Where Do You Draw The Line With Charity? (r/AskReddit)

got cussed out today because I wouldn't pay for a stranger's groceries where do you draw the line with charity I was that came out earlier today picking up something for work I was standing at the checkout line with a few other people I don't know at the front of the line was a woman buying a 12-pack of beer simba Nana's a Hunger Games DVD and some Halloween candy after the cashier on her app the woman realized she was short eleven dollars and instead of putting something back she turned around and asked the rest of us in line to pony up the 11 dollars to be charitable when nobody handed over the money the woman began cussing us all out you call yourselves ducking Christians where's your charity applause with that she left her groceries at checkout and stormed out of the store see if this woman were buying baby formula or diapers and was a dollar or two short and displayed a bit of humility I would have no problem handing it over this woman was expecting everybody else to put their needs aside and to just fork over the money for a case of beer and a teenybopper movie no less I was in Chicago a few years ago with my husband my daughter and her fiance we went to Giordano's for pizza anyway we ordered way too much food and the pizza when it arrived was like 2-inch thick we'd had so many starters that we could only eat one piece each of the two pizzas so we got to go boxes as we were walking along this woman came up and told us she was really hungry and could we help her out by giving her some money well we didn't have any cash on us but we did have this lovely still-warm pizza we offered her one of the to-go boxes but she got all insulted and told us she didn't want our ducking pizza she wanted money we told her to back off and went and found the homeless guy who was more than happy to take our pizza and thanked us profusely while enjoying a slice ETA we were well aware she just wanted to buy some drugs slash boots that's why we told her to duck off a while back after I lost my job I was starving and went to the grocery store for just a few cheap things to last me a couple of days at the register my car got declined I apologized to the cashier and tried not to seem upset because I could have sworn I had a few dollars in the bank the woman in line behind me told me to grab the food and that she'd pay for it I thanked her and she replied you look like someone who would do the same if you could and I hope that one day you will amazed by her kindness and how good it made me feel for a stranger to help me out while I was at my lowest I promised myself I'd do the same once I got a new job I was leaving work one day and an older man in a wheelchair asked if I had any money for food we were outside a sandwich shop and I offered to go in and buy him whatever he'd like to eat he told me to cough and rolled away into the night TLE ah dude I tried I've helped out a mother trying to buy a pizza dinner for her three kids they looked really hungry and the mum was short maybe ten dollars she was frantically looking around in her person pockets trying to come up with the cash I gave her a 20 and told her to buy some breadsticks and sodas to her look of gratitude is something I'll never forget on the other hand I was once in some clothing store with my girlfriend I don't remember which one they all kind of blend together in my mind when a teenage girl walked up to me and demanded $10 so she could buy some lipstick I refused so she ran to her mother who basically chewed me out for refusing her precious baby so basically I won't give any charity to entitled souls who are these people I can't imagine going up to a complete stranger demanding money what the duck I was at work a while back at a major retailer in the deep south I had a gentleman come in and asked me about a laptop the laptop cost eight hundred and ninety nine dollars I explained the specs gave him the lowdown on the warranty etc he let me wrap up my spiel and looked at me and said I'll give you $400 for it this happens a lot so I patiently informed him that this was impossible for me to do and I do not designate prices he looked at me and said well you just lost yourself a computer sale and left I wish it ended there I got off and was walking to my car and as I got there a truck comes flying into the parking lot and it's this same gentleman as before he whips into the parking spot next to mine and gets out my metaphorical hackles were raised because this guy was driving so aggressively he gets out and slams his door and walks over to me he looks at me and says you'll sell that laptop to me for $300 or I'm going to get you fired for a sysm I answered him and just said sir I have no idea who you are and I have no intention of selling you anything at all I'm not even on the clock if you have an issue go into the store and ask for a manager he swore explosively that his intimidation factor didn't work and went into the store I drove home and forgot about it I get to work the next day and find out he was arrested for trying to steal the Shelf display feelsgoodman dot jpg I had a mother approached me with her two kids a few months ago she asked for some change and I gave her a few bills she thanked me and then her daughter looked up and said something to the effect of I guess we can eat tonight it took me two seconds to decide on what I needed to do I took them grocery shopping I didn't even do shopping for myself that month yet but I said Duquette I got the mother in touch with a social worker at my facility and assured her they would not take her kids away they would help her in the meantime until she got up on her feet I still talk with the family and the kids are doing fine I know my situation is different from the Opie's and they did the right thing in not helping this woman look at how nasty she reacted now I have an extended extended family and two young ones to play pokiman with card games on motorcycles I remember about 10 years ago I had just moved to a new city for college and I was definitely a starving student I had a budget of $40 per week for food and transportation and that was it anyway one evening I'm walking from class to the bus stop and I see a kid sitting in an alcove begging passers-by for money a few things he had a nice bike new shoes I had neither and expensive sunglasses so he sees me and asks if I have some spare change feeling charitable I reach into my wallet and I see that I have twenty two dollars two singles in the twenty I take out the two singles and pass them to him and he says oh you aren't giving me the twenty at which point I took the two singles back stuck them in my wallet pocketed it and walked off while this Moochie our soul says something akin to come on that's not cool can I please have the two dollars beggars can't be choosers has never felt more appropriate as a general rule I never give money I might give someone a bottle of water or some food if they look like they need it but never money I was eating some bagels with a few of my friends when a homeless man approached and asked for money to buy food we had a bag of day-old that my friend bought so we offered him his choice of those bagels he looks at the bagels and said I don't want your duckling Bay course I want cash we told him we didn't have any cash on us but would be more than happy to share the food we had with him he just stared at me for a few seconds and then started yelling profanities at me for not giving him money I just told him that beggars can't be choosers and that if he's not going to accept what we offer him then he has no right to be upset about anything then the rest of the people eating on the patio at my side and basically told him to get out of there because none of them were going to give him a dime after that outburst once in line with my two kids buying groceries midday in a nice place the lady behind me interrupted the cashier asking if I found everything okay with a loud how about buying my groceries when I kindly replied that I was sorry but the kids practically ate me out of house and home as it was at their age she started her own ongoing monologue throughout my check out about how l/2 I owed it to her for slavery and other things she finished with the polite goodbye off don't worry we're gonna take what you owe us one way or another you think you safe we coming for you kuratas had I not already sent the kids to get water to avoid her earlier taunts I might have had to address such a threat with him but luckily I was able to walk away and remember not to shop there in the future I was in a bicycle shop getting a repair done and some lady in her 20s came up to me and asked me to buy her a bike I am NOT very prosperous looking so I cannot imagine what she was thinking I used to ride the bus to work when I lived in Fairbanks Alaska at the bus stop every morning this Laskin tribal native bomb would bum a cigarette from me every single morning one day I was out of smokes he just kept asking over and over again and when I snapped at him that it was two days before payday and I didn't have any ducking smokes he pulls an almost full pack of Marlboros out of his pocket and lights one up then calls me a stingy white mother Ducker and stumbled off I was getting a prescription one night from Walgreens I work late and this was a 24-hour one so I usually bustle inside around midnight after work and try not to talk to the people hanging around outside an old skinny guy was sitting on the sidewalk homeless and on my way out he calls to me and says he is hungry so hungry he just wanted to eat but the only thing open was McDonald's and just his drive true he didn't have a car I don't know why but I asked him what he wanted and he said a Big Mac with no lettuce and a coke with no ice I told him I'd get it for him surprisingly he tried to hand me a ton of change for my trouble which I refused I wasn't going to give him a ride I just went and got it and came back since my peds was right across the road when I came back and handed in the bag of food having gotten a few bottles of water for him too he didn't say god bless you or anything I feel homeless people usually try to say he just said I didn't think he would come back and he had tears in his eyes then he wished me a good night and sat down to eat no regrets I found a wallet with 200 dollars and several gift cards while I was at work one day it was a UGA wallet so I figured some kid lost his birthday money I turned it in to the service desk and forgot about it 30 days later no one had claimed it so I got to keep it I was telling my friend about my good luck and a friend of hers not a friend of mine says you should give me $20 I asked her why cause I never punched you in the face all those times you were up to me it should be noted that I have always been kind to this extremely unpleasant girl even when she was squatting my living room for several weeks since when does being charitable mean buying beer DVDs and candy hi I'm with the beer movies and candy Foundation and I just wanted you to know for the low price of $5 a day you can insure one unfortunate person who has to go without necessities such as beer movies and candy will be provided with enough beer movies and candy that they may find the strength to carry on you can't make a difference in someone's life right now by calling 1-800 beer me and making a donation I gave this guy a free hot dog and he took it and he threw it on the ground and said he wouldn't be a part of my system he told me he didn't need my charity because he was an adult about ten years ago I used to work for an old greedy mean die I was trying to get through school but I had no choice but to work at the shitty restaurant I owned it wasn't a chain restaurant and he was the owner so he got to be kind of crazy with it he was obsessed with making the biggest profits and would exploit his workers to do it for him one day he wanted some new business ideas and even though I worked in the kitchen he still came to me asking for ideas I didn't even have any and I'd been kind of upset at his attitude lately so I made up a [ __ ] story about a new kind of burger we could be selling as expected he told me that it was the dumbest thing he'd ever heard I had nothing to do on my off hours the days I didn't have school so me and a buddy thought it would be hilarious to actually set up a lemonade stand like shop outside and try to actually sell the product I'd propose to my boss they actually turned out to be quite a hit through word-of-mouth our new kind of burger spread in our local community the downside ease my boss actually caught word of the site business I had and being the greedy scumbag years he wanted to take over the small business I had set up some sort of charity he wanted I guess he didn't want to buy it he actually just wanted me to give it to him for the money so I did the burgers I'd sold to everyone had lasting effects on their tongue and I knew mr. Krabs would get in trouble for it instead of me I eventually got my job back at my original place even though I'd gotten in trouble with the boss TLE our setup side business boss wants me to give him money from my side business I'm that charitable so I did

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Length: 14min 38sec (878 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 09 2019