Pregnant Sister In Law Accused Me Of Making Her Lose Her Pregnancy - Evil SIL Breaks Family Stories

tell me what crazy things your pregnant sister-in-law has done to you my brother 29 years old male and sister-in-law 29 years old female asked wednesday if they could come for a visit at that weekend they're six hours away we said sure love to see you friday afternoon i 34 years old female had an ultrasound for my eight week pregnancy the ultrasound showed a likely lost pregnancy my husband 35 years old male and i were upset but as my bro and sister-in-law were already driving we didn't cancel the visit we hadn't told them about the pregnancy nor had we told our three kids when bro and sister-in-law arrive they were excited to tell us sister-in-law is pregnant and do two weeks before i would have been due i tried to sound excited and happy for them but i wasn't as excited as i normally would have been then it turned into a nightmare she didn't like supper so we ordered in food for her she needed the bed moved from one wall to another fine she insisted on five pillows to sleep i found a couple and she was upset i couldn't give her more and asked if she could go into the kids rooms and take bears i said no next morning she freaked out at 7 am that the kids were eating cereal too loud she spent the morning curled up on the couch complaining about morning sickness i sympathized and said it's awful but it will go away she screamed no you've never experienced this they gave me the same anti-nausea meds they give chemo patients so shut up i got quiet my husband was making brunch and she freaked out that he was going to cook bacon because the smell makes me throw up we didn't make bacon she also didn't want us to make eggs or let the kids have syrup on their pancakes i refused so she stormed off into her room until mid-afternoon mid-afternoon she decides to go shopping and said that they'd be back for dinner we said dinner would be at 5 30. at 5 45 they hadn't shown up and weren't replying to texts so we ate they showed up at 6 p.m and she freaked out that we hadn't waited so we ordered pizza she spent the next two hours complaining about how brutal pregnancy is and how it sucks so much and how she's never going through it again i lost it and told her that i was in the middle of losing a baby and i'd love to have her problems because it means my baby would be okay everything got quiet and she looked at me and said i can't believe you used the m word around me that's bad luck and if i lose the baby it's your fault and went to her room and slammed the door about 15 minutes later she said i'm glad you lost your baby you already have three and if you had one right now you'd just be trying to upstage me i'm glad your baby is dead i burst into tears and my husband told her to get out he said i've watched you complain whine and witch all weekend we stayed quiet about what was going on with us because we thought you deserved a chance to enjoy sharing your news but this is enough get out now she started screaming about how we are idiots while my brother packed their stuff and they laughed i 27 years old female i'm currently three months pregnant and in my family it is a tradition that a baby shower is thrown at three months so me and my husband 29 years old male are getting ready to throw a baby shower for me the thing is that i don't really want my sister-in-law to come because plenty of times in the past she made a show about her infertility issues when i first announced that i was pregnant during a family dinner at his side everything was fine i was aware of sister-in-law's personal issue but i didn't think that it required me to go speak to her privately or anything when his relatives started to ask about baby gender and such she burst out crying and started to talk about how she wanted a child but couldn't have one etc i felt so bad but my husband assured me that it wasn't my fault and that it was just a rough moment for her i understood and always tried to not mention my pregnancy around her but then it was like the moment that anyone asked how's the kicker or congrats on the baby she would suddenly burst in tears again i felt bad for thinking like this at first but i noticed a pattern where she would be perfectly fine with a single person asking about baby names but as soon as more people started to ask things she suddenly felt off because of this i had a talk with my husband and explained that i don't think it would be a good idea to invite sister-in-law to the baby shower and how she always had a show when there was a bunch of people husband said he understood but that i should talk to sister-in-law first a few days i asked sister-in-law if i could talk to her in person and we met up in a cafe and i explained my concerns by saying i know your fertility is a really sensitive issue and i'm going to have a baby shower soon and you always get uncomfortable and cry and i don't think it's a good idea you come since you always cry at the end she got angry and blew up at me saying that i was being a pregnant witch and that i was being an insensitive witch i tried to explain that i meant no harm but she cursed me off and has now told the family her side what happened i felt awful they're not mad at me but think i should just apologize to sister-in-law and stop talking about my pregnancy around her and should have a different idea than a baby shower the thing is that i don't mind apologizing i didn't mean to make her feel bad but i don't want to change my baby shower to another kind of event my wife and i were married three months ago edit together two years we've been trying to have a baby recently planting the seeds fertilizing the ground and whatnot yesterday my wife had a positive pregnancy test and naturally we were ecstatic we went to my parents house this morning because we wanted to announce the good news but were met with trouble my sister had found out her fiance was cheating on her and when she confronted it he admitted to it and broke up with her telling her she didn't satisfy him it was all such a shock to her it had come out of nowhere she really was in love with him and looking forward to getting married she had been excited about getting married and having a family for so long now she was on the kitchen table crying her eyes out and my parents were beside her comforting her i had no idea that this had all happened and they told me i told my sister she's so much better off without him and she is still very young and has plenty of time anyway she was in this absolutely miserable state it was obviously no mood for a happy announcement on our part especially one that would just rub in my sister's heartbreak over being cheated on and dumped my wife said well we have some news that might cheer you up i instantly said no and shook my head at her telling her to cut it so she did and went quiet for a while like half an hour my sister was still crying and blowing her nose and everything still and then my wife again started i motioned my hand for her to stop but she went ahead and made the oh so wonderful announcement what is wrong with her it's the absolute worst timing my sister just looked up with her red eyes and gave her the evil eye and stood up slammed the chair and went upstairs my parents were looking at my wife and just shaking their head at her like what's wrong with you my wife just said what's her problem and still had this big smile on her face from her announcement i told her she shouldn't have said it then my sister was clearly really sad about her relationship ending and my wife just rubbed salt in her wounds by announcing a success of our relationship namely her pregnancy i told my wife maybe she should go apologize my wife insisted she has nothing to apologize for and refused she was like we agreed we were coming here to announce our pregnancy i told her obviously that was before i saw the situation it was insensitive and inappropriate she just couldn't understand why not i told her i would be staying there at my parents house for the afternoon because obviously my sister was going through a rough period she drove home and i stayed there for most of the day with my family just mainly comforting them and offering a shoulder to cry on during an obviously very sad day my parents said to me congratulations on my wife's pregnancy but only quietly and privately away from my sister's earshot my dad said he was proud of me which really meant a lot to me i apologized to both of them sincerely for my wife's terrible timing they accepted my apology i went to comfort my sister and she also congratulated me on my pregnancy prompting me to again apologize for my wife's atrocious timing i told her how very sorry i am about the whole thing when my wife came to pick me up later to go back home i trusted i was leaving her in safe hands back at home i explained to my wife why i thought the timing was off and we should have delayed our announcement to them but she said she just couldn't understand she has no idea why she's done anything wrong and i tried to suggest to her maybe she should apologize because they were all really hurt but she wouldn't have any of it what is wrong with her what should i do she refuses to see why it was wrong or recognize how her timing was horrible and hurt my sister and refuses to apologize what the hell is wrong with her what should i do about this brother's wife sister-in-law is pregnant with their first child and had a baby shower over the weekend i was not invited to the shower but my brother sent me a gift registry i didn't buy anything because i'm not invited so why should i buy a gift my sister-in-law asked me what i got for her on monday after the shower and i said i'm not getting anything she teared up and asked me why i simply said that i was not invited so i didn't think i needed to buy a gift i did buy a congrats on your baby card for them my brother is angry at me and my sister-in-law is apparently really upset sister-in-law and i don't get along at all so they think i am doing this to be rude and retaliatory i think it's rude to not invite guests to your baby shower but still expect them to get you a gift my brother says i'm immediate family so the etiquette rules don't apply and i should not have said it so bluntly to his wife's face i said i'm happy for him and his wife but i'm not getting a gift for them then i hung up the rest of the family aren't getting in the middle of this and are just telling us to sort it amongst ourselves i'm 47 years old and my wife is 45. we had our son young and i have to be honest there were many years where my wife admitted to me that she wishes she had ended it rather than going through with the pregnancy having kids was never her life's dream and having our son kept us back in life and kept us from accomplishing a lot of things we wanted to accomplish now don't get me wrong we love our son fully we did everything we could to provide a warm loving home for him i worked so hard to help put him through college with little debt his mom was the picture-perfect wife and mother baking cookies with him doing art projects attending every single basketball game every band concert every play we both did these things without ever complaining and really cherished many of those moments well my son turned out to be a great young man he graduated with a nice science degree met a wonderful woman who he dated for seven years before marrying they have been married for two years and have decided to expand their family by having a child she's pregnant due in may my wife and i have figured for a while that our job was done and that we could finally focus on our lives and our wants and needs these include many things like certifications and classes travel hobbies all of the things we had to put on hold while we focused on raising our son finally it was our time well when my son and daughter-in-law were over a few weeks ago crap kind of hit the fan they were talking about different things they were looking forward to and my son made a joke saying and of course i'm sure we'll look forward to dropping the kids off at grandma and grandpa's house every now and then i laughed it off for a moment but said i wouldn't count on that he got confused and asked what i meant and i ended up having to tell him rather plainly that he shouldn't expect me and his mother to act as babysitters for his grandchildren that we'd raised one child and we were done and happy to focus on us our lives etc my son was visibly upset by this and said but you're going to be grandparents shouldn't you want to spend time with your grandkids my wife spoke up and said that yes we would be happy to spend time with them but that we weren't going to be babysitters we would spend time with the family not just the grandkids we would not be free daycare or babysitting we would not be taking them on trips spoiling them etc she made a point to say i'm sorry if this isn't what you expected we will of course be a part of their lives but we aren't here to be taken advantage of your children aren't our responsibility we don't have a choice if you have them or not it's your life and your choice but please don't expect us to sacrifice ours well it all blew up my son said he just assumed all parents were dying for the moment when they had grandkids that there's something wrong with us he can't believe we'd be so cold to our not even born yet grandchild etc etc my wife 19 at the time and i 23 were not married when she got pregnant with our first in fact at that point we had only been dating for six months and the pregnancy was not an accident we just had an instant connection and hit it off and both of us wanted to start a family i had met her parents on a couple of occasions but we were still trying to get used to each other when we went to announce to them that she was pregnant when we told them their immediate reaction was no you're not it was pretty awkward but as far as the rest of her siblings our friends and my family were very happy for us a couple of roommates in the town home i was renting thought we moved too fast but other than that everyone was happy i texted my sister telling her that i would honor her wishes and not attend her wedding and that i hoped it was a wonderful day i texted my mom something similar adding that i suspected sister told her i'm pregnant but if she didn't then to please respond so we could talk about it she called me a few minutes later the first time we have spoken in months and i decided to pick up she immediately launched into demanding i attend my sister's wedding and telling me i did not have a choice i politely reminded her that it was my sister who had uninvited me and told her that she was talking to the wrong person and needed to speak to my sister i repeated this sentence i don't know how many times until she changed her argument then she started saying she doesn't know how i am anymore she didn't raise me to be so selfish etc etc i interrupted her one point to ask if my sister had told her that i'm pregnant she confirmed that she had indeed shared on my behalf and i said something along the lines of well i'm sure you're thrilled you heard it from my sister instead of me and she said they were upset like it was somehow my fault my sister decided to ruin my pregnancy announcement all in all i didn't back down or let her bully me into anything she ended the conversation by saying i'm sorry i don't know who you are anymore and i said i'm sorry too and i am sorry that she doesn't get to see the person i have become without her i think this is the best version of myself that has ever existed a couple hours later surprise surprise sister backtracked i am now invited to the wedding again i told her i would attend the ceremony so they could have one less thing to hold over my head but would not be coming to the reception she then gave me a big guilt trip about how she really wanted me there on her wedding morning and my name is on all the programs i told her then she should have thought about that before she spoke to me like she did it was hard i cried all morning and feel incredibly guilty about the wedding but i held my ground i am becoming better and better at it i know this is the right thing but the guilt is strong because i know how much work goes into a wedding and i'm kind of screwing her over at the last minute but then i remember that none of my family members have congratulated me or asked me anything about my pregnancy and i don't feel quite as bad so i had plans last night to confess to my family that i'm pregnant scared out of my mind bought a final pregnancy test to check that i'm still pregnant then headed home and my parents weren't there they have traveled up country to our rural home so i announced to my elder sister 25 years old who i'm at home with i think her reaction gave me a taste of how my mom was likely to react but a lot deluded she was shocked i could sense a bit of disappointment loads of questions on what i'm going to do what my plans are how i'm going to tell mom and dad etc i talk to her about it all then once the shock had subsided she asked if i had told our little sister who was away at university told her i hadn't she said we should call and tell her now so we rang her told her she didn't believe then when she realized we weren't kidding she was so excited she caught me completely off guard she was really really excited and was squealing with joy it made me feel so good so then we started talking about when i'll tell my parents big sis was saying to wait till they're back little sis said tell them while they're away so they have time to think and react before we see each other later probably in a couple of days after a bit of discussion big sis says she actually agrees with little sis so i decided i'd do it this morning fast forward to about an hour ago i called her and said it she was annoyed she didn't yell she was the quiet kind of furious which is the worst she asked me what i'm gonna do who is responsible are we getting married before the baby etc it was an extremely difficult conversation she is really disappointed and told me i should be ashamed but it's done now just my dad who will not be as bad as my mom i'm relieved i'm happy to have the support of my sisters my boyfriend and a couple of my closest friends i feel safe worried and a bit sad but i'm hopeful this curveball will not be the end of me [Music]

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Length: 18min 38sec (1118 seconds)

Published: Sun May 17 2020