Mother In Law Shows Up Wearing White Bridal Gown - Bride Calls Off Wedding Because Of MIL

ass credit what did your mother-in-law do that almost meet you call off the wedding everyone was assembled in the bridal suite me my mother my three friends the photographer and mother-in-law we're wearing matching robes looking quite adorable and taking perfectly posed candid shots as we finished the final touches of our makeup but there's someone missing mother-in-law several minutes pass I ignore her absence and decide to dawn my wedding gown just as my friends are dutifully cooling over my magnificence the door to the bridal suite bursts open its mother-in-law in a bridal gown a bridal gown so similar to mine it's like looking in a much older mirror with a prozac addiction and ridiculous bouffant hair I scream now I didn't mean to shriek but I did originally she was going to be wearing a lovely blue dress that was still hanging up in the room beside those of the bridesmaids but instead of wearing that like a normal person she snuck out to her car and smuggled her bridal gown into the halls bathroom where she put it on in the manner of Norman Bates lovely adorning himself in Mother's floral patterned day frocks no one says anything we stare at each other she has a grin of pure joy on her face well I according to my small audience had a look of decided shock and disgust on my face as mother-in-law whirls and tells me how lovely she'll look in pictures my BFF says she's off to get more champagne from the bar i watch mother-in-law strut around for a bit and finally ask her what her deal is her reply blue is for old ladies I'm not old besides I didn't get pretty dresses the first three times I was married and now's my chance my mom points out that mother-in-law is old ten years older than she is in fact but mother-in-law ignores her and slips on her blue shoes that were meant for her normal person dress giggling about how they're heard something blue as I frantically text my now husband about how I'm going to hog-tie his mom and throw her in the trunk BFF comes in now what I'm about to tell you is why my BFF is my BFF BFF didn't come with champagne she came in with two glasses of wine of the red variety and she dumped both of those bad boys over mother-in-law's head what followed were screams hers laughs ours and a series of wedding photos featuring a sulky mother-in-law who didn't have time to fix her hair and makeup before we went down the aisle so instead of being the glorious bride she imagined she looked like a barefaced drowned rat and smelled like a brewery my 23 years old male fiance 25 years old female and I have a wedding coming up I loved her family they're a lot more inviting than my family and I really like being a part of a family with normal dynamics my fiance has had a rocky relationship with her mom and was concerned about her mom's reactions to me my fiance warned me about mother-in-law but we started out on good terms and fiance was relieved there have been some typical in-law comments but it is what it is that is until wedding planning began we both wanted a smaller wedding with close family and friends a small intimate affair with people we actually care about the future mother-in-law decided that it was going to be a grander event which my fiance was okay with and if my fiance wants that I'm fine with that because I get to marry her I've stayed out of the planning for the most part as I don't really care to be involved for the most part my fiancé has ranted to me a few times about how future mother-in-law is planning the wedding for herself and is being ridiculous I'm a designer artist I have a design degree and ran a successful business designing logos promotional material etc for a small business so it only made sense for me to design our invites I wanted them to be beautiful and be my best work this is the singular thing I have to do with my wedding and I was printing and paying for the invites myself income the complaints from future mother-in-law I made about 10 different revisions to the style of the invite to the point it wasn't even the invite I designed before she was happy fiance begged me to be the bigger person and just go with it I pay for and print all 250 invites and RSVP cards and then go to address them all at feature mother-in-law's house she sees them and blows up at me for being such a child I didn't make a revision she told me to because it would have been hideous and my fiance was okay with it she then proceeds to tell me they look like crap and that she's going to make them herself I proceeded to say excuse me this is mine and fiancees wedding I made these invites I paid for these invites we're going to use these invites she then blows up even further by responding with your wedding it's my wedding because I'm paying for it she then goes on to say that I'm childish disrespectful and that she knows how to make invites that don't look god-awful so we shall see what happens now she's texted me a few times and I'm ignoring her I can't respond or else I'll go off on her thank God my fiancee completely backs me up I wear wigs for medical reasons my mother-in-law knows as she lived next door to us for a year or two as I transitioned into different styles she is known about this for about six years and never told a soul allegedly aside from my family and a friend no one else on my husband's side knows I prefer it that way I have never had an issue with her and always considered her a second mother we attended a wedding last night and as we were saying our good-byes my husband's grandmother commented in front of the table I had no idea that wasn't your real hair I never knew you wore wigs I shot a look over at mother-in-law who looked like she had eaten a fly with eight of my closest family on my husband's side at that table I stared directly into her eyes as I said oh it's my hair it is I bought it I am stunned this was dinner talk that my appearance was of conversation and that mother-in-law took it upon herself to reveal something so incredibly personal if it was her goal to embarrass and shame she was successful I feel about an inch tall I did my best to not cry on the car ride home and debating how to handle this husband agrees mother in law requires recalibration and a solid hell you so my fiance and I are getting married next year yay this should be super fun and we are just kicking off the planning process it has been fun my fiance and I both agreed we want a small wedding since we have way too many uncles and aunts and cousins it would be massive if we invited everyone 250 plus we decided early on that we'd invite immediate family and godparents and our close friends however mother-in-law wants aunts and uncles and cousins she is giving us more if we invite aunts and uncles unless if we don't invite her brothers sisters and their kids the real catches the money she's putting up wouldn't cover the increase in guests not to mention we don't a massive wedding in the first place she's basically used the money to manipulate my fiance and I into agreeing to invite more guests now we are inviting my fiance's extended family and not mine which could certainly get weird we don't want a big expensive wedding we don't want to go into debt for one day of festivities she's even doing it with my fiance's dress now she says if my fiancee gets the dress she wants which mother-in-law doesn't like fiance has to pay for it if she gets the one mother-in-law likes mother-in-law helps pay I want to love my mother-in-law as best as I can but I kind of blew up about it too my fiance and my fiance is upset from all angles because now I'm mad and she's mad and her mom is mad that I'm not willing to invite people mother-in-law thinks we should be grateful that she's willing to pitch in more but she also seems to think since we're over 30 she shouldn't have to do all that much despite her knowing her daughter is in massive debt for masters to greet college loans My partner and I got married a week ago we just went to the courthouse and got our marriage license with my father as our witness because neither of us like huge fancy weddings with so many people we also don't want to spend all our money on a huge event so we do all the stuff with the license go home and while I'm making dinner my partner's phone rings and he answers it that's when I hear the loud southern voice of my dearest ha mother-in-law mother-in-law you and Abel got married why didn't we hear about this partner because we didn't want a huge wedding with all of our family mother-in-law how come his father got to be at the courthouse partner because we wanted him as our witness in order for us to be able to get married mother-in-law I can't believe you wouldn't invite family partner we wanted our marriage to be just us mother-in-law I'm planning a wedding for you two at the church I almost dropped the pot I was making the mac and cheese on because I was like is this woman for real partner please don't do that mother-in-law we aren't inviting Abel's family either they're Mexicans we're Cuban Italian not Mexican get your facts straight partner sighs nobody is invited because there won't be a wedding mother-in-law there will be a wedding partner by mom today I'm sitting on the couch minding my own business and I get a text from my sister-in-law who tells me that mother-in-law already rented a venue at the church and hired a photographer I'm in shock and I have no idea what to do My partner and I didn't want a huge wedding and here my mother-in-law is planning an expensive wedding neither of us want any advice edit my family is not a very religious one we do celebrate some holidays but otherwise religion isn't something we care about my partner has mentioned this many times yet she still wants us to get married in a church and go to church every Sunday no my partner has work Sundays and I do as well another edit she set the wedding for August 15th which is when my partner and I go to Ohio to visit my great-aunt so it's gonna be hilarious when people show up to a wedding where nobody is getting married she has no idea about the trip and we booked said trip a month beforehand I got married this weekend hooray and during the whole wedding planning process my mother-in-law slowly came out of her just no shell dear husband had always told me she was awful but I never believed him until we got engaged and started planning long backstory but the short of it is she invited quite a few people to both our wedding and rehearsal dinner without consulting us which ended with a lot of awkward phone calls for dear husband he had to uninvite people because we literally did not have space anyway on to the reason I'm here both of our mothers had expressed interest in getting a large family photo my mom very just yes wanted one big picture of Opie maiden name family and mother-in-law wanted the same for her side trying we can do that it wasn't super important to us but no big deal however because weddings are a bit we hectic and we had a lot of people there that we wanted to make sure we chatted and danced with we gave them some conditions that I did not find unreasonable first mom and mother-in-law are in charge of assembling the necessary family members in the large bar area outside the ballroom second getting them in position and third only when the photo is ready to be taken to retrieve dear husband and myself from the dance floor this way in our mind we would only be interrupted for a minute or two well that is not what happened I'm getting my groove thing on with my friends and dear husband when all of a sudden the music stops photographer was on the microphone and told everyone to get off the dance floor then mother-in-law is yelling seriously screaming to have people drag the ballroom chairs onto the dance floor so that they can take the family picture I froze my mouth was on the floor our DJ's were looking at me like deer in headlights my wedding reception was literally stopped dead in its tracks so that the entire very large family could be assembled around to your husband and I this was not what we said to do there was a huge area outside of the ballroom that was for family pictures I'm not sure how in the world she thought this was an okay way to do this she directed dear husband and I to sit in the middle and I looked at her and said this is too much this is not okay she deflects and says well it was father-in-law's idea let me tell you something about father-in-law he would never ever ever do this he is quiet probably a bit of an enabler but not someone who would ever think it is okay to stop a wedding reception for this reason she's had a habit of throwing the blame on him for things if dear husband and I expressed displeasure but not this had mother-in-law written all over it and was confirmed by my photographer when I confronted her photographer was told that Opie and dear husband really wanted this so please stop the music and make it happen I'm a little salty at her about not coming to me first but I get that weddings are crazy and you sort of just need to roll with the punches sometimes also since this took so much time my mom was not able to get the family picture that she wanted because our time with photographer had run out I ran across my first mother-in-law in the wild today at Ross and I thought I'd share the lamb announced I was in the fitting room when I overheard this gem of a mother-in-law talking to her daughter in the next cubicle over mother-in-law seems to be shopping for a dress to wear to her son's wedding her daughter's there to possibly cent to wrangle mother-in-law into behaving they're having regular dress conversations about how flattering the cut is the style price etc mother-in-law says she has one more to try on and she thinks it's the one but when she comes out to show it off the daughter audibly gasps curious I peeked out to where they were standing and mother-in-law is wearing something that looks like a super cheap version of a wedding dress I'm not even sure where she found it I've never seen a wedding dress in a Ross before daughter goes mom you can't be serious that's practically a wedding dress mother-in-law well future daughter-in-law isn't wearing a real wedding dress so why should it matter what I wear daughter they're getting married on the beach future daughter-in-law is wearing a white sundress because that's what you wear to the beach you're not wearing that you're being ridiculous mother-in-law says it's not even a real wedding they're just putting on a show if they were serious they'd be getting married in a church like you're supposed to I bet future daughter-in-law got knocked up and is too ashamed to admit it and that's why they're rushing into this daughter they've been engaged for six months that's not rushing into marriage and if she was pregnant we'd know by now if you buy that dress I'm leaving you at home when we drive to the menu you're not going to show up the bride at your son's wedding I could practically hear the CBF that I'm sure the mother-in-law was making as she grumbled something about the marriage being a waste of time and money before going back into her stall to change shadow to that girl for saving her future sister-in-law from a wedding trainwreck so this definitely isn't as bad as some other things on here but I'm raging so here it goes I'm getting married this weekend to my wonderful future dear husband I'm seriously not sure how someone so amazing could be related to such an inconsiderate idiot but I digress my future mother-in-law likes to pretend she is the perfect mother but really she doesn't give a crap and she plays favorites future dear husband is the black sheep lost child she favors his brother and sister and several other people who she claims to have adopted despite them being adults and some having families of their own regardless of who is in the picture we are consistently overlooked and always come in last she often forgot about my future dear husband while he was growing up and left him alone places including one time when she forgot about him and left him on a ride at an amusement park which she laughs about when she retells the story he definitely did not have the best childhood but luckily many of his experiences have made him the strong person that he is today and he is fully aware of the type of person future mother-in-law is he does not defend her actions at all and will call her out on back leaving badly I was lucky enough to have a just yes mom so I was really oblivious for the first couple of years to how toxic mother-in-law could be unfortunately my mom passed away a few years ago which becomes somewhat relevant later future mother-in-law constantly complains that we don't see her enough and we don't include her in our lives but never tries to make any solid plans with us outside of events that the whole family attends we usually have these events every couple of months so we never go beyond a month or two without seeing her this works for us because we can really only handle her in small doses she was really excited when we got engaged and at one of the family events we had a heart-to-heart where she spoke about my mom and about how my wedding day would be difficult without her she agreed to come get ready with me in the morning for support I was really appreciative of this and said that I would pay for her hair and makeup as I know she is legitimately low on funds because my future dear husband's brother and his wife basically leech off of her this morning I get a text from one of future dear husbands siblings asking what time future mother-in-law needs to be at my house I told her 8:30 and she said that mother-in-law said she couldn't because she had no money I told her that I already told mother-in-law that I would pay for her hair and makeup then she said that mother-in-law told her it's too early and she doesn't want to wake up that early so she would arrive when everyone else arrived seriously I asked you to do one thing on that day and that is apparently too much to ask I'm disappointed but I can't say I'm surprised my husband is furious and wants to text her and tell her off but it's not worth it she will never think she did anything wrong I feel stupid that I let the wool get pulled over my eyes again and that I have to change times with my hair and makeup girls days before the event ah I didn't change the time to accommodate her I did it because she's no longer getting ready with me so there's one last person I also think it's bull that she made someone else tell me she wasn't coming like man I'm trying to look at this as a blessing in disguise because did I really want to get ready with her probably not I won't be making this mistake again and when she asks about us coming to Christmas or any other event of hers I'm just going to tell her it's too early I don't care if it starts at 11:00 p.m. too early which I'm out my fiancee and I have been together for over a decade and he has a shiny spine made of steel even when we first started dating he let me know that I didn't need to make much of an effort with his mom because he's not close with her it didn't take me long to find out why I didn't need to try with her he always has and still continues to shield me from her bull and to be honest I've been waiting for this wedding tantrum to happen so far I've had a lovely time planning my wedding my own mother passed away a while back so I didn't know how wedding planning would go my bridesmaids are my closest friends and they have been amazing everyone gets along I felt like a princess dress shopping and I can't wait for everything else that comes with wedding planning I also have a nice new stepmom that wants to help a loving dad and and uncles that want me and my fiance's day to be amazing I'm not hurting for love help or attention for this day she hasn't been involved since the beginning I know we can't trust her with planning because she would make it into a nightmare and be upset anyway she ambushed my fiance yesterday when he stopped by her house she cried and said that she felt so disrespected because she hasn't been involved in wedding planning she said she's so upset she may not even come allow my eyes to roll back into my head let me say this woman hasn't reached out to me at all we are keeping her at arm's length so she's right about that but she's acting like she's been calling and texting me and I've been ignoring her she hasn't sent one text or made a call but feels so slighted also apparently she thought she'd be helping out with wedding planning more because my mom isn't here so she's throwing a tantrum because she isn't getting the respect and attention let me stress again this woman who is allegedly so concerned about me and this wedding hasn't reached out to me once about planning but apparently even though we never talk and we aren't close she's hurt and upset that she's not acting like a de facto mother of the bride she also doesn't think she should have to ask I should just be coming to her with things my fiance was firm he said he told her that this wedding isn't about her or whatever she thinks it should be when he called me to talk I reiterated what I wanted native owner is going to play in my shower my stepmother and stepsister going to meet my bridesmaids and we'll do favors together and his mom isn't getting anything else her threatening to not come to her son's wedding because she feels slighted and Oded pension shows me that she isn't emotionally mature enough to handle this I'm not giving her any important tasks so she can throw a tantrum and told to bail when she doesn't get her way I know he's upset and he doesn't want her to not come but I said that we aren't responsible for that she's the one refusing to come we aren't taking away her invite my fiance is handling this like a champ but I just needed a place to vent [Music] you

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Length: 20min 31sec (1231 seconds)

Published: Wed Feb 19 2020