Ladies and gentlemen, I am Brad Browning,
YouTube’s #1 most trusted breakup coach with over 12 years experience helping people
like you get back together with an ex. And in this video, I’ll be sharing some
of my VERY BEST tips and tactics to win back your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend… these
are some of the most effective, proven techniques that I’ve seen work for my coaching clients
over and over again. I’ll also be including a couple of brand
new tricks that I’ve never publicly shared before, so watch to the end if you want to
hear all of my juiciest ex back tactics and advice. Let’s not waste any more time here… without
further ado, here’s tip #1 for getting your ex to come running back to you: #1 - Don’t rush the process or “force
it”. Folks, it doesn’t get any more basic than
this, but it also doesn’t get much more CRITICAL than this, either. Here’s the thing: most people in your situation
-- when you’re facing the possibility of the person you love slipping out of your life
forever -- are feeling desperate. And I totally understand that; it’s a natural
reaction after you’ve been dumped or gone through a tough breakup. You desperately want to do SOMETHING… ANYTHING… to get your ex to change their
mind and take you back. But, the problem is… ACTING on that desperation or those post-breakup
emotions is almost ALWAYS a bad idea. You CAN NOT rush the process of changing your
ex’s mind about breaking up. You can NOT show ANY kind of desperation at
all, either… and not just during the early phases, but throughout the entire process. Desperation is an attraction killer. Trust me on this, I’ve seen many of my clients
make this mistake despite my best efforts to talk them out of it…. If you appear too desperate, if you try to
push your ex by contacting them too frequently or begging and pleading with them… it’s
only going to make your situation WORSE. Take a step back for a minute and think about
things from your ex’s perspective. Would you be attracted to an ex who won’t
stop bothering you? Would you be attracted to someone who seems
to have nothing else going on their life except chasing after you? Would you be more or less likely to want to
take someone back if they begged and pleaded and tried to talk you into giving them another
chance? Obviously, the answer is no to all of those
questions. So by trying to rush the process… by trying
to reach out to your ex frequently, by trying to talk them into giving your relationship
another try… you’re only pushing them further away. This is something you need to keep in mind
throughout the entire process of winning back your ex… which is why I’ve made it the
very first tip in this video. Never, ever get too excited or too eager around
your ex… never force things or try to rush it. #2 - Be realistic about your chances of getting
them back. Look, I’ve said this many times before in
my past videos… unfortunately, not every relationship can or should be salvaged. Sometimes, things might be so broken that
it’s just not possible to ever realistically have a chance at getting back together. I know that sucks to hear, but it’s the
truth: many relationships can and should be revived, but in some cases it’s just not
realistic or wise to even try. How do you know whether your situation fits
into this “beyond saving” category? How do you know if you’ve still got a chance
of turning things around with your ex? Honestly, the best way to find out is to take
my free 5-minute quiz. Go to BreakupBrad.com/Quiz, answer a few questions
about your breakup situation, and the quiz will evaluate your answers and generate a
comprehensive report breaking down your chances and where you stand with your ex right now. Again take the quiz for free at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
and see for yourself whether there’s still hope for winning back your ex. If the quiz says your situation is hopeless
-- which is usually fairly uncommon, but it does happen -- then please think long and
hard about whether you should continue to pursue your ex. In dire situations like this, it’s usually
best to start moving on and focus on finding someone new rather than continuing to chase
after an ex who either isn’t right for you, or isn’t ever going to be willing to give
you a second chance. If your quiz score is in the low 60’s or
above -- say, if you score anything over 62 or 63 -- that indicates you still have a chance. If you score above 75, you have plenty of
reason to be optimistic, and you should still be able to get back together assuming you
play your cards right from this point onwards. #3 - Don’t underestimate the power of No
Contact. Ah yes, No Contact… I know you’ve already heard about this strategy
many times before. And do you know why this technique is something
that I recommend so frequently? Because it WORKS. It works EXTREMELY well in the vast majority
of breakup situations. If you don’t want to take my word for it,
please check out any of my other YouTube videos about No Contact and look at the comments
section. You’ll see literally hundreds of people
commenting to say how well No Contact worked for them… and that’s honestly just the
tip of the iceberg. I get emails on a daily basis from viewers
and clients who’ve used No Contact and ended up back with their ex. Here’s a few examples: ** CHRIS - please display the images in the
folder “297 IMAGES” on-screen at this point. You can show a couple at a time on-screen,
just long enough for people to read the key part of each screenshot. Maybe leave the very best ones on-screen for
a bit longer if possible. (Images: 297-1.jpg, 297-2.jpg, 297-3.jpg,
etc) ** Let me explain briefly why No Contact is so
powerful: First, it’s because this strategy essentially
“shocks” your ex into learning what life is like without you. Instead of slowly fading out of your ex’s
life, you’re forcing them to experience it “cold turkey”... they won’t be able
to just call you and chat whenever they miss you, and they won’t have that feeling of
“comfort” knowing that you’re still around any time they want to talk or hang
out. It’s critical that you give your ex that
kind of a “shock” treatment rather than letting them slowly get used to life without
you. Secondly, No Contact is the opposite of what
your ex is expecting you to do. Most people, because it’s the natural reaction
after a breakup, tend to cling to their ex for as long as possible after breaking up…
they reach out regularly, they try to “stay friends”, and they just generally end up
serving as an emotional dumping ground for their ex. By doing the opposite of what your ex is expecting
you to do, you’re taking control of the situation and shifting the “balance of power”
in your favour… now, when you engage in a period of No Contact, you have the power
to decide when your ex gets to talk with you or hang out with you. They’re suddenly facing a situation they
didn’t anticipate when they planned to break up. Third, it gives your ex time to let go of
negative memories and emotions. As I’ve mentioned in other videos previously,
all humans have a natural tendency to forget bad memories and let go of negative thoughts
and emotions after a certain period of time. This is actually a natural coping mechanism
that’s evolved over thousands of years of human evolution… we can’t dwell on negatives
for long, or else we’ll spend our lives in a state of depression. So, use that to your advantage by giving your
ex time to start forgetting about the negative aspects of your relationship… this will,
given time, happen on its own, without you having to do anything other than engage in
a period of No Contact. Studies have shown this will “peak” around
30 days after the breakup, so by employing a 30-day No Contact period, you’re allowing
enough time for those negative emotions and memories to fade into the back of your ex’s
mind. I like to say that this is basically like
re-setting your ex’s brain to an “emotional neutral” state. Additionally, another benefit to No Contact
is that it gives you time to “chill out” and re-set your own emotions. You definitely don’t want to be acting on
emotion when you talk with your ex, and you often can’t think straight during the early
stages after a breakup… so, by ignoring your ex for a few weeks, you put yourself
back into a better frame of mind. By the end of the No Contact period, you’ll
be far less likely to act desperate or say something to your ex that might hurt your
chances or push them away unintentionally. Lastly, No Contact allows you some time to
focus on yourself. During No Contact -- which I’ve recently
started to call “Dynamic No Contact” to highlight the important self-improvement aspect
-- you need to be keeping busy, meeting new friends, and living an interesting, exciting
life. This will make you a more interesting, more
appealing person to your ex when you do begin talking with them again… and it will put
you in a better position to re-attract them once the No Contact period is over. Again, the key takeaway is this: No Contact
is a VERY powerful and effective strategy in almost EVERY breakup situation. If you want to know more about how to use
No Contact PROPERLY, and how to MAXIMIZE the benefits of No Contact, click the little icon
in the corner here and watch my previous comprehensive tutorial video on No Contact. I’ll also link to a couple of related No
Contact videos in the description below… including one video that covers 3 types of
situations where you should NOT use No Contact. #4 - Spend as much time as possible with friends
and family. OK, I know what you’re thinking… how the
hell is hanging out with my friends and family going to help me get my ex back? Well, hear me out… because this is actually
something that I’ve started to recommend more and more to my clients, because I’ve
come to see how valuable this really is. First of all, chilling with friends and family
is usually enjoyable. It’s a great way to keep your mind off your
ex and off the breakup, and live in the moment. This is especially true if you avoid talking
about your ex when you’re with friends, and instead just have fun hanging out. - When To AVOID Using No Contact: https://youtu.be/GTjEAGJWTuA
- 7 Keys to Using No Contact Properly: https://youtu.be/f7zuXk-sVsI - 10 Things To Do After No Contact Is Over:
https://youtu.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Show less Secondly, you’ll quickly find that hanging
out with friends and family can be a powerful tool for re-building your own confidence and
self-esteem. Your friends and family like you -- at least,
I hope they do -- and hanging out with people that enjoy your company is a great ego boost. It will make you feel more confident in yourself,
and help you realize that you’re an awesome catch for anyone of the opposite sex…. Including your ex, who would be crazy to let
someone as well-liked as you walk out of their life. This is also a great time to re-connect with
old friends that you maybe haven’t talked to much lately. If there’s someone you used to hang out
with regularly that you’ve recently fallen out of touch with, reach out and spark up
a conversation. Revive that old friendship, or try to make
new friends. Again, this is a confidence-booster, but it’s
also a way to come up with new things to talk to your ex about when you see them or begin
talking to them again… you can tell them about how you recently saw an old friend,
talk about the plans you’ve made with this old friend, and so on. Please take my word on this one… being around other people in social settings
-- whether that’s re-connecting with old friends or just hanging out with family more
often -- is going to help your own state of mind, and improve your chances of getting
back together with your ex. #5 - When talking with your ex, focus on making
the conversation ENJOYABLE for them. This is a mistake that I see my clients and
followers make CONSTANTLY. You’ve employed a period of No Contact,
and start to open the lines of communication with your ex again… you’re exchanging
text messages or phone calls, and then eventually hanging out with your ex in person. You want them to take you back…. So you try to talk about the relationship. You re-hash old drama or disagreements from
when you were still together. Maybe you’re just doing this to try and
explain to your ex how you’ve changed since the breakup, or how things will be different
if you get back together… but, this kind of approach is 100% guaranteed to ruin your
chances. Trust me, guys… if you want your ex back,
you need to make EVERY conversation and hang-out session with them ENJOYABLE. You want your ex to end a conversation thinking
to themselves, “well, that was fun”... you want your texts to make your ex smile
or laugh when they read them. What you DO NOT want… under any circumstances…
is to remind your ex of the problems that plagued your old relationship. You DO NOT want them to end a conversation
thinking to themselves, “ugh, more drama again”. You want your ex to have a good time when
they see you or talk to you, not be reminded of old problems or disagreements from the
past. Don’t ever, ever try to bring up “serious
relationship topics” with your ex until you’re fully back together… keep it light,
fun, and enjoyable for your ex. #6 - NEVER show any jealousy around your ex. This ties in to my previous tip, and it’s
just as important. You don’t ever, EVER want to outwardly display
any kind of jealousy around your ex. I know it’s painful and frustrating to hear
rumours that your ex may have gone on a date with someone new… and I know you desperately
want to ask them about it… but DON’T. Act like you don’t give a flying fuck about
your ex’s love life since the breakup. Don’t give ANY sense that you’re jealous
about anything, even if you’re feeling the complete opposite on the inside… instead,
pretend you don’t care at all about who your ex is seeing or what they’re doing
with their spare time. As I mentioned before, avoid drama and keep
things fun for your ex. Jealousy isn’t fun, and it certainly isn’t
attractive, so do your absolute best to never show any kind of jealousy around your ex. #7 - Be willing to play some harmless mind
games on your ex. Now I’m not talking about anything really
egregious here guys… when I say “mind games”, I don’t mean lying to your ex
or manipulating them in some way. I just mean that it can be very useful to
use basic human psychology to your advantage in order to win your ex back. I’ll give you 2 examples: Number 1… texting. When you get a text from your ex out of the
blue, wait an hour or two before you reply. Remember: you’re playing the role of a busy,
confident person who is ready to move on… so, if you’re willing to wait a while before
replying to your ex’s texts, it will make them wonder what you were doing and subconsciously
assume that you’re out doing interesting stuff and living life without them. Also related to texting: be the one to end
conversations. Let your ex send the last message in a back-and-forth
texting exchange. Again, this isn’t really sneaky or immoral
stuff -- you’re just making a small effort to quietly be the one to end most conversations
with your ex. It’s a power play of sorts, where you’re
asserting your own value as a person and your confidence with life in general. This is attractive behaviour for your ex,
and will subtly and subconsciously shift the way they think about you in a positive way. The second example… my Covert Jealousy tactic. I talk a lot about this technique in the full
tutorial video on my website, BreakupBrad.com. Covert Jealousy allows you to subtly hint
to your ex that you might be dating again… even if you’re not actually doing so yet…
in a safe and effective way. It puts your ex under some pressure to decide
if they’re sure about the breakup, and can often be enough on its own to make your ex
decide to ask for a second chance. This kind of urgency is critical to winning
back your ex, so it certainly helps if you’re willing to use a tactic like Covert Jealousy
to your advantage. Again, if you want to learn more about how
to properly use this technique yourself, watch my full video presentation at BreakupBrad.com. So, in summary, if you’re willing to use
a bit of basic human psychology to your advantage by playing some sneaky but harmless “mind
games” on your ex… it’s going to help your cause. #8 - Consider working with me through my 1-on-1
coaching program. A lot of people find themselves in unique
or unusual situations that my general advice doesn’t fully address… and in those cases,
please consider signing up for my 1-on-1 coaching service to get my help on an ongoing basis
as your situation develops. I’ll learn about your situation, give you
some ongoing advice moving forward, and continue to correspond with you as things change and
you have questions about how to maximize your chances of getting back together. To learn more, see my current availability,
and sign up, visit BreakupBrad.com/Coaching. #9 - Focus only on things within your control. This one is pretty self-explanatory, but you
should try your absolute best to avoid worrying about things that are out of your control. Did you hear a rumour your ex has been dating
someone new? Well, there’s nothing you can do to change
that, so it’s out of your control… and therefore it’s not worth stressing about,
or even thinking about. Are you worried that your ex isn’t posting
sad lyrics and quotes on social media after your breakup? Worried that might mean they’re not missing
you and have already moved on? Well, that’s just not a useful train of
thought… it’s out of your control, you can’t change how they’re feeling or accurately
read into what it means that they’re not posting breakup quotes on social media. That means it’s not worth worrying about,
so push it out of your mind and focus on things you CAN control. Take it from the martial arts legend Georges
St Pierre… ** CHRIS: please cut away from Brad and display
image “Focus.jpg” on-screen for a few seconds at this point before cutting back
to Brad ** #10 - Have faith in proven techniques and
stay the course. OK, my final tip today is a very important
one. Since you’re watching this video right now,
I’m assuming you’re doing your homework… you’re learning how to get a second chance
with your ex by researching online and watching videos like this one. That’s great, and I applaud you for taking
action to make sure you do things properly to maximize your chances. And you’ll get a lot of very savvy, very
effective advice and tips from breakup coaches like myself… not all of the stuff you’ll
read online is correct or trustworthy, but much of it is good advice that will actually
help you out. And you can definitely trust the strategies
and techniques that I teach in my Ex Factor program and here on my YouTube channel. BUT… while learning and researching is great,
you NEED to actually APPLY these techniques in order for them to actually work. You can’t just learn all about how effective
the No Contact technique is, and then only apply it for 5 days before you give up and
start spamming your ex. No Contact doesn’t work if you only do it
for 5 days, and the same is true for most of what I teach… you need to actually apply
what you learn in videos like this one, exactly the way I describe, in order for it to be
truly effective. If you don’t have the self-discipline to
stick with it and have faith in the proven techniques you learn about, they simply won’t
work. So, if you take one thing away from this video,
let it be this: have faith, apply what I’ve taught you in this video and in my full tutorial
at BreakupBrad.com, and stick with it until it works. There you have it folks, that’s 9 pieces
of advice to get your ex back as quickly as possible… I hope you learned something, and I hope you’re
able to get out there and use these tips to get a second chance with your ex. As always, if you have a quick question or
a bit of feedback for me, please drop a comment below the video…. I read every one and try to reply to as many
of you as I can. Thanks for liking, subscribing, and watching
to the end… see you again soon!
