Never Fight For His Attention! Do This Instead

some women when their relationship with a man isn't what it used to be so for example a guy starts the ghost them a guy becomes inconsiderate doesn't have time for date nights anymore or he starts to lose interest and so on they think I have to make him fear losing me because when he fears losing me he's going to fight for me he will drop everything he will realize and then perhaps even confess how much he loves me what I mean to him how important I am to him then I'm the first thing on his mind when he wakes up and the last thing he thinks about before falling asleep yeah that sounds great that's a great loss strategy let's make him fear losing me well that's actually one of the worst things a woman can ever do in her love life so let's find out why that is and what to do instead in this video I'm an author my name is Heath what was that so that's why I use a pen name Brian Knox and I write books about handling difficult emotions about relationships about dating and not our topics but I'll dive right in first things first it's fine that a man fears losing you because the opposite is the guy that is not afraid to lose you and that knows that he can do whatever he wants in that relationship because you will stick around anyway not good the problem is a verb make if you have to make him fear losing you then that means that you will be playing games in that relationship this means that you will hurt your love life and that you're potentially going to destroy your self-esteem that's not okay so always remember if you have to make a man feel anything then he's probably not the right guy for you if you have to make him love you if you have to make him fear losing you then this means that these feelings are not there organically on their own so even if you then get him to love you if you get him to fear losing you you will have a lot of hard work ahead of you in that relationship you will have to sleep with one eye open and that's never okay I talk about mind games often and a mind game is when our mind makes a mistake and for example believes that something is totally true when in reality it really isn't so here's the first funny thing in this case if your mind ever thinks I have to change what he feels about me I have to change his feelings then it's probably because this guy is important to you maybe you love him a lot maybe you think he's your perfect match or the one your soulmate your twin flame or whatever is he really do how can he ever possibly be that very important guy team if you have to make him few things for you how can he ever be the one he has disqualified himself by not having those feelings organically so it's a mind game if this happens it's not because our mind thinks that someone is important to us that that person is important that that person is making our life better but because of the mind game we may then want to fight for that relationship or at least for what we believe that relationship could one day become just imagine what the rest of that relationship would then look like good morning honey did you sleep okay quick question are you still afraid of losing me no well then I must inform you that I went out on a date with another guy last night I know you thought I was sleeping right next to you but those were just a couple of pillows and some of your teddy bears I was at all night with a hot guy and we had a great first date and those 12 messages that arrived on my phone all the interested men all real alpha males fYI if this is a little bit too nasty for you you can also say I went out on a jog last night and I almost got lost I couldn't find my way back home it's because all the houses and the streets look alike in this neighborhood but just imagine what it would feel like if I would never ever come home again ever is that a smile on your face or maybe you know how you always freak out when you can't find the TV remote or the keys of your car right very scary when that happens isn't it now what if that was me what if you would lose me as you can see if you have to play games like these then you're fighting an uphill battle it's obviously not going to be an awesome relationship then if you have to keep games like these up now I understand that if you ever think about using a strategy like this then it's because you will have a lot of feelings for him he's slipping away he seems to be losing interest the relationship seems to be ending and you want to prevent that you want to save that relationship you want to fight for it in the end may justify the means but it's still a mind game it's never your job to give him feelings for you so if you ever feel like you have to change who you are or how you look or what you're interested in or the kind of underwear you wear or who you are personality wise so he would like you more so he would love you more and he's going to be a bad man for you he may be a great guy but to you for you is going to be a very bad man because he will make you lose yourself see that's what you should actually fear don't make him fear losing you be afraid to lose yourself in that relationship because if you ever have to fight to keep a guy interested in you then you will lose yourself in that relationship that's a promise and it's also going to take you a very long time to recover because this will destroy your self-esteem and no guy is ever worth that so don't ever fight for him to have feelings for you don't fight for his attention don't fight for his affection don't fight for his love fight for him when he just got mugged and the eight-year-old that stole his wallet is still pinning him down to the ground with his skateboard fight for him when he's really sick when he's in his bed than when he needs some of your love some of your care some of your awesome chicken soup fight for the relationship when something happens that hurt the relationship but you can see that he's fighting just as hard as you are to save that relationship so if you have to make him feel or do anything in that relationship then he disqualified himself we should never fight for someone who isn't fighting for us relationships are hard always even when we found the right person to be with but if both people don't want to make that relationship work if both people are not interested in learning how to make the other person feel happy feel love feel content in that relationship then you might as well try to sell a Tesla to an Amish farmer it's kind of pointless so if you ever feel like you need to use a strategy to make him fear losing you then he's not who you think he is he's not the amazing guy that will make you happy and that will give you a great love life and he will probably have been proving that every single day probably as soon as the very first date fight for the guy that makes you happy never fight for the guy that makes you feel miserable now when a woman doesn't play games like these because she only invests in a guy and in a relationship with him when he's investing in her and in that relationship just as much as she is when they both want the same thing and that is for that relationship to have a future to succeed to grow that's really important when she saw solving that relationship and when she's very unapologetic about it because she's not afraid to lose him by being herself and he whoa just like her makes sure that they don't lose each other organically no games required and if that doesn't happen then it means that he simply isn't the right guy for her and although realizing this and then ending it will always hurt a lot like as if someone dropped a bulldozer on your head it will hurt a whole lot less than trying to hang on to someone who doesn't want to be with us and it's when we realized this and when we show that we realize this through our actions that we can become the most attractive version of ourselves and when we become that most attractive version of ourselves that's when we start to attract the right people for us and there you go I hope you appreciate it the message of this video I've loved making it for you as always if you would like to listen to some podcasts or watch some videos that I'm not sharing over here come on over to Brian Knox com make sure to subscribe to my free mailing list over there if you would like to read any of my books or listened to any of my books then go to the Amazon type in my pen name Brian Knox in the search bar over there then you will get a full list of all of my books I will put links to everything underneath this video in the description as well I want to thank you for watching until the end you knew how much I love it when you do that and I hope to see you in another video

Channel: Brian Nox

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Keywords: dating advice for women, love advice, make him like you, tips for women, how to attract men, flirting tips, make him like me, make him love you, make him love me, how to talk to men, dating advice, how to flirt, relationship advice for women, Brian Nox, brian knox

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Length: 8min 21sec (501 seconds)

Published: Tue Jan 28 2020