Mother In Law Wears White Gown To My Wedding - Entitled MIL Ruined My Life Stories - Askreddit Women

people have read it what's the worst thing your evil mother-in-law has done stepsister is a darling woman always the Peacekeeper and my mother has hated her from day one no matter how hard my stepsister has tried she can never please her and therefore the entire dad stepmom stepsister relationship has been strained footnote our parents married when all of us were adults and his wife was a deceased saint fast-forward through lots of drama me going no contact and stepsister finally realizing what a monster my mom really is she keeps the peace and deals with her bowl only to have a relationship with her dad poor girl her wedding day comes up I'm not invited for obvious reasons I did message the maid of honor concerns as she ruined the heck out of my own wedding maid of honor is totally on it and wedding seems to go well then I see this pic you guys not only did this woman insist on walking her down the aisle with dad Garin freaking T this was not stepsisters idea but she pretty much wore white as well my heart broke for her when I saw this pic and brought back all of the memories of my own wedding lucky for her she and her husband live hours away so she doesn't have to put up with her crap on the Reg I just hope that this is the final straw with my sweet stepsister she doesn't deserve the crap my mother puts her through and I can't imagine how foreign it is to her considering all the stories I've heard about real mother for real the whole town views her a saint me 24 year old female and boyfriend 26 year old male have our eighth anniversary coming up this month we obviously started dating pretty young and we just moved in together two years ago a lot of people get married by our age and sooner in relationships and that's fine but my man and I are comfortable where we are his mom future mother-in-law eventually will not stop mentioning marriage at the last three family get-togethers she's made comments to my parents like we need to be in-laws already jeez and are you proposing soon it's very uncomfortable because we usually joke like oh well weddings are expensive or we seriously say we don't want to get married at the moment but she keeps pushing it she even offered to pay for three days in Disneyland if we got engaged she's the same way with her other son my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend they have only been dating for almost three years however not as long as my boyfriend and I my boyfriend's sister even came out to surprise their mom for Christmas and his mom literally said oh I thought someone was getting engaged and seemed disappointed that no one had it's weird how much she's desperate for us or my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend to get engaged hi everyone I am the proud owner of a stunningly justnot mother-in-law and now my brother-in-law is engaged to an intermittently just no future sister-in-law she is the kind of girl who was planning the wedding long long before getting engaged and who believed that her moment is more important than anything else going on anywhere my husband and I are coming up on our two-year anniversary and we are going to start trying yay I've been dying to start and he is getting excited about it too so I was very upset yesterday when future sister-in-law says to me it is wrong that since the wedding is exactly a year away and you're a bridesmaid I hope you either get prego right away or that it takes you a really long time first I'm 31 and constantly afraid that I'm going to have trouble getting pregnant because my parents had trouble second yes it is wrong to wish on someone fertility struggles just because you don't want a pregnant girl in your wedding pictures we are planning to go ahead but now I'm thinking that if we don't get pregnant right away I should pause the effort for a couple of months because I don't want my mother-in-law and future sister-in-law to be horrible and hateful to me during a pregnancy during my own engagement when my mother-in-law felt like attention was diverted away from herself or wherever she arbitrarily decides attention should be she made my life and dear husband's life a living hell until we either relented or object of her focus was past or resolved I'd say we were Lent at about 80% of the time but the 20% we held fast on were big wins here's why I need advice mother in-laws bullying during engagement triggered a serious eating disorder relapse and I am now in recovery future sister-in-law got sucked into her manipulations being pretty young at the time and mother-in-law convinced her I was intentionally hurting everyone by being exclusionary spoiler alert I certainly wasn't by any stretch of the imagination I have been married to my husband James for nearly three years now together for seven we met at University and have been going strong ever since James's dad Eric divorced his ex-wife four years ago he then met his now wife Mindy and married her very quickly it was a whole drama at our wedding because Eric brought Mindy and they were being really mean to James's mom Sara who is the greatest mother-in-law in the world after that James distance himself a bit from Eric they got back into regular contact a year ago we usually have lunch at their place once a month or so and it has been going great we can't get past that Eric's wife is younger than us but we try to ignore it a few months ago we found out we were pregnant it was not planned but we are very happy nonetheless we broke the news to everyone in person we didn't do cheesy gifts or anything so then came to lunch at Eric's place and we told him and without even congratulating us he told us Mindy is pregnant too since then Eric and Mindy go out of their way to outshine my pregnancy it is really stupid but I feel like I am in some kind of race for example you know how you can either get a standard ultrasound or one of those 4d ones I posted my standard one on Instagram and four minutes after that Mindy posts hers that is one of the fancy ones and she tags me she basically said this is more expensive but so worth it to see the little one in detail or I recommend to get this one the next time it irks me so much and I don't know why it's just a stupid post but what took the cake that she put her baby shower date on the same date as mine she knew when I was having it because she asked me she made it a whole Facebook event eric is very affluent so they are going all out I am talking a hired band fancy virgin cocktails with a barista a whole venue etc of course James's family is torn because while I invited them first they also want to go to Mindy's party and support Eric James now wants to cancel the baby shower altogether he is really bitter especially because he feels like this baby is a do-over child for his father as Eric is now more involved than he was with James instead of enjoying which should be our wonderful journey to Parenthood James is always fuming and bitter about his father and that leads to me a pregnant and hormonal insecure woman to be in a constant state of stress I cry almost every day and I can't enjoy this pregnancy the pregnancy alone is very difficult as I have high blood pressure bacne nausea and every time I sneeze I feel like I peed my pants I just need help or even some encouragement thanks so much this story is about my friend's mother-in-law and her wedding strap in guys this is a wild ride in which I did the thing that got me banned from any of her family functions a good friend of mine from the University was getting married they had been a couple since junior year of college through her two years in the Peace Corp and currently her return to this continent six years in total she had been to all manner of family functions and always came back with a strange story about how she thinks her mother-in-law secretly hates her but she being a very quiet and sweet person pushed those thoughts aside point one she is vegetarian and Jewish husband is not she was invited and went to Christmas dinner and figured she would just eat sighs as well she brought a vegetarian casserole mother-in-law after knowing her for three years and being told by husband a few weeks before about not to forget front doesn't eat meat proceeded to put meat in every dish friend drank water and ate her casserole the whole night while mother-in-law cried to everyone that friend was so rude for not eating her cooking anyway back to the story a few friends and I were asked to be in their wedding friend has a huge family and so this was not going to be a small affair neither of them is particularly religious but friends said it would be nice to be married under a Hoopa think Ann Arbor but for pools and covered with a white cloth and lots of flowers husband said he could care less and told her to go and rent one for the wedding I was at the bridal shower when mother-in-law found out the pretty canopy was actually a Hoopa she almost lost her crap in front of a bunch of people but managed to compose herself and laugh angrily that if the Jews were being represented so would the Catholics in my head I heard a record screech guys they aren't Catholic so after much fighting a lot of screaming crying threatening to pull money which is funny because she contributed nothing mother-in-law lost the boot was firmly placed and nothing was moving it Hoopa yes Catholic priest no things got stupid quiet my friend text me the night before the wedding that she has a bad feeling I tell her it's probably just nerves she is getting married and this is a big deal oh how wrong I was we all show up get our hair and makeup done slip into our bridesmaid dresses and hang out waiting for the bride to be finished with her hair she makes a comment saying that she hadn't seen mother-in-law all day and that she skipped her hair and makeup appointment we all side out each other took a few sips of wine and hope the eerie feeling would go away 30 minutes later as we are helping the bride into her dress guess who shows up if you guest mother-in-law you win a cookie flushed from coming up the stairs she is not a light woman in full hair and makeup and a white dress not ivory not cream full snow-white the dress was clearly a wedding dress it was even from David's Bridal which she would later shout at me floor-length satin with a sweetheart beaded top a bit of a train and off-white lace on the bottom the dress was even tailored to her this has been a long con she is orchestrated the bride burst into tears and aunts and friends assured mother-in-law out we did our best to console the bride touched up her makeup and I made her promise that the dress would never be seen in a photo she looked me dead in the eye and nodded the game was on the venue only supplied white wine and champagne for the wedding party but I grabbed my purse and ran down into the reception area and managed to flag an attendant by the bar and bribe him with a cool $20 to give me a bottle of red early I cracked the baby open filled a solo cup to the brim with it and stocked outside after a few swigs from the bottle for courage I went over to where everyone was getting ready to take photos with one last hard stare at my friend I got her nod of approval I pulled out my phone held it in front of my face like I was reading a text and walked straight into mother-in-law I poured the entire cup of red wine down the front of her dress jumped back and gasped the look on her face was murderous she screamed yelled threatened and promised she would sue me people had to hold her back because she wanted to fight me eventually she switched from screaming - sobbing and sank to the ground and threw a tantrum on the floor everyone moved back and just let her go at it and walked away to go take photos was surreal as if everyone just hit their limit and noped out from around her the 12 year old flower girl whipped out her phone and snapped a few photos much to our amusement this is already super long but I will say that mother-in-law went home and changed only 20 minutes from venue into a nice dark green too small and low-cut dress because of this she missed all of the photos wedding was beautiful I got death glares from everyone she told that I attacked her with wine no craps were given as I drank and danced with friends bride thanked me in secret and three months later took me to the spa for a day of pampering anyways mother-in-law is a book of faces addict and will frequently post about me and future husband in third person ie talking about us not to us I will block her and never see her again after the wedding but I'm putting up with it for now she posted this huge rant the other day about kids these days and not respecting their elders it all came to a head that her son's fiancee doesn't know what to call her and that she wishes I would call her mom but since I'm uncomfortable with that I need to start calling her miss last name because calling her by her first name as I have been doing is disrespectful first of all I'm never going to call that which mom even future husband calls her mother or by her first name lol second if she finds being called by her first name so offensive why didn't she just tell me to my face instead of talk about me on social media also I'm 31 years old and she calls me by my first name I have a PhD and it's taking everything in me to not say good idea I'll call you miss her last name and you call me doctor my last name because you know respect blah blah blah also she posted again this morning that she is choosing not to be the evil mother-in-law because her eternal life is deeply invested in the quality of her children's offspring makes me want to throw up what does that even mean quality it's not like our future children are show dogs or something we've been married a long long time mother-in-law was mostly witch eating crackers with a little just know and I've been low to no contact for probably the last 10 years and my life has been divine because of that dear husband doesn't mind because he gets lots of romance when ma isn't interfering in our relationship but way back I tried so so hard to get on her good side I was such a sweet summer child I thought to myself she should be happy for dear husband I cooked and cleaned and threw parties and most people liked me but she was sly so dear husband didn't catch the nuances of her behavior I tried to point it out with little luck because I had no experience with a woman like this we left for our honeymoon a week after our wedding enough time for us to set up our small apartment and get cozy living together beforehand we left for a week with the keys left to mother-in-law to fetch our mail and various things you all when we got back she had completely rearranged my kitchen the living room threw out some of my pictures and knickknacks from our bedroom and I swear she also tossed some of my lingerie I was upset so upset and cried too dear husband he angry at his mom talked to her then came home with the usual can you guess it she can't imagine why I'd be upset she was being so helpful she didn't mean to do anything wrong and the tears came at her bidding so that dear husband was thrown for a loop never having experienced woman-to-woman territorial stops he came home spewing her diatribe and simply told me that he would help me put things back and he did except for the kitchen he only made things worse in there but not for lack of trying mother-in-law never even taught him to butter bread ha but I learned a valuable lesson whenever mother-in-law was up to her shenanigans she would wait until we were alone look at me and do this evil smile with an odd sort of like those sub gifts to acknowledge her disdain to me properly I learned from the best the very best mother-in-law was the town pillar active in church and charity and so sweet to the people she approved of so here is the meat of this post mother-in-law is old now and still just as sneaky if anything old age has sharpened her skills and she has taken on the role of helpless old lady quite fabulously there are volunteers who help her and bring her meals sit and read with her it's all quite nice really she did a week-long stint in the hospital recently and dear husband got the key to her house to retrieve her mail etc etc well I made a copy of said key without dear husband knowing course because I had a plan during that week I took some time off work I was so sick don't you know and let myself into her house to rearrange I mean clean her kitchen I also threw away some broken porcelain and other items they weren't necessary took pictures off the walls and put them in the closet then I rearranged the linen closet the coat closet mother-in-law's closet and her bathrooms both of them I left the living room mostly alone sadly but I didn't want dear husband to catch on see then on the day dear husband was supposed to pick her up from the hospital and bring her home I offered to help dear husband clean her house for her homecoming he was mildly surprised at my offer but I said I've decided to let bygones be bygones I will help then get out of the way so dear husband could help mother-in-law get settled in she can mostly live by herself with a little help every day from a CNA and hubs to check in on her so we cleaned mopped and vacuumed got everything sparkly and clean I went with dear husband to fetch his mom and sat in the back seat when we arrived mother-in-law immediately noticed things were askew but she couldn't tell what it was yet then she noticed the missing pictures mother-in-law what did you do with my pictures dear husband and me what do you mean mother-in-law you stole my pictures me oh my no mill I helped dear husband clean that's all dear husband confirmed that is all I did I asked if she'd like some tea and she yelled at me to stay out of her kitchen she went in herself and screamed what had we done I looked at dear husband all puzzled and dear husband repeats that he and I only cleaned the counters and dishes and mopped mother-in-law was livid so I told to your husband that my presence must be upsetting to her so maybe I should leave dear has been confused because he had no idea why his mom was acting so outwardly hostile to me agreed so I cheerfully told my mother-in-law that I'd be on my way and dear husband could call me when he's ready to be picked up that's all dear husband heard he didn't see me smile at mother-in-law because he was facing my back and you all I nodded at her with her very own signature nod she was livid dear husband told me on the way home when I went to pick him up a few hours later that she had accused me of all sorts of things and that's when I said the poor dears mind must be going he agrees the poor thing is getting so old after all she should have been nicer to me I get to help pick her nursing home and I know very well how to play the helpful supportive role thanks mother-in-law I lived with my son's father and his family for a while after my son was born he and I have broken up since thank God it was supposed to be mutually beneficial but turned into me and my son's grandfather being the only people working and paying bills in the house my ex's mother hated me she didn't really have a reason to she just hated any woman that she thought showed her up which wasn't really hard since her main job was holding down the couch most of the day to make sure it didn't run away I turned a blind eye to all that crap she talked about me and blamed me for but one day she took it too far it was my mom's 60th birthday her friends planned to take her out to eat and then go to a neighborhood bar for a couple of drinks they invited me along the morning of her birthday I put on some nicer makeup and clothes than I usually do for work it was a nicer restaurant and I wanted to look appropriate I was gone for about two hours when I came home I walked past her and she called me names that was the straw that broke the camel's back I was annoyed I quietly plotted my revenge pretending everything was fine for about two weeks until I had a chance to put my plan into place she had all day plans on a Saturday and for once I was all alone in the house she was a larger woman so she really didn't have too many clothes that actually fit and that she would wear I went into her closet I even took photos of where the clothes were hung and how they were placed then I took all those clothes and put them in the washer on the sanitized setting if you don't know the sanitized setting is water that gets up to 220 degrees which will shrink just about anything I made sure to dry them on the hottest setting - then I very carefully hung them back up exactly as they were using my photos for guidance the next day was glorious she went to get dressed and absolutely nothing fit she had a meltdown in her room calling her family bawling about how she didn't understand how she could have gained so much weight in a week she refused to have a scale in the house she just went by how her clothes fit the next few days of watching her pull and tug at her clothes always brought a smile to my lips I don't know if she ever bought new clothes I broke up with her son laughter and never looked back [Music] [Music]

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Published: Thu Jan 23 2020