David Goggins on Never Giving Up and Dealing with Struggles of Life | Podcast EP. 2

when it's suffering when it's pain all that wants to do is find the easy way out which is usually quit if you quit the pain goes away immediately yeah you gotta give yourself enough energy and fuel in your mind and state it's a little bit longer so you can talk yourself into staying for the whole thing this how it works so here's the thing entrepreneurs leaders salespeople we all want to create consistent repeatable and scalable ways to grow our business and our income and we want to do it better faster and more seamlessly why so we can actually enjoy our lives take vacations and spend a quality time that we want with the people that we love how do we do all this without spending a fortune or running ourselves ragged that's the big question and this show is dedicated to the answer hey welcome back to the podcast I'm really excited for you to listen to this interview I got super fascinated with this guy David Goggins about two and a half three years ago I was exposed to you an interview he did with Tom bill you and it blew my socks off there you know there's just certain times in life when you're ready for a message and at that time in my life I was ready for the next level of discipline I needed a path to understand that if you really want to grow you gotta suffer at times you got to go through pain and as you get to know David Goggins he just personifies that his ability to to confront his fears and take them on and work through both physical and mental stressors that would stop the above average human forget the you know extraordinary I mean like he you know he just didn't stop and I think the gift if this interview the message inside this interview that ever them is my hope is that you don't stop that you find in yourself the extra energy the extra ability to move beyond you know the struggles and the hardships and the challenges that are perceived that you face and you find in yourself that inner strength that inner power to become what you're truly capable of and if you listen to the very last question that I asked him in the interview it'll really wrap it up for you so enjoy enjoy this time getting to know David Goggins first and foremost what's up everybody I gotta give you a little public service announcement if you're watching this at your office with your children this man curses like a sailor he said he can hold it back I said please don't just be you so with all that said if you're watching this later keep your headset on or just kind of be have some situational awareness right yesterday all right so so here's the deal it's coach tom ferry in the house with the man the legend arguably the toughest man I've ever met one of the most mentally tough human beings I've ever been exposed to so if you're watching this video right now and you've ever dealt with rejection heartache pain suffering upset worry failure doubt I'm not saying you're gonna be healed and get over it but we're gonna get really damn close in the next 45 minutes so first and foremost David Thank You Man appreciate it brother so I know you're in the midst of this insane tour right now promoting your book so maybe just maybe share with the people that are watching first of all why'd you why'd you write this thing like what's it I know it's about why'd you write it you know what there's there's several reasons why I wrote the book I never knew that so I first started this journey I had no idea that it would end up with me writing a book really no idea I didn't start to make money I didn't sit out for any kind of fame fortune none of this yes this is this just happen to happen yeah you know I set out just to change who I was ya know just reflex in the mirror man so along this journey after I realized now a lot of us have a lot of issues yes not the problems but those problems that we have we don't talk about we don't we anybody knowing about we're ashamed of so we get them put them in a nice big trunk come up in the storage compartment of our house up in a daggone attic yeah that's where it's at that's where it stays and that's they live their lives but you never get better now whenever hard times come up you're always wondering why you can't ever get over the hurdle why can't I get better why can't I get better well I'm always here I think I'm doing good I think I'm doing good but all you're doing is you're fixing this surface layer of crap yeah and the surface doesn't fix anything yeah go get that [ __ ] trunk put it down and starts no going through it and fixing lotta crap in it that's why I wrote the book as most people think man the trunks in your head that's right right are you getting your own oh you're saying this and I think it's a great metaphor no this deposit right here yes yes so we like to put that [ __ ] away you know people hurt my feelings my dad my mom society you all this I that grades my paychecks I lost the man whatever I was a part of that also so why the book had to be written I don't keep our cell a copy of it and that's not the case now we didn't do really well but the thing about it is people put a title on me they put a big so they see the David Goggins of today yeah the David gyres a day is some guy who's considered the world's toughest man bla bla bla bla bla and people are like I want that I want that but they don't know what you went through no we're gonna get into today right so what I so what I did was a lot of would think they can't get this okay wants to put a title on somebody it becomes unreachable for everybody else because I'm Superman yeah this book lets you know that I'm the furthest thing from Superman now and that's why I did it it is a very raw real version of the hill I went through growing up as a kid and all the pitfalls and so this isn't like a story that you know you had that all those stories you had this thing you give this one hurdle and then you're successful ya know the hero's journey right there's no heroes right down to breakthrough this is not like this is super Suffern Suffern right down break down break down some more supper supper supper supper oh I made it [ __ ] suffer some more suffer some more suffer some more so this book isn't like some nice clean story where the guy just he just triumphs over the one trash in his life and he makes it and he writes a book about it no this is a real life okay so I'm gonna go on record to say right now guys we ready a little promotion today for David's book and you know so I just literally texted like this morning with Jennifer I'm like we got to do this but I'm gonna tell you don't buy the book I'm gonna tell him get the audio because the audio before we're going to do his backstory which you gotta hear twenty-thousand audio is just yesterday I'm not shocked by it I think you know like if you decide or it would have been me I believe the audio and we'll get into the why but I'm just taking us right now so if you're online right now and you go to amazon.com or wherever you shop and you buy the book right can't hurt me get a physical copy the book is you're gonna want it but get the audio cuz dude the audio of you and Adam riff it's like what would you call it it's the podcast slash audiobooks last radio show that's right right and they're just you guys are just he would read a part of the book and then he'd stop and go David really like what's all about so so I'm just telling you but let's for the person that's watching right now that doesn't know who you are right let's give him a little backstory I mean I actually wrote down okay cuz I probably am my son who's over there Stephen who watched the same interview and then obviously met you two years ago at the summit I probably watched that one interview as I told you a hundred times right right and I thought I knew you I thought I understood your story surfer story right I got the story that you were willing to share in this book you were so authentic so revealing understanding your psyche your understanding your dad what happened with your brother right what happened with his daughter I mean it's just I was I felt so much more connected to you right but what it also did even this morning in the gym I was like you got more man here don't don't quit now like you read me like get out get after it I was already done with my workout and I'm listening and I'm going yeah like so I wrote down growing up right you and your mom and your brother indiana early rejection even before you get to the military and running and and everybody else she did all right take him back to the beginning so they get some context of why you know i'm so stoked you're here so I won't give you all of it could be here for a while but basically my dad was an alcoholic he owns some skating rinks and bars and at a very young age we started working these bars and skating rinks yeah so my dad wasn't big into going to school he was uh he was big into making money he was big into being famous being popular being the guy in Buffalo yeah and he had two sides to him he had decided that everybody knew outside of the house and once those doors shut in LA that was the guy that no one knew he was a very abusive guy mentally and physically but the thing about though is you can beat me all day long the thing is I started realizing as I got older was it was the mental it was a psychological warfare mmm that he played with the young kids mind so when you're young your minds like a sponge your dad's telling you all these things about who you're not your growth to be this you're going to be that you're not this you're not that that's what you become and reinforcing it with some cereals physical yes seriously physics so when this is happening on a daily basis because this guy's an alcoholic and he's insecure about his own life and what's going on yeah that so that was my foundation in Buffalo talks about eight years old yeah had to learn disability stutters started really bad rice blushes on my skin hair falling out so then we moved to a small town called Brazil Indiana and this town everybody was bad but at that time my life they were yeah because there was only like five to ten black families the Klan wasn't too far away it wasn't put you know a town call center point I have a great picture in the book yeah there's a town in Center Point where they're you know burning cross isn't doing their little thing out there and I got called [ __ ] a lot so when you have a bad foundation yeah learn disability all you want to do is hide out mm-hmm so I created this other person who was a fake person the room he was afraid of [ __ ] everything yeah so that's what so that was my foundation growing up and you're being so light I'm telling you God very like the audio version like the first three four chapters I had to listen to it again right - really you were so again I use the word revealing you were so authentic with these stories and then Adam your you know your co-author saying whoa man like reading that was hard so I had to I'd it literally so we get scarred yeah think about it is like if you're in a in the kitchen and you're cutting up cucumbers yeah you cut your finger it happened 30 years ago that scars still there they say what happened to your finger I guess what you do I was in the kitchen one day oz kind of cucumbers you know cut my finger yeah you had those scars on your [ __ ] brain yeah from life yeah but what we don't do is we try to hide those stars you want to go back and revisit this is not as simple as a cucumber you know you know cutting a cucumber so I started realizing that my life was causing a whole bunch of scarring on my brain and I had to go back while I wrote this book I had to go back and really break open that scar and let it bleed mm-hmm for a journey for me to go back is you know I right now this is all surface learn disability call me [ __ ] is this it's all surface I got these has been a lot of people have done with that stuff you're very sad yeah but the way I talk about in the book I'm getting your hand yeah and I'm taking you back there with me yeah as that kid in that classroom who opens up his Spanish notebook him sit in the back because I had a fourth grade reading level I'm in the back open my Spanish notebook on the first page they had a hangman drawing of me saying [ __ ] we're going to kill you very back I'm a sophomore in high school nothing but white people I shut that thing up and I leave class I described that in very good detail I mean I go into principal's office I remember that means you're going there I was actually thinking of even finding the first teacher when you got to Brazil right so who said I got you it's right right and what that means to have someone say I got you and then understood where you're at and started work with you and then you get moved up a grade and the next teachers like this is the you're out right so you're a problem child we need him out of the school it's a true statement but the thing about sister Katherine was she wasn't nice the after I started realizing that you have to be careful the the the tone and someone talks to you there could be love in a very nasty tone yeah she was a very nasty woman yeah but she cared about all of us yeah so that's where I monster I realized that man never judge a book by it's cover you know she was just a hardcore nun and that went from there to uh to this more more more pitfalls so a lot of people know and it's certainly you know when you when you spoke at the summit you shared a lot of stories of being you know one of the only people to go through Navy SEAL training three times right bud specifically right three times at hell week three times and then also you moved on and you did the Air Force tactical then Army Ranger training like and a lot of people would say - what are you insane like right do you just do it like did your early childhood teach you to love the beatdown right right like like maybe share with like first of all give em a little insight on what that meant for you to just go through all that because those parts of the chapters also work insane right right in detail I'm the only person history of the military who has ever gone through Air Force has better control party training on the range of school whereas on your man in three whole weeks yeah so only person ever do that but the reason why I did it was when I was a young kid I can sit in myself very weak very weak and as I started developing this indestructible mental toolbox because what I realized was the things I was most afraid of I coward from mm-hmm I had to start facing these things and becoming an expert at the things I feared the most now I was afraid of my own mind my mind would get off on these crazy places of what was me mm-hmm my my internal conversation wasn't great yeah so I had to start mastering it once I started mastering it and the horrible place I was at I was literally I consider myself the worst person ever alive that was my conversation but once I started mastering my own life I started realizing my god man this was in me yeah I was a 300-pound fat guy now I'm 181 pounds 90 pounds there was I'm gonna go through all these hell weeks so I started realizing the capabilities of the human soul in the human mind yeah so I started to examine it more and more so we have a theorist we have a practitioner the theorist is a person that's gonna sit back and read books from a library that's mlus wrote they become real smart about what someone else wrote okay a practitioner as a man is me I put myself in hell lived in it for a long time and figuring out how the human mind works while being while suffering while in pain while misery and that's how I my book yeah I want to tell you exactly what your mind is thinking most of us don't stay in hell long enough to write the book yeah I stayed in long enough to ride it and finish the book okay so I just got to say for you watching right now I want you to think about what David just said like a lot of our clients right now this is actually one of the questions I want to ask you is a lot of our clients are dealing with a changing market a changing real-estate environment right and there's people that are watch this are entrepreneurs and salespeople and teenagers but but you know their world is changing right I remember the first time I met you you were saying I had to look in the mirror and say okay not that smart Roger that I can do something about it right get educated right I'm not as physically strong as don't want to be okay I can do something about that like you have this mindset of like weakness go out and solve it go put yourself in that right could you just speak to the guys that are in the gals that are watching us right now better they're afraid to make phone calls right like they make phone calls someone says yes they make $10,000 all right you with me and they they are candy asses I get afraid to do it so I call it in my book here is called the accountability mirror but it's called raw accountability yeah not just accountability where we find that nice happy word if you're fat you look in the mirror you say wow I eat a little too much no you're [ __ ] fat my exoskeleton is larger than yours right no it's the new one right yeah that's good I mean you you cannot say that to yourself now but see you have to make a list yeah other thing is that you don't like to do this list should be very long like if you like making calls yeah yeah the very first thing you should do and start making a [ __ ] ton of [ __ ] calls yep because why that begins to own you yes you start to drive yourself this way versus this way but you'll figure out if you start making a whole bunch of [ __ ] calls if you like Colin call a lot yeah guess what happens you get over it you get over it so what we do a lot is I heard a lot people say triple down on this triple down on most of your strengths no no no no no that works for a lot of things but when you're afraid and you don't have the courage you have to triple down on your weaknesses and make that become where you start to guide yourself okay how am I calling today I'm making a hunch calls yeah I'm gonna dial 100 tongs say that one more time everybody talks about triple down on your strengths right play to your strengths there's write a million books on that yes and and the way I heard it was like like what you fear is gonna own you more than the power of your strengths so you got to attack I mean it might get true so I have my book here but what happens is when I was younger life in society made this big world with all these endless [ __ ] possibilities in this possibilities my wife made my possibilities this [ __ ] big yep because it made me afraid of all these different things yeah so all this stuff trapped my mind is shackled my brain it made me a prisoner within my own self saying this is all I can do because why I'm afraid of this I'm insecure over here I got stuff down over here back behind me good one who knows who's behind me I'm like look behind me so your life is this big versus it being like I can do all this [ __ ] out here if I start to break down these ball you know these these these different walls and barriers and that's what I started realizing I couldn't become a Navy SEAL I could become this but I was afraid of the water think about this I know why the [ __ ] are you're gonna go be a Navy SEAL when all you do is play in the water yeah for and we all play we're in it and we're living in it your title notion of swimming form is like the ocean is unforgiving yeah so my mind is I'm gonna go be a Navy SEAL yeah if I didn't face that fear no one would ever know me I was number three behind Michelle Obama for a long time it's my book sold out yeah and I was a guy just 21 years ago yeah who was 300 pounds can barely read and write and now have a book just two spots behind Michelle Obama yeah hopefully we get it above today right just because I was afraid yeah but you overcome those fears guess what happens the whole world you unlock this door and everything opens back up again you you said and I I want to say it's one of the first times we met we're sitting backstage of the summit you were in the face of my yes like you were like look man when I was a Navy SEAL like you had to kick down doors and you knew there could be people on the other end of that door with a gun or like and if you weren't willing to do that like you're in the wrong game that's right like that that's sort of metaphor for like there's so many people that are just afraid of the other side of the door so they just looked the other direction right so I wanna I actually wrote this down three I actually said in my mind one of the things that makes you just a genius and I don't use that word lightly right I mean there's a lot of different kinds of intelligence you are a genius in my opinion you took what could have been the most tragic story and reforged it into one of the most extraordinary identities like what you believe about yourself how you view yourself and how you act somebody's watching this right now David and they identify themselves as a fat person as a lazy person who doesn't follow through yep what advice do you have for that person to reshape their identity so that person was me everything you just mentioned was me I made thousand dollars a month 300 pounds just I can't do any of this stuff yeah these people are better than me yeah so the first thing is that's the first big problem right there mm-hmm first big problem is that you have put a lot of people above you yeah put no one above you yeah no one but if if you believe in something that again say that again cuz that's you know but do you know but the man the people that make more money the people that are better-looking the ones that are on social media and they're so good at this I put God above me besides that there's no one better than me got it you have to become an equal so this I look at it if you're playing and I talked about it at your conference if you're playing Roger Federer yeah okay before you get on the court with Roger Federer he's the best of all time but you're also a professional tennis player man yeah you're forgetting your own [ __ ] resume yeah so once you get on the court let's say it's a grand slam it's five sets hopefully if you can go the distance with this guy yeah but before you even bounce the ball to serve it you're down to six because while you look across and you're playing [ __ ] Roger Federer but guess what you get a good shot of Roger Federer in the set and you realize I can play with this [ __ ] but it's too late yeah you gave up two sets before you got in the court you got to stop giving up two [ __ ] sets before the game begins and we do that already we give up 2 sets before the game begins so I'll learn that real quick I saw these Navy SEALs before I became one my god they're better than me yeah dude Bellamy I gave up a hundred sets and I had to work up to realize these are human beings with the same should I have yeah this some people run faster or swim better but mentalities mentality yeah there's no I you're not gonna outwork me so I'm gonna catch up somewhere yeah so that being said I used all that 300-pound man that fat guy that dumb guy people said why you say dumb you have to be real we've gotta be myself you gotta be wrong if you're not smart you're [ __ ] dumb well you can become smart yeah you can become smart it's not a permanent tag and you're dumped forever yeah you're fat forever yeah no be raw don't find the cushy word so what I did with all this stuff is I realized ok here it is this is what you are David but now check this out and this is what's funny about this this is not a lock I don't [ __ ] it's the bush at all time I don't get [ __ ] who likes me this book right here I sat back when I was 300 pounds so my strength was this and you put the fat Damon oh yeah that fat days like behind me so this was this was funny I swear to God on this i sat back and I was like my god I'm able to visualize years beyond where I'm at right now how are you gonna feel if you can pull this off when I got them the idea to come a Navy SEAL at 300 pounds hate the water can't run down the [ __ ] block horrible and I'll put everything on that my whole life was I'm gonna be a Navy SEAL come hell or high water who does that yeah the hard thing we're all put on that but I hope everyone everyone watching this it's actually something like you got to commit to it got a commit yeah put everything on yourself which is why I self-published yeah and that's why I'm like I'm so glad it's number three behind Michelle Obama because guess what everybody there you go I self-published every what some company on the planet right now is very very upset turned down to three hundred thousand to offer yeah sounds like I'm better than that yeah anyway back to the power of it all was you got to sit back and be able to imagine where you want to be like that's the power if I can pull this up what kind of story have I just created yeah and that's what I did I created a story I want a story yeah what's the better story oh I was always afraid to make phone calls and I'm just using that you know it's true I'm afraid to practice I'm afraid to you know to go to knock on doors to try something new right it's that whole you know cup we've always taught fixed mindset growth mindset right stuff but let me let me go deep in you somebody say what they please but the floors it's funny you talk about that I work with the guy who was in a business like this for five years I'm not gonna mention his name yeah he called me up five years ago to say I want you to work with me yeah his job a big day for them was if you had five meetings and 40 calls $40.00 that was like according to their big business plan that was a day yeah he said I want to make more money I'm all this shit's this bug you know is this bogging me down I said this is your [ __ ] day five meetings and forty [ __ ] calls like how do you start at ten and even four and and this company you work for says dick this is a great day this is what we want I had this guy no [ __ ] one day he made a thousand cold calls it had seven [ __ ] meetings yeah so his new norm which is now the company how'd you become he made a hundred thousand went to making six hundred thousand dollars in three years yeah that's that's the jump he had just because his mindset changed because the company put this [ __ ] this is what is a good day a good day is 40 calls five [ __ ] meetings I said that's a [ __ ] [ __ ] day cuz you comparing yourself with mediocre people and go do not run with mediocre people I'm going to tell you how to beat these mediocre people this is your new 300 dials in eight [ __ ] meetings yeah and his whole world changed now 300 cup just another day yeah since you know it's just it's just the mindset change where don't look at something like Francis in hell week yeah they said when you get to Wednesday of hell week you're broken sorry bye on Wednesday a given context you're 72 hours of them talking about 30 hours of training how it starts on Sunday is on Friday and on Wednesday you're almost done halfway through yeah so everybody on Wednesday they hear this because everybody says Wednesday is like man you're so tired you're done so that becomes your new norm yeah no you're cruising into Wednesday I'm ready to feel tired when you don't even know why because someone told you you feel talking go so for me I was like hang on a second I sort of study in my mind a whole bunch Rob growing up facing these things don't listen to anybody's [ __ ] dialogue but your own they're tired they're not you yeah so is this all about it's just your mind has a tactical advantage over you at all times it knows your weaknesses it knows your strengths and it will guide you into your nice comfort zone yeah we have to reprogram our mind to get it did it like a different vantage point so then you know how to be in charge of yourself yeah versus your mind being in charge of you so there's three things that I I observed in our interaction that you do well your self-talk your visualization and your physiology the way you move your body the way you carry yourself right right I think so much of changing our identity for a lot of these people is flipping those three so in the book you talk a lot about visualization right you talked a lot about self-talk but you didn't talk as much about physiology but right and yet everything you do is so physical right so so shed some light on and maybe just all three of those so I will talk about you know kind of body language yeah I start there first yeah so I worked with a few pictures I won't name their names big name pictures and I studied them for a long time he I wanna be better man I wanna be better would be better so I I got film on I studied him I study my okay what is wrong that's it yeah I saw it whenever something bad would happen on the mound that's the first thing they would do totally the head drops up sure is roll forward they look down that sends a direct message to your brain that I failed yeah I am a failure mm-hmm that starts the downward spiral to being a failure yep on that mound you can't even recover yeah is that so I started teaching this it's that person who you throw a bad pitch you get the ball back your chin is not high okay so is that your way to proud mm-hmm your chin stays here your shoulders stay nice and level you feet firmly on the ground your hands planted like I'm ready to beat somebody's ass and I'm ready for battle it tells your mind Wow maybe we didn't [ __ ] up that bad we're still in the fight mm-hmm so that's the one thing I always do is like eat if I [ __ ] up yeah keep your body position like you're still a warrior son like you're still fighting if you get a hundred bad calls in a row yep hello I'm David Goggins how you doing today yep okay wrong one don't start getting poopy pants to get upset yourself know it's a mentality and your body language has a direct thing to your brain it's done how it functions so my self-talk is like no one else's self-talk and by the way this was a question that probably 50 people asked what does he say to himself so this is what I say to myself it changes all the time let's say for shits and giggles I'm training for a hundred mile race yeah let's say it or just for shits and giggles I'm training for a hundred mile race okay good so let's say I'm training for hundred mile race and I get to mile fifty yeah and I feel like [ __ ] mm-hmm and like everybody else my mind gets soft mm-hmm why because I'm human I'm not some damn you know hybrid creature that was formed from the heavens above no not human I suffer I don't like it I'm uncomfortable I don't like it yeah so my mind starts to get weak and we start to forget about how badass we you are I call that the cookie jar it's not about the cookie jar right now yeah this is about self-talk yeah but but the cookie jar kind of goes to self talks - yeah it's a piece of it so basically what I do here is you have to make sure that your mind doesn't become [ __ ] mm-hmm when it's suffering when it's a pain all it wants to do is find the easy way out which is usually quick the pain goes away immediately yeah you gotta give yourself enough energy and fuel in your mind and stay just a little bit longer so you can talk yourself into staying for the whole thing yeah this how it works most of us never start anything cold if you're gonna go to college you gotta study your ass off if you want to run a hundred mile race a marathon if you want to go be mr. Olympia if you want to go be a scientist a doc you one of the best salespeople and if you've got it worry you got to work but this you gotta build you gotta build up but what happens is in that moment where we need self-talk when we're failing it were in our worst spot possible yeah we forget the back end yeah I'm I thought the front end the all the build-up to where we're at today we forget how much work we put in so for me I'm at my feet up one more time today we're so so I'm in the middle of it right I'm making my calls I hate it you're at Mile 50s where I hate it your minds getting you know Wiggly on you that's where I get out of here yeah we forget that we put years yeah years maybe not into making these dials but to get in where you're at today to become this person become this person to be in a position to make this money or where the [ __ ] you want to make what everybody do in your life yeah we forget that we forget that journey on what it took for us to get in this moment to make the right decision yeah so that's my self-talk is this okay don't get the [ __ ] out of here man I'm done then I remember this you ran 2,000 miles training to be in this moment right now we forget that yeah we forget that 3 o'clock in the morning runs or getting up early for work or whatever you're doing we forget all that in that moment of suffering I remind myself yeah oh you have 50 more miles I put in six months of training you did 67,000 67,000 books that's 130 right exactly this is no big deal we forget all of that yeah so what I do myself talk is basically going back down memory lane yeah of all those [ __ ] up days I ran the [ __ ] rain or I had the [ __ ] study rule late at night and I didn't want to do it but I did it to get here yeah that's the hook that is the hooks the hook I wanted to get here now you're here and now you want to [ __ ] quit yeah so you gotta mind somebody this thing about it if you haven't put in any hard work to reflect on your [ __ ] yeah so there is no so because you got nothing to pull back it's just a lie nothing to say and you've done this before it's right or you've done something like this right all this all this like people want to be all positive all this positive talk it doesn't work if it's a lot like if you just tell you for your big exam and you go into it saying I'm gonna pass it yeah no you're not yeah we're gonna [ __ ] feel it yeah that self-talk is not gonna work self-talk without real work it's just a lie yeah so my self-talk is me reminiscing back on the struggle to get to this moment and that tells me we're not quitting today yeah not today yeah yeah I just did a video another if you guys watch this where a lot of us talking about like a vision board we're in told my visualization in a minute and and I used to just really poopoo on vision boards like it's kind of [ __ ] right you're thrown festro lack said this car of this house or this vacation and and what I started doing a couple years ago was showing me doing the work right here I am in the gym Here I am making the calls and this is the end result of the vision that I want right right and and that's been hugely transformation for a lot of people because otherwise you are kind of making it up and you got nothing to base it on right no case behind it talk about visualization but I want to I want to ask a very specific like a specific time in your life okay you you had a goal to become like the all-time pull-up champion of the world right Guinness Book of World Records right and you talked in the in the book about the first time you did it the sort of situation that was going on and how it was wrong in the bar and like I mean I think I've already listened that part like four times right a show The Today Show right now and then too many people too many selfies up right like distractions so it's a lot about you with then you flipped right and you're onto that killer hard gym right I forget the [ __ ] or what have they got blessed and or but leg was like the right environment but your hands like got completely destroyed which you should all Google David Goggins hands it's also a picture in the book and it's disgusting but it's like it's a rad vision some great pictures in the book but then you did it right and I know like so much of your strength and I'm going back to that the be any of this question I believe so much of your genius right it is that so what did you do to visualize to get over the hurdle and to make that real for you so basically you have to put yourself in the moment a million times while I'm sitting here first of all it takes total quietness we live in the world that's so busy and so active and moving so fast right now I am sitting with town fairy yeah my mind is sitting with Tom fairy yeah it's not talking to town fairy about thinking about my god I order some more books I'm sort out of here I'm doing this and doing that that's the first thing about visualization yeah you must be sure to silence out all the [ __ ] [ __ ] of life which is very hard to do and it's very hard because the your your visual picture must be clear [ __ ] it has to be clear it can't be like kind of in and out like a like a fuzzy TV you got to see it has to become real you got take a snapshot of it a million times put in the bank that snapshot of me was getting that 4021 pull up yeah knocked out because the record was 4020 yeah I visualized that over and over and over again I visualize we're always gonna say because the guy's name was Steven Highland that's thinking like what you're gonna say to this lady here now on video Ronnie got his ass yep so I visualized success uh-huh but then I went through that's the that's the fun part yeah I have to do 4020 pull-ups to get to that 4021 pull-up I know now because it should be three chances yeah to get it all those failures they were great for me to examine where I was [ __ ] up at along the way so I take all that and I put in the bank as far as visualization okay and I get 225 points to post my hands start to rip okay get ready for that so I started visualizing how the pain mm-hmm okay then you start visualizing okay my my nutrition was off you start visualizing all these things because you have to mimic it a million times but I can't mimic 4020 pull-ups by doing it but you can see all the concedes only fails right and see yourself going beyond it that's right so that that was my big thing about I had to walk in get the chalk see it I just see everything over and over and over again and when I realized I keep that visual that picture in my head for 17 hours it took me 17 hours to break that record so for 17 hours while I used to be loud everywhere I went I put these headphones in now I never listen to music but listen to one song going the distance you know for 17 hours it's 2 minutes and 13 seconds yeah for 17 hours I had that in that's a lot of rocky a lot of rocky and I went here yeah for and so I was able to visualize every rep yeah so I visualize my hand placement making sure that felt right before I got going I didn't ignore all the little pains my hands got sweaty okay that means I was aware of everything means my okay my hands about to rip it's getting sweaty wipe it off be aware everything I was totally in the moment because of how I visualized everything that part in the I keep referring to the book but in the audio one of the things that that we do write for our clients and we recommend for all entrepreneurs is they need to ask themselves a lot of questions about what worked and what didn't yes and and you know you were so pointed in like man the lessons are in the failures yes that's a mindset that most people don't have right and we've talked a lot about mindset - everything you like just like give them insight on how do we create this I fail and it's a good thing I missed the pitch and it's a good thing I made the call it didn't work and it's a good thing okay this is very easy most people who are failing are trying their [ __ ] ass off yeah most people were feeling of being criticized by people who haven't attempted which are even trying to fail at so what I'm failing so that's a pity I did 2500 pull-ups my first time going for the record yeah any people we're criticizing me people sitting there eating chips on the couch [ __ ] do a pull-up exactly look at your audience who's criticizing you first of all yeah they're not even in your [ __ ] world yes you don't even talk to me yeah block them out that's the first thing yeah the second thing is to failure you get all the [ __ ] answers you get all the lessons all of them yeah they're all there yes so I was able to go back through it's okay this happened this happened this was wrong this is wrong this is wrong so I don't even look at fail you're like I didn't call it failure yeah I I don't because I don't look at my god I failed no I look at okay like trying to make the [ __ ] light bulb I'm afraid you know but what's failure I'm trying to invent a [ __ ] light bulb yeah I'm trying to break 4020 pull-ups mhm that's failure yeah anything you do along that way is amazing yeah that's how ya look at failure yeah Phil you lookin twenty calls when you only made two or three that is it's um it's unbelievable you got a look at it very differently yeah so for me I'm a scrap piece of paper and I'm going back through this stuff okay check I didn't make the goal yeah okay boom boom boom the next time wait I did thirty two hundred pull-ups okay I'm still eight hundred shy of the record Ironman I remember this in the book when you did it [ __ ] eight hundred shy of the record now somewhere from twenty five to thirty two hundred yeah and I get to four thousand twenty yeah twenty-one yeah twenty-one that's a long way away but my body's breaking down laughter right yeah but I got that whiteboard out again and I started writing down okay we're at you wrong this time and you're wrong this time you cannot look at it as failure even though you didn't get what you wanted all you're doing is examining ways to become successful at this particular thing you're trying to master something it's not failure you're trying to become the master of a particular thing yeah it's not failing yeah whenever you trying to master something there's a process there's a process and the process may take you a year and it's not yours is winning no that doesn't mean that people don't get most of the time you lose right but like you like you don't embrace the loss as anything other than how am I gonna get that guy next time that's it I got too tired what do I need to do to hydrate better how can I stretch more like because that person let's say your son for instance tennis player yeah if your centers about attitude and he keeps on coming back with the right attitude yeah no one wants to play that no one wants to fight a person that just keeps coming after you yeah every time you knock them down they don't look at it as being knocked down they have a whole different way of looking at that [ __ ] that's a scary person I agree you don't want to fight that person so that's how I looked at my pull-up records and I felt everything at least three to four times my whole life I've never passed anything once ever in my life have I gone through and been the first time at anything ever but that's what gave me that book I mean saying that's what gave me a story the Army Ranger story I do what else do you do so I'm a wildland firefighter four months out of the year I'm always about starting from scratch man yeah you always had to go back to the roots of what made you great yeah and what many great was straight-up bone breaking back breaking hard work that's where that self discipline comes from so I mean how far away you get how much money you know you know my family should get go back to the roots always so that's why I do that it's a it's a great foundation and but basically it's these guys and gals who are getting after at all times these big-ass fires out here and the work sometimes it you know it Trump's what I didn't so teams yeah it's some hard back-breaking work man diggin lines they give her that part of the book just like he's looking at diggin like looking at an 18-inch for three miles trying to stop trying to start a fire yeah yeah so it's like twelve of us doing it yeah it's worth alright rapid-fire questions so literally like thirty people ask this question I'll give the shout that Jeff Mays you said man what's your morning routine every morning without fail the first thing I do is I run without fail I haven't missed a day of running since 2016 okay so I get up I do that four days out of the week I go to the gym and every single night for five half years I stretch out for at least two hours that was a killer part of the book every [ __ ] night have it that is that's where I so when you go so hard mm mentally physically mostly spiritually you have to have time set aside to quiet and recover recoveries big the mind especially the mind and the body this is my time there's no phone calls there's no emails the world does not exist them because I have to get ready for tomorrow yeah get the body you open up why because as I will get you no human being ruined deep it was awesome but your body's getting tight yeah you go hard Tom a lot people go hard what happens is that stress yeah starts to tighten up that psoas muscle hip flexors so a so back you've had problems all of a sudden you have no idea why it's all tightness it's all tightness man because you're constantly charged and going hard what was the name of the guy that he came and trained a bunch of the seals Joe hip Joe so they should they should Google or you show him all right yep so here's the next one you ready Amy Johnson asked did you cast out negative people in your life or just use it as fuel to do even better and do you still have relationships with energy sucking vampires there's no relationship so energy people that suck the life out of me you're gone that's a total Tom fairy-like energy sucking vampires avoid those people right Bob but this thing about though yeah you can't use it for a few either yeah you have to get that [ __ ] hate you can't move forward yeah with hate yeah you can't I try to do it I used to have energy and all that stuff but what happens is we when you're in a horrible situation in life that hate and anger for some reason you can't remember because that place you're at is so disgusting you forget about them yeah so you might just let go of the [ __ ] anyway okay fun question from from Mary Ellen Roy who says what do you say to those of us that just love pizza and beer Merry Christmas I [ __ ] enjoy your life man this isn't about if you do not want to get better yeah if you are happy where you're at yeah I am NOT here to force-feed you go be David Goggin oh that was a whole thing in the book you're like I'm not the hero you're zero that was that's why I read it yeah and that's why I have I did like the Lord narrating part because if I read it is me being me it's about David Goggins yeah no yeah you are the [ __ ] hero here man if if this book makes you think about something that you want to change change it if you're happy eating pizza beer do whatever go to town don't a tail man yeah yeah that's your happy spot don't ever take it away but you know I could go right to chapter loving and talk about that but I'm gonna say I'm gonna save the chapter loving part that's my last part how do you pick the next challenge the next challenge is usually the toughest thing out there the thing I don't want to do the most yeah so my challenge has come off of what am I afraid of yeah what am i kind of cowering from what am I looking at saying because we all know what it is it's in the back of your mind it kind of floats back there it's like you know for some of us as simple as that I don't want to get up and run today yeah that's what's next so for me it's always what am I not wanting to do yeah and that's how I continue to grow you know when we first met two years ago at the summit there was something you said in an interview that just is so resonate with me and I told you like I started like this like 100 pushups a day then I was going to hundred push-ups a day it was because I hated push-ups yep and I'm like what would Dawkins do man like God he would say man do you like 500 push-ups a day and we'd have having several thousand people out that conference doing push-ups every is awesome and then they saw you speaker like okay now we get it right let's rap with this in Chapter 11 which I that's the last chapter right last chapter and and Adam does a wonderful job you know sort of narrating and telling the story but but then you broke into this piece that I just like I had such an even deeper appreciation for you where you're like look man like this visualization about like one day when we all die right so would you mind I mean I know it's totally in the milk no it's fun I think it's a great way to wrap this so let's say this ma'am so I don't care what you believe in I'm not judging you yeah I believe in God yeah I don't care if you're eight I don't give a damn what you want but for this scenario yes let's say that you're God yeah let's say that you guys you know for those who read my book get the audio book or the hardcover whatever I used to weigh 300 pounds yeah yeah I was 175 in high school in 300 pounds yeah let's say that I didn't improve myself at all I died at 75 years old I'm 300 pounds I worked for Ecolab my entire life making $1,000 a month that's what I made yeah and I go to heaven and you're God and you have a big long line of people and I'm standing in line I'm coming up I'm next so you have Mary Ann in Mary Ann you're talking to her you're judging her I'm like what what the hell does god have this hand what's that paper yeah and so God tears the way and throws it in trash can and Mary Ann goes walking away yeah now you have a piece of paper in your hand and I'm next and God says sit down David David Goggin that's right David Goggin is on top of the paper and I say and God gives me the paper mm-hmm and I look at it when I'm reading this paper and on the paper I'm seeing all these amazing things you were 185-pound athlete you ran all these crazy races you broke records you were a Navy SEAL you were the only person to do this do that do everything be it a best-selling book man you changed millions of lives now look at God who is you right now and I say um this is David Goggin is that paper which is my name god but this isn't me I'm like like you know I think he gave me the wrong the wrong paper and God says no because God knows all God sees all and God looks at me and says this is what you should have been this is this is what you see the book yeah this is what you should have been now you should have been this we all have a choice in the world yeah God or whatever you believe in knows what you're supposed to be knows what's inside of you yeah but most of us take the choice that makes us feel good you know we're not willing to break through those barriers to find because so my whole mindset was this that's how I visualize I visualize that one day I will be judged by something much more powerful than me yeah and my whole thing is well I'm living on earth God knows everything of David ganas even God I want God to be up there with the pin get another piece of paper saying he did what I didn't even know he'd do that I know he'd do this I know so I want God to be impressed with how I turn out yeah which means I want to check off every single box of all the possibilities or what I'm supposed to be in life yeah leave nothing to question in my life hey so there you have it thanks for listening to this hopefully you'll share it with someone that that you love and you appreciate maybe something that just needs to be more inspired and and really get to a place of more discipline to create the kind of freedom that they'd really want or just just to remove the down to worry the fill the fear the negative vism I can't even say that word right but you know what I mean that's good that that word doesn't really exist for me but anyway I just want to say thank you leave some comments share this message and look at the end of the day you now know that you've got 60% more in you every single day in every area of your life to give and my friend given hey it's Tom again so before I let you go couple last things so let me give you something that we have used for decades we call it the six phases of mastery if you want more information about this episode including my show notes mentions links and everything else make sure you visit Tom Perry comm slash podcast that's Tom Perry comm slash podcast thanks again and talk to you soon

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Length: 52min 36sec (3156 seconds)

Published: Mon Feb 04 2019