So you wanna learn how to make someone want
you back, huh? Well, sit back and hold on tight, because
in this YouTube video, I am going to share the goods so that YOU can make that one special
person take you back for good. Greetings and salutations, YouTube! My name is Brad Browning, your “Ex Back
Expert”… and I’ve been coaching people on how to get their exes back for over 10
years. So if you’re looking to get your ex back,
then this is the only channel that you’ll need to watch! Okay, now we have that housekeeping out of
the way… how do you make someone want you back? Well, I have dozens of videos on this topic,
but for this one I am going to organize my technique into four simple steps. Now these steps are only to get your ex to
feel that initial burst of desire again – this video ISN’T about how to build a long and
lasting relationship with them once you get them back. For that, you’ll need to watch some of my
other videos, but if you’re not at that stage yet, then stick around, I think you’ll
really get a lot out of this video! Now, a lot of the advice that I’m going
to give you is going to sound counter-intuitive at first… and some of it may just sound
downright sneaky and manipulative to you. Despite your reservations, I implore you to
watch this entire video to the end and hear me out… because by the end of it, it’ll
all make sense to you. Okay, so STEP ONE is more so of what NOT to
do if you want somebody to desire you again. So let’s start off by listing some common
mistakes that need to be avoided at all costs… 1.) Calling and texting your ex constantly. I swear that 90% of all of the people who
email say the same thing… that their ex dumped them, that they feel like shit, and
that they’ve been constantly trying to contact their ex BEGGING for a second chance. This is a massive mistake… and it’s a
massive mistake even to call them ONCE. Why? Well, displaying this sort of desperation
is only going to show your ex that you’re absolutely miserable and broken without them…
and this sort of very unattractive behaviour is going to push your ex further and further
away. I mean, think about it from your perspective
in the past… have you ever been pursued DESPERATELY before? Some of you may think that this wouldn’t
be too bad, but if you’ve ever been completely and totally obsessed over, it can be quite
a turn off. So before you pick up that iPhone on your
table to message your ex, just take a second to relax and keep watching this video. But now you’re probably thinking… well
how the HECK am I supposed to get someone to want me back if I don’t talk to them? Well, I’ll get to that in the later portions
of this video, but for now, put the text messaging and calling on hold. 2.) Mistake two… using hysterics, pity, and
begging to try and convince your ex to come back. Remember, you’re never going to convince
your ex to take you back by using logic. Love and emotion trump any sort of logic when
it comes to relationships, so keep this in mind moving forward. Nobody will take you back out of pity… and
if they do, that relationship will be DOOMED to fail. Instead, what you need to do is follow the
advice I outline in this video you do it properly. More on this later. 3.) Mistake number 3 – always saying YES to
your ex. This mistake is, again, fairly counter-intuitive. At this point, I bet you that if your ex asked
you for a favour, you’d do whatever it takes to perform that errand for them. I’m guessing that you would sacrifice almost
anything to get it done too, right? While this may SOUND like it would work, it
DOESN’T. Being your ex’s doormat is ridiculously unattractive and it’s only going to make
him or her respect you even LESS. If you really want to get someone to desire
you again, they have to respect you. Which brings me toooooooo… 4.) Mistake number 4: getting hysterical if you
find out your ex is dating someone new. I know, this is may be one of the most painful
situations to go through in life, but it isn’t as awful as you think it is. If your ex is in a relationship with another
person directly after your breakup, they’re in what is known as a “rebound relationship”. And typically speaking, these rebound relationships
don’t last… so what you need to do is simply weather the storm and wait for the
perfect opportunity to get your ex back. 5.) Mistake number 5 is… showering your ex with
gifts and affection. Again, this is another counter-intuitive mistake. Like the last few mistakes, showing your ex
that you’ve put him or her on the metaphorical pedestal is MASSIVELY unattractive behaviour. So don’t buy your ex gifts, don’t make
them presents, don’t call your ex showering him or her with compliments. Just no, no, no! Not now! 6.) Desperation isn’t the only emotion people
feel when they’ve been rejected… sometimes they just feel rage! So mistake number 6 is lashing out at your
ex. This is where you could do some permanent
damage to your relationship with your ex, so steer clear of any sort of name-calling
or hysterical yelling. Again, you’re never going to “logic”
your way back into someone’s heart… ESPECIALLY if you’re screaming at the top
of your lungs. Doing so will only re-affirm your ex’s decision
to steer clear of you and you might ruin your chances of every building a healthy relationship
with that person forever. 7.) Mistake number 7 is obsessing and overanalyzing
the situation with your ex. I know, easier said than done, right? All you want to do is just read old text messages
and old letters trying to figure out where you went wrong and how you can fix it. Just stop this now. Doing this will only further put your ex on
that metaphorical pedestal, and I can guarantee you that you won’t find any answers by doing
this. What’s done is done and you need to move
on with a proper course of action! Of course, there are dozens of other brutal
mistakes that people commit when they’re trying to get someone to want them back…
so if you want the full scoop, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com and watch that free
video presentation on that topic. Okay! So step 2… give your ex some room to breathe
and stop contacting them. This step ESPECIALLY crucial if you want that
special person to want you back again. So what does no-contact mean? Well, it’s pretty self-explanatory. It means ABSOLUTELY NO COMMUNICATION WITH
YOUR EX WHATSOEVER! That means no texting, no drunk dialing, no
social media interactions, no liking their photos on Instagram, no SnapChatting, no NOTHING. ESPECIALLY… do not “accidentally but not
so accidentally” run into your ex in public. You’ll give him or her the utter creeps
and they’ll begin running for the hills. And ABSOLUTELY do not ask mutual friends about
your ex either. If your ex gets wind that you’re trying
to pry into his or her private life after the breakup, you’ll turn them away completely. So I know what you’re probably thinking
right now… why would this work? Why would NOT contacting your ex convince
them to take you back? All the movies that I’ve watched show men
and women performing insane, over the top gestures of love and it WORKS! Well, those movies are hogwash. Your ex absolutely needs this time away from
so they can revert back to what I call “Emotional Neutral”. See, right after the breakup, you and your
ex are feeling a slurry of negative emotions… everything from sadness, to depression, to
anxiousness, anger, and frustration. And when someone is feeling all of these negative
emotions, it’s almost impossible for them to turn things around make them want you again
over night. No, they need time to recover from this ordeal
and return to an emotional state that is stable… or, what I like to call, “Emotional Neutral”. It’s at this point where they’ll be more
receptive to your later attempts to make them want you again. And not only do THEY need time apart from
you… but YOU need time apart from THEM too. Right now, you’re also probably feeling
sad, lonely, angry, and rejected… and all you want to do is have a few shots of whiskey
and call your ex up out of the blue. But again, this is exactly what NOT to do. In order for your ex to want you again (to
the point where he or she HAS to take you back), then you need to be in the best version
of yourself. You need to be happy, positive, and living
your best life. Your ex will not settle for anything less. You’ll also be able to use this time to
improve yourself in ways that you couldn’t before. Free time isn’t such a bad thing. I know, the feeling of loneliness can be a
real bitch, but only if you let it. Now is the time to fill this vacancy with
hobbies, passions, and things that make you happy. Maybe you’ve always wanted to go to the
gym more… and now you can. Maybe you’ve always wanted to take up painting
as a hobby…now you can. So how LONG should this period of No Contact
be? Typically speaking, it takes about 30 days
for someone to return back to what I call “emotional neutral”… but this depends
on a variety of factors. If your relationship ended on extremely poor
terms, for example, it may take several months for your ex to return to emotional neutral. But for most circumstances, 30 days should
suffice. If you’re unsure as to how long you should
wait, then I encourage to check out my personal coaching program. To check out how you can hire ME as your breakup
coach, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching. Once you go on that page, you’ll see exactly
how my email coaching program works and how many spots are available. SO… are there any exceptions to No Contact? I get that question all the time. For the most part, there are no exceptions. If it’s their birthday or if it’s a very,
VERY special occasion, a quick text is permitted, but it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to just
bypass that for now. In fact, even if your ex texts you during
this period, just avoid them for now. Sometimes this will frustrate your ex to the
point that they’ll begin to want you back just based on your indifference! If they really do begin pestering you like
mad, then just reply to them in a few days with something simple like, “Sorry, I’ve
been busy!” and that’s it. NOTHING MORE. Of course, there are other exceptions like
if you live with your ex or if you have children with them. If contact is absolutely necessary then of
course, you’ll have to engage with your ex. But make sure your interactions are cordial
and minimal. Avoid getting sucked into long, emotional
conversations because these are at risk of ending poorly. If you are living with your ex, arrange to
move out from their place as quickly as possible (or get them to move out). WHEW… okay, this is a long video so I’ll
try and move it along here. Step 3 is to become the very best version
of you possible. Once again, you need to use this time apart
from your ex to better yourself and your life. Remember, your ex will never take you back
if you’re feeling sorry for yourself – however, your ex WILL want to take you back if they
see you living your absolute best life… and looking good while doing so! So my biggest tip for this section is… CONCENTRATE ON YOUR APPEARANCE! I’d be lying if I said that improving your
physical appearance won’t improve your chances of getting your ex back. So go get a fresh haircut, go to the dentist,
stop eating junk food and go to the gym EVERYDAY (yes, everyday)… and go on a shopping spree
for new clothes. To be perfectly honest, these are things that
you should be doing on a regular basis anyways, so you’ve got absolutely nothing to lose
here. On top of looking good, there are a ton of
ways to improve yourself mentally as well. Go out with friends and enjoy being social
again… it’ll make you feel great to be distracted, and you might even meet some cool
people along the way too. And along those lines, feel free to start
DATING again. I know, you probably don’t want to and you’ll
feel like you’re perhaps “cheating” on your ex, but put those feelings on the
backburner and make sure to give dating a shot. If anything, it’s a great distraction and
it may be a great way to build that confidence you may have lost. Finally, you’ll also want to take this time
to NOT focus on your ex at all. That means you need to remove ANY reminders
that you have of your ex… or at least as many as possible. So move all of those photos you have of him
or her to a private folder on your phone. Take the time to move all of their gifts into
a shoe box to store in the attic… and just do whatever you need to do so that you stop
thinking about your ex 24/7. This will be extremely hard to do in the first
few days after the breakup, but don’t stress. Every day that passes will become easier and
easier! Trust me on this one. A huge goal of step 3 is to become an attractive
person, period. Not even to your ex, but to every person of
the opposite sex. I can guarantee you that one of the reasons
why your ex broke up you was because you STOPPED exhibiting some characteristics that your
ex found attractive before. So what you need to do is becoming YOU 2.0. And here we go on to step 4… contact your
ex at the right time and hang out with them. Okay, so where are we at now? We’re at the point where you’re becoming
the BEST VERSION OF YOU RSELF. You’re engaging in NO CONTACT but you’re
also using this time wisely to improve your life, meet people, and spend time with your
friends. All the while, your ex is living their life
and returning to Emotional Neutral. Now what? How do we make them WANT you again? Well, if you’ve just finished No Contact,
now is the time to reach out to them. And there are several ways to do this… but
the very BEST way is through text messaging. I’ve made dozens of videos on this topic,
so feel free to poke around my channel and watch one of those videos after this, but
simply put, you need to send your ex a quick text to break the ice. It can’t be something like “hey” or
“what’s up”… no, you have to do something that actually makes your ex WANT to respond
to you. Let’s jump into an example here… you could
say something like… “Hey! Long time, no chat. Just wondering about something…I’m buying
a guitar tomorrow and I know you know a lot about that shit! Care to help me out?” Or you could text something along the lines
of… “Hey! Hope you’re doing well. I’m booking a trip to Japan next month and
I know you were just there. Care to help me out?” And that’s it. You need to craft a message that A.) simple
and easy going, and B.) has a purpose. What we want to do right now is to make it
seem like the only reason you’re texting your ex is because you need something from
them, and nothing more. If you’ve been playing your cards right
up until this point, your ex should at least be receptive to messaging you back. And from there, you’re going to have to
set up an in-person meet. To do this, use your original text message
as a means to set up a meet. So, for example, if they reply to the first
example text… you could say something like… “Oh cool, yeah I’ve been hearing about
those Taylor guitars. Any chance I could buy you a quick coffee
so I can pick your brain?” Or… “Nice! I’ve heard great things about Osaka as well. Mind if buy you lunch so I can pick your brain? Would be nice to see you anyways.” Once you do meet up with your ex, that’s
when the MAGIC happens… and this is how you’ll REALLY get your ex to want you back. But you can’t forget everything that I’ve
taught you from steps 1-3 here… so when you DO meet up with your ex, make sure you’re
exhibiting all of the positive behaviours that I outlined in this video. That means that you’re going to remain upbeat,
happy, and positive. And now is also a great time to show off your
new haircut and style… and maybe your improved hot bod as well! But the REAL way to make your ex want you
again is to FLIRT. Now, I’m not going to go into great detail
about how to flirt. There are plenty of videos that I have that
cover this exact topic in greater depth… but what I usually tell my clients is to treat
your first meetup with your ex as if you’re going on a first date. That means you’re outgoing, charismatic,
and fun. You’re making good eye contact, you’re
smiling at their jokes, and you’re touching your ex when appropriate. Doing that alone will make your ex want you
back… but there are a few more tactics that are proven to work extremely well. I call this technique the “Sensual Reminder”
tactic… here’s how it goes. During your coffee or lunch date with your
ex, you could allude to a steamy time you shared together… but don’t make it TOO
obvious. For example, you could say something like… “Hey, that reminds me of that cabin trip
we took! Man, those were some fun nights huh?” And then you could give your ex a flirty little
smirk. Obviously when you do say this, you’ll want
to be subtle and say this in a joking way. You’ll ultimately just want to make your
ex smile and later fantasize about how steamy those nights were. Once your ex sees how vibrant, attractive,
and fun you are, they are only going to want you more and more! And if you’ve REALLY put an effort into
becoming the best version of yourself, it’ll only be a matter of time before they’re
back in your arms for good. Whew, so I know this video was pretty long
but honestly, I haven’t even scratched the SURFACE of how to make someone truly want
you back… I’ve pretty much only covered the basics
of how you’ll get your foot in the door. If you want to learn my ENTIRE system, then
you’re going to have to head on over to BreakupBrad.com and watch that free video
presentation on my website. Be sure to ask me any questions you have in
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content here on YouTube. Okay, I’m going to go grab a drink of water
now… talk to you guys later!
