I kicked my dad and his pregnant wife out of the home

[Music] am i VA for picking out my dad and his pregnant wife out of the home illegally Oh after they sent my depressed sister to live with our aunt my mother passed away three years ago the family home where I and my sister grew up was willed to me it was her ancestral property and she wanted her daughter to have it the other vacation home went to my 16 year old sister our father remarried six months after mom passed away and moved his new wife in my sister says that that woman has removed all of our family pictures from the main living area she has removed our mom's pictures as well now all of these pictures adorn the walls of my sister's room recently our father and his wife announced that they were pregnant with twins my sister didn't take it well she's still not over mom's death and had a breakdown after the announcement the night of my sister's 16th birthday party she brought a lot of friends over and the party went until the next morning my dad's wife who was out with our father on vacation returned the same morning and lost her cool when she saw the kids passed out on the living room our dad knew about the party they just got home earlier than expected his wife proceeded to lose her cool and had a big shouting match with my sister she said that my sister was just like our mom and was a burden on our dad she then asked her to leave and sent her packing to our aunts I was furious when I got to know about it I showed up home the next day and asked them to leave within a week she's seven months pregnant and had no idea that the house belonged to me I know I shouldn't be kicking a pregnant woman out but I don't want my spineless father and his wife to a my sister anymore my father called me a cruel brat and now wants to challenge our moms will he can try my mom's family has already appointed their family lawyer to fight my case am I the a NTA it kind of sounds like your dad's new wife just wanted your sister out of the way for her new perfect little family they also kicked a 16 year old out of the house no judge is going to side with the dad on that one as she's a miner and he can't legally do that and since up owned the house they were doubly bound to let her stay they can't kick someone out of a house they don't own the only thing up might have trouble with is the one weak bit they'll have to be evicted legally and that's at least 30 days being pregnant will win stepmum some points on that front ante a that I hope up finds a way to fix this one way as the landlord would be to charge if not up there and making it less desirable for them to stay see how much houses in your area rent for at a couple hundred dollars for it being an heirloom property and present your dad with a lease tell him you intend to use the property as a rental and he gets first crack if he doesn't want to stay and pay that's his choice but it's going on the market in 10th number of days correction to clarify the school the kids are in his center school not middle school my town uses it to mean the years immediately before middle school confusing way to name it I'm 20 and I have a stepbrother Ethan who is 8 he has a girlfriend signed a if you can call their relationship that they are so young and dating to them just means hanging out at recess and writing cute notes in school my dad married Evans mom the two of them are really busy and have me babysit ethanol ttan I swear I've probably done more raising of this kid than anyone recently anyway he told me that he has a second girlfriend now I asked him what her name is and how they met he said yes he met her at after-school activities I asked what signed he thinks of her he said he didn't tell her I asked how he thinks the girls would feel if they knew he has two girlfriends and he seemed to dodge the question I talked to him about how you need to be honest in your relationships or it will make people very sad and betrayed feeling when the dishonesty comes out this is a topic I feel strongly about my dad cheated on my mom with etham small my own mom is no longer with us it was a really difficult time in my life it still hurts and it's important to me that I have more integrity and expect more integrity in my relationships and friends I want to bring my step-brother up with honesty and integrity too so as a naturally talk to both of the girls first Jess she told him she didn't really want a boyfriend anyway she just wanted to play and forget it then he talked to Sundy and they apparently made up and she wanted to keep being his girlfriend and best friend if he could promise there'd be each other's best friends no matter what we had a long talk after this I asked how he was feeling he said he was feeling happy that he'd been honest he was feeling really guilty after our first talk he didn't like how it felt to be lying even though it had seemed fun at first I told him about how proud I was of him how he was learning to do difficult stuff and be a good honest kind man something that some people do not learn until they are much older some people never learn how to at all and he'd done a very grown-up difficult and kind thing I thought all was well then a few weeks passed and suddenly Ethel's mom was furious at me she had found out about what I'd asked death and to do and I'd overstepped I'm a babysitter and I was trying to discipline him and teach him like a parent I lost my temper at her and said that I'd been being the closest thing to a parent that he had for a year and had the lesson I was trying to teach is something every child ought to learn before they grow up lest they engage in infidelity and tear a family apart she said that I was not welcome in her home if I spoke to her like that am I the a so when I was nine my father introduced to us this woman and her two sons he said that this would be our me and my brother and sister new family they got married soon and we all moved together into a new house my father and mama divorced and I at first only saw him every other weekend eventually I moved in with him but that's another story we became kind of friends with the sons and because there was nothing to do in the new town we moved in we were always playing together either outside or were the new DSi that Nintendo had just launched however my new stepmom always kind of hated me for some reason she was always trying to start [ __ ] me accusing me of like eating more than my fair share or that I was a disobedient child or whatever she was also always pushing me or pulling my hair when my dad wasn't looking and because I didn't want to have a worst atmosphere there already was I didn't say anything boy thirdly I knew at this time I would [ __ ] up the atmosphere permanently later I guess some of you know the drill of divorced family Sunday afternoon and you're all playing Mario Kart on your DS and then you have to quickly clean your stuff because you got to go home to your mom's house well that's what I did and honestly I just put all my stuff in my bag without really looking at whatever was inside then a few days passes I'm at my mom's everything is fine and I receive a call from my dad which was highly unusual he tells me he called to ask if I saw all took some Nintendo charger because they have looked everywhere and can't find it now I was a lazy kid in my bag wasn't stored yet so I just told him no I didn't he says ok but this story was on my mind so I decided to look inside my bag and while cleaning up my belongings what the [ __ ] do I see not only one Nintendo charger but two and one of these wasn't mine of course after that I told myself that I should obviously tell my dad that I accidentally took the charger but after much thinking I decided not to because my stepmother would most likely use this incident against me and life would have even more sucked at my dad's so I hid the charger little did I know that this harmless incident was making my stepmom literally enraged she was absolutely convinced it was me granted it was and tried by all means to get a confession from me and when I said nothing she started to involve other person in the story so my mum was asked to look into my room to see if I had two charger but I hid the little bastard too well and when she said that she had looked everywhere and I didn't have the damn charger stepmum didn't believe her so she called my grandparents to complain about me and soon enough everybody in my ducting family was involved I'm talking about not only my dad's sight but my stepmoms and moms as well most of these people didn't know what Nintendo was even less what a Nintendo charger looked like but suddenly they were all involved in this I honestly think it was an accurate representation of how people acted during during the witch-hunt everyone accusing each other snooping through each other's [ __ ] and digging up old stories it was kind of funny what was less funny was that after a month of this me and my siblings were told that we couldn't go to my dad this weekend because he had to sort stuff out this continued for at least two months and when he finally came to get us one day we saw that he was in a new apartment apparently he and my stepmom were fighting so much because of me and mostly because of the Nintendo charger that they decided to divorce because they couldn't stand each other anymore now knowing that I was probably the cause of this divorce and that i whould have been able to stop all that simple by telling the truth do I feel guilty no because she was really horrible but I also feel kinda bad for my step-brother who will never see his charger back okay some backstory here my parents divorced while I was still a toddler and most of my childhood was spent between both parents and my older sister Trish and brother on until I was a teen my parents were great corporates and we were all close with our dad then he met his future wife Susan they had only been dating for a few months when they decided to get married immediately things changed when my siblings visited she demanded that we call her mom and she had this deep dislike for Trish she called her fat smashed her phone for writing hurtful things about her to her friends and after checking over her homework if she saw anything wrong she would just rip the paper up when our mom confronted dad about he he just made up a stupid excuse about Susan being a strong woman and that Trish could learn from her after that Trish just stopped visiting and dad told her to grow up Ron meanwhile went through a rough patch after he graduated college and he broke up with his boyfriend since he couldn't afford a new place of his own he moved with dad for a bit left after a few weeks his entire time there was just Susan telling him that his degree was a joke that he was pathetic for still living off his parents and would even mock him for flaming if he got excited over something telling him he was too flamboyant after he left he told dad that he expected an apology and that he did not deserve to be treated like garbage by Susan while his father just watched he just said that Susan was part of the family now and that II stood by his wife Ron kindly told him to never speak to him again and went full-blown no contact with me I never took any of Susan's BS and if she would say something to me or make a comment I'd just ignore her leave the room this prices are off since I always assumed she lived off the drama she caused when Trish would cry or on got mad instead she cried to dad and told him that I hurt her deeply and that I made her feel unloved in her own home dad took her side in the last time I was at his house involved him screaming at me and calling me an ingrate we got into a shoving match and I stormed off and went to a local fast food place until my mom could come get me after that the contact we had was pretty much him calling and asking about how things were he didn't even come to my high school graduation or Trish's wedding because him and Susan were saving money we all came to accept that dad shows his new wife over us and while it hurt like hell we moved on finally just before Thanksgiving Susan passed away suddenly and it hit dad hard since she had little family and they had no friends outside each other he is pretty much alone now Trish invited him to dinner with her family a couple of times but he's a stranger to her kids and her husband hates him because of how he led Susan treat her Ron was the only blunt one and told dad that he can't just come back after everything right now I'm just confused and I don't know what to do the only contact I have with him is through Trish and she thinks that dad is still deeply mourning and that he wants his kids back in his life since I don't use social media or use the internet much dirty hippie stuff my friend is posting this for me so I can get some outside perspectives I remember how my dad was before he got married and I missed that side of him but at the same time I know he threw us to the curb for her Wow all I can say is thanks for all the advice last time I guess what I wanted was the father I thought I had but since I posted this a lot has happened with my family two days after I made this thread my sister's oldest kid did decided that he wanted to surf down a hill on his sled when his mom was busy with his brother something only a ten-year-old would think his smart he ended up breaking his wrist and his leg badly enough that he needed multiple operations he is doing better now but Trish is exhausted taking care of him and on top of it she's pregnant with her third kid this has left our doubt at the bottom of her concerns and he has not taken it well when I spoke with her she said that he was driving her crazy and kept trying to guilt-trip her saying you can't find the time for a widowed old man and basically being a huge pain in the a my brother said that he pretty much accepted that our dad would act like that when he wasn't the center of attention I guess that being that youngest I was shielded from his behavior even before he met Susan Ron said that our dad would call him a [ __ ] multiple times as a kid and that when he did come out to the family dad just told him to shut up I should also mention that even though he struggled a bit after college Ron ended up getting a pretty decent job with a high salary after Susan and our dad found out they tried to bill him for the few weeks he lived with them and even threatened to call the cops he ended up giving them a couple thousand to get them off his back and went full-blown no contact there were also more incidents I mentioned in the last thread he offered to watch his brothers kid after his own wife died but backed out at the last second that brother now refuses to have any contact with him as well and I also found out that the only reason he agreed to cooperate with our mom was because she told him that if he didn't spend time with us she would go after him for more child support I was beyond disgusted after talking with my girlfriend and she read some of the replies and the thread he suggested that maybe him and should go out for lunch and just see how it goes since we will only be in town for another month before we go off grid on elder fall I agreed I knew that I would regret it if I didn't go and it was eating me up inside it was the most awkward moment of my life I met him at the diner he chose and I was pretty shocked to see how much he changed he gained a lot of weight since the last time I saw him 100 plus pounds and he looks decades older than his real age plus he kept making comments about the way my girlfriend dreadlocks look dirty and made a roo joke about me looking like Charles Manson when I showed him our pre-engagement pics finally after he was done complaining I asked how he was doing he just said how do you think he just listed off how his wife was dead his kids won't give him the time of day he up to his eyes in debt and even be about the poor service in the diner after lunch I he offered me a ride back to my place and offered to put my bicycle in the back of his truck - the only kind thing he said I turned him down and told him to take care of himself I just don't think I can have any sort of relationship with him after all I talked with my girlfriend all night and she said that maybe I turned Susan into a scapegoat for my dad's rotten behavior and that I didn't want to accept the type of man he really was right now I'm focusing on the positive things in my life my nephew is recovering well with a third one due in the summertime my brother is getting married this June and my girlfriend and I are planning to get engaged shortly after Ward's my dad's rejection still hurts like hell but I plan on working past it I thirty female and currently in a leading position of a restaurant franchise started by me and my father we live in her Islamic country so me being one of the owners is very rare I have three siblings one brother 29 meters and two sisters twins 13f the business started by me my father and his friend son became extremely successful my brother was never interested in it but after it grew my father provided him a position in it department he did his degree in software engineering apart from that because we were not that well-off my father also provides every family member with a set allowance separate from our salaries my brother got married a year ago and his wife also receives it my father now plans to retire and my SIL thinks it's now brothers turn to be the man of the house she has been making allit remarks lately we all live together in any normal situation this would have been the case but I own this business too and have been the one putting in most work I ignored her in the beginning my mom has been asking to think about marriage as well as she was talking to me my cell till me that I really should since my father will retire and my brother will be the one in charge so I told her these are all her delusions since after my father it is me who is the candidate my father wishes as well and I already own part of the business upon hearing this she became quiet but has been making my mom to turn against me my mom was always against me working but because of my father she couldn't do anything 3 days ago my father announced that he was retiring and had decided to let me take the lead now he acknowledged my hard work and said I was most swated my sister-in-law and my mother both opposed it very very strongly according to them it's the birthright of my brother the only son to take the business my father shuttered down there but my sister-in-law in the moment pointed at me and told me I was a thief and I will burn in hell and said a lot of things my father then told both of my brother and sister to get out of his house and if they don't leave now my brother can say goodbye to his job and allowance too they have left but I have been getting messages from relatives and even my own mother about how greedy I am and for stealing something that belonged to my brother I was very convinced in the beginning but now actually hearing these things and knowing my religion I think what they are saying is true and wanted judgment of Internet strangers to finally decide something so [Music] [Music] you

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Published: Sat Jun 13 2020