Can you be a faithful man?

hey Tony guys is here you know what on Fridays I try to do a video for the fellas so today I want to talk about what I've experienced the benefits of being a 100% faithful man now to the ladies who watch this I'm fine with that just don't ask me any questions because this video is for me okay so don't ask me questions about what you don't understand and all of that because you're not gonna understand what men go through and what me and dealing with but man who here it is they will understand now understand is just like any other man I was trying to do everything I can to get all the women I could when I was 22 my first book that I wrote what daddy never told his little girl there was a question in there I answered ten questions from women from between the ages of 18 years old and 25 years old in my first book what daddy never told his little girl and I don't promote that book anymore it was it was too real too raw but that was a question in there and it was can a man be faithful and my answer was no my answer was no because at 22 years old I had not accomplished that feat and I felt like it was impossible and I did not know a man understand now I did not know a man and see one thing about me too is I'm very intuitive and I'm very splenic and I'm very sensitive to spirits so I can meet a man and he could say oh I'm I understand faith i'm i understand faithful but i could see right through on i know what a faithful man is and then a lot of men that I meet who are good men they don't mention faithfulness and it's because I know that they're not faithful but they may be in the public's eye a shining example of a man because he one thing that I understand that me and understand and don't the only man who claimed not to understand this is the comment warriors who leave comments to show their girlfriend or to show their fiance love show their wife trying to look different but men no man man no man okay so at 22 years old I put a note you know can a man be fake I put no and one of the reasons was too is because I had a grandfather it was my step grandfather wasn't actually my mother's dead but to see what he was still doing trying to get women at 88 years old I was just like wow this does not in this does not in and he had a catheter okay you know the tool that help you pee and so to see him still getting women and chasing women at 88 I was like wow like he literally didn't ready to go to meet the Lord and for some reason not that his body could even do anything it just was a mental thing and so I just didn't believe because I'm not okay I'm 22 he's four times my age and we're doing the same thing so this lets me know this tick that's inside of a man this desire that's his side of a man does not go anywhere and I tell you so I didn't really try to be faithful until 23 when I was when I got married you know at its time when I'm writing a book I was faithful but I still was open to the possibility but I was writing a book and then I got married a month later after I published a book so I was 22 published a book February 1st I turned 23 March 8th I got married March 30th at 23 years old and then so I say when you get married you got to be faithful so now I'm a hundred percent faithful on my strength just my own strength I really wasn't walking all the way close with the Lord so the first way I became unfaithful was I went back to the street life to me when you give your word and you go against your word that's unfaithfulness to me but then after when I was 25 and I went on Oprah to tell my story which is not on YouTube it was alive airing I went over to tell about being a toxic controlling boyfriend and having an incident that blew up in college when I was a college football player I went on Tyra Banks they showed the book that I wrote at 22 when I was 25 I went on Tyra Banks and they showed the book to the world and I was a guest expert on Tyra show sitting next to a doctor and we're talking about you know toxic relationships and I gave my take and after that I went on I got on Twitter and so later that year his name started to pick up blow up for me my Twitter started to blow up and it just was you know all Kutner all kind of temptation coming so it was around that time right there that I really I was like wow that was the toughest test for me but it was in that year of 25 that I just had got sold just week to where I was like man I've been 100% favored but now see what you got to realize we're every new level there's a new devil that's what you got to realize so you may could be faithful when you in a small town you make a be faithful when your options are few you've heard the saying a man is only as faithful as his options you make a be faithful when your options are few when women don't approach you when women ain't got the eyes on you now with them tests change you got to have a different level of a commitment so when I was 25 that's when I really started to slip and like I'm getting weak yeah we and boom I had to catch myself you know I went all the way down and I'm just weak in my spirit and according to my beliefs when you start the lust in your heart you already committing adultery so that's when I really had to identify just how high of a standard that I need to hold because when I'm lusting in my heart and I'm having these conversations with celebrity women you know award-winning Grammy award-winning you know actresses just and I'm lusting in my heart I'm like Toni technically now you in adultery and so I had to check myself and that's that's something that even a woman could do lust in her heart and after a man that she working with or talking to but when you understand that the standard is that high that's when it it calls you to something different so at 25 years old I made a decision I renewed my mind I renewed my spirit and I made a decision now what I was going through my wife had no clue you know she had no clue because I never went to the point of light I'm in a full fledge affair and y'all gotta forgive me y'all got forgive him um I ain't get up too long cause work doc still love you no sleep but I had the I repented to Christ what my wife see that she didn't know because I never got into an affair I didn't go into where like I'm sitting there and I'm going on vacations with a woman and we hanging out and woman calling my wife phone and texting my phone texting my wife phone oh I've been with your husband for the last year and all that new another woman pregnant all that no I know ain't drawed it because for one I love or too much so I'm only gonna get weak for a little bit when the devil sending me his best test I'm gonna get weak for that look bit he might not get out I'm down down get my eight count and I get that eight count I'm coming up rubbing them the gloves on the ref and we go on back in here what's up what we thing to do and so that's just how I roll and and this what I had to realize see for me the way I did it the way I renewed my mind is I tapped into my purpose and that's right there where I see a lot of unfaithful men is a lot of men most men don't tap into purpose so you got to understand you gotta identify what can you add to this world from your experiences from your knowledge from your heart like what can you add to this world to help somebody else life become easier what can you do and that's how you're gonna do it because see when you tap into purpose and you surrender to God now your purpose is bigger than you God is bigger than you so you see when you don't fear anything that's why I don't trust ideas when you don't fear something that's bigger than you when you don't when you don't fear the law when you don't fear God when you don't feel repercussions when you don't have a set of standards and laws that you live by that has repercussions so repercussions how y'all say that not y'all North Country so think about this if I the Good Book says a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord so guess what the Good Book also says that fornication is a sin the Good Book says that adultery is a sin so if it's telling me if I find a wife I will receive favor from the Lord and it's also telling me that if I have a wife and I'm in adultery that I'm in sin then guess what that deactivates that cancels my favor then it's also if it's telling me also in the Holy Bible that if that if you lust in your heart you've already committed adultery so what that means is no pornography okay and I'm not into permanent I've never been in the Pern so no and I'm saying like that on purpose and no so no nasty movie no none of that sitting online looking at all the booty models every day now I might bump into something on my popular page that's that's how I do and I got clients that I coach that have you know take a lot of side angles and show a lot of hump on eight pages and may be on my popular page because they had my phone in my contact list or they've been looking at my page I don't know how this algorithm work so I may see it but the thing about it is you see it cuz you're not blind now you stare at it not you lusting you lusting now you just committed a sin now you need to repent and now you need to do something different move differently going forward so what I started to do is I shift my mindset from Hunter to protector so instead of looking at women as a piece of meat that I'm trying to go get you know like a lion in the jungle I became the pride I took pride over the the land so if I see a woman and she got a booty I instead of me saying what I do to you woo stead of me doing that I shift from that mindset to Lord blossom or blossom pardon a lion Lord give a confidence Lord heal from that abandonment of her father Lord HeLa from the abuse she went through everything she suffered through Lord make a hole lord help because I know it just don't make sense to get online and just always showing your body showing your body showing your body and being paid for showing your body showing your body I know nobody dreamt of doing that that there was not anybody's dream that when she little she wanted to be a professional soccer player professional you know dancer not not that kind of dancer but ballet ballerina she wanted to be a president or governor CEO she didn't want to have to show booty to get a check for a sponsorship that was not her dream I I know that by humans so when I see this stuff online and it's just countless and countless and countless women I just pray for him I just thought praying Lord blessing Lord Lord thank you ain't got no daughter think I got two sons I could raise the kings cuz this is actually level of stress when you raising a woman in this world okay so I had to shift my mindset and this is thing see when I tapped into my purpose for me fortunately fortunately my purpose was Tony you was a absolute slap doll so give away the game to help level the playing field because you know that yes it's some men that get hurt but Tony how many men have you met that's been told that by a woman I could count on one hand I count on one hand but how many men have you met that have dogged out a woman if I had $10 fair man I met listen to me I'm gonna have to work a day in my life because and so that's what I saw just with my eyes I really don't care about you know what the comment Warriors in it you know what me and get hurt too you hurt too because I had warm you listen that is so much more rare than what women go through what women go through is jab it pales in comparison it is it's no comparison now I Debbie really get you just shut that mess up and just be real just be real like I talk to women every day as a profession now you hear me I'm on the phone for two hundred and seventy five dollars to five hundred dollars an hour anybody getting on the phone with me to lie to me you hit me and I'm talking to women who they hadn't contracted multiple diseases from one man that then cheated on them multiple times and the woman ain't never cheated on the man come I see the real I see the real night coach from women who have cheated on a man but guess what I could think of three I could think of three out of the thousands of women that I've coached I could think of three women that told me about they cheating and see when they talking to me it's a safe space so you can't get help you can't go nowhere if you come in to lie so my finger on the pulse of these numbers and a lot of times the way men are the way we are we get so paranoid because of what we don't we convince ourselves that our woman is cheating and don't have no evidence don't have no evidence and faithfulness can look like cheating you can work overtime and be at work working being faithful or you can get off work on time go cheat and say you worked overtime that's how faithfulness can look like cheating one person was actually at work working the other was off work cheating both said they were doing overtime one telling the truth one lying that's how faithfulness can look like cheating and a lot of times as men because if we cheating we will convince ourselves that our woman is cheating and and the thing is is with men men will teach for no reason we cheat for no reason the woman ain't did nothing shiiin did nothing she intact your ego Sheen yeah she cursed you out she did nothing that you deserve see women are typically retaliatory okay don't know if that's a word sound good right there women are typically at retaliatory to where they just they take it take it take it take it take it didn't when they can't take it no more then they've not a yelling not a screaming not in cursing 90 go cheap most of the women that I've talked to who have cheated well all of them they cheated because of what he did and they thought that revenge cheating would make me feel better they thought that if they got him back he would say oh we even now let's ride into the sunset little did she know she know what she dealing with because a man a taste of our own medicine might kill him a taste of our own medicine might kill a man came swallow the same medicine that he'd given a woman every single day he here choking died and so and that's what women don't understand so when a woman retaliates with cheating she I suggest exacerbates the situation vocab and she just makes situation all all kinds of worse I know there's a man you know that as a man so this what you're gonna have to realize is that me we just we nasty by nature that why the boys was called Naughty by Nature because we nasty by Nature and that's what you got to admit and understand and that's the the beast that you got the team and so for me I tamed it with a love for God the Word of God and my purpose and see you understand this your purpose don't have to be giving away the game like I do because you might not understand the game on the level that I do I really honest I've never talked to a man that understand relationships on the level that I do everybody knows something but I've never talked to a man that can go into the depths talking an hour a day but could four hours a day I could do four hours a day I could do four hours a day I take it easy on y'all during our day but God and gave me a wisdom that I can put in the words that when I'm talking I know it's not me talking this God talking through me understand because if it was me every 36 year-old man without a college degree who come from nothing would be able to speak on love relationships the same way so understand I know it's not me it's my calling and that's the difference if some man just come others of us were called so your purpose don't feel like in order to be faithful in a relationship you got to preach on relationships know your purpose a guy yesterday that I coach played in NFL had situations what he's doing right now is he's mentoring young young boys so he is getting them out and getting them into sports and he's helping them in sports and he's teaching them because he was a professional athlete and could have been a two-sport pro athlete so he's teaching them sports and while he's coaching them he's teaching them about life and he's and he has a wife and he has children and now he is faithful to his wife so he's showing them the example and then guess what he got all the bells and whistles all the super the super cars the fast cars the the the mansion he got those things and so these young men get to see him with a wife love and his wife loving his children and so they say that's what I want to do so guess what that's his purpose so if he end up in the in divorce court it's gonna be a lot of hurt souls so by giving by serving it helps hold you accountable think about it so when your purpose is bended you because you are impacting lives in some kind of way whether you doing a soup kitchen whether you do free meals on Wednesdays you make peanut butter and jelly and you take it out to the homeless whether you doing a AAU basketball team or coaching the football team the baseball team the track team whether you take and you take your skill and every night then you're extra cement you got you go and pay the old lady a widow driveway you go and paint somebody house if you were painting if you a mechanic you fix cars for free for single parents you find your purpose turn it into a nonprofit organization or turn it into a for profit company and you make it your business to be about your business and then you surrender to the will and to the way of God and you allow that word to lead you and guide you could see this the thing when the Bible say in Proverbs a good man who can find one a faithful man who can find one depending on what translation you're reading it's basically a faithful man who can find one when the Bible says that hey that's real every man I meet got a crook in them every man I meet got a crook in them every single man got a crook in them what basically I mean he got a sinner and I'm ain't nobody perfect every man I meet you give him enough rope he don't hang yourself you give him enough rope I always tell people give you enough rope to help yourself a hang yourself and every man I mean if I give him enough rope he's gonna show me who he is I could count on one hand how many men that I could put them in a position to take advantage of me monetarily or socially or whatever you will call it and and they don't I could count on one hand I count on three fingers probably four fingers probably but you for the man in position no matter if is flesh your flesh blood of your blood Cain killed Abel or vice versa I can't remember who killed who listen to me the first brothers in the world there was a homicide the first brothers in the world there was jealousy and then a Hama someone not that right then show you that's why proverbs say a faithful man who could find one so let me help you understand something let me help you understand something that is why I operate with integrity I got some of my neighbour mail in the example I had some of my neighbor mail one time and I hope I thought it was my mail I didn't really look at it because it was you know some numbers and they were and I opened my neighbor mail one time and it was two packets it was two packets and it was information financial information like your your savings account a song and I looked at it and I'm like hold on I the eat number don't look the same as mine now what's going on didn't I realize oh this ain't my mail it was another packet not after this first one I'm intrigued my now okay so I guess what the next packet that second packet they had the same stuff but it was like a different account I put it in the trash I put it in trash I had to open the first one reason why I take it to him is because I know it you get old statements every month so you could see next month statement man takes home because I had already open the end if somebody bringing my mail they don't open it and it has sensitive information ain't gonna be able to sleep at night just like man I didn't know all my bidding man all right so I just save him the headache and I just put in trash that that's the mail lady fall that's her fault but that second one I thought in the trash I McGee example nine I could have opened that that second one seeing all the business didn't put both of them in the trash and and I did without if you open my mail and I don't need the mail it wasn't mail that's needed it's just like when your bank send you a statement hey look this is what you got in your account you don't need that mail so if it was important I would have took it to him but I know what it was cuz I got the same account and so I wrote that second one in the trash my point to you is is I could have been nosing it got me an eyeful got all in the business know exactly what my neighbor worth got today named but I told it in the trash and that's what I mean by integrity when you get to the place as a man that you could do the right thing that you could do the right thing where nobody looking that you could do the right thing now next time I know from that time forward guess what I'm gonna do I'm gonna pay close attention not assume that this is my mail and I'm gonna read the name I'm gonna read the name and then I'm gonna take them their mail without it being open so I may even get better next time make up for my mistake you see what I'm saying so integrity when you get to the place as a man where you say I'm gonna have integrity regardless of who looking so I started to realize and I and I this high live I started to try to live like this now god no you God love you god no you God love you okay he watching you he see what you're doing and a lot of things are instinctual as a man I talked to one of my guys one of my homeboys and ice and we'd be out and about him and he'll be you know one of my my work one of my co-workers you know work with me we'll be out of by and and he'll be Oh err err err booty err Buddha passed by but he's already seen that race in it and I had to tell him I listen brah I'm married okay you're not married so I can't either breaking my neck looking around looking at trying to see all this okay and I remember one time we was in New Orleans and we stand out in water and we stand on the wall it happened to be like a Mardi Gras some was going on but we was definite work and we got in the wall and people walk-in down the street and it was some some hams you hear me and walking some hands going on that Street and he's looking at everything he's looking at everything and I'm caught me a couple glimpses but I'm telling myself listen you can't be looking at eat women are you married he's not married you know we went to college together we played football together in college and so he went marry he went even in a relationship you see what I'm saying so he look at what he want to look at how about why are we standing there up against the wall some people who follow me online and this was years ago this was years if I don't know seven eight years ago oh yeah I've been out here for a while later a girl who followed me online came up to me hey Tony Gaskins I follow you on twitter oh my good is so great to see you can I take a picture which and I say and she had on she would dress scantily clad okay don't know what that means but I heard she would dress scantily clad and I said okay had I been just lusting after her she followed my relationship advice online unmarried has she looked at me and I was looking at a set of hems she would've lost all faith and trust in me you hit me so that was a lesson that the Lord showed me I got that same lesson over and over and over I remember I was sitting first class on our plane and the flight attendant she was really pretty and I saw her and I saw that she was pretty and one now the devil say boy get you a good lusting but woo make some eye contact boy get you a good lusting but could you get a you can't touch all you could do it look and I said no I'm going to sleep I closed my eyes and still sitting up trying to make eye contact and goo-goo eyes and all of that and lust like we do as man I close my eyes to go to sleep and I say anything be tempting myself cuz ain't nothing I could do with the temptation cuz I know I ain't goin that far to get no phone them and start no affair so I might as well not even be looking how about when I woke up that same flight attendant had put a note on my seat and I went to get it right there with my drink and I said hey mister Gaskins I love you and your family and the work that you do thank you so much i watch your videos you inspire me I said lord thank you lord thank you because I could have ruined cuz see for me I don't want to leave one person astray if that one woman say uh-uh Tony nasty he don't live what he preached girl when I tell you he and he undressed me with his eyes on that plane you hear me I was 30,000 feet in the air but bunkie because of the way he addressed me with his eye I don't want to lose not one that's why when people say why you respond to these women who don't get it in the comment cuz I don't want to lose not one I don't want to let one person go astray I don't want to let one person be in the dark so I need not just my words but I need my example to reach them and that's what you gotta want for yourself as a man you gotta listen especially if you got children you need to be the example of a man that you want your daughter to marry you need to be the example of a man that you want your son to grow up to be you need to be that example and I remember now what I was telling what my homeboy was saying to me he was like man I'm not even gonna try to not look that's torture I we we human we born to look that's what men do we born the look and guess what he's a hundred percent right he's a hundred percent right and I see this where I say women stay out the conversation cuz you're not a man and you've never been a man and y'all get on my nerves telling me oh it is not that hard it's I'm not look oh I was just y'all kill me you're just some immature like you just can't you oh so you mean to tell me you just got to look at another one that booty oh my goodness listen have you ever been a man oh we want to look to women desire to look but we got them my charity not the look listen you never had what we got down here you don't know how this man work I don't talk to my wife buddy I say baby listen when we and blow hard but if you get a breeze do that thing I know go to kiddin she said no no I said okay we different when the wind blow we get a breeze the head down here yeah like an army hammer box you hit me good thing do what it want to do it do what it want to do and when it do this it want some relieving you hit me have a mind of his own now you telling me that the vag a got a mind of his own and you just walking it all the sudden you do so and you go to getting Aquafina now now then okay ah he but no that's one out of a million women and that one woman that say she like that when I look into her past I see why because of what she went through in her life and what she was exposed to as a child and that's not the case for me I ain't go through nothing in my life ain't nobody touch me there's no child and not no older man no older woman none of that but it's still so my homeboy said that I said yeah you're right but I can't be average I don't want to be normal see cuz with Christ you renew my cry see I want a supernatural strength so I want to do what's hard and it's a daily struggle is a daily strolling that ain't they got a show called it it's a daily struggle you hear me to wear it cuz I'm cuz I know that you know as a man when you when you see that when that said a hand I'm sorry yeah you're looking at the hand for you even realize it I know I'm a man I know but guess what you got to get to the point to where you see you have to turn your head and your neck doing like this I know you twitching you twitching you feeling like you bought the help you like you you feel like you by the toe up cuz your eyes trying to get back to that set it's trying to get back over there because that's how you wired that's how you wire you hard wired like that now one thing I notice about my daddy and I know my daddy going back from both sides of the plate I already know that I get the sense that on a man if that's this case I know me that I'm back from both side of the plate but one thing I used to do as a young man when I came of age and I started getting into two girls I would look at my dad and when we was walking in the winn-dixie we shop it when this public were too high so we shop at Wendy's then we in Florida and we'll be walking in the stove and I see old set of hands walking Knight and my daddy married with my mama I still set of hands walking nine Here I am 13 14 I'm getting an eyeful I'm I got the bug eyes you hit me and then I look at my daddy and he'll be straight ahead now I don't know if he had a way to just cut that I don't know what is your world but I'm looking right out and he ain't looking I'm looking right out of me he ain't looking now me as a man even in my marriage as I was grown and I'm growing my wife she called me a million times with my eyes on on a set and it and I even notice it I ain't notice it and when my homeboy pointed that out to him he say brother that's impossible like why you even gonna put yourself through that kind of stress I said now I got to go through that kind of stress because I gotta go to that next level and I know you feel like going up but guess what I'm gonna tell you something when you conquer your flesh when you conquer your flesh when you conquer your flesh my boy listen to me you enter into a realm of focus and peace and just is it it's a state to where everything is like some some Pistons firing and just it's all it up and just everything just you clicking on all cylinders see when you get into that space to where your mind is clear your heart is clear now I'm not saying that you are a hundred percent perfect I'm not saying that you don't see you somehow house walking and you you know what one time you like man I got amazing body and then you back to your life I'm not saying you a hundred percent you shooting a hundred percent from the field but if you know that you used to fail 90% of the time and now you succeed in 50% now you're getting a 60% now you getting a 7% guess what what every level with every level that you climb not only is gonna be no devil but it's gonna be new rewards see the stronger you get the more focus you get the more rewards you get and I'm gonna tell you now and I don't have a complete on how to complete cold four ain't got to come the cheat code cause it ain't no Chico really it's a code of ethics it's a code of integrity cuz I'm gonna tell you I'm in a good season in my life a beautiful season in my life that that I can't put into words but one thing I know is I know how I'm living I know how I'm living and I know that my behind the scenes is pure I know I know that every single day I'm waking up and I'm pursuing perfection that I'm trying to be the absolute best man I could be and I might slip and see meals set of hams okay but I have to catch myself and make sure that I don't let that go into lusts and just understand that I'm gonna see people I'm gonna see humans just like women gonna recognize a handsome man just and you're gonna recognize a beautiful woman but it's different between seeing somebody and then lusting after somebody especially if you work on the job to where you see somebody that's beautiful and then you start to look and look and look and then look and turn into lusting then lust and turn into liking the next thing you know you striking up conversation the next thing you know you got a phone number then next thing you know you got a work-wise and next thing you know you're in a full-fledged affair you see what I mean that can go anywhere either contracting or STD getting a pregnant it can go anywhere so you got to get place as a man the way you could nip it in the bud and and if you are single then your faithfulness is unto God and it's unto yourself so when you single when you don't have a woman what you're trying to get over now is you got a beat you got to beat them nasty movies that you watching the nasty all the nasty cuz all these websites I'm hearing about I hear about these sites okay hello Peter calm I hear about that somebody been y'all been talking I keep saying it trending only fan on I don't even fit the size I mean visitor calm now I was curious not I was curious I said man what this and God be my witness see one thing I don't do don't play by God I do not play by God God be my witness I have not visited that Peter calm that only fan the little sykes I don't even get the sight I could sometimes be cured him see if some of my clients got one of the pages or what have you you see what I mean and I be cured but guess what only until toe over there I got to stay pure I got to stay away from it you have to conquer that and look we gonna be weak somewhere but we're gonna be weeks on way I'm gonna tell you when we get when we get is I'm not no gym rat I play football from the age of seven to the age of 21 I play basketball from the age of eight today age of 17 and I ran track when I was little as a child I was athlete you know I played football in college for three years and then I got kicked off the team for a bad attitude and really just called slacking because I was too into the ladies and so understand it I slept without working out I don't work out every day so I might go three weeks without working out and you know I work out talking I work out and you get talking you have me so that's one weekend you might be strong in the gym you might litter workout you might look now I'm not in no bad shape I still got you feel hey you ain't in I ain't yet let myself go but I just don't love nobody general now what I just did a couple days ago I hit up trainer and I am owed him a thousand dollars he can I've been more than $1,000 $4,000 worth of sessions so when we come out of this he'll 19 lockdown I'm gonna be in there so I'm working on my weak areas and that's what I'm telling you so if you strong in general where you weaken you we with the nasty movies you might be weak with your lustin you might be weak with your emotional cheating or your physical cheating you might be weak with fornication you might be weak with adultery so if you strong on the video game if you're strong with your eating you know I had mislabeled two nights ago I sent me eNOS whining hey I miss a burrito that's why no you mean told that swine look told my wife hey don't make my bacon egg with no turkey bacon put me some of that's why I don't know you Vee I'm Christian everything blessed by the Lord I'm like the Muslim did a Muslim don't eat swine egg the Lord said everything blessed so hey I'll touch it but I need to not eat it as much so if you strong in your eating you strong in your work and I are you strong in your studies on your hobbies your habits or you know what you're trying to work on your tray your work ethic you strong what you weaken you probably weak with the nasty movie with the hand with hands alone okay hands a look you know a handle of dawn you probably weak there or you week with your lusting you weak with your emotional cheating or your physical cheating this area on that side of things that's what you need to work out that's what you need to be okay you got to be that and when you be - see that's where the blessings activated see blessings ain't activated from from being a gym rat then you activate no blessed God don't kill them but no gym okay yeah you post a buff that your body you posted you know your body is your temple but ain't no favor from that the Bible don't say a man who finds a gym finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord that ain't what it say a man who finds a hobby a man who learns a tree learns a good thing ever sees favor from the Lord not us if you don't work you don't eat but the favor is from finding a wife the favor is finding a wife and being in right standing being the faithful man that is hard to find okay Ephesians 5 loving your wife the way Christ loved the church that's what a favor is activated and listen to me ever since I made a decision in 2009 is 2020 I made a decision in 2009 2010 in 2000 and 2009 2010 and I really made this in 2007 but by 2010 I had and just got a tourist ride well ate I'm feeling I'm feeling like all the way in and when I tell you it's the the the blessings is you have a complete peace I'm completely peaceful so I don't have I don't I don't have any stress from another woman I don't have to worry about my wife getting my phone my wife has all my social media passwords she got all she got my phone locked cold I don't have to worry about her read my text I only have to worry about another woman calling my woman texting my woman oh I'm sleeping with your husband Oh me your husband been dating Oh your husband told me y'all marriage was over I don't have to worry about that the other thing is I can't have complete focus I could focus on my purpose I can focus on my business my brand my body I can focus the other thing is the other benefit is my woman is at peace so what she wants to do is love and serve when I when I wasn't like this I want me didn't want to serve as much and when I say serve I mean like she's looking for ways she come to me hey you need breakfast hey you need lunch hey you need dinner hey you need me to pick up anything hey you need me to do anything and that is reciprocation because of my faithfulness and my focus I can shower her with love with in all the love languages I could speak her love language quality time physical touch words of affirmation gifts you know acts of service I can I can unfocus on because I don't have to please another woman I'm always last night I was on Dior calm looking for for gifts I got all the Alps I got net-a-porter this stuff this stuff you probably never heard of I got net-a-porter out I got far fetch out I got the real real I got the Gucci out the Lord out I got all these shopping outs because in my free time I'm looking at how can I bless my wife on March 30 of our anniversary I called the deal of went to the dealer got on a new truck she was driving a 2015 that she loved cuz its matte black with some twenty folds on and she loved it I trade it in for 20 20 got all 20 20 new vehicle you hit me like that's what I'm thinking about she might focus she's my priority and when and as she listened you are Christ's priority God is trying to give blessings to me constantly i sat down yesterday and I talked to my wife and I said baby what is going on what is going on I said what is going on I say in the worst time that anybody living has ever seen in the craziest situation that anybody living has ever seen we at our most blessed that we've ever been since we've been married since 2007 we got married March 2007 we got married March 2020 was our best month to date and it looked an April gonna pass it just with blessings and opportunities not just monetary not just monetary now but just blessings opportunity peace we in Florida we in Florida and we have to do Ron's like because we got to we got to boys you know so we'd be having to hit the grocery store we'd be happy to hit you know get the take I you know we would be having to go pick up the pickup that sometime we might have to hit full stores in a day on the essential Ron's and we in Florida well stuff going on with that 19 and and God and Kepler's hidden calculus then kept was cleared at 19 even though we had to venture outside so just blast financially emotionally spiritually physically I feel like that Holy Bible is my genome like if you look at when I go meet something I might talk to somebody's an 8-man we've been working not a you've been worried no don't work that this big god-given eye on do all that which all be enough oh let us out my hit me some push-ups every now and then but a yeah the Lord is my gym you give me like just favor all cross the poor like I'm telling you I'm telling you listen what I'm telling you if you got this far and you a man put toner I made it put it in the condom we might have one man that make it and III might figure out a way I could get him a blessing but listen to me I'm blessed all across the board and it's the blessing that I want every man to receive it's when you find your wife and if you ain't got no wife Jack be faithful to God if you got a girlfriend or fiancee just be faithful tool see that's what I learned it's an activation that I learned only fees and five is say husband's love your wives as Christ loved the church right so I really took that serious and I said do you deserve anything Christ doing for you know because you've not seen free you're not perfect you don't deserve the grace and the mercy and the blessings that you receive you don't deserve it I don't deserve the blessing that I'm given was he gonna take what we doing what you did do and he honor your works but more so than that he gives you above and beyond what you deserve yeah you got the work faith without works is dead you got the work but your blessings supersedes your blessings surpasses the level of work that you put in like I'm sitting here and I and I ain't God gave me wisdom to build business and and I'm blessed without havin to sweat what I happen to go into the Sun I'm blessed and so that's godly wisdom that's godly favor that I could just use my mind sitting at home now I got a corporate office on the 33rd floor overlooking the city that Coast but I'm going down up with five days a week and and did it is there for interns or you know whoever but so I'm I'm blessed what they call go and incoming and I ain't braggin to you I'm helping you understand what God gonna do for you when you come all the way over he's gonna give you enough pressed down shaken together it floored me when the lady cash out me and said these are my tires my tires an offering I said Wow I said Lord you told me through my wife Tony you could be a minister without opening a church because it's not your style and your typing is not your family can show up every Sunday in a church because your son calling is to use soccer he want to be a pro athlete he plays every Sunday you got to be there and you might not so you can't preach three sermons because I call you to something else and the Lord say listen look at the local churches they got 1500 people the loss I gave you three million people online talk to them your church don't have four walls this is a new day and I'm doing a new thing so Tony you still a minister when people started cash after me they ties and often I said wild Lord they blessing me and it's what you showed me see what I started realized what I started to realize I forgot I got off track y'all know I did be flowing is and you know what I coach the guy here truck driver he said he listened to the whole video and cuz he drive trucks so you know in the long ride that's what I started doing I say Lord I see your blessings I see what you're doing I see how you loving me how you treating me how you gracing me how you favoring me and in Ephesians 5 you say husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church so Christ I see what you're doing for me okay so imma love my wife like that understand have you understand what I do for my wife is not because I feel like she deserves it it's not it I go beyond what she deserved now she deserves a whole lot but I go beyond what she deserved like when you see the way I treat my wife if you put a camera on me if you good if you see the way I treat my wife rubbing her back here every night massage on her shoulders every day massaging her feet anytime my shoulder a foot near me I massage and we walking through the grocery store massaging her shoulders she lay down and go to sleep at night she face this way I face that way yeah and we happily married and people get too caught up on how you sleep and all that no I said not but I'm listening the stuff videos I'm catching up with the news and I'm massaging her shoulders I massage on her bike putting her to sleep you said I mean when you see the way I treat my wife and then the material stuff too when you see the way I treat my wife evening evening one human that deserve all of that because you will say okay what's wrong if you're doing all that massage your feet massage shoulders you know you donate everything that you're doing she won't cook three meals a day your house must be and span she might do this do this do this you my massage your shoulders every day I'm sorry I'll feed everything no oh she no she her focus is our songs and then she do for me what I need but changes catering to me and just serving me hand and foot don't get it twisted like that's why I put the chaplain here seen you really like it at first but she get what I'm saying because what is real it's called let him love you make sure you get the book woman's influence it's called let him love you I could I tell my wife you're not gonna I love me you're not gonna I love me you're not gonna do more for me to them then I'm gonna do for you because the fees if I tell me hold me love your wife the way Christ loved the church it don't say huh they don't say wives love your husband the way Christ loves her and I say wife submit unto your husband until the floor but that that just being being loving respectful you know and serving but look at how we serve the Lord a lot of days we give the Lord our blood the kiss a lot of days you giving Lord your but the kid listen to it not me ain't gonna say we I'm gonna be y'all get a lawyer but the kiss and so but on the flip side so on the flip side with husband love your wives the way Christ loved Church in Christ don't make no mistakes Christ perfect the way he loved the church so that's what I'm shooting for and when I try to do that man who bless and get bigger and bigger and bigger I said lower less and less and less and I was telling my wife I said hey if it is this overwhelming me the amount of blessings and opportunities all the emails coming in opportunities all these blessings coming in like just these people who supported me and got my bike in San Antonio I gotcha hey Tony keep keep going like patting me on the back in the midst of all the nacelles that try to steal your throne this tribe is not the the the wind out yourselves hey listen you got to get over Hill huh you got to get married you got to find your wife you got to get married and you got to treat her like a queen you got to love it away Christ loved the church you got to be 100% faithful and if it's not to a woman be 107 faithful to yourself until you meet your woman if you don't have a woman be 100% faithful to God what I'm into being faithful to God is being faithful to yourself get off the nasty movies stop stealing money stop cheating stop lying stop deceive and stop manipulating stop doing bad business and get in line and have integrity a ain't called pass out Lord and called past our God bless you we'll talk soon

Channel: Tony Gaskins

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Length: 59min 58sec (3598 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 17 2020