After Impact: David Goggins

everybody welcome to another episode of after impact I am your host Tom bill you and I'm here with none other than Agent Smith mr. bill you what is up dude you ready for God yeah I know you're ready for go I am more than ready been waiting for this for weeks I have I'm excited about this one yeah you are so uh welcome to Facebook live everyone to the podcast YouTube this is after impact the show where Tom and I go deep into the episode of impact Theory that launched this week and this week was David Goggin so you probably don't know but he's about to blow your mind very simply he's arguably the most he's the toughest man in the world period eh yeah gonzo yep he's a Navy SEAL and a he's an endurance athlete he's done all kinds of races that are just insane if you watch the episode he'll talk about those talk about training for those we're not training is the case maybe more just jumping into that and seeing if he can 100 mile race Irv I've literally survived it's that serious what's most impressive impressive though about him is his mind his mindset is determination and that is what I'm really going to dive into so we can kick it off there why are you so excited about David gagas dude Goggins really shows the limits of the human mind and I think a lot of people stop for sure myself included a lot of people stop shy of what they're actually capable of doing and he shows that the boundary isn't like a little farther than you think it's like really far really far from where you think it is and the man ran a hundred mile race around the track so a mile track like imagine just running that for 24 hours to reach a hundred miles in 24 hours which was what he had to do to qualify for another soul-destroying race he was like 250 pounds and he had four days notice for the race so basically you know preparation totally unprepared and just ran it it is one of the most amazing stories you've got to watch the episode and hear directly from him but it is unbelievable so this guy reminds me of what I'm capable of and that for that I will be eternally grateful for him and even just during the Pratt man I was getting [ __ ] excited like that kind of stuff amps me up to think that there's a lot more in my tank than I think and that I can push bass in he obviously inspired fast which we are day three of the fast right now so mad love to my other fasters in the room uh and in gaja suits got me through if you are not fasting that's just not how i like to express myself discipline fair enough how do you like to express yourself well I do dry an you arey that's okay and we talked about I've done triathlons the last two years legit was just something I wanted to see if I can do nice that's yeah more stuff like that hey a triathlon is fully legit yeah I like that anyway yeah tell us about the fast how's it going talk to people about why you're doing it go a little bit deeper into that yeah so I'm doing a three-day fast or several people here and in fact I'm sure some of you in the community right now are fasting with us we didn't take our blood levels before this that's right we'll take it shortly here after and I'm doing it really for two reasons one is just to get summer ready so it's a part of our summer ready hashtag summer ready i T yep so that's our summer prep and then the other I just want to suffer and so Goggins really brought it home and I knew I wanted to do the fast leading into getting ready for summer and when I started prepping for Goggins I was like oh we have to do it around the release of this episode if for nobody else didn't mean by the way so that I will be just totally submerged in his mindset during the hardest part which I expected to be sort of night 2 which is usually the hardest and so waking up yesterday morning at the end of night 2 and getting to watch his episode which I think I watched with everybody else out there like the second it dropped on iTunes stitcher goes to rate and review and it was awesome it was like exactly what I needed so staying focused on the positive nature of the suffering that you're doing it to suffer and both times the last two times that I've I really wanted advil because I've had a headache and the first time I didn't do it because I was afraid of her calories in it and the second time I had looked to find out there are no calories in that bill you'd be happy to know but I just couldn't bring myself to take it I was like this is part of the point is to suffer and I'm not exist I'm much much better I know how to do keto now which made the transition like I came straight off of Christmas the last time I did it fast so I'd been eating nothing but sugar it was amazing and fun but then transitioning into a fast is brutal because your brain is just screaming for glucose yeah so I did it a little more intelligently this time is much more manageable yeah it's interesting you talked about how watching episode is keeping you motivated through this fast and Goggins touches on motivation a little bit and I know visualization is key to him but really he says that motivation is going to come and go and it's about Drive right I got to have the drugs yeah tell me about that how do you love that yeah how do you cultivate the drive wow you just like pulled a switcheroo right at the last second making this nearly impossible impossible to answer how do you cultivate drive part number one is identity I want to be a certain somebody so badly that I'm I just have to live and I have to act in accordance with that belief like that's just critical for me and I spend a lot of time cultivating my identity that's huge for me and then the other is I say things out loud which helps a lot so I tell people having to do this fast I did that whole rant where I was like do you really think that I would come out here say all the things that I'm saying and then buckle for any reason during the fast right knowing that I'm essentially putting a gun to my head and that for me to back out for any reason would just be absolutely [ __ ] insane like oh I would never tolerate that in myself I hope you guys wouldn't tolerate that for me community certainly would not tolerate that like no and that's why I do it that's why I say stuff out loud that's why I want people to know what I'm doing what I'm up to so that I can be held accountable and having a group of people that hold you accountable is really important and then you have to have a future that is so compelling to you that you're willing to push and drive and suffer to get there and that's one thing that I think that people miss a lot is that notion of really cultivating a compelling future a vision of yourself that is so exciting for you that you're willing to suffer and do all that and I just know there's a truth about human nature which is the people that really accomplish are the ones that keep going they are willing to suffer they're willing to drive past boredom they're willing to face inadequacies fears all of that like they just keep going and so that is being that person is so compelling I'm so interesting what we're trying to build here is so important to me for sure and I believe important to the world so it's like okay if I know to accomplish that thing which I'm really [ __ ] excited about I've got to become a different person because you know me my fundamental belief is you've already gone as far as your current skills that is going to take you so you've got to push past it you've got to get better you've got to get tougher and unless you actively do things to suffer you you're just not going to get tougher so all of that wrap together that is Drive you want something so badly you're just going to keep going until you get it yeah and David Goggin talks about how you really have to take the time do the deep introspection to look at yourself and figure out what it is that you want and what do you want to be wish and he has a great story behind that I mean his backstory which we haven't even talked about yet she's seen the episode is he didn't start out with he had no special talent he even had like a heart arrhythmia or something but he had a hole in his heart the size of a poker chip that's serious a poker chip yep he ran 135 mile races with a hole in his heart the size of the poker chip that's madness and growing up he was overweight he was subject to all kinds of bullying and racism at his school and he said he one day just had to decide that this is not what I want to be but you talk about this in the episode but I'd love to kind of reiterate this is instead of going away from the adversity he just went toward more so he was already suffering right this is a lot of people external things are happening to you and you're suffering this is something we actually talked about yesterday in our game show motivation or garbage right there's a difference between choosing to suffer and then things actually happening to you they're beyond your control but I think what he did is he chose to suffer right and that that empowered him because through that process he could learn to grow and he learned to get mentally tough to deal with anything because then the world's going to throw things at you that are outside of your control so how do you overcome them how do you get put through them yeah I mean that that's me is the most fascinating part about a story is what he calls the accountability mirror and he started shaving his head I think he said when he was 13 15 16 so he was like I'm staring at myself in the mirror every day every day every day and I did not like what I saw and he realized what he had to do was toughen up and dude that is my advice for a lot of people out there you have to toughen up and you you just have to expect more from yourself men like you really do you have to hold yourself to a higher standard like and Goggins was willing to look in the mirror and say I'm not enough and I need to toughen up and he said I considered myself the softest man that God had ever created but he knew he could become the hardest man God had ever created if he was willing to put in the work and so he looked at the world and found something that he believed was the toughest thing you could do as a person which was to join the Navy SEALs and to go through hell week and all of that he had to do it three times because he kept getting medically bounced back he completed it twice almost completed it the third time which I guess was technically the second time and so that that's just like absolute madness in my opinion to be able to do what is considered like the hardest training ever and do it three times and the third time that he did it they said if you get medically bounced again we're not going to let you go back through it and so he ended up having to tape hitchens because he had stress fractures he started with stress fractures in the shins and a hernia and he had to make it through and there's no rest for like six months so it's not even just leading up to hell week my wife is crawling into frame please tell me we see her somewhere this is amazing Wow is it really that quiet well I apologize hi baby so that is just utterly utterly astonishing to me somebody that can do that that's willing to say I don't like what I see I want to become something better I'm going to force myself to toughen up that's what's so great about his story man he was not born genetically gifted he wasn't raised in like some perfect environment that taught him really had to be tough he got tired of hating who he saw in the mirror yeah and that's something you know my 8020 rule men that is something that people just don't allow themselves they're always trying to give themselves breaks are always trying to cut themselves slack and at some point without destroying yourself you have to be able to say I mean I refuse to accept Who I am I'm going to become something a better version of myself more empowered more powerful and if I have to suffer to get there then I'll suffer to get there and he just did whatever it took god I love this guy the ELSA did it I think because he realized that life is going to be hard already had life his life had been hard for him and the only way instead of hiding from it the only way to get through it was to just toughen up he said the best thing that ever happened to him was he went for help and help did not come right so you know it the the racism had gotten so bad at his school that's fine he just could not people were threatening him and painting his car and his binders and everything he just couldn't take anymore he goes to the principal and the principal doesn't help and he said at that moment he realized you know I've looked to my dad I've looked to my mom I've looked to the schools no one's coming to rescue me yeah so if I'm going to get rescued I'm going to have to rescue myself and this is I said in the episode this is that thing about kids that really scares me like you want to give them this beautiful amazing life but in protecting them from things you make them soft and I don't know if this is true in fact if somebody out there knows man I somehow got it into my head as a kid that there were these kids where I grew up that I think they were on a reservation so they were Native American and they had broken the law and the tribe said don't send them to juvenile hall or whatever let us do what what is happening let us do what we would traditionally do which is take them out into the wilderness and make them surprise for like a year on their own and I want that to be true so badly but I've tried looking it up to see like I just imagined that so I'm not sure but that's because they were like 14 or 15 and if my memories right they dropped them off in Alaska and literally just like in the wilderness figure it out and if you make it back awesome and if you don't well then so be it that's amazing pretty gnarly that's yeah that's badass though like I and I know about myself I couldn't do that to a kid but I think it's amazing so what do you do is that not entirely sure alright let's let's go to our Facebook live audience we have some questions here this one's from Michael Foster I'm you and have oh yeah you have a version of Goggins his alter ego that propels you to achieve things that are painful if we talked about this before have we I think when we did after impact with Terrell Owens we taught another person who constructed an alter ego that's right he created T oh yeah that was really cool yeah yeah aunt I need one do you want one do you think that's you think that's important you know it's just some people over maybe like it clearly works for the people that have done it I just don't it if that feels necessary for you do it like people clearly gotten amazing things out of doing it Goggins not the least of which I've never gone there like I've always thought of it just a little bit differently which is I'm actually trying to change myself and I'm trying to be able to tap into that toughness and that was really my thing and that business helped me with that I was not tough like as a kid at all and so learning to toughen up learning to get harder like that was a big deal for me and but I never thought to build an alter ego alright so yeah that wasn't my way of handling it but obviously seems to have worked really well for the to the mentioned definitely here's a question from Jumaane he says Goggin said that self talk was one of the things that got him to do what he does do you think the 80/20 rule for the darkness is critical in self-talk and how would you utilize the darkness in self-talk 100 percent amazing questions you money so I do think that the darkness plays an absolutely critical role and there are times where the beautiful things in your life will get you there and it's all you need I think 80% of the time that's where you can live but 20% of the time you really have to tap into and let's so I've talked endlessly about like the people that want you to fail but now let's talk about self hatred because Goggins showed how powerful that can be but it's self hatred from the perspective of believing you can change anything about yourself but your level of dissatisfaction has to hit a crescendo it has to the point we are just not going to [ __ ] take anymore like you're not okay with where you are you're not okay with what you're capable of you're not okay with how you feel inside you not okay with what you see like it's not okay anymore and I feel like in society we've taught people not to do that and that is to their detriment now once you let that become corrosive and self-destructive and you either forget that you can change anything or don't believe it then looking at how you're not good enough like if you aren't thinking I'm not good enough yet you're in trouble if you just think permanently and forever I'm not good enough it will be a corrosive technique it will totally ruin you you've got a fixed mindset address that first but once you have a growth mindset and you're willing to say I'm not good enough yet I'm just simple as I'm not good enough yet and now I'm going to do whatever it takes to improve myself because I'm not willing to live a life where I was shy of expressing my potential and that's why I open every [ __ ] episode of inside quest and I even I'm afraid that I'll just say the words and people won't feel them but the that every show opens with you were here my friend which is a [ __ ] reference to the matrix for those who don't know that you were here my friend because like me you know the human potential is nearly limitless but having potential and actually doing something with it or not the same most people have all this amazing Leyton potential they can do insanely cool stuff but they break and if I can just without naming names several people reached out to me in the DM and we're like I started the fast but how do I see this room and how do you see how do you see it through you don't stop like there is no magic you don't allow yourself to stop because you make that demand of yourself because you like there's no one to hide from like for instance I'm taking my blood because I want to see like what's happening and I want to make sure that my ketones are producing and I want people to know like I'm not in the [ __ ] backroom like eating a ding dong and you can know that for two reasons one it's in my blood there's nowhere to hide with that and then two what would it matter if I trick other people I'll know like every time I look in the mirror all no and that's part of the reason I didn't do the Advil because it's like I know like some little voice in me was like you'd have to asterisk the fast like maybe you can still count it but there's the [ __ ] asterisk I just no two ways about it and that like having something in you that you believe that you want for yourself like that is critical and that's how you see the bathroom yes it sucks like who got into this thinking that it's not going to suck like it's going to suck the whole point is to find out who you are the whole point is to go wow this really sucks and do I want to be this person badly enough that I'm willing to push through and if you don't at least on it but don't try to hide from it don't sketch out don't be confused like you didn't you didn't man up simple as yeah Tom mentioned in sidequest back every what he meant was just just today in Keaton the audience thank you he is on the third day of this fast fair enough but I I don't make excuses amazing I [ __ ] up I'll have to put money into the cookie jar which brings us to the cookie jar yeah talk about that it's a pretty cool concept so Goggins notion is he's done all this amazing stuff in his life and all of those are deposits in the cookie jar so at a moment like when he's done sad than the miles and has now broken both of his feet has shin splints urinated blood and defecated on himself because he couldn't walk the 20 feet to the Porta Potty because he was and up yeah he was so spayed yeah lightheaded and yeah and like any one of those things stops everybody else and Goggins realized that he to accomplish his goal because he had to finish he had to finish a hundred miles in 24 hours so he'd been running around this track and he was going to run out of time if he didn't get going so finally realized okay i need to address one issue at a time need to eat I need to blah blah blah finally gets back up he's walking and then realizes his wife at the time tells him at your current pace you're not going to finish on time so he's got to now run the remaining 19 miles on broken feet and shin splints and now is a lot anyway it's for almost a whole nother marathon so to do almost a whole nother marathon on broken feet shin splints with feces on you yep staining urine and blood down your leg I mean it's just like nuts and so at that moment he starts pulling items out of the cookie jar and some of the items were you finished hell week twice you finished all the Navy SEAL stuff you were willing to kick down doors when there were people on the other side with you know that wanted you dead and had the weapons to make that a reality you who I think the exact way said it was who else would have gotten back up after you know breaking their feet and all that you would who would start running to make sure they finished you would like nobody else would do this you were the baddest mofo on the planet like period and those were all his items in the cookie jar so that he could remember who he is and I love that statement to remember who you are so I think people forget yeah like you have to remember and just recognize that that's the human mind right from you can go from feeling like King stud to feeling like a total loser in like 30 seconds it is so surreal and then once you realize that that is the matrix that's what I'm talking about that moment where you can swing so dramatically from one to the other that's the matrix and once you realize you get to pick are you the baddest [ __ ] around or are you weak it's a choice and so for him the cookie jar is a way of remembering to make the right choice I love that and I think for people who are ambitious who are always trying to improve we're looking at their inadequacies and saying how do I get better it can be easy to forget where you've come from and what you've accomplished to get that far so what do you recommend for people to mentally build that cookie jar I mean write it down if you have to like literally keep a list like these are going to be my 15 20 go-to moments where I really showed up and if you only have one or two then write those one or two and say like I'm going to keep doing things to add to my cookie jar and it gives you away it's like gamifying your internal dialogue it gives you a way to say like this fast for me is another thing in the cookie jar right the having a headache during it fast like that's a cookie in the cookie jar like doing all the things to push through doing a double episode with the flu that's a [ __ ] cookie jar moment right so it's like eight you've got to show up and play in those moments because those in the moment so you're going to be proud of like those are the moments that that give you a deposit in the cookie jar so doing the hard things do the hard things like that suffer do the hard things that's where you're in credibility with yourself going to the gym right getting you know when you stopped before you absolutely had to and when you really [ __ ] pushed you're never going to be proud no matter what I tell you not going to be proud of the moment sorry stop too soon but you'll really be proud of the times that like I remember one time having to just sit in my car because I had done leg so hard that I was like and there's just weird delay with legs where it was like 20 minutes later and I was like if I get up I may vomit or just straight fall over so I literally just had to sit there and I was like wow this really sucks but now I'm proud of this one because I obviously pushed it that hard yeah I'll go back to the darkness so you talked about having a bit of self-hatred to look naked ly at the things you're not good at and then to work on them but for dick Goggins the darkness is also external it's something that he projects on other people right like I'm going to take your soul so talk a little bit about that and and do you use that yourself it's is that the rage part of your beauty and rage equation I do use it but not the way he does I find that it manifests itself at the times of like oddly my deepest compassion so I'll be looking at somebody like the people that wrote in and said God confession time so the people that wrote in and said like I can't do it I was like I get it man I really get it like when you hit that wall of suffering and you haven't built the mental framework that you need to want to be somebody badly enough to push through that and all that I get it man I have legitimate empathy for people in that situation but at the same time I'm like my hand I'm elbow-deep in the cookie jar and those moments going you just can't keep up you just can't keep up and when I'm the first in the office and I'm the last to leave and I'm up at 2:00 in the morning and I [ __ ] hit the gym and you know people are texting me like oh man I thought I was badass getting up at 4:00 in the morning and there you are up at 2:00 in the morning it's I'm like yeah like dope bless you don't try to keep up like you just you don't have the anger and beauty in your mind the way that I do you're not going to be able to push through and so in those it really is this weird day where I have nothing but empathy for them in those I'm not trying to eat their souls the way the Goggins is it's and I love that and they're I'm sure I will use that now but I would reserve that for people who want bad things for me it just would never trigger for me with people that I care about or even people that I just am neutral don't know whatever that might be fault response is always empathy in those moments but if you want from my demise [ __ ] I'm coming for your soul I like it all right a couple shoutouts from Facebook LeAnn's mead from Capetown what's up Liane Capetown our boy Joe cross in Miami this week all right yeah I'm gonna say he's normally you know I don't think so we're just joker remember I met him here so now he's sort of engrained in my mind as a LA boy but and he's a windy VNL Oh from Venice Italy Wow always Venice is the most interesting city I didn't it's amazing yeah I didn't make it up I didn't make it out but you'll go back yeah I think I will amazing town we have a question from Joe cross as well Goggin says the key to changing your life is to look internal for so many people looking inside yourself doesn't do it what do you think is next is necessary to actually overcome inertia and maintain momentum for deep change I think that people that look inwards and don't find what they need are lying to themselves or I'll even just assume they're completely fine and content great like if you're fine and content with where you are in life I have nothing for you like I can only hope to look like a madman I'm the guy you come to when you want dramatic change like when you really want to do something and that to me is looking inward and seeing all the things that are deficient and creating a compelling future for yourself and seeing amazing things that you could bring to the world and something beautiful that you could build and that like a compelling future like you need to be moving away from not wanting to be a lesser version of yourself holding yourself to an incredibly high standard get around better people they'll hold you to a higher standard and then create a compelling future for yourself something that you really believe in that you're really excited about that is so critical like you can't just move away from things and you can't just move towards things but I think that 80% of your energy should be about the beautiful thing that you're trying to build so step one is looking inward 100% like there is nothing else otherwise somebody is handing you something and saying go build this but if that's not like in you that's not the thing you want that's not the thing that's going to get you excited that's going to from a neurochemical standpoint put you in the right frame of mind to push and go and by the way like I don't pass moral judgments on that I don't think that most people should try to live the life that I'm trying to live I think that most people should everybody should look inward and see like what do I want like a lot of people just want a life devoid of stress and my life is anything but devoid of stress like I leveraged stress to keep me going to keep me moving to keep me hungry looking over my shoulder making sure that I'm paranoid and going is hard in the forward direction is seemingly possible so if you want a monkish life if you want just peace and tranquility that is a very doable life but it is a very different type of introspection so what does someone do because Goggin says that you know you guys are in lockstep with this look look inward find out and he really says find out who you are at your core that's step one what do people do if they're doing a lot of deep work self-reflection and they still don't know who they are I thought you were going to ask something else I'm going to answer to something else because it's easier okay if you look inwards and don't like what you see which is I think where most people end up is there even such a thing as not knowing who you are I don't think there is maybe in the sense of not knowing what you want of life that's very different that's like how do you take an interest and turn it into a passion which we'll talk about but maybe not during God yeah so if you look inward and you don't like what you see then it's about massive action it's about what do I need to do to become that person like there is an answer and it's the thing that you don't want to say it's the thing that's at the edge of your consciousness that you trying not to allow yourself to say and say that thing and go do whatever you need to do to get good add that thing like it and it is like interest everybody knows what they're interested in but they've got some off switch where they they've passed the judgment on it where it's like well I can't go do that right like I could never make money doing that I can never make a living doing that never tell my parents I do that and so they they and it's not like they recognize oh this is that thing Tom is talking about it seems so patently obvious to them that they could never do that they can never tell the world that they do that that they just they brush it off and it's like stumbling over gold so they're there and they're sort of mental construct and the answer is ubiquitous it's the thing that they love doing it's the thing that makes them the most happy and just a lot of times that thing on its surface seem stupid and so they don't push and therein lies the tragedy when people think they're letting other people's view of what they like and they're interested in stop them from pursuing that thing now not everything turns into a multi-million dollar business but it doesn't necessarily need to like figure out like if that makes you feel alive like let's take quilting if quilting makes you feel artistic and creative and you love doing it and hours go by and you don't even notice like finally like even if it's making forty five thousand dollars a year doing it move to a small town where the cost of living is crazy low and find a way to quilt in one of the you know the tiny houses in an inexpensive town and if that's the thing that makes you come alive then there you go I don't wait they're like good day or the day after I don't think I sent it to you which is really dumb I had mentioned those people that took their kids out on a boat and for years do you remember talking about that house I talking to you tonight so maybe I was talking to dr. finesse it was during lives and anyway that may or the next day I read a story on I think reddit about a kid who's like hey I grew up on a boat and I know oh just the I bring that up because even they're like craziest stuff like that can be done with kids and this kid was like I wouldn't trade it for anything so like you can construct your life in such a way where you're able to bring your most exhilarating life to the forefront I love it here's a question from YouTube from head Fathead I head telling how do you climb out of the trap of not hold on what can we talk about fat head first hanger I don't know if I had you know I don't know fat head but we are I'm guessing unless it's a reference to something cool and powerful that I don't know about very subtly he's injecting a negative into his perpetual world and that is [ __ ] dangerous so and I would just say and if somehow fat head is empowering for him the rest of the world goes Fathead like it's not a positive so you got to be real careful with [ __ ] like that like this is how people very subtly erode themselves it to be really really careful maybe powerhead he can change his name to power head that would be amazing I know that how her head hasn't I show you in the comments power head that's what yeah or his question is Tom his or her question Tom how do you climb out of the trap of not feeling like you're worthy of massive success I come from an upper middle-class family my parents make good money and we never struggle to pay bills however I want more I want to push for bigger things to change the world but feel like I don't deserve it Wow well here's the good news this is all belief system so do and believe that was from as you forward start with that ok so make the demand of yourself that you do and believe only that which moves you towards your goals so believing that you don't deserve it does not move you towards your goals so now that you have the belief that you only do and believe that which moves you towards your goals you can immediately get rid of that so even though it feels more real than what you're going to tell yourself which is that you do deserve it I get it the negative thing feels real the positive thing does not feel real you still have to jettison it anything that does not move you toward your goal so your goal is to do something better to become something more you have to start with that belief that will do a lot of things and then man be protective of who you are like allowing other people to call you fat head calling yourself that had Danger Danger Danger Will Robinson and now that I know that he or she does not believe that they're worthy I promise you fat head is a negative it's derogatory and they just subtly let that into their lives you this is like an awesome and thank you by the way so I know there's a lot of vulnerability in this there's just blocking and tackling of the belief system that you have to do and that's why the twenty five bullet points start living them human potential is nearly limitless only do and believe that which moves you towards your goals like they're just basic infrastructure for your mind that you have to put in place it's a belief system that will allow you to empower yourself to go out and acquire skills at the end of the day that's what the belief system is about to believe that you can that you should that you're worthy all of that and then to actually know how to go out and do it how do you remove negative self-talk from your life you don't never try to remove the negative self-talk negative self-talk is incredibly powerful but pay attention to the balance so negative self-talk usually is pointing out something that's real so help me understand the difference between calling yourself Fathead and negative self-talk because your balance is eternally [ __ ] if your name is Fathead it's just ever present so having negativity be ever-present and literally it's his name can we say that would be part of your identity yeah so part of his identity is or her is this self defeating I'm the Fathead I'm not good enough I don't deserve it so your your balance is never going to be 80/20 in that world his name should be like why do I wear Batman Ironman like all these the superhero stuff Star Wars Jedi's like because I want to be surrounded by that I want Bruce Wayne staring back in me when I look in the mirror I want Yoda throwing quotes out at me like all the time all the time all the time so I'm constantly surrounding myself with that stuff the positive reminders so negative self-talk is usually pointing out something that's real hey you're lazy that's one that I get a lot I'm like yes I am lazy so I need to have rules hey since I'm lazy I should probably have a rule about how rapidly I get out of bed okay so that's where my ten-minute rule came from I know that I'm lazy and I'm very good at coming up with excuses so I should probably work out first thing in the morning because I hate it so much Hey I really am lazy so I should probably do from my 8:00 to 10:00 important things time I should probably start with the things that suck the most Dyess impacts almost always doing contracts at that time so those are like protected mechanisms because I allow I don't go no you're not lazy it's all good like love yourself for who you are I'm like no [ __ ] you really are lazy and you really do need to combat this and don't tolerate the expression of your laziness so like cognitive I really am a dumb [ __ ] cool what do I need to do to get educated right he didn't wallow in that he didn't say oh I could never become anything he just said acknowledge the truth you are dumb and so what do you have to do right now today to start educating yourself that's where people have wins because they're just not afraid to be real so I don't think people should get rid of the negative voicing a negative voice is there to serve you but you have to relegate it to 20% and when it crops up at 21% you shut the [ __ ] door on it symbolize and use it as a trigger to action conjure presented all the way there life always always always well said great alright here's a question from Cameron RN how often do you use the dark side for motivation compared to letting go of a dark past Wow we're dabbling with something very dramatic in there so a dark past almost always means physical emotional or sexual abuse never be afraid to seek help like if you need to talk with somebody about that like do that in a heartbeat never be ashamed about that that is just super super super important and also like got a dark past man whatever you need to do to get over that to get past that it's just super super important you need to start building an empowering mindset you need to allow yourself to believe that you're good enough to get better right so I'm not afraid even for somebody with the dark path I'm not afraid to say like you probably haven't accomplished as the level that you want or should or should be holding yourself to that standard but you have to believe that you can get better and you have to believe that you're worthy of getting better you should have written Goggins is in the feed so our boy Goggins is in the feed amazing thanks for letting me know man I really hope he's been here but dude Goggins you are the man you've totally just blown me away in ways that I've been explaining for the last 40 minutes I won't say I could never explain but so back to it if you have a dark past that is something you need to address you need to get past that especially if you plan to have kids like you've just got to find something you've got to find the beauty inside of you check out the West Chapman episode which that's somebody that's really overcome a super dark past and for him to be able to find Beauty again which i think was my first question him is the thing I'm most fascinated by with people that have had a dark past is you've got to find Beauty again you've got to find a way to let all of that neuro chemistry of beauty and wonderment and joy and all of that come back in you're going to have to aggressively do that because you're going to have hardwired through that experience or experiences you're going to have hardwired a lot of just rapid negativity and so the chances to be spending way more than 20% of your time there is is super dangerous so that's a dark past allowing the darkness to be usable that's a whole nother ball of wax so the easiest way for me to talk about darkness is when somebody wants ill for you and Goggins gave an awesome example of this when he was talking about how he was there during hell week during the whole training and he knew that the instructors who were trying to break him down and find the flaws in his personality we're going to go home and be in a comfy bed he said he wanted them to see him suffer and be so comfortable with being uncomfortable and smiling the whole time that when they were at home in their comfy bed thinking about how hard they struggled during their time and how badly they wanted to quit that he's not thinking like that that he's not going to ring that bell that he's way more comfortable being uncomfortable than you ever were and in that he said he takes people sold that is a that's an amazing way to use the darkness definitely one of the one of the different quotes from the episode which I love is we're writing our book every day of our lives but we don't read that book and it's just so good I love the idea that a it's about self reflection so you need to be recognizing what you're doing and be it's about intentionality because we do have control we do have choices that we're making but a lot of times it's on autopilot and we're not being aware we're not being intentional member of decisions so read the book that we're writing and then write it with intentionality love that quote so much love that and I have to say in the episode I had this moment of like oh god what Scoggins going to say and when he said self-talk was a huge part of his success I was like thank God because I've met other Navy SEALs and their responses like you just do it like there's no sense they don't understand how they got there and that's what makes Goggins so powerful is he's gone on the journey he was not born tough he was born weak he was physically and mentally he went through everything to try to break him down emotionally and he didn't look at that and blame the rest of the world he turned inward and got a hold of his self-talk and really turned it into something incredibly powerful and that to me that is like the story that needs to be told that's the journey that people need to be on it's just super super critical yeah that's awesome here's a question from Facebook live Shikhar Dhawan what's up Shekar Tom what do you think of the idea that there are limits to the amount of deep work or deliberate practice in a day I know you don't believe in that but while I have examples of people who have achieved amazing physical feats like Goggins I don't see many talking about mental stuff what's your experience on this um it's not that I don't believe it is there a limit to the deep work that you can do probably but like anything it's so much farther away than where people actually stop that don't even worry about that don't think like you'll transition into something no matter what like just do as much as you can possibly bear first of all you'll see that it goes farther every day and that you get better at it and like anything even discipline focus like those things can be improved over time so if when you start you can only do deep work for like 25 minutes great but then next day you better demand yourself to do 26 and then 30 and then 40 like just keep pushing it out pushing it out pushing it out and it's like the four-minute mile if you read an article and somebody says all the most deep work that you can do is about an hour and a half like you that's all the human mind is capable of like then there's Roger Sir Roger Bannister who when told that the heart would explode if you ran faster than a four-minute mile said get out of here like that's ridiculous and just pictured 359 359 359 and then finally broke in and once he broke it then something like 20 people break it in like the next year I mean it's ridiculous right so people just need to see that it's possible so is there a limit probably is it way farther than you think yes so yeah don't don't tap out because other people wrote in an article that that's the limit cool David says that being the best isn't about being number one it's about asking yourself that I leave every did I do everything I could and give everything I had what do you think about that um yeah I mean that it's true but don't you also want to be number one and I think that stuff is so transient like you might be one minute and you won't be the next but so if you can do it playfully like to really go after it like friends I really really like Gary Vaynerchuk as a human being I think if content is [ __ ] amazing but I'm gunning for him like make no mistake like I want to be number one I think right now he's number one I think he's amazing and but I'm coming for him but like in a way where when I see him it's warm embraces it you know he's a great guy and he'll be the first to say the same like he wants to hold the number one position like there's no way that he wants somebody to take a spot but if that's like this place of ugliness and bitterness like that's not sustainable but if you can have fun with it and be playful and really actually try to be number one and then when you're not number one it's like yeah like if you left it all on the table and you're not number one so be it like no big deal but if I were a professional athlete I would want to be the best in the world like period so I don't see anything wrong with actually literally wanting to be the best but at the same time that spot can only be held by one person at a time so if that's destructive and corrosive to not be that then got a problem because statistically speaking got like what a one on a seven billion chance right so you better be real comfortable being in other positions and leaving it all on the table all right there we go just a reminder we're on Facebook live we're wrapping up in a few minutes so get your questions and now about the david Goggins episode you haven't watched it watch or listen to it this is one you you need to you need to see i'm just we're just going to make it mandatory yes like if you're an impactive Asst this needs to be and by the way you should be following Goggins osha lee so in fact we should probably be pressuring Goggins to be way more socially active just because I think this message is so transformative for people and people really really really need to hear it so agreed here's the question from Sarah a brothy she says Tom what's what's an important truth or what important truths do very few people agree with you on um I think that people don't agree i around myself with people that think in a very positive and empowering way so most of the people around me agree but i would say that a lot of the world totally disagrees with human potential is nearly limitless [Music] what's one that's really controversial [Music] the the whole self hatred thing that's the most controversial belief that i have that that is powerful and can be leveraged i think most people think that it's just dangerous and that's why with great empathy I realize I will forever eat their lunch because I'm willing to be real with myself yeah I think another one to which you got into a little bit of a debate over yesterday with one Mel Robbins yeah was about whether or not you as an individual are special and unique yeah and your answer was not at all like statistically speaking you're all average and life is about pushing past that life is about like the drives mean that when somebody is saying like I'm special I'm unique it's because you're afraid to write now today not be special and once you're afraid to not right now today be special then you're not honestly assessing where you really are so that you can actually become special but you can get good but for me it's like the the version of myself that's special and amazing is always in the distance and I'm always chasing that I'm always going after a paradoxical did my dog jailbreak and if so how because it requires opening doors my dogs can not open doors that's very impressive dr. a running loose they were inspired by Goggins it's like they can't be held back now so yeah I don't think people should worry about being special I think people should worry about becoming a special like they should be putting in the work to really get that mean if that's gave the word becoming its process that never ends for sure no question it's very paradoxical so I feel like we might have to circle back to this or have you write an article oh not writing an article and we talked about I don't write articles anymore like that is the world's longest process we already everyone here is very comfortable with the fact that I am using a ghostwriter now to write the book because I can speak all this stuff very rapidly the moment you needed to be written down it is such a slow process I just I can't justify it for the business because well what we do we have that guy that wrote if he can write emails like this guy right in the impact Theory universe so well dude can we give him a shout out what's the name diem remember Gerald's sure I think it is Gerald I don't know his less than okay but that's good well remembered we're going to connect we tweeted back at you that was amazing by the way this guy just to get an internship wrote five emails that he thinks we should be sending just like that was he'd never have contact with us war really incredible very impressive it was a good angle for sure very good angle especially because jared is ultimately the one you have to impress and so emails is like the perfect way to do it on emails very smart his question from William Mendoza Tom what is one weakness that has turned out to be a strength for you man I could give you some BS none zero all of my weaknesses or weaknesses for a reason and they don't serve me and systematically I'm trying to get rid of them all there we go there it is love it no weaknesses those are all the questions we have and that I have anything else I want to talk about Goggins I just think people need to dive in this world I think they will benefit tremendously from doing the hard inner reflection looking at where you are honestly and then forcing yourself to suffer understanding in the suffering you will meet yourself in the suffering you will be able to empower yourself begin to get better but if you avoid suffering like the plague you're never going to progress and it is literally about creating suffering in your life and if you don't have something already might I suggest the gym so the gym has longevity angle it has looking better feeling better getting stronger being more powerful and every day it's going to be something that is woefully uncomfortable and so in doing that you're going to be able to sharpen your mind and your body it is just an awesome awesome utility player in the game of suffering so get to it nobody has an excuse even if literally you can't afford a gym membership do sit-ups do push-ups run in place go run outside like there are a thousand ways to get in shape without having to go to a gym and then also if you really want to suffer start messing with your food that's where most people just can't do it they can't fast yeah thanks everyone for joining us on Facebook live on the podcast YouTube you can always submit your questions in advance to connect it impact theory come if you're not able to join us on Facebook live I want to encourage you to go sign up for our newsletter which we're going to be investing more time and energy into over the next couple of months exciting things there discounts promos for the store we're going to be releasing things on the store so that is where you're going to hear about it first and you'll be part of the inner circle so go sign up yes and if you are an impact sub as we call them if you've signed up for the newsletter let me know when you're commenting socially because we consider that the absolute inner sanctum of this community so let me know hashtag impact sub and then you know who you're writing to every week yes very true yeah awesome cool well thank you guys so much for joining us for this episode and David Goggin to you my friend I tip my hat you are officially my favorite episode this was amazing I'm very glad that I got a chance to meet you and I have not forgotten about what we talked about downstairs we will be making that a reality in the very near future my friend it is an obsession of mine so we will get it done alright if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary take care

Channel: Tom Bilyeu

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Length: 54min 1sec (3241 seconds)

Published: Fri May 26 2017