Dating: Texting, Calling & Messaging

I'm coach Cory Wayne this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be daily calling texting and messaging I've got an email here from a guy who's 20 years old and as many of you may have noticed the younger generation seems to be glued in a perpetual state of looking down at their smartphone doodle in a way with your thumbs and not paying any attention to where they're going or what's going on around them you may see them at lunch or dinner at times and they're just all glued to their little smartphones not really even interacting with other people and so this guy has been following my work and he's basically saying well yeah but I know the phone is for setting dates Cory but if I'm not available to call and chitchat and text all the time the girls just going to run off and like some other guy who texts and interacts with her so let's I got a quote that I wrote his topic I want to go through his email because he also acknowledges in his email that if you text too much the conversation becomes dull and boring so the quote says it's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear women like guys who are mysterious interesting and more difficult to figure out and tend to lose interest in guys who are always available 24/7 to chit chat message and talk on the phone men should be busy with their mission and purpose in life not sitting around waiting to spring into action to be a woman's therapist or digital pen pal when she gets bored women need time and space away from a man to understand contemplate and grow their feelings of attraction for him men should only use the phone texting or messaging to set dates not give out information or to get to know someone when they violate this principle they predictably get friend-zoned act like her fun charming and mysterious lover not a friend or buddy when your interest is Rome antic so this guy I assume he's read my book he's reading goes hey well I'm younger it doesn't really apply to me so let's take a closer look shall we so he says hi Cory coach Cory Wayne this is an interesting topic I always hoped you'd cover in one of your videos as a young adult being 20 years old the generation I've grown up with is much more technologically dependent than older generations unfortunately and I feel this dependency is even more expressed with kids still in high school although just a couple of years younger than me my question is do you feel when advising people to only use text as a form of contact to make plans that this may be counterproductive for younger generations under you well things that I teach in my book I have clients on every continent in every country in the globe and the bottom line is when they violate this principle it has nothing to do with how old you are it has everything to do with what women emotionally respond to and what men respond to when they're dating when they're attracted to one another and the bottom line is if you're chit-chatting all the time you become boring you become predictable especially if you're available 24/7 I mean if I'm at lunch I might text or whatsapp with my girl but if I'm doing phone sessions with clients I don't stop what I'm doing in the middle of phone sessions and sit there and chit chat with them on my cell phone it's rude to the clients and I'm [ __ ] busy and at the end of the day one of the ones wondering what you're doing where you're at what you're up to who you're with it creates attraction they like it I may have done scientific studies on this women like men whose feelings are unclear not it has nothing to do with hiding your feelings or hiding your interest it just means having a busy [ __ ] life following your mission following your purpose if you're meeting with clients I remember when I was in real estate at a guy there was a business partner and we'd be in a meeting with 20 20 employees right mlah meaning she'd be calling us phone texting on his phone he would stop we was doing even if he was running the meeting in mid-sentence just you know to talk to his wife is it a Margie and she was very insecure very needy and she kept calling back and this particular guy had cheated on his wife a number of times so you can understand why she was insecure and needy about that but I mean I finally just said it was like dude we're in a [ __ ] meeting and you're running the meeting and then you sit there and you just we're all waiting on you and you spend three or four minutes chit-chatting with your wife when you're running the [ __ ] meeting it's like come on dude you need to grow a set of balls say honey I'm in a meeting I got to call you back put the phone on silent leave it in your [ __ ] office whatever you got to do it's rude to the rest of us we all got our lives on hold so we can sit and listen what you got to say and then we're sitting there watching you're needy and secure wife blowing up your [ __ ] phone I mean come on dude so you're this guy was like 3540 years old at the time it's like Hello I mean the bottom line is a man should be busy with his purpose and mission in life if you're busy with clients you should be focused on your client if you're busy working you should be focused on that if you're in the middle of something unless it's obviously an emergency you get back to them when you can the bottom line is it has a positive effect on their attraction just the not knowing where they stand with you wondering when you're going to call back if you're available what you're up to women like that it I mean think about it feminine energy is all about bonding connecting opening up to receive love and the more and woman's attraction level for you grows and I discuss this in my book the more of your attention she is going to want they want your attention all the [ __ ] time and if you're constantly giving it to them if they text you at 3 in the morning and you wake up and you chitchat and then you go back to sleep and you're always available no matter what then you're talking constantly on the phone or you're constantly messaging or chatting through messaging apps what's the point of getting together in person she already knows everything that's been going on your life you're not going to be mysterious that way she's going to get bored with you and you're to get bored with her that's why it's healthy even if you live together if the guy is off running his business working on his career they can think about each other wonder about each other during the day then that way when they come home at night hey honey how was your day they have something to talk about but if they're constantly texting all throughout the day said dozens and dozens of messages I mean you're 20 years old so you're young so it's understandable you're in high school you have a [ __ ] job you go to you go to school you're in school you're hiding your phone from the teacher so she can't see it chit chatting away with other friends and maybe in another classroom somewhere sending pictures back and forth messages whatever it happens to be that's understandable when you become an adult you have a [ __ ] life and you have a business or you have a busy career everything about if you're a successful actor and you're on a movie set you're in you're in the middle of filming you're not gonna be sitting there [ __ ] chit chatting with somebody you're [ __ ] busy if a guy's in the military he's out on patrol he's got to keep his [ __ ] head on a swell otherwise somebody's going to take it off he doesn't have time to sit there and [ __ ] chitchat or wouldn't ever rolling around they got too many things to be focusing on I mean it's common sense when you think about it but if you're constantly chit-chatting it's boring its repetitive there's nothing exciting why get together in person and I don't care what country people are from when I see guys violate this principle no matter where they're from women get bored and they get disinterested think about it like the cat analogy that I've used many times and I talk about in the book what is a cat doing when it gets bored it leaves to go find something else to entertain it but when the cat's curious you hear the expression curiosity killed the cat what's much better if women are curious about you and what you've been up to they're interested in you they want to know they want your attention - trying to get it and yes it's kind of frustrating at times to try to get all of you and you're busy but it builds sexual tension but you're talking all the time the sexual tension and their feelings and chemistry never have a chance to develop I learned this from a woman I won't learn this from a girl friend of mine that you started wrote about in the book I learned it from her in her mother she explained this to me and it made total sense and I thought when I followed it it worked and when I didn't follow it my girlfriend got [ __ ] bored she was busy she took her time returning my calls but when I followed what she told me to do and what her mother told me to do because they both liked me and they both wanted me to be together with her daughter it [ __ ] worked I learned this from a woman and this girl was very [ __ ] beautiful and she had guys all the time throw on their dicks at her because she's [ __ ] smoking hot so you can ignore the things that I teach and think that it doesn't apply to you because you're younger but the end of day for chit-chatting incessantly you're going to turn her off it's going to get bored if you always when you start dating somebody you keep the phone for strictly setting appointments and Ketan setting dates you never get her in the habit of chit chatting all the time if she wants to chat with you you should be doing it together in person where you can look into her eyes and you can kiss her and you can hold her and you can make love to her you can't do that over a phone if you do you'll just end up becoming one of her gay male girlfriends or one of her friends or her emotional tampon or somebody that she reaches out to and she's bored and complains that she can't ever get ahold this guy that she really likes it's driving her crazy just the way it is I didn't make women this way I'm just telling you and teaching you the way they are and what works if you don't apply it not a matter of me I just want to help people that want to be helped it's like Iran said you could ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality a lot of guys make the mistake they initially start texting with a girl and they're available all the time and then she is bored and disinterested then they find out about my work and then they back off and now since the girl is totally used to them chit-chatting texting all the time I've done videos on this topic as well she gets pissed off when he's not available 24/7 she thinks she's playing games with her you know if he gets busy maybe he got a new career maybe I got a new job maybe start a new business he doesn't have all that time on his hands if you're 20 years old and you have plenty of time to chitchat and talk you need to take up some hobbies you need to go to school or maybe you need to go out and get a [ __ ] job grow up be [ __ ] man he says I asked this because I feel it nowadays especially girls love to have text conversations that you'd find useless about merely nothing just to talk again that's why you get together in person and you set a date you can't make love to her over the phone I mean yeah you can have phone sex but it's much better to feel the friction and person because otherwise I'm it's just [ __ ] glorified masturbation why not have a nothing like the real thing baby he said due to this new age of constant worthless communication between people for the pure sake of communication if you want to use texting only to make plans and not to just talk with younger women they lose interest quicker because they're so used to holding text conversations with the people in their lives again this is just your fear you're learning something new for me that is completely contrary to the fact that you're [ __ ] glued to your cell phone you're addicted to it and if you act in wait I mean you get a job and you start working for an employer in the real world and he sees you [ __ ] texting all the time you're going to get fired they hire you to work and I sit there and [ __ ] chitchat all day long with your friends or a girl you're dating that's the reality Simon put your [ __ ] big-boy pants on and grow the [ __ ] up get a life get a [ __ ] purpose get some hobbies go to the gym take care of yourself go to school get a [ __ ] job build a company do something women like guys who have goals and ambition and ambition and they're trying to achieve something alike the problem I realize however is it too much texting between my significant other and myself leads to boring unentertaining talk lowering her inch or so duh on one hand you're basically saying I want to keep calling and texting all the time on the other hand it's a [ __ ] boring conversation so why even get together person you're completely bored you know everything that's been going on with each other what the hell you going to talk about in person I mean think about it however vice-versa too little communication through text seems to lead to the same results I suspect this to be the case because since she can just text any other guy to entertain her throughout the day because I'm not communicating with her as much as the next guy I get slowly pushed out of her life you should be spending time together in person when a girl reaches out she's thinking about you she's missing you you assume she wants to see you again that's something I teach in the book so get together and do something fun in person if she's doing something fun in person with you she's not going to be texting other guys but you're dating this girl and she's your girlfriend she's ticked texting other guys she doesn't belong in your life as your girlfriend she can be a [ __ ] buddy or a sex plane made friends with benefits whatever you want to call it something to have an open relationship with that's a no-no I wouldn't put up with that behavior this is somebody that your girlfriend and she's texting other guys because she's bored you're not spending enough time or the girl has no integrity and you're if you're not spend enough time I mean you can't grow Attraction and lest you do it in person it's like in the in sales you sell people in persitz why would you call a car dealership and ask them about their vehicles and what their prices are and their options and what colors they got in a lot they go out of their way to try to get you to come in to the dealership why is that because unless you come into the dealership you're just a [ __ ] tire kicker you're not a serious buyer you're a time waster and sales people want to be talking to people who are interested in buying and so if a girl reaches out make a [ __ ] date it's as simple as that he says your advice has helped me tremendously and I think it'd make a fantastic response video to this question well again doesn't matter how old or how young you are young guys old guys I mean you even met yourself when you text constantly on the phone she gets bored when you don't text enough she gets bored as well I tells me I spent enough time together a person make a [ __ ] date your job as a man is to create an opportunity for sex to happen to hang out have fun and hook up it's that simple if you're busy and a girl starts texting other guys behind your back cause she's [ __ ] bored well you need to look for another girl dude don't put up with that [ __ ] [ __ ] there's too many women out there women to do that to keep several male orbiters in the background are [ __ ] immature they don't care about loyalty they don't care about being faithful doesn't mean jack [ __ ] him doesn't mean you can't have a lot of fun with them but if you're looking for a girlfriend somebody to be exclusive with or to have an exclusive monogamous relationship then eat the kind of person that is capable of being loyal communicating with you in a healthy way and focusing on your relationship she's just focusing on getting your needs met because she's a little selfish a little narcissistic when women exhibit that behavior they could be friends with benefits and that say they're not girlfriend material that's just the way it is so if you'd like to get my help personally the quickest way is a book a paid phone Skype or email coaching session you can choose any of those options by going to my website clicking the products tab at the top of your screen and just follow the instructions for booking whichever option works best for you and I will talk to you soon you you

Channel: Coach Corey Wayne

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Length: 16min 44sec (1004 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 04 2015