10 Red Flags of the Female Covert Narcissist

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the red flags when it comes to the female covert  narcissist and how to avoid getting trapped by her   and if you already are trapped at the end of  this video I will give you my best advice on   is for educational purposes only, so if you  need support with your specific situation,   please reach out for help. Okay, so I'm going to  dive right in the red flags that the female covert   narcissist displays will be different depending  on what stage of the relationship you're in.   If you are in the beginning where she is luring  you and hooking you in, here are some of the big   red flags that you will see. Number one:  the intimacy and connection is too intense,   too fast, and seems too good to be true, so  if your gut is telling you something is off   listen how this red flag might look in reality  is that you will seem to have so much in common.   Almost every sentence will start with "me too" and  you will feel like you've just met your soul mate.   She is creating the illusion that she is the  perfect woman of your dreams and remember she   is data mining and mapping you out emotionally to  find information that she can manipulate you with.   She will want to find out as much as possible  about you. Her focus on what you want, like,   need, on your past... this might throw you  off because a narcissist is supposed to be   self-centered and self-serving right?  Yes, but remember that a narcissist   will seemingly do things for you when in reality  they will be used to exploit you later on,   so if you've shared with her more in one week than  you've shared with your lifelong best friend, take   it as a red flag. Red flag number two is that she  will play up her vulnerability and play the victim   and make you the hero of her story. She will  tell you that you are the first person to ever   truly understand her and make you believe that  you are the only one who can help her, who can   save her from the big bad world. She is using your  need to be needed to create a "we-them" scenario,   so if she's really needy of your time, energy,  attention, and your protection, that's a red flag   red flag. Number three... her past relationships  always end badly and of course it's because   they're all abusers and she may even have evidence  of this as many of them may have been charged   depending on what extreme she is on the narcissism  spectrum. Now I'm not saying that if someone has   been victimized many times it means that they  are a narcissist but pay attention especially   if this red flag accompanies this next one. So red  flag number four... throughout the relationship,   but especially in the beginning, the female  covert narcissist will create fake scenarios to   make you look like you've said or done something  to hurt her or she will simply pull away from you   and when you ask why she will play up her fears of  being hurt. She'll talk about how she's been hurt   by everyone in the past, how she's afraid you'll  do the same thing, and what she's doing here is   eliciting promises from you. She wants you to  promise that you're different, that you would   never hurt her, never lie to her, cheat on her,  abandon her, all things she'll probably do to you,   but she wants to pull out as many promises from  you as possible and get you to repeat them because   she already knows you're going to do everything  in your power to keep your word. Red flag number   five, you are being sex bombed. Now the female  covert narcissist often comes across initially as   having a high sex drive and an openness to fulfill  all of your sexual fantasies but this is a tool.   It's a way to manipulate you which she often  uses along with love bombing to form a powerful   combination that makes you feel like you just  stepped into another dimension of reality.   So these first five flags are seen early on in  the relationship, so if you are a loyal person   with a strong protective instinct and a need  to be needed you are particularly vulnerable   to falling prey to the female covert narcissist  tactics and to missing these red flags. Now if you   are already deeper into the relationship, you  will also start to see these other red flags.   Red flag number six which is when the mask starts  to come off. Here you start getting glimpses   of Mrs Hyde so to speak you will start seeing  sides of her that you'll be tempted to ignore,   but these overreactions and bad behavior will soon  start to play out more and more. She will get more   destructive and more abusive, but she'll always  come back sweeter and more angelic than before   and more and more you'll see this hot and cold,  jekyll-and-hyde behavior that is typical of   someone with narcissistic personality disorder  so she will demean you often subtly pushing you   away and then pulling you back in to feed her  need for attention, admiration, and whatever   else so if you feel like you're giving her  the moon but it's still not enough, nothing,   you know, you can do is satisfying her, then you  might be dealing with a female covert narcissist,   especially if she's going back and  forth between making you feel like   you're everything to her and then like you're  nothing. Red flag number seven... she isolates   you from your family and friends or turns  them into her allies. Red flag number eight   is that she is very different in public than  she is behind closed doors. Often the only   people who really know what the female covert  narcissist is like are her partner, her kids,   and her past victims. She cannot only turn  her behavior on and off but she can turn   her emotions on and off like a faucet. You might  be in the middle of a week-long silent treatment,   but if you have a social engagement, she will be  all over you acting like everything is perfect   and then the minute you're back in the car, the  silent switch is slicked back on. Now the last   two red flags have more to do with changes  that you start seeing within yourself   and these flags happen once you're deeper into the  relationship, once your confidence self-worth and   sense of self has been broken down,  you will start noticing these things   so what you'll see is that you stop holding your  ground because the consequences of standing up for   yourself are too intense and too damaging so you  start to shut down emotionally, to feel helpless,   maybe even anxious and depressed and if you  start to pull away from her she will give you   glimpses of what attracted you to her in the first  place. She might even build you back up slightly   like a cat who pretends to let the mouse go  just to pounce on it again as it's getting away.   Flag number 10... you have no idea who you are,  what you like, what you want, what you need.   Basically your sense of self is  pretty much shattered. As promised,   I'm going to give you the worst advice I've ever  heard on how to handle a female covert narcissist   and here it is: to let her know that she's  a narcissist and suggest that she get help.   Now if someone tells you this, you  should immediately assume that they know   very little about narcissistic personality  disorder because this goes for all Narcissists,   don't tell them they're a narcissist and that  they need help... it's not going to work,   so find someone who has experience, someone  who can help you figure out what you want   what you need and how to strategize to get your  life back under your control. So my best piece   of advice is don't try to figure out the female  covert narcissist on your own because she's not   like a normal person or partner. She won't play  fair, she won't fight fair, and she will stoop to   levels that wouldn't even cross your mind, and  if you are wanting to leave this relationship,   you'd really be best off to seek professional  help on how to do this strategically. Now there   are other red flags and if you've seen some  other red flags I'd love to know about them,   so please comment below and if there's  anything else you want to learn about NPD,   please check out my playlist on  narcissistic personality disorder.
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Channel: Lise Leblanc
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Keywords: narcissists hate you, things narcissists hate, how narcissists treat, how to outsmart narcissist, how narcissists control you, how narcissists manipulate, how to leave narcissist, leaving toxic people, vulnerable narcissism, covert narcissism, hypersensitivity, introverted, manipulative, blame-shifting, gaslighting, covert nacissist, vulnerable narcissist, working with narcissists, female covert narcissist, female narcissist, female narcissism, male victims of narcissistic abuse
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Length: 9min 54sec (594 seconds)
Published: Fri Jun 03 2022
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