5 Mistakes Men Make When a Girl "Pulls Away" | Do NOT do THIS if She's Losing Interest

when a woman starts pulling away and you start chasing after her she's gone right she's not gonna even look back you're just pushing her further away hi I'm Bobby Rio in this video I want to talk about why women pull away and how you should handle it and also just as importantly the five big mistakes men make when a woman starts pulling away because let's face it it's becoming increasingly frustrating for guys it's happening I see my clients going through this over and over again where things start off great with a woman she's totally into you she's sending you the flirty text in the middle of the day every time you ask her to hang out she's available she's talking like there's a future between you she's like mentioning you know a party or a wedding she wants to go to six months from now and you're thinking girlfriend material this is turning into something and then all the sudden in the blink of an eye something's changed she gets a little bit distant when you're with her then the texts begin to become less flirty they slow down she's less responsive when you ask her to hang out you could almost hear the excuses in her brain as she's like scrambling to find some excuse before she's like oh it's my sister's cousin's birthday party and like you're like what happened why was this girl that was totally into me not so I want to go through five mistakes when this happens because by going through these five mistakes I think you're going to be able to see how some of the behavior leading up to her pulling away actually caused her to pull away mistakes that you were making before and then the mistakes that you were making after she pulled away that's what sent her packing right that's why she's gone so we're gonna go through these and I want to see I want to explain why they're so deadly I want to explain why making these mistakes well ultimately even if a girl wasn't you even if she was attracted to you even if she was thinking there was a future with you you start making these mistakes she's gone and a lot of times and this is really important a lot of times when a woman initially starts pulling away when she initially kind of slows down her kind of puts the brakes on a little bit right things are going smooth and then all of a sudden you feel she put the brakes on and what she's doing there is she's testing you she's testing you to see how you handle it right and it's an unconscious test she's not going I'm gonna test this guy now it's like things are going great and then there's something in her brain that's like let me see if this is for real let me see if this guy really has his shit together if he's really a cool confident guy and then when she pulls her attention back from you that's when your true self comes out in her eyes and a lot of guys unfortunately make the mistakes that we are going to go over right now so mistake number one when a woman pulls away the first mistake most men make is they confess their feelings right the thought goes through our mind if she only knows how I feel she would stay right if she only knew how much I liked her she would stay she would like me back in that same way and we're convinced that for some reason we think well maybe I didn't let her know I liked her enough maybe she didn't know I was serious enough about her and that's why she's leaving right but here's the thing uncertainty in a woman's eyes is attractive meaning if she's not sure what's going on with you she's more likely to stay around because it's sort of a puzzle that she wants to solve when she's completely sure what's going on that's weird and she takes the break wait when a woman senses this guy's really into me she pulls back a little bit to give herself some breathing room because she's like wow this is moving towards a relationship am I sure I want this right so she pulls back a little bit and what happens is the guy does the complete opposite of what he should do and he starts going further in his confessions of romantic interest and wanting to be with her so now that space that she needed she just needed a little space now she needs a whole lot of space because now she's suffocated right the minute you start saying I really like you I you just made her decision for her right all she wanted was a little bit of space to figure out whoa this is kind of moving forward let me see if this is something I really want and then you put the added pressure on her by telling her how much you like her how special she is how you see a future with her and now she goes I've got to stop this I've got to stop this before it gets past the point of no return so confessing your feelings never a good idea it's never the reason she's pulling away never right it's never that I mean here's a deal right if you are sleeping with three or four other women at the same time and you are a complete player maybe that's the case but if she is the only girl you're talking to it's not that she thinks you're not serious about her I can promise you that okay mistake number two is apologizing or explaining right I see this with my clients all the time too because a lot of times when I'm working with somebody I have them send me their text message exchanges with the woman and I say look by looking at that I can kind of see what went wrong and what happens a lot of times is a guy makes a little mistake right maybe he made maybe one night she asked him to hang out and he goes to hang out with his friends you know he had a baseball game to go to with one of his friends and all of a sudden a week later she's pulling away so in his mind what we do is we need to kind of find the answer right we always look through and we kind of play detective and we go okay what what could it be what did i do right and then we always go to some mistake we think we made right so we might go oh she she wanted to hang out last Friday and I went to the baseball game with my friends instead so then we start thinking well if I can let her know that I wish I didn't go to the baseball game she's gonna like like me again right she's gonna go oh he is a good guy um so we text her something along the lines of yeah you know I'm sorry I didn't hang out with you last week I I wanna you know I really wanted to but my friend or they explained they just go into explanation though right sometimes I had one client who he made a joke and the joke over text was hard to decipher right it was a little joke it wasn't that funny and then he sends me his text with her and there's like 13 texts apologizing for making a stupid joke and I'm like do never ever apologize never explain yourself when you started apologizing or explaining yourself especially for things that weren't really wrong you come across as so weak in her eyes you come across as so try-hard such a pushover that she's never gonna be able to maintain any level of attraction for you and that sense of her pulling away she's gone right she there's no turning back there's no coming back from it you never need to apologize I mean listen if you've done something exceedingly wrong right you get drunk and you say something very insulting to her and by all means apologize but when you start apologizing for things that weren't really bad just because you can't fit because that what happens like I said is we get in this emotional quicksand we sense that things are changing we sense that she's getting a little distant with us and we want to do anything to get her back you know we I get clients on the fight we're like the you know the wily coyote trying to trying to develop a plan and figure it out and that's all we can think about and our mind starts convincing us oh it must have been this joke I made or it must have been it was none of that right it was it was what I said number one she was pulling away because things were moving forward and she was like I need to see if this guy is for real and then what do you do you start explaining yourself and that attraction she had plummets even further so number three is winning her over with a gift right I'm just gonna write gift here and again I can't believe how many of my clients do this I've created videos and everything saying don't send a girl flowers don't do it all right I mean you could send your wife flowers you can you can send your you know you're under when you're in or all that is fine don't don't say that I'm never saying never send a woman flowers I'm saying when you just start dating a woman and you sense she's pulling away or you think it's going really well and it's two weeks in don't send her flowers but especially she starts pulling away because again just like confessing your feelings buying her a gift puts pressure on her and when she's not sure about you the last thing you want to do is put pressure on her because pressure is the antithesis of her attraction towards you the more pressure she feels from you the more the less attraction she's gonna feel so when you buy her a gift even if it's a small gift even if I had one client Aeolus cold out and he sent her these these gloves in the mail and she got them and she's like why did you send these to me and he's like I just wanted to get you a gift and in her eyes it's not just a gift and her eyes it's pressure you're sending her a big box of pressure and that pressure is scaring the hell out of her because she needs time to think and you're you're shoving pressure on her okay so no confessing feelings no apologizing no gifts and here's what some guys do right is they match coldness okay and what I mean by that is when a woman starts getting cold there's some guys that think they're playing the game so they go well I'm gonna get cold too I've done this I can remember that there was a girl that I was really into we we were we were hanging out everything was going good and then she kind of started ignoring my texts and she started getting like really you know taking two or three days to get back to me and in my mind I was like well I'm gonna do that back to her I'm gonna take two three days to get back in touch with her I'm gonna act the same way she is okay and bear with me because there's a right way and a wrong way to do this so what happens though is we do this we we don't text her as much we wait to respond to her but what happens is the minute she does reach out to us we immediately say hey do you want to hang out and then what happens when you do that she knows that you were just not texting her because you were playing a game you were waiting just to wait she doesn't think you were actually losing interest she thinks oh he was just upset that I wasn't texting him so he wasn't texting me so when she does that and I'll tell you like a better way to do it right is guys is that if you're waiting just a way and you're not texting her and then she does reach out to you don't immediately ask her to hang out hang up the phone with her or end the text conversation without the invite to hang out because the minute and it's so I know I know listen I know when you're really into a woman and she starts pulling away and you see that sort of sliver of hope that you can hang out with her again you want to take it right you don't want to risk that this might be our last conversation so you want to say hey we should get together or hey what are you doing but when you're trying to be cold back to her and then you do that she knows that it's it's for real she knows you're just putting an act on and that she has right and we always say once a woman knows she has you it's over then you'll never have her the minute she figures out she's the one holding the power when she's the one with the upper hand it's very very it's very very hard to maintain attraction um for her to you when that's the case okay so what do you guys do after that what is the next thing guys do the ultimatum who here has ever given the ultimatum right listen my time is valuable so if you don't want to hang out then maybe we shouldn't see each other right we always do this ultimatum and again the problem with this ultimatum is a lot of different things one is that it just like all these other things it puts more pressure on her an ultimatum is pressure and the last thing she wants in this situation is more pressure so by giving her an ultimatum you're essentially giving her a big box of pressure again and that's going to make her take her bags and continue walking away from him the other problem with an ultimatum is very similar to coldness is that when you give an ultimatum if you are not willing to I always say you have to display to a woman that you are willing to walk away right she's got to feel like I can lose this guy now an ultimatum when you're not willing to walk away is probably the worst thing you could do because if give an ultimatum and then you still reach back out to her which I know you're gonna do I've done it I've given the ultimatum and then a couple weeks go by and I'm like um maybe maybe I shouldn't have done it and then I reach out and then it's like she just knows that she's got you right she has you you're not gonna walk away you have no ability to walk away and when she knows she has you that bores her she loses even more interest in you ultimatums are bad they never work out I've never seen a girl go oh wow I might lose him I better I better you know he just told me that he's not gonna call me again if I don't answer his texts or if I don't have the ability to hang out this weekend I better do it no an ultimatum is pressure it's gonna push her further away so all of this hurts your chances when a woman starts pulling away and even more indicative right if you've made these mistakes it's probably because you don't even know the psychology of keeping a woman attracted to you in the first place I know that I did and I know that not only did I make these mistakes when she was pulling away a lot of times I made them before she started pulling away which probably caused her to pull away I confess my feelings too soon I would apologize and explain myself when I thought I was making mistakes I would buy her gifts and take her out to fancy restaurants - trying to buy her love you know the coldness I never really did the ultimatums you know I started making them when I went when she couldn't hang out and I felt like oh I've got to put put the pressure on her so what are you doing stead so I created another video that you can click a link below where I teach a technique because all of this all of this revolves around the idea of what really makes a woman fall in love with a guy because it's not what you think and if you've done any of these things I can almost guarantee that you don't know what really makes a woman fall in love what a woman makes a fall in love is not when a guy is smothering her with affection in fact like I said that's pressure that pulls away right I said in the very beginning of this video what draws a woman towards a man is is uncertainty of not knowing what comes next not knowing the end of the movie alright we don't want to watch a movie when we already know the ending and most when women meet a man and she already knows the ending and if a woman loses interest in you it's because she met you and she knew the ending of that movie too quickly and she had no incentive to continue the relationship to continue getting to know you because she knew how it was gonna end she knew that you were gonna smother her with affection she knew that she had you and I said in the very beginning once a woman knows she has you it's over so what are you doing instead I'm gonna teach you exactly what to do a technique that I call the scrambler and it's all about eliciting the chase in her instead of the other way around because most guys chase women but women want to be the one chasing a man right they don't want to be chased they don't want they want they don't want to be chased and guys think that by chasing it's gonna get them but by chasing them you're pushing them away they want to chase you they want the man they have to chase so how do you get a woman chasing you that's what I talk about in the video below you can click the link it's about 15 minutes long it goes way more in depth what I do in the video is I reverse engineer this process of falling in love so that you can actually see what needs to go through a woman's mind for her to fall in love with you and if you've already made a mistake if you've already done these things it's not too late to fix them if you take the right steps from here on out if you do any more of this it's over there's no coming back right there's no coming back if you but if you take a deep breath and I know that a lot of guys are an emotional quicksand where where they don't feel like they have time right they feel like they got to make a move immediately if that's you I just watched the video and you'll get a much better understanding of what you can do from here on out to not only stop her from pulling away and not only stop women in the future from pulling away but also just to get them back to you ok so click the link below right now to watch the video

Channel: Bobby Rio

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Length: 17min 47sec (1067 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 29 2019