Bride Demands I Pay MONEY For Her Because My Present Was NOT In CASH - Bridezilla Meltdown Stories

reddit what are your best bridezilla stories it was my aunt's wedding she was having it in the spring in a gardeny setting around an hour or so from her hometown in the midwestern u.s so my aunt decided to ask my cousin 19 years old if she would bake her wedding cake for free my cousin agreed she's a really good baker and has baked for quite a few events she didn't mind that it had to be done for free because we are all a pretty tight-knit family so it's wedding day and the vows are all done and it's time to eat the cake gets rolled out and everyone's jaw drops it's gorgeous my aunt requested a green floral theme to match the wedding and my cousin did an amazing job everyone couldn't believe it was done by my cousin cake is served it's delicious and lemon flavored the event goes smoothly and we all have a lot of fun then a few days later my cousin gets a call it's my aunt she screams at my cousin for not getting her a present my cousin immediately calls me and tells me about the whole situation i am disgusted by my aunt my cousin had to fly in from her university in washington to the midwest bake an amazing cake and tolerate our aunt yelling at her that's just horrible especially because my cousin had to pay for everything she's a university student who works as a waitress which means she definitely has limited money i can't believe my aunt is berating her for not getting a wedding present a cake is a good enough present if you ask me especially from a 19 year old my husband and i recently took a five hour flight to attend the wedding of one of my closest friends taylor we both took five days off of work for taylor's wedding and paid for our flights hotel and everything else that comes with that ourselves prior to the wedding i was a huge emotional crutch for taylor in her own words i was her chosen family and she wouldn't have known what to do without me to listen to her and help her around a month before the wedding i also threw taylor a giant bridal shower at my house which i paid for none of taylor's cousins or childhood friends chipped in or worked for taylor's bridal shower this meant that i was also stuck with the job of organizing decorating and cleaning up after the party it is important to note that i was not appointed as the maid of honor or even a bridesmaid at this wedding i was just asked to organize the shower by the bride herself because she couldn't trust anyone else with it when the wedding day finally arrived i found out that the entire guest list of the bridal shower the same people who had actually refused to lift a finger or contribute money for taylor's bridal shower had been invited to hang out with the bride in her suite to get dressed with her for the event while i did not get the same memo when i finally did get down to her suite taylor asked me to leave about 20 seconds in so that she could have a moment with her family and childhood friends after the wedding ceremony we went down to the reception area where my ever optimistic husband was the first to find out that we were seated at the table that was the furthest from the bride and groom's table and to add insult to injury was also right next to the toilet i've never seen his face fall faster we've now been back home for more than two weeks and we also know that taylor is back as well she has made no attempts to contact us or let us know that she's back meanwhile there have been fresh photos on the book of faces about her hanging out with those same cousins and i'm now livid i am currently of the opinion that i was treated very poorly by her during and after her wedding and feel used betrayed and cast aside i feel like i deserve better friends my friend katie 29 years old and her boyfriend tim 31 year old are invited to a wedding the bride and groom are friends of tim they live in the same apartment complex so they've established a fairly strong friendship from what i'm told tim is not standing up at the wedding so no incredibly important role i think that may be important for the context so the bride and groom are having a destination wedding in cancun katie has been hesitant to go for a few reasons the obvious one being finances flight and hotel would be at least a thousand and she'd have to take at least three days off of work because the wedding is on the 20th of april a monday also katie is not close with the bride and groom her boyfriend tim wants her to go to make a vacation out of it here's the kicker though the bride and groom want guests to sit through a time share in order to come like it's part of the package or something i told katie that when you sit through a timeshare you are supposed to get something out of it free trip hotel room etc she has never sat through a timeshare before so i think this was news to her we both already think it's tacky once she told me that she still has to pay for everything for her trip though i said that i think the bride and groom are kind of scamming their guests maybe the bride and groom are reaping some sort of benefits from guests attending a timeshare while said guests receive no benefits of doing so it's been a long time since i sat through one so i'm not sure in any case i told her i'd put my foot down and not go because that's absurd to ask of your guests young bride about 20 years old with an indulgent father from a culture where the wedding was a huge show-off family event in her religion or culture or family i don't really know turtles were a symbol of good luck and mere weeks before the wedding she came up with the idea to have turtles at the reception how you ask she wanted live turtles walking around the reception hall with lit candles glued to their backs lit flaming candles she saw no issues with this plan we tried to explain that turtles carry salmonella could get crushed or stepped on splattered turtle is not a good look could bite a guest or child that it was cruel overall but extra cruel to glue candles to their backs and most importantly that a lit candle on a ground level could catch her guests on fire or tablecloths or linens or whatever just a bad idea overall she threw a fit of epic proportions we finally came to a solution of adding turtle themed things to the ornate table decorations decorated shells figurines glass etc early etsy type stuff because that wasn't good enough for our bridezilla we teamed up with some local reptile wranglers to line the walls with giant aquariums that had live turtles swimming in them it was insane and terrifying we had to have staff for the turtles and extra insurance for the hall but we pulled it off for the turtle bride so about a year ago i popped the big question i was deeply in love with my girlfriend and everything felt amazing that is until she transformed into a bridezilla in front of my eyes ever since we got engaged all she can do is talk about the wedding which was fine at first but it started to consume her i thought that i would get some say in how the day was going to go but everything i suggest is immediately shot down the only choice i got to make was my tux and even that had to fit her stupid color scheme well things really started ramping up when her mother came down for the weekend she's your typical trailer trash woman who married into a successful family all of her ideas are awful and tacky yet my fiancee laps it up like a dehydrated person in the desert when i try to bring it up with her she tells me that this is her big day and i should just be supportive i told her it was my money and that i should have more say in how it's spent her mom picked out maroon tablecloths with flowers and suns on them i feel like it's a funeral for a carnival worker she even suggested we have beer kegs on tap so the last draw was that her and her mother without my consent used my credit card as a payment on a venue down by a river instead of the church we discussed where my family has attended for generations and had made many contributions the pricing was even a little cheaper minus the price of the hall afterwards who wants to get married next to a stinking river full of flies and whatever other insects will float around on top of all the people who will just waltz up to the river to enjoy the day while we're trying to get married i finally had enough so after she told me what she did i cancelled the payment on my credit card after spending hours dealing with my credit card company and told her she could either set up a date at the church or find someone else to marry because i've had enough of this she spent the last couple hours bawling her eyes out to her mom and making me seem like the monster after she went behind my back well after all this went down yesterday i decided to check all of my finances and found out that not only had she exceeded the limit we'd agreed to but that some of the money coming out didn't make sense she had transferred almost two thousand dollars to her mother recently i confronted her about this today and her answer was that her mom needed the money to come down because she can't be spending her money right now due to a new business venture her mother and father are involved in i was angry because it's bull that not only is the mother and father not helping with the wedding but we have to pay for them the entire time too these people are pretty well off so it's pretty ridiculous that wasn't the end of it though because after more arguing my fiance told me that she paid for her mother and her dad to come down last time too and it wasn't a big deal and that i didn't even notice the money was gone so who cares after learning all this i told her the wedding was off for now until i get a chance to think things through she cried and begged for another chance but i wouldn't budge i told her i need time she's staying at the hotel with her mother tonight and i'm not sure what i'm going to do yet i'm so mad right now and feel really betrayed i don't know if she's the right one for me anymore we have talked over the phone recently but still haven't gotten anywhere it's a pretty tough situation all around i'm the matron of honor in my best friend's wedding when she asked me over a year ago i was so psyched my own wedding was very small and low-key and hers is anything but and i was so happy to be a part of it i love hosting parties so i was especially looking forward to the shower and bachelorette that i could throw her this wedding has brought out the absolute worst in my friend it's been an endless source of drama for the past year and not in the way that all weddings are it's crisis after crisis and it came to a head this week i'll spare you the details of past dramas because this post would stretch for miles but in summary nothing anyone does is good enough so much work has been thrown my way that i feel completely used and burnt out and the world revolves only around her example my mom is going through chemo for a very aggressive cancer my friend never asks how she's doing her sole topics of conversation are the wedding and how much she hates her future in-laws i don't expect my mom's cancer to monopolize our conversation and i'm more than happy to talk about the wedding for hours but seriously an inquiry to see how my mom and i are holding up would be grand okay on to the actual issue i'm eight weeks pregnant with my second child planned pregnancy and the bride knew we were trying months ago and it wasn't an issue then apparently i told her almost as soon as i knew i was pregnant i wanted to get ahead of it and not surprise her when we go to a dress fitting for example and i refuse champagne when i told her i swore her to secrecy i told her i wasn't even telling my family or my husband's family until we're out of the first trimester because we've had a few pregnancies lost and man does it suck to have to tell your family you've lost it she said she understood and would keep it quiet the wedding is in two months and my dress is a loose empire waist no one will know i'm pregnant there and i was happy keeping it that way earlier this week we're off doing wedding things and she says casually that her future mother-in-law thinks i should be demoted to bridesmaid since i'm pregnant my immediate response how does she know i'm pregnant i think she was surprised i'd caught her and she stuttered out that her fiance told her mother-in-law i don't think that's true as i was on the phone later that day with her mother who congratulated me so now both sides of the wedding know i'm so incredibly furious and hurt these people don't know my family so i'm not too concerned about it getting back to them but my immediate concern is what happens if i lose the baby i'll presumably have people congratulating me at the upcoming shower and i'll either get to grit my teeth and say thanks to avoid drama slash making the shower about me or i'll tell them what's happened and make it the crappiest shower ever i'm so annoyed right now i'm leaning to option two obviously i'm hoping this pregnancy sticks but with a history of loss this is where my mind goes i feel betrayed i haven't confronted her because in the moment she told me i was so shocked i froze which is my go-to stress response she doesn't know how hurt i am i've realized that this is the last straw of this friendship the entire wedding has strained us and this event did it in my initial plan was ghosting after the wedding i'll be a good matron of honor because it's the right thing to do but after she leaves for her honeymoon i'm going to fade away she's so self-absorbed i doubt she'll notice but then my husband suggested i just walk out tell her i feel betrayed leave the wedding and end it now and i can't help but admit i really really want to i am so angry that the thought of attending the wedding and hosting the shower makes me ill it's complicated by the fact that despite the wedding size the wedding party itself is just me and the best man there's no obvious next bridesmaid to step up if i walk my breast enhancement surgery is scheduled by the end of this month i've dreamed of it for a long time and i finally got a chance and money to do it apparently my best friend isn't happy about it her wedding is in early september and i am a maid of honor so far everything has been going good but yesterday she asked me whether i would consider doing it after the wedding i was surprised because she knows it's perfect timing for me and there are many reasons behind it i was curious why she asked that she says she wants to be the hottest one in her wedding party and i may overshadow her with my new melons i said if it bothers her so much i will wear something not revealing and will not flash my melons in front of everyone she looked hurt and heartbroken set a cold goodbye and laughed i'm kind of confused i don't want to and can't change my date but i feel upset about the whole situation some things start making sense she didn't include our other best friend who was really hot in her wedding party and we both were shocked about it but didn't question it much her wedding her decisions instead she picked her future sister-in-laws bridesmaids who are twins and quite chubby they are very sweet ladies but the bride called them land whales behind their back ones and i told her it's not very nice so she picked people she thinks are less hot than her and somehow i ended up on this list she doesn't want me to get hotter either i don't know how to feel the son of one of my husband's family friends showed up to my wedding in his marines formal wear complete with all his medals now i have nothing against anyone in the military but this was a black tie optional wedding and frankly it felt very out of place and it seemed like he was just trying to show off my wedding had over 300 guests and nobody else felt the need to wear something to make them stand out up until the point that i asked him to leave he of course was acting very well mannered and like a complete gentleman as one might expect from a member of the armed forces and there were even a few excited girls at my wedding who wanted to take a picture with him to which he graciously agreed many people were thanking him for his service and frankly it just felt like the only reason he wore that was to be in the spotlight and make it about him which i don't think you were supposed to do at someone else's wedding if he wants to wear that to his own wedding then fine but the whole point of having a dress code at a wedding is so that no one guest will stand out too much i felt that he should have known this since the whole point of uniforms in the military is so that you don't stand out from everyone else i felt kind of bad asking him to leave but it just didn't feel right for him to be there like that holy crap this reminds me of a wedding i went to as a kid it was on the beach in north carolina the bride loved butterflies so she wanted to do a ceremony where we would release the butterflies into the sky to symbolize their love taking off or some basic crap like that they must have shipped the butterflies in from somewhere because the officiant started handing out these wax paper envelopes from a cardboard ups box she gave the cue and then we were all supposed to open the envelopes and let them fly free do you know what happens when you stuff live butterflies into wax envelopes ship them across the country and release them into an environment they aren't native to ten-year-old me found out when i opened my envelope and my butterfly just dropped into the sand the ones that were still alive struggled to move and eventually gave up the bride and groom had to step over dead butterflies as they made their way to the reception my little sister cried in the end though the butterflies ended up being an excellent metaphor for that whole marriage my partner's sister is getting married and he is a groomsman while i am just a guest a few weeks ago i asked my partner's sister paula and her fiance stephen what colors to avoid wearing to the wedding such as their theme colors and bridesmaid colors etc they said that they didn't have theme colors but the bridesmaids are in bronzy champagne and the groomsmen are in a pale tan color sweet i went dress shopping and found a beautiful emerald green dress it was on sale but still a little pricey but i fell in love with it so i bought it this past weekend we were staying with paula and stephen and paula mentioned that she doesn't want anyone wearing black at her wedding or want any hint of black at all i was nodding along until stephen said yeah and if anyone wears green i'll lose my mind when i asked why it turns out that his suit is a particular shade of forest green that he's getting custom made and he wants to be the only person wearing green like how no one else wears white out of respect for the bride fair when i asked if other shades of green would be okay he said that he would feel like his day was ruined if anyone wore any green of any shade at all i can't return my dress and i've been panic searching all week and i can't find anything similar in a different color or anything that i like enough to drop money on it it hasn't been mentioned on any invitations or any announcements not to wear green so surely there may be others [Music] you

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Published: Mon Jul 27 2020