I Inherited $1,000,000 & Family DEMANDS I Share My Money With Them - Family Fall A Part Over Money

people who won and inherited a lot of money what are your horror stories from people begging for your money some background my grandfather just passed away at the end of January he was closing him on 90 and lived a very full life and died very peacefully in his home which is exactly where he wanted to be this is where the story gets very sticky my grandfather lived in a cheap tract house and was very frugal his only passions in life were woodworking and his garden but to my huge surprise I was named as his sole heir with life-changing money with the house everything in it and cash his estate was valued at a little over a million dollars here's where it gets even stickier my mom passed away six years ago she had one sister who I was fairly close to and from her I have three cousins I don't know the full details of why my aunt was estranged from my grandpa in fact all my mom ever told me was it's between the two of them I have mixed relationship with my cousins and because their mom was estranged from my grandpa they never had a nice word to say about him and I didn't know if they ever met him to be fair they probably never had the chance to get to know him like I did cousins and aunt did not attend the very small funeral I set up for my grandpa either now she and my cousins have been basically calling me non-stop somewhere between begging me and demanding of me that I split the estate five ways this is what both of my attorneys have essentially advised no matter what I shouldn't split the estate five ways if I do decide to be incredibly generous it should be split 50/50 and my aunt and cousins can divide their half however they like both attorneys have advised against this period as it's not in my best interest I can write four or five thousand dollar checks out of the estate to get them to go away $5,000 in our state's probate system is generally seen as enough of an inheritance to be essentially be uncontestable and my aunt and cousins will have no further claim on my grandpa's estate or none that a judge would be willing to hear the first attorney strongly advised I do this I do nothing I am carrying out my grandpa's wishes to the letter and that is my responsibility and also my benefit for staying close to him in his lifetime this is my second attorney's preferred course of action but this is not about the legality of the situation this is about what should I do and would I be the idiot if I keep the entire estate for myself just over a million dollars is enough money for me to finally fund a retirement account have a down payment on a decent house and actually save some money I have no designs on a big blowout but maybe updating my car would be nice I could do all of that with 500,000 but that number sure looks different than a million dollars my mother died when I was young my dad married another woman two years later my grandparents my dad's parents hate my stepmother I really don't like her either even after my half siblings were born my grandparents never warmed up to her my grandparents are quite wealthy my father has been banking on this inheritance for a while he has even been not paying into his retirement because he's so sure that he will inherit the millions I just found out on Saturday that I'm getting the majority of my grandparents estate my father is getting a token amount of $50,000 so he can't dispute it my grandparents made me promise not to give out any money after and I intend to keep my word but I do feel really guilty that my father just spends his money as it's coming in because he's relying on money he won't get I also found out my dad is in a lot of debt I talked to my grandparents and shared these concerns they were understanding and set up a family meeting with them their lawyer my dad his wife and myself I was secretly hoping that my grandparents would get over some of their issues with my dad and his wife but nope my dad's wife actually started crying and wailing when they revealed that I would be getting most of the inheritance I could see my grandmother almost exploding my dad to his credit looked disappointed but said it was their money to do as they wished the new agreement is that my father will receive $75,000 each of my younger siblings will receive a $50,000 education fund my dad's wife did call me a few days later and acted really foolishly and she somehow thought that insulting my mother would help her I told her that if she ever said something bad about my mother again I would tell my grandparents about it that seems to have shut her up my relationship with my dad was never the greatest but I haven't really seen any further decline in the relationship but I feel a lot of relief now shortly after my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's my formally estranged half-brother quit his job and moved in to help take care of my dad though there really wasn't enough money it was agreed to pay him around $300 a week to make up for his missing income during this time my half-brother abruptly acquired durable power of attorney and usurped medical and financial my mother and father had separate financial lives decisions several documents relating to my dad's pension which were now my half-brothers responsibility were not turned in on time resulting in my dad missing out on a one-time payout of $8,000 and lowering his pension payout by $300 a month my half-brother then cleaned out my dad's remaining savings about $3,000 not discovered until about a month later six days later our father died my dad left all of his insurance money and belongings to my mother us children were left with only sentimental items my half-brother was visibly upset and shaking when the will was read he acknowledged that my mother was receiving everything and left about a month later we discovered the missing money though he broke no laws because he had power of attorney we insisted he pay it back even offered to let him make payments over a two-year period he refused and we have been no contact for two years now little did he know that he was in my mom's his stepmothers will he would receive half of what is currently a 250 thousand dollar estate I suggested to my mother but she removed him from the will she did and I am now the sole beneficiary he stole $3,000 now only to lose out on a hundred and twenty-five and dollars later both my older brother and sister went to the same college my brother graduated two years ago my sister is set to graduate in two years both had their college paid by our dad dad paid all their college expenses including rent food their cars pocket money you name it my brother has a job now his own place lives together with his fiancee and has his life together my sister already has a good-paying job and my dad still pays for almost everything for her I got accepted to the same college which was always the plan and was looking forward to talk with my parents about the next steps and ask them to help me the same way they did for my siblings I always assumed they had money put aside for my college the way they had for my siblings instead I was met with a story about my mom's cheating how I am the result of her cheating and how my dad is not willing to support me anymore moving forward dad told me that mom had 18 years to let me know and prepare me for the future but obviously she never did he said it was never his place to say anything since I am NOT his son and didn't want to interfere with mom's parenting apparently my grandparents know I am NOT my dad's biological son but they haven't bothered to tell me anything either my siblings had no idea and they are as surprised as I am because there was never a hint of anything being off I might be naive but I always thought I had a great relationship with my dad we go to see sports together we go fishing together he tutored me when I had difficulties with math dad is an engineer he taught me to drive I never got a hint he stores resentment towards me I mean he gave me my name and has explained what my name means and he was very proud of it it's a story he tells from time to time he likes to talk about stuff like that about me my mom has never said a word about anything and apparently she was supposed to have the talk with me but she never did I feel abandoned and unprepared for what lies ahead I am not even sure I will be able to go to college anymore I always assumed my parents will pay for it I never had a job and I'm not sure what job I can eat get to support me through college I have no idea how to apply for loans all my mom has done is cry and apologize but nothing of substance she has no idea how to help me I don't even know if I am welcomed home anymore it's all up in the air I feel shame leaving my room and if I will be asked to move out I don't know where to go I don't have any savings maybe four hundred dollars put together I am angry at my mom I am confused about where I stand with my dad there's a man out there who is my father that never wanted to have anything to do with me I feel rejected and I have no idea what to do to fix the situation my brother 29 years old and I 32 years old female are our parents only children mom passed away five years ago dad kept most of Mom's things but some got passed down to us I got to choose first from among most of her personal effects clothing purses shoes jewelry and the rest was divided among her sisters and nieces I also inherited the family heirloom silver in China my brother got her wedding and engagement set of rings when mom died my husband and I were already married and have put the silver in China to good use we host most holidays my brother was single lived in a basic bachelor pad and had no interest in the frilly stuff everyone seemed a hundred percent satisfied with how everything was divided we all talked about it a lot at the time and agreed it was fair now my brother is engaged we have known his fiance for a couple of years but she came to Christmas at our house for the first time this year and got very excited about the China and silver I told her they had been moms and were passed to me this week I got an email from her saying that it wasn't fair that I had gotten all the nice heirlooms and should divide them with her and my brother I said no she didn't even know mom and she has her very beautiful and valuable engagement ring on her finger I feel like she has no right to make demands on me my husband and extended family back me up my dad is staying out of it my brother wants whatever his fiance wants my parents died when my brothers and I were young eldest was 11 second the brother in question was seven and I was five they left money for each of us once we turned 18 to help with college and life expenses I turned 18 last year and went through the process of getting the money it was in March 2019 that I finally got it it turned out to be a large sum around two hundred and thirty thousand dollars I decided to split the money into two accounts seventy-five thousand dollars into a savings account that no one was supposed to be able to touch and the rest into my checking account I wasn't spending much every month and my grandma has only taken out a few thousand to take care of bills but that was only one thousand to two thousand a month so a maximum of twelve thousand dollars by this time yesterday it came to my attention that my entire checking account had been bled dry only $200 to my name I called the bank and we found several instances of transfers of large sums of money from a range of $1,000 to as much as $25,000 over the six-month period after I had deposited the money my savings account has also been taken from all admit I really should have been paying more attention but I was sure only me and my grandma had access to them and I got no warning from the bank about any of these transfers we tracked where the transfers were going and they were going straight into my brother's account he had somehow gotten ahold of my info when I confronted him he said he had spent it all and only had about $4,000 left he spent it all a whole 197 thousand dollars on food and on in-game purchases I know it sounds unbelievable but after looking at his bank statements it's true it's just line after line of ubereats post mates and game purchases my grandma wants me to forgive him and let him work to make the money back but this man just finished community school and has no work experience it would take years for him to make that money back on minimum wage should I call the police and have him arrested is there any way to get that money back so after my father died my mother moved to Florida hoping that her real mom would take care of her she refused and mother refused to work so she called up different family members begging for money everyone got fed up with it and told her to pound sand then she called up my Nana mother I need money give me some Nana we have no money to give you get a job mother fine give me my inheritance Nana what mother the money I'll get from your life insurance and the sale of the house give it to me Nana there is no life insurance and we are still living in the house mother yes there is give me my money my Nana had enough and gave the phone to my papa and explained the whole situation Papa we raised your children that's your inheritance hangs up phone sadly this wouldn't be the last time she calls begging for money I'm going to be addressing my late sister as sister I will address my sister from the family who adopted me a stepsister recently my 53 years old male sister 41 years old female unfortunately passed away due to reasons I'd rather not disclose because I'm the only living direct relative parents were not in the picture either as children she put me in her will and nobody else's she had a very well-paying job and whilst I am NOT saying how much she gave me it was certainly enough to let me live without a job for the rest of my life when my sister and I were younger and living with our adopted family she was an absolute witch to the both of us she was never ever kind always making horrible remarks and insults and always got us into trouble when we didn't do anything this continued right up until we moved out in our early 20s she never apologized and we never spoke again for context my stepsister lives in a New York City penthouse right in Soho recently my stepsister has gotten in contact with me and told me she is currently struggling in life as she recently was fired she's not telling me why she's asking me to share some of my sisters money and I am constantly saying no because I don't feel she deserves that I'm honestly not sure if I'm right so I need someone else's opinion my grandmother passed earlier this year and she had a pretty nice jewelry collection before she passed she knew what went to whom and had had me meet to see what I'd like instead of jewelry I asked for her wedding dress no one else wanted it I had gotten married in it and she was really touched after talking to her kids she went ahead and gave it to me before passing when she did pass away I was surprised she hadn't written down who got what pieces since I had already passed on inheritance of a piece I didn't go to the meeting with the rest of the family basically they sat down and went oldest to youngest and let each person pick until there were no pieces from what I heard it was peaceful and everyone was happy since I wasn't there they still wanted me to have something and picked a ring they thought had fake diamonds it was the biggest and they assumed it was a diamond substitute it was sweet of them to do that so I could have a piece of her everyday too when I got the ring I didn't examine it it was big enough I thought it was fake too but when I saw a diamond on the inside band indicating Leo diamonds I took it to get evaluated and it has real diamonds its value is about $5,000 more than her next expensive piece they had the papers on all of those essentially I got a nicer and more expensive piece than even her oldest daughter but they chose it for me now they want to redo the distribution but I feel like it's fair I didn't ask for anything they gave me something anyways now they realized the value of it and want it back edit to add info I didn't tell anyone the jeweler mentioned it to my aunt and it got around to the rest of the family my wife and I have been married for 12 years and the nephew in question is my brother's oldest son who I'll call Michael for this post Michael is the oldest of my brothers two boys Michael was a baby when my wife and I got together and she has always treated him and my brother's other son like family just the same as she treats her own siblings kids my wife has a significant inheritance and we both earned generous wages and it was her idea to open college savings accounts from Cole and his brother when they were babies this is likely to be the only family money for college they'll receive anyway the story last weekend my brother and the boys came over for dinner and we all had a nice time though the youngest one was on his switch the whole time and Michael was on his phone I didn't think anything of it until the following Tuesday when I found my wife sobbing after work and she showed me an Instagram post made by Michael who apparently is too stupid to realize we both follow him as do his grandparents he posted a picture of my wife from behind and a picture he apparently took of her underwear laid out on our bed both mocking her sighs she is overweight and calling her a big which among other things my wife was devastated and humiliated and hurt because she's always had a good relationship with him I'm furious and want to cancel his college savings account right now taxes be lost my wife says she'd be too embarrassed to do this since she's an adult and shouldn't be hurt by a child and just wants to pretend it didn't happen I already told his dad and let his dad deal with it at home but I'm still furious and want to cancel the account Monday you [Music]

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Published: Fri May 15 2020