listening pulled the phone away from my face and slowly settled the receiver into the cradle old-style landline I have never talked to her or my family again 15 years and for all I know she's still screaming into that phone I have no regrets I unknowingly moved to the same city as my half-sister I always knew she was the favorite surprise grad party while my mom forgot to set one up for me she got a $200 clothes budget for back-to-school while my clothes were perfectly fine bigger Christmas present budget more affectionate et Cie but I never expected her to come visit my half-sister and not make any effort to come see me I'd find out from her posting on FAFSA book tagging my half sister in posts about where they went to lunch which happened to be right up the street from me a couple of times I tried to see her before she left but she was always conveniently about to leave at that time we grew up in the same household and she's married to my dad it's not like she never saw me or that I was the offspring of the man she hates my half-sister has caused a lot of trouble in my family with drugs a teen pregnancy scare truancy etc but my mom has always treated me as a delinquent child now I speak to her as little as possible my dad couldn't be bothered to cool and ask how I was doing after a bilateral mastectomy a year plus many complications later he never reached out on my birthday the only time of the year I ever heard from which just so happened to be the day I was finally getting my reconstruction I was still riding the high of anesthesia when I text him and Unleashed everything I felt about how he and his family had treated me since my parents had divorced 18 years prior a few years previous to this he had told me what a terrible kid I was because when he'd been in an accident due to his drunk driving I never went to the hospital to see him I was 14 when it happened and no one bothered to tell me until well after the incident cutting him out was one of the best most freeing days of my life my Nana grandmother on my dad's side was just always so vindictive when I was in middle school and high school she'd make fun of my acne and say I was getting fat made me feel really self-conscious and like to say who her favorite grandchildren were if I disagreed with anything she said she'd say she liked me less and would get my cousin's expensive gifts and send me socks or underwear mind you I was a child so it was just super shitty when my parents got divorced cause my dad's numerous Affairs I was [ __ ] pissed sided with my mom and then my Nana just stopped talking to me period she thought 19 year old me should apologize to my dad for not keeping his dick in his pants what made me really she was the worst person was when she'd come to town to visit my cousin's shed take my pedophile uncle with her he literally was in prison for years for fondling a toddler girl she took him to my cousin's wedding who has two young kids apparently [ __ ] the law in her eyes cause him pretty sure he cold and leave the city he was in my dad the final straw was one morning I was about to take a shower and heard him screaming at my mom I ignored it and started to brush my teeth then I hear punches I came out and saw him with his hand up and I got in the way and screamed my lungs out kicking him out he was shocked and started to walk back up to the front door when he got in his car he tried to play it cool and asked my mom sorry and [ __ ] like that I screamed again lovely and never come back and that's what happened he never came back a friend of Mines children were riding in a car that was struck by a drunk teenager putting his kids and the IQ for a long time and giving them lifelong issues my aunt bragged about sneaking into a $10 chili dinner fundraiser at the VFW to help pay for the ramp my friend would need on his house she didn't know I knew the family my dad was always a shitty dad missing school events staying late at work to [ __ ] his cow hookers drugs he ended up diagnosed with Bipolar after my parents got divorced he was living with their marriage counselor other time the two of them were constantly hi together and he rarely saw us he never called us until he was having a manic episode and was in the hospital and feeling lonely suddenly his kids were worth talking to because he didn't have all his girlfriends anymore we were always really supportive even my mom was we always tried to get him help and really wanted him to get better but he didn't want to be better because he liked how it felt when he was manic he didn't talk to me for two years and then texted me on my birthday saying he loved me I didn't immediately reply and an hour or so later there was a follow-up text asking me to come to court with him because he had been charged with driving under the influence and assaulting an officer I had just finished law school when he sent this text I wasn't worth talking to for years until I was able to help him I haven't talked to him since a few days after my mom died I was sued by my dad for the house my brother and I were living in he left the home two years earlier after two months of court appearances the idiot judge jokingly said if you want the house so bad just go break in so he did one day while my brother and I were away our dad broke into our house and built a makeshift wall at the bottom of the stairs to divide the house top / bottom we moved out the next week and haven't spoken to our dad or anyone on his side of the family since parents have always been psycho just bad bad people I just put up with BC you know they are my family I got happily pregnant this past summer and my husband and I told them last VC they are awful and my mom was dead silent for 30 seconds before saying but you're so skinny ah are you happy I have huge body image problems next time she saw me nine weeks pregnant she put her hand in my bump and said Wow showing so big so early then a month later Mommy Dearest claimed a bunch of her meds Lagaan / missing / stolen I have medication for anxiety that I had to stop taking it once I got pregnant she first called and asked me about filling some of my prescriptions for her prior to her accusing me I actually agreed that I couldn't call my prescription from our local pharmacy to a different pharmacy in a different state once I wasn't a medication source I was worthless and so she bent being out of medication on me the story was someone went into her house and got her prescription hash called it in and picked it up she refused to go to Walgreens to check security footage call her doctor or the police or talk to the realtor who had been showing their house to potential buyers basically avoiding anything that would contradict its story oh and apparently I stole twenty five thousand dollars of jewelry she had already admitted that she accidentally donated to the goodwill she is a hoarder and brilliantly kept her jewelry in an antique sin that happened months prior she and my dad had already contacted their insurance company after all that hurtful [ __ ] was said I said a lot of mean things back before severing all ties my dad was about a month after that he's still married to previous said nut he showed up at like 7:00 a.m. the day after Labor Day right after my husband left for work he raged pounded on all the doors and windows before finally breaking in he finds me four months pregnant hiding in the bathroom and us some more aging accuses me and husband of [ __ ] rhythm says we broke into their house and stole paperwork marriage certificate certificate dad's military paperwork to cause some hardship also asks if we drive for hours to their lake house and stole a TV we left a little $200 TV in a bedroom we used to sleep in at their vaak' home he then proceeded to search my house for a TV that wasn't even is before coming back to the closet to continue raging but he seemed satisfied I genuinely was clueless and apparently down one crappy TV I just sat in my closet something saying over and over I don't know what you are talking about after a long awkward period he apologized and gave me a weird hug then suggested my husband does a better job locking all the doors and windows and leaves Phil is a big guy he called my dad after I made my husband promise not to escalate things idk what all this said but my dad agreed we should go our separate ways we haven't spoken to them since thankfully the rest of the family knows where the crazy lies and are supportive the baby is due in a month I'm more than a little afraid they will pop back up they have deep pockets and are used to getting their way typically buying forgiveness they currently live out of state but still have several houses here one that's only 30 minutes away almost six months with no contact and I'm the happiest I have ever been whoa my mom would rather sit in silence than talk about my about my life she'll talk about her cats the weather my siblings but if I mention anything going on in my life we live in different cities she's silent for a moment and then changes the subject to something she can control she complains about my siblings to me and says unbelievably mean things about my very sweet dad to me she refuses to believe that a chain-smoking throughout her adult life including pregnancy has had any ill effects on me or her other children that's just some of it I don't know if anyone will ever even read this it doesn't matter my mom has always made me feel like I'm worthless despite my accomplishments I have cut her out yet but as soon as my dad dies I will he has some serious health problems and I want to keep my relationship with him my mother is an addict has been for close to three decades now she was moderately clean for a few years but then just started manipulating people lying stealing and pitting family members against each other over the summer she attempted suicide thrice by taking a [ __ ] ton of pills she really just wanted to be high on anything she's unwilling to go a single day sober her worst crime in my eyes was convincing me that I was helpless and was in desperate need of help she got me involved in her world of endless doctor and psych appointments I was on so many goddamn meds because I genuinely believed I was sick like my mother complete garbage and it seriously hurt my health maybe in a decade I'll be willing to talk but in all honesty she's so far from my mind right now and this may be really shitty to say that I honestly wouldn't care if she died just like I don't care about he millions of strangers whom die around me every day you

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Published: Sat Jan 18 2020