Using psychology to make your ex want you
back 7 tips to dominate your ex’s thoughts and
desires Or… Top 7 tips to reverse your breakup (scientifically
proven techniques) 217.) 7 Ways To Make Your Ex Think About You Constantly Fear of missing out, or “FOMO”, is an
interesting psychological phenomena that affects pretty much everyone. The fear of missing out at some point is something
we’ve all experienced before. But, what most people don’t realize is that
it originates from a deeply ingrained psychological response… and you can use the very same
response to dominate your ex’s thoughts and drive them wild with desire! Hey guys, I’m Brad Browning, your favorite
breakup expert... If you’re watching one of my videos for
the first time, then hello and thanks for tuning in. I’m the author of the best-selling Ex Factor
program, which teaches readers how to win back their ex and re-build a lasting relationship. If you haven’t already, please make sure
to subscribe to my channel and click that little bell icon right beside the subscribe
button… that way, you’ll be notified when I release my next breakup advice video. Now, as a breakup coach with over 10 years
of experience, I feel it’s important to not only share these techniques with you,
but also explain a little bit of the psychology that makes them so effective. Don’t worry, I won’t get too scientific
and I’ll keep it brief… but I’m devoting this video to the psychology of FOMO, and
I’ll be sharing 7 strategies to use this FOMO response in order to drive your ex back
into your arms. Oh, and quickly before we begin, I want to
thank one of my subscribers, Al, for the idea to make a video on this topic… thanks Al! So, let’s get to it – what is really going
on when FOMO takes the wheel and starts driving our thoughts and desires? Although it’s a very new term, fear of missing
out has actually been around for a very long time. It was borne out of an evolutionary need to
survive within a tribe – back when missing out was often a matter of life and death. Now, I know what you’re thinking – we
aren’t cavemen! And you’re right, of course… most of us are not cavemen. But because of the role FOMO played in our
evolution, it affects us on a very deep or ‘subconscious’ level. It is this type of involuntary emotional response
that tends to wield a great deal of influence over our thoughts and desires, which is why
generating a little FOMO can go a LONG way. There’s two facts you need to know in order
to understand why FOMO can be so psychologically powerful: FACT #1: Humans tend to overvalue what they
no longer have. The studies on this are extensive, and leave
little doubt that we all have a tendency to place a higher value on something we’ve
lost or missed out on, than on something we’ve gained. FACT #2: Losses increase our arousal more
than gains. In fact, the research suggests that losses
are twice as impactful on people, psychologically, as gains. Now we already know that emotional arousal
is one of the best ways to incentivize ACTION, which is exactly what you want to achieve
with your ex, right!? Just take a moment and ask yourself: do I
want to work overtime trying to win my ex back, or simply use a little psychology to
make THEM chase ME?? So now that you know what it is and how it
works, here are my 7 tips on using FOMO to drive that elusive ex back into your arms: Use the 30 days no contact rule that I’ve
discussed in detail in many of my previous videos. I know you don’t want to hear more about
No Contact, but as the old saying goes, “absence makes the FOMO grow…or is it the heart....
grow fonder?” Either way, the fact is that initiating a
period of no contact with your ex is one of the best ways to pique their curiosity about
what you’ve been up to (and what they may be missing out on). As hard as it might be, this time apart will
create a healthy separation that can only increase your chances of success when you
do get back in touch. Limit initial communication to text messages
and social media. It’s less invasive and gives you more time
to plan what you want to say. Plus, in our modern, tech-driven world most
people have become hyper sensitized to fear missing out on…well, everything! This means that text message and especially
social media are the IDEAL mediums for maximal FOMO generation. Stop and think carefully about each message
before you hit send – ask yourself if what you’re saying will achieve the desired FOMO
effect, or whether it might make it a little too obvious that you’ve been letting
your OWN fear of missing THEM run wild. Don’t start re-establishing the connection
with your ex by suddenly sending them 50 messages a day…. Remember that the Tortoise always beats the
Hare in the long run, so be patient and don’t try to rush things. Just try using one simple, fun text message
to break the ice when No Contact is over. If you’re not sure what this would look
like, I’ve included a ton of examples of attraction-building messages that are ideal
for this type of situation in the video on my website, BreakupBrad.com. Post pictures that create FOMO – and no,
I don’t mean selfies! It could be a picture of you at a dinner party,
or on a weekend away with your friends. You don’t necessarily need to be specific
about who you were with or what you were doing. The point here is to let them see the *fun*
that they are missing out on. It will remind your ex that you’re still
a fun, interesting person that they shared many happy memories with… and it’s definitely
possible that if you do this properly, they’ll even leave a comment like ‘where’s my
invite!?’ or ‘I better be invited to the next one!’.... That’s a clear sign you’ve created some
FOMO in your ex’s mind, and that’s exactly what you want in order to win them back. Remember that we are attracted to people of
equal or higher status than ourselves. This is a big one, guys... there is literally
a mechanism in your brain that tracks your social status subconsciously, and delivers
a hit of serotonin when you see that you’ve “risen” in relation to those around you! This means that if you can effectively generate
some FOMO in your ex, they will subconsciously crave that serotonin hit, and start behaving
a bit like an addict who NEEDS the satisfaction of getting you back in their life. While there are many ways to achieve this,
a good place to start is working on being the best possible version of yourself. We’re all attracted to charismatic people
who tend to look good and feel good about themselves…. and as a result, act with a
confidence and charisma that makes those around them crave their attention and approval. By making an effort to look and feel your
best, that confidence will shine through in your pictures and conversations. This, in turn, will make you appear more attractive
to your ex, and will remind them of why they were attracted to you in the first place. I know it sounds very abstract and far-fetched,
but I promise this really does work… and your ex is powerless to resist these feelings. Avoid overly emotional messages or posts on
social media. This means no sad or crying emojis, and no
‘I miss you’ messages. The goal is to show them you are a confident
person leading a fun and interesting life… you’re thriving since the breakup, which
is the opposite of what your ex is expecting. Learn to recognize the FOMO response in yourself
to avoid the sort of overly emotional posts and messages that make you seem sad, needy,
and desperate. This is actually good practice even when you’re
not trying to get your ex back, because being positive and sharing fun, interesting things
on social media will always make you look better than if you’re sharing your heartache
or depression for the world to see. Yeah, yeah, I know what you’re thinking
– the 6 tips I’ve just mentioned may seem “easier said than done”. And sure, we do all need a helping hand from
time to time, which is probably what brought you here in the first place, right? This leads me to my final tip, number 7: sign
up for my Ex Factor program at my website -- www.BreakupBrad.com/buy …. My 60-day
satisfaction guarantee means you have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Hit up BreakupBrad.com/Buy right now and grab
your copy to get started right now. So, folks… as I said at the beginning of
the video, there are many studies on our tendency to overvalue what we think we’ve lost...
and there’s plenty of research suggesting that no one is immune to the fear of missing
out. The question is: will you let it control you,
or use it to help rekindle the feelings and desires between you and that special person
you want back in your life? Let me know how it goes by commenting below! And thank you, beautiful people of YouTube,
for tuning in to this video… now it’s time to get out there and start using FOMO
to get a second chance with your ex. Good luck, and see you in the next video!
